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Clear Space for Joy · Building the Best You

• 0:00
  Speaker 1: I think that traditional wellness the way that I learned about it was sort of like movement, nutrition, you know, sleep, and those are things that are all so fundamentally important to wellness.
• 0:11
  Speaker 1: I truly believe.
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: But when I work with people and when I think about my own wellness, I think mind, body, heart and how can you connect those things and really focus on wellness from within?
• 0:23
  Speaker 1: And those other things, like what we eat and how we sleep and how we move, are almost secondary to what you think in your mind and what you're telling yourself.
• 0:33
  Speaker 1: So there's a lot of what I consider holistic wellness to be internal and to be focusing on that inner wellness journey and the self-talk and the belief system and feeling our feelings and all of that.
• 0:48
  Speaker 1: So I think there's you know it's all pieces of the pie, if you will.
• 0:55
  Speaker 2: Welcome to the House of Germar podcast where wellness starts within.
• 0:59
  Speaker 2: The House of Germar is a lifestyle brand, empowering women to live all in through interior design and personal wellness.
• 1:07
  Speaker 2: We are a destination for women ready to reimagine what is possible in their homes and lives and then create it.
• 1:15
  Speaker 2: We are honored to have you join us on our mission to empower one million women to live all in.
• 1:20
  Speaker 2: I am your host, Jean Collins, and I invite you to become inspired by this week's guest.
• 1:26
  Speaker 2: Welcome to the House of Jormar podcast where wellness starts within.
• 1:32
  Speaker 2: I'm your host, Jean Collins, and today we are going to talk about joy.
• 1:37
  Speaker 2: I love this subject.
• 1:38
  Speaker 2: We have Julie Vincent on the show.
• 1:40
  Speaker 2: She's a mindset and wellness coach and she has a website that's called Clear Space for Joy everybody, and I am so excited to have her on the show.
• 1:48
  Speaker 2: So, Julie, welcome to the House of Germar podcast.
• 1:50
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much for having me.
• 1:52
  Speaker 2: I am so excited to share.
• 1:54
  Speaker 2: Your journey is so inspiring and your story and what you do.
• 1:58
  Speaker 2: And I love to share with people how I know my guests, because some of my guests I've met before and you and I connected at an event that I went to.
• 2:06
  Speaker 2: It was a business socialista event.
• 2:08
  Speaker 2: It was a Shark Tank event and I personally am not the kind of person who loves going to an event where there are 200 people that I don't know, but I made myself go because I thought, you know there are entrepreneurs there I might meet someone.
• 2:19
  Speaker 2: So I went with the goal of meeting one person one new person and you are my one new person and we were sitting next to each other and they made us do an exercise of talking to the person next to us, which I always hate.
• 2:32
  Speaker 2: But I was so happy that I did because we have this huge connection about mindset and our business goals are so similar.
• 2:39
  Speaker 2: So I was so happy that we met and we have since met and talked about many things.
• 2:43
  Speaker 2: So I am just so excited that you're willing to spend some time to be on the show.
• 2:46
  Speaker 2: So thank you, Thank you.
• 2:48
  Speaker 1: Oh, it's such a pleasure and I'm so glad you met in that way.
• 2:51
  Speaker 1: I feel like it was really special.
• 2:52
  Speaker 1: We had to do a visualization exercise and share kind of very personally what we wanted to visualize in our future, and we had a really awesome connection immediately through that conversation.
• 3:05
  Speaker 1: We kind of both wanted to be similar.
• 3:06
  Speaker 1: Thanks.
• 3:08
  Speaker 2: We did.
• 3:09
  Speaker 2: It was very cool and also for the people that are seeing this.
• 3:12
  Speaker 2: Just so you know, julie's got this crazy cool thing going on on her iPad where her it's following her, so she's going to zoom in and out and, just so you know, she's meant to do that.
• 3:22
  Speaker 2: That's how this is going to roll today, because you know what this is real life, everybody.
• 3:26
  Speaker 2: Technology doesn't always work with us.
• 3:28
  Speaker 2: Your story, your career, how you got into wellness and mindset, I think is so interesting, so would you mind sharing with the guests your background and how did you get to where you are today?
• 3:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I wish I could tell you that there's some sort of path that I could you know, share about how I made it to where I am.
