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What percentage of people are actually narcissists? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  All right, y'all, let's get into it right now.
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  What percentage of people are actually narcissist?
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  I said it, I said it and I'm aware.
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  I'm aware it's my brand right here myself love brand.
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  I'm aware What percentage of people are actually real
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  narcissist. That's Yeah, that's the question
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  that is tossed out on social media everywhere.
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  So many people are looking for the answer to this question
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  because it is. The word narcissist has been
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  thrown around so much nowadays, rightfully so.
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  In my perspective as a diagnosed narcissist, I think the word
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  narcissist is used just right. Just enough.
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  Wait, wait a minute. It could be used too much,
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  right? But I feel like it helps people
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  label the behaviors or the person that they're experiencing
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  their behaviors with, right? I think I think it helps more
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  than it hurts. That's my perspective, people.
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  You're allowed to disagree. Well, I vehemently, vehemently
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  disagree. Cool.
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  Alright, I agree with myself. No, but seriously, there have
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  been so many studies if you Google it, y'all, I spend time
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  Googling. Y'all know, I normally don't
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  even do research for these videos.
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  I just go, I get a topic, somebody, one of the people in
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  my support group might suggest a video.
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  One of the people, one of my channel members, my gold members
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  might suggest a video. When I do it, I was like, OK,
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  cool. But yeah, y'all, this is what
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  happens. I look online, the first article
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  that pops up says 1%. It says 1% or 2% of people.
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  It says an estimated 1% to 2% of the US population has
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  narcissistic personality disorder and that's diagnosed.
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  That's from psychiatrypsychiatry.org.
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  That's the.org site, which are typically reliable, right?
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  We do. You don't know nowadays because
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  of all the the foolishness going on, you don't know what site is
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  reliable and what site is it, right?
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  But think about this job, it says 1 to 2% or diagnosed
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  narcissist. And I know people like, well,
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  that's not a that's a small number.
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  That's not even that many people.
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  Lee OK, one to 2%. You you see what I'm saying?
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  It is it it could be a small number, it could be a it could
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  be a small number like right. It absolutely could be, but it
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  depends on the number that you're taking it from.
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  Right now it said Uus. Population wise, it says 340
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  million people are living in the United States right now, 340
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  million people. So if you take 1, so 1% of 10,
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  there's only one, right? So OK, cool.
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  No, 1% of 10 is my brain is going blank out. 1% of 10 is not
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  one, it's .1, but this goes on right there so that's go that
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  goes on right there. 1% of 10 is .01 yeah but it goes on.
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  So if you take that 1%, if you multiply let's go 1% cuz y'all
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  know how y'all out there .01 * 341 two 3123 what do you get?
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  3.4 million narcissist, 3.4 million narcissists.
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  So there's not a lot of narcissists diagnosed in the
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  United States. They went there right there.
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  There's not a lot of narcissists diagnosed.
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  Well, that's really, it's not really not that many.
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  If I were to give you $3.4 million, which I don't have,
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  which I would have, you got 3 point, give me 3.
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  If you got $3.4 million, give it to me.
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  If you, if you think it's such a small number, let me have it.
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  Let me have it. So even if you divide that by
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  50, there's 68,000 narcissists per state per state.
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  So this seems like this when you break down the numbers.
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  So chances are you probably met a narcissist in real life.
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  You might not know it. Narcissists like myself, we're
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  not walking around like this y'all.
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  We don't. We very rarely are walking
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  around in public with a red flag sign.
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  Hey, hey bro. Hey bro, what's hey, hey bro,
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  what's that red flag hanging hanging from your cap right
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  there? Oh, this is my you ever heard of
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  the Scarlett A well, this is pretty much the scarlet in it
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  stands for narcissist. This is my red flag.
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  It helps me warn people about who I am.
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  That's why I weird. No, but seriously, that's how it
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  could go. It really is how it could go.
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  So when you when you deal with narcissists, just understand
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  that's diagnosed. They said 1 to 2%, right?
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  So if you double the number, that's 6.8 million narcissists.
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  So that's 136,000 narcissists in the United States of America per
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  state. That's crazy.
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  So narcissists are all around. So when people try to when you
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  hear people say that only 1% are narcissists, that's still 3.4
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  million people. It is now Doctor Romney.
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  You know that? You know Doctor Romney and she's
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  known and loved in the narcissist abuse community,
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  right? She says she did.
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  A video says one in six are narcissist.
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  So one in six are narcissistic people.
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  That's right. We round up over here.
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  That's 17%. Doctor Romney said there's 17%
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  of people are narcissist, right? I don't know if she said
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  diagnosed or not, but she's at 17 were sent on narcissist.
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  And let's just say, let's just take Doctor Romney's number as
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  closer to the real right, because the 1 to 2% earlier was
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  literally from diagnosed. How many narcissists you know
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  are going to go get diagnosed with a personality disorder?
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  How many you think going to go get diagnosed?
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  That's one to 2% diagnosed, right?
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  So undiagnosed, run around undiagnosed because you don't
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  need to be diagnosed to be a narcissist, do you?
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  That's that's another, that's another talking point that
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  people have about narcissist. You have to be diagnosed to be a
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  narcissist. OK, so before I was diagnosed at
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  32 years old, before I got diagnosed, before I was running
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  the streets, before I got diagnosed and had the label, was
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  I not a narcissist? I was doing all the behaviors I
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  had all the traits. Was I not a narcissist before I
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  got diagnosed? Quickly now quickly think about
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  that. I was 100% a narcissist before I
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  got diagnosed. So undiagnosed narcissist are
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  absolutely running around your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your
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  husband, your wife, your fiance, your parents, whoever it is,
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  right? Your best friend, your cousin,
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  they might be narcissist undiagnosed.
