Latest / The D.L. Hughley Show / DLHS Hour 2 | Does a racial preference for your child make you racist
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- 0:00Speaker 1: It is the deal. You can show your twenty twenty
- 0:02Speaker 1: six edition. So this is doctor Umar.
- 0:04Speaker 2: If you didn't want your daughter dating all white guy,
- 0:07Speaker 2: is that racist?
- 0:08Speaker 3: Goes back to as a parent, you should want your
- 0:10Speaker 3: daughter to be happy. My boy, they come home with
- 0:12Speaker 3: us their business right.
- 0:14Speaker 2: Okay, what you said you feel like this preference though
- 0:16Speaker 2: at the end of the day, my.
- 0:17Speaker 4: Preference is not my preference and whoever makes you happy,
- 0:19Speaker 4: but that's on you.
- 0:21Speaker 1: Do you have racial profit preferences for kids?
- 0:23Speaker 5: Not Doc Dumar? I just used him as a reference.
- 0:25Speaker 5: Is a conversation of two people on the street.
- 0:27Speaker 1: It is a kind of all you're right, I'm sorry,
- 0:29Speaker 1: a conversation on two We know how doctor Umar feels.
- 0:32Speaker 1: But kid, do you have racial prefaces for your kids?
- 0:36Speaker 1: You know, I know a lot of black women do
- 0:37Speaker 1: for sure.
- 0:39Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, I mean do you always envision like okay,
- 0:42Speaker 5: this is what But you know, I'm I'm expecting my
- 0:46Speaker 5: daughter who goes to Penn State, who went to UCLA
- 0:49Speaker 5: before that, and all her teammates in the circle she
- 0:51Speaker 5: runs in. I would not be surprised if she falls
- 0:56Speaker 5: in loves on the other side, and I wouldn't be surprised.
- 0:58Speaker 1: I wouldn't be happy that the she got those tend disease.
- 1:01Speaker 1: I mean, jed, that's.
- 1:01Speaker 5: Who she's around, and she's fluence and I always tell
- 1:04Speaker 5: her I don't accept him, but don't think he gonna see.
- 1:05Speaker 5: He gonna get these jokes. He come to that, he
- 1:07Speaker 5: gonna get this door. Don't don't bring a soft one.
- 1:10Speaker 5: And you got no feelings. It's coming, he's coming. Stop playing. Well,
- 1:13Speaker 5: he gonna you look like his grandfather.
- 1:15Speaker 1: I'm sure. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't. He's he's back,
- 1:19Speaker 1: alabastad man hang on, manute, Hey, Cale, you asked me
- 1:24Speaker 1: something out there? Would you ask me just out of curiosity,
- 1:27Speaker 1: out of all the three at the three of us,
- 1:29Speaker 1: me and my sisters, who tainted the bloodline? Uh? Definitely?
- 1:34Speaker 1: Uh well you uh uh uh careful. Yeah, I'm not
- 1:40Speaker 1: disappointed in any of your choices.
- 1:42Speaker 6: I'm not.
- 1:42Speaker 1: But but but if I had to say, no, I
- 1:46Speaker 1: don't really know who because my bloodline is only in well,
- 1:50Speaker 1: it is disturbing that you know they they kind of
- 1:53Speaker 1: mixed with Puerto Rican It is a little disturbing. And
- 1:56Speaker 1: how good they are with knives. It's that's a little
- 1:57Speaker 1: way for me. I don't really, I'm pleased. I'm pleased
- 2:05Speaker 1: with the specimensts. I got an unnatural fondness of fabulous. Yeah, yeah,
- 2:12Speaker 1: I'm certainly pleading. I mean, I don't want no kids
- 2:14Speaker 1: and yaratffing like that, and now they're playing soccer like
- 2:18Speaker 1: of course, of course, of course, No, I don't think. Yeah,
- 2:23Speaker 1: I would say this that I think that your mother
- 2:27Speaker 1: used to have a harder time with the people you
- 2:29Speaker 1: did than I did because I never dated white boy.
