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How to make a narcissist regret losing you · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people, today we're we talking
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  about what actions will make a narcissist regret losing you
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  forever losing you? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a self aware narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Discovery.
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  Put it back in. I threw it, so I'm pulling it
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  back in. But yeah, y'all, yes, yes, yes.
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  What actions will make a narcissist that you do that you
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  can do that will make a narcissist regret losing you
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  forever. This is important.
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  This is an important topic because I get a question.
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  I get questions like this all the time.
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  I know. Leave.
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  You always say you get questions like that all the time.
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  Like I don't think you really get any questions.
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  Yeah, I get these questions. They, they come through.
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  They be coming through. They be coming through.
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  But yeah, yeah. Update starting my new podcast,
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  it's called the Mental Illness Podcast.
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  It's going to be all things mental health.
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  We're expanding this channel to include all things mental health
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  as well. We do my podcast interviews and
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  things like that. Mental health struggles, mental
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  illnesses. We we got a lot of new stuff
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  coming out. So go ahead and hit that
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  subscribe button if you haven't. You don't want to miss out on
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  that. But yeah, yeah, what can you do
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  as an impact or survivor or thriver, whatever stage of
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  healing and growth that you're in, What can you do to make a
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  narcissist regret losing you forever?
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  The first thing that you can do is to live your mother life to
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  the fullest extent possible. Go out there.
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  Y'all when I say live your life to the fullest extent possible.
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  I feel a ramp bubble coming out. I haven't had one of these in a
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  while. Live your life that y'all.
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  Go out, get off your ass. Go out and do every single thing
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  that they told you that they told you you couldn't.
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  Everything that's toxic, narcissistic bastard told you
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  that you could not do, that you didn't have permission to do.
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  They made them uncomfortable. They made you a whore.
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  They made you this, they made you that.
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  Go out and do that shit. Go out and do it.
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  That's how they live. Show that you can live without
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  them. Show that they're not the best
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  that you're going to get. You're the best that you're
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  going to get. You yourself you are the best
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  you're going to get. Nobody else is going to want
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  you. Nobody.
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  Good luck finding somebody else. You found you, you got you.
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  Good luck finding somebody's going to put it with your BS.
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  Good luck finding somebody else is going to put it with the real
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  you. You sick bastard.
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  Tell them that ran over y'all. Maybe it's the headband.
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  Maybe I didn't take this off, but yeah, y'all got fired up
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  because I want y'all to win. If y'all don't think I want
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  y'all to win by now, y'all it's been, yeah.
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  We y've been on this journey for me, with me for four years now.
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  Y'all know I want y'all to win. Y'all do Y'all know I want y'all
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  to win. So that's what you got to do.
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  You want them to regret losing you.
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  You want them to feel it. You want them to sting.
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  Look, not even, even if they don't see it, block their asses.
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  Look, your journey is not even about them.
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  Your healing, your growth journey, your love journey.
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  It's not even about them. You can block them.
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  You never have to talk to them again.
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  Yeah. They.
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  Yeah, They might pass through. The thought of them might pass
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  through your mind. You're a human.
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  Of course you're going to think about your ex.
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  You're a human being. Why wouldn't you think about
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  them? You're a living, breathing human
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  being. You're a thriving human being.
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  Why wouldn't you think about them?
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  It makes sense. Don't hammer away at yourself
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  because you miss your ex, Yo. It's gets insanity to beat
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  yourself up over something that's natural.
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  You're going to think about them.
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  You're going to miss them. That's OK.
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  That's cool. It's understandable.
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  You know what I mean? But you're not like y'all,
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  you're healing. You can believe.
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  But you said how, how are they going to regret losing us if we
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  block them? Because it's they going to
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  regret losing you anyway because your growth and your healing
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  journey, they going to feel it, y'all.
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  The universe has a weird way of making you feel it, but making
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  them feel it just the same way that you think about them
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  randomly. They're going to think about
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  you. I think.
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  I think about my exes from a long time ago on the most, the
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  most random occasions ever, the most random, the real most
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  random situations that are coming up, the most random stuff
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  that is happening in my life. I'm thinking about my ex.
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  I'm like, what the hell this is? I mean, I just like I regret
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  stuff that I've done, bad stuff that I've done.
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  I regret it. You know, I just, oh, the shame
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  is hit the shame, y'all shame comes back.
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  Shame is like a boomerang. You throw it out and you hit
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  somebody else with it and it comes back and gets you.
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  It hit you later on. They're going to feel it, you.
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  But like, the only way they're going to feel it, the only way
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  they're going to have any type of regret is if you survive.
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  You thrive. Willie, I'm sad.
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  That's understandable. You going?
