Latest / Walking Manifestator Podcast- Aligning Mindset with Spirituality / 114: God Doesn’t Rush What He Intends to Last
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- Alexa Pena: What if the thing that you're actually praying for is already on the way, but God is waiting for you to become the person that is capable of sustaining that blessing? You see, most people think that we're actually waiting on God, that we're waiting for Him, for this energy to make the space in our life and make everything just happen overnight. But what if God is actually waiting on us to release that old identity that He's shown you multiple times we need to let go of? Release those unhealthy habits, that unhealthy toxic relationship, the seeking of validation, the people pleasing, the playing it small, repeating the same story, being afraid of being seen. And because God Does not rush what he intends to make last. It is actually designed to bless you long term. And he is going to make sure that before you get that blessing, you're actually ready to receive it. You see, Pastor Mike was actually talking about that. And I decided to make an entire podcast geared around this because it is so true. God does not rush what he intends to last. And I always love to use the example of going to the gym. If you have never worked out and overnight I tell you, we're gonna go and push 200 pounds on the hip thrust. You might look at me and say, yeah, I got it. It looks easy when you're doing it. Sure, let's do it. And then because you've actually never prepared yourself, you end up hurting your lower back. And then you decide, ⁓ I never want to do this again. I actually, I'm not a workout person. I don't enjoy this. What if it was simply you pushing yourself beyond what you were able to hold at that time? Today I really want us to talk about why God is not actually rushing the process, the hidden messages that are actually driving secretly all of our decisions and the seeds that we actually need to. Grab from every one of those situations, why your current limitations are oftentimes self-created. And how conflicting needs that you actually are experiencing are contradicting the blessing that you actually want. And how those things are actually keeping you from obtaining the life that you are calling in. Now, God prepares the person before actually giving the person the blessing. And what we're often focusing on is where is the blessing? Instead of asking, who do I need to become in order to be able to hold that blessing? And I've mentioned this before, but it is so important to understand that because if you don't take away anything else from this conversation, I hope it's this. We cannot attract what we're not in alignment to. You can't manifest the person of your dreams if you haven't become the person that your dream partner would want to have. You cannot manifest the thriving business when you are still so afraid of being seen and being criticized. And you can't handle responsibility. You can't handle uncertainty. You see. This is why your actual manifestation is not coming into fruition. It's not that you're broken, it's not that you're not worthy, it's not that it happens for everybody else, but it doesn't happen for you. It's because you're actually being prepared. Now, I want to throw a caveat to this. If you're just sitting in your room and criticizing everybody else and praying every day and manifesting in your mind that you're going to have this abundant life. And you're meditating and you're doing all the scripting and the journaling and you're just like, God, like, why isn't it happening? That is not inspired action. That is not you actually aligning with God and saying, you know what, God, I trust that you are here walking with me, but I'm going to walk. I'm not going to have you just drag me and expect for everything to happen. Now the second thing we need to understand is that our limitations most of the time are actually self-imposed. And I've been vulnerable with you guys before, and I've talked about how one of my limitations is that I say I'm not a good speaker. And I actually got invited to speak at an event that's going to be happening this month. And if I'm honest with you guys, I'm a little nervous because I know that when it's me and my microphone or my camera or my phone, I do really great. Or when at least I think I do. Or when I'm on my conversation with like a one person, I feel that I can connect. But when it comes to like the one-to-many, I'm working on that. But instead of saying I suck, instead of saying I'm not a good communicator, which I've said for many, many, many years, I've changed the script to say, you know what? This is just something new. This is something I haven't done. And just like walking at one point seemed impossible. This too is something that I will eventually be able to do. Without feeling overwhelmed by it. Most people are actually not trapped by the circumstances of the external reality, but they're actually trapped by the internal conflict that they currently have playing over and over in their head. That story that keeps you from actually doing the thing. You keep telling yourself that you are not a good communicator, so you didn't, you shouldn't make the video because you're so cringe. You keep telling yourself that you need to study more, that you need another degree, that the other person does it better than you. So why would you even try? And instead of giving yourself the opportunity of trying and genuinely being happy, because even if you fail, that doesn't determine the outcome. You see, the only difference between somebody that is successful and somebody that fails is that the person that actually decided to try one more time succeeds, and the person that fails just gave up. Now, a