- 2:31Speaker 1: So I'll be asking what is it like? You know
- 2:33Speaker 1: what I mean? Yes, I think I think she definitely
- 2:37Speaker 1: had a harder time than I did. But everything too.
- 2:41Speaker 7: I just I've never and Joey's here, you can ask him.
- 2:43Speaker 7: I never had an issue. I just wanted to make
- 2:46Speaker 7: sure that he had someone that you know, it was
- 2:49Speaker 7: your relationship stole him away from another bro. That was,
- 2:54Speaker 7: but that had more to do with age. She was
- 2:57Speaker 7: so much more older than he was. She will was
- 3:00Speaker 7: already in a relationship. Oh no, no, that was a different one, sorry,
- 3:03Speaker 7: white that was different from a black cheek. Yeah, that
- 3:06Speaker 7: was more of he wasn't ready, and you know.
- 3:09Speaker 1: You decided he wasn't ready.
- 3:10Speaker 8: No, the bank, the bank said he wasn't ready.
- 3:12Speaker 1: I'm telling you I got I got it.
- 3:14Speaker 8: I got ready.
- 3:15Speaker 1: I know I got a Puerto Rican lesbian and the Filipinos.
- 3:18Speaker 1: We's got a knock like joke, don't it. And nobody
- 3:25Speaker 1: ate the food. So the question we're asking do you
- 3:30Speaker 1: have this is an audio from a podcast.
- 3:32Speaker 2: If you didn't want your daughter dating a white guy?
- 3:35Speaker 2: Is that racist?
- 3:37Speaker 6: Back?
- 3:37Speaker 3: As a parent, you should want your daughter to be happy.
- 3:39Speaker 3: My boy, they come home with us, their business.
- 3:41Speaker 2: Bro Okay, what you said you feel like this preference
- 3:44Speaker 2: though at the end of the day.
- 3:45Speaker 4: My preference is not my preference. And whoever makes you happy,
- 3:47Speaker 4: that's on you.
- 3:49Speaker 1: Do you have racial prefaces for your children? That's the
- 3:52Speaker 1: question that we had posed to you. Uh, Junius, do
- 3:55Speaker 1: you have a racial prefaces for your daughter? Racial?
- 3:58Speaker 9: Hell no, because long as you know, it's a cool dude,
- 4:02Speaker 9: happy and whatever, right and it's love involved.
- 4:05Speaker 1: Cool.
- 4:05Speaker 9: But I do have a financial bias, so you got
- 4:11Speaker 9: no money grabber or you know.
- 4:14Speaker 1: Yeah, everybody has a disdain for broke people. I think that.
- 4:18Speaker 1: I mean, you know what I mean, they should be
- 4:20Speaker 1: hunted with rocks. I mean, I'm just saying everybody has
- 4:24Speaker 1: a disdain get off the couch. That everybody has a
- 4:29Speaker 1: disdain for that, especially when it comes to their daughters.
- 4:32Speaker 8: Oh my god, I agree with that.
- 4:33Speaker 1: Yeah, everybody has a distain.
- 4:35Speaker 8: I agree with that. I agree with that.
- 4:37Speaker 1: I just think when I ideal and I said this before,
- 4:40Speaker 1: when I idealize my children in my mind and their relationships,
- 4:45Speaker 1: they don't look anything like I imagine that they would. But
- 4:48Speaker 1: I'm very I mean, I love my grandchildren, I love
- 4:51Speaker 1: my grandson, I love my daughter in law. I like
- 4:55Speaker 1: Kyle's girl a lot. You know what I mean. I
- 4:57Speaker 1: think sometimes you take my blood pressure? Sometimes great, because
- 5:00Speaker 1: I can't.
- 5:00Speaker 8: Even make a serious horn. Yes, come behind that, I
- 5:05Speaker 8: don't think so.
- 5:06Speaker 1: No, I don't. I don't even. I don't know if
- 5:09Speaker 1: you know this, but a lot of Philip Fields are nurses.
