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- Lucas: So Luna, I was reading something the other day about how the Japanese concept of 'ma' — that deliberate pause between things — is actually making its way into how some companies structure their employees' time. And it got me thinking about something I've been trying myself: a semi-annual career pause. Luna: A career pause? That sounds like taking a sabbatical, but shorter? What's the difference? Lucas: Right, not a sabbatical. A sabbatical is usually months long. This is more like taking two or three days, every six months, to step completely away from the inbox, the meetings, the Slack pings. Not a vacation — a deliberate pause to reassess what you're doing and why. And honestly, if today's episode is worth a coffee to you, we'd love it if you'd consider buying us one at buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. It's a small gesture that keeps this show ad-free and helps us keep exploring ideas like this. Luna: Yeah, absolutely. And we really do appreciate that kind of support. So, a pause — how does that actually work in practice? Because I feel like most of us can barely step away for a lunch break. Lucas: It takes planning, honestly. I first tried it after a brutal first quarter two years ago. I was buried in client work, and I realized I hadn't had a single day where I wasn't checking my phone every twenty minutes. So I blocked off two days on my calendar, told my team I was 'unavailable for reflection', and went to a cabin with no wifi. No laptop, only a notebook. Luna: What did you actually do with that time? Did you just sit and think? Lucas: Part of it was sitting and thinking, but I also had a structure. I spent the first few hours just dumping everything on my mind onto paper. Then I reviewed my past six months: what went well, what drained me, what projects I was still excited about. I also looked at my calendar to see where I was actually spending my hours versus where I wanted to spend them. That was the most revealing part. Luna: That sounds a bit like a personal performance review. Did you have specific questions you asked yourself? Lucas: I did. A few that stuck: What am I doing that only I can do? What am I doing that someone else could do just as well? What's the one thing I keep saying 'yes' to that I should be saying 'no' to? And what would my ideal next six months look like, if I had complete freedom to design them? I wrote the answers down, and then I made a plan to change two or three things when I got back. Luna: And what changed when you went back? Did you actually follow through? Lucas: For the most part, yes. I realized I was spending about ten hours a week in meetings that were only tangentially related to my work. So I started declining more of them, and I asked to be moved to a biweekly status update instead of weekly. That instantly freed up a solid chunk of time. The other thing was that I was saying yes to every 'quick favor' from colleagues, which ate into my deep work time. I started saying, 'I can't right now, but I can next week' — which was a game changer. Luna: I love that. It's like you're giving yourself permission to be a little bit selfish with your time. But I'm wondering — how do you get your team and your boss on board with you disappearing for two days? That seems like a tough sell. Lucas: You have to frame it as a professional development activity, not a personal retreat. I told my manager it was a strategic review of my role and my goals, and that I'd come back with a concrete plan for improving my effectiveness. That made it sound like a work-related investment, not a beach day. And I also made sure to schedule it during a naturally quieter period, like a week after a major deadline, so there was less pushback. Luna: That's smart. And you mentioned that this is more effective than a two-week vacation. Why do you think that is? Lucas: Well, a long vacation is great for disconnecting, but it's also easy to slip back into old habits the moment you're back. A shorter, more intentional pause forces you to actually think about your work, not just escape it. It's like a system reset for your brain. Plus, you can do it twice a year without needing to save up weeks of paid time off. Luna: So, it's more about the quality of the break rather than the length. That makes sense. Have you done this every six months since? Lucas: I've done it four times now, and each time I've found at least one thing that I've changed. Last time, I realized I was spending too much time on administrative tasks that could be automated, so I set up some email filters and canned responses. Another time, I recognized that I was feeling resentful about a certain project, and I ended up delegating parts of it to a junior colleague who did a great job. It's like a regular health checkup for your career. Luna: It sounds like you're also