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Almost Famous OGs: Double the Fun with Tenley Molzhan · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the almost Famous podcast with iHeart Radio. Hi,
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  Speaker 1: Trista Sutter, Nate Wren.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, you need to stop that, Bob Guinea,
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  Speaker 2: because I don't have a name for you.
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  Speaker 1: You have to have you. When have you literally ever
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  Speaker 1: read an article about yourself that didn't have that in there?
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  Speaker 1: Because every time I am mentioned alongside of you, a lot.
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  Speaker 3: People don't here. We have gotten past my last name, Bob.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you know, maybe because they didn't know you then
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  Speaker 1: like I did, and so I you know, I'm still
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  Speaker 1: hung up in the past.
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  Speaker 2: Well parents have even gotten past it, and they're the ones.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, my dad have gotten past it. I need I
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  Speaker 1: need to let it go. I guess exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe, Hi, Bob, how are you welcome to the Almost
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  Speaker 2: Famous og podcast people?
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  Speaker 1: Yay the podcast and we are podcast people here in
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  Speaker 1: the podcast podcast people. I love your hat. Oh thanks, that's.
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  Speaker 2: Really it's actually I got it at a at a
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  Speaker 2: triathlon and Hannah just told me she just did a
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  Speaker 2: triathlon in Hawaii.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, so proud of you.
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  Speaker 1: What doesn't Hannah do honestly?
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  Speaker 4: I know? Right?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, great, So ten Lee's in the waiting room. Our
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  Speaker 2: next guest is coming. So let's bring in se Yay.
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  Speaker 3: Hello, Hello, how are you both?
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  Speaker 1: We are late? How are you great? So nice to
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  Speaker 1: see you. It's been too long.
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  Speaker 4: I know both of you.
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  Speaker 3: I was just going to say, Trista, you look as
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  Speaker 3: beautiful as ever, and Bobula Cansom too, shocks this whole thing,
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  Speaker 3: I feel this whole thing.
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  Speaker 1: Asley now, you are always just such a rare sunshine.
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  Speaker 1: It's always so great to see you. And I will
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  Speaker 1: tell you that here at the iHeartRadio podcast Family you
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  Speaker 1: you are universally adored. Trista, am I lying?
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  Speaker 3: He's not lying?
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  Speaker 2: And everyone was so excited, like the behind the scenes people,
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  Speaker 2: the producers and everyone, sugarman, everyone I love, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: as does anyone who's ever met you. So and anyway, yes,
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  Speaker 2: of course, I just love.
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  Speaker 3: Seeing your face. Is rel in the house, she's she's
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  Speaker 3: taking an app but she's actually singing right now I can.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, maybe we'll get to talk to you
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  Speaker 2: long enough to where she'll is.
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  Speaker 3: She's sleeping in a big girl bed. She is. But
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  Speaker 3: you know what we did. And I was so afraid
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  Speaker 3: of mom shamers and parental judgments out there, But what
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  Speaker 3: we did because we just read we just moved her.
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  Speaker 3: She was she's such a great sleeper and she is
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  Speaker 3: three and a half. But she loved her crib so
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  Speaker 3: much that I was like, oh no, this is going
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  Speaker 3: to just destroy everything. But we moved the crib to
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  Speaker 3: the baby, the baby that we're that's coming soon baby's room.
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  Speaker 3: And we got her a big girl bed, but like
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  Speaker 3: a day bed, and we turned it to face the wall.
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  Speaker 1: Huh, so she can't.
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  Speaker 3: Get in and out and she loves it. It's so
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  Speaker 3: she's in a big girl bed. But we for the
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  Speaker 3: transitional time while she gets used to like this bigger bed.
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  Speaker 3: She's not just getting up in and out of her
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  Speaker 3: bed and stuff. So but yeah, she's in a big
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  Speaker 3: girl bed, so she won't be walking downstairs. In fact,
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  Speaker 3: she usually actually me a nap until it's two here
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  Speaker 3: right now, until like fourish. She's bill a great sleeper.
