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Chrissy Monroe - From Love & Hip Hop to Survivor Advocate · Cats & Pudding with Jennifer Dilandro

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  Speaker 2: Mar Titdies would have been all over Instagram because honey,
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  Speaker 2: they didn't allow cameras inside the clubs at this time,
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  Speaker 2: which we were great, but honestly, it wasn't to protect us,
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  Speaker 2: you used to protect the married men.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: This is the cats in Footing Podcasts, a melting pot
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  Speaker 2: of footing. And now here's jen.
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  Speaker 3: Good afternoon, everybody, and welcome to Kats and Pudding and
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  Speaker 3: I'm Jennifer Delandro and today we have a great guess,
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  Speaker 3: Chrissie Monroe, and she has a great story and she
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  Speaker 3: has a wonderful foundation that we're going to be discussing
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  Speaker 3: and I'm welcoming you today. Christy. I'm so excited to
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  Speaker 3: have you on my show. You are a very interesting
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  Speaker 3: woman and I'd like to hear all about your foundation
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  Speaker 3: and it's called survive to thrive and this has to
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  Speaker 3: do with domestic violence.
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  Speaker 2: Correct, and thank you for having me. I appreciate the invite.
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  Speaker 3: We'll welcome.
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  Speaker 2: Can I ask you a quick question?
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  Speaker 3: Sure?
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  Speaker 2: Where did you get the name cats and Puddy?
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  Speaker 3: So and basically just came out of a conversation. I said,
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  Speaker 3: my life went from parties to events, to traveling to
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  Speaker 3: now I sit home with my cats and eating pudding.
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  Speaker 3: That's it. That's where my life has become. So it's
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  Speaker 3: like everybody, I love it. It's it's just everything. So
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  Speaker 3: the show is everything we talked about, everything from cats
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  Speaker 3: to pudding. I love It's like, you know, it's a
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  Speaker 3: too it's a too two definition.
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  Speaker 2: Meaning to it. That's awesome.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, this is different. It's the cats and
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  Speaker 2: funny did you meet the wrong So no, that's cool, Okay, Yes,
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  Speaker 2: thank you so much for having me.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, it's so pretty.
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  Speaker 2: Oh thank you really yes, thank you.
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  Speaker 3: You say that like you're surprised that somebody would say
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  Speaker 3: that you're a beautiful woman.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you. I appreciate it's so tall. Thank you. But
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  Speaker 2: you know, after I turned fifty, it's like.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm on the wrong I'm fifty one now, No,
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  Speaker 3: it's it's fifty, thank you, I'm fifty three. I wake
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  Speaker 3: up in the morning and I'm like, who the hell
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  Speaker 3: beat me up when I'm in my seat, so like
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  Speaker 3: somebody kicked my ass when I was sleeping. I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: let's go get them, because I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Very confident and I believe you, and I definitely know
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  Speaker 2: I'm beautiful one thousand percent. But I'm looking at some
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  Speaker 2: twenty somethings and I'm like.
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  Speaker 3: Like, where did all the time know what they don't
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  Speaker 3: have what we have?
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  Speaker 2: No, they don't have this.
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  Speaker 3: No they don't they don't know, they don't have it
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  Speaker 3: at all.
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  Speaker 2: No, it's like lights are on nobody's home exactly.
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  Speaker 3: And it's so much worse because when we were twenty
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  Speaker 3: it was a lot different. I think we were a
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  Speaker 3: lot oh yeah, smarter and a lot I think that
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  Speaker 3: the internet dummed and the phones dummed a lot of
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  Speaker 3: people down. It made them smater in certain ways, but
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  Speaker 3: it dumbed so many people down. And it's crazy how
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  Speaker 3: the generations went from being so resourceful, like our generation
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  Speaker 3: was so resourceful generation thousand percent.
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  Speaker 2: Right, I went from that thing.
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  Speaker 3: I look up my kids. I'm like, mom, can you
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  Speaker 3: I mean here, I'm like, you're twenty, Why do I
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  Speaker 3: have to drive you there?
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  Speaker 2: Like yeah, my mother would tell me to walk. Like
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  Speaker 2: every convenience, every luxury, everything is about instant gratification. Which also,
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  Speaker 2: you know, fifty year olds back then when I was
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  Speaker 2: a teenager didn't look like no, they looked like they
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  Speaker 2: looked like they were ninety yes, And I was like,
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  Speaker 2: I thought thirty was old. I dreaded turning thirty. But
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  Speaker 2: now with fillers. People died in.
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  Speaker 3: The nineteen horses when they were fifty twenty. If I
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  Speaker 3: was was.
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  Speaker 2: That was that the crisis?
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  Speaker 3: I asked my grandmother one time. I'm like, I look
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  Speaker 3: what happened when people got sick? She's like, they died
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  Speaker 3: j and they went to the hospital and died. There
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  Speaker 3: was there was no penicillin, there was nothing, and that
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  Speaker 3: first yeah, it was crazy, like can you imagine? And
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  Speaker 3: these kids the only thing they have to worry about
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  Speaker 3: is if they're gonna order will be eat so they're
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  Speaker 3: gonna go and you know, or they're gonna go to Chipotle.
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  Speaker 3: That that's like tough, like such, I know, I'm so
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  Speaker 3: sorry for them.
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  Speaker 2: I really, we only had. I think Dominoes was like
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  Speaker 2: the big thing when they had delivery. I remember that first, like, wow,
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  Speaker 2: we're calling Dominoes, like yeah, right.
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  Speaker 3: And we had and we had no cell phones, We
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  Speaker 3: didn't have remote controls. I was my father's remote control.
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  Speaker 3: It has to change the station farm like that was it.
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  Speaker 3: They don't cord less.
