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I Thought God Revealed My Future Husband (Part 2)...But He Married Someone Else · Kingdom Spouse Disappointment | Healing, Heartbreak, God Revealed Relationship, The One,

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  This is it. This is exactly what God showed me. This is the promise.
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  Maybe you've been there too. Maybe you reached a point where everything seemed to make sense.
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  The timing, the relationship, the confirmations, everything just seemed to fit
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  together like pieces of a puzzle.
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  And then everything and then everything changed.
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  Have you ever believed god showed you your future spouse,
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  only for the relationship to end or never even begin,
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  you are not alone welcome to kingdom spouse disappointment a space for honest
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  conversations about Christian dating, heartbreak, and healing.
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  If you've ever said, I thought God told me they were the one, this podcast is for you.
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  Here, we process the pain, rebuild the trust in God, and rediscover hope.
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  One honest conversation at a time.
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  Hi, everyone. Welcome back to Kingdom Spouse Disappointment.
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  Now, my name is Lori. I'm your host. And if you have not listened to the previous
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  episode, which I shared part one of my story,
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  when I thought God showed me who my future spouse was, then I would love to
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  encourage you to just go back,
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  Take a listen to that episode first because today's episode picks up right where we left off.
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  Now last week I shared how I met someone I believed God had brought into my life.
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  I shared the prayers I prayed as a teenager, the dreams, the confirmations,
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  the scriptures, the peace I felt.
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  Just everything, and eventually the engagement.
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  Now at that point after being engaged I truly believed,
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  every single confirmation every single sign that I have received over the time
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  over the years have finally come full circle I thought this is it,
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  this is exactly what God showed me this is the promise,
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  and maybe you've been there too maybe you've reached a point where everything
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  seemed to make sense the timing,
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  the relationship the confirmations everything just seemed to fit together like
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  pieces of a puzzle and then and then everything changed,
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  And for me,
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  everything just seemed to change in the blink of an eye.
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  Or engagement ended. The relationship ended. And honestly, I don't think there
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  are enough words to describe what I felt.
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  I was heartbroken.
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  I was confused. I was disappointed. I cried.
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  I cried so hard. I cried. I cried. I cried for breakfast.
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  I cried for lunch. I cried for dinner. I cried for supper.
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  My tears really felt like they were my food. I I cried.
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  I cried so hard. And I questioned everything, right?
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  But, you know, if I'm honest, the breakup wasn't the hardest part.
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  The broken engagement was not the hardest part.
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  The hardest part was what it did to my faith.
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  The hardest part was what it did to my relationship with God.
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  The hardest part was what it did to my faith, what it did to my relationship with God.
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  Because, to be honest, no, I wasn't just asking why did this relationship end.
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  I was asking, God, what happened?
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  God, where were you in the midst of this all?
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  Were you speaking to me? Did I misunderstand you? Did I do something wrong?
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  Did I make this up?
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  Right? And if you've ever experienced kingdom spouse disappointment,
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  then you know exactly what I'm talking about.
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  The relationship ends, or it probably didn't even begin, but the questions,
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  they don't end. They never end.
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  And for me, something happened that made it even harder.
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  Yeah so several months later my kingdom spouse got married.
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  He got married and he didn't get married to me.
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  He got married not to me, but to someone else.
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  And I won't pretend that that wasn't painful. It was because in my mind,
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  I had already pictured our future.
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  I had imagined the wedding the marriage the lives we would build together the
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  family the dreams just everything and suddenly,
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  i had to grieve not only the loss of a relationship but the loss of an entire
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  future i believe god had shown me,
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  and maybe you've had to grieve something similar not just what happened but
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  what you thought was going to happen.
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  Yeah so everyone has their their story their own version of,
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  what happened to them what didn't happen to them what they wanted to happen
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  what did not happen everyone has their own version of what they experienced.
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  But something common that I would say all of us experience is just that underlying
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  disappointment when you believe God said this is what's gonna happen.
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  But it didn't.
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  It didn't materialize some way or the next.
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  And one of the hardest things after the breakup for me was just replaying every
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  experience over and over again.
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  Replaying the dreams, replaying the scriptures, replaying the signs,
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  replaying all those moments that felt so significant.
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  I just kept on asking myself, what did I miss?
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  Where did I get it wrong? Like, what happened?
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  And I'm sure you've asked yourselves those same questions.
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  Maybe you've replayed every conversation, every prophetic word,
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  every dream, and you're just there trying to figure out what happened and if
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  that's you I want you to know that you're not alone and,
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  I wish I really wish I could tell you I immediately had all the answers I didn't healing wasn't instant,
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  understanding and learning didn't
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  come overnight but over time God yes God began teaching me something,
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  he began teaching me that my relationship with him had to become deeper,
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  than my understanding of that relationship that i believe was my kingdom spouse So yeah,
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  he had to teach me that my understanding of who he is as God,
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  had to matter more than the understanding I had of what I believed would have
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  happened in that relationship.
