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Beyond 100%: How to Rebuild Your Life After It Breaks | Nir Peled · Books4Guys

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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: Cool.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I'm over in uh Nashville, Tennessee.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I'm I'm a little ways from you, but I think I'd rather be where you're at right now, because it's very hot still over over in Tennessee right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it it's I mean, I I wouldn't recommend it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's hot here and there's fires, and yeah, it's uh and there's no way to escape the heat, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You need to drive two hours in either direction to get to the mountains or to the ocean.
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  SPEAKER_00: So yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: I I forgot about the the wildfires.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, maybe I don't want any any part of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And also I think uh food is better in your area of the world.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I will say Tennessee has got some pretty good food.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that is one thing uh that we rock and own pretty well.
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  SPEAKER_01: So but Nir, man, it is such a pleasure to have you on the Books for Guys podcast and and very honored to share your story.
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  SPEAKER_01: We've got your book on the website, like I was telling you before we jumped on here.
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  SPEAKER_01: But man, I would love for you to share a little bit about your story because as I got introduced to you and just some of the things, I mean, you've been a high-level technology executive for a long time, but some of your brushes with with death uh for you know, for terms, for and some of the situations you've found yourself in, most people don't find themselves in a single one of those situations.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you've had five or six times in your life where you've had major scares and you've had to find a way to get through some trauma and overcome some things.
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  SPEAKER_01: And uh, I'd say you've done pretty well at it.
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  SPEAKER_01: But uh, you know, a lot of people, I don't know, I don't know what I would do in a lot of these situations.
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  SPEAKER_01: But Nir, would you mind just sharing some of your story and just some of those those events that has molded you into the person you are today?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, we with pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Two years ago, I was sitting right here, two years and I guess a few months.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was sitting right here on a conference call.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just came back from a trip to Israel and I was kind of jet-legged.
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  SPEAKER_00: I s I f I assume I was jet-legged, but I was tired and you know, tired and and sense like uh like I'm drunk, but not in a pleasant way.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I faked like the bad internet connection and I went through the meeting.
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  SPEAKER_00: At the end of the meeting, when I couldn't move my the the cursor, the mouth, to to end the meeting, and I had to put my left arm on the right arm, I figured this is not legit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I tried to I tried to get up and I crashed on the floor.
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  SPEAKER_00: I tried to call for help and I didn't make any words, didn't come come out of my mouth.
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  SPEAKER_00: And my daughter found me and they rushed me to the hospital.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was 49, I was in great shape, and I had a stroke.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pinned to a bed, I felt like I trapped in my own body.
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  SPEAKER_00: As my recovery started, I rely, I I realized throughout the year that I'm relying on my previous experiences with uh encounter with this or brushes with this or catastrophic event or whatever we want to call it.
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  SPEAKER_00: My uh my mother called it uh guide guiding a guarding angel.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I try to make meaning of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The first time was uh my first encounter was that it changed my my life trajectory.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was in the IDF, in the military.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh I I built myself, I was trying to build a military career, I was a captain, I was supposed to become a major, and a tiny bee stinged me right here in the forehead between the helmet and the protected goggles.
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  SPEAKER_00: There was a tiny space and she managed to get in and beat me, and uh and I I had a well, I didn't know what I was having.
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  SPEAKER_00: It started itching and swallowing, and then I was finding how to breathe, and I was helicoptered from Southern Lebanon to the hospital with uh tubes in my mouth, and that ended my military career.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was so angry and frustrated, and my tree hugger sister, I called her the tree hugger because she is she told me things happening for you, not to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can look at the bright side, you don't know what's the outcome going to be, and I was like, I dismiss that.
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  SPEAKER_00: A few years later I went to travel in the backpack in the in South America.
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  SPEAKER_00: I went with a professor from the Lima University to see the Indian tribes in the in Peru, in the Amazon jungle.