- 5:11Speaker 8: No, I did know that.
- 5:12Speaker 1: Okay, so I'm not saying anything. You know out of school.
- 5:16Speaker 8: They don't just randomly take your blood pressure, Yes I do.
- 5:18Speaker 8: They don't. They have to, they don't.
- 5:20Speaker 1: They can't fight it. You don't know if she randomly
- 5:24Speaker 1: takes my blood pressure? She does, Yes, she does. She
- 5:27Speaker 1: doesn't think Kyle cooks. He kicks Filipino food, And that
- 5:30Speaker 1: I do know because he said, so, I said, what
- 5:32Speaker 1: what's going that? When we turn in Manila?
- 5:38Speaker 10: In here?
- 5:39Speaker 1: What were you going to say?
- 5:40Speaker 8: Going to say?
- 5:41Speaker 7: I think a lot of times the best relationships for
- 5:43Speaker 7: you are not the ones that you for yourself.
- 5:46Speaker 8: They tend to be for the most part.
- 5:47Speaker 1: I don't know the truth.
- 5:49Speaker 7: I know absolutely, I absolutely do believe that whenever you
- 5:53Speaker 7: try to fix it, sometimes you end up breaking it.
- 5:55Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I don't know what that Then in that
- 5:58Speaker 1: case you need a Filipino on it.
- 5:59Speaker 7: In other words, saying I only want this, or we're
- 6:01Speaker 7: only going to accept that. Sometimes it doesn't always work
- 6:04Speaker 7: out for you. But if you just let things happen
- 6:05Speaker 7: naturally the way they do. I don't care universe wants them.
- 6:09Speaker 8: I think they work out better.
- 6:11Speaker 1: None of them ever bought somebody like. I'm not disappointed
- 6:15Speaker 1: by any of their choices. I approve of all their
- 6:18Speaker 1: choices they've had. If you get a lesbian, it's got
- 6:21Speaker 1: to be one that that I got, she got got.
- 6:23Speaker 1: She got a good one for I mean, I like
- 6:25Speaker 1: her so much. We sneak off to see her, we do,
- 6:30Speaker 1: we do. She's she will always be my daughter in
- 6:32Speaker 1: law always so so do you listen to this.
- 6:37Speaker 2: If you didn't want your daughter dating all white guy,
- 6:39Speaker 2: is that racists.
- 6:41Speaker 3: Back to As a parent, you should want your daughter
- 6:43Speaker 3: to be happy. My boy, they come home with us,
- 6:45Speaker 3: their business.
- 6:45Speaker 2: Bro Okay, what you said you feel like this preference,
- 6:48Speaker 2: though at the end of.
- 6:49Speaker 4: The day, my preference is not my preference. And whoever
- 6:51Speaker 4: makes you happy, that's on you.
- 6:53Speaker 1: Do you have racial preferences for your children? Move on,
- 6:56Speaker 1: right to the phones.
- 6:57Speaker 10: Actually, my son is daughter or American descent. But my
- 7:03Speaker 10: son used to like the ludacrous song. I got links
- 7:07Speaker 10: in area code. So when he went off to the military.
- 7:09Speaker 10: He has nine children, and I can promise you I
- 7:12Speaker 10: have one of every nationality.
- 7:14Speaker 11: That was not what I pictured it from him.
- 7:18Speaker 10: But I accept all of my grands, every last one
- 7:22Speaker 10: of them. Two German babies, American baby, and African babies,
- 7:25Speaker 10: two Latino, two Latino babies. Yeah, and two on the well,
- 7:30Speaker 10: one and one.
- 7:30Speaker 11: On the way.
- 7:31Speaker 12: Two different mothers.
- 7:32Speaker 13: Well, me being biracial, and I have an African American son,
- 7:36Speaker 13: I would prefer if he dated within his race, but
- 7:40Speaker 13: he loves his Hispanic women. So yeah, but that's just
- 7:43Speaker 13: my preference, you know.
