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- 0:16We were at a casino and we were parking in the hotel parking
- 0:20lot and it's like a
- 0:21SPEAKER_02: hotel casino in Bratislava.
- 0:24SPEAKER_02: And it was really tight because it used to be a bomb shelter.
- 0:27And I am driving this huge,
- 0:31like the biggest,
- 0:33people ask me what type of BMW it was.
- 0:35SPEAKER_02: I don't have a clue.
- 0:36SPEAKER_02: It was whatever the biggest giant SUV is.
- 0:40SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I don't know.
- 0:41SPEAKER_02: Not a clue.
- 0:43SPEAKER_02: And especially because like Euro, they always have different models too.
- 0:46SPEAKER_02: So it was really, it's like those circle things that you wind around.
- 0:52SPEAKER_02: And then you had to drive through this.
- 0:54SPEAKER_02: Well,
- 0:54SPEAKER_02: yeah,
- 0:54but like the most narrow one you could think of because it used
- 0:57to be a bomb shelter.
- 0:59SPEAKER_02: And the opening was literally like the exact size of the car.
- 1:04SPEAKER_02: I had no clearance.
- 1:07SPEAKER_02: But I hit the wall going in before.
- 1:09SPEAKER_00: You oversteered, oversteered a little bit.
- 1:12Even before the entrance,
- 1:14I hit the wall and just completely scratched the front of it.
- 1:18SPEAKER_02: I was so upset.
- 1:19SPEAKER_02: And then I was like, wait, I have full insurance on it.
- 1:21SPEAKER_02: It'll be fine.
- 1:22SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 1:25SPEAKER_02: We got,
- 1:26SPEAKER_02: so it was my friend and I,
- 1:27SPEAKER_02: we leave Bratislava and we got,
- 1:30SPEAKER_02: we pulled into Prague and at the Four Seasons in Prague,
- 1:37SPEAKER_02: the valet met us and he was like,
- 1:40SPEAKER_02: oh,
- 1:41SPEAKER_02: what did you do?
- 1:42SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 1:44SPEAKER_02: And, like, he was so sweet.
- 1:45SPEAKER_02: He tried to buff it out for me, and he was like, it's not.
- 1:49SPEAKER_02: He's like, oh, no, you, like, really.
- 1:50SPEAKER_02: You really ruined this car.
- 1:53SPEAKER_02: And I was like, it's brand new.
- 1:55SPEAKER_00: And that's why you always buy the insurance.
- 1:59SPEAKER_02: Well, as it turns out, I...
- 2:02SPEAKER_02: I don't have a choice in the matter at this point.
- 2:06There is a note in my file with a certain rental car company
- 2:10and I have to buy the insurance.
- 2:11SPEAKER_00: I have a credit card, but my one credit card comes with the insurance.
- 2:17SPEAKER_02: They do.
- 2:18SPEAKER_02: However,
- 2:18SPEAKER_02: in that situation,
- 2:19it's way worse because you have to pay and then they go to your
- 2:22insurance to get reimbursed.
- 2:25SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
- 2:25SPEAKER_02: But you have to pay up front.
- 2:26Whereas if you do it with direct with the rental company,
- 2:30they just pay right away.
- 2:31They didn't even I had to sign a form like I had to fill out
- 2:34accident forms in Budapest.
- 2:36SPEAKER_02: It was horrifying.
- 2:38I just had to sign the form saying like,
- 2:40yeah,
- 2:40I scratched it and they paid it all.
- 2:42SPEAKER_02: It's fine.
- 2:43My rates like it also isn't tied then to my insurance rates and
- 2:49my credit card.
- 2:50SPEAKER_02: Like I didn't have to deal with any of that.
- 2:51SPEAKER_02: So it's just easier.
- 2:52SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 2:54Does that – do I always do – well,
- 2:56now I have to always have the insurance.
- 2:58SPEAKER_02: But we didn't always do that.
- 3:00SPEAKER_02: Go to a different rental car company.
- 3:02SPEAKER_00: It's fine.
- 3:03SPEAKER_02: No, I could.
- 3:03SPEAKER_02: But also I'm an idiot and I will hit something again because I'm a woman.
- 3:09I was going to say you're not doing your gender and its
- 3:15reputation any favors here.
- 3:17SPEAKER_02: Look, I'm not.
- 3:17When I am in Germany,
- 3:19I'm so happy to park because they have women parking spots.
- 3:23do you know about this no it's amazing so um i'm not gonna say
- 3:27it in german because
- 3:28my german is scheisse um it's like the woman it even says like
- 3:34woman parking spot
- 3:35whatever it is in german and i'll send you the picture but
- 3:39they're always the
- 3:40widest spots that are like the easiest to pull into would not
- 3:45fly in america
- 3:46SPEAKER_00: there'd be
- 3:47SPEAKER_00: People get very angry about that.
- 3:49SPEAKER_02: So they started to in Germany when they put this in.
- 3:54SPEAKER_02: But and the politicians were like, no, no, no.
- 3:57These are also the spots where and this does hold some water
- 4:02because they're wider
- 4:04SPEAKER_02: and they tend to be towards the entrances and near lights and things.
- 4:09SPEAKER_02: They're a lot better lit.
- 4:10SPEAKER_02: So it is for safety as well.
- 4:13SPEAKER_02: And I get that.
- 4:15But I am very happy to abuse my woman parking spot privilege in
- 4:20Germany because I'm like,
- 4:21SPEAKER_02: I can't I cannot get into European parking spots.
- 4:24SPEAKER_02: They're so small.
- 4:25And I always rent SUVs there because we're going like I've
- 4:30never gone to Europe and
- 4:31rented a car and not driven to like four or five different
- 4:34countries because the
- 4:34SPEAKER_02: train is actually kind of expensive.
- 4:37SPEAKER_02: And if you're going in a big group of people, it's easier in a big car.
- 4:41and yeah the much vaunted european train experience is
- 4:47expensive i don't believe i
- 4:48thought it was free everything's free in europe is my
- 4:51understanding some of the
- 4:52trains are inexpensive some of the trains are very expensive
- 4:56some countries are
- 4:58horrible their trains are just the worst germany looking at you
- 5:02um some no like you
- 5:05would think because they're obsessed with efficiency they're
- 5:08obsessed with doing it
- 5:10SPEAKER_02: German trains often aren't on time.
- 5:12SPEAKER_02: Deutsche Bahn is rolling out brand new train cars and they look great.
- 5:18SPEAKER_02: But I've been on some sketchy, sketchy Deutsche Bahn trains.
- 5:22SPEAKER_02: They're not as good as the Italians.
- 5:25SPEAKER_02: Dude, that stuff runs.
- 5:27They're a little gross,
- 5:28some of the Trintaglia trains,
- 5:31but they run really well.
- 5:34the long legacy of Mussolini continues well I mean we're
- 5:40talking about Germany too
- 5:41here so yeah no I like France's trains are great and the first
- 5:50class cars on some
- 5:51of the French trains are really really nice they're not that
- 5:54expensive I yeah it's
- 5:57SPEAKER_02: very country dependent and it's very route dependent
- 6:01SPEAKER_00: As you know, I've only been to England.
- 6:04SPEAKER_00: The English trains were fine.
- 6:06SPEAKER_00: I liked the English trains fine.
- 6:07SPEAKER_00: They were...
- 6:09I found it weird in England and I,
- 6:11cause I've been on the train every time.
- 6:13SPEAKER_02: But were you on a regional or were you on like city?
- 6:16SPEAKER_02: Were you like London general or were you like further?
- 6:20SPEAKER_00: Regional, regional.
- 6:22SPEAKER_00: I was,
- 6:23SPEAKER_00: we were,
- 6:23SPEAKER_00: we were staying in Pangborn,
- 6:26SPEAKER_00: which is a decent way outside of London to the,
- 6:30SPEAKER_00: to the West of London.
- 6:31And then I wanted to go when I was there,
- 6:34I was in England years ago in college and
- 6:36SPEAKER_00: And we had gone to Guilford, which is just the south of London.
- 6:42SPEAKER_00: So I didn't have anything to do.
- 6:44SPEAKER_00: So I wanted to go to Guilford again to see Guilford.
- 6:46SPEAKER_02: Okay, but Pendorn is out near reading.
- 6:48SPEAKER_02: Like, it's not...
- 6:51SPEAKER_02: That's still within... It was still a regional trade.
- 6:55SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 6:57SPEAKER_00: What I was saying,
- 6:59SPEAKER_00: though,
- 6:59SPEAKER_00: is that in England,
- 7:01SPEAKER_00: I don't know if this is true all through Europe,
- 7:02SPEAKER_00: I found it fascinating from an American standpoint.
- 7:06SPEAKER_00: You have to go, you have to buy your ticket.
- 7:09SPEAKER_00: If you're not an English citizen, you can get the rail pass.
- 7:13SPEAKER_00: I think you can't get them as an English citizen.
- 7:15You can get it as a tourist that lets you get free train rides
- 7:19during a period.
- 7:22SPEAKER_00: I didn't get that because I wasn't planning on being a train that much.
- 7:24SPEAKER_00: So you go to the machine,
- 7:25SPEAKER_00: you buy your ticket,
- 7:27SPEAKER_00: you buy your ticket,
- 7:28SPEAKER_00: and then you get on the train.
- 7:30SPEAKER_00: Nobody checks the ticket.
- 7:32SPEAKER_00: Like, nobody asked me if I had a ticket.
- 7:34SPEAKER_00: There was no mechanism of, like, putting my ticket in.
- 7:36SPEAKER_00: There was nobody saying, can I see your ticket?
- 7:38SPEAKER_00: I just got on the train.
- 7:39SPEAKER_00: I went to the place, and I got off.
- 7:41SPEAKER_00: I'm like, why did I buy this ticket?
- 7:42SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 7:43SPEAKER_02: That's, like, some German trains.
- 7:44SPEAKER_02: Nobody's going to ask me.
- 7:45SPEAKER_02: That's, like, some German trains.
- 7:47SPEAKER_02: French and Italian, they are looking for your ticket.
- 7:50SPEAKER_02: Poland, they're looking for your ticket.
- 7:53SPEAKER_02: It just depends.
- 7:55I was asked for a ticket on one German route when I was going
- 7:59from Munich to Nuremberg.
- 8:03SPEAKER_02: I was asked.
- 8:04But I was also in the first class quiet car,
- 8:07and I don't know,
- 8:08maybe they just did there.
- 8:10SPEAKER_02: Portugal also has great trains.
- 8:12SPEAKER_02: I love Portuguese trains.
- 8:14SPEAKER_02: They're really good.
- 8:14SPEAKER_00: Portugal's tiny.
- 8:15SPEAKER_00: Why would you even need a train?
- 8:16SPEAKER_00: Just walk across the area.
- 8:18SPEAKER_02: No, from Lisbon to Porto.
- 8:19SPEAKER_02: Oh.
- 8:20SPEAKER_00: It's a little spit on the end of Spain.
- 8:25SPEAKER_02: I didn't want to ride a car to drive to Porto.
- 8:28SPEAKER_02: Just ride a bike.
- 8:30SPEAKER_02: No.
- 8:31SPEAKER_02: The place is like 50 square miles.
- 8:33SPEAKER_02: It's not that close.
- 8:37The great thing about when you take the train into Porto is you
- 8:41get to go over the
- 8:42SPEAKER_02: really beautiful bridge in Porto.
- 8:44Like when you look and there's the port,
- 8:47the bridge is huge and beautiful over it.
- 8:49SPEAKER_02: And it's amazing to take the train in to town.
