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#2127 How To Use More Of Your Potential - Harps · The You Project

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Speaker 1: I get a gang, it's harps. Who us would it be?
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Speaker 1: Hope you're bloody terrific. Hope you're having a great day,
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Speaker 1: whether or not it's the middle or the start, or
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Speaker 1: wherever you're at in your day. I hope you having
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Speaker 1: a good one or you had a good one. And
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Speaker 1: life is good. So one of the things that you know,
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Speaker 1: most of you know that I am somewhat obsessed with
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Speaker 1: is our ability to optimize us, to get the most
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Speaker 1: out of us whatever it is that we have to
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Speaker 1: work with. I have been since I was a fat,
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Speaker 1: fourteen year old little kid with not much talent and
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Speaker 1: not much genetic potential on all of those things. Sorry
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Speaker 1: to bang on about that, that's just my life and
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Speaker 1: my story. But having been someone who's somewhat turned around
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Speaker 1: his life and his behaviors and habits and thinking and
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Speaker 1: sporting outcomes and later in life, academic outcomes and all
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Speaker 1: of those things, I've been really curious about. Not so
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Speaker 1: much what we have to work with, you know, talent, IQ, resources, time, genetics,
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Speaker 1: That is of interest. But what I'm more interested in
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Speaker 1: is what you and I as individuals, what we do
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Speaker 1: with what we have available to us. So some people
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Speaker 1: have a yearly membership to a gym that's got a
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Speaker 1: million bucks worth of equipment, but they don't go. So
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Speaker 1: the gym is not the problem. The resources are not
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Speaker 1: the problem. The equipment is not the problem. Knowledge is
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Speaker 1: not the problem. Having a program is not the problem.
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Speaker 1: Quite often, the problem is that they don't go. And
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Speaker 1: if we don't operationalize what we have available to us,
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Speaker 1: then we can't get great results. So I'm when I
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Speaker 1: meet people and I'm talking to them about where they
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Speaker 1: are and where they want to be. Like virtually everybody
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Speaker 1: comes to me my workshops or me as a you know,
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Speaker 1: every now and then one on one or reads a
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Speaker 1: post or listens to a podcast or reads a book
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Speaker 1: or whatever it is. It's because on some level they
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Speaker 1: want to do different or be different, or think different
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Speaker 1: or produce differently. That is, we all want to create
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Speaker 1: great outcomes. However, something that doesn't get spoken about a
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Speaker 1: lot broadly, I speak about it a bit. So for
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Speaker 1: some of you this might be a form of revision.
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Speaker 1: For some of you, it might be a reminder. For
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Speaker 1: some of you it might be hey, I've never really
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Speaker 1: heard this articulated in this way. Is our ability to
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Speaker 1: get the most out of what we have to work with.
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Speaker 1: So some people can do or produce what would comparatively
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Speaker 1: be a seven or eight out of ten outcome, but
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Speaker 1: they're still only working at five out of ten, if
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Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Some people will produce a
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Speaker 1: six out of ten comparative outcome, but they're working at
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Speaker 1: ten for what they have to work with. So, for example,
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Speaker 1: I might run a marathon. I doubt it, but let's
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Speaker 1: let's say right now, Okay, I'll put on my axose
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Speaker 1: physiology had Let's say right now, I stopped doing all
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Speaker 1: the strength training. I'm pretty light at the moment. I'm
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Speaker 1: seventy eight kilos, which is very light for me. But
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Speaker 1: let's say I got down around seventy kilos in my
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Speaker 1: sixty year two year old body, and I trained great,
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Speaker 1: and I did all the things I wanted to do
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Speaker 1: to run a four hour marathon, which for me at
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Speaker 1: my age would be a pretty good outcome. Now, let's
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Speaker 1: say I did all of that and I ate well,
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Speaker 1: slept well, trained well, supplemented well, talking about supplements, not drags.
