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My Boy Friend Travelled To The UK With The Money I Made From Surrogacy And Abandoned Me · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to another episode of wanted
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  lorenza. For today's episode, I want to
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  talk about the Japanese culture. I mean this Jaguar control is no
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  ending anytime soon and we are having like people sharing their
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  stories of the effect of Jack McCall to especially two people
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  in a relationship or people who plan to, you know, jump back
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  together. ER or travel out together and it
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  did not work out for them. So there's this lady who came
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  out and told our story online, she said that she graduated from
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  the University that you service, there was no job.
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  So she decided to get into teaching, she got a teaching
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  job. She was doing the teaching job
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  and she was that the salary was nothing to write home about, but
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  she was trying to, like, just get something to take care of
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  her busy, it needs. She said, she was doing the job
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  and praying for God to bless. Sow wheat in different job, or a
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  better paying job. So, why she was doing this job,
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  she met a guy, they became friends.
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  One thing. Led to the other, they started
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  sleeping with each other. According to her to he's
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  forestry the he's frustration and according to a she's broke
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  this guy's Brooke. They just like, thanks, Sean.
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  They just wanted to ease tension.
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  That was already sleeping together fast forward.
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  And a few months later, she got pregnant.
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  So when she got pregnant, she said telling the guy.
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  Okay, let's go and see your parents and all that kind of
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  thing. You know, how friends with
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  benefit become something else, and the guy was not having it
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  because maybe he too, he was not thinking about marrying her.
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  According to high was just, they were just sleeping together to
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  East frustration. So when she got pregnant, she
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  started pressuring the guy to take her to see his parents
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  because obviously, now there's a child in Of the guy refused on
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  till she was. She said she was about nine
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  months pregnant, when the guy actually took our to his
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  parents. She said she met that she didn't
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  review if they got married or not, but she just said she met
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  the parents. And her parents also met the
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  guy, so they had a child and six months later, this guy lost his
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  job and she was not the one I think from that point,
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  obviously, they moved in together I said living together,
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  so she said he lost it. His job, six months later,
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  things became very difficult because they were now leaving.
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  She was now catering for the family, basically, for a child.
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  And for him on her six months, on her salary, that teacher's
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  salary, which even before them was nothing to write home about.
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  She said, she started researching on how to get better
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  paying job and get more money or big money.
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  So somebody told her about being a surrogate for people.
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  She said after doing the whole Then she got a company in Lagos
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  who told how everything is. Finally got her.
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  It clients she got pregnant after going through the whole
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  IVF stove. She got pregnant had twins for
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  these people. They paid her very well.
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  So before then when she was going through that process, she
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  was thinking she will use the money to start up a business but
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  her baby that the total. Why not?
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  We just travel use this money on travel, when I travel.
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  Make arrangements for you to join me.
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  I will be sending you money. The meantime, for upkeep before,
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  I sort myself out, she felt okay.
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  That is a better idea. Instead of starting this
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  business is better for him to use this money and jackpot.
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  That was his trouble. He will be sending money to her.
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  Hmm, she was the paid her the money.
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  She took the money. Gave her baby daddy.
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  Those guys started processing the papers.
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  He got a Musashi, didn't really tell us Kind of Visa he got.
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  But according to hashing, he got a Visa and travel to the UK, two
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  years ago, which this was 2020, maybe this was before the
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  pandemic or maybe 21 that he traveled anyway.
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  She said, two years ago, he traveled.
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  So after he traveled, he said he sent her money once and since
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  then, he has no scent are any money.
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  So let me just, let's just say that this guy traveled, maybe
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  beginning of the pandemic or before For the pandemic less.
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  A general February that was when he traveled and this guy just
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  hit the country and pandemic heat.
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  When were talking about the UK UK went into lockdown in March
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  of 2020. So maybe he just got in and he
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  was able to walk for a few weeks sense, in a couple of pounds.
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  And then there was a lockdown and she said since then, he has
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  no code her, he has not sent any money.
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  This is true. Is now, she has not heard
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  anything from him. He is not contacting her that
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  after she went through the whole surrogacy got pregnant, had the
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  baby took the money and give it to him thinking he was going to
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  help her and now she is left hanging.
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  She said she went to the parents or to the mother of the boy.
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  She told him or she told her what happened?
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  And she said that she should just move on with her life.
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  She said she was angry. She does what she's And on
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  social media. Now to to tell a story of what
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  happened to her with the whole Jack, Parr cultural thing now
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  thinking about this logically like sometimes you hear stories
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  and people are emotional about certain things.
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  You're saying, okay, this guy's this guy's week Aid.
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  How can he travel and use the money to travel and then not
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  even call her or contact her, or tell her anything that is going
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  on. I'm not even saying, Money.
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  I think the problem here is the the first of all, let the first
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  problem I saw here is that you went through this process, you
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  carry this Baby's, you have, you went through the process of IVF.
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  You got pregnant, you have twins.
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  It's not obvious. Why don't you use that money to
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  Jack by yourself? It's not like you're not
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  educated you're educated. You could easily get a masters
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  degree. If that money is not that enough
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  you could That Visa by he process for himself.
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  You could have done that yourself.
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  I used it is your money and use it to travel but you chose to
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  give it to a man that it's not even your husband.
