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CIMC 144: The Real Reason You Quit on Yourself · Dr. Danielle Difference

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  Welcome
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  to
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  The
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  Crying
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  in
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  My
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  Cheesecake
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  podcast,
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  where
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  we
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  stop
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  settling,
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  stop
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  spiraling,
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  and
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  stop
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  living
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  in
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  bodies
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  that,
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  and
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  lives
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  that
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  feel
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  too
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  small
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  for
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  who
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  God
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  created
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  us
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  to
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  be.
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  I
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  am
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  your
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  host,
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  Dr.
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  Danielle,
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  a
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  naturopathic
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  doctor,
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  root
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  cause
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  detective,
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  straight
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  talking
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  coach,
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  and
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  the
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  woman
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  who's
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  gonna
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  tell
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  you
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  the
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  truth
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  about
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  your
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  health,
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  your
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  habits,
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  and
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  your
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  spiritual
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  life,
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  even
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  when
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  no
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  one
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  else
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  will.
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  If
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  you're
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  exhausted
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  from
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  starting
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  over,
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  overwhelmed
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  by
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  symptoms,
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  no
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  one.
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  Explains,
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  or
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  you're
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  ready
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  to
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  take
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  radical
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  responsibility
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  for
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  the
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  woman
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  you're
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  becoming,
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  you're
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  in
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  the
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  right
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  place.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  faith
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  meets
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  physiology,
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  where
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  mindset
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  meets
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  metabolism
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  and
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  where
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  real
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  transformation,
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  the
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  lasting
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  kind
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  actually
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  happens.
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  Let's
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  get
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  into
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  today's
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  episode.
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  Hey,
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  friend.
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  Come
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  sit
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  across
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  from
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  me
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  on
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  the
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  table
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  for
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  a
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  minute.
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  This
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  is
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  our
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  second
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  Friday
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  episode
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  of
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  this
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  month,
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  or
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  our
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  third,
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  maybe
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  I'm,
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  I'm
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  losing
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  track
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  of
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  time.
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  Maybe
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  our
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  third.
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  And
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  I
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  am
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  starting
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  to
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  really
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  love
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  these
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  episodes
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  because
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  I
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  feel
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  like
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  when
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  I
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  can
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  do
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  two
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  episodes
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  a
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  week,
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  I
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  can
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  share
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  with
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  you
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  like,
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  oh,
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  this
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  is
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  what
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  I
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  found
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  this
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  week,
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  or
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  This
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  is
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  what
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  I'm
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  learning
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  this
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  week,
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  or
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  This
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  is
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  what
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  you
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  need
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  to
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  know
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  this
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  week
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  on
• 1:03
  Tuesday.
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  And
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  then
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  it's
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  like
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  the
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  same
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  thing,
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  but
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  even
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  deeper,
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  um,
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  that,
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  that.
• 1:08
  Coaching,
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  that
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  mental
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  mindset,
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  that
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  lifestyle
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  support
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  that
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  I
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  love.
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  So
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  love
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  to
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  provide
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  as
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  well.
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  I
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  don't,
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  I'm
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  not
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  just
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  a
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  clinical
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  person.
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  There
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  are
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  a
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  lot
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  of
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  people
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  that
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  are
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  great
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  at
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  clinical
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  stuff,
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  but
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  I
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  am
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  a
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  both
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  and
• 1:20
  situation
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  here.
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  I
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  have
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  a
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  lot
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  of
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  hats.
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  I
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  wear
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  a
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  lot
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  of
• 1:23
  hats
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  and
• 1:23
  I
• 1:23
  wanna
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  share
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  them
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  with
• 1:24
  you
• 1:24
  and
• 1:24
  I,
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  in
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  a
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  very
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  succinct
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  way,
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  in
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  a
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  place
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  that.
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  I
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  can
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  support
• 1:28
  you
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  and
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  it
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  feels
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  good
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  and
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  it
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  feels
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  like
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  we
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  are
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  building
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  a
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  community
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  here.
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  Notice
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  I
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  said
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  community.
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  This
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  year,
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  all
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  of,
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  in
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  all
• 1:36
  of
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  my
• 1:36
  containers,
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  we
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  are
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  very
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  diligent
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  as
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  a
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  team
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  working
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  to
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  make
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  sure
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  that
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  we're
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  building
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  community
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  because
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  with
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  the.
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  Increase
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  of
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  ai.
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  I'm
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  getting
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  hit
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  with
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  it.
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  I
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  don't
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  know
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  if
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  you
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  guys
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  are
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  as
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  much
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  as
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  I
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  am,
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  but
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  I'm
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  seeing
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  so
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  much
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  AI
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  out
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  there.
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  I'm
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  seeing
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  so
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  much
• 1:51
  of
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  just
• 1:52
  people
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  ripping
• 1:53
  off
• 1:53
  and
• 1:53
  repeating
• 1:54
  white
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  label
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  programs
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  and
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  white
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  label
• 1:56
  things,
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  or
• 1:57
  they're
• 1:57
  repeating
• 1:57
  what
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  they're,
• 1:58
  what
• 1:58
  another
• 1:58
  influencer
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  is
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  saying
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  and
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  it's
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  just
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  nothing
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  is
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  genuine
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  anymore
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  and
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  I
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  want
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  a
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  genuine
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  space.
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  So
• 2:04
  if
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  that
• 2:04
  is
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  something
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  you're
• 2:05
  looking
• 2:05
  for.
• 2:06
  Make
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  sure
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  you
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  stay
• 2:07
  around,
• 2:07
  make
• 2:07
  sure
• 2:08
  you
• 2:08
  stick
• 2:08
  around.
• 2:09
  Uh,
• 2:09
  make
• 2:09
  sure
• 2:09
  you
• 2:09
  leave
• 2:09
  us
• 2:10
  five
• 2:10
  star
• 2:10
  review
• 2:10
  down
• 2:11
  below
• 2:11
  and
• 2:11
  write
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  down
• 2:12
  in
• 2:12
  the
• 2:13
  review
• 2:13
  what
• 2:14
  it
• 2:14
  is
• 2:14
  that
• 2:14
  you're
• 2:14
  learning
• 2:15
  in
• 2:15
  this
• 2:15
  space.
• 2:15
  And
• 2:16
  if
• 2:16
  you're
• 2:16
  not
• 2:16
  gonna
• 2:17
  leave
• 2:17
  a
• 2:17
  five
• 2:17
  star,
• 2:17
  please
• 2:18
  don't
• 2:18
  leave
• 2:18
  any,
• 2:19
  uh,
• 2:19
  this,
• 2:19
  this
• 2:20
  podcast
• 2:20
  is
• 2:20
  very
• 2:21
  specifically
• 2:21
  for
• 2:22
  the
• 2:22
  woman
• 2:22
  who
• 2:22
  is
• 2:22
  ready
• 2:23
  to
• 2:23
  just.
• 2:24
  Put,
• 2:25
  uh,
• 2:25
  put
• 2:25
  away
• 2:26
  all
• 2:26
  of
• 2:26
  her
• 2:26
  old
• 2:26
  ways
• 2:27
  and
• 2:27
  really
• 2:28
  get
• 2:28
  in
• 2:28
  deeper.
• 2:29
  So
• 2:30
  these
• 2:30
  Friday
• 2:30
  episodes
• 2:31
  are
• 2:31
  meant
• 2:31
  to
• 2:31
  feel
• 2:32
  like
• 2:32
  you're
• 2:32
  sitting
• 2:32
  across
• 2:33
  the
• 2:33
  table
• 2:33
  from
• 2:33
  me
• 2:33
  and
• 2:33
  we're
• 2:34
  actually
• 2:34
  just
• 2:34
  having
• 2:34
  a
• 2:34
  one-to-one
• 2:35
  conversation,
• 2:36
  and
• 2:36
  that's
• 2:37
  how
• 2:37
  I
• 2:37
  want
• 2:37
  it
• 2:37
  to
• 2:37
  be.
• 2:37
  And
• 2:38
  if
• 2:38
  you're
• 2:38
  getting
• 2:38
  things
• 2:38
  from
• 2:39
  this,
• 2:39
  would
• 2:39
  you
• 2:39
  please
• 2:39
  do
• 2:39
  me
• 2:39
  a
• 2:39
  favor
• 2:40
  and
• 2:40
  share
• 2:40
  this
• 2:40
  as
• 2:41
  well,
• 2:41
  share
• 2:42
  this
• 2:42
  podcast
• 2:42
  with
• 2:42
  your
• 2:43
  friends
• 2:43
  and,
• 2:43
  and
• 2:43
  just
• 2:43
  let
• 2:44
  'em
• 2:44
  know
• 2:44
  that
• 2:44
  this
• 2:44
  is
• 2:44
  something
• 2:45
  that
• 2:45
  I
• 2:45
  like
• 2:45
  to
• 2:45
  listen
• 2:46
  to
• 2:46
  and,
• 2:47
  you
• 2:47
  know,
• 2:47
  whatever.
• 2:47
  If
• 2:47
  there's
• 2:47
  something
• 2:48
  you
• 2:48
  would
• 2:48
  love
• 2:48
  to
• 2:48
  hear
• 2:48
  me
• 2:49
  talk
• 2:49
  about,
• 2:49
  absolutely.
• 2:50
  Send
• 2:50
  me
• 2:50
  an
• 2:50
  email
• 2:51
  hello@wildernessofwellness.com
• 2:53
  and
• 2:53
  we
• 2:54
  will
• 2:54
  make
• 2:54
  sure.
• 2:54
  That
• 2:54
  we
• 2:55
  get
• 2:55
  that
• 2:56
  somehow
• 2:56
  sorted
• 2:56
  out
• 2:57
  and
• 2:57
  supported
• 2:57
  for
• 2:57
  you.
• 2:57
  Okay,
• 2:59
  so
• 3:00
  I
• 3:01
  am
• 3:01
  already
• 3:02
  in
• 3:02
  the
• 3:02
  clinic
• 3:02
  and
• 3:02
  online
• 3:03
  seeing
• 3:03
  women
• 3:04
  like
• 3:04
  making
• 3:04
  jokes
• 3:05
  about
• 3:05
  how
• 3:05
  they
• 3:06
  didn't
• 3:06
  even
• 3:06
  set
• 3:06
  a
• 3:07
  resolution
• 3:07
  or
• 3:07
  they
• 3:07
  didn't
• 3:07
  even
• 3:08
  set
• 3:08
  a
• 3:08
  goal
• 3:08
  or
• 3:09
  anything
• 3:09
  for
• 3:10
  2026.
• 3:11
  Because
• 3:11
  what's
• 3:12
  the
• 3:12
  point?
• 3:12
  Like
• 3:13
  what
• 3:13
  is
• 3:13
  the
• 3:13
  point
• 3:14
  of
• 3:14
  going
• 3:14
  to
• 3:15
  the
• 3:15
  gym
• 3:15
  and
• 3:16
  seeing
• 3:16
  all
• 3:17
  of
• 3:17
  those
• 3:17
  people
• 3:17
  there
• 3:17
  and
• 3:18
  then
• 3:18
  watching
• 3:18
  them
• 3:18
  dwindle
• 3:19
  out,
• 3:19
  and
• 3:19
  then
• 3:19
  you
• 3:20
  become
• 3:20
  one
• 3:20
  of
• 3:20
  those
• 3:20
  dwindles.
• 3:21
  And
• 3:22
  so
• 3:22
  I
• 3:23
  think
• 3:24
  there
• 3:24
  is
• 3:24
  something
• 3:24
  that
• 3:24
  we
• 3:25
  need
• 3:25
  to
• 3:25
  talk
• 3:25
  about
• 3:26
  that
• 3:27
  there's
• 3:28
  a
• 3:28
  part
• 3:28
  of
• 3:28
  us
• 3:28
  that
• 3:29
  is
• 3:29
  scared
• 3:30
  of
• 3:30
  February
• 3:31
  because
• 3:31
  February.