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Speaker 1: I did all the right things, sleep all of it,
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Speaker 1: and I ended up running a four hour marathon. Now,
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Speaker 1: for me, with all the things I have to work with. So,
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Speaker 1: in other words, what is possible for me? What is
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Speaker 1: my potential? What is me using nearly all of what
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Speaker 1: I've got? The four hour marathon for me might be
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Speaker 1: somewhere close to Craig Harper optimizing what he has to
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Speaker 1: work with. Somebody else could run a three and a
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Speaker 1: half foul marathon thirty minutes quicker than me, and they're
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Speaker 1: still running on sixty percent. They're not anywhere near close
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Speaker 1: to optimizing what they have to work with because they're
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Speaker 1: genetically gifted, they're younger than me, they've got better hormones
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Speaker 1: levels than me, and they're just way, way more predisposed
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Speaker 1: to running fast times than me. So it's not about
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Speaker 1: what am I doing compared to what are what are
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Speaker 1: others doing? It's not what are my results compared to
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Speaker 1: her results or his results. It's really about am I
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Speaker 1: doing whatever I can do to get where I want
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Speaker 1: to go? Or am I just telling myself a story
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Speaker 1: that I'm working optimally or I'm using my genetics or
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Speaker 1: my time, or my resources, or my brain or my
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Speaker 1: creativity or my energy optimally. So I think we quite
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Speaker 1: often reach for something else, someone else power a potion,
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Speaker 1: a product, a book, a gizmo, a gadgets, some kind
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Speaker 1: of thing that will help us create the one the
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Speaker 1: result we want to create quicker. And maybe sometimes that
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Speaker 1: is not a terrible idea. But sometimes I think it's
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Speaker 1: just more about this sounds boring in old fashioned, but
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Speaker 1: digging deeper. It's about working harder. It's about opening our
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Speaker 1: mind to the possibility that the problem is not the program.
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Speaker 1: The problem is not the idea. The problem is not
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Speaker 1: the plan. The problem is the way or the level
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Speaker 1: that I am executing the plan that I am doing
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Speaker 1: the thing. And you've heard me talk many times about
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Speaker 1: rate of perceived exertion in a gym, which is essentially
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Speaker 1: how hard somebody thinks they are working. John, you just
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Speaker 1: did a said of this exercise on this weight for
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Speaker 1: this many reps. How hard do you think you were
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Speaker 1: working based on your absolute limit? Ten is your physiological capacity.
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Speaker 1: That's all you could do, That's all that's humanly possible
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Speaker 1: for you. Where are you working at the moment, Oh, Craig,
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Speaker 1: I'm working at eight or nine. And there's someone who's
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Speaker 1: vastly experienced in this place, with both minds and bodies
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Speaker 1: and training and all of the physiological and sporting and
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Speaker 1: adaptive things that go around that I look at them,
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Speaker 1: I watch them and I know, like I absolutely know,
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Speaker 1: they're nowhere near an eight or nine. They're nowhere near
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Speaker 1: they're optimal. They're nowhere near their limit, their ceiling, their potential.
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Speaker 1: Then when I come back and I say, let's have
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Speaker 1: a couple of minutes, John, Now what I want you
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Speaker 1: to do is the last time you did this week
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Speaker 1: for X reps. Now we're going to do the same way,
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Speaker 1: but I want you to do two X. I don't
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Speaker 1: want you to do ten. I want you to do twenty,
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Speaker 1: and I want you to do it like your life
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Speaker 1: depends on it. So John comes back, and you've heard
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Speaker 1: me tele version of this, but it's just true. And
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Speaker 1: I've seen a version of this with my own eyes
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Speaker 1: in the real world, probably more than a hundred times,
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Speaker 1: because I've asked people to do this many times. He
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Speaker 1: will come back. The guy that was working at ninety
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Speaker 1: percent allegedly doing ten reps, now he does twenty four
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Speaker 1: reps on the same way. Now he's working at ninety percent.
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Speaker 1: Now he's getting close to his physiological capacity at that time.
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Speaker 1: He wasn't before he was just telling himself a story.
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Speaker 1: So there's the reality of what is possible for me,
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Speaker 1: Where am I actually working in terms of my capacity
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Speaker 1: and my potential, and where do I think I'm at?
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Speaker 1: Where do I that's the perception performance gap is my story.
