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Season 4 - Episode 31 - Beyond the labels · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermind, set coach, creative strategist, and also
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  happen to be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. So I want to tell you a story
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  today because, and I'm sure you may have heard this before, but
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  it's a really good one and it's going to get to the point, so
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  bear with me for a second. So back in the 1930s, there was
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  a little girl and she was a British little girl, and she was
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  diagnosed many times by people with hyperactivity.
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  And it was a super challenge for her mother because she was
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  labeled a problem child and she didn't know what to do with her.
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  So she took her to observational doctors after observational
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  doctors, and finally she discovered a Doctor Who was
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  willing to observe her child and see exactly what was going on
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  rather than just hear the story. So he turned on.
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  They were observing her in a little room and the little girl
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  was twirling around and moving and going through all the stuff.
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  And the doctor said, hang on. And he put music in the room and
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  they were watching her through a glass that you could see
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  through, but she couldn't see them.
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  And he started to recognize that this child was a dancer.
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  And he made the comment to the mom.
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  He said, see, she isn't a problem child after all.
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  She's a dancer. She's a natural dancer.
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  She moves in rhythm. And the the famous part of the
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  story is that that little girl became Jillian Lynn, and she was
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  one of the most famous ballerinas over there at the
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  time. And she choreographed,
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  choreographed Cats and Phantom of the Opera on Broadway.
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  I mean, think about this. Think about what would have
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  happened if someone hadn't done the observation.
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  And fortunately for this little girl, her mom observed her and
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  she was able to get into the right group of people that were
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  able to help her. Like this observational task
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  helped her. And it unblocked a huge part of
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  who she was and her identity because she had somebody that
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  could do that. And it happened when she was
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  little. And what happens if we don't
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  have that? What happens if we don't have
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  that? At this, at the point we are in
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  our lives where someone hasn't done that, well, we have to
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  effectively do that for ourselves.
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  We have to become our best, best advocate.
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  We have to make the decision that says I'm going to go out
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  there and live beyond what I have been told about myself, The
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  labels, because the labels can take us out.
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  The labels can put us into a place that is dysfunctional and
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  they're trying to help us, but they're putting a label on us.
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  So I, I can attest to this first hand because I can't tell you
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  how many times in my life I was put on the, the mat and said,
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  Hey, you are someone who was a daydreamer.
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  You are always out in the clouds.
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  You do not pay attention. You, you have trouble staying in
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  this world. You're always thinking about
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  somewhere else. And all of that was true.
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  But if it, if that wasn't true, I would have never gone into the
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  business that I went into and I would have never been writing
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  books and I would have never been shooting a podcast from a
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  chicken coop because I was willing to live beyond the
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  labels and be. And, and here's the other part
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  that's so crazy about this. How can you ever, ever, ever
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  find the, the people that are like minded that can help you to
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  grow and, and do something with yourself if you are not willing
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  to show your true colors because someone put a label on you and
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  that terrified you and you just like, OK, this is it.
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  I'm, I'm this, I'm that label now.
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  I mean, it is debilitating when you really think about it.
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  And our job now as wherever we are, whatever's happening,
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  whatever is happening in our lives, our job 100% is to sit
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  there and say, am I willing? Especially now it's the
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  beginning of the year, February 1st.
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  Am I willing to live beyond the labels and get over the
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  roadblocks that may have been put in front of me by people who
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  didn't even truly know who I was?
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  Because I can attest to the fact that the people that were making
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  those statements about me, we're not getting to know me and who I
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  was as a as a child and as a person.
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  Even when I was, you know, older and I was working and I would go
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  into places and I would say, you know, I remember distinctly
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  working in a pizza place and enduring high school.
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  And I was, I had a lot of credits and I could get out of
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  school early so I could go to work.
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  And I used to laugh because they called it a work release program
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  and it always made me think of like prison, but any in any
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  event. And often it was a prison for me
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  being in school in those environments.
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  But anyway, I was able to go and there was a woman who owned the
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  pizza place and we would talk about, you know, what my role
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  was, how I was going to do it. And I would suggest things to
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  her. I would say, oh, well, you know,
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  I and I would do it the way that she said it, But I would watch
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  how we moved behind the counter. And I said to her, you know, if
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  we flopped this, it would be more efficient sliding down to
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  the cash register. So it would just be easier for
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  us to just get there. And she was so upset by that.
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  And she's like, your role is just make the sandwiches.
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  And I was like, OK, I was just trying to, you know, I was just
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  generally looking at it now. That was my creativity coming
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  out. Imagine what could have happened
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  if she fostered that. And mind you, the place didn't
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  last too long and I didn't last there.
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  And that's just the point. It's you're going to find that
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  you have to advocate for yourself to get beyond these
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  things. So my suggestion is live beyond
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  the label and really advocate for yourself so that you can
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  find those like minded people that are going to help you get
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  to that next place and be open and show who you really are.
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  Because you've got to, you've got to live in those shoes that
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  you really are in order to find all the greatness.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.