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7 Spiritual Signs He’s From God: How to Discern a Godly Partner · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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  Hey sis, have you ever caught yourself wondering, how do I know if the person
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  I'm dating is actually sent from God?
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  Well, I've been there. I know what it's like to fall for potential,
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  to pray for confirmation, and to question if what you're feeling is love or
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  just another distraction.
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  But here's the truth. When it's from God, it comes with peace,
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  purpose, and growth, sis. In today's episode, I'm going to walk you through
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  seven signs that the person you're dating might actually be the one.
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  So whether you're in a new relationship, waiting on God's timing,
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  or just healing from that one that wasn't it, this episode is going to help
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  you discern what's real, what's right, and what's from Him.
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  I know you've been waiting for this one, sis. So grab your coffee,
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  your journal, and your heart. You're not going to want to miss it.
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  Hey, sis. Welcome to Girl Date the Good Guy podcast.
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  The space where we strip away the noise and get real about toxic cycles,
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  healing, and stepping into the love God has for us.
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  I'm your host, Emily Jordan, and I've been where you are.
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  Heartbroken, confused, and chasing love that didn't come from God.
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  Hey, thank you for being part of Girl Date the Good Guy podcast.
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  I would really appreciate it if you could take a moment to follow the show and leave a review.
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  Your support means the world to me, and it helps more women like you to discover this podcast.
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  Together, we can guide each other toward healing and truth, empowering one another
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  to embrace the kind of love that God has designed for us. Hey sis!
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  Today we're getting real about what God's kind of love looks like.
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  The kind that draws you closer to Jesus, not further away.
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  We're going to unpack seven spiritual signs that truly matter.
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  Growing closer to Jesus together, accountability, attraction,
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  values, community confirmation, and that unmistakable peace that comes when
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  God's hand is truly on your relationship. So let's begin.
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  Listen sis, I know firsthand what it's like not to pray before dating or marrying,
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  to ignore discernment, and to end up stuck in that painful cycle of a broken heart.
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  That's exactly why I want to help you discern these relationships better so
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  you can recognize when it's a God-given connection and not your own fleshly desire.
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  Because the truth is, the devil sends people too.
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  Take it from me. After my first marriage, I was a complete mess.
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  I genuinely cared for that man, but the truth is, he said he was a Christian
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  while his life told a completely different story.
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  There was no lasting fruit, no real spiritual growth.
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  He was a man-child in every sense of the word, immature, selfish,
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  and leading me further away from God instead of closer to Him.
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  That's why it's so important to watch a person's character, not just their words,
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  not the potential you hope they'll grow into, but who they really are at the core right now.
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  I was so young and naive back then, and I fell in love with an idea,
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  not the reality in front of me.
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  And then came my second marriage. Oh, that one was such a ringer.
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  This man was deep in the world, the kind of man that the Bible warns us about.
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  You know when scripture says the love of money is the root of all evil?
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  That was him to a T. He had everything money could buy, but was spiritually bankrupt.
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  Honestly, he made the rich fool from the parable in the Bible look good.
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  Both of those relationships taught me that discernment isn't optional. It's essential.
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  Because not every man who says he knows God is walking with him.
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  And not every blessing-looking thing is sent from heaven.
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  Some are sent to distract, deceive, and destroy.
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  Since the enemy is slick, he knows exactly what your broken heart craves.
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  Attention, affection, validation.
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  And if you're not grounded in your identity in Christ, He'll send you someone
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  who looks like everything you've prayed for, but whose presence slowly pulls
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  you away from your purpose.
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  That's why prayer and patience are so important.
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  You can't rush what God is still preparing. I learned that the hard way.
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  Rushing into relationships without asking, Lord, is this man from you?
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  I wanted love so badly that I tried to create it myself, and all I ended up
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  with was heartbreak and confusion.
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  Now, I've learned to pause, to pray, to test the fruit, because a God-sent man
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  will never pull you away from your peace, your purpose, or your pursuit of Jesus.
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  He'll protect it, he'll nourish it, and he'll lead you straight to the Father.
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  So here are seven signs that the person you're dating might actually be the one.
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  Not by the world's standards, but by God's. Number one.
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  You're both growing closer to Jesus. This is the foundation.
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  Are you both spiritually growing? Is this person helping you become more like Christ?
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  Because the right relationship doesn't distract you from God.
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  It draws you closer to Him.
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  When my boyfriend and I first started dating, we decided from the beginning
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  that Jesus would be at the center.