• 3:32
  Shows
• 3:33
  us
• 3:34
  just
• 3:34
  where
• 3:35
  our
• 3:35
  heart
• 3:35
  actually
• 3:36
  is.
• 3:37
  And
• 3:37
  you
• 3:37
  know
• 3:37
  what
• 3:38
  I'm
• 3:38
  talking
• 3:38
  about,
• 3:38
  how
• 3:39
  January
• 3:39
  feels
• 3:40
  hopeful.
• 3:41
  January
• 3:41
  feels
• 3:42
  strong.
• 3:42
  It
• 3:43
  feels
• 3:43
  full
• 3:43
  of
• 3:43
  intention.
• 3:44
  It
• 3:44
  feels,
• 3:45
  uh,
• 3:45
  new,
• 3:46
  like
• 3:46
  there's
• 3:46
  a
• 3:46
  white
• 3:47
  page,
• 3:47
  right?
• 3:47
  And
• 3:47
  I
• 3:48
  don't,
• 3:48
  like,
• 3:48
  this
• 3:48
  is
• 3:48
  something
• 3:49
  that's
• 3:49
  funny.
• 3:49
  I
• 3:49
  am
• 3:49
  a
• 3:50
  teacher
• 3:50
  at
• 3:50
  heart
• 3:50
  and
• 3:51
  so
• 3:51
  my
• 3:52
  calendars
• 3:52
  and
• 3:53
  planners,
• 3:53
  they
• 3:53
  actually
• 3:54
  start
• 3:54
  in
• 3:55
  June.
• 3:55
  So
• 3:56
  from
• 3:56
  June
• 3:56
  to
• 3:56
  June
• 3:57
  every
• 3:57
  year,
• 3:58
  I
• 3:58
  don't
• 3:58
  ever
• 3:58
  get
• 3:58
  a
• 3:59
  blank
• 3:59
  calendar
• 3:59
  in
• 3:59
  January,
• 4:00
  but
• 4:00
  for
• 4:00
  some
• 4:01
  reason.
• 4:02
  We
• 4:02
  feel
• 4:02
  like
• 4:03
  the
• 4:03
  brand
• 4:04
  new
• 4:04
  year
• 4:04
  starts
• 4:05
  January
• 4:05
  because
• 4:06
  we
• 4:06
  want
• 4:07
  to
• 4:07
  step
• 4:08
  into
• 4:08
  a
• 4:09
  con,
• 4:09
  like
• 4:09
  a
• 4:09
  space
• 4:10
  where
• 4:11
  our
• 4:11
  habits
• 4:11
  are
• 4:11
  completely
• 4:12
  different.
• 4:13
  Our
• 4:13
  planners
• 4:14
  represent
• 4:15
  this
• 4:15
  beautiful,
• 4:16
  perfect
• 4:17
  life
• 4:17
  with
• 4:17
  no
• 4:18
  eraser
• 4:18
  marks,
• 4:19
  with
• 4:19
  no
• 4:19
  white
• 4:19
  out,
• 4:19
  with
• 4:20
  no
• 4:20
  exes,
• 4:21
  no
• 4:22
  anything,
• 4:22
  and
• 4:22
  we
• 4:23
  start
• 4:23
  these
• 4:23
  new
• 4:23
  Bible
• 4:24
  plans
• 4:24
  and
• 4:24
  we
• 4:24
  want
• 4:24
  this
• 4:24
  perfect
• 4:25
  check
• 4:25
  mark
• 4:25
  down
• 4:26
  the
• 4:26
  thing.
• 4:27
  We
• 4:27
  start
• 4:27
  new
• 4:27
  supplements,
• 4:28
  we
• 4:28
  start
• 4:28
  fresh
• 4:28
  routines,
• 4:30
  and
• 4:30
  then
• 4:30
  all
• 4:31
  of
• 4:31
  a
• 4:31
  sudden,
• 4:31
  February
• 4:32
  hits
• 4:33
  and
• 4:33
  life
• 4:34
  comes.
• 4:35
  Someone
• 4:35
  gets
• 4:36
  sick,
• 4:36
  you
• 4:36
  get
• 4:37
  sick,
• 4:37
  work
• 4:38
  blows
• 4:38
  up,
• 4:38
  hormones
• 4:39
  start
• 4:39
  to
• 4:39
  freak
• 4:39
  out,
• 4:40
  and
• 4:40
  your
• 4:40
  schedule
• 4:40
  goes
• 4:41
  sideways.
• 4:41
  And
• 4:41
  before
• 4:42
  you
• 4:42
  even
• 4:42
  notice
• 4:43
  it's
• 4:43
  happening,
• 4:44
  you've
• 4:44
  quit
• 4:45
  on
• 4:45
  yourself
• 4:45
  again.
• 4:46
  And
• 4:47
  so
• 4:47
  today
• 4:48
  I
• 4:48
  really
• 4:48
  wanna
• 4:48
  go
• 4:48
  into
• 4:49
  this
• 4:49
  conversation
• 4:50
  and
• 4:50
  talk
• 4:51
  about
• 4:51
  the
• 4:51
  real
• 4:52
  reason
• 4:52
  why.
• 4:53
  Why
• 4:53
  is
• 4:54
  it
• 4:54
  that
• 4:54
  we
• 4:54
  quit
• 4:54
  on
• 4:54
  ourselves?
• 4:56
  Because
• 4:56
  if
• 4:57
  you
• 4:57
  always
• 4:58
  lose
• 4:58
  yourself,
• 4:59
  whether
• 5:00
  it
• 5:00
  be
• 5:00
  February
• 5:01
  or
• 5:01
  say
• 5:01
  you
• 5:01
  start
• 5:01
  another
• 5:02
  program
• 5:02
  at
• 5:02
  some
• 5:02
  other
• 5:03
  time,
• 5:03
  why
• 5:04
  you
• 5:04
  always
• 5:05
  lose
• 5:05
  yourself?
• 5:06
  I
• 5:06
  want
• 5:06
  you
• 5:06
  to
• 5:06
  know
• 5:07
  this
• 5:08
  specific
• 5:08
  thing
• 5:09
  that
• 5:09
  I
• 5:09
  have
• 5:09
  realized
• 5:10
  over
• 5:10
  all
• 5:10
  of
• 5:11
  my
• 5:11
  education
• 5:11
  and
• 5:11
  all
• 5:12
  of
• 5:12
  my
• 5:12
  time
• 5:12
  and
• 5:12
  all
• 5:13
  of
• 5:13
  my
• 5:13
  experience
• 5:13
  with
• 5:13
  other
• 5:14
  women
• 5:14
  and
• 5:15
  leading
• 5:15
  them
• 5:16
  is
• 5:16
  that
• 5:17
  your
• 5:17
  health
• 5:17
  goals
• 5:18
  aren't
• 5:18
  the
• 5:18
  problem.
• 5:20
  Okay?
• 5:21
  Your
• 5:21
  health
• 5:21
  goals
• 5:21
  aren't
• 5:22
  the
• 5:22
  problem,
• 5:22
  but
• 5:22
  your
• 5:22
  internal
• 5:23
  agreements
• 5:24
  are.
• 5:25
  Okay,
• 5:26
  let's,
• 5:27
  let's
• 5:27
  kind
• 5:27
  of
• 5:27
  dig
• 5:28
  into
• 5:28
  this.
• 5:28
  Let's
• 5:28
  dig
• 5:29
  into
• 5:30
  internal
• 5:30
  agreements.
• 5:31
  Let's
• 5:31
  talk
• 5:32
  into
• 5:33
  all
• 5:33
  of
• 5:33
  this
• 5:33
  self
• 5:34
  betrayal
• 5:34
  that
• 5:34
  kind
• 5:35
  of
• 5:35
  happens,
• 5:36
  and
• 5:37
  I
• 5:37
  want
• 5:38
  to
• 5:38
  kind
• 5:38
  of
• 5:38
  point
• 5:38
  out
• 5:39
  the
• 5:39
  pattern
• 5:39
  here
• 5:40
  because
• 5:42
  we
• 5:42
  tend
• 5:42
  to
• 5:42
  quit
• 5:43
  on
• 5:43
  ourselves
• 5:45
  for
• 5:45
  reasons
• 5:46
  that.
• 5:47
  We
• 5:47
  don't
• 5:48
  say
• 5:48
  out
• 5:48
  loud,
• 5:48
  or
• 5:48
  maybe
• 5:49
  we've
• 5:49
  never
• 5:49
  said
• 5:49
  out
• 5:49
  loud
• 5:49
  because
• 5:50
  we
• 5:50
  don't
• 5:50
  have
• 5:50
  the
• 5:50
  words
• 5:51
  to
• 5:51
  describe
• 5:51
  it.
• 5:52
  We
• 5:52
  just
• 5:52
  let
• 5:52
  guiding
• 5:53
  culture
• 5:53
  and
• 5:53
  the
• 5:53
  influencers
• 5:54
  tell
• 5:54
  us
• 5:54
  all
• 5:55
  of
• 5:55
  those
• 5:55
  things.
• 5:56
  But
• 5:56
  what
• 5:56
  I
• 5:56
  want
• 5:57
  you
• 5:57
  to
• 5:57
  know
• 5:57
  is
• 5:58
  that
• 5:58
  we
• 5:58
  quit
• 6:00
  because
• 6:00
  we've
• 6:00
  spent
• 6:01
  years,
• 6:02
  sometimes
• 6:02
  decades,
• 6:03
  training
• 6:04
  our
• 6:04
  brains
• 6:05
  to
• 6:05
  betray
• 6:05
  ourselves
• 6:07
  when
• 6:07
  we
• 6:08
  say
• 6:08
  things
• 6:08
  to
• 6:08
  ourself.
• 6:10
  Like,
• 6:10
  you
• 6:10
  know
• 6:10
  what?
• 6:11
  I'm
• 6:11
  just
• 6:11
  gonna
• 6:11
  take
• 6:11
  care
• 6:11
  of
• 6:11
  this
• 6:12
  tomorrow.
• 6:13
  Or,
• 6:14
  you
• 6:14
  know,
• 6:14
  Monday
• 6:15
  rolls
• 6:15
  around.
• 6:15
  I
• 6:15
  am
• 6:16
  going
• 6:16
  to
• 6:16
  make
• 6:17
  sure
• 6:17
  I
• 6:17
  do
• 6:17
  X,
• 6:17
  Y,
• 6:17
  z.
• 6:19
  We
• 6:20
  say
• 6:20
  things
• 6:21
  like,
• 6:21
  well,
• 6:21
  this
• 6:21
  week
• 6:22
  was
• 6:22
  crazy.
• 6:22
  It's
• 6:22
  okay.
• 6:23
  Uh,
• 6:24
  we'll
• 6:24
  just,
• 6:24
  we'll
• 6:24
  figure
• 6:25
  it
• 6:25
  out.
• 6:26
  Or
• 6:27
  we'll
• 6:27
  say
• 6:28
  things
• 6:28
  where
• 6:28
  we
• 6:28
  barter
• 6:29
  and
• 6:29
  say,
• 6:31
  I'll
• 6:31
  just,
• 6:31
  I'll
• 6:31
  just
• 6:31
  deal
• 6:32
  with
• 6:32
  that
• 6:32
  when
• 6:33
  life
• 6:33
  settles
• 6:33
  down.
• 6:35
  We
• 6:35
  know.
• 6:36
  We
• 6:36
  know
• 6:37
  that.
• 6:37
  We
• 6:37
  know
• 6:37
  that.
• 6:37
  We
• 6:37
  know
• 6:37
  that
• 6:38
  life
• 6:38
  never
• 6:39
  settles
• 6:39
  down.