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  Speaker 2: Remember when Star sixty nine came out redall was like
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  Speaker 2: hold on, I'm gonna redalue.
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  Speaker 3: Or if you really if you wanted to talk to
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  Speaker 3: somebody and they want the phone. I used to do
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  Speaker 3: emergency breakthroughs, but I would make it. Would we have
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  Speaker 3: a code to be like oh, I think it's the
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  Speaker 3: wrong person, and they would know it was me on
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  Speaker 3: the phone and we up so you wouldn't get charged
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  Speaker 3: for it. I know, like you have a realized you
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  Speaker 3: have an emergency breakthrough from stand meanwhile I'm calling, but
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  Speaker 3: they would know because it would charge like like five
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  Speaker 3: or six dollars for each emergency breakthrough.
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  Speaker 2: And like you were balling if your mom got you
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  Speaker 2: your own phone in your room with your own number,
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  Speaker 2: like I have my own phone, yes.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, yes, you were like whoa, I have my own phone? Now?
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  Speaker 3: Kids like what they want? They want fifteen hundred dollars
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  Speaker 3: phones now it's crazy.
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  Speaker 2: Ohyah, it's crazy.
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  Speaker 3: So yes, So let's get back to yas to.
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  Speaker 2: I don't talk about that.
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  Speaker 3: We can totally talk about So let's talk about your
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  Speaker 3: your foundations, how it started, what inspired you to you know,
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  Speaker 3: to form it, and who is who are any key players,
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  Speaker 3: if any involved?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, well, most people know me from being on Love
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  Speaker 2: and Hip Hop New York season five and that was
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  Speaker 2: like one of those one season Oh my god, that's
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  Speaker 2: a whole another episode I could have.
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  Speaker 3: Oh how is that experience?
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  Speaker 2: It was wonderful. I mean it was life changing in
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  Speaker 2: a lot of great ways, have some negatives, but more
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  Speaker 2: perks than non perks, and it was what I moved
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  Speaker 2: to New York from from Baltimore. Moved here twenty two
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  Speaker 2: years ago with the goal of getting on TV, acting, modeling.
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  Speaker 2: I've been acting and modeling since I was twelve. I
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  Speaker 2: did everything pretty much. I hit the ceiling in Baltimore
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  Speaker 2: with what there was to do. I was an extra
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  Speaker 2: on the Wire. I played a manicurist on Homicide with
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  Speaker 2: Richard Belzer. I did a two days of filming in
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  Speaker 2: DC for Michael Moore, who did Fahrenheit nine one one
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  Speaker 2: on a show he did called The Awful Truth. Like
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  Speaker 2: I pretty much did everything anything with John Waters like
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  Speaker 2: I was always extras. I paid my dues and then
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  Speaker 2: I said, you know what, I need to be in
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  Speaker 2: New York, Like there's so many opportunities only three hours away.
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  Speaker 2: I can always drive back if I ever want to
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  Speaker 2: go see my family, this and that. So I did
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  Speaker 2: pack up everything, moved here in the middle of winter.
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  Speaker 2: Started my whole life over. I was twenty seven, So you.
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  Speaker 3: Left home, but you came here by yourself. Well.
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  Speaker 2: I owned a vintage clothing store called Bunk in the
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  Speaker 2: Trunk for three years.
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  Speaker 3: Oh I love that.
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  Speaker 2: Yes. And I owned a house, a row home that
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  Speaker 2: I renovated while I was living in there. I bought
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  Speaker 2: my first property when I was twenty four, what they
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  Speaker 2: call now flipping properties. But it was just natural to
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  Speaker 2: me because I've always hustled. I was with someone for
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  Speaker 2: ten years. He was from New York, he was Dominican,
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  Speaker 2: and he was a drug dealer. He got murdered when
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  Speaker 2: I was twenty seven. He was twenty nine, and I
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  Speaker 2: just didn't want to be on many children. No, I
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  Speaker 2: didn't want to be there anymore. It was too many
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  Speaker 2: things that reminded me of him. It was a lot
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  Speaker 2: they were all in my business, people knocking on my door.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of things.
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  Speaker 3: Well, yeah, like community.
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  Speaker 2: The authorities. You know, they brought me in a lot
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  Speaker 2: of things. I had nothing to do with it, obviously,
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  Speaker 2: but I always came to New York with him on
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  Speaker 2: the weekends. We went to Soul Kitchen, we went to Palladium.
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  Speaker 3: I was, Oh, my God, I Palladium. Jesus, that shows
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  Speaker 3: our age.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like the models s I I.
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  Speaker 3: Used to work in, which you we'll call it.
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  Speaker 1: No.
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  Speaker 3: I worked in the Limeway. I also worked in I
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  Speaker 3: can't even think of the name right now. I'll think
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  Speaker 3: of it as we're going. But it was. That was
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  Speaker 3: one of the last clubs I worked in when I
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  Speaker 3: when me and my when my husband and I got engaged.
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  Speaker 3: He's like the only Clubitaria. No. I can't even not
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  Speaker 3: club USI. It's just slipped my mind, but it was.
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  Speaker 3: It was. It was like it was near the Coba Cabina,
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  Speaker 3: was around the block from the Colpa. I can't think
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  Speaker 3: of the China Club. No. I did work in the
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  Speaker 3: China Club too on Mondays too.
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  Speaker 2: So it was like amazing. It was a whole nother
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  Speaker 2: world outside of Baltimore where he was coming down there
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  Speaker 2: to make money. But then you know, he would bring
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  Speaker 2: me up on the weekends and he would spend it.