• 3:48
  Speaker 1: But it's one of those things where you can look backwards and connect the dots, but forwards there would be no way to do it.
• 3:59
  Speaker 1: But I wasn't feeling that well in my early 20s.
• 4:03
  Speaker 1: You know, I had gone to college, graduated and had a degree in public relations but wasn't quite sure how to go about making that into a career and I was a little bit all over the place with what I wanted to do with my life and I ended up going into PR and marketing, made a big move out to California with some friends, which was a wonderful place to live.
• 4:27
  Speaker 1: I'm really inspired me down some of the paths that I now live in the wellness world.
• 4:34
  Speaker 1: I think really it came down to the fact that I was working super hard.
• 4:39
  Speaker 1: I had grown up with the belief system that you know success equals, you know money and and you know, really feeling like you've made it as far as you can in your career.
• 4:50
  Speaker 1: And I did that and got to a certain place and really just wasn't feeling great, I think, in my body and in my mind, and so I really took the time outside of my work to, you know, try to get into a better place of feeling well, and I went on a journey through, you know, practicing yoga.
• 5:10
  Speaker 1: It was something at the time that was new to me over 20 years ago, living in California and going to some of those amazing yoga studios and meeting people that taught me that kind of way of life and that really helped me to deal with some of the stresses and the anxiety that I was having in my mind through my career.
• 5:32
  Speaker 1: And I think over time I ended up moving to New York City with my now husband and was still working you know, insane hours and trying to, you know, go up the corporate ladder, but decided that there was something I could do with yoga.
• 5:50
  Speaker 1: So I took a yoga teacher training in New York City and that was sort of where the biggest shift came in my career, where it wasn't, you know, after the three month period it wasn't like, oh, I definitely just want to be a yoga teacher, but I knew that I wanted to do something in the wellness world and that had completely opened my mind to spirituality.
• 6:11
  Speaker 1: And you know how can I potentially leverage my experience or my education with this new world.
• 6:19
  Speaker 1: That made me feel well, you know.
• 6:22
  Speaker 1: So I took a turn and really built a wellness career in the corporate world and started doing corporate wellness for a big global consulting firm and I built a wellness program from the ground up and that was really exciting.
• 6:37
  Speaker 1: But still I was in corporate America and working for someone else.
• 6:46
  Speaker 1: And so, long story short, I ended up having my first child, my son, and realized that not only were we going to move outside the city, into the suburbs of Connecticut, but that I also wanted to transition out of corporate America and I took a little time to spend with him and be a stay-at-home mom, and I loved that and I hated it at the same time, and I knew that I wanted to do something else besides just being a mom.
• 7:12
  Speaker 1: But I wanted the flexibility of being a mom and being there for all those special moments, right?
• 7:17
  Speaker 1: So I decided to start my own business, and that's when I went back to school.
• 7:22
  Speaker 1: I went to the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and studied holistic wellness and nutrition and I graduated the day before my daughter was born.
• 7:33
  Speaker 1: So that's how I really got into wellness in general.
• 7:37
  Speaker 1: And then the mindset piece of it really has more to do with my own personal journey and challenges.
• 7:43
  Speaker 1: More to do with my own personal journey and challenges, which you know were everything from a traumatic birth with my daughter, things going on inside my family of origin and also a hip replacement that I had to get at 41 years old, and all of those things sort of added up to really, really big challenges in my life that forced some surrender and, you know, really gave me the gift of presence and understanding what I needed for my mind, body and heart.
• 8:14
  Speaker 1: And I think now I have come to a conclusion that there's, you know, certain things in my life that are, you know, non-negotiables and those are my secrets to wellness and I want to share that with others.
• 8:28
  Speaker 1: So that's where the mindset piece comes in.
• 8:31
  Speaker 2: Which I love.
• 8:32
  Speaker 2: I always feel like people's experience adds so much and you learn so much.
• 8:38
  Speaker 2: And you know, when I learned about you and went to your website and I was like this woman had a hip replacement at 41.
• 8:44
  Speaker 2: Are you kidding?
• 8:45
  Speaker 2: And I know you had challenges with your daughter and I just looked at all of that and I was like to me that's like stress, stress, stress, stress, stress.
