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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just: Mastering the True Fear of Sin 5.11.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Before we start the next chapter, we're really out the
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  478, which is something called yacht fear of sin.
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  We have to get there. But he has a step right prior to
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  that, which we were closing out on was this long chapter of
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  humility and the ways to both cane humility and to avoid
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  things in our lives at the track from humility.
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  And the last thing we were doing were yes men friends around us
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  that basically just confirm our beliefs and our and our self.
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  And a lot of us always think they were right.
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  Because those such people really, they hold us back from
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  growing, meaning that we do not have the ability to be aware of
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  our faults and of our mistakes. I really, really don't want to
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  know how false or not mistakes and our and our mind is not
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  really enjoyable to hear. And therefore we really try to
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  avoid it. And the problem is, along with
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  that avoidance of realizing my mistakes, I don't have the
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  realization of change. I don't have the ability to
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  develop myself because I don't want to see my faults.
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  And therefore the better way to go, as you mentioned, is to have
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  people around you who are at times, not too often, but at
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  times can be honest, if they're able to be honest with you and
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  you have the ability to grow. If you have people around you
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  that never ever tell you that you're wrong ever, then either
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  your machir or in trouble. Because if the latter one, which
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  we know there's only one, that you have the one perfect person,
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  so to speak. So if you're a regular person
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  and no one ever, you never realize your faults.
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  That means that you don't have people making you aware and you
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  don't have the ability to know really the truth at all.
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  And if that's the case, we can't grow.
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  That's why it's very especially, even though nowadays we really
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  only like to feel that we're good and we like to know that
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  we're right and all that. We have to recognize the fact
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  that we can make mistakes and allow for people around us Tell
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  us something. Now he moves on to the next
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  chapter over here, something called yarat Khet.
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  What is yarat khet? It sounds like a scary word,
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  someone who's afraid of sin, who fears sin.
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  Let's see it together over here at 478 Heenae.
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  He's a adeno Armida, Azot Nimnet, Akhar.
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  Call Amidotta to vote. I said Zerano Adena, think about
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  this. This trade is coming in chapter
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  24. It's coming very deep into the
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  book. The idea of fearing sin Dai lano
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  la renu Alena, just that fact alone, the fact that it's so
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  late in the book proves that it's a very important and
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  fundamental trait. It's very hard to the Cache la
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  Sigoto and it's difficult to reach, difficult to attain.
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  You're basically climbing a ladder in order to attain this
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  level, he points out over here, which he did not point out the
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  other traits. This trait is only attainable
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  after you've climbed the ladder, which means you worked on, we're
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  not going to go through all them, but you worked on your
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  awareness of sin. You worked on your alacrity of
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  doing the right thing. You worked in the humility, you
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  worked on being a Hasid. You worked in many, many
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  different layers of how you're going to be aware to become a
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  better person. And then you got to this point.
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  Now at this point, can one really expect that can attain a
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  level of being fearful of sin, which means you and I think
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  sin's a bad thing. Of course sin's a bad thing and
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  we know what this does to us and our soul.
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  So of course I'm fearful of sin. Doesn't work that way.
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  Our wiring, our natural wiring does not put us in a position
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  that we are aware of sin, even though we know we avoid sin and
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  that we're fearful of it, that it bothers us to sin and our
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  mind. Before I say something, I'm
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  nervous that I might say something that could be wrong
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  and be harmful and therefore be considered a sin.
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  If I look at something, I'm afraid I might look at something
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  that's wrong and harmful and considered a sin.
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  I am nervous for that to be on the level that I'm nervous about
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  that the need that I'm really, I worked on myself and I got to
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  this point. Natural person, even a decent
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  person will not be in a position that they're nervous, not be in
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  a position that they're worried. Am I or am I not sinning?
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  What do you mean? Of course you worried.
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  No, you're not unless you reach level Omnama sarir shin nadim Ki
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  mini hai hai hai. Part of the reason that we don't
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  reach this level, we need to understand what does fear mean?
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  There is a fear. It's very easy to attain.
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  Cigar. End of our call.
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  Come over. It's one of the easiest things
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  which we'll see in a second. Hashmiya, Khasham and Nicole,
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  the two fears on the opposite spectrums. 1 is very easy to
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  attain, Other one is very difficult.
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  Let's see. Yeah, right.
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  It's fearful of punishment, fearful of punishment.
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  Every one of us is afraid of being punished.
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  Is that I mean, I thought this is one kind of fear.
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  And then this fearful of means I'm in awe of God's greatness.
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  And therefore I fear because of I, because of the fact that I
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  think how great God is, his power in this world, who he is,
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  how unbelievably almighty God is.
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  If I absorb that, I internalize that I really firmly believe
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  God's greatness and power. Therefore I'm afraid of him.
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  That sounds like a simple feat to reach.
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  It's not that simple at all. It's not so easy to imagine how
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  great an almighty God is. It's not great to really feel.
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  It's not so simple to really feel how awesome Hashem is.
