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When Questioning Yourself Is a Sign to Walk Away, Not Do More Inner Work · Intuitive Coaching with Amy Radio

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  Speaker 1: Hi, it's Amy with Intuitive Coaching with Amy Radio. This
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  Speaker 1: is your sacred space for spiritual clarity, energetic alignment, and
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  Speaker 1: remembering who you are today. We're going to talk about
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  Speaker 1: something that is rarely spoken of in spiritual circles and
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  Speaker 1: in personal development spaces, the difference between knowing when you're
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  Speaker 1: being called to grow and when you actually need to
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  Speaker 1: practice energetic self protection. This show is for you if
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  Speaker 1: you've been feeling emotionally shaken, foggy, suddenly uncertain of yourself,
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  Speaker 1: questioning your confidence, not because something deep within you needs
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  Speaker 1: to be healed, but because of a very particular kind
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  Speaker 1: of energy you've recently encountered. Let's talk about what really
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  Speaker 1: happens when someone enters your life and you start to
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  Speaker 1: question everything, and it'll show up like a sign if
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  Speaker 1: you're questioning a lot. I want to start here. I
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  Speaker 1: just went through this. I encountered an energy and it
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  Speaker 1: made me feel like I needed to question all these
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  Speaker 1: aspects of myself and what I had to stop and realize.
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  Speaker 1: Believe me, I immediately wanted to run to my journal
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  Speaker 1: and be like, oh my god, I got to work
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  Speaker 1: through all of these things. Why is it like this? Right?
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  Speaker 1: And I thought it was me, but in actuality, the
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  Speaker 1: way it was presenting itself, it was a very solid
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  Speaker 1: energy that I was encountering, and signs present as very solid,
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  Speaker 1: almost immovable, because what they are is just information. And
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  Speaker 1: so it took me a moment to reorient myself and
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  Speaker 1: see it as just information. I was like, oh, this
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  Speaker 1: is a sign that this is not an energy I
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  Speaker 1: need to be around. It has nothing to do with
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  Speaker 1: am I healed enough. It just is a sign I
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  Speaker 1: need to move away from this type of energy. And
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  Speaker 1: so it could be for you. It could be a colleague,
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  Speaker 1: it could be someone you hired, It could be a friend,
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  Speaker 1: it could be a family member, it could be a client.
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  Speaker 1: And suddenly, after being around them, or interacting with them,
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  Speaker 1: or engaging them or working on whatever you're working on
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  Speaker 1: with them, you begin to question the foundation of who
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  Speaker 1: you are. You question if you're even good enough at
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  Speaker 1: what you do. You question if you're safe, You question
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  Speaker 1: if you're sane, You question if you're spiritually strong enough.
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  Speaker 1: You question whether you've healed enough, You question your belief system,
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  Speaker 1: and worst of all, you turn that questioning inward and
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  Speaker 1: you think, well, I must not be evolved enough. I
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  Speaker 1: need to go and do some more work on myself.
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  Speaker 1: But here's the truth. This is not an invitation to
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  Speaker 1: fix yourself. It's your intuition guiding you, showing you that
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  Speaker 1: this energy is not for you. Get clear, step back,
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  Speaker 1: move away. So, if you're encountering an energy that's making
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  Speaker 1: you question everything, stop stop. It's just a sign that
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  Speaker 1: that is not the right energy for you to be around. Now.
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  Speaker 1: Will there be instances and circumstances and people that show
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  Speaker 1: up and help you go to your next level, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: but it's very different than what I'm talking about. That's
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  Speaker 1: more like, you know, a sprinkle, right, it's a sprinkle.
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  Speaker 1: But if your full interaction with someone has made you
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  Speaker 1: fully and completely question who you are, and it doesn't
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  Speaker 1: necessarily even need to you don't need to villainize them
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  Speaker 1: in the product. But if it's making you just question
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  Speaker 1: your whole interaction with them is making you question, that
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  Speaker 1: is a spiritual sign to move away from that person,
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  Speaker 1: because chances are you probably really don't even like that person,
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  Speaker 1: You don't enjoy their company. Something about that interaction you
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  Speaker 1: feel like you need it, So that's why you're you know,
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  Speaker 1: you have to look at that. But the reason why
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  Speaker 1: you're even subjecting yourself to that question is because of
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  Speaker 1: that whatever, that thing you've convinced yourself you need. But
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  Speaker 1: if you were to step back from it and you
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  Speaker 1: didn't have that need, and somebody showed up in your
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  Speaker 1: world and energy showed up in your world that was
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  Speaker 1: making you question yourself, you would instantly see, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: I don't need to be around you. No, no, nope,
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  Speaker 1: I don't need to be around you. This energy is
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  Speaker 1: not for me. I'm moving away from that, right. But
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  Speaker 1: it's usually connected to type of need within you. That's
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  Speaker 1: that's the best way I can describe it. I when
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  Speaker 1: I first when I wrote my first novel, when I
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  Speaker 1: finished the first creative draft of the novel, or the
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  Speaker 1: first draft, I didn't have a process at that time
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  Speaker 1: the way I do now. I had done some research
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  Speaker 1: on what do you do you finish your novel, and
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  Speaker 1: you know, the recommendation was to pass along to some
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  Speaker 1: beta readers and get some feedback, and so I immediately
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  Speaker 1: you know, that was when I was active on Facebook.