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  SPEAKER_00: Three-day travel, and on the way back we heard shotguns, and we see three men with masks, ski masks, Kalachnikovs taking us hostages, beating the beating us brutally, and and more than that, uh we were held for like a day or so.
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  SPEAKER_00: Very traumatic event.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm you know, the friends I was with are all kind of IDF, but there is nothing you can do with a gunshot, a gun rifles in the back of your head, and I said my goodbye a few times.
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  SPEAKER_00: Later I went to I I'm not sure if it's the chronologic although I was near a bomb, a car bomb in the Sinai Desert where I the the the blast blew me, like threw me off where I was sitting.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are a few people died there.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was uh in a tiny island near near India, near Thailand, part of India, it's called Andaman Island, when the 2020 fourth tsunami hit.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember exactly where I was, the the earthquake was shaking and it didn't stop.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I live in California, so we have plenty of earthquakes here, but usually it's like a few seconds.
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  SPEAKER_00: This one was minutes and minutes, and and I remember crossing a folded field and the people are coming and there is a howling sound, which I later learned that it's the local trying to scare the ghosts or the bad spirit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Didn't know what to expect, and when the water went like disappeared, the ocean.
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  SPEAKER_00: We were on an island and there was a shore, and then there's no water.
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  SPEAKER_00: I see the rocks are exposed, and it's like, oh, is this what I think it is?
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  SPEAKER_00: No, there's not tsunamis here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know, it's tsunami, it's probably in Hawaii or somewhere, not this origin.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the water started coming, and then I found myself running to the hill with an old carrying an old lady in my arms.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I can't make it up, it was too surreal, and big smile on my face out of I don't know what I'm doing, and it's scary, and it's uh what the heck is going on?
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything is not stable.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um we were considered missing for three days, there was no communication, so everybody were freaking out in in my home and in Israel.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had cancer that spread very fast in my body, and I went through a surgery and uh very brutal, very very tough chemotherapy that squeezed the last energy of me, and and I was just waiting for them to end.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or in either way I would sign just make it end.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I I was in a I I had a problem with finding parking, so I bought a motorcycle.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I cycled the whole all over the world.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm a very safe driver, but it sometimes it's not up to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Someone just cut me over and they said I was buckling my daughter in the back seat.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what he told the police, and I didn't pay attention, sorry.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it knocked me out for like two weeks, I was in and out of conscious, and uh then six months or five months in a rehabilitation hospital, just gaining my walk, and I broke the whole left side of my body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the stroke.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this is you know, that when I said that I was relying on those experiences when I recovered in my recovery from the stroke, all of those elements of holy crap, my life is never going to be the same again.
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  SPEAKER_00: I cannot force myself back to who I was before this thing happened.
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  SPEAKER_00: The the principle, I call it the principle of surrender, of accepting.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I learned that the hard way, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't force yourself into recovering your legs or your body or or thinking that it didn't happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: You you can't suppress those events.
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  SPEAKER_00: So accepting them and crying about them and and just feeling sorry for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think I I felt comfortable doing that after a few after a few days or weeks into the recovery, with the stroke recovery.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I was writing a journal.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I was trying to learn to speak.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I recorded the video journal where I bring I I talk about something, like what's going on.
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  SPEAKER_00: I ate breakfast today, I trying to find my words, later typing it with one finger when I was able to move.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was documenting my recovery, and I realized there's many times that I go back to those events and I know what to do now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And to me, I'm a very practical guy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I like inspirations and and talk, uh inspiring talks and motivation speakers, but all right, I need practical.
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  SPEAKER_00: What do I do tomorrow morning?
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  SPEAKER_00: How do I get better?
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't tell me physical therapy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll go to the physical therapy, but that's an hour in my day or two hours in my day.