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Speaker 1: I'll say that again, the exception performance gap. That is
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Speaker 1: where I think I'm at, how hard I think I'm working,
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Speaker 1: or how intelligently or how effectively or how productively I
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Speaker 1: think I'm working, and what the true story is. Now,
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Speaker 1: this is not about beating ourselves up. This is about realization.
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Speaker 1: This is about understanding our own capacity. This is about
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Speaker 1: me knowing that I actually have much more potential than
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Speaker 1: I am currently using. Because you can't get more potential,
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Speaker 1: you can't get better genetics, you can't get more hours
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Speaker 1: in a day. You might free up some of your ours,
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Speaker 1: but we've all got fourteen hundred and forty minutes a day,
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Speaker 1: twenty four hours a day, three hundred and sixty five
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Speaker 1: days for most years anyway, per year, all of those things,
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Speaker 1: all of those kind of old fashioned, boring metrics that
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Speaker 1: we talk about, right, But then there's what we do
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Speaker 1: in the fourteen hundred and forty minutes a day that's
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Speaker 1: how well we use those hours and minutes. That's how
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Speaker 1: well we use that time, those resources, those advisors, those books,
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Speaker 1: that information, that education, that capacity of one's body, what
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Speaker 1: we do with it. This is the thing. But I
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Speaker 1: guess the inhibiting or the limiting factor here quite often
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Speaker 1: is that the thing that we need to do to
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Speaker 1: optimize our genetics. Why did all mate John tell me
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Speaker 1: that ten was his limit nearly when he then went
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Speaker 1: and did twenty three or twenty four, Because twenty three
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Speaker 1: or twenty four is fucking hard. It's hard. We don't
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Speaker 1: like hard. And the truth is to optimize our genetics,
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Speaker 1: to optimize all the things that we talk about, right
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Speaker 1: might be just our brain potential, but to optimize that,
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Speaker 1: we've got to dig deep and do shit that's uncomfortable
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Speaker 1: and hard. That is how our capacity and our performance
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Speaker 1: both come closer together. So I know I'm not genetically gifted,
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Speaker 1: and I know at sixty two, the likelihood, if we're
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Speaker 1: speaking typically across the board, most people are definitely not
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Speaker 1: getting better at sixty two. That's great. Guess what I'm
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Speaker 1: not most people. I'm a human. You're not most people.
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Speaker 1: You're one person that's not saying I'm better. I'm definitely
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Speaker 1: not better. You're not better. We're just another bum on
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Speaker 1: the seat, when just another human in the room. But
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Speaker 1: here's the thing that you and I get to do.
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Speaker 1: You and I get to choose how we will behave.
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Speaker 1: You and I get to choose what we will do
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Speaker 1: with what we've been given and what we have available.
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Speaker 1: And what other people do or be or create or
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Speaker 1: don't do or get right or get wrong or fuck
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Speaker 1: up or winge about or can what they do called,
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Speaker 1: that's their business. But if you, like me, are truly
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Speaker 1: interested in improvement, you listen to me because most of
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Speaker 1: you anyway, you want improvement, you want learning, you want evolution,
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Speaker 1: you want development, you want less chaos, you want more calm,
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Speaker 1: you want better results, you want better experiences. Guess what,
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Speaker 1: nobody's going to fucking create those or do those, or
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Speaker 1: them to you on a platter. So it comes down
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Speaker 1: to your capacity. It comes down to my capacity to
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Speaker 1: do the things at the level that produce the results
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Speaker 1: that you want. Conversely, you might say, as many do
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Speaker 1: are too hard cool, there's no judgment in that, there's
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Speaker 1: no criticism of that. Then set the bar lower. Learn
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Speaker 1: to be happy. Where you are, learn to be content
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Speaker 1: where you are there doesn't need to be striving or
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Speaker 1: there doesn't need to be necessarily any kind of linear growth.
