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FEELING LIKE YOU'RE NOT ENOUGH ?! · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up bond Relatables. No one knows you and no
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  Speaker 1: one knows your partner better than you two. So all
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  Speaker 1: these expectations you have about when someone should get engaged,
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  Speaker 1: when someone should say I love you, anything like that,
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  Speaker 1: Like who gives a fuck? As long as you're happy. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: Like that's all the matters that you and your partner
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  Speaker 1: figure it out together what works for you.
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  Speaker 2: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka Daddy,
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  Speaker 2: and my partner in crime, the one that I have
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  Speaker 2: a bone to pick with, Budie Clark aka Mummy.
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  Speaker 1: Another bone? Another bone? Is this one valid? This is
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  Speaker 1: a valid bone? All right? All right? This is a
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  Speaker 1: valid what's that trend? At the moment we listen and
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  Speaker 1: we don't what is it? We listen and we don't judge.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe you should have done that, because oh listen, I
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  Speaker 2: need basically for the before we listen and we don't judge,
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  Speaker 2: I would need an admission of guilt from you. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to listen and I'm pre judged for like
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  Speaker 2: a week.
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  Speaker 1: Usually I have a big rebuttal or. I like to
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  Speaker 1: reflect and then go harder on you. Okay, Okay, so
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  Speaker 1: go the floor.
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  Speaker 2: This is like a story that the first thing I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to say is is the story.
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  Speaker 1: Somehow starts from when you get home from Balley, So
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  Speaker 1: like months ago? What that is? Eight ago? So long ago? September?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, okay, so this is like it starts there,
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  Speaker 2: but it doesn't start so probably I'm going to say,
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  Speaker 2: so if Harry was here, it's just like four days
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  Speaker 2: before Harry got here. So a week and a half,
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  Speaker 2: two weeks ago, nearly, I was driving to Beth's place,
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  Speaker 2: and I think.
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  Speaker 1: I'll just go on there, just like just go see you,
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  Speaker 1: just a normal little trip down to Sydney.
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  Speaker 2: And I was leaving in the morning or no, I
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  Speaker 2: was leaving the afternoon, and I was a little tired,
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  Speaker 2: and it was early enough to have a coffee still
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  Speaker 2: at it was like two, and I was like, four
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  Speaker 2: is like my threshold because I need like a sold six.
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  Speaker 1: Hours before I got a better no caffee okay, sure,
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  Speaker 1: and so I don't care. It was about too hey,
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  Speaker 1: don't be like that. We listen and.
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  Speaker 2: So okay, okay, So I got a coffee from McDonald's.
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  Speaker 2: What coffee I actually do need.
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  Speaker 1: To tell you? It adds to the story.
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  Speaker 2: I got a large I sed allong black with a
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  Speaker 2: dash of milk, okay, just a dash. Probably like three
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  Speaker 2: quarters of it was the water and the coffee and
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  Speaker 2: the full quarter was milk.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so fair bit of milk and a large coffee.
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  Speaker 1: I'm with you. And then I leave Oxford. You didn't
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  Speaker 1: know what macas I was at. And then I leave,
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  Speaker 1: and then I'm just vibing in the car. I'm listening.
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  Speaker 2: I think I must have been listening to Hamishnandi, remembering
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  Speaker 2: project I've been vibing with that podcast lately.
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  Speaker 1: Shout out to them. And then I was there was
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  Speaker 1: it was half full.
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  Speaker 2: My cup was half full, I think, like you half full, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: it wasn't half empty. And I was halfway on the freeway.
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  Speaker 2: I was like halfway to Sydney Freeways one ten, chilling
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  Speaker 2: in my little gets, pick up my cup, sit back down,
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  Speaker 2: edge of the cup hits something spills everywhere all over the.
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  Speaker 1: Floor in front of me right and I.
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  Speaker 2: Was like, ah, like it was like the the amount
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  Speaker 2: of mad where I was driving. And I was like hmm,
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  Speaker 2: like I just couldn't do anything.
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  Speaker 1: I can't clean up.
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  Speaker 2: I was on the freeway was I've gone past the
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  Speaker 2: Mooney Bridge fucking rest stop. I can't clean it up,
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  Speaker 2: and so I just like drive without letting my heels
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  Speaker 2: touch the floor now because there's fucking it's just stranded
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  Speaker 2: to fucking coffee.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, ah, were barefoot? I was.
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  Speaker 2: I had these and I like take them off to drive.
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  Speaker 2: So I was barefoot, I had sides on, and so I.
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  Speaker 1: Was like, oh no, it's kind of stink.
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  Speaker 2: And I had I had something to go to that night,
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  Speaker 2: me and Beth would go into the Spotify thing in Sydney,
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  Speaker 2: and so I get, I park at Bets and I
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  Speaker 2: get there and I'm like, oh fuck, I spilled my
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  Speaker 2: coffee in the car. It's such I'm so mad, and
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  Speaker 2: didn't have time to clean it because we had to
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  Speaker 2: go straight there.
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  Speaker 1: We were running late, and I was like, it's going
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  Speaker 1: to smell.
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  Speaker 2: It's going to cook in the sun and it's going
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  Speaker 2: to smell, and so we're hoping the car go there.
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  Speaker 2: After the event, I remember getting the car thinking all
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  Speaker 2: already stinks a bit, ay, like you know that smell,
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  Speaker 2: the sour coffee smell, and then leave her get back
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  Speaker 2: to her place next morning, back in the car, and
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  Speaker 2: it's getting worse a I was like, what the fuck?
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  Speaker 2: I was like, this is kind of like worse than
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  Speaker 2: I thought it was going to be. And then that
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  Speaker 2: day I had time to go buy the foaming decent
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  Speaker 2: spray you can do for carpets, and I bought a
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  Speaker 2: full a border full can sprayed it foams up, and
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  Speaker 2: I was like, okay, I'm sweet back in the car
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  Speaker 2: after a couple of hours of doing.
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  Speaker 1: Something stinks like shit, right, stinks like shit.