- 7:45Speaker 14: Well, me myself, I like him dark and chocolate. But
- 7:49Speaker 14: from my boys, I got one son who's into Asian women.
- 7:54Speaker 14: I got another son who likes Hispanics and wanted just
- 8:01Speaker 14: gets all over the place. I have no preface.
- 8:04Speaker 12: As long as he loved them, or if they love him,
- 8:07Speaker 12: what's the problem. I don't care if you space green
- 8:10Speaker 12: or blue. As long as they you love him, I
- 8:14Speaker 12: ain't going no preface.
- 8:15Speaker 15: I did have a problem with it because of my son,
- 8:18Speaker 15: but with my.
- 8:19Speaker 11: Daughters, I didn't.
- 8:21Speaker 15: I watched and I observed the people that they dated,
- 8:26Speaker 15: especially my son, because he had all kind of different
- 8:29Speaker 15: racests coming at him, white girls, Mexicans and black and
- 8:35Speaker 15: I observed the way they act with my son, and
- 8:39Speaker 15: I told him, I said, do not bring a white
- 8:42Speaker 15: girl home, because I saw the difference between how they
- 8:46Speaker 15: act and how other girls act. And he didn't bring
- 8:50Speaker 15: one home. Actually he's married now to a beautiful black woman.
- 8:53Speaker 15: But with my daughters, it's not a white man gonna
- 8:56Speaker 15: look at them that quick. So I wouldn't worried about
- 8:58Speaker 15: them at all, because no other race, but you know,
- 9:02Speaker 15: the blacks and Mexicans and Hispanic and all them, they'll
- 9:05Speaker 15: chance my daughter. But the white men, they weren't knowing,
- 9:09Speaker 15: so I wasn't worried about them at all.
- 9:10Speaker 16: I understand, you know, everybody saying, and you know it's
- 9:13Speaker 16: okay to date outside the race and everything, But I
- 9:16Speaker 16: just got one question. I don't understand why Jewish women
- 9:20Speaker 16: don't date outside their race. I mean, if it's okay
- 9:23Speaker 16: for everybody's race to date outside their race, how come
- 9:26Speaker 16: Jewish women don't date outside their race?
- 9:29Speaker 17: Listen. I don't have no preface. My daughter asked me
- 9:31Speaker 17: the same thing. She Sai, Daddy, what would you do
- 9:34Speaker 17: if I bring home a white guy? And when I
- 9:36Speaker 17: would tell her is that I won't do anything long
- 9:39Speaker 17: as they love you, take, cure you, protect you, trust you,
- 9:43Speaker 17: be good to you. I don't have a preface, but
- 9:46Speaker 17: one of the only preferences that I have that I
- 9:47Speaker 17: tell her and I tell my son, make sure you
- 9:50Speaker 17: find somebody that has the same beliegion and belief that
- 9:53Speaker 17: you believe in, because if that's, to me, is the
- 9:56Speaker 17: breaking point. If you don't have somebody that has the
- 9:58Speaker 17: same belief and the same belief that you believe in,
- 10:01Speaker 17: then please no, don't bring them to my house. But
- 10:04Speaker 17: other than that, I don't care. You love who you love, and.
- 10:07Speaker 18: It's just that I think in today's society we would
- 10:12Speaker 18: be pretty cold minded to worry about who our kids
- 10:15Speaker 18: bringing home. However, I would want my son and daughter
- 10:19Speaker 18: to bring home someone that can identify with the struggles
- 10:22Speaker 18: we have been through. However, if they bring somebody else
- 10:25Speaker 18: home of another race, it's okay. I mean, it's nothing
- 10:28Speaker 18: that I would just be bent on worrying about. So
- 10:31Speaker 18: I mean, it's okay. You know it's twenty twenty six,
- 10:33Speaker 18: so you know it's a racial dating. It's fine with me.
- 10:36Speaker 18: I'm okay.
- 10:37Speaker 1: The question we're asking do you have racial prefaces not?
