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Miedo al éxito - EL PODER TRANSFORMADOR · El Poder Transformador con Raul Rivera

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In a world where many seek
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answers, few discover the
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true power of music. Welcome to the
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transformative power of music
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with Raúl Rivera, a space where
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musical experience
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and purpose come together to generate
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real change.
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Get ready to discover [music] how
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a single decision can ignite a
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new life.
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[snort] Hello, community of
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transformative power, this is Raúl Rivera.
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As every Wednesday, at this time,
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through Motiva Activa, we have an
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interesting communication bridge
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because all these topics that we address
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make it possible for them to help us continue moving forward
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in our lives, to have
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knowledge, expand it also and above all to
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put it into practice because today I am
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going to talk to you about the fear
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of success.
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What is the fear of success? Does it
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exist? Is it possible that there is fear involved
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in achieving success? Let's first see
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what this consists of. The
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conscious or unconscious resistance
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experienced by
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anyone who perceives
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reaching an important goal in their life
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that can change their life,
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their relationships, and also the
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responsibilities that will come into their
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life. But there is a
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defense mechanism in the mind. How does it work?
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She loves to stay in
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a comfortable, familiar state before
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venturing into the unknown or
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uncertainty.
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So, he prefers to stay in what he knows.
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It works [clears throat] through
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thoughts, connection, what
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people are thinking, and above all, a
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series of points that I'm going to
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talk about so you understand how
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this works, why people
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are afraid of success. I hope this
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program can be useful and
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helpful to you. You will learn about
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specific points.
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And you can also record those programs
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and share them with
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someone who needs them, a
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loved one, a family member, someone
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close to you who you know
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needs them. First point, [clears throat]
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fear of change.
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Success changes people's lives,
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and many people feel
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comfortable with what they know; that is,
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they love living in that comfort,
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even if it is not satisfying,
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even if we are not fulfilling ourselves. And do
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you know what the mind thinks? What
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thoughts come to mind in this
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situation?
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[snort]
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And if my life changes too much,
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what's going to happen?
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So, I won't be able to continue
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living the way I do, the everyday things. I'm going to have to
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change drastically. We
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started thinking about that. And if I no longer
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have time for my family and
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family gatherings or the get-togethers I used to have
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with my friends, will they
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disappear?
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And if I stop being who I am. These are some
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of the thoughts we have,
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and they trigger alarm bells, making us
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say, "No, it's better to stay put, better to
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stick with what's familiar rather than
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change something whose consequences are unknown and
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could create uncertainty in my life." The
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second point is fear of new
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responsibilities,
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because achieving success means
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I have to make changes in my
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responsibilities. I'm not going to continue
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living the way I do now.
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So, what does success bring?
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Greater commitments. There are
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important decisions I'll have to make.
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There's effective leadership I'll have to
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start employing, and consequently, I wo
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n't behave as I did before.
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Why? Because it demands
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significant changes, and success leads me down
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different paths, shows me different
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people, and presents me with other important decisions.
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And many people feel they won't be able to
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live
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under that pressure. What do you think of
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today's topic? I hope you're
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enjoying it. If you'd like to share a
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comment, or say hello,
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perfect, the chat is there for you to do so right now
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. Is
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this topic important? Absolutely. At some
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point... At some point in our lives,
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and perhaps even now, you've considered
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making changes to achieve success in
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some area you deem important. We've been
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living
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almost the same way for many years, and experiencing a
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successful change brings
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major consequences. I'm going to talk about
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the third point:
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when low self-esteem exists. And what does
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this have to do with success? A
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lot. Let me explain. When a
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person doesn't believe in themselves,
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when they don't believe in their values, in what they
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are capable of doing or achieving, then
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success comes into conflict with
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the image they have of themselves. There's a
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conflict,
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and this logically works
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through the mind, through my beliefs, which we'll
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discuss later, but above all, I
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believe in myself. Now, an
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internal dialogue begins to emerge in my mind,
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in my thoughts: "
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I'm not
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good enough for this." Notice how this internal
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chatter begins, and suddenly we start
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sabotaging ourselves with these
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thoughts, preventing us from achieving success.
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We think, "That's for other people who
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can do it, not me." Then I
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begin to dismiss myself. And Another
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point is, I wasn't born for great things. I'm
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fine the way I am. Why would I
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disrupt
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the good life I'm living?
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[clears throat]
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Self-esteem limits a person's growth,
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development, and
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progress. It's limiting. That's why
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there are people on another level.
