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How to COMPLETELY Change Your Life in 90 Days · Lately with Lexi

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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to completely change your life in the next 90 days,
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  SPEAKER_00: the first thing you need to do is stop trying to change your entire life all
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  SPEAKER_00: at once.
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  SPEAKER_00: And listen,
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  SPEAKER_00: that is a hard pill for me to swallow because I have 47 different goals
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  SPEAKER_00: at any given moment and I'm finally ready.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for joining us.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're new here, I'm Lexi, I'm 33, and I'm balancing
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  SPEAKER_00: The first concept I want to share is something that I learned at the Institute
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  SPEAKER_00: for Integrative Nutrition.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you didn't know,
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  SPEAKER_00: I actually went to IIN in 2015,
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  SPEAKER_00: and this is one of my favorite concepts that I learned.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's called the Wheel of Life.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a total game changer at helping you determine what are the key areas in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've got to focus.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you have a goal to lose weight,
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  SPEAKER_00: Save money, start a new business, move across the country, finding your dream man.
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  SPEAKER_00: All of that at once is just way too much.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm saying this for me just as much as I'm saying it for you
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  SPEAKER_00: because Lord knows I need to hear this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's how we're going to focus.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Wheel of Life maps out 12 key areas in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I've simplified this even more and I've broken it down into six key pillars.
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  SPEAKER_00: These are essentially the main areas of your life that you want to focus on to live
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  SPEAKER_00: a healthy, abundant, and fulfilling life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And these six categories are all about how you're doing spiritually,
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  SPEAKER_00: Mentally, physically, relationally, financially, and creatively.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what you want to do is list out these six areas and give yourself a score from zero to 10.
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  SPEAKER_00: Zero being like you're not doing well at all in this part of your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: This doesn't have to take very long.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll know fairly quickly how you're doing in these areas
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  SPEAKER_00: and chances are there's going to be one or two of these categories that you are
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  SPEAKER_00: The more you're cultivating awareness on how you are feeling spiritually,
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  SPEAKER_00: physically, mentally, emotionally, relationally, and creatively.
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  SPEAKER_00: Once you have that newfound awareness,
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  SPEAKER_00: it's going to be so much easier for you to then focus on what is that one
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  SPEAKER_00: or two main area of your life that you want to put the most focus and attention on.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you do this every quarter,
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  SPEAKER_00: you're going to start to stack new habits that are going to For me personally,
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  SPEAKER_00: over the last few months, I got into a consistent habit with my morning sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: I also moved across the road.
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  SPEAKER_00: I also started doing a new gym.
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  SPEAKER_00: Doing Strong by Izzy.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you know, you know those Pilates workouts are no joke, but they are so rewarding.
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  SPEAKER_00: So those are some new habits that I've really focused on the last three months.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now here's the two that I'm focusing on moving forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: The first new habit I'm focused on is morning writing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's really important to me as I'm putting out more content with my video podcast
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  SPEAKER_00: and my Substack and my YouTube channel is that I am spending enough time writing.
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  SPEAKER_00: My goal is to spend more time creating content.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tracking my finances is really important for me in this season of life
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  SPEAKER_00: because I have some big goals and things that I want to do financially,
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  SPEAKER_00: so I have to have better awareness.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when it comes to goal setting,
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  SPEAKER_00: you've probably heard one of the most important things you do is
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  SPEAKER_00: that you are setting smart goals.
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  SPEAKER_00: Otherwise, you can't really hold yourself accountable at the end of the month.
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  SPEAKER_00: Smart goals mean that So an example of a vague goal would be, I want to get leaner.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whereas a smart goal would be, I will do Pilates four times
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I apply this for myself and my own goals for the next 90 days,
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  SPEAKER_00: I will write for 20 minutes after my morning meditation five days a week.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm doing this to prioritize my creativity.
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  SPEAKER_00: This new writing habit that I really want to build is going to force me to get up even earlier.
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  SPEAKER_00: So instead of waking up about 6am, I'm going to start waking up at 5.30.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can do it, I can do it, I can do it, I can do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not a morning person, but I can do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then for my second goal,
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  SPEAKER_00: which is all about tracking my spending,
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  SPEAKER_00: I am committing to completing a weekly money date.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what I like to call it.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's something so powerful about writing down your goals and the specific habits
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  SPEAKER_00: that you need to
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much.