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  SPEAKER_00: What do I do the rest of the time?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I that's what I discuss with myself about how to w what I'm how do I get over those bad feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I f you know it's it's it's natural uh to feel sorry for yourself or feel bad for your situation because objectively it's effed up, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh forgive my my French.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I usually just push it down and you know dust it off and get back up again if and if false doesn't walk, use more of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's kind of how I grew up.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a man, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And and we were trained to do that, because men don't cry, men, you know, toughen it up and and all those things they're not helpful when that's not an option.
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  SPEAKER_00: Force is not an option.
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  SPEAKER_00: So how do I get myself the the patience and the you know the ability to forgive myself and pace it and just take it take time as my ally, not my enemy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not racing against time, I'm using time to recover.
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  SPEAKER_00: So all those things I I wrote in my diary and later worked with an editor to turn it into a book when I figured that this is not it is unique for me, but it's something that can might help other people that are facing similar or the same situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that was a very long answer to your question.
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  SPEAKER_01: So well, Nier, you've had a lot happen in in this life of yours.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I I know you mentioned earlier, I certainly agree you've had a guardian angel of some sorts keep keeping an eye out for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: But, you know, even through all that, Nier, I know you talked about having a mindset of just you know moving forward, but I'm sure you had times where you looked up and were just like, what is going on?
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, like why again do I have this unique, just extreme events that keep happening, you know, in my life, you know, because it is unique.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like I said, I've never met anyone who has experienced these extreme events that you have.
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  SPEAKER_01: And and so, but and to be here and talking to you and in today is is nothing short of a miracle, I would, in my words, in my thoughts.
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  SPEAKER_01: But and I'm so glad you decided to turn this into a book because I I preach this all the time to people.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think everyone has a story, everyone should put their story out there because there are always people that are experiencing trials and tribulations, and and to be able to look at someone else or read someone else's story and see how they got through it, it gives people hope.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I'm I'm I 100% believe through your book and and your message, there are people that you're reaching that you'll never know, you know, know about, but but you're having an impact because of this book.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I think that's just an incredible thing that you've done.
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  SPEAKER_01: But Nir, you know, as you've kind of looked back and you started putting this book together, you know, what was, I don't know, I'm sure, I'm sure it was therapeutic for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And and I love the title Beyond 100%, because you were pushed to your limits to where I'm assuming you had to go above 100% to get to the next stage of recovery or what you wanted to do.
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  SPEAKER_01: But as you were thinking about it and putting it together, what were some things that you wanted others to take away from, you know, like lessons or some some nuggets that people could use in their life as they read your book or as they read your book?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I I think these are my lessons, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I I share in a very vulnerable way, an open way, which is that's why it took me a long time to publish it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because just knowing that people will read it and I I'm exposed and I'm a very private person was very hard for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I think the most important thing is that if I I if I can sum it all, I I I created seven rules for myself to sustain my recovery and address every aspect of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not just the physical.
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  SPEAKER_00: The physical is the most obvious, it's the most approachable.
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  SPEAKER_00: But there's the mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: The mind has the cognitive but also the emotional, which you know, me as a man, I push down the bad feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's no such thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Men don't cry and and I face them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then there is the big questions that you raised, like, why me?
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  SPEAKER_00: What does it all mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: The spiritual questions and recovery, I'm I'm not my body, my mind, my sp my soul.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's all I'm I'm a bunch of things that that define who NIR is and who everyone is.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, how do you recover the whole, the complete, the the full person?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you have to address all of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think the most important thing is that we have our worst enemy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am my worst enemy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if I don't get fast results and bounce back, that's how I treated it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to bounce back, I want to go back to my I I measured my recovery in percentage where 100% was the day before, and I couldn't reach that 100%.
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  SPEAKER_00: But a year into the recovery where I I I thought I I reached a ceiling, and I was super upset about it, and you know, I I sunk into depression, which is something uh I had before, but I you know suppressed that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I I was realizing that I will never be the same 100%.
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  SPEAKER_00: This near is gone.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have a big scar in my brain, and that's not going to go away.