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  That is the baby daddy. You chose to give it to him and
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  now you're complaining online. I am not saying that the guy is
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  blameless. I'm not saying that all the guy
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  did the right thing, but the reality is most times when
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  people travel it takes, especially somebody that Travel
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  during the pandemic. There was a lockdown.
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  He probably was homeless, he probably was not working, he
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  probably was just couldn't even take care of himself and appoint
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  people don't understand the effect of the pandemic, we are
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  in recession at the point. This point in the UK, this is as
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  a result of, not just the pandemic, but the war in Ukraine
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  cost of living has skyrocketed. People are not even able to
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  afford basic things in the UK. Not Even to talk of nouns,
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  saving money, and sending to people in Nigeria, especially if
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  you don't have your stay, I mean, she didn't she didn't tell
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  us how he traveled. Whether he traveled as his
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  students or he took, I strongly believe that he traveled as a
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  visitor. Now, you traveling as a visitor,
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  how do you you're thinking? Okay?
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  You I think the problem is people just think all they need
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  to do is just to travel once they travel.
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  When they get there they're going to I thought their life.
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  It will shock you ego, shock, you and until you that took your
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  money, you you took your money. I gave to a man.
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  I am not saying, don't give them, don't give me any money on
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  you both. There's this concept they stay
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  in about Nigeria, especially Nigerian women or African women,
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  that they need to. They need to give money to men.
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  You see, a Nigerian woman, Walk Hard.
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  Do everything as you take that money and give to him, man.
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  I just for him to feel manly just for him to because he's the
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  head of the table. Lee seen, you worked for that
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  money, you got the prayer, you got pregnant.
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  You have to go through that, your body went through all the
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  changes carrying twins, and you took the money and give some of
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  our damn, you gave it to his son of a damn And now you're
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  complaining he probably is homeless in the u.k. right now.
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  He probably is roaming the streets, he probably is in
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  detention center. He probably is in jail.
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  You don't even know. Maybe this is why he's not
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  contacting. You you don't know I'm because
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  you're not even married to him. You cannot go to the modern
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  claim. Whoa.
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  What do you want us to send you? You won't have to tell you to
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  sit down and wait for us on for whenever he's ready.
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  She told you that as Woman. Listen, you have to move on with
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  your life. I do betta.
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  You're bitter. We as women we need to do
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  better. I mean you as a students if you
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  are doing your research now you know that the UK they are
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  looking for Nigerian teachers, guandu qualifications, go on
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  right, go to court, some qualifications and get a job and
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  come here, but, you know, do it now, you got to carry on that
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  story. Gets a ammonia gives man.
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  We need to do better. We need to do believe in
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  yourself, regardless. Sometimes I think people just
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  people just don't believe in themselves, they think it
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  because they are men, you know, they can, I am not saying men,
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  listen, we are fighting for equal opportunities.
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  We are fighting for equal rights.
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  Then why do you not think that you are see graduates?
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  You went to school the four walls of the University just
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  like he did. Why do you think He is, he has
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  an upper hand. I don't get it.
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  I mean, I sympathize with you because it's heartbreaking, but
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  looking at it from the other end, this guy might be jobless.
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  He does not, he can also good. Maybe he's just rough sleeping
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  on the streets. Maybe he's in jail, you don't
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  even know. You don't know his condition.
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  A'right Windows, a pandemic, maybe right now.
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  He's, he does not even know his left from his right.
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  He does not even know what is he cannot even afford Three Square
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  meals per day. Not to talk of sending you
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  money. People need to understand that
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  it's not just about traveling is not about traveling, it's not
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  about okay, just travel now and they start sending me pounce
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  that person needs to sort themselves out.
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  That is an if it's if he traveled as His student, he will
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  need to go to school. Do you understand what it means
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  to be going to school, working, trying to save money, to pay pay
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  off your tuition. You're still trying to pay to
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  pay your rent cost of living, people.
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  Don't get this. People don't do that
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  calculation. They just think, okay, the
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  average that I can end in the UK, in a month, is a thousand
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  pounds. It hasn't pounds is, 1 million,
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  that is big money. So even if he's sending me a
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  hundred thousand, Every month that is okay, but you're not
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  calculating. What about rent?
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  What about cost of living? What about feeding?
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  Like, you're not even putting all those things into carbon
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  into consideration. You're just focusing on the
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  income. Converting the incoming to
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  naira. These are the issues we need to
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  do better I sympathize with her, but I think until you don't know
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  his situation, you don't know before you start dragging, you
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  know, go out and do some qualifications and come and join
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  him in the UK. You are a teacher.
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  Do you give people are looking for teachers right now?
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  Don't go and do another surrogacy and carry the money.
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  I gave to another man. Don't do it.
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  Let us have since this is 23. That's what have sense.
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  It's anyway, thank you very much for watching today's episode.
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  If you have any advice for this lady, please leave it in the
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  comment section. And I mean, period.
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  There's been advice flowing, you know, flying left, right center.
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  But I think she'll be all right. Last class should be arise, her
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  child will be all right, even the guy in the UK, you were able
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  to sort himself out and I wish them all the best.
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  So thank you very much for watching.
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  Bye.