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  Speaker 2: We would be out with all these celebrities and models.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I'm seeing Mickey Rourke. I'm seeing like all
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  Speaker 2: these major sound factory. That's where sound factory shopping down,
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  Speaker 2: you know, shopping down in Soho. Like I wanted to
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  Speaker 2: be here. And when he passed away, I really was
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  Speaker 2: just like, I gotta.
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  Speaker 3: Got to do something.
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  Speaker 2: I had everything. I had a store, I had a
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  Speaker 2: house that was paid for, d off everything.
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  Speaker 3: How did you do with the business.
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  Speaker 2: I sold it. I got rid of it, you know,
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  Speaker 2: I liquidated everything. I was going to put it all
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  Speaker 2: in storage here, but the rents in New York were crazy,
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  Speaker 2: so I just started everything over. I knew two people,
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  Speaker 2: which were his two cousins. I started dancing at Sue's
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  Speaker 2: Rendee who as a stripper Mount Vernon. I was killing
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  Speaker 2: it when I tell you, Sue's Tuesday Nights at Sue's
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  Speaker 2: funk Master Flex with DJ and DJ Clue. This is
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  Speaker 2: where I met a lot of the celebrities I knew
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  Speaker 2: in the industry, so I was kind of more infamous
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  Speaker 2: before I was so called famous on Love and Hip Hop.
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  Speaker 2: I knew all the rappers. I lived this lifestyle. I
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  Speaker 2: was getting flowed out, flewed out whatever they call on Instagram.
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  Speaker 2: Before it was even such a thing. There was no
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  Speaker 2: social media, thank god.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god. If there was social media when I
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  Speaker 3: was young, I would have been dead.
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  Speaker 2: My titties would have been all over Instagram because honey,
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  Speaker 2: they didn't allow cameras inside the clubs at this time,
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  Speaker 2: which we were great, but honestly, it wasn't to protect us.
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  Speaker 2: It was to protect the married.
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  Speaker 3: Men absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: Wanted to protect their customers. So that's fine. But I
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  Speaker 2: made a lot of relationships I still have today with
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  Speaker 2: a lot of these famous people, actors, sports players, rappers
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  Speaker 2: and stuff. To me, they're just normal people. And they
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  Speaker 2: were actually coming in to see me spending their money
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  Speaker 2: on me. It's like, Okay, who's the bitch, so hello.
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  Speaker 2: So I was watching Love and Hip Hop when it
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  Speaker 2: first came out, and one of my very close friends
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  Speaker 2: is uh with a a list celebrity, and we were
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  Speaker 2: I was sitting in their house in Miami and I
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  Speaker 2: was like, God, this is my real life, Like this
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  Speaker 2: is my ship. I don't sing and I don't rep
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  Speaker 2: but I need to be on that show. Like I'm
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  Speaker 2: really that bitch, Like this is my real I'm the
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  Speaker 2: real loving it. But so I was like, you got
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  Speaker 2: to know somebody that's on the show. She's like, well,
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  Speaker 2: I have a friend that may have a friend, and
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  Speaker 2: she did so a week later, a couple of days later,
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  Speaker 2: I'm in Mona's office and I'm honey. I went to
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  Speaker 2: mac and got my makeup done and my lashes, I
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  Speaker 2: put on my twenty inch ponytail, I put a diamond
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  Speaker 2: dog collar on my Chihuahua, and I walked in Mona's
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  Speaker 2: office like I owned her. I was like, yes, you
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  Speaker 2: need me, I'm that bitch and say less and you
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  Speaker 2: got got on the show. So yeah, So I got
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  Speaker 2: on the show man. It was oh man, it was
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  Speaker 2: a dream come true. And I know what I signed
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  Speaker 2: up for. But I was very strategical in the fact
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  Speaker 2: that I knew not to get wasted or you know,
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  Speaker 2: shit that they could ever use against me, because it's
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  Speaker 2: still a business.
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  Speaker 3: They want ratings.
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  Speaker 2: So I knew not to go in there making.
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  Speaker 3: It and they will exploit you.
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  Speaker 2: Oh it's a number. So I knew how to play
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  Speaker 2: it cool but still give them what they needed. And
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  Speaker 2: I was on I think fourteen out of sixteen episodes
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  Speaker 2: the first season, my breakout season. I was in the
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  Speaker 2: show opening, which was rare for a newcomer because you know,
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  Speaker 2: I knew what was going to be exciting for the
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  Speaker 2: audience to watch. That's what it all breaks down to.
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  Speaker 2: So it was successful. But honestly, I couldn't stand my
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  Speaker 2: ex to even go through another season. He made me
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  Speaker 2: feel physically sick when I saw his face. He made
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  Speaker 2: me sick to my star and.
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  Speaker 3: You can't you can't fake that, and you can't deal
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  Speaker 3: with somebody.
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  Speaker 2: If he was a fucking nightmare, like you know.
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  Speaker 3: And you didn't even want him any more involved in
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  Speaker 3: your life no matter.
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  Speaker 2: What exactly, And I never really put it out there
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  Speaker 2: behind the scenes, a lot of.
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  Speaker 3: People would would stay and put themselves the situation to
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  Speaker 3: be on TV and to be famous. I mean, that's
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  Speaker 3: a very noble thing to do, because a lot of
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  Speaker 3: people would to.
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  Speaker 2: Do that exactly.
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  Speaker 3: I do admire you for that. Thank you I have
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  Speaker 3: to give you, I have to give you thumbs up.
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  Speaker 2: For that, and I loved it, and I yeah, I
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  Speaker 2: would have loved to have done a second season, but
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  Speaker 2: not with him. And you know, you need that.
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  Speaker 3: You aren't gonna you aren't gonna do that.
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  Speaker 2: And I can't fake it with somebody else and all
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  Speaker 2: that ship.
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  Speaker 3: I couldn't do it either. I wouldn't be able to.