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  And this is not what we're trying to fear monger like
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  everybody's a everybody's a narcissist.
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  That's not what I'm saying, right 'cause there's more non
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  narcissist than narcissist, right?
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  But if you think about it, that's what happens.
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  So 16% might be low, it might be low, but it's, I think it's
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  closer to that than it is to the one to 2%.
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  But I'll actually, if you Scroll down, right, if you scroll, if
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  you Scroll down on this right here, you got another article
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  that says 5% and you have another one that says 6.2%.
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  What I'm trying to say is, right, somebody, somebody says
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  .5%. That's super low.
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  But what I'm trying to say, the thing I'm trying to point out is
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  nobody really knows how many narcissists there are, right?
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  Nobody really knows. Like I said, again, they're some
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  of them are super overt. You got this super overt
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  narcissist that you can pick out a pick out of a crowd 'cause
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  they, they try to drive, they try to make the thing about
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  them. They, they might, if you give
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  them a red narcissist flag, they'll walk around with it.
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  They're like, are those some Mardi Gras?
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  I'm like, no, I'm a narcissist and I want everybody to know
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  like this is what happens y'all, you get the narcissistic person
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  out here, the toxic person, the abusive person, and they still,
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  like I said, they still do it. Diagnosis are not they're still
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  doing the behaviors you. This is why I tell people I'm
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  doing my one on ones over zoom with people that I still do.
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  We've been one on ones for almost five years now.
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  I've talked to so many people over zoom.
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  I've helped so many people mental illness.net for the one
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  on ones. I've talked to so many people
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  over Zoom that I've helped that like they like, well, well, my,
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  they'll, they'll start the conversation off.
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  I think my partner's a narcissist, but they haven't
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  been diagnosed. And I'll tell them you don't
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  need a diagnosis to know what you're dealing with.
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  What are, what are the behaviors that you're dealing with?
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  The behaviors are important. We don't even need, need to
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  necessarily worry about dealing with a narcissist.
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  Like we don't need to worry about the word narcissist.
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  Identify the behaviors that you're dealing with because
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  that's going to be one of the big things.
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  Once you identify the behaviors, there's like, yeah, once you
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  identify the behaviors, you are going to win because they can't
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  hide from the behavior of being identified.
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  You. I didn't call you a narcissist,
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  ma'am. ChatGPT said you a narcissist.
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  I describe our relationship with ChatGPT.
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  ChatGPT said you deal with narcissist.
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  Get out. ChatGPT.
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  Sing me the JoJo song. ChatGPT said get out, get out
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  now. Don't have a baby by this
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  person. Do not buy that house ChatGPT
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  should I buy a house with my ex with my boyfriend He cheated on
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  me 14 times he lied to me said it was my fault he's got another
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  girl pregnant he beats on me should I buy a house with him
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  Jack GBT like might give you the the the people I brought look at
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  you like you crazy because that sounds wild y'all.
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  No, you should not move in with it.
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  But yeah, this is the experience that so many people have right
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  here. Like narcissist or not, you know
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  what you're dealing with. Identify the behaviors and then
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  act accordingly. Another thing that I hear when
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  people hop on, as soon as people hop on the Zoom, we, we people
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  send their stories in. People send in what they're
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  trying to gain from the sessions, right?
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  They'll send in their kind of their, the synopsis of their
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  life or the problem that they're looking to be solved and what
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  type of clarity they're looking to gain from the one-on-one
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  right. And one of the first things that
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  they'll say when they hop on the camera is I just thought I just
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  look, the word narcissist is thrown around a lot.
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  So I didn't think I would be dealing with one, but yeah, I
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  got 1. So many people think the word is
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  thrown around too much until you realize you're dealing with one
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  and then it's not thrown around as much.
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  Then there's you like you throw it around just right because now
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  you know who you're dealing with.
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  Now you know who your opponent is, right?
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  So it's just like different when you know who you're dealing
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  with. So that's why I tell people as
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  well. Like part of healing, part of
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  growing is understanding that like, even though you you can
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  change your mind on the stuff, narcissists typically can't,
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  right? You have the ability to change
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  your mind in certain situations when they arise.
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  Narcissists cannot do that. Most times they are going to be
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  set in their ways. So the percentage of narcissists
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  really is going to be upright. Y'all non diagnosed, like I
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  said, and some some people like I just said there, there, there
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  are 9 traits, 9 diagnosable criteria, 9 traits of a
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  diagnosed narcissist is right. And you only have to have five
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  of those traits be I think be pathological to actually get
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  diagnosed with a personality disorder.
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  So just think about this. You might have a partner that
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  meets 5 four of them. So they, they, they are highly
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  narcissistic, but they just one, they one step away from being
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  diagnosed. Is that a person you want to,
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  you want to tolerate? Because some of the signs, some,
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  I think some people agree that some of the traits are worse
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  than others. So they might have the four
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  worst traits out of the narcissistic personality
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  disorder diagnosable criteria. So you got to think about that
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  as well. So diagnosed or not, who are you
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  dealing with? Are you willing to deal with
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  this person? Are they willing to go get help
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  on a consistent basis? Because the most times the
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  answer to that question let me know.
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  They're not going to want to go get help.
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  They're going to put it on to you.
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  They want to blame you. It's easy to blame you.
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  It's hard to take accountability.
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  That's when we got to get to the point right there, y'all?
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  Because like when you, it's easy to blame you, It's easy to easy
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  to put it on you. It's hard to doing anything
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  else. It really, really is.
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  So the mountain artists out there, it's going to be huge,
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  it's going to be a lot. But that's why I'm just telling
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  you it really doesn't matter at the end of the day because you
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  are doing your thing. You are growing, you are you are
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