- 8:53SPEAKER_02: But I really liked the Portuguese trains.
- 8:55They were large enough that I could put my rolling suitcase
- 8:58above me in first class,
- 9:00SPEAKER_00: which was great.
- 9:02SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 9:03SPEAKER_00: The English regional trains were fine.
- 9:04SPEAKER_00: They were clean.
- 9:06SPEAKER_00: Like I said, I couldn't fathom how they finance it.
- 9:12SPEAKER_00: I don't believe that the English... Well, yeah.
- 9:15SPEAKER_00: Because they're not looking for that.
- 9:17SPEAKER_00: The ticket wasn't even cheap.
- 9:18SPEAKER_00: I don't remember how much it was, but it wasn't cheap.
- 9:20But then while I was there,
- 9:21then there was this big...
- 9:22Apparently they do care.
- 9:24SPEAKER_00: They must use cameras, I guess, to see who's getting off the train.
- 9:28SPEAKER_00: When I was there, there was this big news story...
- 9:31There was some businessman who lived outside of London and
- 9:33worked in London who got
- 9:34busted because they tracked his movements on their weird police
- 9:41state cameras.
- 9:43And he owed some insane amount in back train ride costs because
- 9:50he spent years.
- 9:52SPEAKER_00: It was like this big case.
- 9:54SPEAKER_00: But that's going to happen.
- 9:56SPEAKER_00: This wouldn't have happened.
- 9:57This wouldn't be an issue if you had just paid a dude to walk
- 10:01up and down and be like,
- 10:01SPEAKER_00: hey,
- 10:01SPEAKER_00: can I see your ticket guy?
- 10:03SPEAKER_02: You know what train I love?
- 10:05SPEAKER_02: The Heathrow Express.
- 10:09SPEAKER_02: It's like Heathrow to Paddington in 15 or 20 minutes.
- 10:11SPEAKER_02: It's great.
- 10:15SPEAKER_02: I was probably on that when I was there in college.
- 10:17If you fly into the airport and you're getting into the city
- 10:21and you're not taking
- 10:22SPEAKER_02: a car,
- 10:23SPEAKER_02: which takes a million years.
- 10:24SPEAKER_02: It's like, I mean, I've done that and you're stuck in traffic forever.
- 10:29SPEAKER_02: But the Heathrow Express is like...
- 10:32we were there you have to walk like two miles to get to it it
- 10:35is so freaking far
- 10:36but we were there for we were there for my wife's work and they
- 10:41they uh they would
- 10:42not allow you were not allowed to drive in england if you were
- 10:46not from england it
- 10:47was like uh so they paid for a driver to drive you everywhere
- 10:51so we had a driver
- 10:52SPEAKER_00: who was
- 10:53SPEAKER_00: What am I only experienced as having a driver?
- 10:55SPEAKER_00: Well,
- 10:56SPEAKER_02: also,
- 10:56if you were going there and you were going out to the West
- 10:59because you guys were in Bucks.
- 11:01SPEAKER_02: So if you're going out to Bucks, you're already on that side of town.
- 11:05SPEAKER_02: So you would take a driver out.
- 11:07SPEAKER_02: You wouldn't go into London to go back West.
- 11:11SPEAKER_02: And it's way easier.
- 11:12SPEAKER_02: Like,
- 11:13SPEAKER_02: when we've gone and stayed in the town that Luke grew up in,
- 11:20SPEAKER_02: we usually go into the city,
- 11:21SPEAKER_02: and then we go back to Heathrow,
- 11:23SPEAKER_02: rent a car at Heathrow,
- 11:24SPEAKER_02: and then go to the town that he grew up in.
- 11:27SPEAKER_02: Because it's out that way.
- 11:29SPEAKER_00: We're just talking England, which is not our intention.
- 11:32SPEAKER_00: But this is reminding me of an interesting story about that trip,
- 11:35SPEAKER_00: which I think you'd find entertaining.
- 11:37SPEAKER_00: Okay.
- 11:39SPEAKER_00: So we stayed.
- 11:40SPEAKER_00: I think we were going back.
- 11:41SPEAKER_00: We were going back.
- 11:43We had a hotel that her employer had paid for in,
- 11:47I think it was a Radisson at Heathrow.
- 11:51SPEAKER_00: It was a huge hotel.
- 11:52SPEAKER_00: It was a massive hotel.
- 11:54SPEAKER_00: But whatever.
- 11:57So we go to check in and the person at the desk says,
- 12:02would you like to pay for an upgrade?
- 12:04SPEAKER_00: And my wife said, no, no, no, you know, whatever you have is fine.
- 12:07SPEAKER_00: The person says, are you sure you don't want to pay for an upgrade?
- 12:12SPEAKER_00: No, we have a room.
- 12:14SPEAKER_00: It's fine.
- 12:15SPEAKER_00: So we get so that she, she gives us her keys.
- 12:17SPEAKER_00: It's like way in the back of the hotel.
- 12:22SPEAKER_00: But it's on the first floor.
- 12:25SPEAKER_00: It's facing their garbage alley.
- 12:30SPEAKER_00: And it was the cheapest, nastiest roof I've ever stayed in.
- 12:37SPEAKER_00: The Radisson...
- 12:39Which is a shame because Radisons,
- 12:43especially like overseas,
- 12:44are so much better.
- 12:46SPEAKER_02: Like a Radisson blue in Eastern Europe is really good.
- 12:50SPEAKER_00: Only if you're paying for it not on corporate contract rates.
- 12:54SPEAKER_00: I mean, yeah.
- 12:56SPEAKER_00: The lampshades were plastic.
- 12:58They were a clear plastic that had been painted with a
- 13:03lampshade pattern on them.
- 13:05SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 13:06SPEAKER_00: Everything was bolted down.
- 13:08SPEAKER_00: We were going to steal it.
- 13:10SPEAKER_00: It was insane.
- 13:11SPEAKER_00: Do you think that I would ever stay in a hotel like that?
- 13:16SPEAKER_00: I'm sure.
- 13:17Had we paid for that upgrade,
- 13:19our room would have...
- 13:20The bed was deeply uncomfortable.
- 13:22SPEAKER_00: That was an unpleasant experience.
- 13:24SPEAKER_02: Well, I will say that is a uniquely British trait.
- 13:29Luke and I,
- 13:30when we were on our honeymoon,
- 13:31we stayed at this amazing hotel in Oban.
- 13:35and the whole hotel was absolutely beautiful it was super cheap
- 13:39but like that was
- 13:41one of our splurgy and we were really broke when we got married
- 13:44so that was one of
- 13:44our splurgy hotels we were like oh we're in this nice hotel
- 13:48literally the bed was a
- 13:49box spring yep and we were like how do you sleep like this it
- 13:53was so painful i yeah
- 13:57SPEAKER_02: my irish self needs at least some hay
- 14:02and that was like what who sleeps on a box spring and the hotel
- 14:07hasn't changed we
- 14:08looked at their reviews recently and i think they still have
- 14:11box springs and i was
- 14:12like well i'm never saying there i mean i like box springs but
- 14:16i can not to sleep
- 14:18on that's fine there were springs poking like and i would move
- 14:23slightly i flip like
- 14:24a chicken in the middle of the night my husband was like can
- 14:27you just not move and
- 14:29SPEAKER_02: i it's impossible
- 14:31SPEAKER_00: I can sleep on anything.
- 14:33SPEAKER_00: I can sleep through anything for the most part.
- 14:35SPEAKER_00: A couple years ago, we had a...
- 14:42SPEAKER_00: hail storm that came through where I lived.
- 14:43SPEAKER_00: This massive hail storm.
- 14:46It was like three quarters of the way through the hail storm
- 14:49before I even woke up.
- 14:50SPEAKER_00: I described it as the Battle of Verdun was happening outside.
- 14:55SPEAKER_00: The house was being pummeled by hail.
- 14:59I slept through most of it because I could sleep through
- 15:01basically anything.
- 15:02SPEAKER_00: My superpower is just an ability when I decide I want to go to sleep,
- 15:06SPEAKER_00: I fall asleep and then I generally wake up at a consistent time.
- 15:10SPEAKER_02: Luke used to be like, I don't know.
- 15:13SPEAKER_02: I feel like because I have a lot of stupid health stuff going on.
- 15:18I feel like he doesn't sleep as well lately because I don't
- 15:22sleep as well.
- 15:22SPEAKER_02: And he's I'm like, you're asleep.
- 15:26SPEAKER_02: You don't have to be attentive to me.
- 15:27SPEAKER_02: It's very sweet.
- 15:28SPEAKER_02: But like you need to sleep, too.
- 15:30SPEAKER_02: So I don't know.
- 15:32My wife will try to have conversations with me either while
- 15:35we're going to bed or
- 15:37SPEAKER_00: in the middle of the night.
- 15:38SPEAKER_00: And then she'll expect that I will remember these conversations.
- 15:42And I'm like,
- 15:43you need to understand,
- 15:45once I have prepared for bed,
- 15:46I will talk to you.
- 15:48SPEAKER_00: We can hold an entire conversation.
- 15:49SPEAKER_00: I am not going to remember this conversation.
- 15:52This conversation basically did not happen to me because I was
- 15:56mostly asleep.
- 15:57SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 16:00SPEAKER_02: Luke is pretty good about that,
- 16:01SPEAKER_02: but usually he could sleep through anything,
- 16:04SPEAKER_02: but lately he's having a hard time with it.
- 16:07SPEAKER_02: Because I'm rolling nonstop and getting up.
- 16:12SPEAKER_00: Everyone goes to those phases, of course.
- 16:14SPEAKER_00: No.
- 16:15SPEAKER_00: Especially around tax day, right?
- 16:18SPEAKER_02: Yes.
- 16:19SPEAKER_00: I'm looking at our list we put together.
- 16:21Our list that we put together yesterday when we were
- 16:24interrupted from doing this.
- 16:27SPEAKER_02: I'm over my tax day pain.
- 16:31SPEAKER_00: You have bounced back from having to write those tax checks.
- 16:35yeah thankfully i employ people to write those tax checks for
- 16:39me but maybe you know
- 16:41they're being written oh yes and it was a lot i trigger safe
- 16:45harbor which i
- 16:46explained to you but i'll explain it again um when your income
- 16:51level changes or
- 16:52goes up you have to pay 110 percent the next year to make sure
- 16:57that you're covering
- 16:58SPEAKER_02: your tax liability
- 16:59which would be fine except for the fact that my website was
- 17:06again hit by a Google
- 17:07algorithm change plus the uncertainty in the market right now
- 17:11is like tanking ad revenue.
- 17:13SPEAKER_02: So I'm making a lot less but having to pay taxes on a lot higher salary.
- 17:19SPEAKER_02: So I'm basically prepaying the government.
- 17:23SPEAKER_00: But the benefit...
- 17:27And optimistically,
- 17:27maybe everything will be great and it'll all be in the watch.
- 17:30SPEAKER_00: You'll have made so much money this year.
- 17:31SPEAKER_00: But if not, next year, your liability will be lower because, correct?
- 17:36SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 17:37SPEAKER_02: And then it'll go up next year and then I'll have it the next time.
- 17:40SPEAKER_02: And it's just a roller coaster that I'm kind of over.
- 17:42SPEAKER_02: Off the seesaw.
- 17:43SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
- 17:44SPEAKER_02: It's not the most fun.
- 17:47And especially when you work in a really volatile industry like
- 17:50online publishing.
- 17:51SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 17:54SPEAKER_02: I think I'm starting to get sick of the up and downs.