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Speaker 1: If that's and I mean that generally. If some people
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Speaker 1: it's like, oh where that's good, great, knock yourself out,
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Speaker 1: you should stay there. If you're in the middle of that,
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Speaker 1: content and happy and relatively mentally, emotionally physically healthy, then
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Speaker 1: you are ahead of most people. Well done. If that's
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Speaker 1: not you again, not better or worse, just different. You
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Speaker 1: are you. I am me. I want to improve my
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Speaker 1: brain function as I head towards my sixty fifth year
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Speaker 1: and my seventies. I want to. I don't know if
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Speaker 1: I will, but that's my intention. What I definitely know
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Speaker 1: is I will not accidentally improve my cognitive capacity or
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Speaker 1: function by just doing life. So I need of the
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Speaker 1: fourteen hundred and forty minutes a day, and maybe I
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Speaker 1: need to spend ten twenty thirty minutes consciously doing something
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Speaker 1: which is essentially a version of training for my brain.
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Speaker 1: I want my body to be as fit and strong
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Speaker 1: and functional and flexible and healthy as long as I
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Speaker 1: as long as it can be. That's what I want.
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Speaker 1: So then you go, well, craz cool. It's nice to
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Speaker 1: want that, but will you do the work, the hard work,
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Speaker 1: the uncomfortable work, that tapping into your potential work to
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Speaker 1: create it? Because everybody fucking wants it. Nobody wants to
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Speaker 1: live longer, shorter, I should say, Nobody wants to be
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Speaker 1: less healthy. Nobody wants to be weaker, nobody wants to
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Speaker 1: be more sick. Nobody wants to age. We're all going
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Speaker 1: to age chronologically, but the way that we age we
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Speaker 1: can manipulate. Right, So all of these things are Yeah,
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Speaker 1: there's all the nuts and bolts, and there's do this
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Speaker 1: and eat more of that and eat less of that,
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Speaker 1: and lift that and run there and jump on this,
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Speaker 1: and fucking that's the best program. And do you know
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Speaker 1: what it's about? How we do it? It's about Yes,
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Speaker 1: there's the variability of genetics and what's best for me, Craig.
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Speaker 1: If I want to get strong as the body weight
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Speaker 1: as the pilate is, is it going to a fucking
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Speaker 1: climbing gym? Is it old fashioned? Body building is a
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Speaker 1: power look, it depends it depends on you. It depends
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Speaker 1: on what you're going to keep doing, perhaps, and it
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Speaker 1: depends on what you need based on your individual goals
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Speaker 1: and your physiological capacity. So so much of this is
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Speaker 1: about our willingness to consistently do the thing that most
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Speaker 1: people won't consistently do. What won't most people do? They
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Speaker 1: won't train consistently, they will not work out consistently. And
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Speaker 1: maybe in your bubble where you live or in your group,
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Speaker 1: that's not true. That's cool that you are surrounded by
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Speaker 1: people who are atypical. If we go to any random area,
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Speaker 1: we go to a supermarket or a shopping center, or
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Speaker 1: we go to the beach, or we go wherever, we
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Speaker 1: get one hundred random people from all walks of life,
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Speaker 1: all backgrounds, all ages, all ethnicities, all cultural whatever, all
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Speaker 1: religious kind of persuasions, all that. We just get one
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Speaker 1: hundred random humans and we put them in a room.
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Speaker 1: There's probably less than ten people who consistently, methodically intelligently
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Speaker 1: train their body to get better. Probably not even five, right,
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Speaker 1: so we're looking at a vast majority. But if you
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Speaker 1: said to all of those hundred people, would you like
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Speaker 1: your body to be in better shape, stronger, healthier, perhaps
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Speaker 1: a bit leaner, a bit more functional, less pain, you know,
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Speaker 1: better movement. Probably one hundred out of one hundred would
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Speaker 1: say I would like that. How many will do that?
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Speaker 1: Less than five? So the question is will you do that?
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Speaker 1: I want to run through some of the bullshit. I'm
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Speaker 1: going to say that some of the bullshit that we
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Speaker 1: tell ourselves or that we do that is an inhibiting
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Speaker 1: factor on the optimization of your potential. I've written these down. Obviously,
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Speaker 1: everything I just said was freestyle, but I'm going to
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Speaker 1: unpack these a little bit. I want to try and
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Speaker 1: keep this to about a thirty minute extravaganza or thereabouts.
