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This Doesn't Make Sense: Trusting God In New Territory | FT Amber Jones | EP 51 · Jess Ask

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  Yo, it's your girl Jessica and Smith, and you already know that you've
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  entered the safe space for influencers to decompress, have fun and just ask God
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  for another Do you already know what it is? And then you know it's
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  about to get real. To be sure to show your girl the love and
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  like, come in and subscribe God for another day? Hey, hey,
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  I know we could be another way, kay? Really, Maria, you
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  got girls up? That's right, be a girl girl. I had to
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  mind. I'm still getting there, I know. But your all your friends
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  thugs anyway, I know all your friends. I'm just the isolated person.
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  See them some thuds. They are not really girly girls girls of us?
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  They real right, Okay, we're recording already, Ray dog go y'all?
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  Why do I do this every week? Why do I do this every week?
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  Hey? Y'all's your girl Jessica s. Smith and I want to welcome
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  you guys to the podcast. Jessica as what what did I just say?
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  What did I just say? Jessica Smith? Why am I repeat myself?
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  Just ask the podcast where we create a safe space for influencers to decompress,
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  have fun and guess what just as I am super excited today because y'all know
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  that list I always talk about. It's somebody here from the list. They
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  help from the list, okay, and they are from the best side,
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  Okay, the west side, all right, west side. But before I
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  introduce the woman, a guy does al ray? Hey, deesil ray does
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  ray? Does a ray? Does a ray? Does a ray? Does
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  a ray? She on the mic, but not on a camera. If
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  somebody wants to invest another camera into this platform, please do, because I
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  know y'all be sick of it. Sick of it. Just y'all looking at
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  me. Hear you, y'all don't say in the comments, but I hear
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  you. I hear you, y'all. The woman that we have here,
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  the guests that we have here today, if if drip was for sale,
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  she would sell it, Okay, if creativity was on a platter, she
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  would have it on the silver one. Because babe, listen, I don't
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  think that there's anything that she touches that doesn't look good, that she exposes
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  that don't look good. Baby out here outsiding with her creativity, Okay,
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  I have none other than Birmingham's finest West side of Birmingham's finalist, the Amber
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  Jones. Y'all give it up. My girl a creative e, big planner
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  design. I don't know, and I'm still learning that space. But now
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  I most of y'all know how for being the cake lady. The cake lady.
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  But you bake them cakes, I do bake them, stack them,
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  doing something everything, stack them. I don't understand how you do that.
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  But we're gonna, we're gonna get into Let me not go too fast because
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  sometimes I take the people too fast. I'm so excited. I'm excited too.
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  It's a new avenue for me. So right, they're writing skills because
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  you write on Facebook. If they read, if they read, and I'm
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  very poetic, poetic and the justice okay, like I love it. Like
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  you had a whole nineties thing and everybody was looking like poetic, right right?
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  Not his thing? Birthday party? Was that your thirtieth? Yeah,
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  my thirtieth? Oh my goodness, what made you want to hell? Well,
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  in your backyard? In my backyard invited people, You invited the people.
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  I'm a thing person. Everything has to be coordinated, everything has to
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  be you know, just decoratives. So that's just it's just something that came
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  to mind today, like, well, not the day, but the year,
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  Like I want to do a night this cookout, and it came.
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  It turned out very good. It was beautiful. I wish I can and
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  my husband even dressed up. Listen, Shout out to your husband, because
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  y'all thick and thin, twin, where have you been? Like? That's
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  that's y'all. Nobody loves me like you. Like if it was an example,
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  y'all would be it because y'all been riding for the longest. Y'all have
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  been rased thirteen going on fourteen years together married. It would be eight years
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  this year. So wow, y'all got three kids, three beautiful kids.
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  They all look alike just like my baby daddy. You can't you ain't the
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  game, but he came. No, no, that's just my daddy.
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  You know that yours because you had them right right Listen, it'd be like
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  that sometimes sometimes they had a strong jeans. I wouldn't know it yet because
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  I don't have none. I'm a dog mom, but yeah, not yet.
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  You know we're gonna we're gonna wait patience you already know. And they
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  keep me a chick, right okay, because y'all got both of y'all got
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  three kids, both of y'all. Anyway, I'm talking to her like she's
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  my friend, because y'all we are listen, childhood, childhood, Brown Elementary,
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  first place I met him. I had a crush on Matthew Coveting during
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  that time. You know what I'm saying. I'm saying it on the cap
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  of the day. Him a steel fat man. He was so nice.
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  He was so nice. But you vibe it's always been chilled, always been
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  the basketball player. I remember when we have breaks, she would always want
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  to go to the court. And so it was interesting to me to see
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  you transition from the basketball player. Because first, let me let me acknowledge
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  this Fairfield High School. Wasn't it the first woman the very history in history
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  twenty ten championship of basketball. I don't know the division so five A right,
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  they won the championship and I was them. Oh baby, I was
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  there because I was playing with somebody in my gummy right. Yeah, listen,
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  that game was so good. That game was so good. So this
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  like this girl really like when I say loving basketball, if that's the her
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  husband, like the coach, like loving basketball, like reenact me seriously,
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  Like so it was so interesting to see you transition from the hoop girl,
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  who you still are right to the cake lady. So can we can we
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  talk about that transition, what they looked like, How did you even get
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  into Bacon. Well, to be honest, it's an art. So I
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  can't say I have I have been an artist all my life. That's something
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  that's some poetic justice stuff. That's some erica bydu Store. I'm an artist
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  and and I'm sensitive about my but no, seriously, I have. I
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  have been an artist all my life. You know. I always been a
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  sketch artist, always drawing, always writing poems. So basically cakes or just
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  just that avenue of art. I went to school for art, which is
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  that's a long story, but you know we got time. Okay, Well,
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  I'm gonna get into it. You know, she was trying to be
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  modest. She was like, that's a long story. We try to get
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  to know you, but long story short. Of course, I played basketball
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  a lot of my life. I went to college, went to Shelter State,
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  won the championship there, went to nationals. We ranked six in the
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  nation for that. After Sheltering, I went to AUM, and AUM I
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  transferred with the False Dream you know a lot of girls these days playing basketball
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  and they just feel like basketball gonna get them everywhere. Yeah, And when
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  I got to AUM, it was my stopping point. You know. The
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  coach sold me a false dream, told me, when we got your curriculum
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  up here, you know you're gonna be doing I was supposed to be doing
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  architect And I can't really blame it all on him, but just you know,
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  being blindsided by a lot of things. I was supposed to be in
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  the architect field, which I wasn't. So I was clearying around a sketch
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  book every day and artists back full of oil paint and full of paint bridges,
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  something that I wasn't even supposed to be into. Every day I'm drawing,
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  even though I liked the draw but it was a hobby. It's not
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  something I wanted the major in. Yeah, And so I kind of figured
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  it out once I got to that December, the ending of the semester,
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  like this not for me, Like what am I doing? Like I like
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  the draw but I don't want nobody to make me draw. So that kind
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  of is how it's narrated rated as me being an artist and just feeling that
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  being an artist, you know, someone to push you to have some type
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  of a gimmick of saying, hey, this is what you're supposed to do,
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  and that's not what I was supposed to be doing. So long story
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  short, I wind up pregnant, had my first child. Still, I
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  went to U a B. Left a au N. Went to U a
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  B. Still was doing art, Stopped doing art as far as the major,
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  and started majoring in engineering. I was supposed to do silver engineering,
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  which is still dealing with architects, right, and still dealing with design and
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  buildings, you know, things of that nature. Stopped doing that, got
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  tired, got printed again. Maybe you was having them baby, having them
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  back to back. Shout out to my man, But baby clubs, you
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  love your bad because that's the result, right being right what were being proven
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  before we were supposed to But I wind up getting married and so But as
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  I was saying, I went to U a B. Silver engineering was my
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  first major. There, got printant again, and then I went to my
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  advisor and we got on a fast paced graduation track where I just you know,
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  just wanted to graduate. So I wound up getting a degree in just
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  a regular degree general studies and my minder was in uh shoot, what was
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  it in? Forget that part. But anyways, like that part, why
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  did you why did you just say, Okay, I'm gonna do the general
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  general creatus Well, and at this time I was in school for about seven
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  years, no, six years, so you know, having a child then
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  printed again walking around campus, y'all know how you big ua bz. Yeah,
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  walking around campus printant just trying to, you know, have that goal
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  set of saying I'm gonna graduate, I'm gonna graduat and it was hard.
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  It was very hard. You know. Then I was working at foot locker,
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  not making any money, you know, trying to have children, you
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  know, maintain a lifestyle, and it just wasn't working. So I was
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  like, I just want to graduate. I want to breathe, and I
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  couldn't breathe, you know, everything was just on top of me. So
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  that happened. So during the time before graduation actually was the year two thousand,
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  I want to say six seventeen sixteen. It was sixteen because this was
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  before a death happened. I wound up doing some strawberries, just making some
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  desserts at home, and I wound up doing some strawberries and they was a
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  total hit, and I had a friend do some taste tasting and after that
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  we was like, let me, let me sell some of these. So,
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  to be honest, it started off with a strawberry If y'all could believe
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  that I never baked the day in my life. I started off doing treats,
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  doing strawberry shortcakes. Well we call them strawberry crunchberries. I started off
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  doing those, and after that, I started off just doing candy apples,
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  you know, prep sels, all those baby shower treats, started off doing
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  the wait, hold up all those baby shower cause they good at the baby
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  showers. I love baby shower chicken salad. If you don't have chicken sal
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  pasta salad, all that, So do you cook that too? I do,
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  Okay, we'll talk about that. Well, I wind up doing those,
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  and someone requested me to do a cake, a tweet, a birder
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  cake. And this is someone I went to school with, so of course
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  we had kind of a trust with relationship, so she just wanted me to
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  do a cake. And I was like, I've never done the cake before,
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  but I could try, So I tried in the treaty bird cake.
