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😱 She stayed with her husband after she caught him doing THIS? · The KIIS Breakfast Wrap with Chris, Amy & Jack

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  Speaker 1: Yourself.
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  Speaker 2: All right, Alistair, Charlie's given us call a call. She's
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  Speaker 2: got a lot of questions about something her husband has done,
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  Speaker 2: not keeping his hands to himself. Okay, Charlie, explain what's
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  Speaker 2: going on. Good morning, Good morning.
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  Speaker 3: I've chosen to stay in my aking marriage.
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  Speaker 1: With two kids.
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  Speaker 4: Yep.
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  Speaker 3: After that means that my husband has attended a brothel.
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  Speaker 2: Attended a brothel. Now, how do you know that?
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  Speaker 3: Well, he brought home an STI and I got him.
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  Speaker 1: Lord Charlie, Oh wait, so you've so he's told you
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  Speaker 1: he caught it at a brothel. Are you like confident
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  Speaker 1: that's all he did? Well?
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  Speaker 3: He tried to blame me for it. He tried to yes,
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  Speaker 3: but obviously I've challenged that, and he eventually admitted it
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  Speaker 3: started off as a job and she hopped on top.
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  Speaker 4: And I thought, I thought that at brothels they very
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  Speaker 4: they're very big on practicing safe sex. Yeah, like, who
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  Speaker 4: is going to a brothel and raw dogging like a
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  Speaker 4: sex worker with no praer.
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  Speaker 3: I told him to go back and explain it, and
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  Speaker 3: they've given me the same speech. I know a lot
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  Speaker 3: of women in that industry, and I trust that to
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  Speaker 3: be true.
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  Speaker 2: Elephant in the room. Your man's going to brothels and
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  Speaker 2: you're okay with that.
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  Speaker 3: Well, that's like I'm learning to get through it with
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  Speaker 3: figuring it out. But the one answer he can't really
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  Speaker 3: give me is why.
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  Speaker 4: That's what I was going to ask you, like, why
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  Speaker 4: is he going? Are you guys being intimate with each other.
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  Speaker 3: Our sex lives, our social life? Everything was fine and
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  Speaker 3: the best you can give me as well, I was
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  Speaker 3: just really drunk. I was with a mate back in
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  Speaker 3: the day, and you know, obviously he thought he could
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  Speaker 3: get away with.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, do you consider it cheating?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely.
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  Speaker 1: Well can I tell you from a man perspective in
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  Speaker 1: my key see if you agree, we don't consider it
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  Speaker 1: cheating rostitute?
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  Speaker 2: Well, no, it's.
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  Speaker 1: Not in our mind like I'm gonna yeah, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: cheat or I have cheated, but I know it's wrong. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you still know it's wrong. It's it can be even
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  Speaker 1: like it's it's naughty and wrong, like that's an attractive
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  Speaker 1: part of it. But you know, like you know you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna upset the other person, so you don't do it.
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  Speaker 1: But he would still I would imagine love you the same,
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  Speaker 1: And there's there wouldn't be any issues in terms of
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  Speaker 1: his feelings.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, so you're you you're saying, because it's a paid thing,
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  Speaker 4: something that he goes and pays for. He's completely compartmentalized
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  Speaker 4: and this is just the actor.
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  Speaker 1: I would say, I don't know him, but yeah, and.
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  Speaker 4: There's no feelings there, but like, it's still the ultimate betrayal.
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  Speaker 4: Like sex is the most personal thing that you share
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  Speaker 4: with your partner. Whether you're paying for it or not,
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  Speaker 4: you are still betraying her trust.
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  Speaker 2: But Charlie, surely there's a lot of people that are
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  Speaker 2: telling you to leave him.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: We've tried then to keep it between the two of us,
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  Speaker 3: as hard as it's been. Yeah, because I knew before
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  Speaker 3: we started dating that that's what he did, and that's
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  Speaker 3: where he got his you know, two minutes of glory from.
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  Speaker 3: He never dated a girl or anything, so you know.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, so you're saying, before you guys started, like before
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  Speaker 4: you guys hooked up, he used to visit Brothels back then.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, okay, so you always knew about it. But
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  Speaker 1: when what when you got married, you said no more Brothels.
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  Speaker 4: Well, yeah, he didn't have to get that of the
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  Speaker 4: girl he had Charlie, is he a sex addict?
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  Speaker 3: Well, I try to query that. It doesn't seem like it.
