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Releasing Childhood Trauma Hypnosis – Become the Father You Want to Be · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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  recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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  famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Do you ever? Feel that you had.
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  An unfair, unjust. Or even traumatic childhood.
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  If so, I think you're going to get some value from this
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  session. My name's Adam, host of the
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  Hypnosis Podcast. And in this session, the client
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  that I was working with was a man that had four daughters, but
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  in his childhood suffered what can only be described as abuse
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  from a very insecure but domineering father.
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  The play fights weren't play fights.
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  They were very aggressive, painful.
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  And designed to. Humiliate and create a feeling
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  of fear. Bullying effectively, but not
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  from another child, but from a father that was much older than
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  the child that they were meant to be protecting.
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  What this hypnosis session does is it uses disassociated
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  regression. To create.
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  Empowered feelings, and that is to be the protector of them.
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  Self in the. Way that their father should.
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  Have been. For them and.
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  Effectively create. Some kind of karmic justice
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  designed to create empathy so that their own father would know
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  what they were experiencing. But that's designed to do 2
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  things. It's designed to take in a
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  disempowering emotion and make it empowering but also a reframe
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  and also. A sense of.
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  That their past, actually. Gives them a.
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  Level of empathy and a level of resilience that very few people
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  would be able to experience so that to their children, they can
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  be a better father than ever. And this is the ultimate reframe
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  for trauma. It's not saying that a traumatic
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  thing is good or beneficial. It's saying that.
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  The ultimate way to. Become empowered.
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  Is to say the past happened. It shouldn't have.
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  It wasn't right and it's not a good thing.
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  But from that? Thing it may.
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  Lead to positive consequences that could be harnessed in the
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  present. And that's how you reframe a
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  horrible. Moment to be empowering it turns
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  a victim into a survivor now please be aware that because
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  this was a male client that had children there's.
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  References to being. A father and a good father, and
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  for them all of this suppressed emotion felt like this thick
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  black smoke, which is why I use that as a synesthetic.
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  Metaphor within. This particular hypnosis
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  session, some of those references might not be right
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  for you, that might not be how trauma feels to you, and you
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  might not be a father. In which case, disregard any
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  suggestions that aren't quite right for you.
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  But if you do like the idea of working with me directly so that
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  I can do a bespoke session. For your specific.
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  Situation, circumstances. Then there will be a link in the
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  show notes where you can schedule that free consultation
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  call and we can have a chat. For now though, you might get
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  some value from this session even though it was created for
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  someone else so. Find.
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  A quiet, comfortable place where you won't be.
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  Disturbed. Relax and I'm not going to say
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  enjoy the session, but. See if you can.
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  Take some value from this session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in, breathe in a feeling
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  of calm relaxation and as you exhale, feel a feeling of
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  release. As your eyelids get heavier,
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  just notice your neck, your shoulders, and your chest
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  relaxing. And that relaxation means you
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  can breathe in for longer. And as you exhale, you're able
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  to elongate the outward breath so that the outward breath lasts
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  for longer than it normally would, each breath taking you
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  deeper and deeper, relaxed. And I want you to scan your body
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  for any clues of tension or something else, perhaps
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  something that's been bottled up for a long time.
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  And I want you to feel that you're breathing in a sense of
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  emotional healing. Perhaps you could imagine a
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  bright white light and breathe in that emotional healing.
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  But as you exhale, I want you to imagine thick dark smoke leaving
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  your body in your outward breath, breathing in and
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  healing, feeling and exhaling any toxic emotions that have
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  been building up perhaps since childhood.
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  That's it. Breathing in and breathing out.
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  And I want you to get a sense that with each breath, you're
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  feeling lighter, you're feeling calmer, and as you exhale, see
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  more of that thick black smoke. But the deeper you breathe and
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  the longer you breathe out, the less of that dark smoke exists,
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  proving to you that what was trapped and suppressed.
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  And lodged inside. Is now being released and as you
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  breathe in and breathe out, allow your body to sink a little
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  deeper and with every outward breath, imagine releasing a bit
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  more tension and a bit more of that grey or dark smoke.
