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Asking for help... · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today I want to talk to you about asking for help because I
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  think it's one of the hardest things that we all go through as
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  human beings. Apparently Wilma, here thinks
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  the same thing as she comes up to sit.
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  And while I'm recording this and asking for help is a very, very
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  hard thing for people to do. I see it constantly within my
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  coaching practice, when people call and say, they want to
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  finally get help? It's usually a Last ditch
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  effort. It's kind of one of those things
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  where they reach the point of desperation and then they say,
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  okay, I need help, I need different perspective, I need
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  someone to come and talk to me about something.
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  I need to, you know, have a different perspective.
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  Put into my head because the one that I'm dealing with, right now
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  is not working for me, but it's not something that they go to
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  easily. And I think most of us have been
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  wired to believe that, when you ask for help, it's because
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  you're out of resources. It's because You've gotten to a
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  point where you can't show that you're doing something
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  independently, and I see it over and over, and over again, where
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  people struggle, and they feel by the time they show up, and
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  they are on the phone with me, and they're asking for help in
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  something. They've reached a point of
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  desperation, and they've gotten to this position where they are
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  mad at themselves for feeling a certain way.
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  And I can't stress enough, how that is just the wrong
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  perspective. Good to have.
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  If you have gotten to the point where you are willing to ask for
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  help, then you've recognized very smartly that you can no
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  longer continue in the position that you're in.
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  You can no longer continue to remain in the perspective,
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  you're in and successfully navigate it.
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  So it's it is important and necessary to recognize that that
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  that little bit of information, that little tidbit of
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  information Is meant to give you everything you need in order to
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  shift and change, and it's nothing to be ashamed of.
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  It's actually brilliant that you recognized.
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  It, it's a different level of a mindset.
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  It's a growth mindset at that point.
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  When you say, listen, I can't grow without having additional
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  input. I need to have additional input,
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  but it requires us to pause and not shame ourselves in the
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  moment of saying, I need help. Humble ourselves and say, no,
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  this is, I can't do this by myself being Able to do that is
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  huge. I think it's an important
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  distinction to recognize that I have a coach.
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  I think lots of people that I know who are coaches have
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  coaches, because, if you have somebody that you're working
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  with that shows that you can pause and find those things
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  within yourself as well. So, there's no shame in it.
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  Whether you go to a coach, as I said, or go to a therapist or go
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  to a psychiatrist or You know, anybody that can give you advice
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  a mint or whatever it might be, this is necessary to ask for
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  help when you need it, and not shame yourself for needing.
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  It actually celebrate yourself for recognizing, I need help
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  because that's the moment that change begins.
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  So I first of all, if you're in the position where you need to
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  recognize that, I'll ask you to pause and say, please do an
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  inventory and ask yourself what do I need help?
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  With like, right now, that's an excellent exercise for you to
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  do. What do I need help with?
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  Where do I feel stuck? Because if you can take that
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  quick inventory, then you can say, okay, like there are just
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  certain things in our lives and I don't care.
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  If it's something as simple as listen.
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  I don't want to go in the grocery store anymore.
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  I need help. I need to be able to just pull
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  up and go ahead and pick up my groceries.
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  Don't be ashamed of that. We all of us don't have time do
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  that if you need help having you know, somebody come and do
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  tutoring with your kids. I mean, if that's one of the
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  biggest things that A tie here lately is that people are
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  struggling with your kids in school and their kids need help
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  and they don't know how to do the homework because God knows
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  it's been a significant amount of time.
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  Since they've been on a school they don't understand it and
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  it's driving them crazy. And the kids and them can't sit
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  down and have a decent conversation because there's so
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  much homework that they're focused in fighting.
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  So it's a awareness that says we need help to do the homework.
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  We need somebody to come over here and help us with this.
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  We might need a tutor, we might need a kid, that's a little bit
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  older that can come and do this. It's already done it, whatever
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  it might be. It's that oh clearly we need
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  help. Just look at everything.
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  Even if it's just having somebody in your life that you
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  can brainstorm with that, you can mentor with that.
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  You can ask questions to and feel comfortable with it.
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  You've got to put yourself into that growth mindset and say, I
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  am capable of asking for help and doing it and successfully,
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  navigating it. Allowing myself to be humble and
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  do so. So hopefully this got through to
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  you guys today because I'm knocking on the door and I'm
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  saying, please ask for help, please reach out and tell people
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  when you need it. Please do not try to do
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  everything on your own. Nobody can.
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  I don't care who you are, nobody can do it.
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  So I hope you guys have a very blessed day and I will see you
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  all tomorrow. Take care.