- 17:59SPEAKER_02: I've been doing this for 15 years, and it's starting to take its toll.
- 18:04SPEAKER_00: That's something to be said for just,
- 18:05SPEAKER_00: you know,
- 18:07SPEAKER_00: being a workforce drudge is maybe drudgery,
- 18:10SPEAKER_00: but at the same time,
- 18:11SPEAKER_00: it's a steady paycheck,
- 18:12SPEAKER_00: and it's consistent.
- 18:13SPEAKER_00: You know what's happening.
- 18:14SPEAKER_02: It's not consistent, but yes.
- 18:16SPEAKER_00: I mean, it depends.
- 18:19SPEAKER_02: It's not the most consistent.
- 18:23SPEAKER_00: Depends on the job.
- 18:24SPEAKER_00: You know, if you just have a regular office job, you have an employer.
- 18:27SPEAKER_00: As long as you're not laid off, you're getting paid.
- 18:29SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 18:30SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 18:30SPEAKER_02: Unfortunately, that is not my reality.
- 18:33SPEAKER_02: And I am my boss.
- 18:35SPEAKER_00: This is the life you've chosen.
- 18:36It's very,
- 18:37very stressful worrying about,
- 18:39you know,
- 18:40I support two families with this company.
- 18:43SPEAKER_02: And I would like to have trouble handling that.
- 18:46SPEAKER_02: And not my own family.
- 18:47SPEAKER_02: It's like two other families.
- 18:49SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you have employees.
- 18:50SPEAKER_02: Yeah,
- 18:50SPEAKER_02: and that's really hard to be like,
- 18:52SPEAKER_02: well,
- 18:53SPEAKER_02: if I don't do my job or if I screw something up,
- 18:56SPEAKER_02: you know,
- 18:56SPEAKER_02: I'm making it worse for these women.
- 18:59SPEAKER_02: And that's a lot.
- 19:02I understand why middle-aged men have a lot of identity crises
- 19:06when it comes to
- 19:07SPEAKER_02: work and the responsibility that they have to take on.
- 19:10SPEAKER_02: It is...
- 19:13SPEAKER_02: It's not always the most fun.
- 19:15SPEAKER_00: It's fair.
- 19:17SPEAKER_00: No,
- 19:17SPEAKER_00: that's...
- 19:19SPEAKER_02: Which,
- 19:19SPEAKER_00: by the way,
- 19:20SPEAKER_02: everyone sees my job and they're like,
- 19:21SPEAKER_02: oh my gosh,
- 19:22SPEAKER_02: that's so amazing.
- 19:23You got to,
- 19:23like,
- 19:23screw around with food and travel and it's so glamorous.
- 19:26SPEAKER_02: And I'm like, yeah, but also...
- 19:28You know,
- 19:29I'm constantly worrying about can I pay my employees and can I
- 19:32keep this going?
- 19:34And is today the day I'm going to log in and realize the last
- 19:3715 years of my work
- 19:39SPEAKER_02: are gone into thin air?
- 19:41SPEAKER_02: And there's not really anything you can do about that.
- 19:44SPEAKER_02: Google just picks winners and losers.
- 19:47SPEAKER_02: And that is a whole other side rant I could go on.
- 19:51SPEAKER_02: But it is really unnerving.
- 19:53SPEAKER_00: Well, for now, because the Facebook is currently in.
- 19:58SPEAKER_00: front of a judge over their acquisition of Instagram.
- 20:02And I feel like once that's going to be,
- 20:04that's going to be wrapped up in not too long.
- 20:06SPEAKER_00: And I'm pretty sure that Google may Google's probably going to be next.
- 20:09SPEAKER_02: Well, Google is currently appealing an antitrust ruling.
- 20:14SPEAKER_02: They are facing additional possible issues.
- 20:22SPEAKER_00: They want AdSense to be like stripped out into its own thing.
- 20:26SPEAKER_02: Well, no, I mean, AdSense already kind of is.
- 20:28SPEAKER_00: But they own a corporate entity.
- 20:31SPEAKER_02: That's not what that's not what this suit was.
- 20:34SPEAKER_02: It was over Chrome and it was over their app stores.
- 20:41SPEAKER_02: That's similar to what the ad stuff hasn't even come through yet.
- 20:47SPEAKER_00: In the late 90s, that was what they did.
- 20:50SPEAKER_00: They went after Microsoft for a similar thing with Microsoft Edge.
- 20:57SPEAKER_00: But it was Microsoft Explorer?
- 20:59SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it was Explorer.
- 21:01SPEAKER_00: Because Netflix was... Not Netflix.
- 21:04SPEAKER_00: Netscape was angry about it.
- 21:05SPEAKER_00: But...
- 21:06But all of these things,
- 21:09that might help my job or it might completely eliminate it.
- 21:13And when you look at AI,
- 21:14AI coming in,
- 21:16people are using ChatGPT to search.
- 21:20Well,
- 21:20ChatGPT gives you computer-generated results,
- 21:23not actually user-made.
- 21:25And the only people who are really at a good chance against all
- 21:31of this are large
- 21:32SPEAKER_02: corporate sites like your favorite that you like to talk about.
- 21:37SPEAKER_02: Basically just take recipes or content from other creators like me.
- 21:43And because they have a lot of corporate money behind them can
- 21:48ride a lot of these
- 21:50SPEAKER_02: uncertain times.
- 21:50SPEAKER_02: Whereas someone like me can't.
- 21:53SPEAKER_02: And it's a really unstable, scary future.
- 21:56SPEAKER_02: Well, that was your information from real people.
- 22:00SPEAKER_02: I, I,
- 22:04had a America's Task Kitchen recipe I was actually going to use
- 22:07for dinner tonight,
- 22:08SPEAKER_00: but I didn't.
- 22:10SPEAKER_00: The ground beef I was going to use to make the chili wasn't thawed,
- 22:13SPEAKER_00: so I had to go a different direction.
- 22:16SPEAKER_00: Poor Shane.
- 22:18SPEAKER_00: In America's Task Kitchen's defense.
- 22:20SPEAKER_02: Can we not?
- 22:23SPEAKER_00: I referenced my wife, your unhappiness with them.
- 22:29SPEAKER_00: She said,
- 22:30SPEAKER_00: well,
- 22:30SPEAKER_00: you know,
- 22:30SPEAKER_00: they don't claim to be like,
- 22:31SPEAKER_00: you know,
- 22:32SPEAKER_00: they pretty much admit that they're doing this.
- 22:34SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 22:35SPEAKER_02: No, they are.
- 22:35SPEAKER_00: They're not saying we're creating the trends.
- 22:39SPEAKER_00: They're just saying people are talking about this.
- 22:41SPEAKER_02: But then you have a choice as a consumer.
- 22:43SPEAKER_02: Do you go to someone who's taking work from other people or not?
- 22:50SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 22:51SPEAKER_00: My wife just walked in.
- 22:53SPEAKER_00: She says hello.
- 22:54Bye!
- 22:55SPEAKER_00: I forgot she was coming home before lunch.
- 23:00SPEAKER_00: No, it's true.
- 23:01SPEAKER_00: But, you know, they have a television show.
- 23:05SPEAKER_00: They're reliable.
- 23:06Even if they don't have Chris Kimball there anymore because he
- 23:09blew up,
- 23:10went up to Milk Street.
- 23:15SPEAKER_00: You can cut out the chat about the competition if you want.
- 23:18SPEAKER_00: I don't really care.
- 23:19SPEAKER_02: It's fine.
- 23:20I like my rant so that people know to come to my website
- 23:23instead because they are helping...
- 23:26SPEAKER_00: Sweet C Designs!
- 23:27SPEAKER_00: Or Sweet C's.
- 23:28SPEAKER_02: It would be great if you learned the name of it at some point.
- 23:34SPEAKER_02: It's actually the stupidest website name ever because I'm not sweet.
- 23:38SPEAKER_02: It is C's for my initials, but...
- 23:42though you referenced AI earlier I want to say yesterday I had
- 23:48a billion dollar
- 23:49idea that really needs to happen don't give it away so someone
- 23:53steals it I don't
- 23:54own the IP so I can't do anything with it I don't know if you
- 24:00saw this I said that
- 24:01whoever owns the IP for Ask Jeeves is missing a huge
- 24:06opportunity here because they
- 24:08SPEAKER_00: need to have Jeeves AI
- 24:10SPEAKER_00: do.
- 24:12SPEAKER_00: Every millennial would jump on that.
- 24:14If you had Jeeves AI and you had their little Jeeves
- 24:18illustration guy and he's
- 24:20SPEAKER_00: giving you your answer in a dry British voice,
- 24:24SPEAKER_00: that would be fantastic.
- 24:26SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 24:27SPEAKER_00: I was really pleased with this idea.
- 24:29SPEAKER_00: I fondly recall.
- 24:30SPEAKER_00: I was always an Ask Jeeves guy.
- 24:32SPEAKER_00: I like to have a word.
- 24:34SPEAKER_00: It hasn't been done.
- 24:34SPEAKER_00: ChatGPT can just buy the IP.
- 24:41SPEAKER_00: I'd be okay with that.
- 24:42SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 24:43SPEAKER_00: As long as I get Jeeves answering my question, I'm happy.
- 24:45SPEAKER_00: I don't care who the corporate overlord is.
- 24:48SPEAKER_00: Okay.
- 24:49SPEAKER_00: Great.
- 24:52SPEAKER_00: I've never actually used ChatGPT.
- 24:54SPEAKER_00: I use Grok every once in a while.
- 24:56SPEAKER_00: ChatGPT seems to want me to make an account,
- 24:59SPEAKER_00: and I don't know that I want to make an account with ChatGPT.
- 25:05SPEAKER_00: And I already have a Twitter account, obviously, so I just use Grok.
- 25:08SPEAKER_02: I actually use ChatGPT a lot.
- 25:11SPEAKER_00: I don't want to make an account with them.
- 25:14SPEAKER_02: Everybody's using it.
- 25:15SPEAKER_02: Look, I do actually use it a lot.
- 25:17SPEAKER_02: It is great.
- 25:18I don't use it for things that a human makes better sense for,
- 25:24but I do use it a lot.
- 25:27SPEAKER_00: It's a better search function than Google.
- 25:32SPEAKER_00: Because Google sucked for years.
- 25:33Google had it searched down perfectly and they've just been
- 25:36slowly making it worse
- 25:37SPEAKER_00: for like a decade and a half.
- 25:39SPEAKER_00: Do you know why?
- 25:39SPEAKER_00: I assume it has something to do with making money.
- 25:44SPEAKER_02: You have to scroll longer on the page to find results that you want,
- 25:48SPEAKER_02: which means more and more ads can be served.
- 25:51SPEAKER_00: It's psychotic.
- 25:52SPEAKER_00: Just give me... I understand you have to make money.
- 25:55SPEAKER_00: I understand that.
- 25:56SPEAKER_00: That's...
- 25:59SPEAKER_02: But they make money.
- 26:00SPEAKER_02: Like, okay.
- 26:01SPEAKER_02: So take my website.
- 26:03SPEAKER_02: They've pushed my results down the page,
- 26:06SPEAKER_02: even though I have like really high ratings or,
- 26:08SPEAKER_02: and it's been around for a long time.
- 26:10SPEAKER_02: It's well known.
- 26:11SPEAKER_02: Like it's established.
- 26:12SPEAKER_02: They'll put really crappy content up top.
- 26:16SPEAKER_02: Hoping that people scroll.