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Speaker 1: So top of my list is stop waiting for the
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Speaker 1: perfect time. Some people have been waiting. You know, we
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Speaker 1: have this story. It's not a good time for me.
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Speaker 1: It's not the right time for me. You know, you'd
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Speaker 1: think someone was talking perhaps about I don't know, building
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Speaker 1: a house, where timing and money and councilor approvals and
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Speaker 1: again the times an issue. But so many times for people,
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Speaker 1: so many times timing is a factor. But it's not
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Speaker 1: the reason and for me to grow or learn. Now,
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Speaker 1: perhaps I can't join a gym, or perhaps I can't
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Speaker 1: enroll in a program, or perhaps I can't build a business.
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Speaker 1: It's not a good It literally isn't a good time
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Speaker 1: or whatever the pursuit is doesn't need to have anything
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Speaker 1: to do with fitness or health. By the way, I
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Speaker 1: kind of default to that and probably too often. But
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Speaker 1: the point is, Okay, you are in a certain place,
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Speaker 1: whether that's financially, commercially, pecially personally, physiologically, academically, emotionally, you're
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Speaker 1: in a certain place and you want to be somewhere else.
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Speaker 1: And sometimes when we're at that starting line, we look
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Speaker 1: down the track at the terminus, the finish line, and
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Speaker 1: we go, ah fuck, and then we go it's not
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Speaker 1: a good time because we just get overwhelmed by the
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Speaker 1: totality of what's going to come. So what can we do?
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Speaker 1: That's a great question. What can I do? So what
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Speaker 1: if today I just did a really small thing that
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Speaker 1: wasn't majorly taxing, it wasn't majorly difficult or complicated, and
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Speaker 1: it didn't take a long time. What if you could
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Speaker 1: do something that would move the needle a little bit
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Speaker 1: to get you to where you want to go. Let's
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Speaker 1: say you want to what's something that's less craig and
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Speaker 1: more often more calm. I should say, because I always
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Speaker 1: kind of related to shit that I'm into, let's not
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Speaker 1: do that Let's say let's say you want to this
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Speaker 1: is more a block one, sorry ladies, well less ladies
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Speaker 1: restore cars. Let's say you've got an old car in
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Speaker 1: the garage and you want to restore that car. But
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Speaker 1: it's so fun to you're like, oh god, where do
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Speaker 1: we even start this? Like the engine, there's the gearbox,
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Speaker 1: there's there's the juco, there's the interior that's fucked, there's that.
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Speaker 1: You know, there's so many things. There's so okay. Could
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Speaker 1: you go out in the garage and could you just
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Speaker 1: clean today? Could you just move all the ship that's
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Speaker 1: around there? Could you make the garage in which it lives.
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Speaker 1: Could you make that a more conducive environment to working
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Speaker 1: on the car. Could you spend an hour out there,
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Speaker 1: get some of the dust off, throw some of the
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Speaker 1: shit out, just get it a little bit more presentable
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Speaker 1: so when you go in next time, your mind is
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Speaker 1: in that. But what if you just start chipping away
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Speaker 1: at one thing where you don't need to spend any
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Speaker 1: dough What if you just start creating a list about
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Speaker 1: the things that you need to do. And what if
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Speaker 1: after you've got the list, you kind of prioritize and
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Speaker 1: then if you do that, then maybe you create a timeline,
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Speaker 1: and then maybe you do kind of a cost kind
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Speaker 1: of assessment of what you know. And now you've started.
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Speaker 1: You haven't actually rebuilt the gearbox, you haven't put in
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Speaker 1: a new motor or recondition, you haven't done anything mechanical,
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Speaker 1: but you've started the process. So stop waiting for the
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Speaker 1: perfect time, stop waiting for the planets to align. Number
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Speaker 1: two is, and this is tough, is sometimes we need
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Speaker 1: to step up when most people would give up. Some
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Speaker 1: people at the drop of a hat. It's a bit
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Speaker 1: unco comfortable, it's a bit inconvenient, it's a bit and okay,
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Speaker 1: no criticism in this, just observation. I've watched people who
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Speaker 1: are working at a one and a half out of ten.