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  Speaker 2: And then I have like two days at my house
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  Speaker 2: of my car smelling terrible, okay spray. I I empty
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  Speaker 2: two full cans of the foaming deodorizer spray, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: how the fuck is the scent of milk and not
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  Speaker 2: out of my cot? Like it only spilled my driver's seat,
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  Speaker 2: and I was spraying everywhere in my drive.
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  Speaker 1: Did you think of like washing up some water and
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  Speaker 1: like turning out like a brush.
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  Speaker 2: So I called my step mum and she was like,
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  Speaker 2: get like warm soapy water and just douse it in
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  Speaker 2: there because the warm soapy water should kill it. And
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  Speaker 2: I was like, okay, and so did that smell still there?
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  Speaker 2: Go pick up Harry. I got Beth, I got Casey
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  Speaker 2: best best friend. We pick up Harry, but Henry in
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  Speaker 2: the car. I was in Dad's car, so they didn't
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  Speaker 2: have the smell, right, And so I was talking to
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  Speaker 2: them about the smell that.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, what there? And they were like, are you, like,
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  Speaker 1: are you sure like you didn't.
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  Speaker 2: Just like spill it anywhere else or you didn't spill
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  Speaker 2: it somewhere else at the same time or something else,
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, no, I didn't they have. The
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  Speaker 2: next day we go to the photo shoot for the shirts.
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  Speaker 2: They get in the car. They have to experience the
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  Speaker 2: smell and it's bad now, right, that's that day and
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  Speaker 2: Harry Harry goes Jake, that's not milk. And I said, Harry,
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  Speaker 2: what else is it going to fucking be? You only
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  Speaker 2: have spilt my car is milk? I was like giving
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  Speaker 2: him shit I was talking about. I was like, what
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  Speaker 2: the fuck? And then we get home and we just
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  Speaker 2: go like I start doing stuff with the photos that
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  Speaker 2: I start editing something, and then he's like, oh, can
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  Speaker 2: I go I've left my water boil up to your car.
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  Speaker 2: Can I go and lock it? I was like, oh, yeah, whatever,
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  Speaker 2: I go get it. Blah blah blah.
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  Speaker 1: And then He comes down and he goes.
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  Speaker 2: Wasn't the milk A oh no, no, no, no, He goes, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I only could have been milk. Ah, And he walks
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  Speaker 2: in within his hand an orange juice bottle that had
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  Speaker 2: little that had like a half full of fucking orange
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  Speaker 2: juice in it with pulp that had been in there
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  Speaker 2: with the lid on for so long that it fermented
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  Speaker 2: and fucking exploded somehow. At the same time, I fucking
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  Speaker 2: spilt my milk and I was like, what, And he said,
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  Speaker 2: it's all over the floor under the passenger seat. Your
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  Speaker 2: orange juice from when I picked you up from the
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  Speaker 2: airport when you go from Bali and we stopped at
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  Speaker 2: the pedro station, that you got an orange juice.
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  Speaker 1: The timing on that seems a little bit too.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, this is two coincidental, and he goes, nah,
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  Speaker 2: I stick my head under looking for my water bottle.
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  Speaker 1: There it is. And as soon as he took that
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  Speaker 1: out of the car the next day, smell fine. Really
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  Speaker 1: it was like I had to be that. I couldn't
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  Speaker 1: believe it. And also the timing on that, are you
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  Speaker 1: sure it's crazy? Should have brought a lot of it too,
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  Speaker 1: Sure it's fine, you want to drink orange.
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  Speaker 2: Juice, and the only person that's had to watch juice
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  Speaker 2: in my car is you want to pick you up
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  Speaker 2: from the airport. So this is what I get for
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  Speaker 2: picking you up from the Airport's best not like orange juice.
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  Speaker 1: She didn't, she hasn't had tone juice in my car.
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  Speaker 2: We're both adults and we drink coffee. Would you like
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  Speaker 2: me to listen and not have my rebuttal? Yeah, I
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  Speaker 2: would let you to listen, not rebot. You can ray
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  Speaker 2: if you have a rebuttal, No.
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  Speaker 1: I'll own it and say apologies. We actually that day
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  Speaker 1: I had a big flight overnight fly. We had to
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  Speaker 1: do something for a brand. Bit tired and then in
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  Speaker 1: mind what do we have to do for a brand?
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  Speaker 1: I had to go pick up stuff for the shop? Remember,
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  Speaker 1: But in my defense, Jack's car is not clean. I
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  Speaker 1: know I shouldn't leave my rubbish in there, but like
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  Speaker 1: it probably just got blurred in everything else's on the ground.
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  Speaker 1: There's fucking vibrators that I think, there's some chew dog balls,
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  Speaker 1: dog toys, there's coffee cans, there's vcns, there's macas rubbish,
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  Speaker 1: Like I probably just thought, oh, forgot about it. When
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  Speaker 1: it was on the ground and it camouflaged with all
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  Speaker 1: the other rubbish. So I do apologize, but also, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: sort of your faulting the timing. Do you recognend it.
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  Speaker 2: I still don't believe it, but as Sue, I'm telling you, dude,
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  Speaker 2: as soon as he fucking took that out of the car,
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  Speaker 2: because he brought it down the house and it was like,
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  Speaker 2: smell this smell the inside of this and I was like, no,
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  Speaker 2: I refuse to I believe.
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  Speaker 1: You this orange juice ferment and explode and smell. I
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  Speaker 1: get suppose I suppose it's not actually like pure orange juice.
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  Speaker 2: No, I would have like sugar heaps of sugar in
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  Speaker 2: it and stuff. But also like it was in the
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  Speaker 2: car for a few like thirty degree days just so
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  Speaker 2: happens that, like I have a feeling what happened was
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  Speaker 2: the milk was the smell.
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  Speaker 1: Was the smell. Sorry, And I got rid of the
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  Speaker 1: smell with the foam.
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  Speaker 2: But somehow at the same time, the sun because that
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  Speaker 2: was the first couple really hot. Yeah, cook in the car,
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  Speaker 2: just blow blow up the fucking.
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  Speaker 1: At what point, because that was mid September, I came home.
