Latest / The Priestess Temple Podcast / Ep 24: Empowering Women: Receiving Support From Men
Transcript
- Embodied By Jenna: Hey goddess. Today I wanted to provide you with some very tangible and practical advice to help you receive more support from the men in your life. In today's patriarchal society, women have been taught that we need to do everything ourselves. Girl boss culture is running rampant, and you see more women Working outside of the home than ever before. And honestly, I think this is fucking amazing. I think women should have options and autonomy about how they want to live their own life. However, I also see this gender war going on on social media where men and women are being pit against one another. And that I am not for. Even though I have had a lot of trauma with men If you have listened to any of my previous podcast episodes, I have been in situationships. I have had abusive partners, and I have just experienced some less than pleasurable. encounters with men, but I have been doing some deep, deep work to heal my relationship to the masculine because as a woman who is single in her thirties, I deeply desire to be in partnership with men. And so after a lot of self-reflection and being more open to being in relationships with men over the past few months, I have received a lot of support from the men in my life. And I am talking about financial support, emotional support, and physical support in quantities and qualities that I have never experienced before. and in this healing, I have seen patterns in my interactions with men that have allowed me to receive the support that I have desired. And it has been life changing. Let me tell you, it has made my life so much fucking easier. First off. And second off, it has really helped me to heal these traumatic experiences that I have had with men throughout my life. Because, ladies, hear me out. Women are the natural born leaders. Patriarchy is unnatural. Matriarchy is the way. And so if we want to return to a state of matriarchy, which is the natural state of consciousness, with women being the leaders and men being the executives, well, then we need to step into that role and learn to lead in a way that inspires men to step up and provide you with the support that you desire. And so that is exactly what I'm going to talk about in this episode. I am going to give you a very practical and tangible example through telling a story about my life, about how I have been able to receive support from men. And then I am going to teach you exactly what I have been doing to relate with men differently and receive this support in abundance. Financially, physically, and emotionally. And so by the end of this episode, you are going to have some tips and tricks to try with the men in your life to have better relationships. And so, with all of that being said, let's get started. Now, if you have watched this podcast before. You might be wondering, well, Paradise, where the fuck are you? I've never seen this background before. Well, yes, because I am in a new room in my home that I have just finished constructing called the Thought Closet. Okay. So this thought closet has been a dream of mine. I am so into fashion and I have always wanted a room. Where I can walk in and see all of my things and get very glam. And so behind me, I have a shelf of shoes and bags on the wall. I have racks of my statement pieces. There's a little sofa in here to sit on and a beautiful Hollywood style vanity for me to get ready and do my makeup. This is my personal paradise. And I had dreamed up this idea. After being triggered when I saw someone else's walk-in closet on social media, I was so jealous. And then I realized, hey, wait, I can have that. I can truly have what I want. And so one of my best friends just moved out of my apartment to go live with her fiance. And I love that for her. I'm so happy for her. Her bedroom opened up, and I thought this is the Perfect opportunity for me to have this walk-in closet. And so I approached my other roommate, who is a man, and I told him about my grand vision for what I wanted this spare room to be. And he got so excited. He loved that for me. I told him all of the details of what I wanted for the space, and he agreed to help me execute it. And so after my roommate moved out, him and I have spent hours getting this thought closet together. He helped me pay for this vanity. He built the vanity by himself. He helped me hang up the hangers on the wall. He helped me install the lights on the shelves. Him and I are sharing the shelves and he's got his clothes in the closet. He ended up buying a rug for the space, and we worked so hard on this room together, and we were both so freaking proud of it. On Friday night, we ended up going out to a concert and we came home and just chilled in the room with our friends. We were so happy after spending hours of time and hundreds of dollars dreaming up. The layout for this thought closet and bringing it to life. We felt so inspired and cozy and just excited to host our friends in this room. what I want to say is that throughout this experience, I have learned a lot about myself. And I have learned a lot about how to receive support from the men in my life. Because I had an idea, and then I communicated my idea with the men in my life who then helped me execute upon the ideas that I had. And you see, this is the natural role of the woman as the leader and men as the executives. And so I wanted to teach you exactly what I did. to receive support from the men in my life as I was making a dream of mine come into fruition So the first thing I did, I got really fucking clear about what I wanted. I had this vision in my mind for this thought closet. I had thought out everything from the lights to the racks to the vanity. It was all something that I had pictured in my head. I was so clear on how I would feel when I would walk in here. And I was so clear on the aesthetic that I wanted for the room. So when you are dealing with a man and wanting to receive support from a man. You have to get absolutely motherfucking crystal clear on what the hell you want. Because you can have anything that you want. Exhibit A, me sitting inside of my beautiful closet with all of my shoes on display and these beautiful multicolor changing lights. But you have to know that you want that. So write it down. Get as clear as fucking possible. The more details, the better. Because you can have exactly what you want, but you have to know what you want first. The second thing, okay? I communicated