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Renew Yourself | Episode #409 · Legacy Living with Dr. Gloria Burgess

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  Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to today's show, Legacy Living, Make Your
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  Speaker 1: Life Count. I'm your host, Doctor Gloria Gloria Burgess, international
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  Speaker 1: leadership expert and trusted advisor. Welcome to Legacy Living, Make
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  Speaker 1: your Life Count. I'm so delighted that you join me today.
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  Speaker 1: I have a wonderful show for you. In a previous episode,
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  Speaker 1: I shared with you the importance of slowing down and
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  Speaker 1: some of my favorite ways to do just that so
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  Speaker 1: you can take good care of yourself when your life
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  Speaker 1: gets a little frenetic, or when you're feeling frazzled or
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  Speaker 1: just plain fried, or maybe when you are simply feeling overwhelmed.
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  Speaker 1: And let's face it, we all get a bit overwhelmed
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  Speaker 1: at times. Today, I'm going to focus on some specific
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  Speaker 1: ways that you can be intentional about cultivating and creating
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  Speaker 1: practices that will support you in integrating rest and renewal
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  Speaker 1: as a part of your everyday life. Okay, all right, now,
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  Speaker 1: you can help me as I incorporate the practice of
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  Speaker 1: asking you to share the wealth with somebody else. After
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  Speaker 1: you listen to this episode, I want you to tell
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  Speaker 1: somebody your sister, your brother, your mother, your father, your
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  Speaker 1: best friend. I want you to tell someone who can
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  Speaker 1: benefit from what I share with you in this very
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  Speaker 1: special episode. And I also want you to be sure
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  Speaker 1: to come back to this podcast over and over again
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  Speaker 1: when you need someone to remind you to hit the
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  Speaker 1: pause button and slow down so that you can take
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  Speaker 1: time to take good care of yourself. All right, let's
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  Speaker 1: get started. Did you know that rest is the original
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  Speaker 1: transformative technology. That's right now. That's according to doctor Matthew Edlund.
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  Speaker 1: Doctor Edlin reminds us that through rest we rebuild, rewire,
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  Speaker 1: and renew ourselves. Literally. I love that, and he calls
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  Speaker 1: it the original transformative technology. So here's the point. If
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  Speaker 1: we want to transform ourselves, if we want to recreate ourselves, right,
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  Speaker 1: we must learn to elevate rest in our lives. When
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  Speaker 1: we elevate rest and make time for it, we rebuild, rewire,
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  Speaker 1: and renew ourselves, not once, not twice, but over and
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  Speaker 1: over and over again. I call this practice of rest sanctuary. Now,
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  Speaker 1: as I mentioned in a previous episode, I wrote a
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  Speaker 1: book called Sanctuary. You can check it out sometime on
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  Speaker 1: Amazon or through your local independent bookseller. In my book,
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  Speaker 1: I share many of the same things that I will
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  Speaker 1: share with you today. So if you're curious about developing
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  Speaker 1: a new habit, a new dance step, right, a new practice.
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  Speaker 1: Be sure to buy the book so that you can
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  Speaker 1: refer to it whenever you need to do so. So,
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  Speaker 1: how do we make way for sanctuary? Especially in our hectic,
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  Speaker 1: fast paced lives that seem to just be getting faster
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  Speaker 1: and faster and faster. How do you make room for sanctuary?
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to ask the question another way. How can
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  Speaker 1: we not make room for sanctuary? I mean, really, we
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  Speaker 1: all need to pause for refreshment and renewal. Now you
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  Speaker 1: all know that I'm a musician, right, and without pauses
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  Speaker 1: or rests, what we call music would be nothing more
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  Speaker 1: than a continuous stream of white noise. And the same
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  Speaker 1: thing is true in our lives. Can I just tell
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  Speaker 1: you something? Without pausing, without rest, the grand symphony of
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  Speaker 1: our life becomes nothing more than a continuous stream of
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  Speaker 1: meaningless activity. That's right, meaningless activity. But when we pause,
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  Speaker 1: we actually make way, We make way for sanctuary. This
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  Speaker 1: sacred pause provides gracious space for us to pay attention
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  Speaker 1: to the magnificent music of our lives. This sacred pause
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  Speaker 1: provides food to nourish our souls. Sanctuary calls us to
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  Speaker 1: get centered and grounded so we can attune to and
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  Speaker 1: tend to the parts of ourselves that are frazzled out
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  Speaker 1: of sync, or, as I said earlier, just plain fried. Now,
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  Speaker 1: it's been said that humans are profoundly rhythmic. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: it's the main way we communicate through language and through music.
