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All right.
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So this is Inspirations for Your Life.
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In case you guys did not know that,
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this is the daily motivational show.
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The master weekly topic is master your choices
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before they master you.
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How to stop overthinking, series five, show 31,
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episode number four.
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Welcome to Inspirations for Your Life.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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Montclair State University, passionate lifelong learner, and so
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grateful now to be a published author.
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Have you ever spent so much time thinking
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about a decision that you never actually made
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one?
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Overthinking often disguises itself as preparation, but in
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reality, it can steal opportunities, delay progress, and
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create unnecessary stress.
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Today, I'm exploring 30 practical principles that will
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help you think with purpose, take action with
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confidence, and stop allowing hesitation to control your
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future.
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Are you ready?
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Let's get started.
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Number one, action always beats hesitation.
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Thinking has value, but action creates pure results.
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Progress begins the moment you take the first
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step, so let's take it.
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Number two, don't chase certainty.
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You'll rarely have every answer before making a
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decision, that's a fact.
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Learn to move forward with confidence, even when
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some uncertainty remains within you.
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Number three, progress beats perfection.
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Waiting for perfect conditions often delays meaningful progress.
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Improvement comes through action, not perfection.
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Number four, focus on today.
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Don't become overwhelmed by tomorrow.
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Give your attention to what you can accomplish
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right now.
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Trust yourself.
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You've overcome challenges before.
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Believe in your ability to learn, adapt, and
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make good decisions.
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Number six, simplify your choices.
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Too many options create confusion.
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Narrow your focus and make the best decision
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with the information you have right now.
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I think that's a skill that a lot
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of people wish they had, but for whatever
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reason, they just don't seem to want to
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master it.
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Number seven, let go of that false evidence
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appearing real.
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Yep, let go of fear.
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Fear often imagines problems that never happen.
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Don't allow imagined obstacles to stop real progress.
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Number eight, replace doubt with action.
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Confidence grows through doing, not wondering.
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Every positive action weakens self-doubt.
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I think that's something a lot of us
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here need to understand and need to be
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doing is that we need to know how
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that works.
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We need to realize that's a very important
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thing, right?
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Positive action is the key.
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But sometimes, you know, people, they say, well,
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you know, it always happens this way to
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me.
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And as much as I want to motivate,
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so I say, look, don't do that.
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I can't make you stop doing that if
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you don't want to stop doing that, okay?
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So that's a real important thing.
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What I want to tell you is that
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positivity is not overrated, but sometimes your positivity
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will get, how can I say, crushed because
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of your past experiences.
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Don't let that happen, guys.
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Do not let that happen.
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I cannot express that to you even more.
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Do not, do not, do not let that
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happen.
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So I think it's important that a lot
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of people just get that from the get
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-go and they understand, you know, what it's
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about.
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And I think that's a very important thing.
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But again, I'm going to tell you that
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this does not happen overnight.
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You've got to get comfortable, guys.
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When something gets out of your wheelhouse, you're
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like, oh my gosh, what am I going
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to do?
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And that kind of puts us into this
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mode like, oh my gosh, like what do
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I do now, right?
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Number nine, learn from experience.
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I think that's an important one, all right?
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Every decision teaches something valuable.
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Let experience guide you instead of that false
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evidence appearing real, which I know many of
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us see every day, but we really have
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to move forward.
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We have to move past it.
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And that's the key, guys.
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We have to move past it.
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Number 10, please stay present.
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Overthinking often comes, how do I say this,
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from worrying about the future.
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Stay focused on today's opportunities, all right?
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I know you might say, well, gee, I'm
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waiting for something else.
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Well, still do the best you can.
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I think sometimes people just get, how can
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I say, on the wrong track because they
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lose confidence in themselves.
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Because the situation in the past didn't work
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right, doesn't mean the next situation's going to
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work that way.
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But if you keep thinking it is, then
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you're going to bring that on again.
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Number 11, guys, learn how to build confidence
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through action.
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Action.
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Every completed task strengthens your belief in yourself.
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Action creates momentum.
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Number 12, stop imagining failure.
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Don't spend your energy creating negative outcomes in
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your mind because that's what will happen.
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Focus on what's possible instead.
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Instead.
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I think that's a real important thing to
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understand.
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Number 13, focus on solutions.
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Problems deserve attention, but solutions deserve your energy.
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Look for your next positive step.
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Your next positive step.
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Number 14, think with a purpose.
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Direct your thoughts toward growth, learning, and progress
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instead of unnecessary worry.
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Number 15, guys, avoid unnecessary worry.
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I know a lot of you are saying
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to me, John, you know, I don't worry.
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But maybe you're not worrying in your head,
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but you're actually creating that worry.
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And see, that worry actually winds up bringing
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things into your life that you basically don't
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want.
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And I know what you're saying to me.
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I know you're saying to me, John, you
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know, like, that's not possible.
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Right?
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It's not possible.
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But I'm here to tell you that it
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is very, very, very possible when you believe.
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When you believe.
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All right.
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If you don't do something, and suddenly something
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goes the wrong way, then how do you
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get from point A to point B?