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  Speaker 1: I have not touched Facebook in years, but that was
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  Speaker 1: when I was active on Facebook, and I jumped into
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  Speaker 1: a reader's group and I started asking you know for
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  Speaker 1: beta readers, and so I wind up connecting with three
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  Speaker 1: different people, and two of them were, you know, I
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  Speaker 1: sent the workout. Two of them were. They gave me
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  Speaker 1: saying right feet back, just like, hey, here's what I thought.
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  Speaker 1: You know. They didn't go in like deep, deep depth,
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  Speaker 1: And it definitely didn't make me question my character and
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  Speaker 1: it didn't make me question my work. It was just insight, right,
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  Speaker 1: That's what the platform was for. They enjoyed reading the
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  Speaker 1: work and being a part of the process in that way,
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  Speaker 1: and I enjoyed being able to share the work with someone.
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  Speaker 1: And in that exchange, I got feedback and it was natural,
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  Speaker 1: normal and regular, and I took that guidance and used
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  Speaker 1: it and made the work better. There was a third
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  Speaker 1: person and I me, and this woman lit into me.
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  Speaker 1: She started trying to rewrite whole sections, tried to turn
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  Speaker 1: my hero into another character. And I spent the weekend
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  Speaker 1: and I was still married. I remember laying on the
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  Speaker 1: couch and my ex husband was milling around and I
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  Speaker 1: was just going back and forth and questioning everything about myself.
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  Speaker 1: And I felt shame and I felt embarrassed, and I felt,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, am I just not good at this
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  Speaker 1: and you know, looking back, you know, if I could
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  Speaker 1: go and whisper in my ear at that time, I
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  Speaker 1: would say, girl, you're getting ready to lose three days
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  Speaker 1: of your life thinking about this. With all due respect
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  Speaker 1: to her, crazy woman, and this is just a sign
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  Speaker 1: that she's the wrong beta reader for you. This is
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  Speaker 1: just a sign that she probably shouldn't be a beta reader.
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  Speaker 1: Here it is. You got two sane pieces of feedback,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and each of them took their own approach.
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  Speaker 1: One woman was, you know, very just light. This is
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  Speaker 1: what I liked about the story, This is where you
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  Speaker 1: might want to improve. Another one went into more detail,
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  Speaker 1: this is what I liked, and she had a better
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  Speaker 1: understanding of like the romance world, and she gave me
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  Speaker 1: some insight there. This woman didn't do any of that.
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  Speaker 1: She just made me question myself. That was my sign.
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  Speaker 1: And it's an immovable questioning. It feels like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: like I can't get past this. That's all it is
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  Speaker 1: wrong energy, wrong person. Move away from them. That's the
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  Speaker 1: cue that you're getting in that moment. So if you've
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  Speaker 1: been in situations like this, I want you to take
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  Speaker 1: this to heart and say, hey, yes, I'm responsible for
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  Speaker 1: how I respond to people. Yes, my inner growth is
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  Speaker 1: a lifelong experience. Yes, spiritual maturity is a part of
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  Speaker 1: my path. But being in the presence of some misaligned
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  Speaker 1: energy is not a spiritual requirement. It's not.
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  Speaker 2: A right of passage. It's not a test that I
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  Speaker 2: need to pass. It's a redirection. It's a boundary, a
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  Speaker 2: message from your internal wisdom system, your nervous system. Even
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  Speaker 2: that's saying this dynamic is not for you. This dynamic
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  Speaker 2: will not expand your soul. You will not get what
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  Speaker 2: you need from this dynamic. It is spiritually eroding. It
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  Speaker 2: is going against your greater truth. It is not making
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  Speaker 2: you better.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, I think, just you know, on a
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  Speaker 1: spiritual side, and I'll speak in this language, but you
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  Speaker 1: can translate it however way you want. I think that
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  Speaker 1: evil will always try to sneak into whatever we're up
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  Speaker 1: to have a way in which you perceive evil. If
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  Speaker 1: the whole goal of lower negative forces is to take
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  Speaker 1: you away from your divine truth, to take you away
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  Speaker 1: from God, to take you away from your sword, to
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  Speaker 1: take make you away from high vibrational feelings, here it
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  Speaker 1: was I was feeling so high vibrational about this work
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  Speaker 1: and doing it, and I get all this high vibrational support.