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  Speaker 1: So I invite you to notice, just simply notice the
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  Speaker 1: song in your own heart. That song is your unique melody.
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  Speaker 1: That's right, that song is uniquely yours. Your melody is
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  Speaker 1: all about your why, your reason, your unique reason for
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  Speaker 1: being alive. Sanctuary invites you to ask yourself, am I
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  Speaker 1: singing my own song? Right? Am I singing my own song? Or?
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  Speaker 1: Or am I singing somebody else's song? In other words,
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  Speaker 1: am I being true to my unique purpose, my unique
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  Speaker 1: reason for being on the planet. I also want you
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  Speaker 1: to notice how you connect with others, because that's your harmony,
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  Speaker 1: which is how you relate, connect, engage with family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, plants, animals,
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  Speaker 1: and the rest of our planet. Sanctuary invites you to
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  Speaker 1: ask some very specific questions here. You might want to
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  Speaker 1: write these down. Am I living only for myself? Am
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  Speaker 1: I in tune? With my spouse, my kids. Am I
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  Speaker 1: connecting with my classmates or team members or friends? Am
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  Speaker 1: I a good neighbor? When I reach out to others?
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  Speaker 1: How might I serve them while also being faithful to myself? Now?
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  Speaker 1: I invite you also to notice your pace that's right?
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  Speaker 1: Your pace or your tempo? Is it fast or slow?
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  Speaker 1: Or is it just right? Sanctuary invites you to ask yourself,
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  Speaker 1: am I going so fast that I lose track of
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  Speaker 1: who and what's important to me? In other words, do
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  Speaker 1: I stop and smell the roses? Do I include time
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  Speaker 1: for friends and other loved ones? Or am I going
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  Speaker 1: so slow that I miss out on moments, opportunities and relationships?
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  Speaker 1: So your song has other parts to it. I invite
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  Speaker 1: you to notice your rhythm or your cadence right. Your
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  Speaker 1: rhythm is all about who and what you value. It's
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  Speaker 1: about who and what you put in the center of
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  Speaker 1: your life and who and what you put on the sidelines.
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  Speaker 1: Sanctuary invites you to ask yourself, who do I include?
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  Speaker 1: Who do I include? Who do I exclude? Do I
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  Speaker 1: pay attention to who and what has heart and meaning?
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  Speaker 1: What do I emphasize? How does this serve me and others?
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  Speaker 1: What new rhythms must I learn for this particular season
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  Speaker 1: of my life? Great questions, Right, So what's my point?
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  Speaker 1: Here's what I know. When we are in sync, when
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  Speaker 1: we're in concert with the music of our lives, our melody,
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  Speaker 1: our harmony, our tempo and rhythm, we attend to the
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  Speaker 1: condition and resonance of our soul. I'm going to repeat
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  Speaker 1: that again. When we are in sync, when we are
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  Speaker 1: in concert with the music of our lives, our melody,
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  Speaker 1: our harmony, tempo and rhythm, we attend to the condition
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  Speaker 1: and resonance of our soul. And as as we attend
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  Speaker 1: to that resonance of our own soul, at the same time,
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  Speaker 1: we're also attending to the condition and resonance of the
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  Speaker 1: world soul, this wondrous global village we call home. In
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  Speaker 1: other words, when we take care of ourselves, we're taking
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  Speaker 1: care of our community, our city, our state, our nation,
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  Speaker 1: and our world. When we are attuned to the music
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  Speaker 1: of our lives, we can reconnect to our highest calling. Now,
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  Speaker 1: in the exterior realm of doing, it is very very
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  Speaker 1: easy to just get off track, to lose your groove.
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  Speaker 1: It's very easy to get out of alignment and be
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  Speaker 1: out of harmony with yourself and with your calling, with
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  Speaker 1: your purpose. Right in this realm of doing, there is
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  Speaker 1: so much that conspires against you. Here are just a
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  Speaker 1: few of them. Competing priorities, distractions, limiting beliefs, self sufficiency, multitasking,
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  Speaker 1: old patterns, other people's agendas for you, your own insecurities,
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  Speaker 1: critical judgments, and so much more. I know that you
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  Speaker 1: could add even more things to this list. Sanctuary beckons you.