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  SPEAKER_00: I also the last year experience made me a better and a different person.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think adding the better to it becomes the beyond 100%.
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  SPEAKER_00: It the 100% is the wrong benchmark.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think it's maybe the starting point of the person that I am discovering, I still am discovering, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Recovery is uh an accelerated method of growth where you knock down and now you have to get up.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is many ways to get up, and one of them is what I'm trying to, what I train myself and I what I the framework I built for myself is to rise up and reach out to those parts of yourself that were not approachable before.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I I I didn't cry.
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  SPEAKER_00: So now I cry and it releases the f emotions.
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  SPEAKER_00: It I I now I see the emotion as a spectrum, like the light, and you put it to a s uh a prism.
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  SPEAKER_00: A prism, I think it's called, where you see the whole colors.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there are there are very bright, vivid colors, and they are very dark colors, but they're all in they're all the same light.
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  SPEAKER_00: So emotions are to me are the same.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I laugh more, I cry more, I try to get understanding what the emotions are trying to tell me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's an improvement.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can't multitask, but I can be present because that's I can only do one thing at a time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think that become became my new superpower.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I I think to your question, what's the w were there were there any downtime?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, and a lot of them and and the book is full of well, it was very hard for me to talk about me being sad and feeling sorry for myself and asking those why what do you want from me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Whomever that is, and trying to dis make sense out of it all, but also be and turned it into how can I turn it into something that is positive?
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  SPEAKER_00: How can I start seeing the half full of the cup?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's very dark.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's it's a good point to mention I had a very good mentor.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was my grandmother, and she's a Holocaust survivor, and she had she went through the worst that can be you can't even imagine.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I think her stories, I'm still not thinking of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I still see the Spielberg movies about the Holocaust and but it was real.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's a real person and she went through that not for a week or a month or a year.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was years of tremendous pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: And but she had the best sense of humor.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because she when she was old, she was Safta, how are you?
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  SPEAKER_00: And she's I know she has all the diseases that a human being can have.
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  SPEAKER_00: And she would say, Oh, getting old is not for kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: And she'd kind of dismissed this question because otherwise she would just give us the doctors she saw.
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  SPEAKER_00: What she also told me in I remember exactly where in while I was having the chemotherapy and was just waiting it for it for to end.
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  SPEAKER_00: She told me that even I try to quote her correctly, and it's translation from Yiddish to Hebrew to English.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's I'm But it says something along the lines of even in the darkest moment of your eyes eventually adjust and start seeing stars or shapes or something like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think that that makes that gives me hope or gave me hope, and it still does in those moments where I see only darkness.
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  SPEAKER_00: And to me, just knowing that with time I'll start it's start it will start brightening.
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  SPEAKER_00: I there is a switch of the light of a switch on the wall.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just didn't find it yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's out there, and things will get better.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just need to go through this and it's helpful.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's healing.
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  SPEAKER_00: This process of crying, this process of being depressed, this process of feeling those dark emotions.
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  SPEAKER_00: Eventually they go through you, and then you're open to you know whatever comes next.
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_01: I'm glad you mentioned your grandmother because I was thinking it's kind of similar to your story, but there's a book.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't know if you've read it, it's called The Happiest Man on Earth, and it's uh written by Eddie.
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  SPEAKER_01: I can't pronounce his last name, but he was also a Holocaust survivor, and he talks about just I I remember reading his book and just being like, How is this guy so happy?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, how has he changed his mindset to be positive?
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I was feeling the emotions while reading it, and I was just like, There's no way I could get through this.
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  SPEAKER_01: But it points back to some of the things you said, and and and you didn't say it directly, but just the how powerful the mind is in getting through things that you know, there are things I go through that are nowhere near what you or your grandmother have experienced, but it's incredible how you've been able to transform the way you think so that you can do better or get through a situation, or when you feel like you're not at 100%, how do you keep going?
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_01: You know, how do you attack tomorrow different than today?