• 8:53
  Speaker 2: Right, little people, little babies and having to have a hip replacement and trying to have a career and trying to have all of this.
• 9:01
  Speaker 2: I was like this is just stress.
• 9:03
  Speaker 2: And when I met you, it was so interesting because and you just used this word surrender.
• 9:08
  Speaker 2: And so talk to me about the word surrender, because it was you used it when I met with you and I was like that's such a powerful word that I don't think we normally talk about.
• 9:21
  Speaker 2: So talk about surrender and how did you get to that point and what does that mean for you?
• 9:27
  Speaker 1: Oh, it's giving me the chills thinking about it.
• 9:29
  Speaker 1: I think that memories come up when I think of the word surrender.
• 9:33
  Speaker 1: Right, traumas come up when I think of the word surrender.
• 9:36
  Speaker 1: I think, for me personally, it was, you know, these really big challenges that forced me to feel all the feelings that maybe I'd been shoving down for a while, or to question some of my beliefs that I was raised with or that society had led me to believe, and I think that surrender, for me, meant like a big questioning of like, all right, it's an unraveling, it's an unlearning, you know, and I think that that's what happened, in particular, with my hip replacement.
• 10:11
  Speaker 1: I was forced to literally sideline myself on my couch for weeks on end and the world was swirling around me.
• 10:19
  Speaker 1: It was this time, actually, a little over two years ago, and it was holidays and the shopping and the hustle and the bustle and all the social events and things were all happening, and I was sitting on my couch recovering, and I literally could hardly move Right, and so I was forced to surrender and have people take care of my kids, have people shop for my gifts, have people, you know, do everything for me, make food, you know, and that was like a universe saying you need to stop.
• 10:50
  Speaker 1: You have to stop, and I'm going to force you to think about what truly matters.
• 10:56
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 10:56
  Speaker 1: You know, and I think that that shifted so much, sheree, was a complete life changing event.
• 11:01
  Speaker 1: It was a difficult thing to do because I was forced to feel all the feelings and to have, you know, all that bubble up to the surface.
• 11:10
  Speaker 1: But the blessing in that was that I was able to skim away the things that didn't feel necessary, you know, and I was able to say yes to the things that were a heck yes and no to the things that just didn't feel good anymore.
• 11:25
  Speaker 2: Right and you were able to build a completely different life for yourself and a different career for yourself as well, and my family yeah.
• 11:32
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, and you do have a lot of balance, because I follow you on Instagram and I'm going to post that at the end for everybody, and you do.
• 11:39
  Speaker 2: I mean, you have kids, you're a mom.
• 11:41
  Speaker 2: You're a mom, you're doing all the mom things, but you're also doing all the small business owner things as well and getting yourself out there and having to network and coaching and you're busy.
• 11:53
  Speaker 2: There's a lot going on, but I do notice you also post about going for a walk and the importance of that balance and wellness for yourself.
• 12:02
  Speaker 2: So you're really living that life.
• 12:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that that's like foundational to the way that I live now and that is, I think, fortunate enough I learned through my hip replacement, like the importance of the body and having appreciation for the body and all that it's giving you and taking care of it.
• 12:22
  Speaker 1: I mean, before my hip replacement, I had, you know, incredible pain and my body was screaming to stop and I was pushing through and pushing through and sort of like you know, just saying I don't have time for this, right, right, right.
• 12:37
  Speaker 1: But at some point it's going to get so bad that you have to stop and say you know, and so hopefully nobody that's listening to this has to get to that level of pain, right, but when we get these whispers of feelings in our body like, what is that telling you?
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: Maybe it's whispering go for a walk.
• 12:55
  Speaker 1: Maybe it's whispering, do 20 minutes of yoga.
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: Maybe it's whispering, take a break and do nothing.
• 13:00
  Speaker 1: You know, and so those are the things that I try to live on a daily basis.
• 13:53
  Speaker 2: Oh, holistic wellness.
• 13:55
  Speaker 2: Can we talk about that for a minute, because you mentioned holistic wellness.
• 13:59
  Speaker 2: It's in your bio, it's on your website.
• 14:01
  Speaker 2: So what does holistic wellness look like in your life and for the people that you coach?