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  Speaker 1: It summons you to cross the threshold from doing to being. Now,
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  Speaker 1: what exactly is a threshold? That's a great question. A
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  Speaker 1: threshold is a very special kind of opening, an opening
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  Speaker 1: that allows you to walk away from the territory of
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  Speaker 1: external demands and step into a realm of inner freedom.
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  Speaker 1: Can I just tell you that when you cross that threshold,
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  Speaker 1: there's a great gift for you on the other side.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, there are five important resources that await you
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  Speaker 1: on the other side when you cross that threshold from
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  Speaker 1: doing to being. What are those five important resources? Well,
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  Speaker 1: let me tell you right now. Intention, commitment, compassion, humility,
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  Speaker 1: and joy. When you draw on these special resources and
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  Speaker 1: their spiritual resources, I just want to tell you that
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  Speaker 1: these resources are blessings, okay, and their blessings are absolutely immeasurable.
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  Speaker 1: Each one of these resources is an invitation, an invitation
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  Speaker 1: to you to make way for sanctuary. So let's talk
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  Speaker 1: a little bit about these spiritual resources, what they invite
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  Speaker 1: you to be and do, and the wonderful benefits that
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  Speaker 1: will come your way when you accept the invitation. So
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  Speaker 1: the first spiritual resource, again is intention in tension. Now,
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  Speaker 1: this is an invitation and the first invitation, and it's
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  Speaker 1: the first one on purpose because you I want to
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  Speaker 1: consciously set your intention. This spiritual resource offers the twin
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  Speaker 1: gifts of clarity and focus. Clarity and focus, when you
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  Speaker 1: set your intention to make a way for sanctuary, this
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  Speaker 1: life affirming action will actually ensure a difference in your
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  Speaker 1: life today and a different tomorrow. Now, if you're in
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  Speaker 1: a place where you have access to a candle, I
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  Speaker 1: want you to actually go get that candle. And if
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  Speaker 1: you don't, I want you to just imagine that you
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  Speaker 1: have a candle in front of you, and I want
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  Speaker 1: you to light a candle to remind yourself that setting
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  Speaker 1: your intention is a sacred moment. Lighting a candle is
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  Speaker 1: a time honored way to bring light into darkness, to
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  Speaker 1: bring light into a broken, frazzled world. In this way,
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  Speaker 1: lighting the candle, you focus your intention on what truly matters. Now,
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  Speaker 1: did you know that when you set your intention, it's
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  Speaker 1: actually an antidote. That's right, It's an antidote to distraction.
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  Speaker 1: So if you want to get rid of distraction, drama,
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  Speaker 1: and other disruptions or disturbances in your life, then you
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  Speaker 1: must be intentional. You must set your intention. The next
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  Speaker 1: spiritual resource is commitment. So let's talk about that. What
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  Speaker 1: is commitment. Well, Commitment is all about dedication and faithful
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  Speaker 1: commitment is about going all the way, not part of
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  Speaker 1: the way, but all the way. The invitation is to
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  Speaker 1: commit to your own well being. Making an intentional commitment
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  Speaker 1: to your own well being is a special gift, a
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  Speaker 1: gift from you and for you. This gift draws you
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  Speaker 1: in to an oasis of self love and self care.
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  Speaker 1: Here in this awesome, beautiful oasis, you can refresh yourself
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  Speaker 1: in the sacred waters of all beauty, humor, joy, play, silence, solitude,
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  Speaker 1: and wonder. I want you to take the time to
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  Speaker 1: write this out. So if you don't already have a
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  Speaker 1: notepad or a small sheet of paper, a sticky note,
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  Speaker 1: go and get yourself one, okay, and write this down.
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  Speaker 1: I commit to my own wellbeing. Okay, I commit to
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  Speaker 1: my own well being. And I want you to put
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  Speaker 1: your note in a place where you will see it
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  Speaker 1: throughout the day. Maybe it's your kitchen, your refrigerator, maybe
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  Speaker 1: it's your mirror and your bathroom, wherever it is that
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  Speaker 1: you pass through day after day, and you can look
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  Speaker 1: at that several times a day. I want you to
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  Speaker 1: see that note that you just wrote to yourself, and
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  Speaker 1: I want you to do this for the next thirty days.