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  Speaker 3: I would have been like, you know what, it's this
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  Speaker 3: is not for me, exactly do it.
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  Speaker 2: So I knew, you know, I had to really run
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  Speaker 2: with that one season and make it, you know, make
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  Speaker 2: it pop. Anybody that's been on reality TV, you gotta
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  Speaker 2: milk it if you're smart.
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  Speaker 3: I was just talking about that with my with my
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  Speaker 3: last guest, I'm saying that, you know, if you're gonna
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  Speaker 3: do it, it's it's not gonna be a career reality TV.
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  Speaker 3: I want to it's a stepping stone for something else
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  Speaker 3: or something or help expand your business or whatever you're
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  Speaker 3: gonna do, or expand maybe your maybe getting into production
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  Speaker 3: or getting into acting and even acting. It's hard because
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  Speaker 3: a lot of a lot of a lot of they.
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  Speaker 2: Would stay over way a sorry I was Chrissy from
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  Speaker 2: Love and Hip Hop.
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  Speaker 3: No matter what to pigeonhole you into that into that
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  Speaker 3: whole thing.
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  Speaker 2: A thousand percent. So you know, I was doing my
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  Speaker 2: appearance's bookings things like that. It was great. It's still
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  Speaker 2: eating off of that. So I met a younger guy
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  Speaker 2: at a charity event that I was hosting, and we
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  Speaker 2: hit it all very fast, and you know, he ended
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  Speaker 2: up moving in with me like a month later. He
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  Speaker 2: got paroled to my house. He just came home from
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  Speaker 2: jail on a gun charge. You know, typical. I've dated
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  Speaker 2: many guys. You know that was used to that. I
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  Speaker 2: grew up on that whole life. You know that was
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  Speaker 2: Oh you only had a gun charge, you sold drugs
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  Speaker 2: a big deal. Okay.
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  Speaker 3: I was just saying, it's funny I knew on my hands,
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  Speaker 3: I could say ten people that I knew were there
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  Speaker 3: was in prison. Well you know I know directly people
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  Speaker 3: that were.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, my father did six years for arm robbery before
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  Speaker 2: I was born.
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  Speaker 3: You know what did jail for ten years. Yeah, It's like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, that's a normal.
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  Speaker 2: It's normal exactly. So I didn't care. So I let
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  Speaker 2: him get paroleed to my house because I mean we
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  Speaker 2: were fucking every day two three times. He was a
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  Speaker 2: hot young guy, tall body.
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  Speaker 3: Excited about that or did he think he was in
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  Speaker 3: jail with you?
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  Speaker 2: No, he he he just he couldn't wait to move. Yeah. So,
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  Speaker 2: you know, he was from Coney Island, Brooklyn, which I
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  Speaker 2: had never been there, and I went with him for
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  Speaker 2: the first time later on. But you know, I know
• 13:21
  Speaker 2: he was from you know, a lot of things, but
• 13:23
  Speaker 2: I didn't know he was a woman beater, which is
• 13:25
  Speaker 2: what he turned out to be. So that's how probably
• 13:29
  Speaker 2: like fifteen years younger than me, but he was. When
• 13:32
  Speaker 2: I tell you, we went everywhere we went, women were
• 13:34
  Speaker 2: on him. He was exceptionally fine, like model fine, like hot, hot,
• 13:39
  Speaker 2: like tall. He worked out every day, he did the
• 13:40
  Speaker 2: pool ups from jail, you know, all that shit, you know. So,
• 13:44
  Speaker 2: I mean, we couldn't go anywhere. Women were like he
• 13:46
  Speaker 2: and he knew he looked good. But it became very
• 13:50
  Speaker 2: abusive pretty quickly. As soon as he got in the
• 13:52
  Speaker 2: door and he knew he was locked in.
• 13:53
  Speaker 3: By locked it got hard to get to get him out.
• 13:57
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, it was I was trying to move.
• 13:59
  Speaker 2: It was a fucking hoole only nightmare. This lasted about
• 14:01
  Speaker 2: ten months, but he almost, Yeah, he almost beat me
• 14:04
  Speaker 2: to death in a nutshell in every every facet of abuse, emotional, physical, verbal, rob.
• 14:11
  Speaker 3: Me for diamond and go through emotional.
• 14:14
  Speaker 2: That's worse because I still have that from Yeah, I'm
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: still traumatized to even date. But in a nutshell, he
• 14:24
  Speaker 2: almost beat me to death. I had photos. I had medical.
• 14:28
  Speaker 3: Hands with his fist in.
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: His foot, with steel toe, timberlains on my living room floor,
• 14:33
  Speaker 2: kicking me in my face. I had bruises on the
• 14:36
  Speaker 2: back of my hands.
• 14:37
  Speaker 3: How did it stop?
• 14:38
  Speaker 2: Like?
• 14:38
  Speaker 3: Did did you were able to get away from him?
• 14:40
  Speaker 3: Did somebody heal?
• 14:41
  Speaker 2: Okay? So no. Twice the neighbors called the cops because
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: I never believed in calling the police. I was brought up.
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: You don't call the police, cops, you just don't. And
• 14:51
  Speaker 2: it was just I never called the police, but the
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: neighbors did because one time got it was warm and
• 14:55
  Speaker 2: they could hear me screaming from my life out of
• 14:56
  Speaker 2: the window and he but he ran out because he knew,
• 15:00
  Speaker 2: like he's.
• 15:00
  Speaker 3: Not a double edged short and background. You know, we
• 15:04
  Speaker 3: have similar backgrounds. It's you know, you don't call the cops,
• 15:06
  Speaker 3: but exactly, it's like, what do you do in this situation?