• 14:19
  Speaker 1: way that I learned about it was sort of like movement, nutrition, you know, sleep, and those are things that are all so fundamentally important to wellness.
• 14:23
  Speaker 1: I truly believe.
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: But when I work with people and when I think about my own wellness, I think mind, body, heart, and how can you connect those things and really focus on wellness from within?
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: And those other things, like what we eat and how we sleep and how we move, are almost secondary to what you think in your mind and what you're telling yourself.
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: So there's a lot of what I consider holistic wellness to be internal and to be focusing on that inner wellness journey and the self-talk and the belief system and feeling our feelings and all of that.
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: So I think there's you know, it's all pieces of the pie, as if you will, and it shifts and it's not something that is stagnant, it's dynamic and it will always be changing, based off of what is happening in your life, and that's another way to think about it too.
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: Right, it's not a destination.
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: No.
• 15:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and what's so interesting is when we first met, I was like, oh, I have this company.
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: It's called House of Germar.
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: Wellness starts within.
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: You know, it's within yourself, within your environment.
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: You're like, oh my goodness, that's like the tagline on my website too, Like it all starts within.
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: I was like, yes, you are like my soul person.
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: Yes, it really it really does.
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: And getting people to recognize you can eat healthy and you can exercise like crazy, but if you don't take care of the inner work and and I love how you include heart in that conversation, because you know, a lot of times we're mind, body, spirit and I talk about mind, body spirit all the time, but you include heart, which is interesting how did you start to include heart into that narrative?
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: Well, I think love is the foundation for wellness, right and joy.
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: If you know anything about what I do and I think that that comes from the heart, you know.
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: So I think it's a big piece of the pie.
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: If we don't involve our heart in the conversation about wellness, then what are we like?
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: What does that relate?
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: Right, it's not connected to anything.
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: It's not connected to what makes you feel good.
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: It's probably something external, like what you've been told or you know what you've learned over time or you know had access to.
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: So I think you know including the heart in the conversation is so important because if we just only you know use our, so I think you know including the heart in the conversation is so important because if we just only you know use our minds and think, think, think or only think about our body, then we're really not connected to what matters to us and that's foundational for our happiness, right?
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: Sure?
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: And I love that you use the word joy.
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: So let's talk about your business name, right, and your website, clear Space for Joy, and I love the word joy because I think it's to me personally.
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: People talk about happiness and I always talk about like happiness shouldn't be your goal, right, because I always feel like I talk about inner peace and that that, to me, is a more purposeful goal to have inner peace, because life is not always going to be happy.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: I mean, stuff happens.
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: This is life, and so you can be living your best life and still have trauma and tragedy and bad days and troubles, and it's all about how are you, which I absolutely love.
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: So how did you come up with what your business is going to be about, your business name, your business mission, your vision?
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: How did that come to life for you?
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: So previously my business name was Hearth Wellness and that's when I started out.
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: It was all about Hearth being the center of the home and me working with moms to help them really focus on their wellness and over time, I think, given all the things that happened in my life that we discussed, I just sort of grew it to be beyond just moms and also to think about, you know, this key ingredient that I had discovered through my own personal wellness story, which is joy.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: And I, you know, like I said, laying on the couch, like how can I feel good in this moment?
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: And that's kind of what I was thinking about, right, and I was realizing, as I was watching my family running circles around me, you know, with kids who were, let's see, five and seven at the time, that they were making me laugh, you know, they would dance, they would sing, they would, you know, do silly things, and that was making me feel better and that was making me feel good.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: And I think, you know, joy is just something that we can drip into our daily lives.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: Happiness is more of a destination, you know, and it's really something that is unattainable in a way, right, if you think about it.
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: it's something that feels so far reaching, like, oh, happiness, if I only get this one thing, or if I get this job, or if I get this much money, then I will be happy.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: But the truth is, is that with that will come other challenges, you know.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: And so, like you said, challenges will always exist, but joy is the secret ingredient to really getting through those times Right.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: So, especially in the challenges, but you know, even on the normal days, just dripping little joys in and making sure that your movement and your food and you know what you do with your day makes you feel good, is important.
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: Yes, and being present and paying attention to what you're doing and what's going on.
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: I think you talk about that too.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I have a lot of mindfulness that I do through my classes and also my coaching.