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  Speaker 1: Why because it takes about that long twenty eight to
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  Speaker 1: thirty days to form a new habit. Okay. Now, commitment
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  Speaker 1: turns vision into volition, all right. The next spiritual resource
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  Speaker 1: is compassion. And compassion is all about being aware and
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  Speaker 1: caring and kind. It's also about being courageous, about being
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  Speaker 1: willing to help others who are suffering. Compassion invites you
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  Speaker 1: to begin with yourself, which is a wondrous gift. Why
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  Speaker 1: because beginning with yourself opens your heart to have compassion
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  Speaker 1: and mercy for others. Now, I want you to find
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  Speaker 1: a few things around your home, or your yard or
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  Speaker 1: your office that are heart shaped. I enjoy collecting heart
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  Speaker 1: shaped rocks over the years. People who know me know
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  Speaker 1: I love to collect hearts, so I've received gifts of
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  Speaker 1: heart shaped from wood, from onyx, soapstone. I also love
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  Speaker 1: photos of plants with heart shaped leaves. I know when
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  Speaker 1: I go on my walks, I actually look for plants
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  Speaker 1: with heart shaped leaves as well. Hasta beech trees, violets,
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  Speaker 1: morning glory, and thurium. Love love those plants. Right now,
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  Speaker 1: take a picture, either a mental picture or a physical picture,
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  Speaker 1: of your favorite heart shape, and keep it as a
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  Speaker 1: reminder as your own heart opens, to have greater compassion
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  Speaker 1: for yourself and for other folks in your life. The
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  Speaker 1: Dali Lama reminds us that love and compassion are necessities,
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  Speaker 1: not luxuries. Without them, he says, humanity cannot survive. So
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  Speaker 1: love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity
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  Speaker 1: cannot survive humility. So what is humility? A lot of
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  Speaker 1: us get confused about humility. Humility is not thinking any
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  Speaker 1: more or less of yourself than you think of anyone else.
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  Speaker 1: That's right. In other words, you value and honor yourself
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  Speaker 1: the same as you do other people. Humility invites you
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  Speaker 1: to ask yourself a very important question, How can I
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  Speaker 1: support my own health and happiness in this moment? Now,
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  Speaker 1: one of the many gifts of humility is inspiration. Inspire
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  Speaker 1: comes from the Latin word inspirare, which means to breathe
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  Speaker 1: into or upon. When we are inspired, we are infused
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  Speaker 1: with life from a force outside of ourselves. I'm a
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  Speaker 1: person of faith, so I believe that God is that
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  Speaker 1: force that breathes into and upon us to infuse us
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  Speaker 1: with new life. Now, on your daily or weekly to
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  Speaker 1: do list, I want you to be sure to write
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  Speaker 1: your own name, Okay, on your daily or weekly to
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  Speaker 1: do list, please be sure to include in that list
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  Speaker 1: your own name, and I want you to write the
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  Speaker 1: word sanctuary next to your name, and be sure to
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  Speaker 1: put your name and sanctuary on the very top of
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  Speaker 1: your daily or your weekly to do list. Okay. The
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  Speaker 1: next spiritual resource is joy. Now. Joy invites us to
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  Speaker 1: recognize the divinity within ourselves. That's right, the divinity within ourselves. Now,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes we confuse happiness and joy. Okay, Happiness comes from
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  Speaker 1: the outside. Joy comes from within. Happiness is a free
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  Speaker 1: flowing stream. Joy is whitewater, Exhilarationiness is often fleeting right
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  Speaker 1: here today poof gone. Joy is constant, true joy, which
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  Speaker 1: is a precious, precious gift comes from the satisfaction of
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  Speaker 1: being content with and faithful to who and whose you are.
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  Speaker 1: Let Pierre teal Hard des Chardin's words encourage you. He says,
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  Speaker 1: joy is the infallible sign of the presence of God.
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  Speaker 1: I love that, So celebrate yourself, sing your favorite song,
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  Speaker 1: and dance like no one is watching. Now, I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to give you a few practices to help you cultivate sanctuary. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: the spiritual resources help you make a way for sanctuary,
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  Speaker 1: and these are the practices to help you cultivate sanctuary.
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  Speaker 1: Roomy says, there's a way of breathing. There is a
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  Speaker 1: way of breathing that's a shame and a suffocation, and
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  Speaker 1: there's another way of expiring a love breath that lets
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  Speaker 1: you open infinitely. Practices form us. In other words, practices
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  Speaker 1: train us how to be as we move through our days.