• 15:09
  Speaker 2: Exactly? And basically I was like, you know, you gotta go.
• 15:11
  Speaker 3: He's like, well, and they can't even help you anyway.
• 15:14
  Speaker 2: No, he wanted he didn't have anywhere to go. He
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: was staying at his cousin's house in the projects before
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: he moved in with me. She didn't want him to
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: come back. He had nowhere to go, he didn't have
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: any families. So he's like, bitch, you wanted me to
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: fucking move in. I'm not leaving. I have nowhere to go.
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: And it doesn't work like that with parole. I got
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: to put in an application and get approved by my PO.
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: So I had this motherfucker stuck in my house, sleeping
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: on my couch and fucking me up, stealing from me.
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: I had to go get a safe deposit box to
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: put all my valuables in. It was a fucking nightmare.
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: I literally started packing up my own house that I love,
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: that I've been in for now twenty some years, like
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: since I moved to New York to go look, No,
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: I live in Westchester, west I'm sorry to go look,
• 15:57
  Speaker 2: and oh my god, those apartments were so trash and
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: so expense and it was a fucking on top of
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: all the stress, I'm beaten up, beaten down, like i'd
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: had black guys. Tell you, I'm lucky. He dislocated my
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: left shawl. Gim me permanent hearing damage in my left ear.
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: He broke my front tooth. I got in ears. Now,
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: I'll tell you in a second, all this ship and
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: I have it documented. I've posted the photos and I
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: have doctors reports from when I went to the hospital.
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: And of course I lied and said I got in
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: the bar frot. I didn't know you lied, Yeah, because
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: you know you're scared. He always told me, if you
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: ever called the police or call my po I'll fucking
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: kill you or I'll give you a buck fifty, which
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: means cutting your face. And I believe him.
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: This guy's a fucking has nothing to lose lose exactly.
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: I was the biggest come up of his life. But
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: he didn't even realize that at the time, Like he
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: was so jealous of me. He told me he hates females,
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: and you know, he can get whatever he wants from women.
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: I think he was definitely on the down low gay, yeah,
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: because he you know, and even even one of his
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: uh his friends said, jail is.
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: His home was like ted Bundy actually, and when.
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: He's out at his vacation because he lives in he's
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: That's all these ever accomplished, is never.
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: He was never ever, ever like convicted for any for
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: not any kind of soul.
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: Nobody's ever pressed charges.
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: And did anybody ever come to you afterwards when they
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: found out what happened, because I would think that he's
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: done it in the past. It's not just you.
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: So this is what happened. So he went out and
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: did a rock. Okay, this was seven seven years ago,
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: so this was at the height of my fame too.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: This piece of ship's telling me when I'm on the
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: red carpet, you look like shit, you look old. Nobody's
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: even looking at you. I mean, because he would go
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: with me to events. He would drive me and stuff,
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: and it was helpful to have someone with me to
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: carry my stuff. Anybody like, it's a lot like being
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: at these things, like people don't know you go to
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: these these bookings and stuff. You're by yourself. It's hard
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: to get somebody to go with you. You know what
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: I'm saying. You need help to take pictures, somebody's got
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: to hold your coat, you know, stuff like that. So, okay,
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: what happened was I used to pray to Goddess and God,
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: please let him get hit by a fucking bus. Is
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: that something happened to him? Just get him out of
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: my life. I've always believed in God since i've been little.
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: Over with the Please like I know Satan in my house.
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: So he went out around Christmas time and committed a robbery.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: He went and try to rob some guy for weed
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: and queen's and he went in there try to run
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: out of think with like a pound of weed from
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: the guy's house. But he didn't know those three other
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: guys in the basement. This is the story I was told.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: They came up and they meet him with bricks. He
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: hasd staples in his head in three places. They had
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: to cut his clothes off. So he went to jail
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: for the crime. So now I'm like God, I felt
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: so relieved, Thank you God. I packed his ship up
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: in the big black hefty bags and I called his cousin.
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: I dropped that ship off the whole house, changed the locks,
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: and I'm telling you God, thank you. I cried like
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: it was like a dark fucking cloud. I started unpacking
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: my stuff and paying my pictures back on Well, I
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: got my home back like.
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: So then the world was offhold.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: So then I said, you know what, this motherfucker is
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: going to be in jail for a while. Let me
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: press charges. Because if I don't press charges, like I
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: feel like I'm not standing enough for myself, Like, let
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: me try to get some kind of justice. You know
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying for everything he did to me, because
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: I've always been a fighter. Hell, there he come into
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: my life and fucking disrespect me and and try to
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: destroy me after everything I've been through. Now, fuck it,
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: Fuck that. I really didn't do shift for him. He
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: had a job, but he was still faster.
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he was living in my house, living in your house.
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: He was. You are shap with him.
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: Driving my car telling people I'm a broken.
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: In with him. You did give him. You gave him
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: a related, nice friship.
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: To be around me, and because around celebrities his favorite rappers,
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: he got to take pictures with all kinds of ship.
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: So shit, he would have never been exposed to in
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: life if he didn't meet me. But I didn't care
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: about that. I wanted to treat you right exactly, and
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: he never would. So I went and pressed charges finally,
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: And let me tell you something, after the hell I
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: went through walking into that precinct with a bunch of
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: older dudes and yonkers saying, well, you know they didn't
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: want to do the paperwork. You should have came sooner. Well,
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: why didn't you come sooner? I didn't know. This is
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: something called victim blameing. Well I didn't know. You know,
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: I was supposed to comment us right away when most
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: people never go. Ninety five percent of cases never get
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: reported out of fear because it's not even when you're
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: with the person. It's after the victim leaves that they
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: come back and kill or hurt you worse and take
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: the children's lives because I told you a bitch, you ever
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: fucking leave, I'll kill you. And if I ever see
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: you with somebody, I want my kids around anybody. That's
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: when most murders happen. Yeah, so most women don't even
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: get a chance to go and report it. So I'm
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: taking a step and being brave to go report this
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: motherfucker finally, and they're telling me I should have came sooner.