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  Speaker 1: It is now December at what point. I know you're
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  Speaker 1: about to say, sh does that become a personal problem
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  Speaker 1: for you? And it checks under their seats as soon
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  Speaker 1: as I get out of the car. That then becomes
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  Speaker 1: your problem. I know I should be a good passenger
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  Speaker 1: princess and take my rubbish with me, but things happen,
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  Speaker 1: problems happen, and I forget, and after that point, I
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  Speaker 1: feel like it becomes your problem because and.
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  Speaker 2: Clean my car and that, Yeah, I look at my cars.
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  Speaker 1: How about we go fifty to fifty. It's half my fault,
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  Speaker 1: half yours because it took the three months of fermentating
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  Speaker 1: to make that smell like. I'm obviously not going to
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  Speaker 1: think about it again.
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  Speaker 2: You didn't think about it in the car every day,
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  Speaker 2: Drake half an oras to stop thinking about it. Maybe
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  Speaker 2: I just saw tummy, You don't know, intellectual thoughts all
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  Speaker 2: up in my mind.
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  Speaker 1: So Jake, before this episode, wanted to come up with
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  Speaker 1: the song for his new segment, which is intellectual thoughts
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  Speaker 1: with Jake Craig. We've had one, yeah, but I was
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  Speaker 1: thinking we could come up because we're now artists. Let's
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  Speaker 1: come up with the lyrics and then we'll go to
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  Speaker 1: Toby Wells. But can you make this for us? I
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  Speaker 1: reckon so like intellectual thoughts. I was going to do
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  Speaker 1: it to caught in my thoughts by you.
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  Speaker 2: You're going to go straight intellectual thoughts all up in
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  Speaker 2: my mind looking for them.
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  Speaker 1: They're not easy to find something like that that's really good.
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  Speaker 1: I was thinking, like intellectual thoughts. People might not think
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  Speaker 1: I have them, but I really do. I hope we're
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  Speaker 1: got to think of myself. Let me prove it well
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  Speaker 1: off camera. Will have to think of a song that
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  Speaker 1: it goes with.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't have to recall my thoughts, but intellectual thoughts
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  Speaker 2: goes with quarter myath thought.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it does to be fair.
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  Speaker 2: But I've had another I've had another moment. And the
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  Speaker 2: moment hit me so hard that I was in the
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  Speaker 2: that I had to get joined to write it down
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  Speaker 2: because I was driving.
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  Speaker 1: Right. Wait wait wait, wait wait wait, let me let
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  Speaker 1: me set the scene here. So about two months ago,
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  Speaker 1: Jake came to me and said, people don't think he's
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  Speaker 1: a deep thinker. So he came with this elaborate story
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  Speaker 1: of how a dog reminded him of his friend who
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  Speaker 1: reminded him of this deep intellectual thought that he had,
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  Speaker 1: and he wanted to prove that he was a deep thinker.
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  Speaker 1: And it's been two months and the other day around
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  Speaker 1: the dinner table when we're brainstorming ideas for the pod,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, what the fuck happened to your deep thoughts? Man?
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  Speaker 1: And he's like, I haven't had another one.
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  Speaker 2: I've just been waiting, and here's the thing is so
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  Speaker 2: long way, here's a thing is I do? I genuinely
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  Speaker 2: believe that happened daily. But it's just like it takes
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  Speaker 2: it takes a good one for me to think I
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  Speaker 2: went deep.
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  Speaker 1: There do that? I see?
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  Speaker 2: Here's what I think what happens is like, because you're
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  Speaker 2: going to notice a pattern in the way my because
• 12:24
  Speaker 2: like the last one, if everyone's listened to the last
• 12:26
  Speaker 2: one compared to this one, it's like a similar thought process.
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  Speaker 1: I think you confuse intellectual and deep as different things.
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  Speaker 1: Deep to you means like a deep storyline with lots
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  Speaker 1: of twists and rabbit hole in my brain, whereas me,
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  Speaker 1: I think deep in intellectual means like makes you feel something,
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  Speaker 1: makes you think, where do you think? It's like a
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  Speaker 1: rabbit hole when you gotta find it.
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  Speaker 2: I also like, I hope I come to a good
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  Speaker 2: meeting at the end of this one, I can't quite remember.
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  Speaker 1: Hope, but right, okay, I wanted to set the scene.
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  Speaker 2: I hope like you also, I know this type of
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  Speaker 2: stuff mus happened to you, and this is like and
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  Speaker 2: this is just how it happens to me.
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  Speaker 1: Right, Okay, I'm ready. Okay. So me and Joanna both
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  Speaker 1: were in Sydney for Beth's, my girlfriend's best friend's birthday. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you and your sister.
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  Speaker 2: Me and Joanna both went and Johanna drank. I didn't,
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  Speaker 2: and she wasn't like hungover. But the next day I
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  Speaker 2: drove and we were in her car, so I was
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  Speaker 2: driving because she had a drink the night prior. And
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  Speaker 2: there's like a very classic you know you're where we
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  Speaker 2: live when you see the big dinosaur on the hill
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  Speaker 2: coming off to the exit, and it's a big dinosaur
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  Speaker 2: for the Reptile Park, the Australian Reptile Park.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, you know, you know you're on the central.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know that you're turning off in about two seconds, yes,
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  Speaker 2: And so I looked at it and Johanna had just
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  Speaker 2: recently been with her friend from Canada, So I said, oh, like,
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  Speaker 2: how was that by the way, And she said it
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  Speaker 2: was cool. I was like, well, what's the correlation between
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  Speaker 2: the dinosaur and asking that question because the dinosaur is
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  Speaker 2: the it's the sign is for the Australian Reptop Park
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  Speaker 2: and so Joanna had just been follow along here. Joanna
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  Speaker 2: had just been I said to Joanna how was it?
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  Speaker 2: Because it reminded me that she went. I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: you just went there.
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  Speaker 1: How was they went to? And then she said it
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  Speaker 1: was good?
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, oh how. I was like, is
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  Speaker 2: it like when you were a kid, because like I
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  Speaker 2: remember going as a kid thinking it was like the sickest.