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Well, you're just going to find yourself lost.
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Right?
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And that loss comes, and you're like, oh,
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my gosh, what do I do now?
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Right?
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And it gets worse.
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So worry rarely improves tomorrow.
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It usually steals today's peace and, unfortunately, your
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productivity.
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Yeah.
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Number 16, stay mentally strong no matter what
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you do.
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A strong mind doesn't ignore challenges.
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It faces them head on with confidence and
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chooses progress over panic.
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Strength grows every time you refuse to quit.
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Number 17, learn to decide right now.
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Learn to decide right now.
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Decision making improves with practice.
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Trust yourself to make thoughtful choices instead of
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waiting for perfect certainty.
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I know a lot of people that they
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think certainty is the way to go.
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And they're like, well, I'm not going to
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do anything because I'm not getting anywhere.
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I'm not getting anywhere.
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And I think that's something that, again, a
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lot of people, for whatever reason, they just
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don't understand.
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They don't understand what that means.
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And I want to tell you that this
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is something that you definitely can do in
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your life.
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All right?
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And I say this to you in all
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heart, that it comes down to the fact
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that you can do these things, right?
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But sometimes, sometimes people just get lost in
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this way.
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And then it's like, oh, my gosh, what
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am I supposed to do now?
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What am I supposed to do?
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And I think that hurts a lot of
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people because they think that if they do
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something a certain way, it's going to be
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this way.
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But I'm here to tell you it's not
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like that.
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You have to become the person you want
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to be, right?
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If you don't do that, then you're going
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to be like, oh, my gosh, what am
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I supposed to do now?
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And I'm here to tell you that what
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you're supposed to do now is to believe
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in yourself.
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Believe in yourself.
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And I know that sounds hard for a
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lot of people, but believing is the key.
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Believing is the key.
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I know that's wild, but I'm here to
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tell you that it's absolutely the truth, right?
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It's the truth.
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Number 18, please keep moving.
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Don't let hesitation keep you standing still.
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Even a small step forward is better than
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no step at all.
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We have to realize that our progress comes
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from our thoughts.
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And our thoughts create action that allow us
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to move forward.
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Sometimes, though, we're like, wait a minute.
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I can't go anywhere.
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But really, you can.
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It's just your mind's like tricking you and
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saying, you can't do this.
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But really, you can do it.
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You are so powerful, guys, so powerful, so
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powerful that if you tell yourself no, you're
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not going to do something.
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You're going to basically sabotage yourself from achieving
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it.
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Number 19, every decision teaches.
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Every choice provides feedback.
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Success builds confidence.
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While mistakes build wisdom, both will move you
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forward.
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And I think that's important to know that
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when we have a mistake, let's not gloat
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about it.
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Let's think, oh my gosh, I made the
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mistake.
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Let's say, OK, this is what happened to
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me.
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Now let's move from there.
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Let's move from there.
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I think that's a very, very important thing
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for us to be aware of.
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Number 20, guys, please, please, please, no matter
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what you do, I ask you to please
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stay positive.
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Your mindset shapes your perspective.
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Looking for possibilities instead of problems makes better
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decisions easier.
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I think that's a real win, isn't it?
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Yeah.
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Number 21, build momentum.
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One completed action naturally leads to another one.
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Momentum turns small victories into meaningful progress.
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But sometimes we look for progress too quickly.
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Like, oh, if I don't get this, then
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I guess I can't go anywhere.
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Right?
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I can't go anywhere if this one thing.
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But I'm here to tell you that you
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can go somewhere if you believe in yourself.
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OK?
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If you believe in yourself, that's pretty cool,
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guys.
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Right?
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And I will tell you that that's an
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important piece, an important piece that maybe you
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don't want to know about, but I'm here
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to tell you that it's going to make
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a big, big difference for you.
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OK?
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A big difference that can change how you're
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doing something.
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All right?
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But it doesn't happen overnight.
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So turn those small victories into meaningful progress.
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22, stay disciplined.
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Discipline keeps us moving when motivation fades.
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I've told you before, motivation will fade based
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on your moods.
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Based on your moods.
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All right?
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But discipline stays all the time.
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All the time.
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Consistent action always outperforms occasional inspiration.
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I think that's what we're comparing.
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We're comparing occasional inspiration.
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And that's a really big thing to understand.
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Number 23, please, ladies and gentlemen, improve your
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day.
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Small improvements may seem significant, but over time,
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they create remarkable results.
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Never stop becoming better.
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You always can become better, but just because
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you're not certain of everything doesn't mean that
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you can't move forward.
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OK?
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I think that's an important thing.
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It's important.
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It's really, really important.
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Number 24, guys, think clearly.
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Avoid letting assumptions or emotions cloud your judgment.
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Clear thinking produces confident decisions.
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When we're grounded, when we take our time,
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there's a big difference.
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A very big difference.
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But we have to be grounded.
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Number 25, act intentionally.
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Choose your actions with purpose.
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Intentional decisions keep you focused on what truly
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matters.
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Sometimes we may change our priorities for a
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lot of different reasons.
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Sometimes we may just tweak them a tiny
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bit.