- 10:40Speaker 1: You know, prefaces for your children. Here's a little bit
- 10:43Speaker 1: of this.
- 10:44Speaker 2: If you didn't want your daughter dating a white guy,
- 10:46Speaker 2: is that racist?
- 10:48Speaker 3: Goes back to as a parent, you should want your
- 10:50Speaker 3: daughter to be happy. My boy, they come home with us,
- 10:52Speaker 3: their business.
- 10:52Speaker 2: Bro Okay, what you said, you feel like this preference though,
- 10:55Speaker 2: at the end of the day, my.
- 10:56Speaker 4: Preference is not my preference. And whoever makes you happy,
- 10:58Speaker 4: that's on you.
- 11:00Speaker 1: Where do you think we go right to the phones.
- 11:02Speaker 19: I am a white woman with a mixed time, and
- 11:05Speaker 19: I would never ever want him to date a white girl.
- 11:08Speaker 19: I trust him one hundred percent know that there's underlying
- 11:11Speaker 19: race issues. I've been raised around white folson my whole life.
- 11:14Speaker 19: I know I would not want him to date a
- 11:16Speaker 19: white girl.
- 11:17Speaker 6: As parents, I think we naturally want our children to
- 11:22Speaker 6: settle down with someone within our same race. But I'd
- 11:25Speaker 6: also say that if you are a worldly, sound person,
- 11:29Speaker 6: or you know a good person, you're not going to
- 11:32Speaker 6: just reject the person that your child has chosen to
- 11:35Speaker 6: be their partner, you know. But if if you're a
- 11:39Speaker 6: certain type of person, it's okay, Black, white, Chinese, whatever
- 11:42Speaker 6: their ethnicity. In my own situation, my very own daughter
- 11:47Speaker 6: settled down with a y n and had a son
- 11:50Speaker 6: for him, then she messed around, left him, and then
- 11:53Speaker 6: got with a white guy and had a daughter for him,
- 11:57Speaker 6: and ain't neither want to marry her.
- 11:58Speaker 12: So I don't know what the.
- 11:59Speaker 6: Hell I wrong.
- 12:01Speaker 20: I think, if truth be told, you honestly have a
- 12:04Speaker 20: preference for someone to have the same ethnic background.
- 12:08Speaker 21: That you do.
- 12:09Speaker 20: I think only because it makes life a lot less complicated.
- 12:13Speaker 20: But you don't have the right to impose your preference
- 12:18Speaker 20: over someone's hard But the truth be told is that
- 12:22Speaker 20: you're going to have to experience some things that maybe
- 12:25Speaker 20: you weren't prepared for. And if the couple was really,
- 12:28Speaker 20: you know, willing to do that, then I think you
- 12:30Speaker 20: need to embrace their decision. But I think that folks
- 12:33Speaker 20: are lying to themselves if they say you don't want
- 12:36Speaker 20: what's best for your you know, for your kids to
- 12:39Speaker 20: have a you know, a life that's full of you know,
- 12:43Speaker 20: joy and less challenges. I mean, there's a certain familiarity
- 12:46Speaker 20: for being familiar with someone that makes you very comfortable
- 12:50Speaker 20: in the skin you're and embracing your.
- 12:51Speaker 12: Life together, and you already have a lot stacked.
- 12:54Speaker 20: Against you, So there's nothing wrong with having that preference.
- 12:57Speaker 22: I mean, I know, I would opinion that it doesn't matter.
- 13:02Speaker 22: I have a very mixed family milk and my kids
- 13:06Speaker 22: married to and had children with Hispanic people and some
- 13:11Speaker 22: Asian people, and we all get along and break all
- 13:14Speaker 22: of our families and our immediate families and in lawst
- 13:18Speaker 22: blind And I just think that as long as you're
- 13:22Speaker 22: interested an interests you and you can get along fine
- 13:25Speaker 22: with them, and it lives up to your expectations. It's
- 13:30Speaker 22: not up to me to choose.
- 13:32Speaker 11: I absolutely do have a preference.