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  Speaker 1: That's that's you know, I keep using this word saying, right,
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  Speaker 1: like they gave me just good basic wisdom, right that
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  Speaker 1: I could use, and then come this third source. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that's where they're going to disrupt that harmony, that connection,
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  Speaker 1: that joy. Right. And so I'm not making necessarily, not
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  Speaker 1: necessarily saying this woman is evil. She probably was, honestly,
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  Speaker 1: because it did get even messier after that, but I'm
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  Speaker 1: not saying she was. But let's just say that that
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  Speaker 1: energy seeped into this experience. I just needed to see
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  Speaker 1: it for what it was. The fact that it was
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  Speaker 1: so contrasting to what I'd been experiencing and the energy
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  Speaker 1: I was holding. That's your cue that something funky has
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  Speaker 1: come in. It not for your highest and greatest good.
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  Speaker 1: It's not a vibrational match, and it wasn't. It was
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  Speaker 1: so left field. And I think because when we encounter
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  Speaker 1: these types of energies, it feels so jarring and it
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  Speaker 1: feels so different than the space that we're in that
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  Speaker 1: we start questioning, well, this must mean something, but it doesn't.
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  Speaker 1: Well it doesn't mean something, means move away from them quickly, right,
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't mean anything about you personally. It's just again
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  Speaker 1: a redirection, an opportunity for you to get clear about
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  Speaker 1: boundaries and setting boundaries. And it's your cue that, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I don't have to listen to everything, and if it's
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  Speaker 1: not supporting my soul, if it's not supporting my well being,
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  Speaker 1: if it's not enhancing my experience, then I move away
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  Speaker 1: from it. Now here's the line. There's one part of
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  Speaker 1: this where you could say, well, oh, she was just
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  Speaker 1: giving you, you know, criticism. It wasn't even that she
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  Speaker 1: really was trying to rewrite the work. It wasn't criticism.
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  Speaker 1: The other women gave me their opinions, both positively and negatively.
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  Speaker 1: It's not that. It's when you're around this type of energy,
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  Speaker 1: all you can experience is low, vibrational, heavy. It makes
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  Speaker 1: you feel like you're upside down. That is your cue
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  Speaker 1: that this is an energy you don't need to be around.
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  Speaker 1: You just need to protect yourself and walk away, step away,
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  Speaker 1: move away from it. Right, So, you're not weak because
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  Speaker 1: you felt rattled. You're not fragile because someone threw you
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  Speaker 1: off center. You're not behind in your healing journey because
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  Speaker 1: you had a human response to chaos, because that's what
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  Speaker 1: it is. It's chaos, it's evil. Right. What you are
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  Speaker 1: is sensitive, what you are is aware, what you are
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  Speaker 1: is honest enough with yourself to feel that, hey, this
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  Speaker 1: feels terrible. If you think about low vibrational energy evil,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to use that word. You can pick another word.
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  Speaker 1: It feels terrible. So if you're in a situation that
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  Speaker 1: feels just oh so gross and nasty and you can't
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  Speaker 1: see the light anywhere, that's probably your cue that you
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  Speaker 1: just need to move away from that energy. It's not
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  Speaker 1: an energy that needs to be in your life. So
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  Speaker 1: it's not a flaw. It's a gift. It's your inner
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  Speaker 1: warning system, it's your inner wisdom system, it's your intuition,
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  Speaker 1: it's your spirit guides, it's all that is holy within you, saying,
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  Speaker 1: get away from that, right, get away from that. So,
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  Speaker 1: if this episode is speaking to you, if you have
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  Speaker 1: experienced situations like this and it took you on a
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  Speaker 1: tail spend and you wish you had someone that could
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  Speaker 1: have brought you back to center sooner so that you
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  Speaker 1: could see clearly and move towards what is for your good,
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  Speaker 1: so that you could have a real spiritual dialogue that
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  Speaker 1: engages that which is magical and wonderful within you. Then
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  Speaker 1: I would like you to consider my one year Intuitive
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  Speaker 1: who are done with gaslighting themselves, who are done with
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  Speaker 1: apologizing for their sensitivity, who are ready to move into
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  Speaker 1: an empowered relationship with their energy. Together, together we create
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  Speaker 1: a space where you don't just learn how to cope
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  Speaker 1: with energy, because that's essentially what I'm describing to you.