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  Speaker 1: A good practice is life giving and life affirming. Like
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  Speaker 1: a love breath, it allows our soul to open wide.
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  Speaker 1: Can I just tell you that life is exquisitely better
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  Speaker 1: when you include at least one life giving practice in
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  Speaker 1: the regular rhythm of your daily and weekly routines. Your
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  Speaker 1: practice can be as simple as saying thank you to
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  Speaker 1: welcome each new day, or it can be something more,
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  Speaker 1: maybe five minutes each day to jot down who and
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  Speaker 1: what you're grateful for, five minutes of being still absolutely
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  Speaker 1: still on purpose, and then next week bump it up
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  Speaker 1: to ten minutes. Here's what matters most. Be intentional and
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  Speaker 1: choose a practice that delights and refreshes you. Because if
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  Speaker 1: it's a chore and if you dread doing it, guess what,
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  Speaker 1: it won't be a practice. It won't be a life
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  Speaker 1: giving practice. Right, So be intentional and choose a practice
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  Speaker 1: that both delights you, makes you laugh, makes your face
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  Speaker 1: just light up, and a practice that refreshes you. Now
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  Speaker 1: when you do this, when you make that choice, you
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  Speaker 1: will find it much much easier to commit to your
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  Speaker 1: practice on a regular basis. In fact, I like to say,
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  Speaker 1: when you practice your practice regularly and with delight, it
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  Speaker 1: can actually make your interior life more bountiful and satisfying.
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  Speaker 1: And as that bounty and satisfaction renews and invigorates your
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  Speaker 1: inner life, it will begin to seep into your outer life.
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  Speaker 1: So let's talk a little bit more about these practices
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  Speaker 1: Sanctuary practices. Now, sanctuary speaks the language of the soul.
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  Speaker 1: Some of you may not know about what that means.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm going to just share a little bit about
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  Speaker 1: the language of the soul. The soul's language includes gratitude, beauty,
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  Speaker 1: and silence. Right now, there are numerous practices from many
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  Speaker 1: contexts around the world that cultivate sanctuary. The key practices
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  Speaker 1: that I want to share with you are gratitude, beauty, silence,
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  Speaker 1: those languages of the soul, right, gratitude, beauty, silence, music, solitude,
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  Speaker 1: being with nature, prayer, slowing, and reflection. Now, I've used
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  Speaker 1: these practices with people of all ages in contexts aerospace, business, civic, community, education,
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  Speaker 1: faith based finance, healthcare, human services, tech, right it, law, leadership, development,
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  Speaker 1: the military, philanthropy, political science, social justice, and on and on.
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  Speaker 1: I wish I had time to delve into all the
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  Speaker 1: places and all the practices right here, but I don't.
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  Speaker 1: So if you want to learn more again, please check
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  Speaker 1: out my book, which is called Sanctuary. Here's what I
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  Speaker 1: want you to do. As you learn about the different
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  Speaker 1: practices that I'll share with you today, I want you
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  Speaker 1: to choose just one, just one that suits you and
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  Speaker 1: then try it out for a while, right, And then
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  Speaker 1: when you get used to it and you go, oh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I really like this one. This is really a good
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  Speaker 1: fit for me. Then I want you to add another practice. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: all right, here we go. Gratitude. Now, Gratitude is the
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  Speaker 1: soul's way of having fun, right, It's the soul's way
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  Speaker 1: of rejoicing. Gratitude is a time honored way to express
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  Speaker 1: our joy for the amazing, abundant blessings in our lives.
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  Speaker 1: Expressing gratitude is also a way to pause, just to
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  Speaker 1: pause and remember that each day is a precious gift.