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  Now that I'm looking I'm you know, kind of skilled right now, I'm
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  looking at it. I'm like, oh, that was an ugly cake,
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  but I tried my cake. You put your best before and after that.
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  That's how it just eventually evolved. And you know, the Lord to put
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  you through so many avenues in life and just to you know, correspond with
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  what I went through, and you know, with art not being something for
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  me and then me being able to paint on a cake all of a sudden.
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  I'm like, you know, you have to pay attention to those lessons
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  in those seasons of life. So that's how it all started. I'm so
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  glad that you brought that up, because, like I said, if somebody
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  would have told me in twenty ten that you was gonna be the cake lady,
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  I would have laughed at them. I would have definitely laughed because you
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  are very much so I won't even say out of your element, but God
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  literally has brought you into a space where you even had to learn something about
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  you, Like it's just so beautiful, How it's so beautiful. How God
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  would make you think that you're about to do something, or he allow you
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  to just go down a road just so you can have the tools in your
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  toolbox so you can use it for what you actually gonna be doing. Exactly
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  what happened. That's exactly what girl, you're preaching. Girl, I told
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  you when I spoke a little tall earlier because definitely, like I would have
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  never thought, first of all, to look back as an adult and say
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  what do I want to be when I grow up? Basketball? I was
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  all about basketball. I could have sworn I was going to the w n
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  B A. I mean, you know that's an unrealistic thought, but that's
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  what I thought I was doing. Let's talk about that, because I really
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  when I when I bring up his basketball thing, y'all, like when I
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  tell you I'm not over exaggerating when it's the loving basketball thing. And it's
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  not just because of her husband. It's really because when I met her,
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  like that's all this girl talked about. This woman. God, I'm saying,
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  girl, because this is like a friendly conversation, but this is all
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  AMBER used to like literally breathe, and to see you on the outside looking
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  in, it looks like I'm just gonna tell you that you just obeyed God
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  and it was I won't say it was effortlessly because I know your struggle has
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  been a building process, but you were willing to let that go to be
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  who you needed to be. And then it's beautiful. I'm go go kind
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  of fast forward the story your daughter circle of life. Oh God, I
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  could cry right now. I could cry right now because I know that was
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  such a love like you, that was your first love. I know you
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  love babe, but itspalled Like seriously, seriously, I cried. I have
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  Like I'm not a crier, Like it takes a lot for me to cry,
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  like as you said, like I'm hard, very hard on the outside.
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  And when I made the decision to stop basketball, like I cried like
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  it was heartbreaking, it was. It tore me up. And then that
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  month after I left and found out I had a child, like it was
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  a whole different path of life, Like what am I to become a mama
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  right now? Like these days these kids think of having baby. I'm not
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  gonna say these kids because I'm still young, but I'm a mom now,
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  so I'm gonna say these kids. Say these kids think having babies at an
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  early age is the lifestyle, and you're still a child. You're still a
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  child at twenty twenty one, you're still in your parents' house. You're still
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  trying to figure out what you're gonna do after college, I mean after high
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  school, what you're gonna be when you get to college. Like, now
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  that I've had my kids, they're out the way. I can speak on
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  it and say I would have waited before I had kids. But no,
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  God, really he said, all right, I'm finna put you right here
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  in life and see how you go. I'm gonna see how you obey.
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  And no, I didn't obey all the time. And it was a hard,
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  rocky road, you know, especially with just saying what is the cake?
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  Like how I I supposed to bake a cake? I never baked the
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  cake orday in my life, Like I don't know a recipe my mom,
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  of course she did pound cakes. Red devocates those specialty cakes. But as
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  far as like decorating cakes, you know, the effort it takes to put
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  into it, you know, the struggle it takes to put into it to
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  fulfill an order and a customer just like yes, I love it, or
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  a customer like no, I don't like it. You know something is awful
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  about it, Like who am I to do this? Like people think it's
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  just a minor thing. Just to bake a cake and decorate. That's a
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  task I took first of all. First of all, we hired the woman
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  a god for my mama birthday party. And the cake was good. Okay,
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  was nothing left behind. Okay, the cake was good. It was
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  as simple as we want it to be because she can do something very simple,
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  and she could do something very extravagant, and some of the stuff like
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  making the dollars in the cake the patients to have for that. I no,
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  I don't. I got ADHD. I really think I'm self diagnosed.
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  I got ADHD. I'll be the cake being burned up. Okay, So
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  you talked about people think it's easy. Let's talk about the process because some
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  let's because I always hear people say, well, it's dispensable, man,
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  I can go to publics. Well, go to publics, then go to
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  Sam's do what you gotta do for you. Okay, y'all get on my
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  nerves. Let's talk. Let's talk about it. Let's get rid of I'm
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  saying what you can't say. So we're gonna get it off the chests.
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  All right. So let's explain what's the process, because one we say that
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  you didn't originally think that you were gonna do this. Your mama made poundcakes
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  and all that stuff like that, but that's the cake that's you know,
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  you can buy pound cake and all this stuff like that, maybe not your
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  mama pan cake from put but the same thing. But your cakes are very
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  specific, right, and so from the taste to the look. Can we
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  go through that process because you don't just look good because you got cakes out
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  there. They look good, but they trash right, and I ain't had
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  them. They stilled, they'dn't been in a freezer for three or four days.
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  And they want you, they want you to eat it, and they
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  want you to spend one hundred and eighty five dollars. Why did I pay
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  that money? But that's obviously I had experience like that. But we're gonna
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  stay on your experience because yours good. Well, I can say this is
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  what I always tell people. I'm a professional, but I'm not a professional.
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  So I'm by saying that I know my work, I know what I
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  can do, and I know what I can explain, So I'm gonna explain
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  it as best as I can. However, if it's another cake artist watching
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  this, and don't try it on my line. Please, don't try it
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  on my don't keep you coming to yourself. But no, seriously, I'm
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  a I follow instructions. Basically, I don't what I don't have like a
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  specific risk. But of course I add my special ingredients, but I don't
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  have a specific recips to say, well, this is how you got to
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  do this in order to get this desired taste. That's not me. I
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  know. With red velve cake, of course you're gonna add a little vinegar
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  and buttermilk to get that, you know, grandma taste. You know,
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  with chocolate you're gonna chocolate cake. You may some people may say add sugar.
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  I add brown sugar, you know. So it's it's just different methods.
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  Whatever works for you works for you. But that's what works for me.
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  So as far as the price process, it's a it's a never ending
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  game with price. Sometimes they'll go up, sometime they'll go down. You
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  know, it's just life. That's with life. That's with anything, you
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  know, with eggs with milk and butter. People saying that's too much for
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  a cake with eggs six dollars and this is the problem, this is the
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  issue. You book a cake with me, they may think you're the only
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  person booking the cake with me. So why do I have to pay for
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  everybody else's eggs and butter and sugar that's going to to the cake. Well,
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  of course I'm not just gonna make one cake for that week. You
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  know, I'm gonna make a you know, standard setting amount of cakes,
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  so you know I can store, you know, and then cakes are to
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  be frozen, you know, But you're not gonna give nobody a frozen cake.
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  So I just want to display you said somebody you know about being three
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  to four days. Oh, of course you gonna baker cake and cakes are
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  bread. If you take bread out the fridge grow you can't eat it immediately.
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  Of course it's gonna be hard. You gotta let it get to room
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  to I have had this conversation so many times with especially in the beginning of
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  my cake bacon days, you know, people saying I'm just gonna be real.
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  Sometimes say it was dry, Well what was dry? By to tell
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  me you know what was dry? I can't really explain. It was just
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  dry. Well, it didn't taste like a bakery cake. Well, bakries
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  baked with commercial products. I was just about to say that they baked with
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  powdered eggs. You know, you a home based baker can use more of
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  a you know, standard eggs, of standard flour, standard milk. Commercial
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  bakers can't do that. They can you know, use uh shell eggs.
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  They have to use bag eggs. They can't use there's such thing as a
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  bagged egg powdered eggs. When you if you go to ihop and ask for
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  they say you want to scramble or powder? Yeah, amber, so not
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  scrambled, but shelled or powder. So you could you have the choice of
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  eating a powdered egg or you have the choice of inning you know, a
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  shell egg. See, but this is this is where people fail to realize,
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  like with food, especially with process who every day you're eating like people
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  like you don't wear gloves or you don't do this. You don't know what
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  restaurants are doing. It's so many just behind the scene things that you don't
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  know what restaurants are doing. Like PIECEA they don't wear gloves, and piece
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  of Making they don't they don't wear gloves at all, and gloves are not
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  always sanitized. You know, you got micro holes and gloves you sweat and
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  gloves something. So I mean, it's it's a lot that goes with cake,
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  bacon. It's a lot that I can speak on. But you know,
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  I can't speak on because, like I said, I'm a home based
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  baker. I can't speak on the commercial property and what they can do versus
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  what I can do. I know what I could do in my house.