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  And because of that, the fear that I'm supposed to have based
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  on the awe, it's not easily attainable.
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  It's not that simple to say, wow, unbelievable.
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  Look at the world today, Look how things are moving and
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  changing, and look at things that are happening in the world.
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  Wow. Do I love God?
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  Sure. Am I afraid of making a mistake
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  and getting punished one way or the other?
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  Sure, I am this world, the next World that's in my mind.
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  But am I afraid, based in God's power, that I don't want to
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  cross Hashem, so to speak? I don't want to be a person who
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  wrongs Hashem because of his power and his mind not being
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  afraid of the next step simply because of the fear of fear
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  alone. When someone has a king that's a
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  powerful king, they're not only thinking about the repercussions
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  of the mistakes, they're also thinking about the fact that,
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  wow, this man is a man of control and awe and power, and I
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  don't feel comfortable doing something wrong by him, just the
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  way it is. When you have a powerful person
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  around you, you don't want to mess with them.
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  Not because only I'm afraid of the punishment, simply because
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  not a comfortable position to be in, to do something that's wrong
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  in their eyes when they're so powerful.
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  It's the nature of the world. Power creates fear, creates awe
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  and fear. And if I'm in that position and
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  I want to watch what I say and what I do, this is the ultimate
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  goal at the end of the book for one of these reasons.
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  It's the ultimate goal we want to attain, which is a sense of
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  awe. Exactly.
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  To know exactly whom you're standing from at all times, you
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  have to know whom you're standing from at all times, and
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  you will not sin. It's literally when they say the
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  fear of God, they mean this. It's not the fear of punishment
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  that's the thing. But you know what?
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  Someone can have hirata, honest with Hashem, and it can be very
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  similar to the fear of punishment from the government.
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  Do we fear the punishment from this government?
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  Sure. Are we in awe of the United
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  States government? I don't think so.
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  Are we wowed? I look where they are.
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  They're kind of impressive. There are times that we're
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  impressed, but we're not in the sense of awe constantly and say
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  I don't want to cross them because they're so, so
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  impressively powerful. No, you don't want to cross them
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  because it's dangerous. It's not really safe to cross
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  the American government. It's the wrong thing also, but
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  you're more afraid of the danger of it.
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  When it comes to Hashem, level one will be I don't want to, I
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  don't want to mess. I, Hashem, did not want to get
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  into a bad position, but the higher level will be the ore
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  that I have and the power that I see and the almighty power that
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  God displays is something that I do not want to go against.
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  And that is a sense of Hiratu Romuto to see Bizarro Amin
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  Hashemi. I'll explain the two things as
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  follows. Hirat Onish, he says, now you
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  first explain the fear of punishment.
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  Keep shuta, it's simple. Shahdam yare me a word P Hasheme
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  Lukab. Man is afraid of crossing the
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  word of Hashem behind nashima shalabrot because of the onesh
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  that comes with sin Imla goof imla nefesh, whether it be a
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  physical punishment or a soul punishment.
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  Venezod kalavada. It's a very light level.
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  It's easy to attain. Easy if you believe in God,
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  Kiko, Adam or have it. That's more because every person
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  loves themselves and he's afraid what's going to happen to his
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  soul and nothing will stop you from messing around making a
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  mistake and the fear of what could happen to the one that I
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  love, which is myself. I do not any want any harm to
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  come across my overall orbit, myself, my family, my business,
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  my money. I don't want anything to be
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  touched right. Every morning you wake up, those
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  are your worries, those are your fears, those are your hopes that
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  you remain solid and good, you, your family, everything.
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  And therefore a sense of fear that mess up and may hung.
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  But this, understandly to say, is a very simple level fear.
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  It's not an oppressive fear. It's not really something that
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  makes you a better person. It might keep you at Bay.
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  It might protect you from sin. It doesn't on its own merit.
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  Now, if you practice this, you'll avoid sin more and more.
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  And because of the avoiding of sin, you become a better person.
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  But it doesn't on its own really make you a better person.
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  You're just a person who's smart.
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  I don't want to cross the government if I want to cross
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  the scary neighbor and I want to cross the guard.
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  That's the whole idea, right? He says like a female sort of
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  thinking. But this is not the level rabbis
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  and the greats team, Let's open up the second second level.
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  The second level is fear of God's or which means man is
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  distant from sin. The lawyers say he won't do it.
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  How can I go across, how can I go against right?
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  How can I make, how can I as a man of flesh and blood do
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  something that's going to to harm God's way?
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  I can't get myself to do it. I feel so bad by the idea of
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  doing something that's wrong in Hashem's eyes.
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  This is a level we want to attain.
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  It's not a level that's naturally attained.
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  It's one that takes work. And the work we'll see is in the
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  area of absorbing just how powerful God is and therefore
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  just how in awe you are, not because you're afraid of the
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  outcome. That's basic rather because you
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  feel bad doing something wrong and size right.
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  There's the theme, there's the, there's the level going to reach
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  and this will be a developed level that takes a minute to
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  attain stuff with this.