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  He began showing me that I could bring him my disappointment.
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  I could come lay my confusion at his feet, lay my tears at his feet,
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  lay my unanswered questions at his feet.
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  And he wasn't intimidated by any of it.
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  He is not intimidated by your tears by your anger by your frustration by the
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  hurt and the pain he is not,
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  he is not and one of the biggest lessons that,
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  that i'm still learning and my prayer is that you will also learn and continue
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  to learn is that faith is not pretending that everything makes sense,
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  it isn't faith is continuing to trust god's character when life doesn't make
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  sense i don't remember exactly where the scripture is from is it hebrews.
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  Somebody let me know. I don't know. But it says, Faith is the substance of things.
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  I hope I'm quoting it right. It says something like, Faith is the substance
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  of the things hoped for, the evidence of things unseen.
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  Paraphrasing in my own words, Faith is continuing to trust God's character when
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  life doesn't make sense.
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  It's the evidence of what you can't see.
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  It's the evidence and the hope you have in who God is.
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  Yeah, and once again, for each of us, our story might be different.
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  Maybe you never got engaged. Maybe for you, the relationship never even started.
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  Maybe the person chose someone else or maybe you're still waiting.
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  Maybe you're wondering if you'll ever trust yourself or God again.
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  And if that's where you are, I want you to know that your disappointment is
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  real. Your grief is real.
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  The one million questions in your head are real. But your story isn't over.
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  And I know it may not feel like that today, and that's okay.
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  That is okay. That is okay.
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  But the God who met me in my heartbreak is the same God who can and will meet you in yours.
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  He's still near. He still loves you.
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  And He is still able to bring beauty from ashes.
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  He's able to give you joy in the morning he will turn your mourning and your
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  grieving into dancing right and that's not because the pain wasn't real,
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  that's because he's just good and his redemption Sean is realer than the pain.
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  He is still writing your story, right?
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  And before we end today's episode, I want to leave you with three thoughts. Now, number one.
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  You're not the only Christian who has believed God was leading you towards a
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  relationship that didn't work out.
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  Right? I believe there is a scripture that says there is no temptation or situation
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  on earth that is not common to man.
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  Something of the sort. Once again, I don't mind if you go ahead and actually,
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  drop the quoted scripture in the comment section.
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  Right that is totally fine but practically what it's letting you know is that.
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  What you go through other persons have are or will go through it and that's
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  not to belittle the experience but that's to bring some form of comfort and
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  support so that's number one,
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  right you're not the only one who believed that and,
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  you are not alone now number two is that a disappointing relationship does not
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  have to become a disappointing relationship with god,
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  once again a disappointing kingdom spouse relationship christian relationship.
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  Godly relationship the one relationship facing disappointment,
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  in a christian relationship does not have to equate to a disappointing relationship with god,
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  you may have questions you may need time to heal,
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  but don't give up on the god who loves you because he never gives up on you,
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  right in the scriptures it says that even we say even when we don't remain faithful
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  even we're faithless he remains faithful you feel like you're giving up he will
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  never give up on you and lastly,
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  number three this chapter is a part of your story.
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  Now you might feel like okay this is the end of my story.
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  My book is done.
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  The book of my life is done. I'm devastated. And yes, you are devastated.
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  But this is just a chapter of your story.
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  And God is the author and the finisher of your story.
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  Right so this is not the end of your story,
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  and he who began a good work in you in your life in your story in,
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  whatever it is in your hopes for a relationship he who began that good work in you,
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  he will see to completion,
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  god doesn't start things and then just leave them hanging No, he completes his work.
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  And even if you don't understand the in-between of it all, and even if this
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  seems like the end of the story, this is just a small chapter.
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  And he knows how to bring this story to an expected end.
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  Because he says, I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you,
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  plans to not to harm you, but plans to prosper you so that you can have hope and an expected end.
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  And that's my prayer for you, that you will believe in your heart,
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  that his plans for you are those of hope,
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  and that this is just a small chapter of your story and he will beautifully
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  write your story to be one of hope and one that will have an expected end.
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  Yeah, and I really believe one day you'll be able to look back,
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  you know, we all will be able to look back and see that,
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  even in the middle of heartbreak, God was and is and still continues to write something beautiful.
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  Now, thank you so much for spending this time with me.
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  Next week, I want you to join me again, right?
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  Because in the upcoming weeks, over the next few episodes, I'm going to share
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  what God has been teaching me about discerning His voice,
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  about rebuilding trust in him and how to really heal, right?
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  So definitely stay tuned.
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  Definitely, definitely stay tuned and be blessed.
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  My name is Lori, your host, and
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  I look forward to chatting with you and supporting you along this journey.
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  See you next week.