to my male counterpart exactly what my vision was. You see, when I asked my roommate for help to make this closet come to life. I had the grand vision laid out. I told him exactly what I wanted. I ordered the vanity that I wanted. I ordered the lights that I wanted. I ordered the hangers that I wanted. I ordered the decorations that I wanted. And then he so graciously put the vanity together, helped me. Put the hangers on the wall. He installed the lights for me. He even got a matching rug to go with the aesthetic of the room. And so it's very helpful if you want to receive support from men in your life to ask for exactly what you want. As women. We have a more broad and generalized way of thinking. We can think about a lot of different things all at once. Men do really well with specific and pinpointed tasks. And so the more direct and focused you can be with the articulation of the thing that you want done, the better. Because if I just said, you know, I I could use some help, then it would be up to him to determine what he thought was appropriate for me instead of me communicating to him exactly what I wanted. And so you see, it's really important to be specific and then communicate with that specificity about your desires. The third thing, you have to be able to surrender into the support that they are offering you. Okay. Because ask and you shall receive, babe. You can get what the fuck you want, but then you have to be willing to allow someone else to step in and to fulfill the role that you are asking them to play. I know this was a big one for me, okay? In this late stage capitalistic patriarchal society, a lot of us ladies are taught that we need to do everything ourselves. That if you want something done right, that you should be the one executing it. and this boss babe culture is running rampant. I see so many women being like, well, I don't need a man. Okay. I get it, ladies. You can do all of this shit yourself, right? I could have constructed this thought closet myself, but goddamn, it would have been so much harder. It would have taken me so much more time, and it would have been very labor-intensive. But by asking for the support that I needed and then allowing. My best friend, who is an impeccable man, to fill in that purpose, he allowed me to soften into my feminine more. And I was able to receive his support with grace. Because hear me out. Men need purpose in their life. They want to feel useful, but not used. And so by allowing men to fulfill the role that you ask of them, you are doing them a service because they want to feel like the hero in your story, ladies. Okay. They feel really good when they see a completed project and know that it is a job well done. I know that completing this closet was a huge point of bonding for me and my roommate. It really increased the depth of intimacy in our relationship. Because he really fucking loves me and he wants to support me in the best way that he knows how. And so I have to sit back and I have to surrender to the discomfort of receiving this support when everything in this society tells me that I shouldn't or that I don't have to. And so it can be really worthwhile to examine your relationship with. Worthiness and surrender so that you can receive the support from men that you deserve that ultimately makes them feel good too. And the final tip here: be grateful. Okay. Express your gratitude for these men. I think that in current culture, especially in the online dating space, when there are these dating coaches teaching women about how to find provider men online, there is an air of entitlement coming from women. And I know this was me when I was consuming that kind of content. I just assumed that because I was a woman that I was entitled to receive this support from men. And I was coming at them from a very hardened and ungrateful state of mind. I'm not gonna lie to you. And I am telling you that gratitude is the attitude. words of affirmation. And telling them how much they have changed your life for the better goes a long way, ladies. also you being that feminine and receptive presence in their life, right. Being that leader that they can come to in times of need and supporting these men as well, Because Relationships go both ways. And so you also need to be there for men, especially the good men in your life, because they deserve it. They deserve your love and compassion and your energy when they are serving you in way that makes you feel good. And so it's this infinite feedback loop of gratitude coming from both partners in the relationship that makes the interaction really pleasurable for everybody involved. And I am telling you, ladies, I have gotten what the fuck I have wanted from men. Over these past few months, okay. I have been supported physically, emotionally, and financially by multiple men in my life. it feels so fucking good to be able to say that to you after going through So many traumatic experiences with men where I didn't feel safe and I had shut them out of my life. So I am telling you, ladies, if you follow the steps that I have given you in this podcast by a knowing what the fuck you want with extreme specificity, B communicating that desire to your male counterparts. C surrendering into the support that they have to offer you and allowing them to do it in a way that might be different from how you do it, but still gets the job done. And then D congratulating them on their success and offering a lot of support and praise and gratitude to them in return for what they have offered you. You will be effectively stepping up To be a woman that men look towards as a leader in their lives. And this is the natural state of being that is matriarchy. Seriously, ladies, you are the natural born leaders as the goddess, and men are here to execute. On your desires, it's just that you have to be open and willing to allow them to support you. But I am telling you, when you surrender into that support, whoo, things in your life get so much better so quickly. Recording this episode inside of my dream thought closet. All thanks to the men in my life. And I know that there are going to be so many more episodes of this podcast where this one came from. Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the Priestess Temple Podcast. If you enjoyed this conversation, please share with members of your community. Comment, rate, and subscribe to the podcast so we can continue having these amazing conversations every week. I will see you next Thursday. And until then, remember, you are the goddess.