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  You know, I'm just selling your cake because you know that's what I do.
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  But I can't speak on with commercial you know, with publics or Walmart
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  or you know a bakery could do. So I'm just speaking on home based
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  bakers. A lot of people look down on home based bakers just because they
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  are home based, and you know a lot of people don't keep up their
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  homes. I can't. I can't be specific on those things. But you
• 22:40
  you have to be careful with what you buy and who you do. But
• 22:44
  we're gonna talk about you because you you clean very well, clean, clean,
• 22:51
  kids, clean, clean, KND Alert clean alerts, your kids clean,
• 23:00
  your husband clean, and them cakes they be clean. You said something
• 23:07
  that is so so powerful. You mentioned not being a professional. I just
• 23:22
  do what I do. And I think that that's a powerful statement because a
• 23:27
  lot of people, a lot of creatives specifically, struggle with imposter syndrome.
• 23:34
  Have you ever experienced that? And what are your your tactics to make sure
• 23:40
  you overcome that so you can continue to be a baker. I don't care
• 23:44
  about the home the commercial stuff. I care the fact that you bake cakes.
• 23:48
  That's all I can see is that you bake cakes? Right? How
• 23:51
  do you overcome become those thoughts when you have them? I can honestly say
• 23:55
  I have never wanted to copy anyone or never wanted to, you know,
• 23:59
  say I want my stuff to look like theirs. What I can say I
• 24:03
  have struggled with why am I at the level that I'm at? Or why
• 24:08
  why can't I, you know, adjust what I'm doing to get those certain
• 24:12
  clients. I can say that, But what I can also say is I
• 24:17
  overcame that because as a self employed person, as a you know, creator,
• 24:22
  you have doubts. You struggle very every day, every day. It's
• 24:27
  very seasonal as well. Amber, I can't let you go past that.
• 24:33
  Love. Oh, I almost felt my son. Don't come on, Amber,
• 24:37
  listen, you said you question why you That is so grill So you
• 24:49
  say you don't struggle with that anymore. But you gotta take us to that
• 24:52
  process, because I'm gonna be real with you. I'm in there, like
• 24:56
  right now, like whoa wait, hold up God? Really like this don't
• 25:03
  even make sense? How why are you using this this? I thought it
• 25:06
  was gonna be a hobby. I didn't really think, why am I even
• 25:08
  doing this? This don't even make sense, Like I didn't go to school
• 25:11
  for this necessarily that part. I didn't go to school for this. I
• 25:17
  did go to school for this. I'm not the professional. I'm not this
• 25:19
  something that that I'm like, Okay, so how did what do you do?
• 25:22
  What have you done to to to keep yourself away from those thoughts.
• 25:27
  I'm not gonna say I don't know. I'll be like good one moment and
• 25:33
  then it's like sneak up on me the next moment. It's seasonal. It's
• 25:36
  very seasonal. What I can say I do I have started to do was
• 25:40
  narrow down my creation like my mainstream because as you know, and as you
• 25:48
  introduced me, I am a cape designer. I do do event decorating as
• 25:53
  well. I did treats. I sold on the side of the road,
• 25:59
  I did pop up, I did all those things. But how can I
• 26:03
  become express myself in all of those things if I'm not just mainstreaming one thing?
• 26:10
  Like you get what I'm saying, Like, if I want to do
• 26:14
  cakes, I need to just do cakes. I can't be a cake maker,
• 26:15
  treat maker, event playing, all those things. Now. I have
• 26:18
  a sister company which is my event decorator. But I had to start saying
• 26:23
  cakes is what I want to do. That's what I want to mainstream.
• 26:26
  So being okay with it, being okay with it because if somebody come up
• 26:29
  to me and say, hey, I want you to decorate, I'm not
• 26:33
  gonna turn it down, but I'm gonna offer my cakes. I was was
• 26:37
  about to say, so how do you do that? Do you say,
• 26:38
  Okay, the way you get me to decorate is ordering my cake? Well,
• 26:44
  no, see, I only do that retreat. So that's a good
• 26:47
  point. So I only do that retreat. So if somebody say, hey,
• 26:48
  I need a dozen the treats, where I don't sell treats separately,
• 26:52
  you have to purchase a cake. Another thing I did struggle with with saying
• 26:57
  no, Like you just have to be okay with saying though, if I
• 27:00
  got ten orders that week and that week and you want a cake and treats
• 27:06
  and this and that. I can't be available for treats, cake and decorating.
• 27:10
  I just had to be okay with saying I can't take any more orders.
• 27:12
  So that was a big struggle for me. And then another struggle for
• 27:15
  me was also just just being patient weigh my term and saying like, Okay,
• 27:25
  yes I do look at other you know, bakers and you know them
• 27:29
  and seeding. Of course, all of us who create does that. You
• 27:32
  know, Yeah, somebody is this scene. You wanna know? What can
• 27:33
  you do to get to that level? Yeah? But I just had to
• 27:36
  be patient and wait my term, you know, especially with working with celebrities
• 27:38
  and how all that started. I'm just gonna tell you I was in a
• 27:44
  really really quiet place. I'm not gonna say a dark place, but quiet
• 27:47
  place with my business. It was my quiet season. I had just stopped
• 27:51
  working because I was working a full time job. Yeah why bacon cakes.
• 27:55
  But I had just stopped working and then I had a major surgery. And
• 28:00
  when I had that major surgery, it was like God sent me down and
• 28:03
  said, all right, it's time to talk. You know. COVID hit
• 28:06
  of course, Yeah, And when I say you have to work within your
• 28:08
  avenue. You have to work within your avenue. Because I'm doing pictures for
• 28:14
  kids. I was also doing events for kids. You know, if you
• 28:18
  bake kates, you know you want people to know that you bake cakes.
• 28:22
  But you also you don't want to be left behind. So I was like,
• 28:26
  well, I'm not making any money with just baking cakes, so let
• 28:27
  me do something else to make some money. So that happened. But God
• 28:32
  sent me down. He talked, I'm talking about he put a whooping on
• 28:34
  my spirit. I'm not even playing with child. I never stopped telling this
• 28:38
  story. Tell it. I never stopped telling this story. Y'all saw you
• 28:42
  had Kayla here, Yes, I did. I love her about two weeks
• 28:47
  ago and me and Kayla we were very acquainted. She invited me to church.
• 28:53
  And this was so I had my surgery. I'n't want to say two
• 28:56
  thousand, what is this, twenty twenty four, twenty one, twenty two,
• 29:02
  one of the years. Anyways, it was whatever year. But I
• 29:07
  was just in a quiet place with my business. It was June, matter
• 29:11
  of fact when I had my surgery, alright. My recovery time was six
• 29:15
  weeks after that six week period. Of course, if I'm not doing something
• 29:19
  for that month, how can I do something for the next month. So
• 29:22
  I was like, I can't force myself to get up and try to,
• 29:25
  you know, start baking again, So what can I do? Well?
• 29:27
  Anyways, Caln reached out to me, Me and a couple of more old
• 29:30
  people. Not just gonna say me specifically, but she reached out. When
• 29:33
  she reached out, saying in church and was a whole bunche. I remember
• 29:37
  that she reached out to me, and I took on the offer because I
• 29:42
  I wasn't struggling with my religious life. I wasn't struggling with my spiritual beliefs,
• 29:48
  but I was struggling with going to church, m finding the stable church
• 29:52
  home. And you know, of course we wanna blame COVID for saying,
• 29:56
  uh, this is why we're not in church, cause church is just different
• 29:59
  now. But I struggled with going to church, and I started, you
• 30:03
  know, just not going, just saying I can get church at home.
• 30:07
  I believe in God, He know my heart this and that. But anyway,
• 30:10
  it's Kaylin invited me to church, and God put a whipping in my
• 30:12
  spirit. He told me, He told me I was selfish. He told
• 30:17
  me I was feeding an empty wound. He just was. He was just
• 30:21
  the things that Apostle Davis was prophesying about. Everything that he was prophesying about.
• 30:26
  He whooped me with them words because I needed to hear that I was.
• 30:30
  I grew up in church. It's no reason why my kids went to
• 30:33
  church while my hood, you know, us as a married couple wasn't in
• 30:36
  church. I'm not gonna say we didn't go to church, but it was
• 30:37
  like it was nearly about three times we had went to church that year,
• 30:41
  and all the other sundays it was just at home. And it was ridiculous.
• 30:45
  So how can I want a business? How can I want Seeds of
• 30:48
  Life? And I am about to walk off the set and I'm not doing
• 30:53
  anything to get those things. I'm gonna pause on amble right now because I
• 30:57
  am about to throw something at I am about to walk off this set.
• 31:03
  Because you are taught, you are on a topic. You are on a
• 31:07
  topic that is really near to my heart. Because a lot of people say
• 31:14
  I always tell this story. My coach was like we were in like a
• 31:18
  marketing session or whatever, and she was like, oh, Jessica what you
• 31:22
  say like, and I was like, I don't know, Like I'm trying
• 31:23
  to figure it out. She's like, why don't you just sell Jesus?