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Speaker 1: They're like, ah, hands in the air, too hard, too hard.
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Speaker 1: Then I watch other people who are at fucking ate
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Speaker 1: in terms of discomfort, and they just fucking knuckle down.
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Speaker 1: Now I'm not talking about being silly or reckless or
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Speaker 1: a hero. I'm just talking about the very practical reality
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Speaker 1: that there will come a point in the journey for you,
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Speaker 1: multiple points, multiple times, where the thing sucks, The thing
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Speaker 1: that you're doing sucks. You do want to do it. It
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Speaker 1: is not fun, it is not convenient. It is all
19:53
Speaker 1: the shit that you don't want. But guess what, it's
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Speaker 1: also the shit that one progresses you and two changes you. Because,
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Speaker 1: as I've said to you many times, when you do
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Speaker 1: the shit that is hard, you change. Shit is still hard,
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Speaker 1: but over time you build a different relationship with the thing,
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Speaker 1: like with a dumbbell that you lift, and now the
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Speaker 1: thing that was hard eventually for you becomes easy, not
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Speaker 1: because it's less difficult, but because you're more capable. And
20:23
Speaker 1: now that thing, as an experience is easier because you
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Speaker 1: are different. So difficult becomes easy, Heavy becomes light, complicated
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Speaker 1: becomes simple, Overwhelming becomes Tuesday, Right, it's just today. I'm
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Speaker 1: just doing this. Why. Well, because you've conditioned yourself. You've
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Speaker 1: built resilience and strength and adaptability and cognitive flexibility. You're
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Speaker 1: now a fucking weapon, and so now you'd do stuff
20:54
Speaker 1: so much easier because when everyone else was given up,
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Speaker 1: you stepped up. When everyone else was given up, you
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Speaker 1: stepped up. Number three is a super duper simple. Create
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Speaker 1: a plan and execute the plan. Most people don't really
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Speaker 1: have a plan, And by a plan, I'm in structure, process, accountability, organization,
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Speaker 1: resource identification, all of these things where you're creating a strategic, logical,
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Speaker 1: well thought through plan that you can then execute, and
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Speaker 1: a plan that is built around critical thinking, resource optimization,
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Speaker 1: you optimization. It's not a thought or a feeling or
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Speaker 1: a vague goal in the back of your head. If
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Speaker 1: it isn't written down in some way, if there isn't
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Speaker 1: a strategy wrapped around it, if there isn't a timeline,
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Speaker 1: if there isn't an accountability process, if there aren't if
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Speaker 1: there isn't a clear path created logically not emotionally created logically,
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Speaker 1: then you don't really have a plan. You have an
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Speaker 1: idea in the back of your head. And so many people,
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Speaker 1: as I've said to you, wake up at fifty or
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Speaker 1: sixty and they're in a place metaphorically, literally, physically, financially, relationally,
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Speaker 1: they're in a place in inverted commas that they don't
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Speaker 1: want to be and they say something like this wasn't
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Speaker 1: my plan, And then I say, can I see the plan?
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Speaker 1: And they look at me bewildered because they had no plan.
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Speaker 1: They didn't really have a plan, They just had an
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Speaker 1: idea of what would happen. They had an idea of
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Speaker 1: how things would turn out. They had an idea of
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Speaker 1: how they would be and their life would be when
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Speaker 1: they turned this age or when they got to this
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Speaker 1: stage of their life. We do not accidentally succeed. Let
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Speaker 1: me resay that I think there are times where people
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Speaker 1: stumble into something fucking amazing and brilliant. I think those
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Speaker 1: times are the exception. So let's not rely on that possibility.