• 19:43
  SPEAKER_01: And uh I was I was, you know, kind of transforming that or translating that to business as well.
• 19:50
  SPEAKER_01: I was listening to some some people who I view as very successful, and some of their things I I think correlate there.
• 19:56
  SPEAKER_01: They were talking about how the destination isn't ever really what you enjoy either.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's all about the journey, and and you kind of find more pleasure knowing that you gave it your all today, more so than what you actually accomplished.
• 20:12
  SPEAKER_01: But it's giving all your energy, giving 100% at the end of the day, being exhausted and knowing I gave it my all.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if you stack enough of those days together, whether you're trying to overcome trauma, you're trying to heal through physical therapy, or you're trying to accomplish something business related.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_01: That was something that really resonated with me, and I was thinking about as you were talking a little bit more about your story.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I and I I think it's a in recovery, giving 100% can mean different things, right?
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_00: Taking a rest is making a step forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: And to me, when I realized that my improvements are not gonna be dramatic, they're going to be just flickering my finger, was the first improvement on the body that I noticed.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_00: It was a few days into the ICU.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I realized this is the level of improvement I'm going to see.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's tiny.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I made myself the second rule.
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  SPEAKER_00: The first one was a marathon, which is I pace yourself, time is your ally, and just don't sprint.
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  SPEAKER_00: The second rule was the 1% rule, which I still go to every every single day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it also helped with you know the assumption or the the well, I sometimes have this notion of zero progress or even I'm going backward.
• 21:31
  SPEAKER_00: So the rule says every day find somewhere that you improved in 1% and celebrate that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can always find something to celebrate an improvement that you did for yourself, whether it's physical, right?
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: The flickering of the finger, whether it's just crying and let it the bad emotions are out, whether it's resting, sleeping in the afternoon was you know, sleeping is for babies, we'll sleep enough in the grave.
• 21:58
  SPEAKER_00: Don't waste time sleeping.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sleeping was the where is when healing happens, right?
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_00: The body heals itself when it sleeps, not just the brain, even the muscles.
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  SPEAKER_00: So and and to me it's the compound progress eventually, uh progress compound, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Eventually it's accumulate to be meaningful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if I do, and I remember thinking and doing or trying to do the math, if I do 1% a day, how long would I go back to my hundred percent?
• 22:27
  SPEAKER_00: And it's like, but the it was a number of days I can m calculate, right?
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_00: It's not like in the far, far future.
• 22:36
  SPEAKER_00: It also gives me opportunity when I don't feel the progress to look back and say to sort through the day or the week even and find the one thing that I did do for myself and did progress in a way.
• 22:52
  SPEAKER_00: Because otherwise it's like it's the sinking boat.
• 22:55
  SPEAKER_00: If if you don't if you stop pedaling, you start sinking.
• 22:58
  SPEAKER_00: And just finding those micro improvements makes the whole difference.
• 23:03
  SPEAKER_00: So I think it's true for business as well, right?
• 23:07
  SPEAKER_00: It's not disruption.
• 23:10
  SPEAKER_00: It's it's a good to be to have disruption, but knowing that to build towards this disruption, disruptive product or disruptive service or a new business that you're it takes time.
• 23:20
  SPEAKER_00: And the the to-do list is very, very long and you want to accomplish it all, but you cannot.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_00: So start removing things out of your to-do list one at a time, even if it's small, it's still progress.
• 23:33
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, 100% agree.
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_01: Nir, just a couple more questions for you.
• 23:38
  SPEAKER_01: What are some things, you know, now that your book's out there and people are wanting to talk to you and know more about your story and you're able to share it?
• 23:46
  SPEAKER_01: Um you're also, you know, still have professional work going on.
• 23:50
  SPEAKER_01: What are some things that you're focused on?
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_01: You know, not so much looking long term, but going back to being 1% better.
• 23:57
  SPEAKER_01: What are some things you're focused on in the near-term future that you're wanting to, I don't know, j accomplish or you're wanting to have an impact on, you know, just 1% better each day?