lot of us we say that we want success, but we don't want people to judge us. We say we want abundance, but we secretly believe that money is changing people and that people with money are greedy. We say that we want love, but we're actually so afraid of being vulnerable with people. These are the competing beliefs that are actually overriding our iOS. Think of it as like a virus. So the reason you actually feel stuck isn't because you don't know what to do, but it's because two parts of you want two different things. So I've talked about this briefly in other conversations, and I really wanted to tie them into this message today because I mentioned to you guys that I went to Date with Destiny, which is an event that Tony Robbins hosts. It is an amazing experience. I highly recommend you guys go if you have the opportunity to, or at least start watching his videos. That guy is so insightful. In my opinion, I believe that he has a lot of wisdom to share. And he has come up with six needs that Basically, determine the quality of your life and are quietly running your life. So every human is driven by these needs. And I'm gonna share them with you. Now, the first four are going to be geared around personal needs, right? So we need certainty. That's like safety, security, predictability, right? We need to feel like we know where we're going to sleep at night. We need to feel like we know we're going to eat, that we have. a car to go or we know the route that we're gonna take the bus in or the metro, whatever it is. Then at the same time we need variety. So a perfect example of that is like adventure, growth, challenge, excitement. It's the same reason why if you have a person in your life that tells you their whereabouts 24-7, you get tired of them. And you're like, yeah, I know everything about this person. They're not excited. There is no novelty there. And chances are you end up actually breaking up with that person or letting go of that person because there was no uncertainty. So there has to be a healthy balance. Now, the next one is significance. So we want to feel seen, actually important. We want to feel valued. And on the flip side of that, we also want to feel love and connection, which is love, support. Feeling connected to somebody else. Now, here's where it gets tricky. The two spiritual needs are growth and contribution. So, growth, obviously, that you are evolving because if you're not growing, you're dying. And contribution is actually going beyond yourself. It's not just servicing you. It's how are you servicing the world? How are you paying it forward? Now, here's where the paradox is what keeps us stuck. Most people. Are suffering from the conflicting needs that we hold. So I'll give you an example. Let's say you want success, but you also want acceptance acceptance. So how are these going to work with one another? Well, if you want success, you need to be willing to be rejected because not everybody's going to like you. Not everybody's going to like the way that you dress, the way that you look, the way that you say something. But guess what? For every person that doesn't like you, there is a person that loves your authenticity. And you can't have one without the other. Now, significance versus connection, right? You want to actually stand out, but you are so afraid of being rejected. So you want to feel like you matter, but at the same time, you're going against being vulnerable. And that is actually the very thing that by being connected to others, you need to be vulnerable because I don't know if it happens to you, but when somebody is vulnerable with me, it makes me open up with them because then I actually see them as a human versus this person that's pretending to be perfect when we both know that none of us is perfect. Now, certainty versus growth, you want to have greatness in your life. But the growth actually requires uncertainty. So if you want, certainty that you are actually going to have growth in your life. You need to be okay with the uncertain, right? And here is really where it gets very interesting because you cannot pray for transformation while demanding comfort in who you already are. The next level of you is not the person that you are now. The next version of you that you want to have the status or that you want to contribute or that you want to be able to buy your mom and your dad a car, a house, whatever it is for you, is not the person that you are right now that doesn't have those things. You see, I talk a lot about my story because I want you guys to realize that it is possible for you. And I know that I am far from where I aspire to be, but I am also very appreciative of where I am because of where I've come from. And I remember back then, all I wanted was a car. Like all I wanted was a car and a place that I could call mine because we moved so much. And at a certain time we had no house. So we lived from one family member to another family member. And I remember just living it from like a backpack. So that was the uncertainty of my life. So when I grew up, I wanted certainty. And one of the things that I currently face right now, that I am working through, is releasing control. Because as a, you know, Older sister, as the person that like took care of the household, takes care of the household right now, does a lot of things to be a provider. I thrive on having control. But it's also the very thing that actually keeps me stuck because I don't actually have control. It's just an illusion. Because there is no control to be had when you're experiencing life. You just need to be willing to let go of the things that don't serve you and actually. Control your reaction to life, how you're behaving, how you're responding. Are you letting go of that guy that cut you off in the morning, or