• 31:26
  I don't like, why would you put that on me? Like what that
• 31:29
  look like or whatever? But this is what it looked like. And so
• 31:32
  if I because I've honored God in church, I can under God outside outside
• 31:37
  of church is somewhere we're equipped. And it's like, you can't annoying what
• 31:41
  you do without going to the storehouse exactly, like we try to do it
• 31:45
  backwards, and then what are we do when we don't go to church normally?
• 31:48
  We don't do it time, Yeah, normally if that goes together,
• 31:52
  and so like for people, let's tap into that. For people that are
• 31:59
  in the stage of I don't think I need church. I don't think church
• 32:02
  is a big deal, or wise church a big deal. What would you
• 32:07
  say to them? And what made I know? He said they said whooping.
• 32:08
  But some of my some of my people don't understand the whole whooping thing,
• 32:12
  or they think they can't hear God, or when they hear something,
• 32:15
  they're questioning if they're hearing God, like can you take us back to that
• 32:16
  place? And and really talk about how that, how that impacted you,
• 32:22
  not only you, your family. Well, I'm gonna say this, it's
• 32:25
  an old saying. If you can't sleep and like God is trying to talk
• 32:29
  to you, that's a very old saying. So if you talsing and turning
• 32:32
  every night, just go to God in praid or listen to what he's trying
• 32:36
  to say. But honestly, when I say he put a whooping on my
• 32:39
  spirit because I needed that, a spiritual whooping is not just saying he put
• 32:45
  me through trauma and it afitted me. Like he literally like said what I've
• 32:52
  been trying to tell you, I'm gonna let human man tell you so you
• 32:57
  can hear it. So that's exactly what happened. That's exactly what I manifested.
• 33:02
  I let me tell y'all how I got in touch with with Queen Lee
• 33:06
  or one day I was just you know, in big The surgery I had
• 33:09
  was a hysterectomy, so of course I was bed reading for you know,
• 33:14
  wow, But I reached out to Queenly or you know, in specifical just
• 33:16
  sponsoring like her babyshower cake. Right all right, So you know, uh,
• 33:22
  these days we're big on manifesting. You know, we were big with
• 33:24
  were vocalizing how we manifest. So that was manifest manifestation for me. Of
• 33:30
  just reaching out to her. I was like, she probably not gonna you
• 33:31
  know, that girl got like a thousand other people writing her, She's not
• 33:36
  gonna write me back. Well I did that and I went into prayer.
• 33:39
  Next thing I know, she wrote me back. So it was after the
• 33:45
  church thing, not even say church thing, but this spiritual whooping happened.
• 33:49
  I can't honestly say if you're struggling with you know, going to church or
• 33:52
  just knowing what the Lord is saying to you, just listen. Take the
• 33:55
  time out to listen. You don't have to listen to him. You don't
• 33:59
  have to go on the bow and just look for a specific scripture. Sometimes
• 34:02
  just as we're speaking to each other. I have had so many talks with
• 34:07
  people and I'll have went into a prayer and said, hey, Lord that
• 34:10
  then the third and then the next person I talked to will come and say
• 34:13
  what I just prayed for it. So sometimes it's just a small ear or
• 34:16
  a small word that gets you through to what the Lord has been trying to,
• 34:21
  you know, reveal to you, it's hard out here trying to you
• 34:23
  know, be an entrepreneur, trying to be a human, trying to be
• 34:27
  an adult, just being of this world. It's hard, but you need
• 34:30
  God and you can't get away from that word. I'm not gonna say I
• 34:34
  veered away from it because it's in me. But it had to show wasn't
• 34:38
  priority. It had to be a priority that and I think that is where
• 34:45
  a lot of people are because what church does, it's a community. It's
• 34:51
  like being a part of some more. Yes, so it's like being around
• 34:58
  like many people just like you said, you said you all a little different
• 35:00
  bakers or anything. You're not doing this to compare, but doing it to
• 35:05
  be in the community. So you can always be developing, sharpening your gifts.
• 35:08
  There's always different skills, skills to be learned. People are elevating.
• 35:14
  I mean, even let's talk about basketball, so I can say I'm smart
• 35:16
  a little big even the game of basketball or any sport. Brother, there's
• 35:21
  always different techniques, even coaching, coaching tools or anything like that. These
• 35:24
  kids not the same or these people not the same, were always evolving.
• 35:30
  Things are always being passed down. And so what church is this community whereas
• 35:35
  we evolve, there's a community that can with can support Thank you, Holy
• 35:39
  Spirit, there's a community that can support you in that. And so basically
• 35:45
  what I heard was that I was good with God, I was good with
• 35:50
  the word, but I wasn't good with the support. And you needed the
• 35:53
  support, you know what. You pulled it out of me because I had
• 35:59
  a church, but Refresh was in my church home. I was actually a
• 36:05
  member of another church. And it's no that that was a home church,
• 36:08
  that was a family church. I had to find my own path. I
• 36:13
  had to find my own path for my own family. So being a part
• 36:16
  of Refresh and it was just like all right, in order for you to
• 36:20
  evolve as a person, as a woman, and you know, as you
• 36:22
  know a holy figure, go to your on your own path with life,
• 36:28
  go to your your own path with you know, your own church. So
• 36:30
  when I found Refresh, we joined, I want to say we joined New
• 36:35
  Year's and that the day she invited me. It was like it had to
• 36:39
  be wintertime. So I joined like two months after afterwards, after that did
• 36:45
  invite because you felt full? I was very full. He nurtured me that
• 36:52
  day and I couldn't turn away from it. I could not turn away from
• 36:55
  that. It was just something that end every day. It continue reveal,
• 37:00
  reveal, revealed even in my household. My children love going to it,
• 37:04
  but not only that, within my marriage. You know, it's revealing.
• 37:07
  We're maturing, you know, we're developing, it's blossoming. So to see
• 37:14
  that I was sowing, like you said, I didn't have that support.
• 37:15
  I'm not gonna say I didn't have that support, but it wasn't for me
• 37:20
  at the time. This is this is amber you are freeing somebody today.
• 37:24
  I'm so proud of you. Like y'all don't know, she bakes, She
• 37:29
  don't do too much talking, and she poetic with her words the words.
• 37:32
  So this is good. So the support you have to be supported by people
• 37:40
  who can manage supporting you. I am not going to get coach Saban to
• 37:47
  teach me how to play basketball. He can't support me being a basketball player.
• 37:53
  Right, I'm calling your husband. Shot at the coach end up building.
• 37:58
  Okay, I couldn't let that slide. Okay, shut it clean,
• 38:01
  Coach be clean, Coach John's be clean. All right, back to the
• 38:06
  program, y'all gotta listen. He and his support and his wife okay,
• 38:12
  so let's listen. I don't know thus God for that. I received that
• 38:15
  in the spirit all right, But the support has to match the need.
• 38:22
  Almost listen, I felt my shun don't come all okay. One. The
• 38:27
  support has to match the need. And you needed support in something you had
• 38:31
  never seen before. You needed support in somewhere you had never been before.
• 38:37
  And if I hear you correctly, I don't know if you've ever been in
• 38:40
  a space where you've seen entrepreneurs thrive. Right, we see in our culture
• 38:45
  because we're from the same side. What I seen more of is our wonderful
• 38:52
  friends doing it and not our beautiful friends. Right, our beautiful friends were
• 38:57
  saying, Hey, I gotta get this job, this jo, this job,
• 39:00
  I gotta work for this person, this person, this person, and
• 39:02
  our wonderful fans was like, I'm making these jobs. I'm making it happen.
• 39:07
  Right. We had then experienced that, and so we had to get
• 39:10
  around some people that say, hey, I can support you, because I've
• 39:15
  been there, I can support you. I had to go to the podcast
• 39:20
  SUMI because I didn't have nobody to support me in it. Not to say
• 39:24
  people weren't doing it, but I or people weren't the entrepreneurs. But in
• 39:29
  the lane that I'm in, I had to be supported. So that makes
• 39:32
  churches no different. It's not church. And if the church is not working
• 39:36
  for you, go somewhere else. People really work. My last nerves scared
• 39:42
  about going somewhere. Don't be scared about stepping out the box because, like
• 39:45
  I said, it was a family church. But you know, family can
• 39:47
  stop you from doing a lot of things. Amber ooh, Amber, you
• 39:52
  want me to throw this pillow. If you you are talking, good woman
• 39:58
  of God, family will will hold you back. The loyalty will hold you
• 40:01
  back. That that's the word. So we're gonna we're gonna scratch family.
• 40:05
  We're gonna say the loyalty because I don't want anybody to say, well,
• 40:07
  she got problems with her family. No, that ain't what she said though.
• 40:10
  It is the loyalty. It will hold you back. And it did.