• 6:40
  So
• 6:41
  then
• 6:42
  our
• 6:42
  internal
• 6:42
  agreement
• 6:43
  come
• 6:44
  becomes,
• 6:46
  I
• 6:46
  don't
• 6:47
  keep
• 6:47
  promises
• 6:48
  to
• 6:48
  myself,
• 6:50
  and
• 6:50
  so
• 6:50
  our
• 6:51
  bodies
• 6:51
  don't
• 6:52
  feel
• 6:52
  safe,
• 6:54
  and
• 6:54
  we
• 6:54
  feel
• 6:55
  a
• 6:55
  certain
• 6:55
  way
• 6:55
  about
• 6:55
  that,
• 6:56
  don't
• 6:56
  we?
• 6:57
  I
• 6:57
  can't
• 6:57
  keep
• 6:58
  promises
• 6:59
  to
• 6:59
  myself.
• 7:01
  That's
• 7:01
  hard.
• 7:02
  Have
• 7:03
  you
• 7:03
  ever
• 7:03
  had
• 7:03
  a
• 7:03
  kid
• 7:04
  say,
• 7:04
  well,
• 7:04
  you
• 7:04
  promised
• 7:07
  and
• 7:07
  your
• 7:07
  body
• 7:07
  is
• 7:08
  saying
• 7:08
  the
• 7:08
  same
• 7:08
  thing?
• 7:09
  Well,
• 7:09
  you
• 7:09
  promised,
• 7:11
  so
• 7:11
  then
• 7:11
  you
• 7:12
  become
• 7:12
  this
• 7:12
  unreliable
• 7:13
  source
• 7:15
  for
• 7:15
  your
• 7:15
  body.
• 7:17
  And
• 7:17
  so
• 7:17
  that
• 7:18
  creates
• 7:20
  a
• 7:20
  lot
• 7:20
  of
• 7:20
  other
• 7:20
  things
• 7:20
  I'm
• 7:20
  gonna
• 7:20
  get
• 7:21
  into.
• 7:21
  I
• 7:21
  really
• 7:21
  wanna
• 7:21
  get
• 7:21
  into
• 7:22
  all
• 7:22
  of
• 7:22
  this,
• 7:22
  but
• 7:22
  this
• 7:22
  creates
• 7:23
  a
• 7:23
  whole
• 7:23
  lot
• 7:23
  of
• 7:23
  other
• 7:24
  things.
• 7:27
  That
• 7:27
  we
• 7:27
  don't
• 7:27
  consciously
• 7:28
  do,
• 7:30
  we
• 7:30
  don't
• 7:30
  do
• 7:30
  this.
• 7:31
  We
• 7:31
  don't
• 7:32
  not
• 7:32
  keep
• 7:32
  promises
• 7:33
  to
• 7:33
  ourselves
• 7:33
  intentionally.
• 7:35
  Instead,
• 7:36
  we
• 7:36
  are
• 7:37
  practicing
• 7:37
  it.
• 7:39
  You
• 7:40
  have
• 7:40
  made
• 7:41
  self
• 7:41
  betrayal
• 7:42
  familiar,
• 7:44
  and
• 7:45
  I'm
• 7:45
  gonna
• 7:45
  say
• 7:45
  that
• 7:45
  again
• 7:46
  because
• 7:46
  I
• 7:46
  want
• 7:46
  you
• 7:46
  to
• 7:46
  think
• 7:46
  about
• 7:47
  it
• 7:48
  and
• 7:48
  I
• 7:48
  want
• 7:48
  you
• 7:48
  to
• 7:49
  picture,
• 7:49
  I
• 7:49
  dunno
• 7:49
  if
• 7:49
  you're
• 7:49
  like
• 7:50
  me,
• 7:50
  but
• 7:50
  I
• 7:50
  picture
• 7:50
  things.
• 7:53
  When
• 7:53
  was
• 7:53
  the
• 7:54
  first
• 7:54
  time
• 7:56
  the
• 7:56
  self
• 7:56
  betrayal
• 7:57
  became
• 7:57
  familiar
• 7:58
  to
• 7:58
  you?
• 8:00
  And
• 8:01
  then
• 8:01
  because
• 8:02
  that
• 8:02
  happens,
• 8:04
  how
• 8:04
  many
• 8:04
  times
• 8:04
  have
• 8:05
  you
• 8:05
  allowed
• 8:05
  others
• 8:06
  to
• 8:07
  betray
• 8:07
  you?
• 8:08
  And
• 8:08
  I
• 8:08
  said
• 8:08
  allow,
• 8:10
  because
• 8:10
  how
• 8:10
  are
• 8:10
  we
• 8:10
  supposed
• 8:11
  to
• 8:11
  know
• 8:11
  people
• 8:11
  are
• 8:11
  betraying
• 8:12
  us
• 8:12
  when
• 8:12
  that's
• 8:12
  like
• 8:12
  our
• 8:13
  familiarity,
• 8:13
  like
• 8:14
  what
• 8:14
  we
• 8:14
  are
• 8:14
  doing?
• 8:15
  Betrayal
• 8:16
  can
• 8:16
  mean
• 8:16
  that
• 8:17
  they
• 8:17
  don't
• 8:17
  believe
• 8:17
  in
• 8:17
  you.
• 8:17
  Betrayal
• 8:18
  can
• 8:18
  mean
• 8:18
  that
• 8:18
  they
• 8:18
  use
• 8:19
  you.
• 8:19
  Betrayal
• 8:19
  can
• 8:19
  mean
• 8:20
  that
• 8:20
  they
• 8:20
  put
• 8:20
  you
• 8:20
  in
• 8:21
  a
• 8:21
  box
• 8:21
  so
• 8:21
  that
• 8:21
  you
• 8:22
  have
• 8:22
  to
• 8:22
  be
• 8:23
  understood
• 8:23
  in
• 8:23
  their
• 8:24
  way.
• 8:24
  Betrayal
• 8:25
  means
• 8:26
  that
• 8:27
  you
• 8:27
  are.
• 8:29
  They're
• 8:29
  not
• 8:29
  there
• 8:30
  for
• 8:30
  you
• 8:30
  when
• 8:30
  you
• 8:31
  need
• 8:31
  them,
• 8:31
  but
• 8:31
  they
• 8:31
  expect
• 8:32
  you
• 8:32
  to
• 8:32
  be
• 8:32
  there
• 8:32
  for
• 8:32
  them
• 8:33
  when
• 8:33
  they
• 8:33
  need
• 8:33
  you.
• 8:34
  That
• 8:35
  is
• 8:35
  betrayal,
• 8:35
  and
• 8:36
  that's
• 8:36
  continual
• 8:38
  elements
• 8:38
  here.
• 8:38
  That
• 8:39
  leads
• 8:39
  us
• 8:39
  into
• 8:39
  the
• 8:39
  next
• 8:39
  conversation,
• 8:40
  but
• 8:40
  I'm
• 8:40
  not
• 8:41
  gonna
• 8:41
  go
• 8:41
  there
• 8:41
  yet
• 8:41
  because
• 8:42
  what
• 8:42
  I
• 8:42
  want
• 8:43
  to
• 8:43
  say
• 8:43
  here
• 8:43
  is
• 8:44
  that
• 8:44
  the
• 8:44
  brain
• 8:45
  will
• 8:45
  always
• 8:46
  return
• 8:47
  to
• 8:47
  what
• 8:47
  feels
• 8:48
  familiar.
• 8:48
  Even
• 8:49
  if
• 8:49
  it
• 8:49
  hurts
• 8:49
  you,
• 8:50
  it
• 8:50
  will
• 8:51
  always
• 8:51
  return
• 8:52
  to
• 8:52
  the
• 8:52
  abuser,
• 8:54
  even
• 8:55
  if
• 8:55
  that
• 8:55
  abuser
• 8:55
  hurts
• 8:56
  you,
• 8:56
  even
• 8:56
  if
• 8:56
  that
• 8:56
  abuser
• 8:57
  is
• 8:57
  yourself.
• 8:59
  We
• 8:59
  always
• 8:59
  ask
• 9:00
  and
• 9:00
  uh,
• 9:00
  you
• 9:00
  know,
• 9:00
  I'm,
• 9:01
  I'm
• 9:01
  from
• 9:01
  a
• 9:01
  cop.
• 9:02
  My
• 9:02
  dad
• 9:02
  was
• 9:02
  a
• 9:02
  cop
• 9:03
  and
• 9:03
  cop
• 9:03
  family
• 9:03
  and
• 9:03
  all
• 9:04
  of
• 9:04
  that.
• 9:04
  And
• 9:04
  you
• 9:05
  know,
• 9:05
  we
• 9:05
  would
• 9:05
  always
• 9:05
  say,
• 9:06
  why?
• 9:06
  Like,
• 9:07
  we
• 9:07
  think,
• 9:07
  why
• 9:08
  would
• 9:08
  that
• 9:09
  wife
• 9:09
  keep
• 9:09
  returning
• 9:10
  to
• 9:10
  her
• 9:10
  abusive
• 9:11
  husband?
• 9:12
  And
• 9:12
  it's
• 9:13
  because
• 9:13
  there's
• 9:13
  safety
• 9:14
  there.
• 9:15
  She
• 9:15
  knows
• 9:15
  her
• 9:16
  body
• 9:16
  knows
• 9:16
  what
• 9:17
  to
• 9:17
  expect
• 9:17
  in
• 9:17
  that
• 9:18
  place,
• 9:18
  even
• 9:19
  if
• 9:19
  it
• 9:19
  kills
• 9:20
  her.
• 9:21
  Same
• 9:21
  thing
• 9:21
  with
• 9:22
  us.
• 9:23
  We
• 9:23
  say
• 9:23
  that
• 9:24
  we're
• 9:24
  gonna
• 9:24
  start
• 9:24
  over
• 9:24
  Monday
• 9:24
  knowing
• 9:25
  that
• 9:25
  that's
• 9:25
  a
• 9:25
  lie.
• 9:26
  And
• 9:26
  we
• 9:26
  keep
• 9:27
  saying
• 9:27
  that
• 9:28
  because
• 9:28
  we
• 9:28
  think
• 9:29
  that
• 9:29
  that
• 9:29
  familiarity
• 9:30
  of
• 9:30
  like
• 9:31
  getting
• 9:31
  on
• 9:31
  quote
• 9:32
  unquote
• 9:32
  on
• 9:32
  track
• 9:33
  again
• 9:33
  that
• 9:34
  feels
• 9:34
  familiar
• 9:35
  to
• 9:35
  say
• 9:35
  that,
• 9:35
  but
• 9:36
  to
• 9:36
  do
• 9:36
  it,
• 9:36
  it
• 9:37
  doesn't
• 9:37
  happen.
• 9:37
  So
• 9:38
  when
• 9:38
  the
• 9:38
  failure
• 9:38
  happens,
• 9:39
  you
• 9:39
  feel
• 9:40
  comforted
• 9:40
  because,
• 9:41
  oh,
• 9:41
  okay,
• 9:42
  that's
• 9:42
  familiar.
• 9:43
  It's
• 9:43
  okay,
• 9:44
  it's
• 9:44
  fine.
• 9:44
  And
• 9:44
  we
• 9:44
  excuse
• 9:45
  it
• 9:45
  off
• 9:46
  be
• 9:46
  even
• 9:46
  if
• 9:47
  it
• 9:47
  hurts
• 9:47
  you
• 9:47
  30
• 9:48
  years
• 9:48
  down
• 9:48
  the
• 9:48
  road
• 9:48
  with
• 9:48
  your
• 9:49
  first
• 9:49
  heart
• 9:49
  attack
• 9:49
  or
• 9:50
  breast
• 9:50
  cancer
• 9:50
  or
• 9:51
  ovarian
• 9:51
  cancer
• 9:51
  or
• 9:52
  um,
• 9:52
  uterine
• 9:53
  cancer
• 9:53
  or
• 9:54
  what
• 9:54
  have
• 9:54
  you.