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: So I get a victim's advocate from Family tour It
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: told me I need to get an order of protection,
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: so which is nothing paper, and they granted it to
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: me right away. They gave me a five year order
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: of protection immediately. Then they only charged him. I went
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: to the district attorney. She didn't want to help me.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: It was a woman in Yonkers for the domestic violent JUnit.
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: She didn't want to help. She said I should have
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: came sooner, more victim blaming. I'd get my personal attorney friend,
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: who was a business attorney, Claudia, to go with me,
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: to kind of put the heat on him and say, listen,
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: we're gonna go public. She's on TV. We didn't even
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: want to have to pull that car. Why should I
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: have to? This is a crime that was committed against me,
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: a violent fucking How much.
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: Longer after did you go to the police after?
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: It was about a month maybe a month, so it.
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: Wasn't that long. It was like it was a year later.
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they just don't want to do the paperwork. So
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: we finally put the pressure. They finally charged him while
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: he's in jail, and they gave him three three lousy
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: fucking months, and they ran a concurrent with the time
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: he's in there for the robbery charge, which means he
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: didn't do one day for what he did to.
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: Me anything because it was a concurrent sentence.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: I was so disappointed and so sick because I'm filing paperwork,
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: I'm going to this courthouse. I'm sitting here waiting for
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: my turn.
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: This is Tomkinson. The one thing you have it on
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: record that he was violent, So if he does it again,
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: god forbid.
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: I mean added to the five pages of the felonies
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: that he has right. So the lady called me. She's like, well,
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: we sent in somebody because they do it over the phone.
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: So I don't got to see him. I didn't. Oh,
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: oh my god. I was dreading having to face him.
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: That was fearful. I didn't want to ever see this
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: motherfucker again. So they called me and they're like, you know,
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: we gave him three months, like they really did something.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: This bitch calls me from the district attorney's office and
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: is like, oh and no, and he got a domestic
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: violence I said, three months, are you fucking well?
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: They don't care. In the city they let everybody out. Now, yeah,
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: they don't care. They go in and out. So she said, at.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: Least we charged him. I hung up on her. I said,
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: you know what, this is so wrong to go in
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: and out? What about I'm on TV. I'm famous right now.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: What about these women and men because anybody can happen
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: who have no platform, who have no voice, who nobody
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: listens to. I had to fight to even get heard
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: by the system, and they still let me down. What
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: about all these other people that are dying, that are
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: going through it right now, that are suffering like I was.
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: I need to speak up because if I don't, who's
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: going to Right. I had a platform from TV, I
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: got a couple hundred thousand followers. I'm using that fuck
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: that selling the tea and all this bullshit. I'm gonna
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: use it to do this.
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: So now when you start, so this happened, you had
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: that he was charged. Now did he try to come
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: after you when he came out or no?
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: You no, no, because I already had the order.
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: He's never bothered me, never try to contact you.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: But I've gotten the fake page threats. Bitch, he's coming
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: after you and all that shit. Okay, whatever, be stupid
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: and do it, because I'm not the weak bitch that
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: you beat down anymore, like come come like yeah. So,
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: but he from what I understand, he already moved in
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: with another girl in Brooklyn.
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: So had he already had another follow up.
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: He broke in front of her eight year old daughter,
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: robbed her same memo. So several of these women, once
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: I went public, started the page started, the foundation survived
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: to thrive global. I started posting my photos and telling
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: people what happened to me. So other people started coming
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: forward with other victims from him.
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: From him, Wow, how many exes?
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: So many? So many? And how old was he like
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: in his thirties? I was forty, I was like forty five.
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: He was like thirty three something. I don't know, he's
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: like fifteen years ago in the thirties. But he has
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: a long history of beating women, and these women never
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: I mean, one woman said he permanently Now one woman
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: said he permanently scarred her. He assaulted her handicapped father
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: in Florida. I mean, he's the stuff, fucking.
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: He's an evil human vein. So this is a person, like,
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: you know, I don't wish that on people like this,
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: a person he deserves no death is not even good
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: for him. He should be living.
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: So that's how I feel, too.
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: He needs to suffer.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: So so many people reached out and he's.
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: Going to suff exactly, you know, God's a merciful god
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: and is a bit.
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: My thing was, you know, I went public with this.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: People know who I am. He was obviously, you know,
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: telling them he used to date me. That was like
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: a status symbol for his bumb ass to tell them,
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: you know, he was with me, to you know, get
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: these girls to feel kind of competitive, like wow, And
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: it's so sick. It's triangulation. It's narcissistic abuse. They do
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: it so yes, they triangulate and make one jealous and
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: try to play. So you know, these women will read
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: it out to me, reach out to me and stuff
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: like that, and I'm like, listen, hon, I'm going to
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: keep this short. But you know, I didn't have a warning.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: This guy just came home. Nobody knew who he was.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: I didn't know he was a fucking woman beater. I said,
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: But I don't know what you thought that you saw
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: my photos, you saw my story, that anything was going
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: to be different from you, and it wasn't. I wasn't
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: victim blaming them. But it's been five or so for.
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: Somebody to even say, like, what I deserved him to
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: do this, to even look at to even look at
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: those pictures and be a hauled by him. Even no
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: matter what you did, you nobody deserves to get like
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: doesn't matter.
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: But if I seeing another woman, say you posted pictures
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: and then I go date the guy, like what the fuck?
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: Like what's wrong with you?