• 24:06
  SPEAKER_01: What are some things you're working on right now?
• 24:08
  SPEAKER_00: And there's three aspects of my life that I'm working on.
• 24:12
  SPEAKER_00: Um I'll start with the recovery, right?
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_00: With the with the book uh as a as the over overall name for what I want to bring back to the local community and to this uh stroke survivor community.
• 24:25
  SPEAKER_00: And it's unfortunately it's a growing community and it doesn't discriminate, not even age or race or geographic location, and doesn't care what you voted and who you're what you believe are.
• 24:39
  SPEAKER_00: And this community and their caregivers, and their caregivers suffered an an event that changed their life forever.
• 24:50
  SPEAKER_00: And they didn't ask for it.
• 24:52
  SPEAKER_00: So where I can give back to this community and help with my experience, I do that and I try to scale it to more.
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_00: On the professional and even the personal level, I think because I'm a a newer version of myself, I do things with passion, where I can bring my heart to and I select my projects in a way that is it a good project?
• 25:19
  SPEAKER_00: When it's over, will I be proud?
• 25:20
  SPEAKER_00: Will I be proud of telling it to my daughter?
• 25:23
  SPEAKER_00: And as for my family, there's every day we spend time together.
• 25:29
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's the most important thing, is the community in where I use the word love more often, way more often than I used to before.
• 25:38
  SPEAKER_00: And I try to live that way.
• 25:40
  SPEAKER_00: It's still a work in progress.
• 25:41
  SPEAKER_00: I'm still, you know, go back to the to the framework and try to see how I can really follow it the way I tended to.
• 25:49
  SPEAKER_00: But I think the best thing I can do is do my best.
• 25:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that's fair for everyone.
• 25:55
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's right.
• 25:56
  SPEAKER_01: And we're I I think we're a work in progress until the day we're no longer on this earth, you know, and that I think that's the right way to approach life.
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_01: You're you're never at your final destination.
• 26:06
  SPEAKER_01: You're just like your book, you're trying to improve each and every day.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_01: And so I love that that message is something that you're sharing because I think everybody needs that reminder.
• 26:15
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, you know, it's one of those things that we can't hear enough.
• 26:18
  SPEAKER_01: You know, sometimes it we can easily forget that.
• 26:21
  SPEAKER_01: But Nier, I am, man, I am just so thankful as I know you're having an impact in so many ways.
• 26:27
  SPEAKER_01: I hope our platform can help share your story to have an even bigger impact.
• 26:32
  SPEAKER_01: And uh man, I I'm just again, it's gonna be very cool to just see how you continue to work and some of the things that you do now that we've had a chance to get connected.
• 26:42
  SPEAKER_01: And uh man, just proud, proud to know you and and proud to talk with you and share your story and just just keep that mindset going because it's an inspiration to to people like me.
• 26:52
  SPEAKER_01: And I know it's an inspiration.
• 26:53
  SPEAKER_01: If you know, if I'm inspired, there's a lot of other people that are going to be inspired too to do their best every single day.
• 26:59
  SPEAKER_01: So, man, just thank you so much for taking the time to do this.
• 27:02
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, and you can find my book and on my website, it's n-ir-p-e-l-ed dot com or on Amazon.
• 27:10
  SPEAKER_00: The book is called Beyond 100%, Rebuilding Life After It Breaks.
• 27:14
  SPEAKER_00: And and thank you so much.
• 27:15
  SPEAKER_00: This is a it was an awesome conversation.
• 27:17
  SPEAKER_00: I I truly enjoyed it.
• 27:19
  SPEAKER_00: And uh, like I told you before, there's I don't read the scripts, I just try to be myself and and I felt like I am.
• 27:26
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 27:27
  SPEAKER_00: Well, you did great at that near.
• 27:29
  SPEAKER_00: I appreciate it.
• 27:30
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.