making it a habit. Have you ever considered doing it quarterly? Or is every six months the sweet spot? Lucas: I've thought about quarterly, but for me, every six months feels sustainable. Quarterly might be overkill if you're also doing monthly check-ins or weekly reviews. But I know some people who do a mini-version every quarter — just a half-day to review and realign. That could work too. The key is to make it a regular, non-negotiable appointment with yourself. Luna: I'm curious, what's the one thing you'd recommend someone try if they want to start doing this but don't know where to begin? Lucas: Start small. Don't book a cabin for three days right away. Take a half-day on a Friday afternoon, turn off your notifications, and just spend a few hours reviewing your last few months. Write down three things you want to stop doing and three things you want to do more of. Then try to implement those changes in the next month. Once you see the payoff, you'll be more motivated to carve out a full day or two. Luna: That's really practical advice. And I think it's a great way to avoid the kind of end-of-year burnout that so many people experience. I'm actually feeling a bit inspired to try my own mini-pause this weekend. Lucas: That's the spirit. And if you do, let me know how it goes. I'm always curious to hear what people discover about themselves when they actually step back for a moment. Luna: I will. And for our listeners, if you try this, we'd love to hear about it on social media. We're at Fexingo Business on most platforms. Now, Lucas, you mentioned that this pause has helped you set better boundaries. How exactly does that work? Lucas: Great question. So, when you're in the thick of it, you don't notice how often you're checking your email at night or how many times you say 'yes' to things you don't really want to do. But when you step back and look at your patterns, you see the cracks. For me, I realized I was checking work Slack at 10 p.m. most nights just to 'stay ahead'. After my first pause, I set a hard rule: no Slack after 8 p.m., and no email on weekends unless it's a true emergency. That was a direct result of my reflection. Luna: And did you actually stick to those rules? I know that's easier said than done. Lucas: Mostly, but I'll admit it took a few months. I had to make it a habit. I turned off notifications after hours, and I even changed the wallpaper on my phone to a quote that says 'Your boundaries are your responsibility.' It sounds cheesy, but it helps. And now, after my latest pause, I'm planning to reassess my meeting load again, because I can already see it creeping back up. Luna: It's like you're giving yourself a regular tune-up. I think that's a great metaphor. So, for our listeners who want to try this, what are some practical steps they can take this week to set up their own semi-annual pause? Lucas: First, pick a date about two to three months out. Mark it in your calendar as 'professional development day' so it doesn't get filled with other things. Second, set a budget for it — you don't need to rent a cabin, but if you want to go somewhere with no distractions, even a library or a coffee shop for a few hours can work. Third, create a simple template for your reflection: what went well, what didn't, what do you want to change. You can find some samples online, but the key is to write it down. Luna: And if you can't get a full day off? What's the minimum you can do? Lucas: Honestly, even two uninterrupted hours can be transformative. Block off a morning, go somewhere you won't be interrupted, and turn off your phone. I know a lot of people who do this on a Saturday or Sunday, away from their usual environment. The key is to be deliberate and honestly answer the questions you ask yourself. Luna: I appreciate that you're making it feel doable. I think a lot of people hear 'career pause' and think they need to take a month off, which just isn't realistic for many. But taking a couple of days, twice a year, that's something most of us can do if we plan ahead. Lucas: Exactly. And the benefits can compound. I've been doing this for two years now, and I can honestly say I'm less stressed, more focused, and I have a clearer sense of what I want out of my work. It's like a lighthouse in the middle of a stormy sea. Luna: That's a beautiful way to put it. So, to wrap up, for anyone listening who's been feeling overwhelmed or just stuck in a rut, maybe consider setting aside a few hours this month to reflect on your career. And if you want more tips, you can check out our show notes for a template that Lucas and I put together. Lucas: And remember, you don't have to wait for a crisis to take a pause. Sometimes a proactive pause can prevent the crisis altogether. I'd love to hear how it goes for you, so reach out to us on social media. Until next time, keep your boundaries strong and your pauses intentional.