• 40:15
  When I broke loyalty and went to where I'm going. You know,
• 40:20
  it made me bigger. You have to when you're trying to develop in life,
• 40:24
  you have to expand. You have to expand. You can't be so
• 40:27
  in a small box. I was a Baptist church going girl, not a
• 40:30
  not an old You know you're tapping your foot. You know you're making your
• 40:35
  own beat. What you tapping your foot? Let me tell you so I
• 40:38
  was when I get the church. I don't play with God. I tapped
• 40:40
  my feet and I praise and I worship. Now I may not stand up,
• 40:44
  he may stand he may say slap your neighbor, and I may not
• 40:46
  do that. But you know, I don't play with the Lord. But
• 40:50
  one thing I can't say was I was limiting myself because and I'm not gonna
• 40:53
  say because just because I was going to a small church. But it was
• 40:57
  because, like sometimes I say out my mouth verbatim, I say, well
• 41:00
  I don't like big churches. I'll say that, and that's wrong with that
• 41:05
  was wrong with me to say because now I go to a big church,
• 41:07
  and I'm proud of the big church that I go to. And the reason
• 41:09
  I'm saying is because, like I have went into doors that I never thought
• 41:15
  that I'll be in. Like like in the beginning, we've been saying I've
• 41:19
  been a basketball player my mom. But who's the saying I'm a celebrity cake
• 41:22
  baker Like I have baked, say celebrity cake baker like I've baked cake.
• 41:29
  I have set in in kitchens of celebrities, like big time legends, and
• 41:35
  that's like little old me. Shout out to Ricky smiling because I saw you
• 41:38
  you did that. I was so happy. And I literally sit in that
• 41:44
  lady's house for about two hours and it was just being acquainted with her,
• 41:49
  just you know, helping her, you know, decorate set up for her
• 41:52
  daughter. I was doing the Money's graduation cake. And you know, she
• 41:58
  was open, like it wasn't like, Okay, you did what you was
• 42:00
  supposed to do. Leave. You know, she was very friendly and I'm
• 42:02
  appreciate shout out to her because she could have waved me off, like no,
• 42:06
  I don't want no pictures. You know, she's a big time celebrity,
• 42:07
  like she's in Blalls news every day, not only blogs news, but
• 42:10
  that lady has a whole entrepreneurial line for herself. So shout out to her.
• 42:15
  Not only her. I don't done a lot, but Ruben Stutter,
• 42:19
  you know, speaking with him. You know the basketball girl, the one
• 42:22
  that's in l s U Well, Angel Resas. I don't know her name,
• 42:28
  but yes, she's in she's bringing out basketball. I'm not gonna say
• 42:34
  her, but just how women's basketball it's going these days is what it used
• 42:38
  to be when I was playing basketball. So shout out to her, Shout
• 42:42
  out to many other you know, college basketball players on that level. You
• 42:45
  know, it's getting back to what we have. But you know, I
• 42:47
  literally wrote her and said, Hey, I'm trying to get you a cake.
• 42:51
  How can I get it to you? She didn't write back the first
• 42:53
  time. The second time, the reason I wrote her is because she posted
• 42:58
  said she was gonna be in Atlanta one or two hours away. Let me
• 43:00
  hop on this. Wrote her again. I said, Hey, I'm trying
• 43:04
  to get you a cake for your birthday. How can I you know,
• 43:06
  you know, get it to you? She said, hey, text this
• 43:07
  number, and the number she gave me, I texted, wrote her and
• 43:13
  it was actually fly Jay's mom number. That's a young chocolate lady. Okay
• 43:17
  rapper, big folk, shout out to big Folk. But I wrote her
• 43:22
  on her mom, you know me, and her mom was very sweet,
• 43:24
  very accomed day. Got the cake down there to her, and she text
• 43:29
  me back and gave me some inspirational words, you know, telling me how
• 43:31
  good the cake was. Stay a course of what I'm doing. No,
• 43:36
  I'm just literally stepping doors that I've never seen myself. I couldn't imagine myself
• 43:42
  doing this. Now I knew I was gonna be big. Now with cakes,
• 43:47
  what I did I was, you know, like, I don't talk.
• 43:53
  I'm not a big talker. I can write you and you know it
• 43:57
  could be deep, but I'm not a big talk But I can't honestly say
• 44:01
  I'm starting to be more confident in myself because you know, I have to
• 44:05
  do that, especially with the level that I don't know where I'm trying to
• 44:07
  go in life. I can't say that as an entrepreneur right now. I
• 44:12
  can't. Yes, I want to do cakes, but I don't know where
• 44:15
  cakes is going to lead me to. But it has led me into some
• 44:17
  of you know, a situation that I can see myself being a travel cake
• 44:22
  baker, you know, with celebrities, or just you know, continue to
• 44:25
  doing what I'm doing. I can sell a cake from home all day.
• 44:30
  I'm fine with that. As long as I'm able to get to my kids,
• 44:32
  my husband and still little lifestyle that i want to live, I'm fine
• 44:36
  with that. But I want to do at the right race. So now
• 44:38
  what I'm trying to do is make sure that I'm doing everything the right way.
• 44:43
  You know, just because I have a gift. You know, we
• 44:45
  off the earth, so we got to do it right. So I want
• 44:49
  to make sure you know my license stay up today. I want to make
• 44:51
  sure that you know I'm paying my tax, you know, doing those things.
• 44:53
  So everything is just falling in line, falling the course. But like
• 44:58
  I said, when I start to obey and I started to walk the path
• 45:01
  that the Lord said, I was like, I'll never forget me. And
• 45:05
  mister Smiley, that's what I call him, we were sitting in his living
• 45:09
  room. We were talking. I said. He was saying, you know,
• 45:13
  what did you do? I said, I used to play basketball.
• 45:15
  Of course, it's gonna be the first thing that I speak of because that's
• 45:16
  what I used to do. I said, But I also I went to
• 45:20
  school. I was an artist. And I said, you know, God,
• 45:22
  you know he works in funny ways because he had Rick Smiley had just
• 45:28
  sat there and said, you this is art. You know what you're doing,
• 45:31
  this is art. And I said, well, you know, just
• 45:34
  for you saying, I said, God works some mysterious right, because I
• 45:36
  actually went to school and I took art now that was my major. And
• 45:39
  he was like, well, he said, God led you down another path
• 45:43
  to do art. He said, because this right here, what you're doing
• 45:45
  is art. And I was just simply decorating his table like I wasn't doing
• 45:49
  at the big but in his hindsight that was big to him. Don't mean
• 45:52
  to me who won't decorate? Yeah, not me. I can't decorate with
• 45:57
  nobody. I can't even decorate an outfit. This you gonna get that,
• 46:01
  Okay. I think it's beautiful because no, first of all, you gotta
• 46:06
  have so much patience, you gotta you gotta focus in my creative mind go
• 46:09
  everywhere. I don't know how to slow it down, Like I don't know
• 46:13
  how to slow it down just yet. But decorating patient, poise and creative
• 46:19
  like using it. Man, girl, that's not that's not little. That
• 46:23
  table was beautiful. I remember that table. The proof is on. You
• 46:28
  might have scroll down a little bit. I think it was no November,
• 46:30
  wouldn't Thanksgiving? And he put it on his page too, And if you
• 46:34
  follow her, she might have it on her page, like the snippet of
• 46:36
  it. Baby that baby went to the house to decorate first of all folks
• 46:39
  got money who decorated for Thanksgiving? But that's your listen, that she got
• 46:45
  paid for that gear. She was annoying for the gear. I ain't mad
• 46:50
  at it. It's all about networking too, because somebody actually referred me like
• 46:54
  something one of my clients that I did a cake for and decorated for them,
• 46:58
  which is she's acquainted with you, knowing his people, so she referred
• 47:01
  me. And you know that happened like out of nowhere, and you have
• 47:05
  to always be ready. That's another thing you got to be ready with just
• 47:08
  being an entrepreneur. You can't say, y'all do cakes and then a celebrity
• 47:13
  or somebody reach out to you and you don't have You can't say what I
• 47:15
  don't get the opportunity and you be like, oh no, I'm scared.
• 47:20
  I had to jump on it. Listen, Yeah, I can do it.
• 47:22
  Let me let me call up who I rent from. Let me let
• 47:24
  me hurry up and get on it. Give me give me about ten minutes.
• 47:28
  I'll be back with you. Yeah, I can do it. Don't
• 47:30
  worry about it. I got whatever you need and I didn't have whatever I
• 47:32
  needed, but I was ready. Listen, this is this is so good
• 47:37
  because people say it was like people like feel like, oh I'm better than
• 47:39
  this person, or I'm because the comparison thing happened as much as we did.