• 9:57
  Your
• 9:57
  brain
• 9:57
  is
• 9:57
  always
• 9:58
  going
• 9:58
  to
• 9:58
  protect
• 9:58
  you.
• 9:59
  And
• 10:00
  that,
• 10:01
  my
• 10:01
  friend,
• 10:02
  that
• 10:02
  is
• 10:02
  why
• 10:02
  if
• 10:03
  you
• 10:03
  created
• 10:03
  resolutions
• 10:04
  or
• 10:04
  you
• 10:04
  didn't,
• 10:05
  and
• 10:05
  because
• 10:06
  of
• 10:06
  this,
• 10:06
  this
• 10:07
  is
• 10:07
  why
• 10:07
  you
• 10:07
  quit
• 10:07
  by
• 10:07
  February.
• 10:08
  This
• 10:08
  is
• 10:09
  why
• 10:09
  you
• 10:09
  quit
• 10:09
  on
• 10:09
  yourself.
• 10:10
  And
• 10:10
  it's
• 10:10
  not
• 10:10
  because
• 10:11
  you're
• 10:11
  bad
• 10:11
  at
• 10:11
  the
• 10:11
  consistency
• 10:12
  'cause
• 10:12
  we
• 10:12
  know
• 10:12
  you're
• 10:12
  consistent,
• 10:13
  a
• 10:13
  lot
• 10:14
  of
• 10:14
  things.
• 10:15
  But
• 10:15
  betrayal
• 10:16
  has
• 10:16
  become
• 10:17
  your
• 10:17
  default.
• 10:19
  So
• 10:20
  we,
• 10:20
  this
• 10:20
  betrayal
• 10:21
  and
• 10:21
  the,
• 10:21
  this,
• 10:22
  this
• 10:22
  betrayal
• 10:23
  of
• 10:23
  ourself,
• 10:24
  this
• 10:24
  is
• 10:24
  a
• 10:24
  coping
• 10:25
  mechanism.
• 10:26
  And
• 10:26
  I
• 10:26
  promise
• 10:26
  you
• 10:27
  most
• 10:27
  of
• 10:28
  you
• 10:28
  listening
• 10:28
  here,
• 10:29
  this
• 10:29
  probably
• 10:29
  this
• 10:30
  coping
• 10:30
  mechanism
• 10:30
  probably
• 10:31
  didn't
• 10:31
  start
• 10:31
  in
• 10:32
  adulthood.
• 10:33
  Your
• 10:33
  coping
• 10:34
  patterns
• 10:34
  actually
• 10:34
  started
• 10:35
  way
• 10:35
  before
• 10:35
  you
• 10:36
  ever
• 10:36
  downloaded
• 10:36
  a
• 10:37
  fitness
• 10:37
  app,
• 10:37
  bought
• 10:38
  a
• 10:38
  protein
• 10:38
  shaker,
• 10:39
  um,
• 10:39
  went
• 10:40
  to
• 10:40
  a
• 10:40
  personal
• 10:40
  trainer,
• 10:41
  started
• 10:41
  Weight
• 10:41
  Watchers,
• 10:42
  slim
• 10:42
  Fast,
• 10:42
  whatever
• 10:43
  your
• 10:43
  start
• 10:43
  was
• 10:45
  that.
• 10:46
  It
• 10:47
  started
• 10:47
  way
• 10:47
  before
• 10:48
  that.
• 10:49
  Your
• 10:49
  coping
• 10:50
  in
• 10:50
  instead.
• 10:50
  Instead
• 10:51
  started
• 10:53
  when
• 10:53
  you
• 10:53
  had
• 10:53
  to
• 10:54
  be
• 10:54
  the
• 10:54
  easy
• 10:54
  kid.
• 10:55
  When
• 10:56
  you
• 10:56
  had
• 10:56
  to
• 10:56
  make
• 10:56
  all
• 10:57
  the
• 10:57
  grades,
• 10:57
  when
• 10:57
  you
• 10:57
  had
• 10:58
  to
• 10:58
  be
• 10:58
  the
• 10:58
  center
• 10:59
  front
• 10:59
  and
• 10:59
  center
• 11:00
  and
• 11:00
  do
• 11:00
  everything
• 11:01
  perfectly
• 11:01
  when
• 11:01
  you
• 11:01
  had
• 11:02
  to
• 11:02
  walk
• 11:02
  on
• 11:02
  eggshells,
• 11:03
  when
• 11:03
  your
• 11:03
  emotions
• 11:04
  weren't
• 11:04
  safe
• 11:04
  to
• 11:04
  express,
• 11:05
  when
• 11:05
  you
• 11:05
  learned
• 11:06
  to
• 11:06
  stay
• 11:06
  quiet,
• 11:07
  when
• 11:07
  you
• 11:07
  were
• 11:07
  praised
• 11:08
  for
• 11:08
  being
• 11:08
  quote
• 11:09
  unquote
• 11:09
  good,
• 11:10
  when
• 11:10
  you
• 11:10
  learned
• 11:11
  that
• 11:11
  your
• 11:11
  needs
• 11:12
  were
• 11:12
  inconvenient,
• 11:13
  that
• 11:14
  is
• 11:14
  when
• 11:14
  you
• 11:14
  learn
• 11:15
  to
• 11:15
  disconnect
• 11:15
  from
• 11:16
  yourself
• 11:16
  long
• 11:17
  ago,
• 11:17
  before
• 11:17
  adulthood
• 11:18
  ever
• 11:18
  handed
• 11:19
  you
• 11:19
  a
• 11:19
  planner.
• 11:21
  And
• 11:21
  I
• 11:21
  know
• 11:21
  someone
• 11:22
  needed
• 11:22
  to
• 11:23
  hear
• 11:23
  that
• 11:23
  today.
• 11:26
  So
• 11:26
  when
• 11:26
  things
• 11:26
  get
• 11:27
  hard,
• 11:28
  when
• 11:28
  things
• 11:29
  get
• 11:29
  hard,
• 11:29
  you
• 11:29
  revert
• 11:30
  back
• 11:30
  to
• 11:30
  what
• 11:30
  kept
• 11:31
  you
• 11:31
  safe
• 11:31
  as
• 11:31
  a
• 11:32
  child,
• 11:32
  you
• 11:33
  sat
• 11:33
  down,
• 11:33
  you
• 11:34
  shut
• 11:34
  up,
• 11:34
  you
• 11:35
  shut
• 11:35
  down,
• 11:35
  you
• 11:36
  numb,
• 11:36
  you
• 11:36
  avoid,
• 11:37
  you
• 11:37
  over-function
• 11:38
  for
• 11:38
  everyone
• 11:38
  else,
• 11:39
  and
• 11:39
  you
• 11:39
  disappear
• 11:40
  from
• 11:40
  your
• 11:40
  own
• 11:40
  life
• 11:41
  because,
• 11:42
  and
• 11:42
  then
• 11:42
  you
• 11:42
  think
• 11:42
  that
• 11:43
  that's
• 11:43
  quitting,
• 11:43
  but
• 11:43
  it's
• 11:43
  actually
• 11:44
  not
• 11:44
  quitting.
• 11:44
  That's
• 11:44
  your
• 11:44
  nervous
• 11:45
  system
• 11:45
  protecting
• 11:46
  you.
• 11:46
  The
• 11:46
  only
• 11:46
  way
• 11:47
  it
• 11:47
  knows
• 11:47
  how.
• 11:49
  And
• 11:49
  this
• 11:50
  is
• 11:50
  the
• 11:50
  work
• 11:50
  we
• 11:50
  do
• 11:50
  inside
• 11:51
  adventures
• 11:51
  because
• 11:51
  no
• 11:52
  amount
• 11:52
  of
• 11:52
  habit
• 11:53
  tracking
• 11:53
  or
• 11:54
  can
• 11:54
  heal
• 11:54
  your
• 11:54
  childhood
• 11:55
  coping
• 11:55
  patterns.
• 11:56
  None
• 11:57
  can
• 11:57
  do
• 11:57
  it.
• 11:57
  No
• 11:58
  pristine
• 11:59
  planner,
• 11:59
  no
• 12:00
  plan
• 12:00
  can
• 12:01
  heal
• 12:01
  childhood
• 12:02
  coping
• 12:02
  patterns.
• 12:03
  If
• 12:03
  this
• 12:03
  is
• 12:04
  your
• 12:04
  root.
• 12:05
  We
• 12:05
  talk
• 12:05
  about
• 12:05
  root
• 12:06
  cause
• 12:06
  here,
• 12:06
  root
• 12:06
  causes,
• 12:07
  you
• 12:07
  know,
• 12:07
  fancy
• 12:08
  and
• 12:08
  all
• 12:08
  of
• 12:08
  this
• 12:08
  stuff.
• 12:09
  But
• 12:09
  if
• 12:09
  root
• 12:09
  cause
• 12:09
  is
• 12:10
  not
• 12:10
  able
• 12:10
  to,
• 12:11
  if
• 12:11
  your
• 12:11
  root
• 12:11
  cause
• 12:11
  practitioner
• 12:12
  is
• 12:12
  not
• 12:12
  able
• 12:12
  to
• 12:12
  actually
• 12:13
  talk
• 12:13
  to
• 12:14
  you
• 12:14
  about
• 12:14
  these
• 12:14
  pieces
• 12:15
  and
• 12:15
  help
• 12:15
  you
• 12:15
  through
• 12:15
  them
• 12:15
  and
• 12:16
  get
• 12:16
  through
• 12:16
  them
• 12:16
  and
• 12:16
  out
• 12:17
  of
• 12:17
  them
• 12:17
  and
• 12:18
  deal
• 12:18
  with
• 12:18
  them
• 12:18
  and
• 12:18
  rewire
• 12:19
  and
• 12:19
  reprogram
• 12:20
  your
• 12:20
  brain,
• 12:20
  you're
• 12:20
  never,
• 12:21
  no
• 12:21
  protocol
• 12:21
  is
• 12:22
  ever
• 12:22
  gonna
• 12:22
  do
• 12:22
  anything
• 12:22
  for
• 12:23
  you.
• 12:25
  This
• 12:25
  is
• 12:25
  why
• 12:26
  we
• 12:26
  are
• 12:26
  different.
• 12:26
  It's
• 12:26
  called
• 12:26
  the
• 12:27
  Dr.
• 12:27
  Danielle
• 12:27
  difference,
• 12:28
  and
• 12:28
  we
• 12:28
  do
• 12:28
  things
• 12:29
  differently
• 12:29
  here
• 12:30
  because
• 12:30
  we
• 12:30
  are
• 12:30
  called
• 12:31
  to
• 12:31
  be
• 12:31
  set
• 12:31
  apart
• 12:32
  and
• 12:32
  set
• 12:32
  free,
• 12:32
  and
• 12:33
  that
• 12:33
  doesn't
• 12:33
  look
• 12:33
  like
• 12:34
  serving
• 12:34
  the
• 12:34
  master
• 12:35
  of
• 12:35
  habits
• 12:36
  and,
• 12:37
  uh,
• 12:37
  diets
• 12:37
  and
• 12:38
  routines
• 12:38
  and
• 12:38
  fatigue
• 12:39
  and
• 12:39
  all
• 12:39
  of
• 12:39
  these
• 12:40
  health
• 12:40
  symptoms
• 12:40
  that
• 12:40
  we're
• 12:40
  dealing
• 12:41
  with
• 12:41
  and
• 12:41
  all
• 12:41
  of
• 12:41
  the
• 12:41
  bandaids
• 12:42
  we
• 12:42
  put
• 12:42
  on
• 12:42
  top
• 12:42
  of
• 12:42
  it.
