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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just- The Trap of Fleeting Pleasures 7.30.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Page 303 O1 He's hammering on this idea of the things that we
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  are busy with and are pulled into a very temporary some of
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  them are even destructive. And he's going on at this point
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  to all the material and he says an example.
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  He says example is food. We know that some food is not
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  even healthy for us. Once we eat it, after we're done
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  with it, we feel like, you know, we have our stomach is too full
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  and we feel heavy. We don't feel comfortable.
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  So that mindset should be seen in advance and if we live in
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  advance till we do after the fact, our approach would be much
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  more balanced, unhealthy and not so obsessed.
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  That's the idea that he has, so he says right?
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  We don't know it to be true. So you now call a levada in
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  Bridgeman 3 O1 all these scenarios it's clear.
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  So no one really. So meaning a person won't really
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  want it now desire these things once.
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  He thinks. This way, Kevin, once you
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  realize is that the good in these items, especially if
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  they're, let's say unhealthy foods or destructive behaviors
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  that people are attracted to. I realize that the goods aren't
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  goods and they're really destructive.
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  Ushard Kohan knowledge about Allah and all other things Soto
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  not pretty shoots Eliots born the shoot is really more about
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  good things that you should stay away from.
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  So he suffice. He's trying to say that I'm
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  talking about the good thing, but the good things have a bad
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  element to them. So he's talking.
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  About food, for example, which is a fine thing, but he's saying
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  food is part of the world of a person king a stomach ache and
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  these different things that that's the kind of bad he's
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  talking about or so talking about regular fine things, but
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  he's saying in order to keep away look at them and realize
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  what they really carry with them.
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  They don't really carry the greatest things.
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  They're not the biggest deals. They're not worth so much yes.
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  He's not talking about bad things per SE because calling
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  them so you wonder why is the word I told?
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  Why does he use the word? That's why.
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  That's all why saying destructive behavior.
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  But we know that we're in the world of good things, not
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  destructive. So what does it mean when it
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  says bad over here? Let's see.
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  No. So you have to go a couple of
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  steps forward and say that the bad that he's talking about
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  either physically, but you don't really feel so good after you're
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  done. That's not so bad.
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  Or you go further and say. The bad he's talking.
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  About what things can lead to because but his youth is based
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  on leading to problems avoiding leading problems he means if a
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  person would be wary of the fact that these things I get obsessed
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  into I get connected to lead me sometimes to bed, I'd be more
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  careful and being less interested as.
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  We're trying to say. As read the words and then the
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  barrack of elite born in by him, yet a person would analyze these
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  things Shafilu Hatov, Ahmed Dumesh by him even the
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  attractive good that a person sees in them and then LL is man
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  what even the enjoyment that person.
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  'S going. To have from them is temporary
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  at best. The Raj again, the word, the bad
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  shiholi Vale mehem which can be born from them cachet, the aruch
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  actually the negative things. That can grow.
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  From them are difficult and they're.
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  Long lasting. And no one will be interested in
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  getting involved in them are ever had told them what based in
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  the small low level of enjoyment.
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  A person's going to gain from them is EPA Shoot.
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  So now let's explain this for a second.
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  He's talking. About, let's say, a person being
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  put from being obsessed into food.
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  Or. Obsessed in something physical?
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  Not really bad. He's talking about the fact that
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  it does lead, it could lead to a problem, and he's telling.
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  US. That don't be overly busy with
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  material things because they're good and short lasted lasting
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  and they're negative element is long lasting.
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  Now again, a lot of these things don't have a negative component
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  to them. Rather the attraction to them,
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  the obsession with these items being busy with these things can
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  lead to negative. You're talking about that, so
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  you put up, put up against. It's put on this scale.
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  You have the small level of enjoyment that person has from
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  anything material. Pop by part, item by item.
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  The level of enjoyment is always short lasting and have a long
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  lasting. You can do that many times and
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  enjoy them over and over again, but each time the old shortlist,
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  OK, now on the other side of the scale, you have what it leads to
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  and it leads to an obsession. Now, it's hard to imagine this
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  when it comes to food. It's easier to imagine if it
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  comes to other material items and especially if you're a guy
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  who's busy with vacations or a person who has some slight level
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  of indulging in certain areas that can lead to addictions and
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  stuff like that. You put them on the scale, short
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  enjoyment up against long lasting possible connections,
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  obsessions, addictions, problems.