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  Notice your body gets lighter as you release a little bit more of
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  that weight, that psychological and emotional weight that you no
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  longer need to carry. And your eyelids may grow
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  heavier where your body may begin to feel lighter.
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  And with each breath, you can notice yourself drifting deeper
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  into a place of calm and safety. In a few moments.
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  I'll countdown from 12:50 and with each number you'll find
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  yourself sinking into a deeper, more comfortable level of
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  relaxation, continuing to breathe in and healing emotion
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  of white light and exhaling anything that your body wants to
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  release. So 10 feeling your body loosen,
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  9 breathing slowing naturally, 8 drifting deeper and deeper into
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  comfort, and seven, as your thoughts quieten, and six a
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  sense of calm spreading. 5 halfway there, feeling safe. 4
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  deeper still. 3 allowing, trusting, accepting. 2 drifting
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  deeper now, and 1 deeply relaxed.
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  And I want you to imagine floating all the way back to a
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  childhood home. Not.
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  As you were, but as you are now, with all of your knowledge and
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  wisdom, your physical size and strength.
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  And I want you to go back to a moment.
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  A moment, perhaps, where your father was roughly playing with
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  you as a child. Except it wasn't play.
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  It was about dominating control, even under the guise of
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  toughening you up. But I want you to see.
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  See it as it really is. Not from the eyes of a child,
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  but from the eyes of where you are now.
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  And I want you to see. See something that feels wrong
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  and unfair. And I want you to.
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  Feel that? Urge to protect that younger
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  version of you because that younger version of you was being
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  aggressively and unfairly treated by the very person that
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  was meant to protect. And I want you to feel, feel
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  like you are taking years of injustice, years of feeling
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  vulnerable, feeling scared. And I want you to imagine
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  condensing all of this into a ball of energy, a glowing ball
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  of energy that any anger, unfairness, injustice, I want
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  you to feel that you are creating a powerful ball.
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  And then I want you to aim that ball at your father and fire it
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  at him, and he can feel that energy.
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  And then I want you to see a startled, surprised face.
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  And you ask the question, do you want to play fight with this
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  child? And he says yes, but given that
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  you and the child are the same person, it is only fair that you
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  take their place. So now see the child sat nearby
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  and you will play fight with your father.
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  But now it feels like a fair fight, and I want you to give
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  your father a taste of his own medicine, the very things that
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  you experienced as a child. I want you to feel that you have
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  unleashed all of that pent up emotion from your past to now
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  deploy in this time. The difference is that you only
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  need to do this once because this is a lesson in karmic
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  empathy. To be on the receiving end of
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  something that he was dishing out means ideas and realities
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  collide. So imagine that now instead of
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  being vulnerable, you are strong.
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  Instead of being dominated, you are domineering.
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  And I want you to do the things just enough until you feel that
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  they have learned a lesson. When you feel.
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  That they have learned that lesson.
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  Let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And then ask them, are they
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  going to continue? Are they going to continue from
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  this point forwards to do something unfair, unjust to a
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  vulnerable child? And if they say yes, they need
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  to learn the lesson again. And if they say no, you warn
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  them that it's fine so long as they don't, and then tell them.
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  Tell them that. Instead of dishing out
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  criticism, it would be more beneficial to dish out
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  encouragement. Instead of making someone feel
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  afraid, why not make their own child feel courageous and
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  confident? That rather than giving them
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  attention that makes them feel weak, ashamed, or in pain, why
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  not give them the attention of empathy, understanding, genuine
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  interest and encouragement? And you realize the very request
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  you're giving your father are also useful for you.
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  You don't need a book or an expert to tell you how to be
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  your father. You realize how you would have
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  wanted to have been raised is exactly the blueprint for you to
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  do that for your own children. I want you to imagine leaving
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  this place, but first having a conversation with your mother,
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  saying what you were never able to say as a child but would have
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  wanted to. And I want you to feel that you
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  are wiping the slate clean with your past.
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  You can't change the past, but you can change the meaning you
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  give it. And what if your past didn't
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  break you? What if your past gave you
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  access to a new level of resilience and empathy and a
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  capacity to love because of what you experienced?
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  It should never have happened, but it did.