• 12:43
  Freedom
• 12:43
  is
• 12:43
  serving
• 12:44
  the
• 12:44
  one
• 12:44
  master
• 12:44
  of
• 12:44
  our
• 12:44
  life
• 12:45
  and
• 12:45
  that
• 12:45
  is
• 12:45
  Jesus
• 12:45
  Christ.
• 12:47
  And
• 12:47
  if
• 12:47
  we're
• 12:47
  going
• 12:47
  to
• 12:47
  do
• 12:48
  that
• 12:48
  and
• 12:48
  look
• 12:48
  different,
• 12:49
  then
• 12:49
  we
• 12:49
  have
• 12:49
  to
• 12:50
  serve
• 12:50
  him.
• 12:51
  That
• 12:51
  means
• 12:51
  we
• 12:51
  have
• 12:51
  to
• 12:51
  die
• 12:52
  or
• 12:52
  die
• 12:52
  to
• 12:52
  ourselves
• 12:53
  and
• 12:53
  pick
• 12:53
  up
• 12:53
  and
• 12:53
  carry
• 12:54
  our
• 12:54
  own
• 12:54
  cross.
• 12:54
  And
• 12:54
  that
• 12:55
  cross
• 12:55
  is
• 12:55
  heavy
• 12:55
  sometimes,
• 12:56
  isn't
• 12:56
  it?
• 12:56
  That
• 12:57
  cross
• 12:57
  is
• 12:57
  heavy.
• 12:57
  When
• 12:58
  we
• 12:58
  are
• 12:58
  going
• 12:58
  through
• 12:58
  some
• 12:59
  troubling
• 12:59
  times,
• 13:00
  that
• 13:00
  cross
• 13:01
  is
• 13:01
  heavy.
• 13:01
  And
• 13:01
  if
• 13:02
  you,
• 13:02
  I
• 13:02
  saw
• 13:02
  a
• 13:02
  meme
• 13:02
  the
• 13:02
  other
• 13:03
  day
• 13:03
  and
• 13:03
  it
• 13:03
  was
• 13:03
  like,
• 13:03
  Hey,
• 13:04
  God,
• 13:04
  would
• 13:04
  you
• 13:04
  just
• 13:04
  cut
• 13:04
  off
• 13:05
  some
• 13:05
  of
• 13:05
  this?
• 13:05
  Cut
• 13:05
  off
• 13:05
  some
• 13:06
  of
• 13:06
  this,
• 13:06
  cut
• 13:06
  off
• 13:06
  some
• 13:06
  of
• 13:06
  this.
• 13:07
  But
• 13:07
  then
• 13:07
  there
• 13:07
  was
• 13:07
  the
• 13:07
  point
• 13:08
  that
• 13:08
  we
• 13:08
  needed
• 13:08
  the
• 13:08
  whole
• 13:09
  cross
• 13:09
  to
• 13:09
  get
• 13:09
  across
• 13:09
  something.
• 13:10
  And
• 13:10
  you
• 13:10
  can't
• 13:11
  get
• 13:11
  across
• 13:11
  if
• 13:11
  you
• 13:12
  don't
• 13:12
  have
• 13:12
  the
• 13:13
  fullness
• 13:13
  of
• 13:13
  your
• 13:14
  experience.
• 13:15
  Dying
• 13:16
  to
• 13:16
  ourselves
• 13:16
  is
• 13:17
  what
• 13:17
  the
• 13:17
  least
• 13:17
  of
• 13:18
  us
• 13:18
  will
• 13:18
  do.
• 13:19
  But
• 13:19
  cutting
• 13:19
  off
• 13:20
  pieces
• 13:20
  of
• 13:20
  that
• 13:20
  cross
• 13:21
  to
• 13:21
  get
• 13:21
  there
• 13:21
  to
• 13:21
  that
• 13:21
  line
• 13:22
  faster
• 13:22
  is
• 13:23
  what
• 13:23
  most
• 13:23
  people
• 13:23
  are
• 13:23
  gonna
• 13:24
  do.
• 13:24
  And
• 13:24
  then
• 13:24
  they're
• 13:24
  just
• 13:24
  gonna
• 13:24
  sit
• 13:25
  there
• 13:25
  at
• 13:25
  lives
• 13:25
  struggling
• 13:26
  and
• 13:26
  die
• 13:26
  early
• 13:27
  and,
• 13:27
  and
• 13:27
  have
• 13:27
  all
• 13:28
  these
• 13:28
  other
• 13:28
  issues
• 13:28
  and
• 13:28
  think
• 13:29
  it's
• 13:29
  because
• 13:29
  they're
• 13:29
  not
• 13:29
  eating
• 13:29
  enough
• 13:30
  protein
• 13:30
  or
• 13:31
  they're
• 13:31
  eating
• 13:31
  too
• 13:31
  many
• 13:31
  carbs.
• 13:32
  Let's
• 13:33
  quit
• 13:33
  labeling
• 13:33
  things
• 13:34
  that
• 13:34
  don't
• 13:34
  belong.
• 13:37
  So
• 13:37
  let's
• 13:37
  move
• 13:37
  on.
• 13:40
  You
• 13:40
  keep
• 13:40
  commitments
• 13:41
  and
• 13:41
  I
• 13:41
  wanna
• 13:41
  remind
• 13:42
  you,
• 13:42
  like
• 13:42
  people
• 13:42
  will
• 13:42
  be
• 13:42
  like,
• 13:43
  oh,
• 13:43
  just
• 13:43
  be
• 13:43
  consistent.
• 13:44
  Just
• 13:44
  be
• 13:44
  consistent.
• 13:45
  Well,
• 13:45
  most
• 13:46
  of
• 13:46
  the
• 13:46
  women
• 13:46
  I
• 13:46
  work
• 13:47
  with
• 13:47
  are
• 13:47
  the
• 13:47
  most
• 13:47
  consistent
• 13:48
  people
• 13:48
  I
• 13:48
  know.
• 13:49
  They're
• 13:49
  just
• 13:49
  not
• 13:49
  consistent
• 13:50
  with
• 13:50
  their
• 13:50
  health
• 13:50
  habits.
• 13:51
  So
• 13:52
  why
• 13:52
  do
• 13:52
  you
• 13:53
  keep
• 13:53
  commitments
• 13:53
  to
• 13:53
  everyone
• 13:54
  else
• 13:54
  but
• 13:54
  yourself?
• 13:57
  Let
• 13:57
  me
• 13:57
  tell
• 13:57
  you
• 13:57
  something
• 13:58
  I
• 13:58
  know
• 13:58
  about
• 13:58
  you
• 13:59
  and
• 14:00
  I
• 14:00
  know
• 14:00
  about
• 14:00
  you
• 14:00
  because
• 14:00
  it
• 14:00
  takes
• 14:01
  one
• 14:01
  to
• 14:01
  know
• 14:01
  one,
• 14:02
  if
• 14:02
  someone
• 14:03
  else
• 14:03
  needed
• 14:04
  you
• 14:04
  right
• 14:04
  now,
• 14:05
  someone
• 14:05
  else
• 14:06
  needed
• 14:06
  you
• 14:06
  right
• 14:06
  now,
• 14:07
  you'd
• 14:07
  show
• 14:07
  up.
• 14:08
  If
• 14:08
  your
• 14:09
  friend
• 14:09
  called
• 14:09
  in
• 14:09
  a
• 14:09
  crisis,
• 14:10
  you'd
• 14:10
  be
• 14:11
  there.
• 14:12
  If
• 14:13
  your
• 14:13
  child
• 14:13
  had
• 14:13
  a
• 14:13
  meltdown,
• 14:14
  you'd
• 14:14
  handle
• 14:14
  it
• 14:15
  right
• 14:15
  then
• 14:15
  and
• 14:15
  there.
• 14:16
  If
• 14:16
  your
• 14:17
  husband
• 14:17
  needed
• 14:17
  something,
• 14:18
  you'd
• 14:18
  adjust.
• 14:19
  If
• 14:20
  your
• 14:20
  church
• 14:20
  needed
• 14:20
  volunteers,
• 14:21
  you'd
• 14:22
  serve.
• 14:23
  You
• 14:24
  keep
• 14:24
  everyone
• 14:25
  else's
• 14:25
  commitments
• 14:26
  perfectly.
• 14:27
  Meanwhile,
• 14:28
  your
• 14:28
  own
• 14:29
  commitments,
• 14:30
  those
• 14:30
  things,
• 14:30
  man,
• 14:31
  those
• 14:31
  are
• 14:31
  negotiable.
• 14:32
  They're
• 14:32
  optional,
• 14:33
  they're
• 14:33
  delayed.
• 14:34
  Uh,
• 14:34
  they're
• 14:34
  postponed,
• 14:35
  they're
• 14:35
  ignored,
• 14:36
  and
• 14:36
  here's
• 14:37
  why.
• 14:38
  You've
• 14:39
  been
• 14:39
  conditioned
• 14:39
  to
• 14:40
  believe
• 14:40
  that
• 14:40
  you
• 14:41
  are
• 14:41
  the
• 14:41
  least
• 14:42
  urgent
• 14:42
  thing
• 14:43
  in
• 14:43
  your
• 14:43
  own
• 14:43
  life.
• 14:44
  Everyone
• 14:45
  else
• 14:46
  gets
• 14:46
  your
• 14:46
  yes
• 14:48
  while
• 14:48
  you
• 14:48
  get
• 14:48
  the
• 14:48
  scraps.
• 14:50
  Yourself,
• 14:51
  anybody
• 14:51
  else
• 14:51
  with
• 14:51
  abandonment
• 14:52
  issues,
• 14:53
  and
• 14:53
  you're
• 14:53
  the
• 14:53
  biggest
• 14:53
  abandonment
• 14:54
  of
• 14:55
  yourself.
• 14:56
  Every
• 14:57
  single
• 14:57
  time
• 14:58
  you
• 14:58
  silently
• 14:58
  abandon
• 14:59
  yourself,
• 14:59
  your
• 14:59
  brain
• 14:59
  learns
• 15:00
  that
• 15:01
  your
• 15:01
  needs
• 15:01
  don't
• 15:02
  matter,
• 15:03
  and
• 15:03
  that
• 15:04
  becomes
• 15:04
  your
• 15:04
  identity.
• 15:06
  This
• 15:06
  is
• 15:06
  why
• 15:06
  you
• 15:06
  quit
• 15:06
  on
• 15:07
  yourself
• 15:07
  by
• 15:07
  February.
• 15:08
  This
• 15:08
  is
• 15:08
  why
• 15:08
  you
• 15:08
  quit
• 15:08
  on
• 15:08
  yourself
• 15:09
  routinely
• 15:09
  throughout
• 15:10
  the
• 15:10
  year,
• 15:11
  not
• 15:11
  necessarily
• 15:12
  because
• 15:12
  you
• 15:12
  don't
• 15:12
  care
• 15:13
  about
• 15:13
  yourself.
• 15:15
  But
• 15:15
  because
• 15:15
  you,
• 15:15
  your
• 15:16
  brain
• 15:16
  and
• 15:17
  you
• 15:17
  have
• 15:17
  been
• 15:17
  trained
• 15:18
  not
• 15:19
  to
• 15:19
  care
• 15:20
  about
• 15:20
  yourself,
• 15:22
  and
• 15:22
  this
• 15:23
  causes
• 15:23
  exhaustion,
• 15:24
  this
• 15:24
  causes
• 15:24
  people
• 15:25
  pleasing.
• 15:26
  And
• 15:26
  then
• 15:26
  that
• 15:26
  is
• 15:26
  when
• 15:26
  your
• 15:27
  goals
• 15:27
  collapse.