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Speaker 1: Let's just say that most people won't accidentally get where
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Speaker 1: they want to be, will strategically get where we want
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Speaker 1: to be. Number four on my list of eight is
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Speaker 1: don't call excuses reasons. Don't rationalize your laziness or your fear,
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Speaker 1: or your avoidance or your lack of willingness to do
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Speaker 1: the work. Don't try to justify that into some legitimate reason. Now, Also,
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Speaker 1: you don't need to beat yourself up. But the truth is,
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Speaker 1: most of the times, not all of the times, but
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Speaker 1: most of the times when I didn't achieve it an
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Speaker 1: outcome that I could have. But I'm not talking about
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Speaker 1: something that was unattainable. But most of the times when
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Speaker 1: I didn't achieve the outcome that I set out to
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Speaker 1: something which was within my capacity. The problem was me.
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Speaker 1: The problem was I got lazy. The problem was I
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Speaker 1: got distracted. The problem was I made excuses. The problem
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Speaker 1: was I rationalized bad behavior. I justified doing things that
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Speaker 1: were inconsistent with who I wanted to be, where I
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Speaker 1: wanted to go, and the outcomes that I wanted to produce.
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Speaker 1: And this is a big part of the I need
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Speaker 1: to own up, not in a self loathing way and
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Speaker 1: a self awareness way. I need to own up to
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Speaker 1: my strengths and weaknesses. When I fix something, it's me.
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Speaker 1: When I fuck something up, it's me. Tuesday, I'm the problem, Wednesday,
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Speaker 1: I'm the solution. Either way, I'm taking ownership. And so
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Speaker 1: there's this very integral component to the transformational journey which
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Speaker 1: is built around our capacity to realize when we are
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Speaker 1: derailing ourselves, when we are self sabotaging, when we are
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Speaker 1: the problem getting in our own way. Number five is
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Speaker 1: I was hesitant to say this because I've said it
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Speaker 1: thousands of times over the years, but I'm going to
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Speaker 1: say for anyone who's relatively new to me, the rest
25:02
Speaker 1: of you get self cup see, and that is, don't
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Speaker 1: rely on motivation. Motivation as I describe it as a
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Speaker 1: state that we get in a heightened state of emotion
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Speaker 1: and excitement and depending on what we're talking about four
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Speaker 1: and whatever, But it's when we are sitting above our
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Speaker 1: kind of normal, kind of flatline typical existence of energy
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Speaker 1: and perhaps even the heart rate and all of those
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Speaker 1: things where we're excited, where pump, we're in the zone.
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Speaker 1: Things are good and we're crushing, we're killing, and then
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Speaker 1: two days later we're not. We don't feel that motivation.
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Speaker 1: We're not in that state of I am motivated, I
25:44
Speaker 1: am inspired, I am excited. That's gone not because we're
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Speaker 1: bad or we're broken, but because we're human. Right. So
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Speaker 1: the challenge is not how do I stay motivated? The
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Speaker 1: challenge is how do I stay proactive and productive or
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Speaker 1: when I can't? Be fucked and shhrt you so many times.
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Speaker 1: So motivation is great when it's there, but it is
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Speaker 1: an unreliable transformational tool. What is great is consistency and
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Speaker 1: commitment and non negotiables built around all of the things
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Speaker 1: that we're talking about. Number six is and I touched
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Speaker 1: on this a little bit, but become the solution person.
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Speaker 1: Yes you're going to have problems. Yes, bad things happen
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Speaker 1: to good people. Some people are going to be fuck.
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Speaker 1: WIT's to you. Some people are going to want you
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Speaker 1: to fail. We've spoken about that thing. It's concept in
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Speaker 1: psychology called Shardenfreuder, where people actually want to see you fail.
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Speaker 1: How fuck does that because it happened? Yes, do people
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Speaker 1: revel in other people's pain? They do sometimes. Nonetheless, nonetheless
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Speaker 1: fuck them firstly, fuck them. Secondly, you're the solution. There
26:52
Speaker 1: are going to be resources and all of those things.
26:54
Speaker 1: But ultimately, even if we get the right pill, or
26:57
Speaker 1: even if we get the right program, or even if
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Speaker 1: we get the right fill in the blank, you still
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Speaker 1: need to take it. You still need to do it.