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Well, let's say hello to
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Rubén. [clears throat] Thank you, Rubén, for
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being here, for saying hello, for
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tuning in to this program.
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I hope it's helpful. As well as to everyone else
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who's connected. A
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message of appreciation, of affection, or even just
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a greeting like Rubén's
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is important to us. Another point is the
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fear of rejection. These points I
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'm mentioning are some of the things
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that make us
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limit ourselves, hold back, and prevent us from
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achieving success.
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Fear of rejection.
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Success can create
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differences among friends and
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family. Of course it can.
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And these kinds of thoughts start to appear
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.
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[clears throat]
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My friends are going to change towards me because I'm
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not going to be the same anymore, because I'm going to
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behave differently, because I'm going to
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associate with other people. People.
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So I think my friends are going to
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abandon me, and I don't want that to happen. My
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family is going to criticize me. You know
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that the most direct critics, and
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sometimes those who don't know how to be critical, are
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family members: siblings, parents,
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children.
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And we have to be
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mentally strong against that so we don't suffer
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emotional disappointments. Another point we might
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consider is, they'll say I've become proud,
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that I've let so many things go to my
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head. And for that reason, this fear of
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rejection holds us back, it doesn't let us
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move forward. We stay at the same level
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because we don't want to be rejected by
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anyone. Do you know people? Has
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something similar happened to you? Do you want to share your
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thoughts on this topic? Why can
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the fear
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of success, along with these points I'm
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mentioning, be an
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important factor? If you're toying with the idea
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or if you're already working on a project that will
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lead you to success, some of these points
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will be important and effective.
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Elena, let's see what Elena, who's
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with us every Wednesday, has to say. She
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says, "Good afternoon, greetings." from
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Colombia. The fear of success stems from
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insecurities we have. We don't want to
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leave that zone called
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comfort.
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Elena tells me. That's great, isn't it? When
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we are talking about some beliefs, I will
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read them to you, or tell them to you, or
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comment on them right away when we get to
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the point of those
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limiting beliefs.
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Okay, let's work on them. What do you
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think about us
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working on what Elena presented to us right away? They are
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called beliefs learned in
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childhood. These
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are limiting beliefs,
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and many of us
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grew up hearing phrases like "
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money changes people."
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Rich people are selfish.
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Money is dirty. One of
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those phrases we hear is, "Don't
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stand out because money
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changes you in life."
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It is better to be humble
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than successful.
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Some of these phrases I'm telling you about, we
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hear them, yes, we hear them and suddenly we
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keep repeating them
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unconsciously,
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and we can hurt a child, a grandchild, a young person
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who wants to achieve great things in their
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life. We must
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correct this situation because it doesn't
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lead us to great things in life; it
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limits us.
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And when we want to be
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different people, achieve great dreams,
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impact
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society, and bring about change in
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our family, because the progress of
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one person can lead to a
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complete change in the family. It's
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not from just one person. If I am
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open to advancing the progress of
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family or community.
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What do you think? We are connecting these points of
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information so that we can not be
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afraid of
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success. Through these points they
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shape us and guide us to
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become strong and to take
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important steps in life.
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Another point is also mentioned:
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fear of failure after success. But
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let's see who's greeting us here
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.
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Hello, good day
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to Jorge. The fear of success due to
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the
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domestication of society,
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school, religion, or the circle of
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influences that are all programmed. Yes,
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we need to pay attention and be sure about who the
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people around
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us are. That circle of those five
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people who have an influence on
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our lives. Five. And that was a topic I
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touched on, I talked about it here how long ago,
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at least two months ago. If you go and watch
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the programs, you'll find all
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this material that helps us
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strengthen ourselves, believe in ourselves, gain
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knowledge, and move forward. fear of
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failure after success.
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Take a look at this. Paradoxically,
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some people are not afraid to
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reach the top, to reach the
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highest point. The fear or dread is being able to
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keep it there.
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And what thoughts go through your mind? Some like
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this, and what if I fail afterwards,
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and what if I disappoint everyone,
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and what if after being on top I fall and
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never get back up.
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When a person thinks that way, they
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are limiting themselves and automatically
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giving themselves mental instructions for that to
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happen. In other words, we can't think
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with that mentality about
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what's going to happen, right? What should
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we cultivate? Other types of
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thoughts that will casually strengthen
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our mind and make us strong
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in that
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belief, in that
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self-esteem, in the value, in the ability I
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have to overcome and
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permanently embrace success.
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There's another point I'm going to mention, and that's the
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fear of being visible, of being seen.