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  SPEAKER_00: The next thing I cannot recommend enough is setting a floor and a ceiling for your goals.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the best thing you can do if you want to break that start-stop cycle with your goals.
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  SPEAKER_00: The problem is without defining a floor And remember, your word is quite literally God.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you've got to get better at
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  SPEAKER_00: The floor is essentially your minimum non-negotiable that you're committed
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  SPEAKER_00: to doing even on your absolute worst day, whereas your ceiling is whatever
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll see you next time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to make sure I'm setting a floor for myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think this is really important, especially for women.
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  SPEAKER_00: We do not operate on a 24-hour cycle like men do,
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  SPEAKER_00: who can tend to be much better at being rigid and sticking to Thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there's definitely going to be weeks where I only hit my writing goal twice and
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  SPEAKER_00: that is okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is still me hitting my goal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then when it comes to my money goal and having that week I'm also setting a floor
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  SPEAKER_00: and a ceiling.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the ceiling is that I'm consistent every single week.
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  SPEAKER_00: I set aside this time and I'm not only reviewing my finances,
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  SPEAKER_00: but I'm also doing that meal process.
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  SPEAKER_00: My floor, if I just don't have it in me, I am going to still commit to 10 minutes.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's almost like if you're trying to create that new habit,
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  SPEAKER_00: or hopefully this isn't a new habit for you,
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  SPEAKER_00: but let's just say it was, around flossing, it's recommended.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to put a 10 minute timer on and I'm going to look at my finances for
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  SPEAKER_00: that amount of time, but then change.
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  SPEAKER_00: Chances are if I do that, I'm just going to go the full half hour, hour, however long it takes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Regardless of what your ceiling and your floor is for your goals,
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  SPEAKER_00: you still want to aim high and I think about changing 100%
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  SPEAKER_00: of hitting What this is going to do is help to start rewire your brain so
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  SPEAKER_00: that you're building this transformation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think there's a powerful resonance behind that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why I'm really outspoken.
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  SPEAKER_00: One more point with this, there's this idea known as your bounce back rate.
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  SPEAKER_00: So essentially the better you get,
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  SPEAKER_00: So again, we want these new habits to be...
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  SPEAKER_00: And gamification is really simple.
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  SPEAKER_00: Giving yourself a reward once you hit a certain goal or milestone towards your goal.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could do this weekly, monthly, quarterly.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't really matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what matters is that however you decide
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  SPEAKER_00: to gamify your goals gives you excitement and motivation.
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  SPEAKER_00: So an example of this would be,
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  SPEAKER_00: let's say you hit your target or milestone towards your goals in one month,
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  SPEAKER_00: then you will maybe buy yourself a new journal and pen,
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  SPEAKER_00: or if you hit your target in three months,
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  SPEAKER_00: maybe you book a massage,
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  SPEAKER_00: Now this next one is arguably the most important part of all of this.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to plan for being unmotivated because
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  SPEAKER_00: I have massive goals for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know that if I stay committed to my two goals around writing more every single day
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  SPEAKER_00: and tracking my finances more diligently,
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  SPEAKER_00: that come January, I'm gonna be so much better.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to be in better shape because I'm cooking more at home.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to be saving more money that I can invest into my future.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'll also be building a community of like-minded seekers and creatives the more
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  SPEAKER_00: that I'm sharing content online.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can do it all, but you can't do it all right now, and that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everybody and their mother right now is talking about locking in,
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  SPEAKER_00: and listen, I'm all about that, but here's the reality.
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  SPEAKER_00: Locking in requires three things.
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  SPEAKER_00: It requires everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: So choose two priorities for yourself over the next 90 days and go all in on them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make it impossible to fail and grow by setting a floor.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a nosy girl,
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  SPEAKER_00: so let me know in the comments,
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  SPEAKER_00: save this video,
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  SPEAKER_00: come back to it 90 days from now,
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  SPEAKER_00: put a reminder in your phone, and let me know what were your goals, how did you do?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want more inspiration when it comes to changing your life,
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  SPEAKER_00: check out my mid-year metamorphosis video where I dive into all things self-care
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  SPEAKER_00: that I'm doing to build a better body, mind, and life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll link it below.