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  Speaker 3: See why I didn't want to disturb anything.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, especially so Blake are our youngest. Blake, who's two
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  Speaker 1: and a half, just basically stopped napping this weekend. It's
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  Speaker 1: been a grind. We're like we're talking about but his
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  Speaker 1: brother was the same way. Grayson's stopped napping. It like
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  Speaker 1: two and a half almost three, and we thought Blake
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  Speaker 1: was going to just crush that and stay as a napper,
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  Speaker 1: and man, we are just we're just not feeling so
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  Speaker 1: lucky right now.
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  Speaker 3: No, it flips everything. But I don't know, maybe it's
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  Speaker 3: not over because when Real turned two and a half,
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  Speaker 3: we went through like such a drastic like it was
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  Speaker 3: something I like, I was I couldn't stop crying for
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  Speaker 3: like two weeks just because of her everything. Behavior, sleep, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: changed drastically, and we were like, what just happened, and
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  Speaker 3: we kind of kept up with it, and we just
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  Speaker 3: kept going through the routine and it would take I
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  Speaker 3: just kind of took like a week off of work
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  Speaker 3: and responsibilities and I would sit with her and do that,
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  Speaker 3: and then all of a sudden, two weeks later she
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  Speaker 3: was back to napping. And she's three and a half.
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  Speaker 3: So maybe don't give up.
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  Speaker 1: Oh you know what, maybe I will. I will take
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  Speaker 1: that to heart because he uh, when you said the behavior,
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  Speaker 1: I was literally just talking to a friend of mine.
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  Speaker 1: He's a huge Disney fan and I and I am
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  Speaker 1: as well. I mean all parents probably are, but my son,
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  Speaker 1: our youngest, has picked up on a few key words
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  Speaker 1: that I've noticed show up in a lot of Disney movies.
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  Speaker 1: One is Fool, where they'll be like, you know, you fool, like,
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  Speaker 1: don't do that, you fool. And then the other uh
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  Speaker 1: in the movie Cars, you know, where Lightning McQueen will
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  Speaker 1: pull up and he's like, you know, no tires, just gas,
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  Speaker 1: let's go, let's go, and the and the guy changing
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  Speaker 1: the tires is like, you idiot. So yeah, I'm changing
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  Speaker 1: his diaper this morning. It's like six am, and he's like,
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  Speaker 1: don't touch my diaper, you idiot. And I'm like what.
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  Speaker 1: And then he's like, you're a fool, and I'm like what.
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  Speaker 1: I must be the worst parent alive, you.
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  Speaker 3: Know, little sponges.
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  Speaker 2: I think it could be worse bo a little bit
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  Speaker 2: worse than idiot and fool.
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  Speaker 1: It's funny. I do have a couple of examples that
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  Speaker 1: some friends shared with me today who I just told
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  Speaker 1: that story to and they're like, oh, that's nothing. Here's
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  Speaker 1: what my son said to me at that age, you know,
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  Speaker 1: so yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 3: Well we also hit the three and a half mark,
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  Speaker 3: you know, so she I think that at these half marks,
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  Speaker 3: they definitely there's like, you know, two weeks later then
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  Speaker 3: I'll all of a sudden, they're doing like speaking in
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  Speaker 3: full paragraphs and like big words and stuff. They're going
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  Speaker 3: through so much. But around like that three and a
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  Speaker 3: half marker, all of a sudden, she got me and
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  Speaker 3: now she's back to her sweet sweet self. So like
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  Speaker 3: it's just like a ride to say.
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  Speaker 2: I wish I could like relate to you both. I'm
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  Speaker 2: sure I could back then, but I don't remember anything,
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  Speaker 2: So there will be one day when you don't. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: I remember the good stuff, but I just don't remember
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  Speaker 2: the like oh they stop sleeping at two and a half,
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  Speaker 2: you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, so one of these days. Can't be believe
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  Speaker 3: Blakesley has a birthday coming up, doesn't she?
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  Speaker 1: She just did.
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  Speaker 3: She just had her birthday.
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  Speaker 2: And Henley, she has a driver's permit.