• 15:29
  You
• 15:29
  cannot
• 15:30
  create
• 15:30
  a
• 15:30
  new
• 15:31
  identity
• 15:31
  while
• 15:32
  living
• 15:32
  in
• 15:32
  exhaustion
• 15:33
  and
• 15:33
  addicted
• 15:33
  to
• 15:33
  people
• 15:34
  pleasing.
• 15:36
  Your
• 15:36
  body
• 15:37
  is
• 15:37
  burned.
• 15:38
  Out
• 15:39
  your
• 15:40
  schedule
• 15:40
  is
• 15:40
  overcommitted.
• 15:41
  Your
• 15:41
  nervous
• 15:42
  system
• 15:42
  is
• 15:42
  fried,
• 15:43
  your
• 15:43
  emotional
• 15:44
  bandwidth
• 15:44
  is
• 15:44
  gone.
• 15:45
  People
• 15:45
  pleasing
• 15:46
  feels
• 15:47
  like
• 15:47
  you're
• 15:47
  loving
• 15:48
  them,
• 15:49
  but
• 15:49
  it
• 15:49
  is
• 15:49
  actually
• 15:50
  a
• 15:50
  form
• 15:50
  of
• 15:50
  self
• 15:50
  abandonment.
• 15:52
  And
• 15:52
  when
• 15:52
  you're
• 15:52
  chronically
• 15:53
  abandoning
• 15:54
  yourself,
• 15:54
  of
• 15:55
  course
• 15:55
  your
• 15:55
  goals
• 15:55
  don't
• 15:56
  stick.
• 15:57
  You're
• 15:57
  running
• 15:58
  a
• 15:58
  marathon
• 15:58
  on
• 15:59
  an
• 15:59
  empty
• 15:59
  tank
• 15:59
  and
• 16:00
  wondering
• 16:00
  why
• 16:00
  you're
• 16:00
  not
• 16:00
  stronger.
• 16:02
  And
• 16:02
  my
• 16:02
  friend,
• 16:04
  my
• 16:04
  friend.
• 16:05
  This
• 16:05
  is
• 16:06
  not
• 16:06
  independent
• 16:07
  strength.
• 16:07
  This
• 16:08
  is
• 16:08
  not
• 16:08
  strong
• 16:09
  woman.
• 16:09
  This
• 16:09
  is
• 16:10
  not
• 16:10
  femininity.
• 16:11
  This
• 16:11
  is
• 16:11
  not
• 16:11
  feminism.
• 16:12
  This
• 16:12
  is
• 16:12
  not
• 16:13
  empowerment.
• 16:14
  You
• 16:15
  are
• 16:15
  living
• 16:15
  in
• 16:15
  survival
• 16:16
  and
• 16:17
  you
• 16:17
  cannot
• 16:17
  build
• 16:17
  transformation
• 16:19
  on
• 16:19
  survival
• 16:20
  mode.
• 16:21
  Just
• 16:21
  had
• 16:21
  this
• 16:21
  conversation
• 16:22
  with
• 16:22
  someone
• 16:22
  in
• 16:22
  my
• 16:22
  clinic
• 16:23
  a
• 16:23
  couple
• 16:23
  weeks
• 16:23
  ago.
• 16:24
  Um,
• 16:25
  it's,
• 16:25
  it
• 16:25
  is
• 16:26
  those
• 16:26
  of
• 16:26
  us
• 16:26
  that
• 16:26
  are
• 16:26
  high
• 16:27
  performing,
• 16:28
  highly
• 16:28
  wanting
• 16:29
  people
• 16:29
  to
• 16:29
  just
• 16:29
  give,
• 16:30
  like
• 16:30
  we
• 16:30
  want
• 16:30
  to
• 16:31
  give
• 16:31
  of
• 16:31
  ourselves
• 16:31
  because
• 16:32
  we
• 16:32
  see
• 16:32
  the
• 16:32
  transformation
• 16:33
  happening
• 16:33
  in
• 16:33
  front
• 16:34
  of
• 16:34
  us.
• 16:34
  We
• 16:34
  see
• 16:35
  the
• 16:35
  ex,
• 16:36
  the
• 16:36
  instant
• 16:36
  gratification
• 16:37
  that
• 16:38
  we
• 16:38
  get
• 16:39
  from
• 16:39
  people
• 16:39
  being
• 16:40
  in
• 16:40
  our
• 16:40
  presence
• 16:40
  and
• 16:40
  helping
• 16:41
  them
• 16:41
  and
• 16:41
  like,
• 16:41
  oh
• 16:42
  man,
• 16:42
  that
• 16:42
  really
• 16:42
  did
• 16:42
  make
• 16:43
  their
• 16:43
  life
• 16:43
  better.
• 16:45
  But
• 16:45
  I
• 16:45
  wanna
• 16:45
  give
• 16:45
  you
• 16:46
  a
• 16:46
  boundary,
• 16:46
  maybe
• 16:47
  your
• 16:47
  first
• 16:47
  boundary
• 16:48
  to
• 16:48
  set
• 16:48
  with
• 16:48
  yourself
• 16:49
  in
• 16:49
  2026.
• 16:51
  And
• 16:51
  I
• 16:51
  say
• 16:51
  this
• 16:51
  with
• 16:51
  love
• 16:52
  because
• 16:52
  these
• 16:52
  are
• 16:52
  things
• 16:52
  that
• 16:53
  I'm
• 16:53
  having
• 16:53
  to
• 16:53
  go
• 16:53
  through
• 16:53
  too.
• 16:54
  So
• 16:54
  I
• 16:54
  don't
• 16:54
  want
• 16:54
  you
• 16:54
  to
• 16:54
  think
• 16:54
  that
• 16:55
  I'm
• 16:55
  on
• 16:55
  this
• 16:55
  pedestal
• 16:55
  here,
• 16:56
  although
• 16:56
  some
• 16:57
  people
• 16:57
  probably
• 16:57
  think
• 16:57
  that,
• 16:58
  um,
• 16:58
  that
• 16:58
  I'm
• 16:58
  on
• 16:58
  a
• 16:59
  pedestal,
• 16:59
  but
• 16:59
  I'm
• 16:59
  not.
• 17:00
  I'm
• 17:00
  just
• 17:01
  learning
• 17:01
  things.
• 17:01
  That,
• 17:02
  and
• 17:02
  sharing
• 17:02
  with
• 17:02
  you
• 17:02
  what
• 17:03
  I
• 17:03
  learn.
• 17:04
  The
• 17:04
  very
• 17:05
  first
• 17:05
  boundary,
• 17:05
  the
• 17:06
  one
• 17:06
  that
• 17:06
  changes
• 17:07
  absolutely
• 17:08
  everything.
• 17:08
  Is
• 17:08
  this,
• 17:09
  are
• 17:09
  you
• 17:09
  ready?
• 17:10
  Are
• 17:10
  you
• 17:10
  ready?
• 17:12
  I
• 17:12
  will
• 17:12
  not
• 17:12
  break
• 17:13
  commitments
• 17:13
  to
• 17:13
  myself
• 17:14
  anymore.
• 17:16
  That's
• 17:16
  it.
• 17:18
  Not
• 17:19
  10
• 17:19
  new
• 17:19
  rules,
• 17:20
  not
• 17:20
  a
• 17:20
  whole
• 17:20
  personality
• 17:21
  makeover,
• 17:21
  not
• 17:22
  a
• 17:22
  strict
• 17:22
  routine
• 17:23
  with
• 17:23
  food
• 17:23
  or
• 17:24
  exercise
• 17:24
  or
• 17:24
  house
• 17:25
  or
• 17:25
  anything
• 17:25
  like
• 17:25
  that.
• 17:26
  Just
• 17:27
  one
• 17:27
  boundary.
• 17:28
  My
• 17:29
  word
• 17:29
  to
• 17:29
  myself
• 17:30
  matters
• 17:30
  as
• 17:31
  much
• 17:31
  as
• 17:31
  my
• 17:31
  word
• 17:32
  to
• 17:32
  anyone
• 17:32
  else.
• 17:35
  And
• 17:35
  if
• 17:35
  that
• 17:35
  hit,
• 17:36
  I
• 17:36
  want
• 17:36
  you
• 17:36
  to
• 17:36
  take
• 17:36
  a
• 17:36
  screenshot
• 17:37
  of
• 17:37
  you
• 17:37
  listening
• 17:38
  to
• 17:38
  this
• 17:38
  podcast,
• 17:39
  or
• 17:39
  maybe
• 17:39
  you're
• 17:39
  just
• 17:39
  a
• 17:40
  picture
• 17:40
  of
• 17:40
  yourself.
• 17:40
  Take
• 17:40
  a
• 17:40
  selfie
• 17:41
  of
• 17:41
  you
• 17:41
  listening
• 17:42
  to
• 17:42
  this
• 17:42
  podcast
• 17:43
  episode
• 17:43
  and
• 17:43
  I
• 17:43
  want
• 17:43
  you
• 17:43
  to
• 17:43
  share
• 17:44
  it
• 17:44
  on
• 17:44
  social
• 17:44
  media.
• 17:44
  And
• 17:45
  tag
• 17:45
  me
• 17:45
  at
• 17:46
  Dr.
• 17:46
  Danielle
• 17:47
  nd
• 17:48
  and
• 17:48
  tag
• 17:48
  me
• 17:48
  and
• 17:48
  I'll
• 17:48
  share
• 17:49
  it
• 17:50
  because
• 17:50
  I
• 17:50
  wanna
• 17:51
  know
• 17:51
  how
• 17:51
  this
• 17:51
  hit.
• 17:53
  I
• 17:54
  will
• 17:54
  not
• 17:54
  break
• 17:54
  commitments
• 17:55
  to
• 17:55
  myself
• 17:55
  anymore.
• 17:56
  My
• 17:56
  word
• 17:57
  to
• 17:57
  myself
• 17:58
  matters
• 17:58
  as
• 17:59
  much
• 17:59
  as
• 17:59
  my
• 17:59
  word
• 17:59
  to
• 17:59
  anyone
• 18:00
  else.
• 18:02
  And
• 18:02
  here's
• 18:03
  the
• 18:03
  part
• 18:03
  that
• 18:03
  makes
• 18:03
  this
• 18:04
  all
• 18:04
  kind
• 18:04
  of
• 18:04
  stick
• 18:05
  together
• 18:05
  and
• 18:06
  stick
• 18:06
  to
• 18:06
  you.
• 18:08
  You
• 18:08
  don't
• 18:09
  start
• 18:09
  with
• 18:09
  hard
• 18:09
  commitments.
• 18:11
  You
• 18:11
  start
• 18:11
  with
• 18:11
  one
• 18:12
  that
• 18:12
  you
• 18:12
  can
• 18:12
  keep.
• 18:13
  Don't
• 18:13
  make
• 18:14
  promises
• 18:14
  that
• 18:14
  you
• 18:15
  can't
• 18:15
  keep.
• 18:15
  Don't
• 18:15
  make
• 18:16
  promises
• 18:16
  to
• 18:16
  yourself
• 18:16
  that
• 18:16
  you
• 18:17
  can't
• 18:17
  keep.
• 18:18
  You
• 18:18
  know
• 18:18
  what
• 18:18
  you
• 18:19
  can
• 18:19
  do.
• 18:20
  I
• 18:20
  guarantee
• 18:21
  you
• 18:21
  can
• 18:21
  drink
• 18:21
  water
• 18:22
  first
• 18:22
  thing
• 18:22
  in
• 18:22
  the
• 18:22
  morning.
• 18:23
  I
• 18:23
  guarantee
• 18:23
  you
• 18:23
  can
• 18:24
  chug
• 18:24
  eight
• 18:24
  ounces
• 18:24
  of
• 18:25
  water
• 18:25
  first
• 18:25
  thing
• 18:25
  in
• 18:25
  the
• 18:25
  morning,
• 18:26
  right?