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  But what if that makes you more powerful than ever?
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  And then try and breathe out any more of that thick black smoke.
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  And if it feels like you have emptied that now that there is
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  just no more remaining, you know, by nodding your head.
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  And you can continue to breathe in that healing white light and
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  exhale that thick black smoke, knowing that this smoke
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  represents the past, that you've endured your own struggles of
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  childhood, moments where you felt small, unseen or unworthy,
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  or just fearful. And maybe that smoke was to
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  suppress memories or numb the pain.
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  Maybe it was a way your body stored emotions too heavy to
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  process back then. But now you no longer need to
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  carry it. So continue to breathe in and
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  fresh healing light. And as you breathe out, see that
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  any remnants of that black smoke leaving your body, with every
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  breath you exhale, the pain, the shame, any feelings of not
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  enough. And each breath releases more of
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  that smoke. And with every release you feel
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  lighter, freer, more capable of being the man and father you
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  want to be. And if you notice the smoke
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  thinning, getting lighter, not quite so dark, just let me know
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  by nodding your head. That's it.
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  And I want you to feel as though a wind of healing compassion is
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  carrying it far away, dissolving into nothingness so that all
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  remains is clarity, strength, and peace.
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  That's it. And as that smoke clears, you
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  notice something powerful. Your past did not break you, it
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  forged you. The struggles you've endured
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  have given you resilience, strength, and empathy, qualities
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  that make you not just a good father, but a better father
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  because you know what pain feels like and you are more committed
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  to giving your children love, safety and presence.
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  Your past is not a chain that holds you back, it is a fire
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  that shaped the steel of who you are today.
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  And you are strong because from this moment forward, you will
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  develop a belief that being a father is not about doing more,
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  achieving more, or proving yourself or doing it right.
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  It's about being being present, being attentive, being loving
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  and being mindful. Your children don't need a
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  perfect father. They need you.
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  And the greatest gift you can give them is your time, your
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  love and your presence. It's time to leave your past.
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  But as you leave your past, I want you to hug that young
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  version of you. Tell them they are strong, they
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  are worthy. Tell them they will do
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  incredible things and one day there will be an excellent
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  father. And as you hug them and say
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  goodbye, tell them that you will be a guardian Angel to that
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  child, protecting them if they need it.
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  All they have to do is call. And I want you to feel how good
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  it would feel to have experienced that in your past
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  and connect that past with your future.
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  And now I want you to imagine your future over the next few
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  days, weeks and months. And imagine spending time with
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  your children. Picture yourself fully there.
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  No distractions, no worries about what you should be doing.
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  Just being with them, listening, laughing, and noticing the
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  little things that matter most. And in that presence you realize
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  this is enough and you are enough.
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  And then I want you to imagine yourself.
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  Perhaps a year. Or two from now.
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  And I want you to see the impact, the impact of seeing
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  yourself as a father who has released the old pain and
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  embrace the gift of being present.
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  See the joy on your children's faces and feel the connection
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  growing stronger. And notice how your.
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  Resilience and empathy guide you to be the father they need, and
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  every day you carry the truth that your past makes you
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  stronger and your presence makes you the father you always wanted
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  to be. Just allow your body to
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  reconnect with this idea. You are a good father, a good
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  person. You have good intentions, and
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  that's enough. Get a sense that those old heavy
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  feelings, that thick black smoke has left your body now and been
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  replaced with a wonderful feeling of presence.
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  The presence to give attention, to listen and notice, to have
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  real conversations and real connections.
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  It's time to leave this past and the future.
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  But feeling that the past gave you wisdom, gave you empathy,
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  gave you strength. You can learn from the past, but
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  you don't need to live there. And you are not defined by it.
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  Take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose as you feel that you're recalibrating with the here and
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  now, all parts and sensations returning back to your arms,
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  legs, in this moment as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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  awaken you. You will awaken feeling like a
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  weight has been lifted from your shoulders, a childhood injustice
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  is now cleared, and you will have unleashed a new level of
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  presence and connection for those that you love the most.
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  Starting to count 123 Waking up 456.
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  More alert 7-8 Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910.
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  Wide awake, Wide awake. Wide awake.
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