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  Speaker 1: That happens when we encounter these energies. We think we
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  Speaker 1: need to heal more, but really we're trying to tell
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  Speaker 1: ourselves I need to figure out a way to better cope. No,
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  Speaker 1: you don't. You just need to learn to master it
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  Speaker 1: because knowing when to walk away is sacred and trusting
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  Speaker 1: your sensitivity is strength, not weakness. You will develop this
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  Speaker 1: You can learn more and enroll at Intuitive Coaching with
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  Speaker 1: Amy dot com. So let's get back. You don't need
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  Speaker 1: to twist yourself into spiritual notts a spiritual pretzel. You
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  Speaker 1: don't need to do a whole bunch of stuff, get
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  Speaker 1: in your journal, take another course, work on your self esteem.
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  Speaker 1: You just need to accept that this is not a
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  Speaker 1: connection that was ever meant for you, never meant for you. You
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  Speaker 1: don't have to prove your emotional resilience by staying around
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  Speaker 1: it and shrinking and trying harder, praying more, doing more rituals,
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  Speaker 1: carrying your crystals. Now, you just need to get away
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  Speaker 1: from this energy. And you don't need to reprogram yourself
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  Speaker 1: to tolerate what your soul has already told you. You
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  Speaker 1: don't need your soul gets to reject things all the time,
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  Speaker 1: and we need to let it. That's how you know
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  Speaker 1: that something's for your highest and greatest good and something
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  Speaker 1: that's not. That's how you stay on your path towards
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  Speaker 1: your desires and you don't get swept up in these
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  Speaker 1: tidal wave of feelings that come from being around this energy. Again,
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  Speaker 1: going back to my story, I was on the couch
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  Speaker 1: for three days pondering everything that this woman had told me, right,
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  Speaker 1: and also, you know, just dealing with the aggressiveness of
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  Speaker 1: her energy and the abruptness of her energy and what
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  Speaker 1: does that mean, and questioning myself, questioning my work during
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  Speaker 1: this very tender moment when I just created something for
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  Speaker 1: the first time. It was the first time I had
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  Speaker 1: finished a full manuscript, and here it is this energy
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  Speaker 1: shows up again. If I could go back and tell
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  Speaker 1: that version of myself, I'd say, girl, delete every message
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  Speaker 1: from this woman, block her, and focus on moving to
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  Speaker 1: the next step of this process. There is nothing she
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  Speaker 1: said that was valid. And yes it feels emotionally sticky
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  Speaker 1: right now, but that is not a reflection of me,
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  Speaker 1: and it's not a reflection of the work. And this
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  Speaker 1: is just a natural response when you encounter evil or
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  Speaker 1: chaos or someone who is seeking destruction instead of harmony.
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  Speaker 1: So you can choose something better. You can surround yourself
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  Speaker 1: with people and energies that amplify your knowing, that celebrate
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  Speaker 1: your gifts, that honor your depth. You don't have to
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  Speaker 1: work harder to belong. You don't have to change yourself
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  Speaker 1: so that you fit in with these types of energies.
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  Speaker 1: You just have to be willing to walk away when
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  Speaker 1: your spirit says that not that. Nope, Nope, no nope.
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  Speaker 1: So acknowledge that if someone has shown up and it's
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  Speaker 1: causing you to question everything about yourself and a lot
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  Speaker 1: of heavy emotions will come up, Shame, embarrassment, doubt. If
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  Speaker 1: that's all that they are giving you in that moment,
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  Speaker 1: and it could be that one time they give you
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  Speaker 1: something different, But in that moment, if all they're giving you,
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  Speaker 1: that is your cue that it no longer serves you
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  Speaker 1: and you get to move away from it. Nope, not
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  Speaker 1: that one. Nope, Okay, we're done. There's no more reason
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  Speaker 1: to process this. Let me just shut the door on
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  Speaker 1: that and move on. So I hope this is helpful.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening. I hope this message
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  Speaker 1: reached someone at the exact right moment that they needed it,
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  Speaker 1: because again, I would have loved to have heard someone
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  Speaker 1: talk about this when I was on that couch. Thank
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  Speaker 1: you one more time for listening to the show. Until
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  Speaker 1: next time, May you walk in your journey with certainty,
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  Speaker 1: with clarity, with good people surrounding you. May you be
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  Speaker 1: a vibrational match to all that is good and all
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  Speaker 1: that is holy. Thank you so much, Thank you so much,
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Take care of yourself. Goodbye,