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: Some women are very desperate.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: And I can't tell you what to do, but I
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: hope you'll get away safe by people.
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: He's a charming and the.
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: Sex is grade. He knows how to use that.
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah, narcissists, you know, exactly a textbook, so you know
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: they're very they're very charming. Head Bundy was the same way.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: They all exactly sick. So I'm going on my eighth
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: year with Survived to Thrive Global, which is a five
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: o' one C three nonprofit. It's been a massive success.
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: And you know, I didn't really know what I was doing.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: I just knew I had the desire in my heart
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: to help other people not to go through what I
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: went through. And if I could save one life or
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: prevent it happening from somebody, that's even It's better than
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: And you know, I was so embarrassed and ashamed to
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: come out because I thought I was going to get
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: blacklisted in the industry. People would look at me as drama.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: When I come on set, Oh, I don't want to
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: work with her. What if that guy comes after? You know,
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: you think the worst of the worst because you're in
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: that mindset. It was, it was the opposite. I was
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: one of these industry functions and I was having high
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: level executives puld me to the side of it happened
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: to me. I never wanted to.
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: Talk about it. Thank you.
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: So I'm like, wow, like this is the opposite of
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: what I thought happen. That kept me even going more
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: because I.
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: Realized that Sone used to felt so good that you actually.
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: That was better than being on any show because you're
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: really making an impact, You're really saving lives. And I
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: have people from Australia contact me London. I was on
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: a podcast in London this summer. That was major for
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: me because when I started this, I said survive to
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: thrive global because this is a global pandemic. People are
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: dying all over the world as we speak every single day.
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: And when we were locked down, there was a domestic
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: violence went through the roof.
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: You're stuck with you that I used to pray every
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: night for people that were stuck, and I used to
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: think what if this motherfucker was still in my house,
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: Like I used to have those nightmares like that, he
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: will spin my assage. Oh my god, I'd probably be dead. Yeah,
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: he was so enraged all the time. You wouldn't have
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: to do anything. I got punched in the face for
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: changing the radio station and blood squirting everywhere all over
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: the car.
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: Like did you have to do when you hit him back? Oh?
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I thought back. But I couldn't beat this guy.
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: He's six foot three, works out every day. I'm no
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: match for a fucking man.
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: No, I shouldn't have to fight now, of course you
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: shouldn't have to, yes.
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: So yeah, So it's been a great success and it's
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: going to continue to grow.
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: I mean that's amazing.
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the pages at So what is so?
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: What do you do with the foundation? So? How so
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: how does it work?
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: Okay? So I'm not a counselor. I'm not a licensed counselor.
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: A lot of people come to me for counseling. I'm
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: not trying to be liable. I'm not trying to get sued.
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: You know, that's some people's field of study. They become,
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: you know, advocates. You know, I do advocate, but I'm
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: not a social worker. I'm not you know, I'm not
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: full time with that just because it happened to me. Yes,
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: it's unfortunate, but that's still not my dream to own
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: a shelter. I don't want to be in a shelter
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: all day, Like, yes, it happened, just like if you
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: have cancer and you cure it, it doesn't mean you
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: want to be at the counselor foundation every single day.
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: And that's my choice to help people in my own
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: kind of way. So my main objective is to educate
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: and empower.
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: So do you have other women who like maybe write
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: blogs on the page and like it's so hard to.
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: Have good help. Yes, I do share my platform and
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: I do offer my space for everyone to and share
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: in three paragraphs or less, but they have to know
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: once it's out, it's out because it's not just about me.
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: My platform is for everyone to share it because you
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: never know who's watching that can relate with certain someone
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: else's story, not yours. It's not about me. It's about
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: the cause period, and it's about prevention. If I can
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: get out more and get to the younger generation to
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: teach them, even the young men, how to treat a
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: lady experience. They've never had any exist.
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: There's a lot of followless men in this world. They
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: don't know, and they don't know.
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: They just don't know. And a lot of these young
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: ladies they've never seen their mother get treated right, so
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: they accept a lot of right.
• 30:03
  Speaker 3: So they think that that's okay because they saw that
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: their mothers are in bad relationships or not in any relationships.
• 30:07
  Speaker 3: They don't know how a good relationship looks. They don't understand.
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: I grew up in dysfunction. I grew a very violent
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: household that was domestic violence. So I just thought it
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: was kind of normal, like this is how my parents were.
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: It's not normal.
• 30:19
  Speaker 3: It's not normal.
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: But now I had to do therapy and learn now
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: to break that cycle and break that that generational curse,
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: so to speak. And now I'm sharing my knowledge and
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: my information with other people who have gone through it,
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: who are going through it, and who are getting out,
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: in hopes to inspire them that listen, survive. I'm a survivor.
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: I'm not just a survivor getting by. I'm a thriver.
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: My life is ten times better because this mother try
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: to take every time. And I thought and I took
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: up for myself and I even wanted to work on
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: myself even more to try to work and.
• 30:51
  Speaker 3: Look and look where you are now?
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: Hello?
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: Right, look, you're amazing. Now what's the where How can
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: we find the foundation?
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: It's at survive to Thrive Global on Instagram, on Facebook,
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: It's at STTG on Twitter. I'm revamping my website right now,
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: so that's down, but it's survived to Thrive Global dot org.
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: It might be up.
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: We'll take it when we put this, but that Survives.
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: To Thrive Global on Instagram is the main. We get
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: up to two million in engagement every month, which means
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: two million eyes are on domestic violence.
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: That's amazing.
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: Impact is great. It's it's something that simple.
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: And don't you feel good? That's helping man, helping other people,
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: men and women.