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  Speaker 1: Thing ever, you know, you fucking like, I remember thinking
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  Speaker 1: it is fucking so cool. And she was like, look, no,
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  Speaker 1: it's not as cool any more.
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  Speaker 2: But then and then what happened in my brain, I
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  Speaker 2: had a that's so raven moment, and I remember that
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  Speaker 2: when I was younger, I remember going to the Reptile
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  Speaker 2: Park with my dad, my stepmom, my sister, and my
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  Speaker 2: younger siblings must have been babies, and I remember standing
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  Speaker 2: over near the toilets and my dad like looking at
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  Speaker 2: something in his hands, and I was like, the fuck
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  Speaker 2: are you looking at it? And and I go over
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  Speaker 2: to him, and he goes and he like had a
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  Speaker 2: bee in his hands and a bee stung him on
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  Speaker 2: the foot and then he just like flicked it off,
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  Speaker 2: and I remember thinking he was like the toughest guy
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  Speaker 2: ever for it, right, And then what it brought me
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  Speaker 2: to was one time when I was like maybe I
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  Speaker 2: was like eight, and I was in Canada primary school
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  Speaker 2: playing soccer out at lunchtime.
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  Speaker 1: I got stung in the head by a bee. Shit
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  Speaker 1: head hurts. I remember going like this scene that explains
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  Speaker 1: a lot.
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  Speaker 2: I remember seeing the bee, right yeah, and I'm looking
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  Speaker 2: at the bee throw it off, and so one of
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  Speaker 2: my friends sees me do it and he's like.
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  Speaker 1: Did you just get stung on the head by a bee?
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  Speaker 2: You know when you're a kid like and someone goes,
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  Speaker 2: did you just like fall over?
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  Speaker 1: Did you?
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  Speaker 2: And you're kind of like trying to act of me
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  Speaker 2: like yeah, yeah, yeah, Like it's sweet, dude. I fucking
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  Speaker 2: was holding back tears like I've never held back to
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: you would hurt. And I never wanted to be goalie.
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: Always wanted to be striker. When I was playing soccer
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: with my friends when I was younger, I was like, guys,
• 15:44
  Speaker 2: I'm goalie and stood back there.
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: My team was better. I knew it.
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: Ball was always in their end. Sat there and cried
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: for the whole of life because I was fucking devo.
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: It hurts so bad. I was crying and I was
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: trying to act so tough whenone when anyone came over
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: there like are you crying? And I was like no,
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: and I was obviously fucking crying. And then I remember
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: when lunch was over, I went to the where do
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: you go sick bay? Yeah, I went to sick bay, right,
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: And then I remember going and getting like the teacher
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: to put ice on it and stuff like that, like I.
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: Didn't get sent home or anything.
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: But then what it then led me further to remember
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: was when I was a kid, dude, I hated going
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: to school, and I actually got sick a fair bit.
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: So I would milk the fact that my mom knew
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: I got sick real easy, and if I wasn't sick,
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: i'd fake it when I was at school if I
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: was sick of being there. And so I remember one time,
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: my poor single mum that's working a job trying to
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: pay rent, I was, I go to the sick pan.
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I need to go home. So I need
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: to go home.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: And I sit down and they're like, hey, we'll call
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: your mom. They call my mom and they go, oh,
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: your mom hasn't answered, but we left a message. And
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: so I sat there and they were just like, you
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: can't go and if you're sick, you can't go back
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: into class. So I'd just sit there, and I remember
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: being like, this is like, what if she just never
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: answers ever going to let me go back?
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: And so I was like, you know what, I reckon.
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: I was there for thirty minutes.
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: I would have been like seven or eight young. These
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: are early memories. I can't believe I remember them, and
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: so I remember, this is me. He's being such a
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: pick me little kid, such a little shit. I walked up.
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: I got up when they weren't looking mom. I still
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: didn't know if moment had got back to them yet.
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: I go and you can either keep going back to
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: class or turn left and leave the school.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: Turn left, left the school. He left the school.
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: I walked outside and I started booking it down the street.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: And as I was booking it down the street, I
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: saw my mom's car coming and I was like, fuck,
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna get back into school or she's gonna shoot
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: me or something. So I got back into school. She
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: picked me up, She's like, are you even six? She's
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: like giving me all this shit, And then I think
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: my thoughts started to fizzle out there. But I got
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: to the point where I was like, my poor mum having.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: To pick me up from school.
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: Ah, because I fucking hated school and I ended on
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: sick bay.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: Come here with you here, let's make something out of this,
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: so this isn't awful nothing. And then here's me still
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: thinking more further.
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: Do you remember at primary school when we were kids,
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: because and when I was an Australia sign, you would
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: have done this at Kingcomber.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: They didn't. They didn't have this in Canada, by the way,
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: but they have this whole thing here of no hat,
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: no play, no school today. Really you can send home no,
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: that's what we just used to say, had no school, No,
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: you have no play school.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: And you'd realize you don't have your hat in your
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: bag and you'd be like fuck. And so you knew
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: you weren't allowed to play outside at lunch and.
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: You'd go to the Lost and Fair. Oh yeah, I
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: used to do that. You say, I lost my hat
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: and you pretend you fine.
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: You're just like go, oh, this is my hat, probably
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: if someone handed it and then you go run outside
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: fucking playing with it.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: That is the core memory. Oh forgot about that, So
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: that's your deep thought.
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: That's yeah, that was And I was like trying, you
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: gotta write this down a coup people, I went down
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: that route.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: Okay, I went back to when I was seven. I'm
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: twenty four. No no, no, no, no no.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: This brings up a really good point, and it's like,
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: as a kid, you don't like, it's really good parenting.
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna try and get something out of this for you,
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: right yeah, yeah, there's something mini. No no, no, Can you relate?