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  Speaker 1: When you express gratitude, share your joy and celebrate your blessings,
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  Speaker 1: you open your heart and open the door to new
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  Speaker 1: possibilities and greater abundance. Now you can cultivate the practice
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  Speaker 1: of gratitude by being present to and grateful for the
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  Speaker 1: abundant grace, mercies, protections, and miracles in your life. Because
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  Speaker 1: of these bountiful blessings, you are here. You are here,
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  Speaker 1: you are alive, You're vibrant, and you are astonishing. So
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  Speaker 1: give thanks daily, give thanks continually. I want you to
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  Speaker 1: carry this practice with you wherever you go. The practice
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  Speaker 1: of gratitude. M. J. Ryan helps us remember. She says,
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  Speaker 1: consciously cultivating thankfulness is a journey of the soul, one
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  Speaker 1: that begins when we look around us and see the
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  Speaker 1: positive effects that gratitude creates. So gratitude is more than
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  Speaker 1: just writing down your blessings or writing out thank you
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  Speaker 1: notes or saying thank you. Right, gratitude can actually become
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  Speaker 1: a way of being through practice. Right that thirty days
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  Speaker 1: of practice, trying it on and thirty days right, you're repeating,
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  Speaker 1: you're repeating, you're repeating, You're in training yourself, and you
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  Speaker 1: can actually transition from doing gratitude into becoming and being gratitude.
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  Speaker 1: Another practice is beauty. Now, beauty is food for our soul.
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  Speaker 1: Thomas Moore reminds us that what food is to the body, arresting,
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  Speaker 1: complex and pleasing images are to the soul. And so
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  Speaker 1: are arresting complex and please using places, sounds, and experiences.
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  Speaker 1: That's why it takes our breath away when we witness
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  Speaker 1: an exquisite per Simon sunset right, it takes our breath
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  Speaker 1: away when we hear beautiful soul stirring music like a
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  Speaker 1: jazz suite by John Coltrane. When we experience the awesome
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  Speaker 1: wonder of a solitary shooting star against a black expanse
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  Speaker 1: of sky. We embrace our full humanity and divinity when
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  Speaker 1: we are aware of and in contact with that which
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  Speaker 1: is beautiful. Remember, remember that beauty is everywhere. Cultivate the
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  Speaker 1: practice of beauty by being aware of the astonishing beauty
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  Speaker 1: all around you. Here are a few examples, the smile
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  Speaker 1: of a child, wind whispering in the trees, first flowers
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  Speaker 1: that push through the warming earth after winter's long chill,
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  Speaker 1: yellow crocus, grape, hyacinthe paper white narcissus. A few more examples,
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  Speaker 1: the satisfying shape of a hand thrown vase, the aroma
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  Speaker 1: of just baked bread, the amazing artistry of corn rowed hair.
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  Speaker 1: Acknowledge the beauty in your life, not just once in
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  Speaker 1: a while, but every single day, and as you take
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  Speaker 1: in beauty, your soul will become more beautiful. Our sisters
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  Speaker 1: and brothers from the Navajo Nation encourage us to walk
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  Speaker 1: in beauty, so that we might carry beauty with us
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  Speaker 1: and imbue beauty at all times. Let the words of
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  Speaker 1: this beautiful Navajo prayer inspire you. Let it breathe into
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  Speaker 1: you happily. May I walk. May it be beautiful before me,
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  Speaker 1: May it be beautiful behind me, May it be beautiful
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  Speaker 1: below me, May it be beautiful above me. May it
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  Speaker 1: be beautiful all around me. In beauty it is finished.
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  Speaker 1: I agree with Joan Chittister when she says it is
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  Speaker 1: the beauty within us that makes it possible for us
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  Speaker 1: to recognize the beauty around us. And now the practice
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  Speaker 1: of silence. Silence is that gracious space where there is
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  Speaker 1: no sound, no activity, or words. I'm gonna repeat that
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  Speaker 1: silence is that gracious space where there is no sound,
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  Speaker 1: no activity, or words. We often think as silence as
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  Speaker 1: just having no sound, but that's not it. No sound,
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  Speaker 1: no activity, no words. In our noise polluted culture, silence
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  Speaker 1: is not just a luxury, it is a necessity. In silence,
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  Speaker 1: we actually hear what is essential. In silence, we can
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  Speaker 1: listen for and attend to the deep desires of our
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  Speaker 1: own heart. As poet Rayner Mariah Ricca reminds us, our
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  Speaker 1: task is to listen to the news that is always
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  Speaker 1: arriving out of silence. In silence, we can develop an
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  Speaker 1: intimacy with ourselves that's otherwise impossible. And I love that
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  Speaker 1: word intimacy. If you think about it, it kind of
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  Speaker 1: sounds like into me ce. So in silence we can
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  Speaker 1: develop an into me see an intimacy with ourselves that
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  Speaker 1: is otherwise impossible. In silence, we rest and renew ourselves emotionally, intellectually, physically,
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  Speaker 1: and spiritually. Now you can cultivate the practice of silence
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  Speaker 1: by turning off your cell phone, by turning off your iPad,
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  Speaker 1: by turning off your computer, your radio, your TV, your
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  Speaker 1: video games, and then you can appreciate the silence. I
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  Speaker 1: want you to find a time when you will not
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  Speaker 1: be interrupted or distracted, and then find a place real
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  Speaker 1: or imaginary to practice silence daily. Begin with five minutes
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  Speaker 1: next week, try ten minutes. The following week, try fifteen minutes,
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  Speaker 1: then thirty. Then try to practice silence for sixty minutes
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  Speaker 1: each day. Now, for some of you this might be
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  Speaker 1: a little hard, right, so give yourself some grace. Start
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  Speaker 1: with five, then ten, then fifteen, then thirty, and then
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  Speaker 1: try sixty minutes each day. In this spacious silence, Mother
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  Speaker 1: Teresa instructs us you can hear God everywhere, in the
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  Speaker 1: closing of the door, in the person who needs you,
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  Speaker 1: in the birds sing in the flowers in the animals.