are you holding your grudge? Now, this is really where we need to understand that we need to make space for the life that we've been praying for. Many people don't need another strategy, another course, another, you know. ⁓ understanding of another book of another podcast. We actually need subtraction because our blessing isn't actually being blocked. Sometimes it's actually it needs more space. So it's like a container, right? If your container is full, if I give you, you know, food to put in your lunchbox, but your lunchbox is full, well it doesn't hold any more food. But when we want something else, we want more money, more abundance But yet we're stuck with that toxic relationship that isn't actually healthy for us, or that toxic, you know, mindset that actually makes us look at everybody as the issue versus looking at ourselves, then how can we actually make space for the new opportunities? So we're holding on to the old stories, the old identities, the old relationships, the old habits. And what if what you're holding is actually no longer serving? Who you are becoming. Now in Jerem, ⁓ actually in Isaiah 43, 18 through 19, it says, forget the former things, do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing. And what this means to me is that we need to stop worrying about the past, where we've been, what we don't have, what we do have, and actually understand that God is preparing us. For our blessing. But sometimes we're so focused on what we believe that should happen, how it should happen, when it should happen, that we miss the blessing. Now, in Jeremiah 17, 7, it says, Blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, who confides in him. Now, I've talked about how I am not a religious person, I am a spiritual person. And when I say that, I mean that I follow the teachings of Christ. I follow the teachings that I believe were put in this planet to guide us to a grander truth than what we currently understand. I just don't believe that I need to judge you for being either, you know, you don't actually believe in Catholic ⁓ church or you don't believe in Christian church, that you don't believe in the Buddhist teachings. I believe that all of these religions actually were created by men to divide us and actually being a follower of Christ believing in the miracles that he did, I believe that yes, there's some congregations out there that actually share the message in such a beautiful way that I love. Like I just said, Pastor Mike is one of them that I really love how he shares a message. ⁓ there's a few others. If you're interested in me sharing more with you, send me a message on DM and I'd love to share those with you. But overall, it's about understanding that when we trust something bigger than us, in that verse that it says, Blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, who confides in him. So blessed are them who actually trust in something bigger than them. When we're so focused on what we want that we forget to actually follow the path that God has laid out for us, we actually feel overwhelmed. We feel burdened. And this doesn't mean that life just becomes easy and that all of your challenges disappear or that all the uncertainty is going to vanish. It means That your confidence is no longer tied to circumstances that are happening in your external world. It's tied to something bigger than you. Many of us actually have anxiety because we're trying to control things that were never ours to control. We're trying to play God and creates actual exhaustion in our life. Pastor Mike talked about this too: how it's like actual spiritual leakage. Like you're not actually tired. You're tired because you're like leaking out all of your precious essence of who you are. And I'll call it feminine essence because that's like us as a femin as a female, right? But faith actually says, I will do my part and trust God with the outcome. Now, I want to give you some practical exercises so that you can actually start incorporating this into your life. But I want you to ask yourself what's actually driving your life right now? Is it certainty, variety, significance, connection, growth, contribution? And I need you to understand which need is actually conflicting against each other. And what must you actually release to create space for what you are praying for? God does not rush what he intends to. To last. Your delay is not a punishment. It is actually your protection. It is your preparation. And sometimes the noise is actually confirmation that something is happening. When things feel like they're falling apart, when things feel like they're like there's so much chaos, and you feel like giving up. I've talked about this how a manifestation before it happens, it actually has. This period where either you're lingering in like the creation and you don't really see anything happening, and you let go of the old and you're kind of like, what's going on? And then the old, the old past, the the previous version of you actually tries to hold you and like chaos happens. That's the moment where you need to stay strong and understand that this is actually another part of the test to really see if you're ready for that next manifestation that you're calling in. Are you going to continue to react like The person that you've reacted in the past? Or are you going to show, you know what, I'm ready because I'm actually more mature and I'm going to handle things differently. Maybe your manifestation is not waiting on God, but maybe God is simply waiting on you to become the person that is going to hold it. So if nobody has told you this today, remember that you are loved, you are worthy, and you can absolutely manifest. anything you want. Thank you for hanging out with me and I will talk to you on the next one.