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  Speaker 3: No, how is that even possible? They still give them
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  Speaker 3: out at fifteen. I was just selling Bob.
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  Speaker 2: I took her for a drive around the neighborhood and
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  Speaker 2: she's really anxious. Max could have cared less to drive.
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  Speaker 2: Blakesley is so excited And I was driving around the
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  Speaker 2: neighborhood and all of a sudden, like we're stopped and
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  Speaker 2: my car, she's driving my car is giving like on
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  Speaker 2: the on the dashboard, it's giving this error message.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm like, Blakesley, what was that.
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  Speaker 5: She's like, I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I wasn't looking. I don't know, And all of.
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  Speaker 2: A sudden, I look down and I see that her
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  Speaker 2: left foot is on the break and her right foot
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  Speaker 2: is on the gas at the same.
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  Speaker 1: Time, like a I think they call that like a
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  Speaker 1: some type of burn or something like that. It's like
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  Speaker 1: a car was like.
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  Speaker 5: No, this is not what's supposed to be happening.
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  Speaker 3: Take your foot off of wonder Oh my goodness, should
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  Speaker 3: I should I share a really really bad moment in
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  Speaker 3: my life when I was okay, so why I had
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  Speaker 3: gotten my permit and my mom thought my dad had
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  Speaker 3: like had gone around, had me going around the neighborhood,
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  Speaker 3: and that I had had quite a bit of practice
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  Speaker 3: under my belt. My mom had a friend in town.
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  Speaker 3: I think we had just picked her up from the airport,
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  Speaker 3: so she was still in the front passenger seat. My
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  Speaker 3: mom gets into the back. My mom has me get
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  Speaker 3: into the driver's seat. Was we're getting home and to
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  Speaker 3: go around the block, and I had my pedals mixed
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  Speaker 3: up and I accelerated as I kept turning and I
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  Speaker 3: drove into a neighbor's fence and the telephone pole was
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  Speaker 3: about this close to the passenger side.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I could have killed my mom's friend.
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  Speaker 3: Thank god I did not, and or kept driving it
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  Speaker 3: further into this person's house like this was some extreme
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  Speaker 3: Yeah bad. Those petals are important. I still get years later,
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  Speaker 3: like what pedal is the right pedal?
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, yes, I will I will share. I
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  Speaker 2: will share, like the Disney Princess even makes those mistakes. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: oh yes, oh yes, I did a few, But I
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  Speaker 2: like to think that I'm.
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  Speaker 1: All for now.
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  Speaker 3: You don't have to worry about it.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, So how is pregnancy going the second time around?
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  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Well, my body hates being pregnant. Maybe
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  Speaker 3: I mean I am an older mom, but also that
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  Speaker 3: I have all these ballet injuries and just the my
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  Speaker 3: body's disposition, the way God made me. I just like,
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  Speaker 3: my body hates it. But it's such a miracle. So
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  Speaker 3: I'm obviously so blessed. And like this baby moves so much,
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  Speaker 3: he's just pushing around and stuff. But it is hard
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  Speaker 3: with a toddler. Yeah, my pregnancy with ral was I
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  Speaker 3: had debilitating pain from kind of those hip issues and stuff,
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  Speaker 3: and I've been able to stay on top of it
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  Speaker 3: a lot better this time around, just kind of manage
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  Speaker 3: so it's not debilitating, but it's still painful and uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 3: And then add the toddler. I can't decide which pregnancy
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  Speaker 3: it was harder. Maybe this. I'm just like exhausted.