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  Speaker 3: It just seems like a bad decision.
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  Speaker 2: What happens if he does it again?
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  Speaker 4: Charlie, Yeah, that's what I was going to say. Do
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  Speaker 4: you think he's going to stop visiting these places?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'd like to think so. And that's the thing
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  Speaker 3: you have to rebuild trust.
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  Speaker 1: Right, Yeah? Absolutely, God he clearly I've never been to
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  Speaker 1: a brothel. Yeah, I like Mikey.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks, you know, And You'll think I'm just saying it
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  Speaker 2: because I'm live on air. I am categorically never been
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  Speaker 2: to a block.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it doesn't do it for me.
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  Speaker 2: The whole thing is, yeah, the like chasing to try
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  Speaker 2: and get someone, and you that whereas why I just
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  Speaker 2: walk in here's two hundred dollars or whatever it is.
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  Speaker 4: Knowing that like three other dudes have been in there.
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  Speaker 2: It's the pain. It's just so transactional. There's no romance.
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  Speaker 2: I want to make love, you know, I want to
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  Speaker 2: look in your eyes.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, sex isn't Sex isn't that important to me to
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  Speaker 1: be paying like hundreds of dollars to random And I wouldn't.
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  Speaker 1: I would never do it.
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  Speaker 2: Well, Charlie, where we're going to see what people think?
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  Speaker 5: Okay, No, I.
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  Speaker 3: Appreciate that if it's just as simple, I paid for
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  Speaker 3: I got my five minutes and that's it. I didn't
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  Speaker 3: mean anything, which I do believe that part is that
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  Speaker 3: as fall as matter.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, well, we'll see what everyone thinks.
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  Speaker 5: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Thirteen one six five. Do you have any advice for
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  Speaker 2: Charlie and a man who's caught an STI at a brothel? Thirteen?
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  Speaker 2: I bet you do. We'll take your calls next here
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  Speaker 2: on Kiss one Direction. Now, yeah, we're doing some therapy
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  Speaker 2: for our listener Charlie who's called in. You'll hear the
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  Speaker 2: whole thing if you missed it on the Kiss Breakfast
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  Speaker 2: podcast later on. But in a nutshell.
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  Speaker 4: In a nutshell, Charlie's obviously called in. She's basically discovered
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  Speaker 4: that her husband has been visiting brothels and.
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  Speaker 1: An SDI and he's blaming it on the brothel.
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  Speaker 4: And even that and then tried to blame her for
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  Speaker 4: it like that gas lighting mother anyway, and just the
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  Speaker 4: fact even saying that out loud. Don't sex workers constantly
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  Speaker 4: get tested like that? We have to because of the
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  Speaker 4: industry that they're in, they would be constantly getting tested
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  Speaker 4: for SDIS well, as well as always wearing a rubber.
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  Speaker 1: Because the first thing he's done when when she caught
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  Speaker 1: him out, was saying, oh, you must have cheated and
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  Speaker 1: caught the SDI. Then Eddie came back down to Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I went to a brothel, like, is he still lying?
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  Speaker 4: Did probably just cheating with other girls.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. Megan's just called in to back you up on that.
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  Speaker 2: Thirteen one oh sixty five if you want to comment.
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  Speaker 2: By the way, Megan, you wanted to back o Meghan.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Hi, guys, I can't be up to further roule
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  Speaker 3: out whether he really went to brothel or not.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it doesn't sound like yeah, yeah, you're saying that
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  Speaker 2: every sex worker would do save.
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  Speaker 4: Sex well, they practice safe sex and they would also
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  Speaker 4: be constantly getting tested otherwise they'd just be spreading sdis everywhere.
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  Speaker 4: So I'll call on BS.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, denise your opinion.
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  Speaker 6: Yes, I fully agree. The first thing I heard out
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  Speaker 6: of Charlie's mouth was the fact that he immediately said
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  Speaker 6: she has the SDIS. He was trying to bring her
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  Speaker 6: down to his level of the seat. Yep, and it's
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  Speaker 6: not right doing that. So the deceit is the issue
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  Speaker 6: the trust. Without trust, there's no relationship. She's constantly going
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  Speaker 6: to be thinking if he's late, if he's here, if.
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  Speaker 5: He's where is he?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean the fact that she said during our
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  Speaker 2: discussion with her, and please have a listen back on
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  Speaker 2: the Kiss Breakfast podcast because you've got to hear the
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  Speaker 2: whole thing. But she is basically saying, oh, he goes
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  Speaker 2: to prostitutes, but we're going to be okayble well.