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: Yes, so let's talk about your two kids.
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: How old are they now?
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: Seven and nine, okay.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: So how do you transfer this down to them, this wisdom to them at that age?
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: Because I think it's really important that the things that we're doing, we can impact our children and the next generation.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: So how do you do that?
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: That's a great question.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: I think it's fundamental to my parenting.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: I think I've been able to control the way that I act with them through my own personal mindfulness and presence and it's sort of setting the stage for them through that behavior.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: But also it's simple things Like we do a lot of breath work.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: You do when my kids are having a little temper tantrum or feeling overwhelmed or anxious, we do breath work.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: You do.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I simplify it, you know.
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: I'll just be like belly breaths or a box breath or something that they can, you know, imagine in their mind's eye.
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: We do a lot of breath work and it's like fundamental to getting them to calm down their nervous systems.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: And I do talk about it with them and tell them this is what mommy does and you know this is how I'm going to help you with it, and I think that you know they're sort of like what, but then when it works, you know they believe and they keep it in their back pocket as a tool in their toolbox.
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: Oh, I love that Teaching them young.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: And also we do a lot of dance parties.
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: We love dancing in our family, and that is a really simple way to shift your mind.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: You know, when we're at the even, at the dinner table and, like you know, this discussion is stagnant or someone's feeling like they don't want to eat something that's on their plate, like we allow for them to get up and dance and we'll put a good record on and it really shifts the mood, will put a good record on and it really shifts the mood.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: So little things like that, right that it's not necessarily where I'm sitting down and teaching them to meditate.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: In the corner right, I'm helping them live their life and get through the challenges with little drips of joy and some of my mindfulness practices.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: I love that, the concept of teaching your kids how to breathe, love that, the concept of teaching your kids how to breathe, like I'm 50.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: Oh, my goodness, 54 now and I just like really learned about belly breathing at 54.
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: And I feel like where have I been all my life?
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: I haven't been breathing right and haven't seen the power of that, and I find it so eyeopening.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: So I love that you're teaching your kids that at such a young age.
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and the power of the pause like these are things that if we had learned, like you said, when we were little, like we would be different people.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: You know, my nervous system wouldn't have been so ragged for so many years and, like I said, it really helps with the challenges.
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: So, whether it's like they have a test that they're scared about, or you know something with a new friend and they're nervous to say something, whatever it is, that happens in elementary school, or you know in later years that they can use these things and have them in their back pocket and as they get older their friends are going to start to learn them too from them, which, you'll see, is really cool.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: That part I saw with my daughter and it was so cool to see.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: That's cool.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: That is.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: It's very cool.
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: So talk to us about how you help your clients, Like, what are the different?
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: Because you do a lot of things.
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: So what are some of the things that you do to help your clients and why do people come to you?
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so I work in many different ways with clients, Everything from one-to-one clarity coaching, which is like a personalized custom, you know program based off of where you are and what you're looking to feel and how you want to grow.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: Two small groups and I do something called the Mindful Book Club, which is basically taking my love of reading and helping to share that with the world and you can read or listen that with the world.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: And you can read or listen and we focus on, you know, those books that you maybe want to read yourself for personal development but you really never talk about with anyone or you put it back on your shelf.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: So this is the opportunity to work with me for six to eight weeks in a small group setting with like-hearted people and get to talk about the things that you're reading and bring the words to life.
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: I have another small group that I work with my business partner, Breanne Cutler, and she's a like and success coach and intuitive, and we have something called Joyful Alignment.
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: She's Be Aligned and I'm Clear Space for Joy.
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: So we combine those things together to rebrand into a side business where we work with women to help them feel aligned and live in the flow of life and we do everything from the things that I talk about, so nervous system regulation, mindset, work, nourishment and mindful movement.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: Plus, she adds the human design element.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: So there's a piece of that which is really cool.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: She's a human design expert.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: And then's a piece of that which is really cool, she's a human design expert.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: And then I do a lot of different events.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: So I'm, you know, a speaker at events.
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: I host my own events, potentially going to be doing a retreat in 2025.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: And yeah, which will be really cool.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so those are the main ways to work with me.
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: Which I love, and I want to join your book club for January, because I can't remember what book you're reading, but what book are you doing for January?