- 26:17SPEAKER_02: Well, Google still gets a cut of all the ads on my page.
- 26:21SPEAKER_02: I don't run AdSense.
- 26:22SPEAKER_02: I'm with a premium network, which I'm with Raptive.
- 26:26SPEAKER_02: There's like two, there's Mediavine, there's Raptive.
- 26:28SPEAKER_02: Then there's some like lower tier networks.
- 26:31SPEAKER_02: But Google still gets a cut of that.
- 26:33SPEAKER_02: They still have a bunch of Google ads that are surfed through there.
- 26:37SPEAKER_02: So they're not necessarily helping their bottom line by only doing that.
- 26:41They're missing out on all the money from our sites that
- 26:45they're taking away.
- 26:46SPEAKER_02: It's so weird.
- 26:48SPEAKER_00: You might know the answer to this.
- 26:49I don't know if you do,
- 26:50but you might know the answer to this because this will only
- 26:52make sense.
- 26:53SPEAKER_00: Is AdSense and the search people, are they different teams?
- 26:57SPEAKER_00: Yes.
- 26:57SPEAKER_02: They are very different teams.
- 26:59SPEAKER_00: They do not work in concert with each other.
- 27:01SPEAKER_00: There's your answer.
- 27:03SPEAKER_00: They are actively likely competing with each other to some degree.
- 27:07SPEAKER_00: Oh, 100%.
- 27:07SPEAKER_00: For those eyes.
- 27:08SPEAKER_00: Which in some ways, all corporations, I think, do this to some degree.
- 27:12SPEAKER_00: They have their different departments and different departments...
- 27:14internally buy things from each other or sell things to each
- 27:18other but corporations
- 27:21go nuts for this and sometimes it works and sometimes it
- 27:23doesn't in fact you end up
- 27:25SPEAKER_00: with what Google is now which is largely useless I think that
- 27:29There is a space for someone to actually come in and disrupt
- 27:33that market.
- 27:34SPEAKER_00: I don't know if anyone will,
- 27:35SPEAKER_00: because all you see are these weird little things that are like,
- 27:38SPEAKER_00: you know,
- 27:39SPEAKER_00: the conservative alternative,
- 27:41SPEAKER_00: which is if I if I'm sorry,
- 27:42SPEAKER_00: if I see as a card carrying establishment friendly squish conservative,
- 27:49SPEAKER_00: if I see something that says we're the conservative alternative,
- 27:52SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
- 27:53SPEAKER_00: I don't want anything to do with you.
- 27:54SPEAKER_02: Did you just call yourself a squish conservative?
- 27:57SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I always call myself.
- 27:59SPEAKER_00: I'm an establishment-friendly squish.
- 28:03SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
- 28:03SPEAKER_00: I'm an old schooler.
- 28:04SPEAKER_00: I'm one of the last people who still fondly recalls George W. Bush.
- 28:10SPEAKER_02: You couldn't hear that, could you?
- 28:13SPEAKER_00: What?
- 28:13SPEAKER_00: Would you swear at me?
- 28:14SPEAKER_02: No, no, no.
- 28:15SPEAKER_02: My phone keeps ringing.
- 28:16SPEAKER_02: It's all spam.
- 28:17SPEAKER_02: Like... Mmm.
- 28:21SPEAKER_02: But I keep getting it in my ear and it keeps ringing and I'm like, stop.
- 28:27SPEAKER_02: It's nonstop spam calls.
- 28:29There's a new fiber optic company has installed fiber lines in
- 28:36my neighborhood and
- 28:38SPEAKER_00: they keep calling me to try to sell me fiber optic internet.
- 28:43SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, you know, look,
- 28:44SPEAKER_00: I don't have a problem with you guys.
- 28:46SPEAKER_00: I'm really happy.
- 28:48SPEAKER_00: When we bought the house, there was only one option for internet.
- 28:50SPEAKER_00: As soon as they rolled out this new fiber line,
- 28:53SPEAKER_00: Spectrum cable suddenly came out with,
- 28:56SPEAKER_00: oh,
- 28:56SPEAKER_00: you know what?
- 28:57SPEAKER_00: We actually have gigabyte speeds too.
- 28:59SPEAKER_00: We've always had gigabyte speeds in your neighborhood.
- 29:02We haven't updated anything,
- 29:03but now we can offer you gigabyte speeds at this great deal.
- 29:07SPEAKER_00: So I signed up for that.
- 29:10SPEAKER_00: So I keep telling you,
- 29:12I appreciate your being there because you forced Spectrum to
- 29:14actually do something
- 29:15SPEAKER_00: and lower my prices,
- 29:17SPEAKER_00: but that means I don't need you.
- 29:20SPEAKER_00: But they keep calling me.
- 29:21SPEAKER_00: They call me,
- 29:21SPEAKER_00: I swear to God,
- 29:22SPEAKER_00: like five times a day over the past couple days,
- 29:24SPEAKER_00: and one day I answered.
- 29:25SPEAKER_00: I was like, I'm aware you guys are here.
- 29:28SPEAKER_00: I know.
- 29:29SPEAKER_00: I'm glad you're here.
- 29:30SPEAKER_00: I'm not signing up with you.
- 29:32SPEAKER_00: But they keep calling me.
- 29:33SPEAKER_00: I don't know what to do.
- 29:34SPEAKER_00: I'm just going to block the number, I guess.
- 29:36SPEAKER_00: Because it's always the same guy.
- 29:37SPEAKER_00: It's always the same number.
- 29:38SPEAKER_00: I'm sure I'm just on his beat.
- 29:40SPEAKER_02: I get nonstop calls for business lending and I'm like,
- 29:43SPEAKER_02: never have I ever applied for business lending.
- 29:47SPEAKER_02: Like, no, thank you.
- 29:48SPEAKER_02: I'm not looking for a business loan.
- 29:51SPEAKER_02: And I also get a lot of calls for,
- 29:54SPEAKER_02: they'll call and be like,
- 29:56SPEAKER_02: oh,
- 29:56SPEAKER_02: are you the owner of Sweet Seas Designs?
- 29:59SPEAKER_02: Do you want to be more prominent on Google?
- 30:02SPEAKER_02: Which obviously, yes.
- 30:03But also it's just the people that are like,
- 30:06we'll do your SEO for local results.
- 30:09SPEAKER_02: And I'm like, I'm not a store.
- 30:10SPEAKER_02: Like, thanks, but go away.
- 30:13SPEAKER_00: Well, you have your ad company who does that.
- 30:18SPEAKER_02: They do not.
- 30:20SPEAKER_02: Your search prominence is up to you.
- 30:23SPEAKER_02: My ad company has tools that I use with it.
- 30:26SPEAKER_02: Not to like go into a commercial for them.
- 30:29Although,
- 30:30if anyone has a website,
- 30:32I can get you in with some really good people.
- 30:36You have to have like,
- 30:38I think they start accepting websites at 30 or 50,000 page
- 30:44views a month.
- 30:45SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
- 30:47SPEAKER_01: That's a lot.
- 30:48SPEAKER_01: La-di-da.
- 30:53Mine is income-based,
- 30:54so they have different tiers of service that you get.
- 30:58SPEAKER_00: Because I assume they get a cut of what you do.
- 31:00SPEAKER_00: Yeah, they get 25%.
- 31:01SPEAKER_02: That's where we can get it.
- 31:04SPEAKER_00: Yep.
- 31:07SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 31:08SPEAKER_02: I mean, you know, I've told you what my site makes.
- 31:11SPEAKER_02: I'm not going to blast it to the internet.
- 31:14SPEAKER_00: You do all right, but you also pay salaries and pay taxes.
- 31:17SPEAKER_00: Yeah,
- 31:17SPEAKER_00: I do okay,
- 31:18SPEAKER_02: but payroll tax can...
- 31:21You are still well within what would be considered a small
- 31:25business category.
- 31:26SPEAKER_02: Oh, yes.
- 31:27SPEAKER_02: Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
- 31:30I do pretty okay for a small business,
- 31:32but I am very much a tiny business.
- 31:35SPEAKER_02: Like,
- 31:36SPEAKER_02: It's very small.
- 31:36And that's – I feel like a lot of people when they talk about
- 31:39like the wealthy businessmen,
- 31:44SPEAKER_00: a lot of the wealthy businessmen people are talking about,
- 31:46SPEAKER_00: a lot of their wealth is in fact contained in a business like yours.
- 31:50And that always bugs me where people are like,
- 31:52oh,
- 31:53your company made X amount last year.
- 31:55SPEAKER_00: You're clearly incredibly loaded.
- 31:56SPEAKER_00: Like, no, that's not how it works.
- 31:58SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 31:59SPEAKER_00: Yes, that person owns that company.
- 32:02SPEAKER_00: Yes, that company made X amount of money.
- 32:05That does not mean that that person who owns that company got X
- 32:07amount of money.
- 32:08That just means that that was the raw amount that the company
- 32:13made before it paid
- 32:14out all the distributions that everyone was paying out and paid
- 32:16for all the various
- 32:17SPEAKER_00: expenses for keeping the business going.
- 32:19It's the same like when you laugh at me when you're like,
- 32:22oh,
- 32:22well,
- 32:22you can just expense it.
- 32:23SPEAKER_02: And I'm like, well, I can just expense it.
- 32:24SPEAKER_02: And that is a great perk of my job.
- 32:26But also when I just expense it,
- 32:29that's money that I can't pay myself or employees.
- 32:33Expensing is one of those things like writing it off where
- 32:36people talk about it,
- 32:37SPEAKER_00: but nobody really knows what it is.
- 32:38SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 32:40it also because I travel a lot I mean travel blogger it's kind
- 32:44of what I do you can
- 32:46only expense like 30% of your travel and the current admin is
- 32:52tightening down on
- 32:53that not because they're trying to squeeze out more but they're
- 32:56like actually
- 32:56SPEAKER_02: following I
- 32:59SPEAKER_02: We are very, very conservative.
- 33:01My team really tries to play by the rules just because it is
- 33:05kind of the Wild West.
- 33:06And there are a lot of people,
- 33:08especially bloggers who do some shady stuff.
- 33:11SPEAKER_02: And we are not a part of that.
- 33:13SPEAKER_02: But like I know millionaire bloggers.
- 33:17SPEAKER_02: I mean,
- 33:18SPEAKER_02: their blogs make six to eight million dollars a year who took,
- 33:24SPEAKER_02: you know,
- 33:24SPEAKER_02: a couple hundred thousand dollar PPP loans.
- 33:29why i i don't know why covid was like the best time for us any
- 33:34i know a lot of
- 33:35people took money that shouldn't have and i don't know that any
- 33:40of them are ever
- 33:40going to be looked into i think that's super unfortunate that
- 33:43we're not calling
- 33:44back stuff like that but um no there's a lot of really shady
- 33:49stuff out there i'm on
- 33:51the one hand despite being a fairly fairly orthodox
- 33:54conservative on many front
- 33:56SPEAKER_00: certainly no i'm kidding
- 34:00SPEAKER_00: I think I actually,
- 34:02SPEAKER_00: in spirit,
- 34:03approved the PPP loans simply because the government tells you
- 34:08you can't operate
- 34:08SPEAKER_00: your business.
- 34:10SPEAKER_00: I think it's fair for you to be made whole in some way.
- 34:14But yeah,
- 34:14at the same time,
- 34:15it was so massively manipulated and taken advantage of.
- 34:19SPEAKER_02: PPP was great for retail stores.
- 34:23SPEAKER_02: It was very much needed for retail stores.
- 34:26SPEAKER_02: But restaurants weren't PPP.