• 47:44
  We try to ignore it or whatever, but it's like, how are
• 47:46
  you getting their rooms? Not only do I have a gift, but I
• 47:50
  have willingness to attach to it. You've been saying, like what people don't
• 47:53
  understand. I hope y'all are hearing this, she said the Amber Rose Amber
• 47:58
  Anglia. Dude, you it's right. I was sorry, Angelies, I'm
• 48:10
  helpless. I'm trying to preach and get the condrelated wrong now Angela, angel
• 48:17
  angel Okay, that is so. I'm gonna be eighty years old. College
• 48:22
  freaking sometimes, Oh my god. Ms Reese was two hours away from you,
• 48:28
  and you were willing to go. Rick Smiling needed decorating, and you
• 48:35
  didn't have the material, but you're still willing to go. I can only
• 48:37
  imagine how many more stories you have where you didn't have at the time,
• 48:43
  but your willingness made room for you. Not just the gifts, but her
• 48:50
  willingness. The gift is always gonna go with where you go because you you,
• 48:54
  but your willingness has to be there with it. So it's like the
• 48:59
  twin where have you been in situation? My willingness has to match the anointing,
• 49:04
  anointing or my gift, that expansion of it, because once I become
• 49:07
  unwilling, the gift don't matter, y'all. I hope y'all heal me,
• 49:12
  hearing me good. Once your gift out, once your gift outweighs the willingness,
• 49:16
  it doesn't matter. So now what does that willingness come from? Were
• 49:20
  talking about the Lord faith, right, so now you now your now,
• 49:24
  your faith can't get smaller unless you don't continue to build on what you've been
• 49:29
  already doing. Elbo. I'm just saying the churchy way what you're saying the
• 49:34
  hood tho. It's that is so that it's so powerful. So one of
• 49:40
  the things I really want to bring up while you're here, because you've talked
• 49:44
  about how important your family is to you, and I really, I really
• 49:47
  think that you don't even realize how much your breaking curses by doing it right,
• 49:54
  That's true. I'm real big on saying we got to stop saying we're
• 50:00
  breaking generational curses. And I'm not saying that to you, but I'm just
• 50:05
  saying that as a society because I always look at it the fact our parents
• 50:09
  did the best that they could when they could. You know, if you
• 50:13
  had a traumatic experience, I'm sorry, but my mom did the best she
• 50:16
  could. So I can't say I'm breaking a generational curse, but I can
• 50:21
  say I'm opening doors for them that my mom could open for me because my
• 50:28
  mom was a single parent. I mean, I came from a single parent
• 50:31
  household, no father figure, you know. But God kept me in a
• 50:36
  path and I did it stray. One thing I can say that I did
• 50:40
  as a child and as a teenager, I always kept the Lord first.
• 50:46
  Everything I did. If we in the car, we listening to gospel music
• 50:51
  as a as a you know, as a teenager, yeah, I was
• 50:54
  real OCD. I gotta read my scripture in the morning, you know.
• 50:58
  And that's what I meant when I say that's my path, you know,
• 51:00
  leading to my adult you know life. However, but as far as generational
• 51:06
  curses, I'm not breaking in because I don't really have curses on my life,
• 51:08
  you know. But it stopped when it got to me, when it
• 51:12
  got to certain things that I could not do, you know, being able
• 51:15
  to afford certain things. So now my kids, I still can't afford certain
• 51:20
  things. But what happened is I'm walking in the doors that they would be
• 51:23
  able to walk in when they get older. But those doors will be so
• 51:27
  much bigger. But just saying, like when I went down those roads,
• 51:30
  just saying, when I went to Atlanta or Mississippi or Tennessee, those things,
• 51:36
  I probably had fifty dollars in my pocket to gotate those people that cake,
• 51:38
  get real, that was free. Those responsored they didn't pay me.
• 51:44
  I'm gonna say all of them didn't pay, but have majority of them was
• 51:46
  to pay for it was just to get my name out there. Those were
• 51:50
  free. So just to say my kids could say my mom dedicate for Ajuries,
• 51:54
  my mom dedicate for Ricu Smith. Those are opening doors for them that
• 52:00
  they'll never be able to open. You know, they'll be able to open,
• 52:02
  but it may not be with a cake. It may be with something
• 52:06
  else, something else, but it may not be with a cake. So
• 52:08
  what I'm saying is I have done I have been the first to do a
• 52:14
  lot of things in my family, and I'm grateful for it. The first
• 52:16
  to graduate from college, the first to do a lot. I can't even
• 52:22
  think, but just to say, I've been the first to just say it
• 52:24
  stopped when it got to me. Cursed. As far as we want to
• 52:28
  say generational curses, just saying a black shadow or a black cloud over you
• 52:31
  know my family, I can say I broke that. So that's the only
• 52:36
  generational curse. So while you were talking, this is so good, and
• 52:40
  I'm glad you challenged me on it. Right, this is so good because
• 52:45
  even while you were talking, this is what I heard that sometimes we can
• 52:51
  limit the generational curses and blessings to our bloodline. And I need you to
• 52:57
  understand how big you are amber to hear you, because I know you you're
• 53:00
  confident, but I'm finla boost it up a little bit more. Sometimes we
• 53:07
  you know, when we hear the older people say, oh, this generation
• 53:10
  don't do this, and this generation don't do this. So when we're talking,
• 53:14
  they're talking about the generation. They're talking about an age group, they're
• 53:16
  talking about the surroundings. They're talking about the people that we fellowship with.
• 53:22
  When I say and I think and thank you, thank you. When I'm
• 53:24
  saying that, I'm not even just talking about your family. I'm talking about
• 53:29
  your peers. I'm talking about your church members. I'm talking about the people
• 53:34
  that see you grinding and seeing the fruit of your labor. When I say
• 53:39
  that, you're breaking that because it is a curse, like it is curses
• 53:45
  and maybe it's an infection. We'll compare it into an infection, right,
• 53:51
  and the territories that we have come from that we have grown up around to
• 53:57
  cure the infection. You got to see something different. You're that cure.
• 54:01
  I appreciate that. No, I mean that, like I ain't even saying
• 54:06
  that just to be nice because seeing what you do and you're welcome. Sorry
• 54:09
  that was so rude, but you're that cure. And if we can have
• 54:16
  more Embers, if we can have more even jazzmines, even for her to
• 54:20
  go back to you know, Fairfield where she played, you know, to
• 54:22
  be coaching, like that's a cure. And sometimes we manifest and we focus
• 54:30
  so much in on the disease and not the cure. And Babe Amble Jones
• 54:38
  aka the k Lady because it's sweet Jones, ain't it We have not said,
• 54:45
  Joe, We have not said it. Y'all need to know where y'all
• 54:47
  can go get these kates from the Sweet Sweet Jones aka the Kate Lady k
• 54:55
  Lady. So that's what I heard when we we were talking about the generational
• 55:00
  curses. As far as your family, I know we were talking about your
• 55:07
  faith, and I think you touched on it a little bit when we were
• 55:09
  talking about the curses. But as far as your let's even talk about your
• 55:14
  your daughter and how you're even seeing her developed and her develop a love or
• 55:21
  a passion for you know, a basketball specifically because that's what I see online,
• 55:24
  but even maybe doing something else. How do you feel like that's impacting
• 55:29
  her? And how do you feel like you're because of your experiences, you're
• 55:31
  able to give her a better outlook on like her passion and dream about even
• 55:36
  basketball. Just a touch basis back on generational curses else, a situation happened
• 55:43
  I'll say about two weeks ago in her game where the coach said something kind
• 55:47
  of that I didn't like, and it kind of triggered me because it was
• 55:52
  said to me also as a child. I mean, you know as a
• 55:55
  teenager when I was playing basketball, Well, I could being a curse on
• 56:00
  her by saying you're not playing for him anymore. You know, we don't
• 56:06
  you know I could have just stopped her all the way from playing with you
• 56:09
  know, I talked to her. You know, as parents we do a
• 56:12
  lot of things. This generation, we do a lot of talking versus you
• 56:15
  know, just just ripping the band aid out saying you ain't you know,
• 56:20
  being authoritated to say, because we got authority, we're gonna take you off
• 56:22
  the sea. But I actually talked to him, so I can't say,
• 56:27
  honestly, she she's going she she's she's going through what I went through at
• 56:30
  an early age. And I'm being smart about it. And I thank God
• 56:35
  that he's given me the discernment of don't affect her life because of you what
• 56:39
  you went through as a ball player. So everything she's going through as a
• 56:44
  ballplayer and everything she's developing, she's doing it on her own. I'm just
• 56:50
  you know, I'm not cahursing her to, you know, say this is
• 56:53
  how you do it, this is how I did it. Be like me.
• 56:58
  Never, I never. I don't want her to be nothing like me.
• 57:01
  Be your own person. She looks up to me. She want to
• 57:05
  wear my shoes, she want to wear my clothes, She want to know
• 57:08
  what number I was, because she want to wear that number. I don't
• 57:12
  want you to be like me. I want you to be ten times better
• 57:15
  than it'sself, go to higher levels that I could not go. Like I
• 57:19
  said, my biggest dream was to be in a w NBA. Yeah,
• 57:22
  she wants to be in a w NBA. And the path that girls basketball
• 57:28
  is on in this generation she has she right now, she has the ability
• 57:32
  to play overseas and do many things. The skill of my daughter is just
• 57:37
  in the fifth grade. She the skill level will develop in her right now
• 57:40
  on like she surpassed girls her age group. She's about talking about your height
• 57:45
  a little under you. She's tall. She's tall. She's my height,
• 57:51
  literally my height in the side, six and a half in the fifth grade.
• 57:54
  Because I was surprised that you said she was in fifth grade, So
• 57:57
  I was like, oh, I thought she was a little No. No,
• 57:59
  she's just in the fifth grade and she's playing on a she plays with
• 58:02
  six and seven graders, so she's doing good. Like like I said,
• 58:07
  to speak about generation the curson in the circle of life, I'm just not
• 58:10
  trying to be that parent. I'm very I'm not saying I'm strict, but
• 58:15
  I'm none tolerance parents when it comes to just these kids getting away with not
• 58:20
  being held accountable, not you know, knowing right from wrong. I'm not
• 58:24
  the type of parents, especially with females. And I have a son.
• 58:28
  I got two girls and one other, and I just don't play those games.
• 58:31
  I'm very old school, but I don't play games. But I also
• 58:35
  do the little things, do things differently, Like i'ma you know, tolerate
• 58:39
  a few things more than Mama tolerate. But I'm not with that South parenting
• 58:44
  and stuff like that. But she she's actually she's surpassing me right now in
• 58:49
  basketball. I can't honestly say that you said that in such a healthy manner.