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: Have you ever been like, no, mom, I'm sick, I'm not. No,
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: I can every person listening right now, I can relate
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: of going to sick bay in school, trying to get
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: out of school. Most of the time it didn't work,
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: but sometimes you might just ring your parents and they
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: can pick you up. I think I got away over
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: it like once. Really. I think I had like a
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: tummy ache or something. So you're probably actually sick. Take
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: it nothing. I was fake. I think I only affect
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: it once. My whole schooling career, but brings up a
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: good point of how parents are able to maybe we're
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: just naive, but put on a facade of now that
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: we're twenty four and really like learning about life and
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: the struggles of everything going on, they're able to put
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: on this like facade and everything's okay. Like your single
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: mum was working, probably struggling to pay rent, she had
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: to get out of I don't know, probably use one
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: of her sick days. She was probably fucking angry that
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: she had to come. And then as soon as she
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: picked you up, she's probably a little bit angry, like
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: are you really sick? But it selfish old me? But overall,
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: like after an hour, you would have forgot about it,
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: because you might would have been like, oh, he's FeAs
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: he's my son. And it's really good how parents are
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: able to do that and not put any pressure on
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: their kids. It's a really good thing.
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: Unconditional love exists, yeah or else like no parent would
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: love their kids, Yeah, exactly because they fucking the kids
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: are the most like selfish little fuckers without even realizing it,
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: I know, and like even like going like one step further,
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: like as soon as we start getting mortgages, start having kids,
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: we have a dog, like vet bills, everything like that.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: You just want to see him happy and like all
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: those other things just don't matter, and like we just
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: put on, like we said, unconditional love and we just
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: figure it out and it's so cool and cool to
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: look at it in like clidsight.
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: Now it's yeah, weird to think about it.
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: I remember last time I spoke to my mum about
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: like last time I was there. I've spoken to her
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: since a few times, but I remember we'd last time
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: we spoke about when we were that young and she
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: was single, and she like, when you're a kid, you
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: don't really know what money is, no, And so when
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: I think back, I don't ever think like all my
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: struggling mother, because you're right, they always kind of just like.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: Don't You're not going to be like to your kid,
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: I have no money.
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like to your like maybe to a twelve year
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: old that might start to understand it, like, no, you
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: can't get that, because we actually have no money.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: You have to understand that.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: But to like a fucking four or five six year old,
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: you're not going to say to them like, we have
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: no money, because it's gonna be like what that?
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: And so I remember like my whole.
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: Childhood up until I was like, like I think I
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: knew Mom didn't have heaps of money, but I never
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: knew up until like the last time went to Canada,
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: like how little we actually had, but how much I
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: felt like we had.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because love conquers conquers all. It could be that
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: it makes you like appreciate your parents more because like
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: when you're so young, you just don't understand things, and
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: now you're beginning to understand, you're like, well, like you'd
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: be thinking, oh, my mom was pretty loving and cool
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: about that day.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that I have ever told you At the time,
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: my dad came to Canada to visit us, and when
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: he would come once or twice a year, that was
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: like the deal. If Mom wanted to have us in Canada,
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: then Dad would come and visit and they this whole deal,
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: sort it out with the courts or something, and so
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: he would come and when he came, he would always
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: he would get us like our birthday present when we
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: were with him, and then like wouldn't and then he
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: would send something like small on our birthday because he
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: wouldn't always be with us like me and Johyn have birthdays.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: That's different obviously.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: And I remember once he bought me and Joanna and
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: Nintendo DS each. I don't remember how much they were
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: at the time, but I remember him coming to visit
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: and he got us a Nintendo.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: DS and I was been sick as a kid.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: I was like bra, I was like Mario cart and shit, yeah,
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: poker fuck. I loved my DS. And as he's paying,
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: he hands the girl his card and I was like,
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: is that got just never any money on it?
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: And he was like, no, I wish.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: And I always think about it now every now and
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: then because obviously I have my own card and I
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: make my own money. And it's like when I was
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: a kid, I genuinely was like that you can buy
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: anything with that.
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: To be that naive, how good is it? Ignorance is bliss.
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: It is so bliss just looking back, even like at
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: school in our school was the best time he lived.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: You had no problem, even like when we were sixteen. Yeah,
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: it was the best life ever. The biggest issue.
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: I worried about when I was like going to school
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: was probably, I don't know, trying to find five bucks
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: in the house somewhere to buy chocolate milk. You know,
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: he was such a privilege finding money to go to
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: the movies with friends or girls. Yeah, and you were
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: like had to beg your parents or like go Moto
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: Lawn so you can go watch a movie.
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: You're you're like, fuck off, and.
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: You're like and also when all your friends are like
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: planning to go to the movies and they're like you're coming,
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: you're coming, and like, yeah, I'll fucking be there, and
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: you go home and you're, dad, I want to go
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: to the movies.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: They're all going.
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: He's like, no, no, it's time, Like for no other reason, no, no,
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: not for the money, just for the fact that like
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: he's just like, you don't get to do everything you want,
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: and like my parents were super lenient and just like
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: every now and then, maybe I was being a shit
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: and they were just like, you don't get to do everything,
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: and so you'd miss out. And then you see on
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: everyone's like Snapchat was coming out, Instagram was coming out.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: You see on their stories everyone's having a blast, and
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: you're like, I just wanted to go to the fucking movie.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: I feel like this time of year we hanged out
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: with our friends. Recently, I know, surprise, that's crazy. Yeah,
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: we should have brought that up as a full topic,
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: I know, and just looking back, like you look back
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: at your year, but also you like reflect upon everything
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: that's happened in your life at this time of year.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: It just always happens. Yeah, with that, I don't know,
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: just the reflective period. Yeah, it is very reflective. It's funny.
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: It was weird.
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: Also, I was kind of going into seeing our friends.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: There was I reckon, there's friends that we saw that. Yeah,
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: you know, you're almost to think like are we even
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: still friends? Yeah, I haven't seen you for that long.