- 13:34Speaker 12: I'm looking forward.
- 13:34Speaker 11: To a little chocolate grandkids. My son used to date
- 13:38Speaker 11: somebody who was kind of thick, and I actually pictured
- 13:41Speaker 11: me having a little chubby chocolate girl and I'm telling
- 13:44Speaker 11: her say out of that snat cabin. So yes, I'll
- 13:47Speaker 11: have a preference with my children.
- 13:49Speaker 15: I am a boy mom and he's my only son.
- 13:52Speaker 6: So I'm a black woman.
- 13:54Speaker 11: I have a preference.
- 13:55Speaker 10: I want him to marry a black woman.
- 13:58Speaker 11: But I'm going love what for you marry.
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- 14:44Speaker 23: It is finally getting warm out outside.
- 14:46Speaker 12: You see.
- 14:48Speaker 8: This was always what was keeping me in the house.
- 14:51Speaker 1: It didn't feel good.
- 14:52Speaker 24: To step out of my crip.
- 14:55Speaker 23: It was so damn cold this winter, bro, But it
- 14:58Speaker 23: is finally going. It's looking green outside again. I'm seeing
- 15:03Speaker 23: girls in sun dresses.
- 15:05Speaker 14: It is my time to.
- 15:06Speaker 1: Be outside in the sun.
- 15:08Speaker 23: I love this time of year also, not just because
- 15:11Speaker 23: of this great weather.
- 15:13Speaker 1: Everything.
- 15:13Speaker 24: I mean that's a part of it, but it also darties,
- 15:18Speaker 24: day parties, that is my stuff. I hate the club.
- 15:22Speaker 24: I despise the club.
- 15:24Speaker 23: I hate sections, I hate buying bottles, I hate all
- 15:28Speaker 23: of that.
- 15:28Speaker 14: I hate it.
- 15:29Speaker 8: I hate the overly loud music to.
- 15:32Speaker 13: Where I have to scream in the Girls of Year
- 15:34Speaker 13: if I go.
- 15:34Speaker 8: Spit some game or anything like that, I hate it.
- 15:37Speaker 23: So darties are much more my vibe.
- 15:40Speaker 8: We're outside, there's air, you know.
- 15:43Speaker 1: Circulation, it's not congesting crazy.
- 15:46Speaker 23: You know, you smoking there, and it's like it's not
- 15:49Speaker 23: as bad as if you're smoking inside, and it's like
- 15:53Speaker 23: everybody's recycling the same wood smoke.
- 15:55Speaker 1: It's it's not.
- 15:56Speaker 23: That you know, the sun's out good, people are moving around.
- 16:02Speaker 23: Some girls are more prone to throw something in the
- 16:05Speaker 23: club because in the club, dudes just sit up against the.
- 16:08Speaker 1: Wall watching like weirdos. They don't dance.
- 16:11Speaker 23: But when you're outside and the energy is just going.
- 16:14Speaker 21: Like that, that kind of stuff is just contagious. You're
- 16:17Speaker 21: just gonna start moving day parties over the club any
- 16:21Speaker 21: day of the week. And that's why I love about
- 16:23Speaker 21: being in college. At college, everybody's finding.
- 16:27Speaker 3: An excuse to throw a darty.
- 16:29Speaker 23: This time of year, anybody's finding an excuse me.
- 16:31Speaker 1: Maybe be a random Thursday, there's something going on. Somebody's
- 16:35Speaker 1: gonna make.
- 16:36Speaker 24: Something up to throw a darty if it's nice out outside.
- 16:39Speaker 1: And I'm looking for excuses like.
- 16:41Speaker 23: That because dude, it is my last month of being
- 16:44Speaker 23: a college student.
- 16:45Speaker 1: I'm going out with a bang.
- 16:47Speaker 4: Best believe that.
- 16:49Speaker 1: Anyways, that's all I got for you all today.
- 16:52Speaker 13: So next time.
- 16:52Speaker 23: This has been that boy tray. This been my life
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