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: This is my legacy. I don't have children. This is
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: what I want to be known for when I leave
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: this beautiful earth, leap behind for others to continue to
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: do what I'm doing to carry on this mission, because
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: this is going to go as long as people are born.
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: People can say we're going to end domestic violence, No,
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: you're not. As long as people are born. It's going
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: to happen.
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: It's been happening for thousands of yes, since since man
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: has walked there ar.
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: But we can try to prevent it. We can try
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: to educate people where it doesn't you know, to get
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: out before it gets to.
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: The and see the signs and see you know, and
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: help those people get help before they do.
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  Speaker 2: To bring awareness. But that's the key, is prevention, because
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: what could these lolls are so antiquated from the nineteen
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: fifties when it was a domestic matter between husband and wife.
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: These things need to be brought up to speed up
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: to the modern twenty twenty four, like, we need to
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: make some big changes, and they may not happen in
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: my lifetime, but I know I can try to be
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: as part of the process as much as possible and
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: get out here and be a big voice worldwide for
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: the people that don't have a voice so.
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: Well, they're lucky to have you as an advocate and
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: that's amazing. And I also understand that you have You're
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: into food too, so I wanted to talk of like
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: two minutes about that. So that's your other passion, right,
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: I love food.
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: I lost some weight. I wasn't always this. I love
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: food too.
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: Yes, it's a blessing a rise.
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: I love food, that's my vice. But yes, I'm a
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: top top local guide on Google Maps. I'm in the
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: top one percent for New York City for my food reviews.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: So if you see me walk in your restaurant, you
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: better be on your a game. I also have a
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: food page called Christie's Food Fantasy, which.
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: I way you can find that.
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: It's on Instagram at Christie's Food Fantasy. My main Instagram
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: is at Christie and.
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  Speaker 3: You put the restaurants there that you that you've went
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: and that you recommend. Okay, good, and I'm eating, I'm
• 33:06
  Speaker 3: going to see if there's restaurants I like on your Yeah,
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: it's out.
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: I show if it's good or bad, because I'll tell
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: you if it's trash too. Don't waste your money, don't
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: come here.
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: Well that's what you you know, you want, you want
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: an honest opinion.
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: You know, people work hard for their money. It's nothing
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: worse than going to a restaurant and spending one hundred
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: dollars and it sucked and it's like, oh my god,
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: you feel sick, like you know, Tress was horrible. So yeah,
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: because I don't tell them who I am when I
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: come in, I'm just going to get the real experience.
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: You want the real experience, and you want to you
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: want to see what how what it's all about, and listen,
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: there are there and if you're if you're reviewing a place,
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: it's not like it's hurting them in a way where
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: it's like they're going on Yelp. Because people do go
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: on Yelp and they'll they'll they'll bash some place for
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: the stupidest thing, you know, and just because they're just
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: having a bad day, they'll do it. I mean, people
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: get sloorted, but some people do deserve it, you know.
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: And I'm not even that person. It takes a lot
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: for me to leave a negative review. You've got to
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: be a real nasty bit.
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: That's what I said.
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: With the food's gotta be cold and burnt.
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: I just thought. My thing is I don't reviews. I
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: just don't go back that you lose my business unless
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: they really did something wrong, Like like I've left one
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: review for my neighborhood Pizzaia was so funny and I
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: and I'm friends with the owner of my whole life
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: and he's the guy behind the counter. Just pissed me off.
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: He thought that me and my husband like cut the wine.
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: I'm like, well, we cut the wine and cut two
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: old ladies. They're like, you cut the wine. I said no,
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: I said, you're thirty years old, working behind and slinging pizza.
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: You're just a miserable, fucking guy. You wanted to shut up.
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: So I left this nasty review. This guy's slinging pizza
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: and he's just nasty because he's hot and he's sweaty
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: and and and I said, we've spent said, we spent
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: tens of thousands of dollars.
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I said, you're regular there.
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: And they're like, it was so funny, but they knew
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: it was me. But I took it down. But I
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: was just so mad, Yeah, because it was like, come on,
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: a regular, a regular regular, my whole family, everybody no
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: comes here and eats dam But that's the only time
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: I ever left a really nasty roe.
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: But I took it down.
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's good. That's that's that's a you know,
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: that's I like that you review it and you're honest
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: with your reviews, so that's good than bad. And you
• 35:09
  Speaker 3: go all over the place, you go anywhere.
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: I go, anywhere I go, love it. They went in London,
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: and you know it's true. The food in London is
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: not not like the KFC over there was amazing. I
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: don't need KFC here, but over there it's like gor
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: mat It's wow, man, it was the best in your
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: had like, yes, yes.
• 35:26
  Speaker 3: So you gave a good review for the KFC and yes,
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: and that's amazing. I'm gonna have to check that out
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: the next summer I go to London. Yes, so, Christy,
• 35:32
  Speaker 3: thank you so much for being on my show. I
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: had a great time, and I love to have you
• 35:37
  Speaker 3: back again and see and see how your foundation is
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: and the progression of it and your ash and your food.
• 35:42
  Speaker 3: Are you gonna have a food channel you think soon?
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: I want to start a food review more of a show,
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: and even maybe incorporate some dates in there. Maybe the
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: date was good but the food was trash, or the
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: food was good in the dates they were trash. Oh,
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: I love that. That's great love. They both were good.
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: Who knows?
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: So yeah, I loved to hear all about it. So
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: I'd love to have you back in a few months
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: if you'd come back. And fabulous too, beautiful fabulous, have fun,
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: very interesting story. Thank you so much for coming today.
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: So everybody, thank you so much for tuning in and
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: we'll see you soon. And don't forget to find me
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: on YouTube, Spotify, and Apple. Please watch the whole video,
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: not my shorts. Watch it all. Have a great day.
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, stuff is great.