• 18:27
  Maybe
• 18:27
  if
• 18:27
  you
• 18:27
  can
• 18:27
  do
• 18:28
  that,
• 18:28
  then
• 18:28
  you
• 18:28
  start
• 18:29
  saying,
• 18:29
  okay,
• 18:30
  I
• 18:30
  can
• 18:30
  eat
• 18:31
  breakfast
• 18:31
  with
• 18:31
  protein.
• 18:32
  I
• 18:33
  can.
• 18:33
  I
• 18:33
  can
• 18:33
  do
• 18:33
  both
• 18:34
  of
• 18:34
  those
• 18:34
  things.
• 18:35
  And
• 18:35
  then
• 18:35
  maybe
• 18:36
  once
• 18:36
  you
• 18:36
  get
• 18:36
  those
• 18:37
  two
• 18:37
  things
• 18:37
  going,
• 18:38
  you
• 18:38
  can
• 18:38
  say,
• 18:39
  you
• 18:39
  know
• 18:39
  what?
• 18:40
  I
• 18:40
  can
• 18:40
  close
• 18:40
  my
• 18:40
  eyes
• 18:41
  for
• 18:41
  a
• 18:41
  three
• 18:41
  minute
• 18:42
  prayer
• 18:42
  reset.
• 18:43
  Meet
• 18:44
  with
• 18:44
  my
• 18:44
  creator
• 18:44
  for
• 18:44
  three
• 18:45
  minutes.
• 18:46
  Then
• 18:46
  maybe
• 18:47
  once
• 18:47
  you
• 18:47
  do
• 18:47
  those
• 18:48
  things.
• 18:49
  You
• 18:49
  can
• 18:49
  walk
• 18:50
  for
• 18:50
  five
• 18:50
  minutes,
• 18:52
  then
• 18:52
  maybe
• 18:53
  once
• 18:53
  you
• 18:53
  can
• 18:53
  do
• 18:53
  those
• 18:54
  things,
• 18:55
  you
• 18:55
  can
• 18:55
  take
• 18:55
  your
• 18:55
  supplements
• 18:56
  consistently
• 18:58
  and
• 18:58
  then
• 18:58
  maybe
• 18:58
  once
• 18:59
  you
• 18:59
  do
• 18:59
  that,
• 19:00
  you
• 19:00
  can
• 19:00
  go
• 19:01
  to
• 19:01
  bed
• 19:01
  20
• 19:01
  minutes
• 19:02
  earlier.
• 19:04
  Small
• 19:04
  commitments.
• 19:06
  Are
• 19:06
  more
• 19:07
  important
• 19:08
  than
• 19:08
  big
• 19:09
  identity
• 19:09
  shifts,
• 19:09
  or,
• 19:10
  I
• 19:10
  mean,
• 19:10
  they
• 19:10
  create
• 19:11
  big
• 19:11
  identity
• 19:11
  shifts.
• 19:12
  Identity
• 19:13
  shifts
• 19:13
  before
• 19:14
  making
• 19:14
  small
• 19:15
  commitments
• 19:15
  doesn't
• 19:15
  work.
• 19:16
  That's
• 19:17
  why
• 19:17
  the
• 19:17
  work
• 19:18
  inside
• 19:18
  adventures
• 19:18
  is
• 19:18
  so
• 19:19
  powerful.
• 19:20
  I
• 19:20
  don't
• 19:20
  just
• 19:20
  give
• 19:21
  you
• 19:21
  habits,
• 19:21
  I
• 19:21
  don't
• 19:22
  give
• 19:22
  you
• 19:22
  meal
• 19:23
  plans,
• 19:23
  although
• 19:23
  you
• 19:23
  can
• 19:24
  make
• 19:24
  your
• 19:24
  own.
• 19:25
  Um,
• 19:25
  I
• 19:25
  actually
• 19:25
  have
• 19:26
  a
• 19:26
  software
• 19:26
  on
• 19:26
  there
• 19:26
  that
• 19:27
  helps
• 19:27
  you
• 19:27
  make
• 19:27
  your
• 19:27
  own.
• 19:29
  But
• 19:29
  I
• 19:29
  don't
• 19:29
  give
• 19:29
  you
• 19:29
  habits.
• 19:30
  I
• 19:30
  don't
• 19:30
  give
• 19:30
  you
• 19:30
  things.
• 19:31
  I
• 19:31
  give
• 19:32
  you
• 19:32
  an
• 19:32
  identity
• 19:33
  repair
• 19:34
  pointing
• 19:34
  you
• 19:34
  back
• 19:35
  to
• 19:35
  Jesus.
• 19:35
  The
• 19:35
  one
• 19:36
  who
• 19:36
  is
• 19:36
  our
• 19:37
  master
• 19:37
  and
• 19:38
  the
• 19:38
  women
• 19:38
  that
• 19:38
  are
• 19:38
  joining
• 19:39
  adventures
• 19:40
  are
• 19:40
  followers
• 19:40
  of
• 19:40
  Jesus
• 19:41
  and
• 19:41
  are
• 19:41
  so
• 19:41
  tired
• 19:42
  of
• 19:43
  the
• 19:43
  new
• 19:43
  age
• 19:44
  that
• 19:44
  is
• 19:44
  entering
• 19:44
  into
• 19:45
  our
• 19:45
  world.
• 19:45
  They
• 19:46
  wanna
• 19:46
  save
• 19:46
  space
• 19:47
  that
• 19:47
  they
• 19:47
  know
• 19:47
  that
• 19:47
  they
• 19:47
  can
• 19:48
  go
• 19:48
  and
• 19:48
  heal
• 19:48
  and
• 19:48
  talk
• 19:49
  about
• 19:49
  their,
• 19:50
  they
• 19:51
  want
• 19:51
  a
• 19:51
  safe
• 19:51
  space
• 19:51
  to
• 19:51
  go
• 19:51
  in
• 19:52
  and
• 19:52
  talk
• 19:52
  about
• 19:53
  all
• 19:53
  of
• 19:53
  the
• 19:53
  things
• 19:53
  in
• 19:53
  life
• 19:54
  and
• 19:54
  not
• 19:54
  just
• 19:54
  their
• 19:54
  food,
• 19:55
  not
• 19:55
  just
• 19:55
  their.
• 19:56
  Fitness,
• 19:57
  not
• 19:57
  just
• 19:57
  their
• 19:57
  functional
• 19:58
  health,
• 19:58
  but
• 19:59
  bring
• 19:59
  them
• 19:59
  their
• 20:00
  whole
• 20:00
  selves
• 20:01
  to
• 20:01
  the
• 20:01
  table.
• 20:02
  You
• 20:02
  know,
• 20:02
  just
• 20:02
  this
• 20:02
  last
• 20:02
  week
• 20:03
  I
• 20:03
  was,
• 20:03
  you
• 20:03
  know,
• 20:03
  I
• 20:03
  went
• 20:04
  on
• 20:04
  there
• 20:04
  and
• 20:04
  shared
• 20:05
  vulnerably
• 20:06
  about
• 20:06
  how
• 20:07
  I
• 20:07
  saw
• 20:08
  my
• 20:08
  husband
• 20:08
  wasn't
• 20:08
  eating
• 20:09
  enough
• 20:09
  protein
• 20:09
  at
• 20:09
  breakfast,
• 20:10
  and
• 20:10
  I
• 20:10
  realized
• 20:10
  that
• 20:10
  that
• 20:11
  was
• 20:11
  a
• 20:11
  me
• 20:11
  problem.
• 20:12
  I
• 20:12
  didn't
• 20:12
  set
• 20:13
  him
• 20:13
  up
• 20:13
  for
• 20:13
  success.
• 20:13
  And
• 20:14
  now
• 20:14
  I
• 20:14
  understand
• 20:14
  someone
• 20:15
  were
• 20:15
  gonna
• 20:15
  be
• 20:15
  like,
• 20:15
  oh,
• 20:16
  but
• 20:16
  men,
• 20:17
  you
• 20:17
  know,
• 20:17
  men
• 20:17
  can
• 20:17
  do
• 20:17
  it
• 20:18
  too
• 20:18
  if
• 20:18
  they're
• 20:18
  thinking
• 20:18
  about
• 20:19
  it.
• 20:19
  But
• 20:19
  you
• 20:19
  know
• 20:19
  what?
• 20:19
  I
• 20:19
  am
• 20:19
  the
• 20:20
  woman,
• 20:20
  the
• 20:20
  influence
• 20:20
  in
• 20:21
  the
• 20:21
  home.
• 20:21
  And
• 20:22
  if
• 20:22
  I
• 20:22
  am
• 20:22
  not
• 20:22
  influencing
• 20:23
  my
• 20:23
  husband
• 20:23
  to
• 20:23
  have
• 20:24
  and
• 20:24
  PR
• 20:24
  have.
• 20:25
  And
• 20:25
  like
• 20:25
  focus
• 20:26
  on
• 20:26
  what
• 20:26
  needs
• 20:27
  to
• 20:27
  be
• 20:27
  there
• 20:27
  for
• 20:28
  him.
• 20:28
  Then
• 20:28
  I'm
• 20:28
  setting
• 20:29
  my
• 20:29
  whole
• 20:29
  house
• 20:29
  up
• 20:30
  for
• 20:30
  failure.
• 20:31
  So
• 20:31
  they
• 20:31
  asked
• 20:32
  me,
• 20:32
  they're
• 20:32
  like,
• 20:32
  okay,
• 20:32
  well
• 20:32
  what
• 20:32
  are
• 20:32
  you
• 20:32
  gonna
• 20:33
  do
• 20:33
  for
• 20:33
  it?
• 20:33
  So
• 20:33
  this
• 20:33
  week
• 20:34
  I'm
• 20:34
  gonna
• 20:34
  go
• 20:34
  in
• 20:34
  and
• 20:34
  talk
• 20:35
  about
• 20:35
  what
• 20:35
  I
• 20:35
  did,
• 20:36
  how
• 20:36
  I
• 20:36
  set
• 20:36
  him
• 20:37
  up
• 20:37
  for
• 20:37
  success
• 20:37
  this
• 20:38
  week,
• 20:38
  and
• 20:38
  how.
• 20:40
  The,
• 20:40
  the,
• 20:41
  the
• 20:41
  coming
• 20:41
  of
• 20:42
  that,
• 20:42
  like
• 20:42
  the,
• 20:43
  um,
• 20:43
  not
• 20:43
  downfall.
• 20:44
  'cause
• 20:44
  it's
• 20:44
  not
• 20:44
  a
• 20:44
  downfall
• 20:44
  like
• 20:45
  the,
• 20:45
  um,
• 20:46
  the
• 20:46
  downwind,
• 20:47
  uh,
• 20:47
  uh,
• 20:48
  consequences.
• 20:48
  The
• 20:48
  good
• 20:49
  consequences
• 20:49
  are
• 20:49
  like
• 20:50
  the
• 20:50
  positives
• 20:50
  that
• 20:51
  come
• 20:51
  from
• 20:51
  me
• 20:51
  setting
• 20:52
  him
• 20:52
  up
• 20:52
  for
• 20:52
  a
• 20:52
  good
• 20:52
  breakfast
• 20:53
  is
• 20:53
  that
• 20:53
  he
• 20:53
  took
• 20:54
  care
• 20:54
  of
• 20:54
  me
• 20:54
  very
• 20:54
  well
• 20:55
  this
• 20:55
  week.