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: Well, I just decided to do two books.
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: Oh really, wow, what two.
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: So I'm going to have two different groups.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: So I'm going to do a new book called Mind Magic, which is by Dr James Doty, and he's a neuroscientist who explains the power of manifestation in a scientific way and then also gives you some really cool tips on how to make it more practical in your life and really practice manifesting in a different way than maybe you would have seen through, like a Gabby Bernstein or something like that.
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: So that'll be really cool and well-timed, I think, for the new year.
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: And then I decided to repeat one of the books that I did last year that was really powerful and that I personally use the teachings from the book in my own light.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: It's called Worthy by Jamie Kern Lima.
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: Yes, and it was a smaller book club last year and I know a lot of people have wanted to read it and just couldn't make that time.
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: So we're going to do it again and I'm going to repeat.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: So I'll have two different book clubs running from January to March.
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: Yes, I know, that's actually the reason why I decided to read the book was.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: I heard him on Mel Robbins' podcast and I was like this guy is just so fascinating.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: And I thought it was so amazing to have the different perspective on manifestation where you're bringing in the science part.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: I agree skeptical about the power of manifestation, and this really he does prove that our brain works in a way to manifest based off of the way we think and what we do on a daily basis.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I thought it was fascinating and he was so vulnerable on it too.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: Folks, if you haven't watched, it.
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: He is in his book as well, is he Okay?
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: So if you haven't watched it, you got to go watch it.
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: On Mel Robbins, because he's like in tears on her show.
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: He's so vulnerable and raw and so you can like really connect with him, which is amazing.
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: So I love to ask people who are in the coaching space what do you do for yourself, for continual learning, because there's I feel like there's so much to learn, and how do you decide what you're going to learn next and do you also have a coach?
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: So my coach is really one of my best friends, brianne oh.
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: I love that.
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: Who is?
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: also my business partner.
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: Yes, because she is a life success coach and intuitive.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: So it turns out that we, you know, became friends and started this sort of like when we needed it coach each other, yes which is really really cool and a unique way to start a friendship and it's created this like really deep connection.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: So it's sometimes you have to see, like you know, I don't want to be coached right now, I just want to tell you this or do you have time to coach me for a few minutes, because I really need it.
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: You know it's sort of like you have to put like a disclaimer at the beginning of the conversation.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: So I would say she's my coach, but in the past I've also I worked with several different people for various different things, you know, to focus on public speaking or to grow my business and, you know, expand my brand.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: So I definitely look to coaches for specific situations and projects in my life, yeah, and I think it's important.
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: It's part of how we grow.
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: But as far as continuing education goes I think you know taking classes, workshops I sort of look for opportunities and invitations to things that just make my intuition go off and say, oh, that feels right for me.
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: So I'm not necessarily searching for continuing education, but when things come by and I can feel it in my body, I'm like that's a yes, and then I'll just do it.
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: Right, well, and you talk about the yeses and the noes and the non-negotiables in your life and I think that's so important that we have those, especially as working moms, because there's so much to do, and having those boundaries and tapping into your own intuition, I think is so powerful and I love that you're teaching your clients how to do that and how to tap into that intuition and and how to lead by example with boundaries, because boundaries are important.
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, boundaries are important.
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: We actually just finished reading Stop People Pleasing and Mindful Book Club, and that was one that I think you know a lot of people were afraid to read, if I'm being honest.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: The club is a little smaller and I think it's because people don't necessarily want to admit that we have problems holding boundaries, but it's true, I definitely confess up to it.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: You know, I would say a recovering people pleaser, but I still do it, you know, every now and again, and that book was really helpful in helping, you know, really increase awareness of that.
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: But I think my main awareness of that came through therapy and really kind of working through my own things that were happening in my life where I felt overwhelmed and kind of like, you know, sometimes like I just couldn't stop doing things and I didn't know why.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: And it's because I was telling myself for some reason that, you know, it was important to always be busy and to be a perfectionist and to, you know, and these are beliefs that I had to work through and I think, now that I'm aware of them and rejecting those beliefs and moving forward with new ones that are connected to my mind, body and heart, then I can hold the boundaries a lot easier, you know.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: But I had to do that work to get to that point and I had to clear states for joy as I say, right.