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  So that's the scale. And that's what a person who's
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  Portish is saying to himself, I'm afraid.
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  Or I'm not interested in being so materially connected, so
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  obsessive. I therefore would rather and
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  have to have a small degree of control to limit myself in that
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  enjoyment which is there, but I'll hold back because I'm not
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  interested. And that other track, that's a
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  challenge. That's the purpose of British,
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  as he's telling you. Okushiya Gila, that's more
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  Vietnamese. Do you know when you get
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  yourself used to this and you're constant in focusing on this
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  truth, All I admit as out on the truth that I just told you he
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  named Mahat Mahat. Slowly but surely, yet he'll
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  become freer. Mima Sara seclude from the jail
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  of this mindset I shall have home made which the physicality
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  oset O tobo it puts him in jail, holds him back void patem MI
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  petuya and alta 'cause what call he will not be as attracted, as
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  pulled in, as impressed by all the material that we see.
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  Azim Aspan have therefore become somewhat turned away from them
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  via dodge. He should not be so interested
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  in things in this world. Besides for those unnecessary
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  Komoshakati. Based on the concept that I told
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  you so he's really all my concept, which doesn't seem to
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  be so relevant maybe. Or maybe it doesn't seem to be
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  so real. You're telling me I should be
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  afraid and I should be distance myself from material things
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  because of the bad that comes from them and because the good
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  is only temporary? What's so bad if I enjoy myself?
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  The answer is nothing. What's so bad if I had a good
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  night out? Again, the answer is nothing.
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  What he's talking about is the idea of being having a head has
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  drawn in. If you have a mindset, there's a
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  lot of glitz and glamour out there.
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  There's a lot of color, there's a lot of attraction, there's a
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  lot of advertisements. There's everything.
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  Everything out there is pulling you in as the whole world, the
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  whole world is built and structured in a way to pull us
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  in and we are accepting to all those things that pull us in for
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  their temporary rush. Let's get a little bit more
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  delicate. Move out of food, move maybe
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  more into. Maybe you could even argue this
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  is the case. A light.
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  Level of gambling. Right.
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  Again, gambling, technically speaking, there's good on it,
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  huh? There's good on it.
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  No good on it. But again, many people have
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  gotten involved. This.
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  Is an addiction that doesn't start off with their complete
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  buried, which means I'm thinking about smoking where you could
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  say from the start you tell the person to control themselves.
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  Well, then there's something to every person that's gotten
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  involved that. Has said to themselves, what's
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  so bad? I'm just having a good time,
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  right? And it's only $3 and I'm not
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  really doing it for the money and I'm only doing to have fun
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  and all that stuff. If a person is open and his eyes
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  see all the attraction at the sports gambling world is pulling
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  at him and let's it be and let's his eyes see it and he's
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  basically very susceptible to to to a lot of bed at the end.
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  There's OK in the beginning in our eyes, there's eyes that open
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  to these things. And then it leads to a whole
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  world that's destructive. Every single person who's ever
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  had a problem boils back to the beginning.
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  I just thought I was having a good time.
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  I was just doing it once. Boom, right?
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  Not like drinking on Pudi, same idea, a person who just drinks
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  during certain times and says my drinking is fine, come out, not
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  do anything wrong. People allow it whatever and
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  then their eyes open to it and they see it and they see all the
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  excitement. That bother may not be
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  advertisements, that might see people seemingly having a good
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  time and all that stuff all. We all know how it works.
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  One thing to another and. It's the whole world again, the
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  eyes accepting that picture. Is the problem.
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  The problem is being opened, allowing yourself to be
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  available to the attraction and the pull of the world and all
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  its color. That is the challenge.
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  Person has to have some degree of a.
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  Stop saying just. Because people talk about it a
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  lot. Just because it looks so good,
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  it doesn't mean I should be so interested in it.