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  Yeah. Why wouldn't you be sad?
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  Why wouldn't you be sad? Seriously, why wouldn't you be
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  sad? Yo, you got your heart broke.
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  You gave your life to this person.
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  You dedicated so much time to this person.
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  Why wouldn't you be sad? You made plans for the future.
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  You might have kids, You might have animals.
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  You might have businesses. Why wouldn't you be sad?
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  Seriously, what's the question? You should.
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  Yeah. It's OK to be sad.
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  You're a human being. If you weren't, if you were not
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  sad, you might need to check out Myself Aware Narcissist Sunday
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  series. He's not.
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  You know, Lee, I wasn't sad at all.
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  I left. Never even thought about him
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  again. Turn.
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  Look. Turn my feelings off.
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  Turn my emotions off. Right.
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  Look, we might need to have a different conversation right now
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  because you, you're not sad at all.
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  Not even a little bit, not even a little bit, not even a smidge.
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  You don't have a smidge of sadness in you, not even a
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  smidge, like a little smidge. Come on now.
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  But this is the stuff I'm talking about right here, y'all.
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  This is the stuff when I tell y'all I want y'all to win, this
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  is what I mean. They can only regret losing you
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  if you give them the if you put your power into the universe, if
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  you put your if you work on yourself.
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  Yeah, they're going to get the. I want them to get that karma.
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  I want their, I want the karma to burn them.
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  I want karma to burn them to the ground.
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  I get that. I understand that as well,
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  y'all, You want karma to hit, you want karma to beat their
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  ass, You want karma to curb stomple, right?
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  I get it. I understand that karma's going
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  to get them. But what if losing you is their
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  karma? I know I said this before, but
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  what if losing you is part of their karma?
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  Well, they seem happy with somebody else.
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  Of course they're going to seem happy with somebody else, y'all?
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  That's the part of the game that's part of the ploy.
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  They're going to be happy and sent late.
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  I bet they saw. I bet they saw.
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  They look. I bet if you had, if you, if you
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  were the new supply, whether you knew it or not, I bet everybody,
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  everybody thought y'all were happy for a period of time too,
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  even during the times where you might not have been happy.
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  I bet people thought you were happy though, didn't they?
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  I get. I bet people thought you were
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  happy. Oh, look at them.
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  They're so happy. They're so happy.
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  Look, look, I bet people thought that people might have been
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  jealous of your relationship whole time behind the scenes,
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  this toxic. You see what I'm saying?
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  That's what I'm telling you right now.
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  This is something you have to get into your head and whatnot
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  because this is the space that so many people fall into right
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  here. Seriously, this is what happens.
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  This is what goes on. This is the this is how you
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  survive and this is how you thrive.
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  I'll be wanting y'all to win. So just viciously, I can't even
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  think of another word. I viciously want y'all to win.
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  Like with no like seriously, I really, really do like to the
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  point where I'm just, I'm happy. Like to let y'all know.
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  There's like, yeah, this is how you hurt narcissists.
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  This is how you get them into regret.
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  Regret is by you just empowering.
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  Like I said, you don't even have to move on to a new person,
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  y'all. This is like not me trying to
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  tell you to try to rush you into a new relationship because that
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  could be the worst thing that you could do.
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  I just did a story time on my other channel Lee L EE dot
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  actions. Y'all need to follow me over
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  there. I did a story time over there
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  about a woman who left a narcissistic marriage with an
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  abusive narcissistic person and the first person that she dated
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  was a narcissist. Did no time no no healing time.
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  She wanted, she wanted to feel something.
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  She wanted to feel something and she felt some more narcissism.
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  You see what I'm saying? Take your time, don't rush the
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  healing. You want them to, you want them
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  to regret losing you. Don't rush your healing process.
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  You'll be fully healed up. Because when you fully heal, you
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  come back better. You come back bigger and better.
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  Like you become like a little empathetic hydra.
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  You know what I mean? The hydra from the old myth,
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  Greek mythology, I think it's Greek mythology, the old hydra.
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  You cut one head off to grow back.
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  The narcissist is trying to cut your head off, but two empaths
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  grew back. 2 little impacts, 2 empathetic hydras, your little
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  impact, your hydra. I know there might be a bad one,
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  y'all, but it's funny, you think about it.
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  They try to cut you down, but two grew back.
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  You know me. That's how it goes.
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  They're always just saying like to if you want to empower
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  yourself to keep on moving forward, to have the ability to
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  just thrive and grow and heal and do what you need to do, you
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  have to do it. Yeah.
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  And like I said, people like, well, don't think about the
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  narcissist. They they only gives them power.