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: So there is some therapy work in what I do, you know, and I take that from my own personal experience and things that I've learned through my coaching and education.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: Which are powerful tools.
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: It doesn't just happen overnight.
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: We have to unlearn.
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: I love that you said you're recovering.
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: You have to unlearn the behaviors, a lot of unlearning.
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: Right, exactly, we have to unlearn the behaviors that we've had for so long and we don't realize how natural and innate they are.
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: So unlearning them is important.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's where you find, you know, that alignment, feeling, which is like I'm living.
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: You know the way that I want to live.
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: I'm living in the flow and I'm not forcing.
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: Yes, right, and you've cleared space.
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: I love clear space.
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: Just as so I love your business name and your website because it's just so open and freeing and it feels like you've opened your heart.
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: You've opened your life to bring in what you want to attract and manifest into your life and how you want to design and build your life.
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: So I think it's so beautifully done.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: Thank you, and I love that you use the word design, because I really do feel like we are the architects.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: Right, we are we need to design our days and you know I do try to break it down to like daily work, small daily rituals, and how can you design your day and, you know, drip in the joy, because if we don't design it then we will be on autopilot you know, of course right, we'll become robots.
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: Especially as parents and you know entrepreneurs and people that work.
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: It's so hard to not live on autopilot, right you?
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: Know, because we have a lot to get done.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: So we really do need to wake up in a mindful way and say this is how I want today to run.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: It doesn't mean it's going to go that way, but you know like, have the intention, yes For it.
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: And to mindfully say like these are the three things I want to get done today, and here's how.
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: I want to feel today yes, so important how you start your day and your morning routine.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: What's your morning routine like?
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: Oh, so I wake up at six which isn't super early, but it is before my kids and I immediately take my noise canceleling headphones that are on my bed stand, pop them on my ears and do a meditation or two.
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: So I take about 20 minutes and that meditation is guided and it depends on how I feel that day, what I have going on that day, and I'll choose from my favorites or maybe even try a new one, and I'll just kind of go into a Zen, you know time, where I listen to what I need to hear.
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: Then I have a you know gratitude practice in there too, and then I take my headphones off, I hang with my dog and let her give me some kisses and snuggles yeah, I would bed, and then, you know, kind of get ready and start the day with making lunches and all the things that I still do for my littles, you know.
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: When I get them out the door.
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: That's really my time between 8.30 and9, when I start my business day, to like mindfully have my coffee or tea, Don't do much.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: I just sit there and kind of think, and sometimes that's when I'll prioritize but or go for a little walk and just do something that makes me feel good before my day starts, to kind of you know flow to whatever I need to do.
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: Which is so important.
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: I love that you have a morning routine.
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: I think routine and rituals are so important it is and I feel like everyone I meet that's really into mindset and wellness has has a.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: We all have a routine and it might evolve and change and it definitely does.
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: As your kids change and get older and we get older, you know you have to sort of adjust and prioritize.
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: You know I used to never be able to start my routine until after my daughter was at school and then I would start.
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: And now that she's 18, I'm like, oh, I can start now.
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: You know, like life changes but having that routine and focusing in some capacity, even if it's just for a short period of time, if you're really rushed on gratitude and on your intentions, like you said, of the day, and spending time inward for yourself, I think is such an important lesson for people and just like the baby steps sometimes, I think is such an important lesson for people and just like the baby steps, sometimes people wonder like, what can I do to start?
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: And I think that's such a good baby step is starting a morning routine, like you mentioned.
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's such a good point that it will change and that what I'm doing is not for everyone.
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: You know there's people whose kids are sleeping in their bed and they maybe can't do that, although I did talk to someone yesterday and I was recommending the noise canceling headphones because I was like you can do that with them.
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: But yeah, and you know, maybe it is after they leave or if they're little you know young ones and they don't leave the house yet Like, how can you find some space?
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: And really thinking about that and I work with people I'm, like, you know, really breaking down the blocks that they have to like I don't have the time, I can't do it and really helping them think about, well, where is their space and or can you clear something out that you don't need?
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: Or, you know, maybe it's not necessarily first thing in the morning for you.
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: And you know what.