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  Speaker 4: And even the fact that you said, you know, are
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  Speaker 4: people telling you to leave him? She said, oh, no,
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  Speaker 4: we're keeping it just between us. That would be him
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  Speaker 4: manipulating the whole narrative, being like, let's keep this, you know,
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  Speaker 4: just between the two of us, because that guy knows
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  Speaker 4: that if Charlie tells anything of the story that she's
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  Speaker 4: told us to her girlfriends, everyone's going to be like,
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  Speaker 4: get out of there.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Emma, Hi, Emma, what do you think? Hi?
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  Speaker 7: I don't agree with Charlie at all. I think that
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  Speaker 7: it's probably not just sex, and for him to seek
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  Speaker 7: out another person is completely wrong, and to keep it
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  Speaker 7: quiet as well, it just means that he'll probably do
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  Speaker 7: it again.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, So leave you're everyone that's called in it saying
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  Speaker 2: Charlie's got to believe him. No that I believe him,
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  Speaker 2: and they've got to leave. Okay, Marie, Hi, Maria, Hey, Maria.
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  Speaker 3: Hello, guys. I so agree. If he's done it once,
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  Speaker 3: it might happen again out of brothel or out of a.
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  Speaker 4: Bruthel and he only is caught out because of his
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  Speaker 4: STI yeah, that's it.
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  Speaker 2: And who knows.
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  Speaker 3: Charlie needs to.
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  Speaker 4: Charlie needs to one million percent leave that relationship. There
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  Speaker 4: is not a sceric of doubt in my mind that
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  Speaker 4: she will be far better off without him.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. And I know you are, like, you know, expecting
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  Speaker 2: me to be the typical dude or whatever, But if
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  Speaker 2: your man is being prostitutes, it's completely reasonable to leave
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  Speaker 2: the man, of course. And you know what can I
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  Speaker 2: tell you? Yeah, there's two kinds of guys, brothel guys
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  Speaker 2: and non brothel guys, and you'll never know which one
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  Speaker 2: your man is just leaving you with that thought.
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  Speaker 4: Great, are you a non brothel guy?
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  Speaker 2: I said it when we were talking to Charlie. I
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  Speaker 2: am a non I've never been to one who's a brother.
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  Speaker 1: Guy would say that. Yeah, every guy.
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  Speaker 4: Who's an, you are right.
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  Speaker 2: Every one. I mean, no guy's going to admit apart.
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  Speaker 1: From Charlie's I'm a beathel guy.
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  Speaker 2: That's fair. But I know the truth and that's all
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  Speaker 2: that matters.
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  Speaker 1: What percentage of your friends guys.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, let's say I had ten friends, Yeah, I reckon
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  Speaker 2: like four out of ten. Yeah, okay, and their names
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  Speaker 2: are all my female friends that are married. So I'm
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  Speaker 2: listening right now, I can't.
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  Speaker 1: My god just gets worse.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, John, Yeah, Hey John, Hey, Hey man, Am I right?
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  Speaker 2: You're like you're either a propyl guy or you're not.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, one hundred and ten percent.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not.
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  Speaker 5: I'm I don't have anything against it, but personally I'm not.
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  Speaker 5: I just don't feel like paying for it. Yeah, is
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  Speaker 5: the same thing as kind of hurting it maybe or
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  Speaker 5: the person actually wanting to do it with you. But
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  Speaker 5: I can say for a fact that all sex workers,
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  Speaker 5: especially in Victoria anyway, are constantly tested. They have to
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  Speaker 5: go proof of that testing to be able to work.
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  Speaker 2: Yep.
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  Speaker 5: And it's extremely, extremely unlikely that he caught it off
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  Speaker 5: a for sex worker. Yes, I think a lot of
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  Speaker 5: dudes do it. Things can get stale in relationships. I
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  Speaker 5: am a firm believer. It is a transactual thing. It's
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  Speaker 5: not a thing that you do on a romantic basis
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  Speaker 5: or because you may have deep feelings for that person.
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  Speaker 5: He is fily transactional, and I think it's a lot
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  Speaker 5: lot different to cheating denation.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, but from what we hear, he probably is
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  Speaker 2: actually cheating and not even going to Bros.
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  Speaker 4: Correct.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, we'll have a good weekend, Charlie.