- 34:27SPEAKER_02: That was a different plan.
- 34:29SPEAKER_02: Restaurants were really the ones that needed it the most,
- 34:32SPEAKER_02: but they had a completely different plan.
- 34:34It's retail stores that relied on foot traffic that I think PPP
- 34:38was absolutely appropriate for.
- 34:40SPEAKER_02: For online recipe blogs...
- 34:44no i mean even a travel blog okay great you can't travel
- 34:47anymore the government
- 34:48took away your livelihood i think that's wholly appropriate if
- 34:52you are sharing how
- 34:53to cook you know scrambled eggs everybody was cooking everybody
- 34:58was everybody was
- 35:00baking they were like a sourdough sales went off the chart i
- 35:04have a friend who's a
- 35:05SPEAKER_02: sourdough blogger who took ppb money and i'm like are you kidding me
- 35:10SPEAKER_02: And now they're all complaining when their traffic is down.
- 35:13And I'm like,
- 35:14well,
- 35:14I actually lost traffic during COVID and I didn't take any of
- 35:18that money.
- 35:18SPEAKER_02: I don't know.
- 35:19That just sends me down a whole bitchy route that I don't need
- 35:22to go because it's
- 35:23SPEAKER_02: Easter week and I should be good.
- 35:25SPEAKER_00: Well, that's like, what's it?
- 35:26SPEAKER_00: Ayn Rand gets dinged a lot because she took...
- 35:33because she what are you doing another freaking spam call I'm
- 35:38not even getting this
- 35:39quickly together Ayn Rand gets dinged a lot because she took
- 35:43when she was old like
- 35:44I think she went on welfare government she took government
- 35:47money in some way but
- 35:49that was her you know what she should have taken an editor
- 35:52because those books were
- 35:55SPEAKER_02: far far too wordy we don't need a like 50 page soliloquy but thanks
- 36:00SPEAKER_00: You don't need it.
- 36:01SPEAKER_00: You know, you read all the John Galt speech.
- 36:03SPEAKER_00: Every single word of it.
- 36:04SPEAKER_02: Of course I did.
- 36:06SPEAKER_00: I didn't.
- 36:06SPEAKER_00: I skimmed it.
- 36:07SPEAKER_00: I didn't need it.
- 36:08SPEAKER_02: Well, I got it.
- 36:09SPEAKER_00: I got the gist.
- 36:10SPEAKER_02: I mean, I got the gist, but I still read it because I was supposed to.
- 36:14SPEAKER_02: And I was, yeah, twice even.
- 36:17SPEAKER_02: And I was like, oh my God, it's so much worse the second time.
- 36:21But her argument was that you'll see this argument made a lot
- 36:25by people on all
- 36:27SPEAKER_00: sides of the political spectrum about many things.
- 36:30SPEAKER_00: It isn't immoral to take the thing that is offered.
- 36:33SPEAKER_00: It isn't your responsibility to...
- 36:37SPEAKER_00: Even if you're philosophically against the thing,
- 36:39it isn't your responsibility to put yourself at a disadvantage
- 36:42to others by
- 36:43SPEAKER_00: standing on principle and not taking it.
- 36:45SPEAKER_00: I don't necessarily agree with that.
- 36:47SPEAKER_00: That is an argument that is made about things like BPP loan.
- 36:50SPEAKER_02: There's a lot of Ayn Rand's ethics that I don't necessarily agree with.
- 36:54SPEAKER_02: I...
- 36:54SPEAKER_02: I'm not knocking her.
- 36:55SPEAKER_02: Look, I've read all of her works a million times.
- 36:58SPEAKER_02: I'm not saying that.
- 36:58SPEAKER_00: My wife hates her.
- 36:59SPEAKER_02: My wife despises Ayn Rand.
- 37:01SPEAKER_02: Oh, Luke does too.
- 37:02SPEAKER_02: I am kind of neutral.
- 37:04SPEAKER_02: There's a lot I despise,
- 37:06SPEAKER_02: her ethics being one,
- 37:09SPEAKER_02: and some of her ideas that I actually really like.
- 37:12SPEAKER_02: But yeah, she needed an editor so bad.
- 37:14SPEAKER_00: No,
- 37:15SPEAKER_00: I was like,
- 37:16SPEAKER_00: I remember discussing,
- 37:17SPEAKER_00: my mother had encouraged,
- 37:18SPEAKER_00: I read Ayn Rand,
- 37:19SPEAKER_00: I think I read Atlas Shrugged.
- 37:20SPEAKER_00: It was the first Ayn Rand book I read because my mother recommended it.
- 37:24SPEAKER_00: Because she said she liked it a lot when she was a teenager.
- 37:25SPEAKER_00: Fountainhead is so much better.
- 37:27SPEAKER_00: It's more concise.
- 37:30SPEAKER_02: I mean, I like Atlas.
- 37:31SPEAKER_02: Atlas Shrug is a better story.
- 37:34SPEAKER_02: But girl needed to nail that down.
- 37:37SPEAKER_02: She could have easily cut 400 pages.
- 37:41The Fountainhead is better when you don't know it's about Frank
- 37:45Lloyd Wright and
- 37:46SPEAKER_00: don't know how insane Frank Lloyd Wright was as a person.
- 37:51SPEAKER_00: That's the problem with the Fountainhead.
- 37:53SPEAKER_00: Sure, he made some good architecture.
- 37:56He also made a lot of not very good architecture that we don't
- 37:58really talk about much.
- 38:00And he made things like falling water that literally only
- 38:03managed to stand up
- 38:04SPEAKER_00: because his engineers ignored him and put in shoring.
- 38:09SPEAKER_00: He specifically told them not to because it would ruin the flow.
- 38:13SPEAKER_00: And that's why it hasn't fallen over.
- 38:16SPEAKER_00: But anyway...
- 38:21I like that I tried to transition our conversation earlier by
- 38:24saying I was trying
- 38:24SPEAKER_02: to be good during Easter week and you just blew right back.
- 38:28SPEAKER_02: We'll get there.
- 38:29SPEAKER_02: I'm happy to talk about Ayn Rand.
- 38:30SPEAKER_02: That's fine.
- 38:31SPEAKER_02: I just want to acknowledge that I am the worst at these transitions.
- 38:37SPEAKER_02: And part of it is because you just completely ignore me.
- 38:40SPEAKER_02: That's fine.
- 38:42SPEAKER_00: But I want it because my mother,
- 38:44who recommended I read Atlas Shrugged because she had read it
- 38:47when she was young,
- 38:48SPEAKER_00: who was a huge...
- 38:49SPEAKER_00: I don't even know why she liked it.
- 38:50SPEAKER_00: She was a massive liberal when she was in high school.
- 38:52SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
- 38:52SPEAKER_00: She was a member of the Students for a Democratic Society.
- 38:56SPEAKER_00: Horseshoe Theory.
- 38:59SPEAKER_02: Libertarians.
- 39:00SPEAKER_00: I mean...
- 39:01SPEAKER_00: But,
- 39:02SPEAKER_00: so,
- 39:03SPEAKER_00: and then after I finished it,
- 39:05SPEAKER_00: I was talking to her,
- 39:05SPEAKER_00: and she was like,
- 39:05SPEAKER_00: yeah,
- 39:06SPEAKER_00: I really liked Diane Rand when I was younger,
- 39:07SPEAKER_00: but then I got older and I realized,
- 39:09SPEAKER_00: you notice how none of the characters have,
- 39:11SPEAKER_00: her,
- 39:11SPEAKER_00: like,
- 39:11SPEAKER_00: heroes have kids?
- 39:13SPEAKER_00: Mm-hmm.
- 39:14SPEAKER_02: That's a good point.
- 39:17SPEAKER_02: Luke's biggest objection is just,
- 39:20SPEAKER_02: the complete devoid of spirituality.
- 39:24SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 39:27SPEAKER_00: It's all about uber mensch,
- 39:29SPEAKER_00: doing uber mensch things without ever,
- 39:33SPEAKER_00: again,
- 39:33SPEAKER_00: without having children.
- 39:34SPEAKER_00: Because a child is by definition a taker.
- 39:38SPEAKER_00: They have to be.
- 39:38SPEAKER_00: They're not capable of production.
- 39:41SPEAKER_00: And to support families.
- 39:43SPEAKER_00: You can put them to work in the mines.
- 39:46But even then,
- 39:46there's a period where they're not good for mine work either.
- 39:50To support families and children,
- 39:52you can't be super libertarian and ideal.
- 39:56SPEAKER_02: It just doesn't work.
- 39:57SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 40:01SPEAKER_02: We've thought about maternity leave in the past, but that's one example.
- 40:06SPEAKER_02: When you are advocating for families and children,
- 40:10SPEAKER_02: and frankly,
- 40:11SPEAKER_02: a lot of religious issues,
- 40:15SPEAKER_02: libertarianism,
- 40:18SPEAKER_02: Sorry, I'm allergic to the tree in front of my house.
- 40:20SPEAKER_02: I like that you laugh every time I cough or sneeze, which is a lot.
- 40:25SPEAKER_02: Wait,
- 40:26I took my daughter to the allergy doctor this week and there's
- 40:31these giant cherry
- 40:32trees out in front and she has to walk through and she was like
- 40:35sneezing and her
- 40:36SPEAKER_02: eyes are burning and she's like,
- 40:37I find it ironic that your trees out front are blooming and I'm
- 40:41allergic to them.
- 40:42SPEAKER_02: I was like, it's job security.
- 40:45SPEAKER_00: It's reminding you why you're there.
- 40:47SPEAKER_00: Good job.
- 40:48SPEAKER_00: You're going to mark it.
- 40:52SPEAKER_02: I don't know how to on the desktop app.
- 40:56SPEAKER_02: Everyone gets to hear this.
- 40:58SPEAKER_00: You referenced unchristianity earlier.
- 41:00SPEAKER_00: That is a term.
- 41:04SPEAKER_00: No, I just want to say with that, Easter is coming up.
- 41:06SPEAKER_00: Speaking of Christianity.
- 41:07SPEAKER_02: Do we want to save this for another episode?
- 41:11SPEAKER_02: No, we got to talk about Easter.
- 41:13SPEAKER_02: We're right before.
- 41:14SPEAKER_02: We can do two episodes this week.
- 41:17SPEAKER_02: That's true.
- 41:18SPEAKER_02: I say that, but it's not going to happen.
- 41:20SPEAKER_02: So let's just talk about it now.
- 41:23SPEAKER_02: Let's just talk about it now.
- 41:26SPEAKER_00: Easter is coming up.
- 41:27SPEAKER_00: It is in a couple days.
- 41:30SPEAKER_00: Are you looking forward to Easter?
- 41:31SPEAKER_00: For some people.
- 41:33SPEAKER_00: No, it's Easter.
- 41:36SPEAKER_00: Named after the goddess Esther.
- 41:38SPEAKER_02: It is actually Posca as well this year.
- 41:41It is one of the random years every couple years that the
- 41:47Orthodox celebrate with
- 41:49SPEAKER_02: everyone else because this year we are aligned.
- 41:52SPEAKER_02: Next year, I will be a week late.
- 41:54SPEAKER_02: Then I will be two weeks late.
- 41:56SPEAKER_02: Then I think it goes two weeks late for two years.
- 42:01SPEAKER_02: And then it's a month late.
- 42:04SPEAKER_00: This is just needlessly confusing.
- 42:07SPEAKER_00: Needlessly confusing.