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: It's like if we really were friends, both of us
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: would give enough of a shit to make time. But
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: then like when you see them, it's like you have
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: saw each other yesterday.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: Maybe we will do a topic on it because this
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: is the first time like our friendship group has like
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: fully dissipated. There's like ten of us and now we
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: all just hang out with like our little individual groups.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's not even It's like it's not like
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: you and me hang out and then all eight of
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: them hang out together. It's like me and you obviously
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: hang out all the time, and then there's two others
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: that hang out all the time, and they haven't hung
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: out with any.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: Of the you. It's like it's all we've all I
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: think this is like in school. We're all on the
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: same journey and we're all going through life but pretty
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: much the exact same point. Don't get me wrong. We
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: have different goals and we like different things in life,
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: but the end trajectory is all pretty much the same.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: And like it took us a few years, but twenty
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: three twenty four is the first time, like we've all
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: been on the train going the same way. We've had
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: to get off at a platform, and we've all got
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: on different trains.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: Facts, it's a good analogy, to be fair, we've all
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: gone different directions.
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's like taking it back to relatables. It's
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: hard to like relate to them, like they're on fair enough.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: They have a hard week's work and they want to
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: go get pissed on the weekend, or they have a
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: hard week's work and they want to go fucking enjoy
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: the weekend because they have like the best, Like they
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: have to make the most of that moment, where like
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: we can't relate.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: I think, yeah, I think the biggest thing is also
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: now like the fact that we're very lucky. I know,
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: like we we had to do it ourselves and we
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: had to make it this way. But I think now
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: that we don't work for a while weekend, it's a
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: weird feeling.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: Oh it's weird because like not that we don't work hard,
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: but we aren't looking forward to the weekend because we
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: love what we do. Yeah, like like Monday, Wednesday, Saturday, Sunday,
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: they're all the same to me, Yeah, exactly, every single
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: day is the exact same. And like I'm still like
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: when I used to be a guarden maintenance person, I
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: would never think about going to do a garden on
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: the weekend, but I'm editing every weekend because I love it. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: it's hilarious, like happily pick up a couple of hours editing.
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: The only reason I would have, like, the only reason
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: I have any sort of like like it's still semi
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: feels like a weekend is maybe because for years obviously
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: it was.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: But then also it's just that everyone around you is like.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: Working, yeah, and then they're just not working for two days,
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: so you're kind of like, oh, it's obviously it's a weekend,
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: Like I know it's Saturday, but like you don't.
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: It's funny you don't. I think maybe we don't.
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: Appreciate like a day off as much anymore, or maybe
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: we do. I have no idea.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: I've always thought that girls have a better way of
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: like managing their time and lives. I've always thought that
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: because guys only ever work like seven to four, seven
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: to three or whatever and then live for the weekends.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: Where I swear, girls have a better understanding of like
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: making the most out of their days and getting jobs
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: where like it's good times and they have their morning free,
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: or they have their afternoon free, or they have like
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: just a random Wednesday free, whereas guys just fucking work
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: and don't think about it. I say, I've always thought that, Yeah,
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: I will, like even little things like.
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: Like Beth she gets one day off a week sometimes too,
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: like she because she works a lot, because she's like
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: a manager at a job, and so when she has
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: her day off, me the complete opposite to her, Like
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: if I was working six days a week, my day off,
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: I'd be like I'm sitting on the lund all day. Yeah,
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: But her, she's like, no, I do want to have
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: a life. So it's like, I want to go to
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: the beach.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, yeah, yeah, fair enough, fair enough
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: for the beach.
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, I don't want to go to the
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: beach at that time, but they want to get to
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: the beach.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: It's actually pretty good. And then I'm like, funk, how like, how.
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: Do you know that you're going to regret not going
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: when at the time you don't want to go.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah. They make the most out of things. Yeah, they
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: make the most time in their lives. Alrighty, Jake. I
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: don't want to steal the limelight of a deep intellectual thought,
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: but this is what I think a deep intellectual thought
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: is you do your thing. Everybody comment comment below. What
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: deep intellectual thought do you like? Do you like Jake's storyline,
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: his rabbit hole in his brain? Deep thought? The definition
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: is in the beholder? Is that in saying you're going
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: back to being Yoda? Mate? What's the beholder saying? The beholder?
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: I don't know what the beholder is now you've said
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: this before. The beholder is someone who's saying something. Yeah. Yeah,
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: So like the the definition is defined by you, yeah yeah, yeah.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: But I shouldn't be judging you because it's your definition of.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, there's a there's a quote though that has
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: ends we behold on.
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: It means the same thing. Everyone. Let me know what
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: deep thought you like? Jake saw mine? Okay, mine's got
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: a title. Here we go, Here we go. So does mind?
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: What was your title? Intellectual thoughts? You named it? That's okay,
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: that's title of the segment, not the title of the
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: deep thought title of all. The title of your thought
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: would be like dad gets stung by a bee, and
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: the title of I think how much I appreciate the
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: appreciation of parents came from you. That's not part of okay,
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: so these things hurt? All right? Tell me if you
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: like best things hurt? Or are your relationship expectations holding
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: you back? Shure off.
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: Our metric for success in relationships has always been based
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: on what we see everyone else do.
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: And I'm like evident of that. You look at your
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: parents and you think, oh they do that, it must
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: be good, or you look at other couples and you think,
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: oh they do that and it must be good. And
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: for me, it all started I think in year like
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: you were talking about, this is a bit of your
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: deep thought year nine or ten get back there. Mate
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: with my first girlfriend, tell me if you relate, and
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: I would judge how well things were doing based on
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: the couples around us. I was like, why are we
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: sleeping over? Why don't we talk every night? I haven't
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: met her parents yet? Like are we good or not?
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: And I was judging it purely off the fact of,
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: like everyone around me not actually being present with this
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: person and figuring out how our relationship worked. I am guilty. Yeah,
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: I think everybody is, honestly. And let's take a step further.