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  And that can be any area of glitz and glamour, of
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  excitement, of pull, of allure, of advertisements, of color, of
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  pretty much everything we see on our phone and everything we see
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  in advertisements and everything that we see people talk about in
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  the community. All those areas are pulls.
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  And when you have a pull, you're at risk of being pulled further
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  and simply to that item rather than being pulled to that world.
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  That's the challenge he's talking about.
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  That's the ideal for the shoot. I mean, let's say people in the
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  community talk about, you mean, I people are very busy with,
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  you're very busy with certain foods, with certain restaurants
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  and they make a big deal about these restaurants.
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  Fine. But if you become a guy who's
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  always pulled into what people are talking about, there's a
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  world out there that you're allowing yourself to be
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  available too. On the other hand, if you have
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  your own level of control, which means you're a bit cynical or at
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  least critical or at least thinking about everything that
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  the community talks about and say one second, is it for me?
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  It's not for me. Is it the biggest deal or not
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  the biggest deal? You go, you enjoy, you get
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  involved, but you have a level of control and it avoids being
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  pulled into the whole world. The concern of not being poor
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  ish is being pulled into the world.
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  That's the time, all right. That's the mindset.
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  Again, if you take this to another degree, another degree,
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  it's talking about real problems.
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  OK, I'll give you something I saw last night.
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  And then we'll. Close.
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  Just an idea. Again, it's a little bit of a
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  different scenario, but it's an idea I was witnessing last night
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  so my inlaws in the house have a notice.
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  An Ant problem. And one spot in the kitchen is
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  coming from outside Ant problem. OK, the trigger exterminate
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  whatever. So I saw last night I was laying
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  last night I see a little Ant trap little thing, a box that's
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  maybe. This side, I don't know, 2
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  inches by two inches. On the corner of the counter,
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  and it was the following, there's maybe 100 ants in a
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  circle stuck on that trap. OK, they can't do it.
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  They got stuck. And then you see a crazy amount
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  of ants going up and down the wall up to that thing like
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  rushing. To try to get.
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  To that trap and they going on the bar but they can't get in
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  and they go off and then they're going back down.
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  Then they climb back up and they're like.
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  Starting around very. Fast.
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  Trying to get into that trap, trying to get into onto that
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  glue, trying to get basically to eat what they think they're
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  eating. And they're basically trying to
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  get stuck. And you're watching this scene
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  from them jump on top of the pile a little and jump on top of
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  the pile and they back off because they can't get in.
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  They can't get in to their own destruction and they're rushing
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  back and forth and you can. Imagine the ants in the bottom
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  are probably seemingly. In their mind, they had a mind
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  of depressed that they can't get to the pile, they feel bad, they
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  can't be part of the mix. They basically feel bad they
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  can't eat the poison that's going to kill them.
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  That's what it looks like literally watching this.
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  I took a video of it just to watch and just.
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  To get the lesson out of it, they going.
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  Up and down and they have to go back down because there's no
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  room for them. Then they come right back up,
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  they try anything on top of the pile, and they're basically
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  trying to eat the poison that's going to kill them.
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  And to me, the lesson is there are so many things out there
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  that are attractive. We're trying to get involved and
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  so barely, we're so interested in and we're imagining a world
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  that's so exciting and so impressive and so beautiful.
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  And basically for us, so many of us, jumping on to that pile is
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  destructive. It's not good for us.
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  So you can take it to an extreme by applying it to food as
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  Messiah Shame is doing it, or you can take it to a more
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  practical scenario, which are our versions today, which are
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  all the attractions that we first got involved in that led
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  the problems these people did. And he could say to yourself, I
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  need to have a stop. I need to have a turn off by it.
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  I need to have an ability to say not everything that's exciting
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  is exciting for me. And that is at the core of how
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  Pretty shoot helps because every person's.
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  Got 2 tracks in life. They either have a track of
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  pulse and then they pulled into everything or they have a truck
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  where they're in control. They enjoy things, get involved,
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  but it's not automatically. I'm just going to go in full
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  scale and get all involved and then be next thing I know I'll
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  be that person on top of the pile.
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  Hi Shalom, where I thought it was so cool and turns out.
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  It's destructive. Of my life.
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  That's what he's telling. Me all right stop with this.
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  Is this a problem?