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  Yeah, sometimes. Look, you are Eric Thomas said
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  this. And I listened to a video about
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  Eric Thomas today. You already went through the
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  pain. You might as well get something
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  from it. You're already hurting.
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  Use the hurt. Use the pain.
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  Use the anger to motivate you to be the best version of yourself.
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  Use the prank that the angry you got from their heartbreak, the
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  anger you got from getting cheated on.
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  I'm not telling you to go ahead and cheat back on them.
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  I'm not telling you to go ahead and try to intentionally inflict
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  harm upon them, like hit them with a car or something like
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  that. Use that anger to let it
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  motivate you. Oh, I got cheated.
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  I'm so angry. Let me go back to school, let me
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  go hit the gym, let me eat better.
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  Let me stop drinking, let me stop smoking.
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  Whatever it is, let me get sober.
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  Whatever it is, let me be a better parent.
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  Let whatever it is, let me dedicate more time to myself.
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  Let me go back to church. Let me do this.
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  Let me find my faith again. Whatever it is, do it to the
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  utmost. Do it to the, do it to the
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  maximum of your abilities. You want to Max?
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  Look, you want to Max out your healing.
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  You want to Max out your growth. When you Max out, they feel it,
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  they know it. They made me asking their
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  friends and family about you. They might be stalking your
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  social media without you know, without without you even knowing
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  it. Max out want them to regret it.
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  You got to be here. You got to Max the hell out.
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  You have to. This is part of the healing.
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  This is part of the growth. This is part of the
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  understanding. This is part of who you have.
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  Like this is part of who you're becoming.
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  You mean you want them to regret it?
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  Become the best version of you. Go give yourself and do
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  everything that they told you you couldn't do because at the
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  end of the day, that's going to empower you to keep moving
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  forward. That's going to empower you.
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  Like I said, you can't. If you can't stop thinking about
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  them, think about them and get activated.
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  Get up. I can't stand this one having a
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  bad day. And then you start, then you
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  start thinking about them. I don't feel like going to the
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  gym today. Then you start, you get angry,
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  you feeling tired, you start thinking about your ex.
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  You thought you slide your gym shoes on and go to the gym.
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  You do that. But shout out to the other lady
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  that came to me in the gym the other day.
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  I think she said the name was Alexis.
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  Shout out to Alexis. Alexis came to me in the gym in
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  Durham the other day and say Hey, you, you got to follow you
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  on social media. You helped save my life.
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  I appreciate you. Thank you for coming to me and
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  talking to me. If y'all ever see me in public
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  around Oracle on somewhere, say hey, you can say hey, I'm not,
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  I'm not, I'm not biting. Hey, Lee, I'm not biting.
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  But seriously, I appreciate it. Shout out to her for coming in
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  and saying hey, but y'all I, I really, really want y'all to
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  win. You want them to regret it.
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  Be the best parent you can be. I know it seems simple, super
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  simplistic, but sometimes you need a little the extra
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  motivation to do it. You're already angry, you're
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  already hurting, you're already sad.
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  Use that. It's like like something like I
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  said, you like this. This can be a fuel source for
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  you right here, right? You know you normally fueled by
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  happiness and joy, whatever you get fueled by, right?
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  Sometimes you got to get you have some alternative fuel
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  sources. Sometimes look sometimes you
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  back in the day if your car ran out of gas and you had a bottle
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  of Everclear in there, you can start the car with Everclear.
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  You post with Everclear your gas that you might make it to the
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  store to get some real gas. I didn't know if that worked.
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  I heard that it worked. I didn't never tried.
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  But so now you have to have an alternative fuel source.
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  You might have an an electric car that wrote like the battery
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  died, but you got a little bit of gas in there.
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  It's OK to have an alternative fuel source for a short period
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  of time. You don't you don't want to be
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  fueled by anger For a long time. I was well, my toxic ex left me
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  for somebody else that that fueled me for a long time to be
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  a better person. Y'all understand?
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  I I I want to. Yeah, I used that anger.
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  I I went back to school. I lost them near 100 lbs.
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  I yeah, I was like what I was, I was like 2.
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  I think in my heaviest I was like 287 or 289.
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  Oh, I, I weighed myself a bio life plasma.
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  I was like almost 300 lbs. I got down to like 190 and right
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  now, now see me right now I'm like 250 right now.
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  So it's just like I used it. I'd be angry.
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  I used to think about. I'd be sleeping about them.
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  Like I'm going to do P90X. I'm going to go work out.
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  Yeah. My new fitness.
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  Y'all love. Y'all love the name of it is the
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  name is chef's kiss and everything.
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  But be the best version of you. Y'all be the best version of
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  you. That's how you win.
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  That's how you get them back. That's how you hurt the
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  narcissist, right? Anyway, y'all think I noticed
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