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  Speaker 1: How about music, music as a practice. Now, throughout the ages,
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  Speaker 1: the art of music has held a sacred place in
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  Speaker 1: our lives. However, in our contemporary culture, music's higher purposes
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  Speaker 1: have been muted or forgotten altogether. Once intended to illuminate,
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  Speaker 1: uplift and assist in humanity spiritual evolution, we now use
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  Speaker 1: music as a mere prop for marketing or as mundane entertainment.
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  Speaker 1: Now that's not wholesale, but oftentimes that's how music is
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  Speaker 1: used in our culture. But you know what music is
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  Speaker 1: so much more beyond being a sacred treasure. Music is
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  Speaker 1: love and sorrow, imagination and wonder made audible. When we
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  Speaker 1: create music or listen to it and honor it for
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  Speaker 1: the precious gift it provides, our lives are vastly enriched,
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  Speaker 1: vastly improved. You can cultivate the practice of creating or
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  Speaker 1: listening to music by humming a melody you already know,
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  Speaker 1: or hey, create your own song. You can also listen
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  Speaker 1: to uplifting or soothing music. And I want you to
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  Speaker 1: try listening to music without words, Okay, without the words,
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  Speaker 1: just instrumental music, so you aren't distracted by the message.
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  Speaker 1: The words of the lyrics. Bring instrumental music into your
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  Speaker 1: life daily, or simply hung hum, hum the song in
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  Speaker 1: your own heart. I agree with Aldus Huxley, who says,
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  Speaker 1: after silence, that which comes nearest to expressing the inexpressible
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  Speaker 1: is music. Now the practice of solitude. Solitude is uninterrupted
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  Speaker 1: time for you to be alone, uninterrupted, undistracted, undisturbed. Solitude
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  Speaker 1: means unplugging from your electronics, your computers, your tablets, your
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  Speaker 1: cell phones. It means getting off the grid right and
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  Speaker 1: away from it all. Solitude provides us with the oxygen
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  Speaker 1: required for deep rest, renewal, and restoration. In solitude, your
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  Speaker 1: soul just opens wide and you can listen deeply. You
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  Speaker 1: can reconnect with who you are when you are not
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  Speaker 1: overly identified with the many roles you play at work,
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  Speaker 1: at home, and your family and your community. Right now,
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  Speaker 1: I want you to cultivate the practice of solitude by
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  Speaker 1: making time to be alone alone right and I want
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  Speaker 1: you to practice being alone at least once a week,
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  Speaker 1: Set aside at least one hour on the same day
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  Speaker 1: each week, and make a date with yourself, put it
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  Speaker 1: on your calendar. And then I want you to expand
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  Speaker 1: your weekly rhythm. Okay, your weekly rhythm of making a
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  Speaker 1: date with yourself to encclude a half day or day
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  Speaker 1: long solo retreat once a month. It's been said that
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  Speaker 1: in solitude we are silent so that we may hear focused,
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  Speaker 1: so that we may craft substantial things. Indeed, solitude is
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  Speaker 1: the furnace of transformation. Now, as I mentioned earlier, there
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  Speaker 1: are many, many practices to cultivate sanctuary. Today we've talked
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  Speaker 1: about gratitude, beauty, silence, music, and solitude. If you want
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  Speaker 1: All right, I hope my words have inspired you today.
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