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: What is your immediate thought if I told you that
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: my girl maybe not the first one, but see see
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: what you think? What do you think when I tell
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: you my girlfriend and I are sleeping in different rooms,
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: or we don't plan to live together in the future,
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: or we don't really have sex that much? The first
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: one all for the second one? Weird, third one weird. Yeah, yeah,
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: your immediate thought is that it's weird because or we're
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: having some type of issue, because that's the preconception everyone
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: has on relationship. You guys don't have sex, you guys
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: must have a fucking problem. Right, yeah, right, there's like
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: a number this many times a week we've talked about
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: it man, Yeah, yeah, yeah, And we don't think that
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: because we're not open minded. It's because we're taught to
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: have this preconception from a young age that those sort
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: of signs are signs of a relationship falling apart. While
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: it can be, but that's not always the case. Relationship
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: experts say one of the biggest barriers couples face are
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: their own expectations. When we compare ourselves to the social norms,
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: we begin to develop resentment towards our partner or opposite
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: end feel guilty for coming up short in the relationship.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: So it's going on social media. You'll think, like, your
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: boyfriend doesn't get do enough things, and then you start
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: to sent him because you're comparing your boyfriend to these
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: beautiful people on Instagram who get them their girlfriend flowers
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: every single day. Or you think, oh, I'm not enough,
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: I'm not as pretty as those girls because you're comparing
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: yourself all the time. So maybe is rejecting everything you
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: know about good relationships the key to having a good one.
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: What do you think.
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: Everything you know about is it like quote unquote good
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: that type of good relationships?
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: Fuck? You know, I wouldn't be I'd be open to try.
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: And so we often talk about comparison as the thief
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: of joy on here, and we will always recently have
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: talked about how someone's body count can define them even
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: if you didn't know them beforehand. This sort of combines
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: both solutions to form like a bigger idea. Dating is
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: about opening up to a person, the person in front
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: of you, being completely present, leaving your relationship preconceptions and
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: judgment at the door, and figuring out the relationship that
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: works for you, for you both and no one else,
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: rather than trying to change them into the preconception that
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: you think is good at dating, embracing their differences and
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: stop trying to relate to everyone else on your phone
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: and find your own journey and just maybe there might
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: be a little bit of weight lifted from your shoulders
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: when dating fuck And the other takeaway is also this
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: is where I think we're guilty maybe giving dilemmas, but
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: more so in our friendships. The other takeaway is to
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: not relay your preconceptions about relationships onto your friends. I'm
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: completely guilty of doing it, so you don't know what's
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: working for them in their relationship behind closed doors. So
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: who's to say that. I think my normal is what
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: you should be doing. And like I've maybe hindered some
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: relationships in the past because I'm thinking, no, you should
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: be having sex three times a week, or no, that's
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: weird that you guys don't talk every night, and I
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: voice those things, and really that's making that relationship work
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: because I don't know what their relationships like. So and
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: just to end on, here's a couple points that we
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: constantly bring up on the pod, which I think applies
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: to only you, and the relationship really knows if it's
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: going to work or not. And like what us or
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: anyone else says, really is just open, open, open minded,
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: take take it as you will. So body count do
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: what you want. Last the last name debate if a
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: girl should take guys last name who cares? Do whatever
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: you think is right in your relationships? Who's care train
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: as well? Early on in the POT I wasn't and
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: then we got a sick email that changed my mind.
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: Did I not change your mind?
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: Nah? Posting your partner on social media? You want to
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: do it, you don't want to do it, It doesn't matter,
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: do whatever you want. It's a point how often should
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: you have sex as much as.
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: You want, as little as you want. Exactly when should
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: you say I love you? Like, is there any timeframe
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: you should say it? No, say when you feel it.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: Drop drop your preconceptions about any of these things. And
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: the last one is we often talk about it. We
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: don't think long distance should work, which I personally stand by,
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: but like I don't know your relationship. Yeah, but it's
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: like you just you probably have a pretty good idea
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: that you don't think it'll work for you for me. Yeah,
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: that's what all this advice is about. And I think
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: it's really important to like step back and realize that
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: no one knows you, and no one knows your partner
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: better than you two. So all these expectations you have
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: about when someone should get engaged, when someone should say
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: I love you, anything like that, Like, who gives a
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: fuck as long as you're happy. Yeah, Like that's all
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: the matters that you and your partner figure it out
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: together what works for you.
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: It is tough, and I wonder how do you catch yourself?
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: Like I obviously social media is huge for that because.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: I think that's why it's so prominent now is because
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: you can compare yourself so much on social media. Yeah,
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: and if it would be like.
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: You don't want to air dirty laundry on social media
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: because like some stuff you want to keep private, but like,
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: do you think it would be is it healthy to
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: be honest?
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: And like, let's say you.
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: Like you had a fight with your girlfriend, do you
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: just like not for do you for a while just
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: like not post him if you're the type of couple
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: to post or something like that, like or do you
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: be like, yeah, I actually got to find my girlfriend
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: last night.
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: This is what it was about. This was her argument,
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: This was my argument.
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: I ended up believing I was wrong and just want
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: to let everyone know that nobody's perfect and like you know,
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: people can argue and shit and get over it.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: Well, I think step one is obviously to only listen
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: to what's in your relationship. But step two is remember
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: when you came to me and said, your girlfriend, Beth
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: is the happiest a girlfriend has ever made you, and yes,
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: so contempt with it and happy. Yeah, and you wanted
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: me to know that, Yeah, just in case in the
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: future there was a fight or something and I'm obviously
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: going to pick your side. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I just
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: wanted me to know that she's the happiest anyone is out.
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like I need if I ever, I'm coming
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: to you like fucking ow Beth beIN saying you just
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: be like, don't remember that one time you told me?
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like though. Step two is as the
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: person not in a relationship, because everyone's friends talk about
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: their relationship issues, rather than me saying, I don't know,
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: maybe Beth is on your back about I don't know
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: something something so that you put the toilet seat down. Yeah,
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: you let the seat down. There's a classic example that
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: doesn't really matter. But then rather than me saying like, no,
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: it doesn't matter, like all the couples leave the toilet
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: seat down, yeah, I say like, oh, I'm more open
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: minded response yeah, rather than coming at it from what
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: I think is right. Step two like the person who's
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: not in a relationship, rather than putting my what I
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: think is right onto you just thinking like the open
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: minded like, well, I see where that's coming from. Maybe
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: you should like, I don't know, figure it out for her.
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just not that put a sign up. Just
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: remember to put a toilet set down. It's not that hard.