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But the most important thing is that when
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we have our priorities, we need to be
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intentional with them.
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We need to be disciplined.
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Otherwise, we may get them done and we
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may not.
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And when we don't get them done, it
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actually causes our confidence to fade each time
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we don't do something.
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And that's not good for moving forward.
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Number 26, guys, trust the process.
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I know the process can be long sometimes,
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but we have to trust that process.
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That's probably a real important thing that I
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could tell you.
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We have to trust the process.
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We have to trust the process.
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Meaningful progress takes time.
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Stay committed even when results aren't immediately visible.
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Again, that's pretty powerful, guys, that we can
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do stuff like that.
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But how do we make progress when this
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happens?
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I think that's a lot.
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I think that's something that a lot of
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people, they just don't get it.
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They think one way, but then they just
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don't get it.
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So that's an important piece I want to
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tell you, like a very important piece.
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But I get that sometimes it doesn't go
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where we want it to go.
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It doesn't go where we want it to
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go.
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And that can cause problems for us, and
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it can actually cause problems for other people.
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I think that's an important thing that we
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need to realize.
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We need to realize what that means to
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us and what it means to others.
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Do we know what that means?
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Maybe not.
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Maybe not.
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But it's important to understand so that we
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can have a better life.
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Because, you see, when we talk about being
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committed, when the results aren't visible, we sometimes
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want to give up and we can't.
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We have that blind faith.
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Consistency always pays off.
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It just takes time.
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Number 27, please, ladies and gentlemen, believe in
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yourself.
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Trust your ability to learn, to adapt, and
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overcome challenges.
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Self-belief grows stronger every time you keep
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moving forward.
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I don't care if you take one little
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tiny step, a baby step, as long as
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it's consistent, you're going to keep moving forward.
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You're going to have success.
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Consistency and structure, that's what I said, guys.
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Number 28, courage defeats overthinking.
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Courage doesn't eliminate uncertainty.
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It helps you move forward despite it.
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Every courageous step weakens hesitation.
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Every courageous step weakens hesitation.
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I think that's an important piece, guys.
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A very important piece.
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Because if we don't get that one concept,
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then it'll be like, what happened?
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Why am I going this way?
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Why is this doing this to me?
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What's happening to me?
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I think that's important to actually understand, to
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understand how that works or why that works
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that way.
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I think that's a very important thing to
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know.
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So every courageous step weakens the hesitation that
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we might be having.
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Number 29, keep growing, ladies and gentlemen.
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Every challenge, every lesson, and every decision creates
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another opportunity to improve your life.
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Growth is a lifelong journey.
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So don't just think that because today didn't
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work, tomorrow's not going to work either.
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Sometimes it takes a few times.
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But it's our discipline and attitude that gets
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us through.
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You might have heard before, our attitude determines
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our altitude, and that's exactly correct.
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Number 30, action creates results.
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Thinking prepares you, but action changes your life.
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The future belongs to those who are willing
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to take the next step, the next step.
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Not two steps past it, just the next
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step.
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In closing today, I want to let you
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know that overthinking often convinces us that waiting
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is safer than acting.
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So we procrastinate, and we just stop.
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But real confidence is built through true experience,
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not hesitation, not procrastination.
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Every decision you actually make is an opportunity
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to learn, to improve, and move closer to
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the life you've always wanted.
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Don't settle.
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Don't allow fear, false evidence appearing real, doubt,
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or perfectionism to keep you from taking action,
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because it will if you let it.
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Remember, ladies and gentlemen, you don't have to
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know every answer before taking the first step.
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That's what so many people do, and they're
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wondering why this is happening.
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It's because people think they've got to wait
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to know every answer, and you don't need
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to wait to know every answer.
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Please, ladies and gentlemen, trust yourself.
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Stay focused on your progress, and keep making
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thoughtful decisions.
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The more you learn to act with purpose
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and intention, the more confidence you'll build, and
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the easier it becomes to move forward when
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new opportunities appear.
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I think that's something that a lot of
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us need to know.
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A lot of us need to embrace that,
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to know that we're not alone, to know
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that just because I don't have the answer
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today doesn't mean I can't move forward.
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It doesn't mean that I can't grow.
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It doesn't mean that I can't become a
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better person.
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Do it anyway.
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I thank you so very much for joining
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me on another amazing episode of Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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Of course, by now you know I'm John
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C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, passionate
26:41
lifelong learner at Montclair State University, and so
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grateful now to be a published author.
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Ladies and gentlemen, until next time, I ask
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you to please stop letting overthinking hold you
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back.
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Make the choice to think with real purpose.
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Act with confidence.
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And remember that the future you want is
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built by the actions you take today.
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Master your choices.
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Before they master you.
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And keep growing, ladies and gentlemen, one even
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slow, powerful decision at a time.
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And when you learn how to do this,
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you create an infrastructure.
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You create an ecosystem of success.
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Discipline loves structure and it loves consistency.
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So let's keep making it happen and let
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you become very successful.
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Have a great one, everyone.
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I'll see you real soon.
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Check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for my amazing inspiring
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creations.
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