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  So every week, we have Bible study together. We read scripture,
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  talk about what God is teaching us, It's become one of the sweetest parts of our relationship.
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  He draws me closer in the kindest, most gentle way, the kind of love that reflects Christ's heart.
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  It makes me feel so deeply cherished because I can see how intentionally He
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  guides me, in truth, in light, and in love.
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  Our connection is something sacred, something beautifully rare.
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  And to think, I waited 10 years for this, sis.
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  10 years of healing, growing, and trusting that God would bring the right one at the right time.
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  I'm so glad I waited because now I understand why the wait was worth it.
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  And now we're building a solid foundation rooted in God.
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  Because when you're both committed to spiritual growth, you're building something
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  that can withstand anything and lasts a lifetime. Number two.
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  You can talk about your struggles, even your sins.
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  Let's be real. No one's perfect. But when you're with the one God has for you,
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  you can talk openly about the things you're wrestling with.
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  Can you talk to this person about your struggles?
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  Can you confess and pray together, holding each other accountable in love?
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  Because accountability is a powerful sign of spiritual maturity.
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  And it's something that will strengthen your relationship, not
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  tear it down number three jesus is
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  at the center not on the side now
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  you can enjoy each other you can have hobbies you can
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  laugh you can travel all of that is beautiful but if jesus isn't at the center
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  the relationship can easily draw drift off course if you find that your relationship
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  doesn't naturally point back to god that's something to pause and pray about
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  but if you can bring it up,
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  and your partner responds with
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  a willingness to grow and honor God with you, then that's a good sign.
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  The relationship doesn't have to be perfect, but it should be moving in the right direction.
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  Number four, you're both physically and emotionally attracted to one another.
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  Yes, attraction matters.
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  God gave us those desires for a reason. And let me tell you,
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  when I met my guy, more on that later, the attraction between us was magnetic and still is.
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  But what makes it even more beautiful is it's grounded in respect,
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  purity, and friendship.
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  He's literally my best friend. He's gentle, kind, self-controlled.
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  And every day we draw closer to each other and to God.
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  It feels like God saved the best for last.
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  It's simple, it's peaceful, it's real.
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  Number five, you share the same values. This is big.
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  Do your lives align? I'm not talking about watching the same shows or liking
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  the same foods. I mean the deeper stuff.
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  Do you both think the same way about money, family, your future,
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  faith, and purpose? Are you headed in the same direction?
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  Because if one is chasing God's will and the other is chasing the world,
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  there's going to be tension.
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  Number six, the people who love you most affirm the relationship.
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  Sometimes God uses community to confirm what he's already speaking in your heart.
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  Do your friends, your pastor, and your parents affirm your relationship?
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  Do the people who know and love you say, I see fruit in this. This feels right.
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  When my family met my boyfriend, they said, he's so kind, he's genuine,
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  and I could just sense God's peace in that moment.
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  Because sometimes the people who love us most can see what we can't see.
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  Number seven, you have peace about your future together.
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  Now, listen, that doesn't mean you have it all figured out.
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  But as you pray about your relationship, as you seek God about it, do you feel peace?
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  Is your desire for this person growing in a healthy way? Because peace isn't
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  loud or dramatic. It's study.
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  It's that quiet knowing that God's hand is in it.
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  So for your homework, sis, if you're listening right now and wondering,
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  how do I know if this is the one, I want you to take a deep breath,
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  get your journal, and I want you to ask yourself these seven questions.
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  Write each question out and answer them so you can better discern the relationship you are in.
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  Are we both growing in Christ?
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  Can we be honest about our weaknesses? is? Is Jesus truly at the center?
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  Are we physically and emotionally attracted to one another? Do we share the same values?
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  Do the people who love me affirm this? Do I feel peace when I pray about it?
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  All right, sis, if you can answer yes to those questions, there's a good chance
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  this relationship is bearing the kind of fruit that lasts.
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  So ladies, when God writes the love story, it's not rushed, it's not confusing,
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  and it's not manipulative.
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  It's covered in grace, truth, and peace.
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  So don't you dare settle for less than God's best for you, because when God
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  is in it, sis, you'll know it.
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  Not because it's perfect, but because it's holy.
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  If this episode encouraged you, make sure to share it with a friend who's in
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  that season of wondering.
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  And if you can leave a review with what part of this episode inspired you.
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  I would love to hear from you. Talk soon, sis.
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  Thank you for tuning in to Girl Date the Good Guy. Until next time,
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  keep your heart soft, your standards high, and your faith even higher.