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: We can make the time for things that are priorities, and so it's all about your mindset, and is your inner wellness a priority?
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: Because if it is, you will make the time for it.
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: Those become non-negotiables in life.
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: They really do, which is so powerful.
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: So what's on your bucket list, like for you personally and for your business?
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: Where would you like to go?
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: I?
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: love that you said where would you like to go, because travel is like a big part of my life and my personal joy.
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: I think, professionally, I would love to do some sort of like international retreat Ooh, fun, because I'd love to go international.
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: I think, actually, my personal bucket list would be to live internationally for like a summer.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, to go live somewhere and immerse myself and maybe learn a new language and, and you know, somewhere and immerse myself and maybe learn a new language and really immerse myself into someone's culture and bring my kids along, perhaps, and live somewhere for like three months.
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: I think that could be really cool, very cool.
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: And then you know, yeah, I think just going internationally with a group of like-hearted women would be really cool and just you know the challenges associated with that and and really like focusing on what brings us joy, you know, through travel, as well as the mindfulness and the breath work and the meditation and the movement and all that Right, the food.
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: Love.
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: Yes, exactly, nutrition, so important.
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: All right, I love that.
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: Well, I follow you and we're connected, so I will definitely be interested in an international retreat.
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: I think it would be so much fun.
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: It would be.
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: I got to start here first, though.
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: I used to do retreats a long time ago and I'm going to try to bring it back.
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: I think it's something that could be really interesting.
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: I think it is.
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: You know, I think women in particular are craving and I can't speak for men because I'm not a man, but I think women in particular are craving connection with like-minded women that they don't necessarily know from work or they don't know from their children, and so I think there is a huge space for that, for people like yourself to be able to create events to bring like-minded women together that wouldn't necessarily meet each other in another way.
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's what I'm doing with my Mindful Bug Club, you know is like let's connect through a book, but really we're connecting about something that we care about and we wanna talk about things that are, you know, that matter, and it's not just our kids, it's generally not our kids at all, although parenting sneaks into the conversation, of course but I think it's nice to have, like, you know, we meet, we'll meet for like a walk and talk midway and then we meet at the end and we'll do a dinner and like and it's just so nice to have like something to do that feels mindful, that you know you're connecting with new people.
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: I definitely see people make new friends, which is really cool, yes, and I love that.
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: I love connecting people through like mindfulness.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: I think there's so much opportunity for aligned connections, you know, through these types of events, whether they be small things or bigger things, like a retreat, I agree.
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: I agree.
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: All right, so we're running out of time.
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: I always ask my guests to recommend a book.
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: You've already recommended two from your book club and actually three, because you talked about the book from before.
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: Is there another book that has impacted your life personally that you want to get in there, that you want to recommend?
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: I think the Four Agreements.
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: Oh, it's a good one.
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: I have a lot of guests say that.
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: The Four Agreements is something that I live by, and every time I feel a little bit off in an interaction with someone, whether it be personally or professionally, I go back to the four agreements and I remind myself am I living these and what can I let go of?
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: I'm sure someone's probably recommended that one before, but it's so good and it really is something that I live by.
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: It is so good.
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: You're right, it's been recommended multiple times.
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: But I think what's so powerful about that book is you can go back at any point in time.
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: Just like you said, you can go back and you reference book it is.
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: It's it's a nightside book, as someone said on my podcast, and you can go back and you can listen and learn and, depending what your challenges are where you are, you will receive a different message from that book depending on where you are at that time, and so it's a really powerful repeat.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: It is not a one and done, so that's a great one.
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much, so I will put everything in the show notes, but how can our guests find you?
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so you can find me on Instagram.
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: I am Julie, vincent is my handle, and then my website is wwwclearspaceforjoycom and you can email me, julie, at clearspaceforjoycom.
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: Love it.
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: I will put all those in the show notes.
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much for being a guest.
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: I really appreciate it.
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: I'm so excited to share with everybody your wisdom and your brilliance and your approach, and I'm so grateful that we got connected and look forward to doing more with you.
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: So thank you.
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: I hope you have a blessed day.
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: It was my pleasure.
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: Thanks so much for having me.
• 40:31
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• 40:37
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• 40:43
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• 40:48
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• 41:06
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• 41:15
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• 41:19
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