• 20:55
  We
• 20:56
  found
• 20:56
  out
• 20:56
  that
• 20:56
  I
• 20:56
  have
• 20:56
  a
• 20:56
  diagnosis
• 20:57
  that
• 20:58
  needs
• 20:58
  some
• 20:58
  support
• 20:59
  and
• 20:59
  he
• 20:59
  kicked
• 21:00
  into
• 21:00
  high
• 21:00
  gear
• 21:01
  because
• 21:01
  he
• 21:01
  had
• 21:02
  the
• 21:02
  energy
• 21:02
  and
• 21:02
  the
• 21:02
  mental
• 21:03
  capacity
• 21:04
  to
• 21:04
  do
• 21:04
  it.
• 21:05
  Um,
• 21:05
  there's
• 21:05
  also
• 21:06
  some
• 21:06
  other
• 21:06
  things
• 21:07
  going
• 21:07
  on
• 21:07
  that
• 21:07
  he
• 21:07
  was
• 21:08
  able
• 21:08
  to
• 21:08
  kick
• 21:08
  in
• 21:09
  with
• 21:09
  full
• 21:09
  capacity
• 21:10
  and
• 21:10
  take
• 21:10
  care
• 21:11
  of,
• 21:11
  and
• 21:11
  I
• 21:11
  didn't
• 21:11
  have
• 21:11
  to
• 21:12
  think
• 21:12
  about
• 21:12
  it
• 21:13
  and
• 21:13
  that.
• 21:14
  Is
• 21:14
  love
• 21:14
  to
• 21:14
  me,
• 21:15
  that
• 21:15
  is
• 21:15
  knowing
• 21:16
  that
• 21:16
  I'm
• 21:16
  protected
• 21:16
  and
• 21:17
  safe
• 21:17
  inside
• 21:17
  my
• 21:18
  home
• 21:18
  because
• 21:19
  he
• 21:19
  is
• 21:19
  fully,
• 21:20
  like,
• 21:20
  if
• 21:20
  I
• 21:20
  can't
• 21:21
  be
• 21:21
  all
• 21:21
  on,
• 21:21
  he's
• 21:22
  on
• 21:23
  and
• 21:23
  he's
• 21:23
  got
• 21:23
  me,
• 21:23
  he's
• 21:24
  got
• 21:24
  the
• 21:24
  family,
• 21:24
  he's
• 21:24
  got
• 21:25
  us,
• 21:25
  and
• 21:25
  he's
• 21:26
  not
• 21:26
  gonna
• 21:26
  let
• 21:26
  anything
• 21:27
  fall
• 21:27
  through
• 21:27
  the
• 21:27
  cracks
• 21:28
  with
• 21:28
  us.
• 21:28
  So
• 21:28
  that
• 21:29
  is
• 21:29
  why
• 21:30
  we
• 21:30
  talk
• 21:30
  about
• 21:31
  and
• 21:31
  bring
• 21:31
  our
• 21:31
  whole
• 21:31
  selves
• 21:32
  into
• 21:33
  adventures.
• 21:34
  And
• 21:34
  if
• 21:34
  you're
• 21:34
  listening
• 21:35
  to
• 21:35
  this
• 21:35
  and
• 21:35
  your
• 21:35
  chest
• 21:36
  feels
• 21:36
  tight,
• 21:37
  like
• 21:37
  something
• 21:38
  whispered
• 21:38
  in
• 21:38
  you,
• 21:39
  like,
• 21:39
  um,
• 21:39
  yeah,
• 21:40
  that's
• 21:40
  me.
• 21:40
  Like,
• 21:41
  I
• 21:41
  feel
• 21:41
  that
• 21:42
  if
• 21:42
  you're
• 21:42
  realizing
• 21:43
  you
• 21:43
  don't
• 21:43
  quit
• 21:44
  because
• 21:44
  that
• 21:44
  you're
• 21:44
  weak,
• 21:45
  but
• 21:45
  because
• 21:45
  you've
• 21:46
  never
• 21:47
  been
• 21:47
  taught
• 21:47
  how
• 21:47
  to
• 21:48
  stay
• 21:48
  with
• 21:49
  yourself
• 21:49
  and
• 21:50
  be
• 21:50
  truthful
• 21:51
  with
• 21:51
  yourself
• 21:52
  and
• 21:52
  actually
• 21:52
  follow
• 21:53
  through
• 21:53
  for
• 21:53
  yourself,
• 21:54
  then
• 21:54
  I
• 21:54
  want
• 21:55
  you
• 21:55
  inside
• 21:55
  adventures.
• 21:57
  This
• 21:57
  is
• 21:57
  where
• 21:57
  we
• 21:57
  repair
• 21:58
  that
• 21:58
  internal
• 21:58
  agreement
• 21:59
  issue
• 21:59
  that
• 22:00
  you've
• 22:00
  lived
• 22:01
  with
• 22:01
  your
• 22:01
  whole
• 22:02
  life.
• 22:02
  This
• 22:03
  is
• 22:03
  where
• 22:03
  you
• 22:03
  build
• 22:04
  with
• 22:04
  women.
• 22:06
  Um,
• 22:06
  who
• 22:06
  don't
• 22:07
  disappear,
• 22:07
  like
• 22:07
  these
• 22:08
  women
• 22:08
  also
• 22:08
  won't
• 22:08
  disappear
• 22:09
  alongside
• 22:10
  you.
• 22:10
  You
• 22:10
  build
• 22:11
  into
• 22:11
  the
• 22:11
  woman
• 22:12
  who
• 22:12
  doesn't
• 22:13
  disappear
• 22:13
  on
• 22:13
  herself.
• 22:15
  This
• 22:15
  is
• 22:15
  where
• 22:15
  you
• 22:15
  learn
• 22:16
  boundary
• 22:16
  setting,
• 22:17
  pattern
• 22:17
  breaking,
• 22:18
  self-leadership,
• 22:18
  and
• 22:19
  identity
• 22:19
  level
• 22:19
  change.
• 22:20
  There's
• 22:20
  no
• 22:21
  more
• 22:21
  self
• 22:21
  betrayal.
• 22:22
  There's
• 22:22
  no
• 22:23
  more
• 22:23
  quitting
• 22:23
  on
• 22:23
  yourself.
• 22:24
  There's
• 22:24
  no
• 22:24
  more
• 22:24
  disappearing
• 22:25
  from
• 22:25
  your
• 22:25
  own
• 22:26
  goals.
• 22:27
  All
• 22:27
  you
• 22:27
  have
• 22:27
  to
• 22:28
  do
• 22:28
  is
• 22:28
  click
• 22:28
  the
• 22:28
  link
• 22:28
  down
• 22:28
  below
• 22:29
  in
• 22:29
  the
• 22:29
  show
• 22:29
  notes,
• 22:29
  or
• 22:30
  come
• 22:30
  find
• 22:30
  me
• 22:30
  on
• 22:30
  Instagram
• 22:31
  and
• 22:31
  just
• 22:31
  DM
• 22:31
  me
• 22:31
  the
• 22:32
  word
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  adventure
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  and
• 22:33
  I
• 22:33
  will
• 22:33
  sit
• 22:33
  and
• 22:33
  chat
• 22:34
  with
• 22:34
  you.
• 22:34
  I
• 22:34
  would
• 22:35
  love
• 22:35
  to
• 22:35
  see
• 22:35
  you
• 22:35
  in
• 22:35
  there
• 22:36
  and
• 22:36
  support
• 22:37
  everything
• 22:38
  you
• 22:38
  need
• 22:38
  in
• 22:38
  2026.
• 22:40
  So
• 22:41
  if
• 22:41
  you
• 22:41
  wouldn't
• 22:41
  mind.
• 22:42
  Please
• 22:42
  share
• 22:43
  this
• 22:43
  episode
• 22:43
  with
• 22:43
  a
• 22:43
  friend
• 22:44
  who
• 22:44
  also
• 22:44
  struggles
• 22:45
  with,
• 22:45
  with
• 22:46
  taking
• 22:46
  care
• 22:46
  of
• 22:46
  herself
• 22:47
  and
• 22:47
  thinks
• 22:48
  it's
• 22:48
  all
• 22:48
  her
• 22:48
  fault,
• 22:49
  like
• 22:49
  that
• 22:49
  she
• 22:49
  just
• 22:49
  can't
• 22:50
  keep
• 22:50
  up
• 22:50
  with
• 22:50
  another
• 22:50
  thing.
• 22:51
  Let
• 22:52
  her
• 22:52
  know
• 22:52
  that
• 22:52
  she's
• 22:52
  not
• 22:53
  broken,
• 22:53
  that
• 22:53
  she
• 22:53
  just
• 22:54
  needs
• 22:54
  new
• 22:54
  internal
• 22:55
  agreements,
• 22:56
  and
• 22:56
  I'll
• 22:56
  see
• 22:56
  you
• 22:57
  on
• 22:57
  the
• 22:57
  inside.
• 22:59
  Thanks
• 23:00
  for
• 23:00
  listening
• 23:00
  to
• 23:00
  The
• 23:00
  Crying
• 23:00
  in
• 23:01
  My
• 23:01
  Cheesecake
• 23:01
  podcast.
• 23:02
  If
• 23:02
  this
• 23:02
  episode
• 23:02
  spoke
• 23:03
  to
• 23:03
  you
• 23:03
  even
• 23:03
  in
• 23:03
  the
• 23:03
  smallest
• 23:04
  way,
• 23:04
  don't
• 23:04
  keep
• 23:04
  it
• 23:04
  to
• 23:04
  yourself.
• 23:05
  Share
• 23:05
  it
• 23:05
  with
• 23:05
  a
• 23:06
  friend
• 23:06
  who's
• 23:06
  ready
• 23:06
  for
• 23:06
  a
• 23:06
  real
• 23:07
  change
• 23:07
  and
• 23:08
  listen.
• 23:08
  Your
• 23:08
  next
• 23:09
  step
• 23:09
  matters.
• 23:09
  Check
• 23:10
  the
• 23:10
  show
• 23:10
  notes
• 23:10
  for
• 23:10
  links,
• 23:11
  resources,
• 23:11
  and
• 23:11
  ways
• 23:12
  to
• 23:12
  work
• 23:12
  with
• 23:12
  me.
• 23:12
  Whether
• 23:12
  you're
• 23:13
  ready
• 23:13
  to
• 23:13
  step
• 23:13
  into
• 23:13
  adventures,
• 23:14
  join
• 23:15
  the
• 23:15
  Wilderness
• 23:15
  of
• 23:15
  Wellness
• 23:15
  community,
• 23:16
  or
• 23:16
  come
• 23:16
  hang
• 23:17
  out
• 23:17
  with
• 23:17
  me
• 23:17
  on
• 23:17
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• 23:18
  or
• 23:18
  Telegram.
• 23:19
  And
• 23:19
  if
• 23:19
  you
• 23:19
  made
• 23:19
  it
• 23:19
  to
• 23:19
  the
• 23:19
  end,
• 23:20
  come
• 23:20
  tell
• 23:20
  me.
• 23:20
  Send
• 23:20
  me
• 23:21
  a
• 23:21
  DM
• 23:21
  on
• 23:21
  Instagram
• 23:22
  and
• 23:22
  tell
• 23:22
  me.
• 23:22
  What
• 23:23
  hit
• 23:23
  home
• 23:23
  for
• 23:23
  you
• 23:23
  today?
• 23:24
  I
• 23:24
  read
• 23:24
  every
• 23:25
  single
• 23:25
  one
• 23:25
  of
• 23:25
  your
• 23:25
  comments
• 23:26
  and
• 23:26
  emails.
• 23:26
  I'm
• 23:27
  cheering
• 23:27
  for
• 23:27
  you.
• 23:27
  I'm
• 23:28
  praying
• 23:28
  over
• 23:28
  you,
• 23:29
  and
• 23:29
  I'll
• 23:29
  see
• 23:29
  you
• 23:30
  in
• 23:30
  the
• 23:30
  next
• 23:30
  episode.