Kill the Victim
When we become defined by the experiences that overwhelmed us, we become defined as victims. And victims make the worst oppressors.
It is the victim that imposes obligations on one who had nothing to do with their past experiences. Victims need others to create space, be sensitive, tip toe around their triggers, reassure repeatedly, and so on without realising how onerous that becomes for those around them.
Worse still is the fact that when we’re in constant need of such assurance and validation, etc., we are unlikely to be offering the same in return for others. Worse than even this, our…
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