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Lessons - Why High Achievers Feel Empty Despite Winning | Danny Morel - Transformation Guide · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  In this lessons episode, explore the journey from success without peace to healing through self-awareness.
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  Learn why unhealed childhood wounds shape our adult lives.
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  Learn how presence and mirror work can reconnect us to our true selves.
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  And learn why grounding, nature, and yoga are essential first steps toward lasting inner fulfillment.
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  So what happens when now you hear this idea and you're trying to reconcile this duality where you
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  still want to be traditionally successful, but you also want to have fulfillment in all the other
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  areas of your life that you've neglected for the past 30 years. And you're like, I only know one
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  I only know how to bust my ass and have an okay relationship, but I know how to make money.
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  That's right. Where do I start? Where do I start healing?
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  Yeah, I think I'll tell you why I started. Am I going to die like this?
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  Am I going to die? Never knowing real love. Am I going to die always having to achieve another
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  goal? Am I going to die? Never knowing what peace is. Am I going to die being disconnected from my
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  partner? Am I going to die feeling disconnected? It's got for my kids because love is love. It's a
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  frequency, you know what I'm saying? And so those were the questions that I started to ask myself.
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  And then, you know, when I started to become like really present to what was happening in my life,
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  I started to realize that everything in my life, I can trace it backwards to what I did or didn't
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  receive as a little boy or as a little girl. See, because now that's the first step in healing.
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  The first step in healing is awareness. It's that oh shit moment. It's that moment where you
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  finally understand time out. I have been operating this entire time in my life as a wounded little boy
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  or a little girl. Sure, I have nice toys, nice cars, nice stuff, and I'm successful. But deep inside,
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  I'm afraid to look in the mirror or I'm afraid to look at my partner when I'm making love or I'm
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  afraid to be held or I'm afraid to calm down. I'm on vacation all the time and my partner is
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  always complaining that I'm on the phone and like your brain justifies it because you're trying to
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  give them a better life bullshit. You ain't trying to give nobody shit. You're trying to fulfill
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  the parts of you that are missing. You're trying to fill the void in you as a matter of fact,
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  I'll go as far as to say it. The same way that a crackhead smokes crack is the same way that you
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  always have to have another goal. I've thought a lot about this idea of it's slightly different,
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  but I think it ties into it. When you don't have a God in your life in the traditional sense,
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  you replace something else with God and that can be work. It can be some other vice like drinking
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  or drugs. I think this ties into it as well. When you don't when you don't heal, you numb that pain
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  with something that society actually tells you is okay, which is work. Well, let's say that's
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  the kicker. The kicker is, if I may, I'm going to take it a little bit deeper. Go for it. Yeah.
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  Yeah. The kicker is that the 3D world here here in earth, the energy that rules the 3D world is
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  the masculine energy. It's not the feminine, right? Which is why we think God is a man and which is
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  why we are constantly up here in our heads, always on the go, go, go. Well, so what does the 3D
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  world do? The 3D world uplifts and puts on a pedestal, the people that are in the system and
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  successful at the system, right? So we put on a pedestal, people like Diddy. That dude is messed up,
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  messed up, but we gladly have been buying tickets and support, but what, but he's successful. So
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  I want to take a picture with him. You want to take a picture with darkness. So what, what,
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  what you want to take a picture with because you're not awake and you don't understand what's
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  actually happening, right? And so then here we are, we have a world that is basically telling you,
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  hey, listen, everything that you've been looking for, which you've actually been looking for is the
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  piece that you felt in your mother's womb. That's what you've been looking for your entire life.
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  Everything you've been looking for, you will find it when you make more money or when you
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  become more successful or when you have that car or when you have the partner or when you have
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  whatever, you know, and you know, it takes, that's when a spiritual awakening happens is when you,
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  when you finally get there, like I did and you're like son of a gun, I'm still not happy.
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  And that's where the journey began for me. And that's where we take people through that process,
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  so part of what happened with your mother was facing death and facing the reality of death.
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  And like you said, the first question you ask yourself is, do I want to die this way?