• 58:54
  Well, very much. I don't want to be the parent to ever
• 58:58
  say my child is gonna be like me because I did it this way.
• 59:01
  Me and her daddy are teaching her. But I don't want us. I
• 59:06
  always tell my daughter, I don't want our voices to be the only voices
• 59:09
  you learn from. M That's not the way of life, because you're gonna
• 59:15
  have many coaches of life. You're gonna have many scenarios that you go through.
• 59:19
  Like not just her, but all of my kids are engaged with basketball.
• 59:23
  They loved basketball. I my mama did not put on me that you
• 59:27
  had to play a sport in order to succeed in life. She didn't say,
• 59:30
  we'll pick up a ball and do this. So that's not what I
• 59:32
  forced my girls or my boy to do. Just because you know, we're
• 59:37
  you know, beautifully black. We we have that advantage of playing sports.
• 59:42
  No, I didn't say that. But they just naturally developed the habit of
• 59:45
  playing sports, playing basketball. And once she said, hey, Mom,
• 59:49
  I wanna play basketball, let's go, let's do it. Of course I
• 59:52
  started to train her, but I didn't train her in the way of you
• 59:54
  gonna do this, I demand you to do this. No. She to
• 59:59
  this day she had her attitudes about certain things. She don't some days,
• 1:00:02
  I don't want to work. Some days I want to have it. I
• 1:00:06
  just want to be a kid. What be a kid? I can't fuss
• 1:00:07
  at you for you just in the field. Great. So she surpassed me,
• 1:00:12
  and I'm proud to say, like she's gonna be, She's gonna she's
• 1:00:15
  gonna have a name by high school. She's gonna have That's so good.
• 1:00:20
  I think that's even healthy, because not even just the parent, that's only
• 1:00:28
  overly assertive in the area, but even being like the fact that you said
• 1:00:34
  she's gonna be better than you, and you say it in such like a
• 1:00:38
  a real truthful, humble manner, because I've heard I've been around people that
• 1:00:44
  said they their family, their own mom told them that they would never be
• 1:00:50
  better than them, and that's painful. Like I'm caring it for thirty years
• 1:00:55
  and it's always in the back of my mind. So I'm always trying to
• 1:00:59
  prove that theory yourself wrong and try to say, Okay, it's not that
• 1:01:02
  I'm trying to be better than you, but I'm trying to be valuable.
• 1:01:06
  I'm trying to be an asset where you better twein what have you been?
• 1:01:10
  Yes? No, I couldn't imagine now one thing I do get. Like
• 1:01:15
  I said, I'm not an emotional person. It takes a lot for me
• 1:01:17
  to cry. I probably can carry tons of bricks on my back and don't
• 1:01:22
  fall, But when it comes to those kids, that's a different type of
• 1:01:25
  parent, that's a different type of person. Like wo, I never thought
• 1:01:30
  I'd shed a tear, but when it comes to my kids, like I'll
• 1:01:32
  shed many tears. I understand why Jesus went when it come to kids like
• 1:01:37
  so, no, I have a different tolerance level when it comes to just
• 1:01:40
  mankind about children. So my kids are about that, I may fuss,
• 1:01:46
  I may curse, Lord knows I curse. Yeah, you aint the only
• 1:01:51
  one. I'm still getting baptized in the cleaning of my tongue. Earlier today,
• 1:01:58
  girl, I was like, oh, I got, I gotta,
• 1:02:00
  I gotta get this hood out of me real quick because it's lingo. Like,
• 1:02:06
  I'm okay with cursing, like it's it's a health it's healthy. I'm
• 1:02:10
  trying it slipped out to ease for me. You're just not going to curse
• 1:02:15
  everybody out, No, not that, But I was cousin like more than
• 1:02:17
  so for me, cursing. Its interesting that we're getting to this subject right
• 1:02:22
  now, but cursing for me, and I think it is for anybody's difference.
• 1:02:27
  I think that, yeah, cursing is the language blah blah blah.
• 1:02:29
  I say the hood just to be funny. But for me, because of
• 1:02:32
  where I want to be and where I'm going, I want to use I
• 1:02:37
  use cursing because I can't find another word. And I've challenged, I personally
• 1:02:43
  challenged myself to literally find other words so I can make sure that I'm not
• 1:02:49
  offending anybody when I'm talking to them. But if I'm around certain people,
• 1:02:52
  they don't get offended. Okay, cool, but even them, It's like,
• 1:02:58
  I want to always be evolved with my vocabulary and not limiting myself with
• 1:03:04
  frustrating anger words that your surroundings don't be triggered. Yo, that's the ray.
• 1:03:14
  She was talking really good, good, like super good. Okay.
• 1:03:21
  I think I learned a lot today. I I definitely learned, and I'm
• 1:03:28
  gonna tell you something that I'm taking with me from this whole conversation. Earlier,
• 1:03:34
  you brought up the fact that the way you bake, how you get
• 1:03:38
  your taste is is just you follow instructions and then you when it will you
• 1:03:43
  allow yourself to use your creativity for the look the design. Right. That
• 1:03:50
  freed me right there, because what I heard was I put my focus in
• 1:04:00
  what I'm good at and I allow the other things just to be right.
• 1:04:06
  And I think, like why in my mind, I'm like, girl,
• 1:04:11
  why wouldn't you try different recipes? Why wouldn't you do this? Because you're
• 1:04:14
  the Kate lady? He was like, and you kept and I heard you,
• 1:04:16
  and I'm just coming back to it. I'm like, oh, yah,
• 1:04:19
  you bake kates. No, you're a cake designer. Let me put
• 1:04:25
  some respect on your name, like yo, you then niche all the way
• 1:04:29
  down and I'm gonna receive that for myself because it's just like being in this
• 1:04:36
  lane where like I said earlier, we don't have we haven't had the opportunities
• 1:04:41
  traditionally to see different things, being exposed to different things, and baby be
• 1:04:45
  able to niche down right. I think that's a scary thing. But you're
• 1:04:50
  doing it so boldly because it's easy to say, oh, I bake cakes.
• 1:04:57
  It's not easy to say that I designed case. It's like, how
• 1:04:59
  are you going to that the caken not bake it? It's like, but
• 1:05:02
  you kept like you kept me on that tip and I'm like, I can't
• 1:05:06
  let her miss out that I learned a lot and that is my biggest takeaway.
• 1:05:13
  That is my biggest takeaway. That's why you are the cure. You
• 1:05:17
  are the cure. Girl. I enjoyed this conversation and I appreciate you for
• 1:05:23
  allowing me to be you know, your first talk. I feel like it's
• 1:05:28
  talk to anybody now or no I'm just you ain't gonna be comfortable with nobody.
• 1:05:33
  We're gonna have to do this again, Mike, I'm sor ready to.
• 1:05:39
  But you did a good job. This is a safe space and you
• 1:05:44
  feel very comfortable. I did. I did tell the folks you felt comfortable.
• 1:05:46
  I felt very comfortable, and I'm super proud of you. Look,
• 1:05:51
  I tried to do much research before I came, because you know, you
• 1:05:56
  could follow someone on Facebook social media and you can also lose sight of what
• 1:06:00
  they're doing. But to be honest, like the times that we have been
• 1:06:04
  acquainted and met, like this is your path. So I'm very proud of
• 1:06:09
  you. This is not normal in Birmingham, Like a lot of people are
• 1:06:14
  not sitting here doing entrepreneurs talking to them, you know, getting the norm
• 1:06:17
  or you know, just in this setting. And this is, like you
• 1:06:21
  said, a safe zone. So I'm very grateful that we actually had the
• 1:06:25
  time to do this. This is well needed, This is this is something
• 1:06:30
  that I needed to do also to step out my comfort zone. Because I
• 1:06:31
  also made a goal and said I'm gonna start getting on Facebook live. I
• 1:06:36
  said this, Oh hold up, you're getting this right? Is still recording?
• 1:06:40
  Okay, coach you here every Friday. No, I said every Thursday,
• 1:06:45
  I was gonna get on Facebook live and start doing like tutorials and telling
• 1:06:47
  what I'm doing with my cakes and things. And I did it, I
• 1:06:50
  can say honestly four times and haven't done it anymore. And the reason why
• 1:06:55
  I'm gonna tell you, I'm gonna be real about it two reasons why I
• 1:07:00
  hate the way I talk. That's that's what I mean. I'm just gonna
• 1:07:02
  be blanking like I hate the way I talk. I found I said,
• 1:07:05
  I say, I sound like mush mouth sometime, but that's just some of
• 1:07:10
  confidence thing that I continue to develop and get over with. Secondly, when
• 1:07:14
  you're getting on there and you're doing stuff that you do in your comfort,
• 1:07:17
  your lane, it's always somebody who got something negative to say. And somebody
• 1:07:24
  did have some negative to say something about something simple ass. I was just
• 1:07:27
  showing. I wasn't touching anything, but I was just showing, like,
• 1:07:30
  you know, something that I had created. And they came back and told
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  my mom she needs to wear gloves, and that brought me wrong. But
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  you know what, you just have fun that God is is the same person
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  who said that. I turned around and did a cake for their family member
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  and they wind up eating the cake, and I made sure I told their
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  family member to tell them I didn't wear gloves, but to tell no,
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  I knew that was by the way I touched is also a slick comedian.