- 42:08SPEAKER_02: Yes,
- 42:09but we go by the same calculation that they have and always
- 42:16have because Orthodox
- 42:18SPEAKER_02: are traditionalists.
- 42:19So we also think it's really hard to have Pascha before
- 42:25Passover occurs because the
- 42:29SPEAKER_02: last supper was Seder dinner for Passover.
- 42:34SPEAKER_02: we celebrate the resurrection before it's symbolic.
- 42:39SPEAKER_00: I, I understand.
- 42:40SPEAKER_00: It's symbolic for God's sake.
- 42:42SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 42:43So my little Protestant heart with all the Catholic stuff that
- 42:46it takes super seriously,
- 42:47SPEAKER_00: I'm just like,
- 42:48SPEAKER_00: it's symbolic.
- 42:49SPEAKER_00: It would just go nuts in orthodoxy.
- 42:54SPEAKER_00: I'm taking a whole other step of sanity.
- 42:58SPEAKER_00: No, we really do.
- 42:59SPEAKER_00: Just accept the symbolic thing.
- 43:02SPEAKER_00: It's not literally.
- 43:03SPEAKER_00: Jesus wasn't literally born on Christmas Day, for God's sake.
- 43:09SPEAKER_02: Actually, that is a great point.
- 43:10SPEAKER_02: That's why we fix...
- 43:13SPEAKER_02: So people say,
- 43:13SPEAKER_02: like,
- 43:14why did why do Greek Orthodox or Western Orthodox fix the
- 43:19calendar date for
- 43:20SPEAKER_02: December 25th?
- 43:21SPEAKER_02: Well, we know Jesus wasn't born in probably even in December.
- 43:26SPEAKER_02: We know that we know that that's not a set date.
- 43:30So we just set it wherever so we can all celebrate together
- 43:34because we don't have
- 43:35SPEAKER_02: any calculation for when it is because we can't say and because it wasn't
- 43:39SPEAKER_02: traditionally celebrated.
- 43:42SPEAKER_02: We just nail a date down and call it good.
- 43:44SPEAKER_02: However, with Posca, we do have a calculation for it.
- 43:48We do have the way that it was calculated every other time so
- 43:53we can nail the date down.
- 43:54SPEAKER_02: So that's why they stick to it.
- 43:56SPEAKER_00: It's just symbolic, man.
- 43:58SPEAKER_00: It's not symbolic.
- 43:59SPEAKER_00: It's symbolic.
- 44:00SPEAKER_02: If you have a way to find it,
- 44:02SPEAKER_02: why would you stick to that and not just...
- 44:05SPEAKER_02: Because it's just symbolic.
- 44:09SPEAKER_00: You're getting all caught up in details, dude.
- 44:12SPEAKER_02: That is literally the point of the Orthodox Church.
- 44:17SPEAKER_02: That is literally why we do everything we do.
- 44:21So much of it is still the how many angels could dance on the
- 44:24head of a pin,
- 44:25SPEAKER_00: which everyone jokes about,
- 44:26SPEAKER_00: but was in fact a very important theological discussion that went on.
- 44:31I can't remember why,
- 44:33but I'm aware that it actually had important implications.
- 44:36SPEAKER_00: I mean,
- 44:38our obsession with being the traditional church also has a lot
- 44:43of implications,
- 44:44SPEAKER_02: but that is why we do it.
- 44:46SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 44:47SPEAKER_00: Well, I think it's silly.
- 44:50SPEAKER_02: Well, you know, that's why you're not Orthodox.
- 44:53SPEAKER_02: I would say the same, but I am trying to be nice.
- 44:59SPEAKER_02: I never try to be nice.
- 45:03SPEAKER_02: Do you guys do like a lot of services and stuff during the week?
- 45:07SPEAKER_02: Because I basically am living at church at this point and
- 45:11SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's... So, my wife... So, again, my wife is Catholic.
- 45:17SPEAKER_00: I'm not Catholic.
- 45:18SPEAKER_00: Your wife is a true believer.
- 45:22SPEAKER_00: Yes.
- 45:22SPEAKER_00: Which I appreciate.
- 45:23SPEAKER_00: There are many things I appreciate about the Catholic Church.
- 45:25SPEAKER_00: And I think I've told you before.
- 45:26SPEAKER_00: A sign of my...
- 45:30SPEAKER_00: Respect for the Catholic Church,
- 45:31SPEAKER_00: the fact that I haven't,
- 45:32SPEAKER_00: because it would be easier if I just converted,
- 45:34but I actually respect the Catholics and their beliefs enough
- 45:38to accept that I'm
- 45:40SPEAKER_00: not going to agree with all of their stances.
- 45:45SPEAKER_00: It's a prick's fix.
- 45:46SPEAKER_00: With the Catholic Church, it's not a choose menu.
- 45:51SPEAKER_00: You agree with the bill or you don't.
- 45:53So I respect them enough that I do not convert because I don't
- 45:57agree with everything,
- 45:58SPEAKER_00: which makes me definitional.
- 45:59SPEAKER_00: They're Protestant.
- 46:00um but uh so i i go to mass with my wife um but i i don't go i
- 46:06don't do the holy
- 46:07days of obligation so but apparently good friday isn't actually
- 46:11holy day of
- 46:11obligation in the roman catholic church which is my wife will
- 46:14go off about how
- 46:16bizarre it is that it's not tonight is for us because um
- 46:21tonight is when we do
- 46:22anointing so we have holy unction tonight where you're anointed
- 46:26um and with the
- 46:28SPEAKER_02: chrism
- 46:29SPEAKER_02: It is a sacrament.
- 46:30SPEAKER_02: So tonight is a big deal.
- 46:32SPEAKER_02: Um, I don't go to the lamentation service, which is on Thursday.
- 46:37SPEAKER_02: Those are like four hours long and it's just too much.
- 46:40SPEAKER_02: Um,
- 46:41SPEAKER_02: But then basically all of Friday, we will be there.
- 46:45SPEAKER_02: The Orthodox, we perform a funeral.
- 46:50We have like a little wooden Jesus that we descend from the
- 46:53cross and put in the tomb.
- 46:54SPEAKER_00: So you do understand symbolism.
- 46:57Literally the entire,
- 47:00again,
- 47:01our entire church is based on tradition and symbolism.
- 47:05SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 47:06um we have a tomb that the men carry through the neighborhood
- 47:10and we're like
- 47:11holding candles through the neighborhood this year the bishop
- 47:14will be with our
- 47:14church for it i'll send you some videos it's actually really
- 47:17fascinating singing
- 47:18greek it is a funeral that we march through the neighborhood
- 47:22everyone thinks we are
- 47:24completely insane because we're singing in greeks they're like
- 47:27what kind of weird
- 47:28SPEAKER_02: voodoo is happening and um it's it's very interesting we
- 47:33hold the um they hold the tomb up in front of the entrance to
- 47:39the church and you
- 47:40have to like go down under it because it's to signify like
- 47:44jesus going through and
- 47:46then descending it's we're very very much into symbolism then
- 47:51saturday morning we
- 47:52have um a service where you do the it's my favorite service of
- 47:58the year when our
- 47:59SPEAKER_02: priest throws the bay leaves and
- 48:01SPEAKER_02: It's a beautiful service.
- 48:03SPEAKER_02: Then we have baptisms.
- 48:07SPEAKER_02: Holy Saturday is a huge day in the Orthodox Church to get baptized.
- 48:13SPEAKER_02: My husband and I are going to be baptizing four boys,
- 48:18SPEAKER_02: our friends,
- 48:19SPEAKER_02: four boys who are going to be our godsons.
- 48:22SPEAKER_02: Then my kids have a dress rehearsal for their play,
- 48:25SPEAKER_02: which is not church related,
- 48:27SPEAKER_02: but it's going to take up a bunch of time.
- 48:30SPEAKER_02: We will get home at like 830 at night,
- 48:32SPEAKER_02: and then we need to leave at 1130 to be there for our midnight services.
- 48:37SPEAKER_02: So our services start at 1130.
- 48:39SPEAKER_02: We do liturgy.
- 48:41SPEAKER_02: We end.
- 48:42SPEAKER_02: It's Orthodox liturgy for Pascha.
- 48:46SPEAKER_02: It's just the most beautiful service of the whole year.
- 48:49SPEAKER_02: We turn off all the lights.
- 48:50SPEAKER_02: We bring forth the fire.
- 48:52SPEAKER_02: I don't know if you've seen the holy fire at the sepulchre.
- 48:57in jerusalem every year you see the syrians like with the big
- 49:00bundles of candles
- 49:02it's the most amazing thing you bring forth the light we
- 49:06orthodox gather in
- 49:08jerusalem to bring the light forward from the tomb and then if
- 49:12you're in europe
- 49:13you're usually get that light we don't but we bring forth light
- 49:17from an oil that
- 49:18SPEAKER_02: we've kept going forever in our church and
- 49:21SPEAKER_02: And it spreads throughout the church.
- 49:23SPEAKER_02: It's really beautiful.
- 49:24SPEAKER_02: We sing outside at like two in the morning.
- 49:27SPEAKER_02: And then at the end of the service,
- 49:30SPEAKER_02: because we've been fasting this whole time from meat and dairy,
- 49:34SPEAKER_02: at like three in the morning,
- 49:35SPEAKER_02: we have a huge party in our fellowship hall and we eat meat.
- 49:39SPEAKER_02: And
- 49:40hang out like people bring a barco hams bring like bottles of
- 49:44wine my georgian
- 49:45friend brings his homemade cha-cha and we just you know get
- 49:50loaded at like three in
- 49:51the morning and eat a bunch of meat it's great there was a time
- 49:56when eating a bunch
- 49:57of stuff and drinking with people at three o'clock in the
- 49:59morning was like kind of
- 50:00SPEAKER_00: like great plan to me that time was many years ago
- 50:03SPEAKER_00: I have no interest in doing that.
- 50:06SPEAKER_02: It's actually really fun every year.
- 50:09SPEAKER_00: It's one of my favorite parts of pasta.
- 50:12SPEAKER_00: Only things you regret later happen at 3 o'clock in the morning.
- 50:16SPEAKER_02: Not in this context, because we've just celebrated.
- 50:19Although I do have friends whose church,
- 50:22you know,
- 50:23they get a little unruly with some of those.
- 50:25SPEAKER_02: But...
- 50:29SPEAKER_00: The priests at our church,
- 50:32SPEAKER_00: this is a frequent thing,
- 50:35SPEAKER_00: I've heard this before,
- 50:36SPEAKER_00: he was complaining that people don't come to the Easter Vigil Mass.
- 50:40SPEAKER_00: because the Eastern Middle Mass is at night.
- 50:42SPEAKER_00: It's late.
- 50:43SPEAKER_00: Oh, no.
- 50:44SPEAKER_02: We will have 500 people.
- 50:45SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm talking about Romans.
- 50:47SPEAKER_02: Our church holds 300 people.
- 50:50SPEAKER_02: We had 440 for Palm Sunday.
- 50:53SPEAKER_00: I am talking about Roman Catholics who are much more convenient.
- 50:57SPEAKER_02: I used to be Roman Catholic, too, and then I started...
- 51:01SPEAKER_00: Our priest said,
- 51:03SPEAKER_00: you know,
- 51:03SPEAKER_00: this is actually the most important,
- 51:05SPEAKER_00: the Easter Vigil is the most important mass of the year.
- 51:08SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 51:10SPEAKER_00: People don't, we're not going to that.
- 51:15SPEAKER_02: They're the most beautiful.
- 51:16SPEAKER_02: They're so, I mean, my kids even like it.