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  So I think that even walking through your own journey is usually helpful to people that are
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  going to start on their own path, even after listening to this or consuming your content. Hopefully
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  it doesn't take death. And I mean, I do like the idea of stoicism and sort of confronting your
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  own death, but hopefully it doesn't take that to get somebody to take the first step. Where do they
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  start? Where did you start? What's the first thing? I want to reiterate something, but you see,
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  I think part of the healing process, if you decide to take it this deep is healing your relationship
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  with death, because you have to understand that when you're afraid of death, you're actually
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  afraid to live. Because everything in life is all duality. It's all one and the same. So for
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  example, fear and love are actually the same. It's just broken. It's a strand of energy that is
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  just broken, right? And so what happens is we as human beings, we go, uh, we're shutting off
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  this side of it. So we're going to go live on this side of it. It's the same thing with life and
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  if someone is afraid of dying, like by the way I once was, what is actually happening is you're
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  afraid to live as your authentic self. This is really deep. So then you get to go into those parts
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  of you in a deep, deep way to experience, wait a minute, who am I really? Who am I really without
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  the bullshit? Who am I really? Who would I have been? If my mom would have known how to love me,
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  which by the way, rewind, there's no way she could have because her mom, her mom died at 13
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  days old. So what I had been carrying my whole life was a feminine wound that like most of your
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  listeners, we've been carrying for generation upon generation upon generation. And if you've ever
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  heard of the terminology, the one, you get to become the one, right? You get to become the one that
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  heals it so that it ends with you and it doesn't pass on to your children. I know there's this movie
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  called ends with you. I never watched it. I didn't want to get into the like the drama of the Blake
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  and all that stuff, but it literally could end with you. So listen, where does it start?
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  I would say one of the most powerful practices that we can have is to look in the mirror.
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  And I'll tell you why because the eyes are connection, right? And the eyes are literally like the
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  doorway to the soul. So you'll notice, like if you scroll down on my Instagram, I once did as well,
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  most successful people that are wounded internally are always wearing sunglasses. Why? Because they're
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  afraid for you to see them. That is the energetic picture of this. This is external. I need something
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  external to block me so that you don't see the real me because I'm afraid of you seeing the real
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  me. I'm afraid of you seeing past the barrier and the illusion. Yeah. And so the first thing I like
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  to tell people is go look in the mirror because if you can't look at yourself, you're never going to
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  be able to look at a partner. You're never ever actually, if you can't see yourself, you'll never
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  be able to see someone else. If you can't love yourself, you'll never be able to love someone else.
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  And what I discovered, I couldn't do the dude. My mind was always racing. I couldn't sit still
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  meditation. We'll go there in a second. I couldn't look in the mirror because I was like, I just couldn't
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  do it. I was so scared and so anxious and so disconnected, right? And so that's a daily practice
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  that you can do. And then when you do, you just send loving thoughts to yourself, right? You
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  send affirmations to yourself. You send kind words and kind energy to yourself. And I want to
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  prepare your listener, get ready because emotion could start to come out. And that's your body
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  starting to release and purge out everything that you've been holding inside of you. And so
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  that's where that's a beautiful practice. The second thing and I trust me, listen, never in my
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  life. I grew up in the ghetto. I was around gangs. I never in my life that I think I'd be this
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  woo-woo guy that's about to tell you what I'm about to tell you. But go take your shoes off,
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  go sit on the grass, go reconnect with the wind, the sun, nature. There's a reason why you feel so
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  replenished when you get away with from all of the hoopla and you go on vacation. It's because
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  you're reconnecting with nature, which is mother earth, which by the way is the mother, right? It's
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  you reconnecting to the groundedness of the mother. We were never intended to walk around with shoes
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  on it. So that's a second thing that you can do. And then the third is yoga. I can't stress this
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  enough. It's really a beautiful practice because it combines you to your body, your mind, your heart,
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  your breathing, your soul. It reconnects you with you. And I was one of those guys at the
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  beginning that I was like, I'm not going to do that shit like. And now, man, it just it brings me
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  back to me. I'm going to give a little plug. My wife has a beautiful yoga app. It's blessed yoga.com.
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  It's free for seven days. You can go try it out. Thanks for tuning in. If you found this valuable,
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