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Yes, it's normal for a
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successful person to... what's going to happen? It is exposed, it is
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exposed. They're going to talk, suddenly
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the media will come out, in the news, on the
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most important front pages, because that
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person has already made it. Something big in their
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life, and if it's not of that magnitude, it
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can be smaller, but it turns out that on
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social media it has a
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positive influence and they begin to see it
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visibly,
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and the greater the achievement, the greater the
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attention it
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is receiving visually on social media
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. What do you want to write to me?
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Any points, any references, anything you'd
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like to comment on? Perfect. Okay,
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who else is here? Who do I have?
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Jorge,
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greetings from Osaka, Mexico.
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Ah, Romero says.
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Oh, that's great. Greetings. How great that
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Matías Romero is watching us from
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Osaka, Mexico. You know? We are
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open to reaching any part
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of the world. Only the opportunity to
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connect on Wednesdays through the
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transformative power.
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Who else can tell me?
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Amparo tells me, we disqualify ourselves
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and say, that's not for me. Excellent
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point. That's how it is. Of course, we
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become our own judges and distance ourselves from the
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success we can have because we don't
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believe in ourselves, in that
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ability
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you have to face any
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situation to reach the top of
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your life. And those are the dreams,
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to fulfill ourselves, to be
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able to be that different person, to be able to
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continue serving my family, my
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children, society, because I can
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contribute a lot, but if I continue being the
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same person, having all the
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capabilities, being a person who is
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prepared, educated, with knowledge,
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but I do nothing, I am passive, I am just there, I am
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better off doing what I do, and
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that then becomes a factor in not
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achieving
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great goals, great dreams in my
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life. It's great that you're here
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through what we do on Wednesdays,
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active motivation, where we give ourselves the
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time to create positive
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learning spaces, to visualize, to
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comprehend, to understand. The opportunity
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is for everyone, it's not just for a few
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people, nor do they have to be the
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smartest; it's about taking action,
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taking steps, having guides
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and knowing how to do things well
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, not rushing,
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not suddenly making hasty decisions
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without having
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carefully considered the whole picture.
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We know the objections that may arise, the obstacles that may appear along the way, but sometimes we don't do it
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because we make
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hasty decisions.
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Another point, I'm going to talk to you about another
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point,
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and that is
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perfectionism.
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Are you a perfectionist?
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Well, some people are like that, and that
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has its advantages, but also its
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disadvantages.
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The perfectionist may think this
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way.
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If I can't do it perfectly, I'd
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rather not do it at all. Look at that phrase
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the perfectionist uses.
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And it's not going to be perfect, I don't do it.
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Count me out. That kind of thinking
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delays projects. That way of thinking prevents
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people from making decisions and,
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above all, from seeking out
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opportunities.
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Because the pursuit of perfection
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ends up becoming what?
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in a way of avoiding success, of
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getting out, of escaping
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and it may take many years and I don't do it
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and I don't launch myself because if it's not
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perfect I don't do anything. Do you know any
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perfectionists? Has this ever happened to you? Did it fall
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to us to correct
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that point?
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Of course, that takes work, and there are
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ways to get out of that
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perfectionism and sometimes face
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failure, so to speak,
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which are experiences that shape us
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to one day achieve success.
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With all those
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learning situations we've had, we
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become strong.
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And you know, businesses and companies
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hire people with experience who have
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managed companies that have had
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some moderate
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failure or not a great success. Why
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? because they know that they are people who have
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had a
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learning experience. Today they already have the
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experience and know how to successfully
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run a company.
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That's part of that knowledge, that
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process that we have and are
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moving forward with. Let's take a short
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break because after
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this pause I'm going to give you a
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summary to help you identify
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if you're falling into this
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fear of success situation. But I'm going to tell you
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a little about its transformative power. Your
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servant Raúl Rivera is dedicated to everything related to
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human development, that is,
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learning and teaching. We have a
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series of workshops that we make
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available to you, our valued
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audience, who know of companies,
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businesses, and groups that want to
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transform their lives through... and how do
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we make the transformation happen? Through
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workshops in which we dedicate time to
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training, to guiding ourselves, to having the
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possibility again to reorient ourselves.
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If we have lost our way, we will
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find the path that
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leads us to success once again. There on the screen you can
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see, there you see the information, some of
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the workshops that I present, that I
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work with groups, with people,
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leaders who have people who want to
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advance in their lives and many times
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we have some information, but we don't have it
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complete. Sometimes we have
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information or instructions
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given to us by the company, but we lack the
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learning to achieve great things
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in life. A series of
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important workshops; the
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information, phone number, and email address are there
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so you can get in touch with
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us. Okay, a quick little break
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and I'll go to the last part and a
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final summary. Hey friends! I'm
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Raúl Rivera, and through the
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digital platform Motiva Activa, I invite you to
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join us live every
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Wednesday at 1 p.m.