- 51:19SPEAKER_02: And especially my daughter.
- 51:21SPEAKER_02: My daughter is like, it is 930.
- 51:22SPEAKER_02: I want to be asleep.
- 51:23SPEAKER_02: She's an old granny when it comes to sleep.
- 51:26SPEAKER_02: And she cannot wait for this.
- 51:28SPEAKER_00: I'm not staying up that late.
- 51:30SPEAKER_02: We also, we don't do Easter baskets.
- 51:33SPEAKER_02: We didn't do Easter Bunny with our kids.
- 51:37SPEAKER_02: But every year, we bring our baskets to the Paschal service.
- 51:44SPEAKER_02: And we have, like, we'll have pepperoni sticks and cheese.
- 51:47SPEAKER_02: And my daughter last year had a giant thing of cheese balls.
- 51:50SPEAKER_02: It was hilarious.
- 51:51SPEAKER_02: We had it, like, up front.
- 51:52SPEAKER_02: We had it on the Salaya, like, to be blessed and...
- 51:56SPEAKER_02: She had a giant thing of cheese balls.
- 51:58SPEAKER_02: But we break the fast from all the foods that we haven't eaten forever.
- 52:03SPEAKER_02: At 3 o'clock in the morning.
- 52:05SPEAKER_02: But we have them in our Easter baskets.
- 52:07SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it's great.
- 52:09SPEAKER_02: It's so much fun.
- 52:11SPEAKER_02: I can't wait to share videos from this year's.
- 52:12SPEAKER_02: It'll be fun.
- 52:13SPEAKER_02: It'll be way too many people, though.
- 52:15SPEAKER_00: Speaking of...
- 52:17SPEAKER_00: Easter baskets, however, I want to say.
- 52:20So,
- 52:21I am very excited right now because I think I told you about this,
- 52:26but I'll say it again.
- 52:28SPEAKER_00: There is a chocolate company outside of Pittsburgh in Cannonsburg,
- 52:33SPEAKER_00: PA called Saris Candy that makes fantastic chocolate.
- 52:38SPEAKER_00: And I've never seen them outside the greater Pittsburgh area before.
- 52:41SPEAKER_00: But this year, I walked into Kroger the other day and they had...
- 52:47SPEAKER_00: They had their chocolate melt-away eggs.
- 52:50SPEAKER_00: I was so excited.
- 52:51SPEAKER_00: I sent my wife a picture.
- 52:52SPEAKER_00: I was like, oh, this is great.
- 52:53SPEAKER_00: My wife loves this.
- 52:55SPEAKER_00: She grew up on Sarah's.
- 52:56SPEAKER_00: She loves Sarah's.
- 52:57SPEAKER_00: I got a couple of those for the girls.
- 52:59SPEAKER_00: They'll be very excited about it.
- 53:01Did you get extra for your wife like your friend told you to do
- 53:04because she loved them?
- 53:06I'm playing the long game because I bet after Easter they go on
- 53:08clearance and then
- 53:09SPEAKER_00: I'll get her a couple.
- 53:10SPEAKER_02: Okay, but what if they clear out and she doesn't get it?
- 53:12SPEAKER_02: And you'll be like, dang, I should have bought some for my wife.
- 53:15SPEAKER_00: My hope is S-A-R-R-I-S, not Sarah's.
- 53:20SPEAKER_00: I want to make that clear.
- 53:23My hope is,
- 53:24though,
- 53:24that they sell enough that the next year they bring in their
- 53:26jelly beans.
- 53:27SPEAKER_00: Because Sarah says fantastic jelly beans that they sell.
- 53:30SPEAKER_00: So hopefully I can get a hold of those here as well.
- 53:32SPEAKER_02: I'm a Starburst jelly bean evangelist.
- 53:36SPEAKER_00: Sarah's Jellywind are legit.
- 53:39SPEAKER_00: One of these days, you and me will go to Pittsburgh.
- 53:41SPEAKER_00: I'll show you around Pittsburgh.
- 53:42SPEAKER_02: I've never been to Pittsburgh.
- 53:44I mean,
- 53:44I've driven through Pittsburgh,
- 53:46but I've never been to Pittsburgh.
- 53:48SPEAKER_00: Pittsburgh's a great town.
- 53:49SPEAKER_00: I actually like Pittsburgh.
- 53:51SPEAKER_00: I would live in Pittsburgh.
- 53:53I've never lived in Pittsburgh,
- 53:55but I actually enjoy Pittsburgh quite a lot.
- 53:58It's a nice kind of working class aesthetic to it still that I appreciate.
- 54:03SPEAKER_02: I spend a lot of time in Philly, but... Oh, God.
- 54:07SPEAKER_00: No.
- 54:08SPEAKER_02: I wasn't saying anything positive.
- 54:10SPEAKER_02: I just said I had been there.
- 54:12That's the wrong side of the state you find yourself on if
- 54:15you're in Philly.
- 54:16SPEAKER_02: No, but I live in Baltimore, so it's so close.
- 54:20SPEAKER_00: Possibly worse than Philadelphia.
- 54:22SPEAKER_00: It's a tight race, Baltimore and Philly.
- 54:25SPEAKER_02: I weirdly like Baltimore.
- 54:26SPEAKER_02: Well, parts.
- 54:27SPEAKER_02: Parts.
- 54:29SPEAKER_00: Parts in Baltimore or not...
- 54:31SPEAKER_00: Down by the river or whatever, where they've cleaned up in Baltimore.
- 54:34SPEAKER_00: I'm sure it was lovely.
- 54:35SPEAKER_00: The harbor.
- 54:36SPEAKER_00: Yeah, the harbor.
- 54:37SPEAKER_00: Where the Orioles Stadium is.
- 54:40SPEAKER_02: What is the name of the Orioles Stadium?
- 54:42SPEAKER_00: I actually should know this.
- 54:45SPEAKER_02: No, you really should know this.
- 54:46SPEAKER_02: Because this is history, too.
- 54:49SPEAKER_00: I can't remember what the name of it is.
- 54:50SPEAKER_02: It's Camden.
- 54:52SPEAKER_02: Camden Yards.
- 54:52SPEAKER_00: Yeah, Camden Yards.
- 54:56I think Camden Yards was the first of the new generation of
- 55:01stadiums that was built,
- 55:02SPEAKER_00: as I recall.
- 55:02SPEAKER_00: PNC Park in Pittsburgh was, I think, the second.
- 55:05It wasn't modeled after Camden Yards,
- 55:09but it was inspired by that type of design,
- 55:13I believe.
- 55:14SPEAKER_02: So you got the chocolate.
- 55:15SPEAKER_02: Do you have everything else for your kids?
- 55:17SPEAKER_02: Do you guys do big Easter baskets?
- 55:19SPEAKER_00: Not really.
- 55:20SPEAKER_00: They did a Girl Scout chocolate nut sale thing,
- 55:26and I'm pretty sure my in-laws bought some stuff from that for
- 55:34us to give to them
- 55:35SPEAKER_00: on Easter.
- 55:35SPEAKER_00: So I assume that'll be in there.
- 55:37SPEAKER_00: We...
- 55:40SPEAKER_00: We didn't do Santa or the Easter Bunny with our kids.
- 55:44SPEAKER_02: We just didn't either.
- 55:46SPEAKER_00: We didn't not do it, though.
- 55:49SPEAKER_00: They would ask us questions.
- 55:51They acquired from their classmates and from people they knew
- 55:54that there were these
- 55:55SPEAKER_00: things called Santa and the Easter Bunny.
- 55:58SPEAKER_00: And they would discuss them with us.
- 56:00SPEAKER_00: When they would ask me questions about, is the Easter Bunny coming?
- 56:05SPEAKER_00: I'd say, that's what they say.
- 56:06SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
- 56:08With anything to do with Santa or the Easter,
- 56:11I would never affirm that it was true.
- 56:14SPEAKER_00: I would always say, that's what I hear.
- 56:16We always did it with,
- 56:18like we did it with my kids,
- 56:19but they knew the entire time.
- 56:21So I would fill their stockings and I'd be like,
- 56:23ooh,
- 56:23what did Santa get you?
- 56:24SPEAKER_02: But they were in on it.
- 56:26And like they would help put out the cookies,
- 56:28but then they would make the bite marks.
- 56:30And it was honestly just as fun and just as magical having them
- 56:34be in on it.
- 56:35SPEAKER_02: It was like, I don't know, it was a lot better.
- 56:38SPEAKER_02: But one of the reasons I did that is because of my Easter Bunny story.
- 56:44SPEAKER_02: I don't know that I've ever told you this.
- 56:46SPEAKER_02: I had a horrific Easter one year and I just was scarred forever.
- 56:53Like I hated Easter until I became Orthodox because what did
- 56:57the Easter bunny do to you?
- 56:59SPEAKER_02: Well, okay.
- 57:00SPEAKER_02: So set the stage.
- 57:02SPEAKER_02: I live in Southern California.
- 57:03SPEAKER_02: We were in the Valley at this point.
- 57:05SPEAKER_02: We lived in a house that we were at the end of our cul-de-sac and
- 57:10SPEAKER_02: And there was like a fence down to a farm.
- 57:13SPEAKER_02: So we would have coyotes all the time.
- 57:16SPEAKER_02: Well, one Easter, it was like the day before Easter.
- 57:19I open up the front door because we would get these hot air
- 57:23balloons all the time
- 57:24that looked like they were taking off from down the hill right
- 57:27by our house.
- 57:28SPEAKER_02: So I'd walk out the front door and it was like right there.
- 57:30SPEAKER_02: And as a little kid, that's really cool.
- 57:33SPEAKER_02: So I'm walking out and on our front doorstep was a bunny's head.
- 57:41SPEAKER_02: Coyote dropped it off.
- 57:42SPEAKER_02: Coyote dropped it off.
- 57:44SPEAKER_02: And I'm looking straight at it and I'm like, oh, it's Easter Bunny.
- 57:48SPEAKER_02: So I'm super traumatized, right?
- 57:51And it's like whatever day later that the Easter Bunny is
- 57:56supposed to come.
- 57:57SPEAKER_02: Well,
- 57:58SPEAKER_02: the girl down the street,
- 57:59SPEAKER_02: and I still know her name,
- 58:00SPEAKER_02: but I won't say it so I don't have to bleep it,
- 58:03SPEAKER_02: got like a Nintendo and all this great stuff.
- 58:06SPEAKER_02: For Easter?
- 58:07SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 58:08SPEAKER_02: Okay.
- 58:08SPEAKER_01: Wow.
- 58:09No,
- 58:09her parents weren't divorced yet at that stage,
- 58:12but it was reading like divorced parents.
- 58:14SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 58:15SPEAKER_02: So my mom got these beautiful C's eggs that she my mom's a painter.
- 58:20So she like piped out our names on the eggs and like took
- 58:24chocolate and painted with them.
- 58:25SPEAKER_02: And they were like beautiful hand like decorated eggs.
- 58:30SPEAKER_02: And I was like, how come she got a Nintendo and blah, blah, blah.
- 58:35SPEAKER_02: I was like, does the Easter bunny not love me?
- 58:37And my mom looks at me and goes,
- 58:40because I'm the Easter bunny,
- 58:42you little shit.
- 58:42SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 58:45SPEAKER_02: And I locked myself in the bathroom.
- 58:47SPEAKER_02: And I'm like bawling, crying all day.
- 58:49SPEAKER_02: And then I start to have these revelations.
- 58:53SPEAKER_02: And I'm like, what about Santa?