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And then also if you come to me, I'm
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: always not going to pick your side because I'm your friend. Like,
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: I'm coming at it from an open minded mindset because
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: I don't know what's in your relationship and why she
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: likes having the toilet set up so much. Yeah, like
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: there could be a deeper underlying reason. Obviously classic example,
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: but yeah, no, it's yeah, that's one that you know
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: that so should be a very solvable one.
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but like I am the king, if I ever
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: ever am asked for advice, I think I say what
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: I think is right, but I back it up with
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: it's just what I think.
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: Is that kind of maybe? Is it like right?
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: Maybe should the words the words shouldn't be like this
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: is what I think the words should be, Like, oh,
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: you know, I did. I mean, I feel like I
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: try and look at things from both sides a lot
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: of the time, but I definitely I end I know
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: what I know, what I do.
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: I end so many things with that's I think that
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: is my opinion. Now let that be what you think.
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: They don't fucking don't make a decision and then come
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: blame me if it's the wrong one.
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: I think that's good to a certain extent because some
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: people are like what's the saying like they'll die on
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: the hill with their morals? Some people will die on
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: a hill. A yeah, I've never understood that. I think
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: it's rather where you both come from, like an open
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: minded standpoint, those sort of people to appreciate where someone
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: else is coming from, rather than dying on their hill.
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: What is it hill that you're willing to die on?
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: Maybe that's something we should like get better at, Like
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: we're so open minded and easily changeable. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: what's something I'm like? I wonder?
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: Well, Okay, I think there is one hill that we're
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: both willing to die on that we agree on. Maybe
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: we should come to next week and okay, okay, okay.
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: First of all, the hill that we're willing to die
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: together that we wouldn't I think we're both going to
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: die on a week on? Is that we for one,
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: we think a guy and a girl can be friends.
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: Don't take this out of context, but they can't be
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: best friends.
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: I've done that Hill's hill we're willing to die on.
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: I'm willing to tumble down that.
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: But maybe we should try and actually come next week
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: with we should start it off with we have three
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: things that we both like, don't talk about it beforehand.
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: So I come with three hills I'm willing to die on,
• 39:46
  Speaker 2: and you come with three you'll will to die on.
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: And doesn't matter what topic right, and we'll try it
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: to die. There's a ninety nine percent chance we're going
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: to agree on all six. But if we don't, that's
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: an interesting thing. I've got one that you going to
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: die to. Abortion should just be legal and up to
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: the mum.
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: I mean that's yeah, that's want I think. Yeah, yeah,
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: I'm pro choice, like pro your body, your choice. Yeah,
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: that's another hill. Yeah, more like personal life. I want
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: to think of some like they don't need to be edgy.
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: I just want to be like, what's something that I
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: think that I don't think everyone's going to think?
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: Mm yeah, okay, I reckon. We could come up. Yeah,
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: that's a good one for next Monday. Let's write that down. Okay.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: I've got I just have one question, proposition for you
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: to finish us off today.
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: Love a good proposition.
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: So the proposition is going to cost about five hundred
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: dollars of relatables bunny technically O money, okay, okay, recently,
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: I know it's for the taxman.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: It's for the tax man. We're gonna were gonna look
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: bad on paper, Okay.
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: But so my sister has done it, and I've always
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: wanted to do it because so you know what twenty
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: three and me is no. Twenty three and me. You
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: go in, you buy a kit, we would get two.
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: It's about so it's like one hundred and twenty nine
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: USD for each one, okay.
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: Like what club type of kit you buy?
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: Like it's a little box, comes in, swab your mouth
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: and then you send it back and they test your
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: DNA and they tell you everything about everything, Oh, where
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: you're from, like a family trade, Like it's like yeah,
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: it's about like your yeah, or it's like ancestry, but
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: it's more like like all your heritage where you're from,
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: like lineage, like you know, like you might have someone
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: like you might have ties that link back to like
• 41:36
  Speaker 2: point zero one percent of like Jamaica, like something random,
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: you know. And I just find it because I was
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: shits and Gigs did it, yeah, and I was listening
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: and I was like, fuck, that's interesting, and I know
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: that mine's interesting, and I know you think yours isn't.
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: I was about to say, I feel like there's gonna
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: be the biggest letdown for mine. But I know you
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: think yours isn't. But I have a I reckon, like
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: there's something in there. So where's the five hundred dollars
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: come from? One? Twenty nine? So it's on usd each? Okay,
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: that's about two so that's about yeah, so it's a
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: little bit but okay, it'd be cool. I've always thought
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: those things were a little bit iffy, really, like how
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: do they know? Like realistic? How far I come from?
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: Like realistically? Like I don't particularly agree with that though, really,
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: Like I reckon that is pulling fucking numbers out of
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: a computer some surely yeah and stuff.
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: Joanne has done it, yeah, and I was like when
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: she did hers, I.
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: Was like, oh, well, now I know mine. But siblings
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: aren't the same. See that goes back to my computer theory.
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: How are we not the same?
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: But no, Sometimes it's like sometimes the daughter can look
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: keeps like the mum.
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: It's still have nothing like the dad, but you still
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: have the same DNA DNA.
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: But you don't, like you actually pull more from one.
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: So it's like you brother don't have the same DNA.
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: But in my head like we still have the same DNA,
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: but that was just more prominent and overpowered that one. Yeah,
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: but then you wouldn't have the same DNA anyway, I'm
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: down to do it. Yeah, okay, either way, but yeah,
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: we'll see. So you don't know if you fully believe it. No,
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: I reckon, it's bullshitgon, it's a money grab. One hundred
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: and twenty nine dollars, two hundred dollars. Surely there's one
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: in Australia that does it. Maybe, yeah, but yeah, do
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: some research and do it. I reckon, it's a massive
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: money grack. I'm going to order too, and one hundred percent.
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: Why does that cost two hundred dollars? I don't know.
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: Scientists they get paid a lot. Go read the five
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: print and see what the fire print says. You'll probably
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: say like, this isn't accurate at all. Oh yeah, no, no, no,
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: I believe it. I believe in it.
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, let's do it, all right, everybody, Thank you for listening.
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: Once again. You know what to do.
• 43:47
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