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How can I create a safety plan if I feel controlled? · Wellbeing Solutions - Ask A Counsellor

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  SPEAKER_00: Feeling controlled through money, work, or access to finances can have a big impact on your confidence and sense of independence.
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  SPEAKER_00: And creating a safety plan is about thinking ahead in a way that helps protect your well-being and gives you options if you ever need them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the most important thing is that any steps you take feels safe for your situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you're thinking about this feels overwhelming, take a moment to slow your breathing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just breathe in gently through your nose and out through your mouth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then ask yourself what is one small thing that helps me feel a little safer right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keeping your focus on a next manageable step can make things feel less daunting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now a safety plan doesn't have to be completed all at once.
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  SPEAKER_00: Small actions can build over time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it may help to write down important phone numbers, keep a record of key information, or think about who you trust if you ever needed support.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if it feels safe, you can also begin to understand what financial accounts, bills or debts are in your name so you have a clearer picture of your situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And just remember that your safety comes before taking any practical action.
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  SPEAKER_00: And practical steps to support you with this is thinking about where you could go if you needed somewhere safe, who you could contact and how you would get there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if it's safe to do so, just keep copies of important documents somewhere secure or with someone you trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you receive wages or benefits, you may want to think about whether having access to your own bank account could support your independence.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can also help to save important phone numbers somewhere the other person cannot easily access, and you don't have to do this on your own.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are feeling controlled through money or work, or you're worried about your safety, reaching out to domestic abuse services, your GP or another trusted professional can help you explore your options safely.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there are specialist organizations that can support you with safety planning, financial guidance, housing, and understanding your rights at a pace that feels right for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can also refer back to the app's resources for further support around money and power dynamics and relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are thinking about harming yourself or feeling safe, then please seek urgent help by contacting your local emergency service or a crisis helpline.