- 58:55SPEAKER_02: And she's like, yep.
- 58:57SPEAKER_02: And I'm like, the two things.
- 58:59SPEAKER_02: It was sad.
- 59:00so dramatic i just like i was hysterical locked myself in the
- 59:06bathroom all day just
- 59:08screaming crying because one i thought the easter bunny was
- 59:11murdered and left on
- 59:12our front step two days before and then i found out about it
- 59:16and it was just awful
- 59:18this this may be controversial i'm with your mom on this you
- 59:21you deserved that you
- 59:23SPEAKER_00: had that coming 100 percent
- 59:29SPEAKER_00: Oh!
- 59:29SPEAKER_00: She gets these thoughtful gifts.
- 59:32SPEAKER_00: She thinks you're like, you didn't get a Nintendo?
- 59:35SPEAKER_00: No, no, no.
- 59:37SPEAKER_00: You 100% needed that.
- 59:39SPEAKER_00: You needed to be smacked down.
- 59:40SPEAKER_00: You were uppity.
- 59:43SPEAKER_02: That is part of why we didn't do them with my kids,
- 59:46SPEAKER_02: because I was like,
- 59:46SPEAKER_02: you need to know that I'm always the one doing this for you.
- 59:51SPEAKER_00: My mother never told,
- 59:52SPEAKER_00: she specifically told me that there,
- 59:55SPEAKER_00: I was that,
- 59:56this may not surprise you to hear I was that kid who when I
- 59:59encountered other kids
- 1:00:00SPEAKER_00: around Christmas would be like,
- 1:00:01SPEAKER_00: you know,
- 1:00:01SPEAKER_00: there's no Santa Claus,
- 1:00:02SPEAKER_00: right?
- 1:00:05SPEAKER_02: My kids totally kept it up for their friends and loved it.
- 1:00:09SPEAKER_02: And like, honestly, they thought it was so fun being in on it.
- 1:00:13SPEAKER_02: And I'm really glad we did it that way.
- 1:00:16My mother always swore that she didn't do it because she always
- 1:00:19said she knew that
- 1:00:20she had some friend who whose son had never forgiven her for
- 1:00:24when he found out
- 1:00:25SPEAKER_00: about there was no Santa Claus for lying to him.
- 1:00:28I don't know if you just heard the story that I told,
- 1:00:31but I still have a little drama from it.
- 1:00:34SPEAKER_00: Hashtag team mom.
- 1:00:35SPEAKER_00: You had it coming.
- 1:00:36SPEAKER_00: That was good.
- 1:00:37SPEAKER_02: Lord.
- 1:00:40SPEAKER_02: I mean, how was I to know?
- 1:00:41SPEAKER_02: I was like, dude, the Easter bunny spent like a grand on this girl.
- 1:00:47SPEAKER_00: Well, also, the Easter Bunny was getting ready to get divorced.
- 1:00:53I have also always been self-deprecating because I was like,
- 1:00:57what did I do wrong?
- 1:00:58SPEAKER_02: Oh,
- 1:01:03SPEAKER_00: I don't think I've ever gotten or given,
- 1:01:05SPEAKER_00: other than chocolate,
- 1:01:06SPEAKER_00: I don't think I've ever gotten or given a gift for Easter.
- 1:01:09SPEAKER_00: I don't think of Easter as being a gift-bearing holiday.
- 1:01:12SPEAKER_02: Well, this year I did... Well, actually, I always do for my godkids.
- 1:01:16SPEAKER_02: So yesterday I spent a friggin' fortune on my...
- 1:01:20i have i'll have five um but then i have an extra kind of bonus
- 1:01:25one we always for
- 1:01:27my goddaughter we always bring a basket for her brother so he's
- 1:01:30not left out uh
- 1:01:32well because you can't give one kid a bunch of stuff and then
- 1:01:35the other kid gets
- 1:01:36nothing so we always do one for him as well and then the four
- 1:01:39boys this year but
- 1:01:41SPEAKER_02: then i also made i went to target and got these um
- 1:01:44glitter disco ball eggs they're like giant and they hold three
- 1:01:49demi bottle of
- 1:01:50prosecco's in it so i did that and a bunch of chocolate for my
- 1:01:55prosecco an adult
- 1:01:56beverage you're giving this to children no i'm giving it to my
- 1:01:59daughter's godmother
- 1:02:00SPEAKER_02: and then oh
- 1:02:02And then the mom of the four boys that we're going to be the
- 1:02:05godparents of,
- 1:02:07SPEAKER_02: she grew up Orthodox.
- 1:02:09Her husband grew up Catholic like me,
- 1:02:12but they're kind of coming back to the church.
- 1:02:14SPEAKER_02: And so he is being chrismated.
- 1:02:16SPEAKER_02: She's just like,
- 1:02:17I don't think she's being re-chrismated because she was already
- 1:02:20baptized Orthodox.
- 1:02:21I think she's just like there for their baptisms,
- 1:02:24but I'm doing it for her.
- 1:02:25SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 1:02:26SPEAKER_02: For the adult women, I'm giving glitter disco ball Easter egg Prosecco.
- 1:02:34SPEAKER_00: I mean,
- 1:02:34SPEAKER_00: for the record,
- 1:02:35SPEAKER_00: bear in mind,
- 1:02:36SPEAKER_00: I don't actually...
- 1:02:36SPEAKER_00: I don't even like giving gifts at Christmas.
- 1:02:39SPEAKER_00: Not because I don't like giving gifts.
- 1:02:41SPEAKER_00: I don't like clustering gifts at a specific time.
- 1:02:44If I see something that I think someone would like,
- 1:02:47for the most part,
- 1:02:48I will buy it for them.
- 1:02:49SPEAKER_00: I don't like having to hold on to it until some set date.
- 1:02:52SPEAKER_00: I just want to be like, here...
- 1:02:54SPEAKER_00: I'm sending you this thing that I got for you that I think you'd like.
- 1:02:57SPEAKER_00: It annoys me.
- 1:02:58SPEAKER_02: I don't hold on for that date.
- 1:03:00SPEAKER_02: I just, I don't know.
- 1:03:01SPEAKER_02: I feel like I'm a very generous gift giver.
- 1:03:03SPEAKER_02: I give a lot of gifts.
- 1:03:06SPEAKER_02: My husband is not.
- 1:03:08I was about to say you've never given me a gift,
- 1:03:10but you in fact gave me a rather nice camera.
- 1:03:12SPEAKER_02: Uh-huh.
- 1:03:13SPEAKER_02: No, revise what you were about to say.
- 1:03:17SPEAKER_00: I backed out of that.
- 1:03:18SPEAKER_02: Okay, I couldn't even sell that thing for...
- 1:03:24I'd rather give it to someone to enjoy than get $100 on
- 1:03:28Facebook Marketplace or something.
- 1:03:30SPEAKER_00: I have not, in fact, used it yet.
- 1:03:32SPEAKER_02: But yeah, watch what you say there.
- 1:03:35SPEAKER_02: I do, actually.
- 1:03:36SPEAKER_02: I am actually a very generous gift giver.
- 1:03:39SPEAKER_00: I will see things and be like, this person would like that.
- 1:03:44SPEAKER_00: I should get that for them.
- 1:03:45And then I ended up shoving it in a closet because I needed
- 1:03:48something for them.
- 1:03:49SPEAKER_00: But I hope it's first to give it to them.
- 1:03:51SPEAKER_02: Oh, I just give stuff.
- 1:03:53Luke and I were talking the other day about this random obscure
- 1:03:56record that he grew
- 1:03:58SPEAKER_02: up listening to.
- 1:03:59SPEAKER_02: And we have a copy of in our basement somewhere.
- 1:04:02It's called The Muppets Take Bremen,
- 1:04:04which not Bremen like Germany,
- 1:04:06it's Bremen,
- 1:04:06Louisiana.
- 1:04:07And he used to sit around with his grandparents all the time
- 1:04:12and listen to it.
- 1:04:12SPEAKER_02: And he was like, I really wish I had that.
- 1:04:14SPEAKER_02: And it wasn't so scratch because I'd love to hear it.
- 1:04:16SPEAKER_02: And it's one that you can't like the recording doesn't exist anywhere.
- 1:04:20SPEAKER_02: You have to have the record to hear it.
- 1:04:23So I scoured forever and I found it online and I found a really
- 1:04:28gently used version
- 1:04:29SPEAKER_02: from a record shop with great reviews and bought it.
- 1:04:33SPEAKER_02: It just came the other day.
- 1:04:34SPEAKER_02: I wasn't going to like hold on to it.
- 1:04:36SPEAKER_02: I just gave it to him.
- 1:04:37SPEAKER_02: But then I'll just continue buying more stuff.
- 1:04:42SPEAKER_00: You should digitize it for him.
- 1:04:44SPEAKER_00: Do you have equipment to digitize it?
- 1:04:47Look at me and think of the struggles I have just getting the
- 1:04:53music to play right
- 1:04:54SPEAKER_02: in the beginning of this and ask yourself if you think I can handle that.
- 1:04:58It isn't that hard or that expensive to get stuff that you can
- 1:05:03digitize a record with.
- 1:05:04SPEAKER_02: No, I think my dad has it, so I'll give it to him.
- 1:05:07SPEAKER_02: My parents are going to be out here in a week,
- 1:05:09SPEAKER_02: and I'll just have them take it home,
- 1:05:10SPEAKER_02: and he can digitize it,
- 1:05:11SPEAKER_02: and then we'll get it back from him.
- 1:05:13Yeah,
- 1:05:14that way you don't have to really give something out because
- 1:05:16the record is not.
- 1:05:17SPEAKER_00: It'll forever be available to you.
- 1:05:20SPEAKER_02: Right?
- 1:05:20SPEAKER_02: And it's such a unique thing.
- 1:05:23SPEAKER_02: Also, the names and voices are a little not...
- 1:05:28ones that you could do anymore but you know it was a touch
- 1:05:33anti-Semitic and a touch
- 1:05:35racist but yeah it was a different time it was a very different
- 1:05:39time this was like
- 1:05:40SPEAKER_02: a very early 70s recording so it is it is different
- 1:05:45SPEAKER_00: A lot of Jim Henson's really early stuff was pretty,
- 1:05:49SPEAKER_00: before he went relatively kid safe,
- 1:05:52SPEAKER_00: was pretty out there.
- 1:05:53SPEAKER_02: Oh, yeah.
- 1:05:55SPEAKER_02: It was out there.
- 1:05:56SPEAKER_02: I have to tell you after we stop recording about some of it,
- 1:06:02SPEAKER_02: because it's not one I feel like I'm standing up for.
- 1:06:09i do not condone the voices or the names in this rare recording
- 1:06:14but it is kind of
- 1:06:16cool you know digitize and digitize and upload it to twitter
- 1:06:20and make the oh my
- 1:06:21gosh i will i will get in so much trouble for that anyways all
- 1:06:29right well it's been
- 1:06:30nice chatting with you yes always is well i think i think we
- 1:06:33did a good job this
- 1:06:34SPEAKER_00: was
- 1:06:36SPEAKER_00: We did a good job here.
- 1:06:36SPEAKER_00: We should do this more often, but we never do.
- 1:06:39SPEAKER_02: I think we're going to try this week.
- 1:06:41SPEAKER_00: We are.
- 1:06:42SPEAKER_00: We're going to try.
- 1:06:43SPEAKER_00: All right.
- 1:06:43SPEAKER_00: All right.
- 1:06:44SPEAKER_00: Bye-bye.
- 1:06:45SPEAKER_02: Bye.