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Central Time in the United States to
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enjoy programs we have designed to
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help you
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achieve important goals,
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grow personally, and
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successfully complete a full year of life.
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like this 2026 [music] so that you are
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fulfilled, help you to be at peace and
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help you to find happiness.
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[music]
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We return to the transformative power of Raúl
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Rivera, your servant, on this very
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interesting topic.
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And now I'm going to give you signs. I want you to be
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aware because some of them
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may be holding you
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back or stopping you, or you may be
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thinking about abandoning your
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project when you have already given strong
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signs that a person is afraid
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of success. to
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constantly postpone it,
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that is, to
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not do it,
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to delay it, to
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leave it.
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And so, well, it's a bad sign
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because what am I doing? I made
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a huge effort. I started
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building my project to achieve
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success, but I myself abandoned it
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. That's called procrastination. I
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never
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finish
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the projects I start. It's another
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sign. There have been many, and I've invested
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time and money,
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but I don't know what I want. I'm having
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trouble and I think that this one I'm going to
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do, that's the one that
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will lead me to success, and I keep abandoning
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projects. Imagine,
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that's another sign that if you're experiencing it,
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you should activate it quickly
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and
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seriously resume your projects.
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Change your objective
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when [clears throat] you are close to
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achieving it. Look, when we
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carry out something important, a
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project, it logically has a
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series of steps between those objectives that we
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want to achieve. I've already made
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significant progress
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and I'm quite close, but I want to
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change my goals.
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These are signs that you are avoiding achieving
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success, unless you do so
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consciously, that they are powerful,
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but that they only serve to
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relaunch you to that project again.
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[Clears throat] Another thing is,
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you find excuses not to move forward, and
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[Clears throat] you make up a
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lot of excuses about life or what's
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happening, but it's a way, it's an
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excuse to say, "No, I'd better step aside
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, it's not the right time. It's the
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government, it's the laws, it's the
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gas prices, it's anything else, it's
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humanity, I don't know, excuses to
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back out and abandon that
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important project."
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And another point is self-sabotage.
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That is, I make excuses for myself, I
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find excuses to back out.
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After having thought about it, having
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invested time, having analyzed it, I
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start to back out, to get out
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of it. That's called
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self-sabotage.
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Another is avoiding taking the lead.
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When I want to achieve the success of a
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project, I am the leader, I take
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the lead, I steer the ship, I take
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control, but if I withdraw from that
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leadership, I leave it practically without a
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head. Who is going to manage it?
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How is it going to Getting ahead? There's no
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way.
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Another point: rejecting
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important opportunities. If
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opportunities are coming your way, if you let them pass you by,
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if you overthink them, if you
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rethink them—well, yes, you have to think
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things through to analyze them—but if it's
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a great opportunity and you know you
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can do it, and you can take that
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path, and you don't, that
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opportunity is gone and someone else takes it.
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Sometimes we—and this is another point—
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minimize our own achievements, what we
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've done, what we've accomplished. What does that
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mean? If I've already been on this
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path, I have to see those achievements.
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Sometimes we don't see them, other
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people do, but I myself have to
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recognize that I've progressed,
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that I've overcome many obstacles, and that I'm already
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getting where I want to be.
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These are stages, and we have to recognize them.
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Another point is constantly comparing ourselves
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to others, to other projects, or to
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other people. "My friend," "
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This person," "They did it," "
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I don't know how they did it," and I'm
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comparing. And sometimes those comparisons
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can be harmful. malicious,
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because it's not. What I need to
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objectively look at is
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my project, how it is, where it
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is in terms and on
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schedule, as I planned or analyzed
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when I was going to start it.
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And when we say, "I'm not
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ready yet," it's a pretty
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compelling excuse, and one that many people
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fall into: "I'm not ready, it's not now, it's not
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the right time," but we've been
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saying and thinking the same thing for years.
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Well, I hope these points are helpful
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. Remember that these
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programs are recorded, and through
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Motiva Activa, you can access our
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portfolio of
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programs to share,
30:20
review, and continue growing in your life. I
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wish you all the best. Success
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is in your hands. Don't stop, keep moving forward,
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and we'll meet again next week
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here at the same time
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through Motiva Activa.