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Speaker 1: You still need to operationalize it. You still need to
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Speaker 1: be able to be the doer. Nobody can be resilient
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Speaker 1: for you. Nobody can solve your problems. People can help,
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Speaker 1: of course, but you need to be a big part
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Speaker 1: of that. So identify your problems. We're not putting our
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Speaker 1: head in the sand. We're not going life's amazing when
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Speaker 1: life's a piece of dog shit, which it can be.
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Speaker 1: We're not doing that because we're not fucking idiots, we're
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Speaker 1: not dumb. But we go, well, here's what's happening right now.
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Speaker 1: This is shit, And I would go to you, old
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Speaker 1: mate Cocker two dogs, I would go that is shit.
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Speaker 1: The situation you're in right now is shit. You have
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Speaker 1: my empathy, you have my compassion. That's nice. Now what
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Speaker 1: the fuck are we going to do? And it's that,
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Speaker 1: what the fuck are we going to do? Which is
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Speaker 1: where the change begins. Number seven is invest your energy optimally?
27:56
Speaker 1: So your energy is not a limitless resource, just like
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Speaker 1: petrol and diesel, as we are well aware at the
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Speaker 1: moment in Australia and beyond, we don't have endless supply
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Speaker 1: of energy or diesel. Neither do you have endless supply
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Speaker 1: of emotional or psychological or physiological petrol at your disposal.
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Speaker 1: It's fine art. And so every day you might get
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Speaker 1: up and you might think to yourself self, what is
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Speaker 1: the best use of my energy today? What do I?
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Speaker 1: What do I or what have I in the last week, month, year?
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Speaker 1: What have I wasted energy? What bullshit am I obsessing about?
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Speaker 1: Am I spending my emotional tickets on them? Am I
28:44
Speaker 1: giving control of my mind? Too? We all do that.
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Speaker 1: I do that. I still despite the fact that I'm
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Speaker 1: on this show saying this to you, do I waste
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Speaker 1: emotional energy or mental energy or physical energy every day.
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Speaker 1: I would say, yes, hopefully it's not a lot, but
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Speaker 1: definitely it's less than it used to be. But this
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Speaker 1: is you know, and it's not life or death. But
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Speaker 1: I think just become mindful of and conscious of what
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Speaker 1: you do with what you have mentally and emotionally is
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Speaker 1: a game changer. So what do I need to do
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Speaker 1: and be and create today? Where does my attention need
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Speaker 1: to be today to get where I want to go?
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Speaker 1: Or to move closer, to move the needle, to create
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Speaker 1: some change, to build some momentum. Where does my and
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Speaker 1: where does my energy not need to be? And the
29:35
Speaker 1: last one is number eight, which is a very old
29:39
Speaker 1: fashioned Craig Harper expression, which is naming on negotiables, So
29:42
Speaker 1: naming on negotiables, So in terms of the ship that
29:46
Speaker 1: you want to get done, in terms of the ship
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Speaker 1: that you want to change, who you want to become,
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Speaker 1: who you want to move away from? You know, remember,
29:53
Speaker 1: when we're setting goals, we're always moving away from something
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Speaker 1: that we don't want or moving towards something that we do.
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Speaker 1: And I think that moving away from something negative or
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Speaker 1: bad or destructive or limiting is sometimes more powerful and
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Speaker 1: more relevant and more appropriate than moving towards something we
30:12
Speaker 1: do want. I say sometimes so based on the behaviors
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Speaker 1: or the choices, or the habits, or the protocol or
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Speaker 1: the lifestyle or the diet or the work fucking whatever
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Speaker 1: that you want to step into and maintain. What are
30:32
Speaker 1: your non negotiable rules and actions and standards and values?
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Speaker 1: What is that? But you name it and do it,
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Speaker 1: be it, live it. I don't know how long that was,
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Speaker 1: but I had I had a crack. It's twelve twenty
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Speaker 1: nine on Sunday, the twenty second of March twenty twenty six.
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Speaker 1: I'm meant to meet the crab at twelve thirty, which
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Speaker 1: is one minute. I sent a message that I could
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Speaker 1: be five to ten late, and I'm gonna be. I
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Speaker 1: enjoy your day, kids, Love your dots,