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  Sometimes you have to address things that bother you because, as you said,
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  you know, as an entrepreneur, especially when you're being a country creator,
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  you have to be mindful what you do on the camera. But you also
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  have to be mindful that we are human. You know, everything that doesn't
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  need to be said. You know, everybody can't tolerate everything that's being said.
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  I'll make it tolerated. But I had to be pity in that moment
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  because it was comical, and it was also the fact that you never know
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  who you're gonna get something from, yeah, and how they're gonna you know.
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  Anyways, I just had to be pitied. No, that girl that
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  was that was so that was so good that even the pettiness was good.
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  But I want to challenge you, like go live. I will. It's
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  no reason, I mean, excuse me, there's no reason why you shouldn't.
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  There's no reason why. It's really no reason why you shouldn't. I
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  used to get on myself about that as well, and just a transparent moment,
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  I can feel you like I sound I feel like I sound like a
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  man. I'm like, I just feel like I sound like a man.
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  I feel like I don't pronounce my words right, I feel like i' on
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  comprehend. I feel like I got ADHD. So I don't have am I
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  interviewing people? Let me tell you this. Ooh girl, I'm trying to
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  I'm trying to end it, but you just keep pulling on me. So
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  watch this Corporate America. Right, So I had this job. I'm gonna
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  have to tell that story soon. Had this job. They told me for
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  years. They've been telling me for years that I do not interview will right,
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  she get all nervous and stuff like that, And yeah, I get
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  nervous, like because I I got nervous and tried to get messed up on
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  an interview because I was trying to be something that I felt like you wanted
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  me to be, not really who I am want to be. So a
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  few of them have watched the podcast, and these not just know my coworkers
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  know, these higher ups like they loved me or whatever. But I just
• 1:10:15
  couldn't get bad in an interview right fast forward, I get this podcast.
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  I don't want to I don't understand why, you know, Jessica can't be
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  the same person that she is in the interview that she is on her platform.
• 1:10:30
  Well, for one, it's her platform, so she can be who
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  she wanted to be in right, and then two I was so it was
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  that I was not authentically being myself. So when I had this last interview
• 1:10:42
  that I had, Oh, you're giving you able to give them the deets,
• 1:10:45
  I'm I'm gonna give you all the dets on this a little bit more.
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  But I changed jobs after or changed positions, so I basically demoted myself
• 1:10:53
  in the company so I can make more opportunity for this out of beience of
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  God right in the interview. During the interview process, you know, I
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  had two interviews, and the lady came back and told me because one of
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  the things at my job they give us feedback on everything that we do,
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  and I was I was waiting for the feedback. She was like, we
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  want you. You're so optimistic. I loved your answers. I loved your
• 1:11:21
  examples, X, Y and Z. I mean, she's just raving.
• 1:11:25
  So I'm like, okay, I'm ready for the negative. I was like,
• 1:11:30
  she didn't give me nothing. So she ended up calling me back for
• 1:11:32
  someone else and I said, ma'am, you gave can you give me my
• 1:11:38
  feedback for my interview? And she was like, you did amazing. I
• 1:11:43
  don't have anything to correct you on. So I'm like, so somebody lying.
• 1:11:49
  Somebody lied because I'm the same chick. You know what I'm saying,
• 1:11:53
  like, I'm I answered the questions the same way I just had. You
• 1:11:57
  kind of kind of structured it better a little bit had for examples, but
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  it's like, same chick, but I was litt What I'm telling you is
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  it's interesting that the thing that they say that I'm bad at, I actually
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  have to do. So I was nervous to do the tall with the Browns.
• 1:12:12
  I'm nervous to go to Atlanta to the podcast. I'm nervous. I
• 1:12:15
  don't think I speak well, I don't think I sound well. But guess
• 1:12:17
  what, Guess guess what LK take me take away from me my experience being
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  chosen. And I'm telling I'm sitting here telling you you the cure Amber,
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  how you gonna be the cure, and you ain't cured curing. The people
• 1:12:32
  gotta hear your voice. What it says the sheep. The sheep hear my
• 1:12:36
  voice, and they come running, right, the shepherd. And when Jesus
• 1:12:40
  is our shepherd, all of ours shepherd, right. But there are even
• 1:12:43
  shepherds here on earth. Like you were talking about Apostle. Apostle Davis,
• 1:12:47
  you are attracted to his voice because you are his sheep. There are sheep
• 1:12:51
  waiting for you to activate your voice. You're speaking listening. I know,
• 1:12:58
  I just want. I want to. I'm gonna tell you because I'm gonna
• 1:13:00
  text you and I'll be like, hey, it's Thursday, Tayler. Just
• 1:13:05
  like how you be in my inbox. I need you want her inbox because
• 1:13:09
  she she the truth. She definitely will text. Yeah. So Live on
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  Thursdays. What we're calling it? Is it some sweet joke Thursdays? Give
• 1:13:17
  it a name? What did I say? Coach? What she said?
• 1:13:23
  Because I know you can't remember your on listen sometimes I did. I actually
• 1:13:29
  gave it a name on on Live. I have to go back and look
• 1:13:32
  because I didn't delete the unless they deleted themselves. But I did give it
• 1:13:35
  a name. I did give it a name. So I look forward to
• 1:13:39
  seeing you on Thursdays live on Thursday. What time can we put you It's
• 1:13:43
  it varies. It's gonna vary. I can't say I'm gonna be on there
• 1:13:45
  every Thursday specifically, because sometimes I may not have orders every week, or
• 1:13:50
  I may get I may get busy with doing something, so it just depends.
• 1:13:55
  It's another thing with being disciplined. If I say I'm gonna do something,
• 1:13:58
  I gotta do it. So right now we're on working. Know is
• 1:14:00
  being disciplined in my word, and I'm actually being disciplined in my word.
• 1:14:04
  Devoting myself to God every day, every day, every day this summer.
• 1:14:09
  I have never done so. Every day I'm in the word. I'm devote.
• 1:14:12
  Kids can't talk to me until I do my scripture. I'm in my
• 1:14:15
  word every day, so I love it. I'm working. I'm the more
• 1:14:19
  I've become developed in business, the more I become developed as a person.
• 1:14:24
  If I want a certain thing, I'm working on doing that certain thing one
• 1:14:27
  time, one thing a day. Just in that instance, just do that
• 1:14:31
  one thing. Because if I don't, like you said, I get sidetracked
• 1:14:35
  too. When it comes to business, I do got adhd because I could
• 1:14:39
  be talking to one customer and then I'm in basketball practice. Yeah, or
• 1:14:44
  so because I'm a busy woman, you are you a whole mother, like
• 1:14:47
  you got three kids and a hoods Hello, that's by itself, and then
• 1:14:51
  you're talking about some entrepreneur child talk about busy. So I want to give
• 1:14:57
  you this space because I want to make it better because we talked about a
• 1:14:59
  lot of things that I'm just like wow, not surprised about the conversation,
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  but just thank God for the conversation because I know it's gonna bless somebody.
• 1:15:05
  So if there's one thing that you would want to lead with people out of
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  everything that you said today, what would that one thing be? Know your
• 1:15:14
  season? Know your season of life as a business person. Of course we're
• 1:15:20
  talking about business. As a business person, you know you're gonna be very
• 1:15:24
  inconsistent with business. You're gonna have ups and downs, but don't get down
• 1:15:29
  to yourself. Consistency is key, not practice makes perfect. Consistency makes perfect.
• 1:15:35
  Know your season. It may not be your season those people are elevating
• 1:15:40
  it may be their season. But know your season and know when it's time
• 1:15:43
  for you to elevate. If you try to elevate during the season, that's
• 1:15:45
  not for you. You're gonna get rejected, You're gonna get down, you're
• 1:15:49
  gonna get depressed, and you may not want to come back after that.
• 1:15:53
  But know your season, and when it's your season, take off. After
• 1:15:56
  that, take y'all take off. A that's good. I thought you un
• 1:16:01
  say because you know you say A. And then okay, okay, y'all,
• 1:16:09
  this has been good. It's it's good. It's good season Birmingham.
• 1:16:13
  If y'all ain't paid attention, if nobody else is doing it, she said,
• 1:16:16
  just ask is exposing the good grounds on NIA. So I'm excited Amber,
• 1:16:23
  y'all gonna see your if I get a kid, Y already know who
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  I'm calling. Yes, I am biased, so don't even try. Coach.
• 1:16:30
  Thank you for coming with your wife. Shout out the coach Desiree's good.
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  Seeing you as always y'all until next week. Life could be much more
• 1:16:42
  simple if you just asked, see y'all later. Thank you for tuning in
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  to this week's episode. Since you've made it this far, you might as
• 1:16:56
  well connect with us on all social media platforms. A deep Jessica s I
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  know I won't see you back until next week, but until then, remember
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  to love always yourself and always thank thank God for one another day. Hey,
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  Hey, I know we could be another way. Hey, pray thank
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  God for another day. Hey Hey, I'm just thankful another day. Hey,
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  Hey, another day? Oh, another day wise, another day to
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  get it right, another day to rise up, another day living, another
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  day. We loved ones. I always remember, hold it down for a
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  ball one. Yeah,