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  Speaker 1: My wife went through that on the second pregnancy, especially
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  Speaker 1: because she was she was I always say she's an
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  Speaker 1: incredible mom and a terrible pregnant person, only because when
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  Speaker 1: she was dealing with everything, she would just be sick
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  Speaker 1: every day. She would be, you know, exhausted. Then she
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  Speaker 1: got a hernia through on her first pregnancy that then
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  Speaker 1: in delivery got exacerbated, and then when she got pregnant
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  Speaker 1: the second time, it was just like she had a
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  Speaker 1: herney the whole time. Do you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, Oh my gosh. So she wouldn't like
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  Speaker 1: so I basically became like I would always say, like, well,
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  Speaker 1: you're basically a bed rest for the next nine months,
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  Speaker 1: because you know, so I would just like come home
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  Speaker 1: from work and come in and be like her life
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  Speaker 1: revolved around the couch or the bed because she was
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  Speaker 1: just so in so much pain all the time. So yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I can imagine and been dealing with our youngest are
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  Speaker 1: our oldest now when she was pregnant the second time.
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  Speaker 1: Definitely up the stakes.
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  Speaker 3: It's so hard, but Dealer's been amazing about it. Like,
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  Speaker 3: I have a lot of guilt. I'm definitely dealing with
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  Speaker 3: that guilt of not being the best mom or wife
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  Speaker 3: or like housekeeper, all the things that usually I keep
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  Speaker 3: track of. And he's totally helping pick up the slack.
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  Speaker 3: But like, my biggest guilt is like that I just
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  Speaker 3: can't do. And it's like he totally says, you're growing
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  Speaker 3: another member of our family, you're growing up in so
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  Speaker 3: that that helps a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, that's a lot more important, Pickles. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I think you got it, you got it down, you
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  Speaker 1: got your focus in the right place for sure.
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  Speaker 3: But we only have almost i mean, six ish more
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  Speaker 3: weeks as long as she's on time or you're thirty
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  Speaker 3: four weeks right now. I yeah, I'm going to my
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  Speaker 3: thirty four.
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  Speaker 2: Weeks, okay, amazing.
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  Speaker 3: Oh mine was real born. Was she early or on time?
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  Speaker 3: She was basically right on time. I went into labor
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  Speaker 3: the day after her due date.
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  Speaker 2: Oh I think I remember this that you were like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: I've had a horrible pregnancy, why can't you.
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  Speaker 1: Just come out?
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  Speaker 3: And then but the labor was a long one and
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  Speaker 3: she finally came out. So but she was born in
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  Speaker 3: a couple of days after her due dates, so right
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  Speaker 3: on time. And then I'm hoping people say second, it's
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  Speaker 3: usually come a little quicker. You give me that hope.
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  Speaker 2: Did you have complications in your first pregnancy?
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  Speaker 3: Complications?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it took a long time. But were there any complications?
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  Speaker 3: Oh? Yeah, I mean if it's not too much for
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  Speaker 3: the ears, I mean it's part of the body. They
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  Speaker 3: couldn't find my cervix. Wait what when I went into
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  Speaker 3: how does that open? Right? My? My contractions were once
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  Speaker 3: two minutes apart. I had labored at home for like
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  Speaker 3: a night and a whole day with my mother in
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  Speaker 3: law who was used to be a doula. She had
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  Speaker 3: helped been there, and she's like, okay, time to go
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  Speaker 3: to hospital check in. Like I said, contractions were once
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  Speaker 3: two minutes part like so narling, and I was trying
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  Speaker 3: to go unmedicated, and the nurse that was checking us
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  Speaker 3: in she's like, I'm sorry, honey, but I've been doing
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  Speaker 3: this for seventeen years and I cannot find your cervix.
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  Speaker 3: So the roll had gotten the head like like it
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  Speaker 3: had gotten tucked behind. So I was not able to progress,
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  Speaker 3: but my body was still doing all the work and
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  Speaker 3: I kept trying to go until a shift changed. Nurse
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  Speaker 3: like came in and like they hadn't told me what
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  Speaker 3: I was at or anything. She's like, honey, you finally
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  Speaker 3: made it to a six, And I was like a
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  Speaker 3: six after all all hit me up with that stuff,
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  Speaker 3: give me up. So that's like thinking back to that. No,
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  Speaker 3: no major complications besides like not being able to yeah,
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  Speaker 3: moving out. So oh my doctor did pull it forward.
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  Speaker 3: He had to go in and find it, which is no, what.
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  Speaker 1: Was that before or after you got the epidural?
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  Speaker 3: That was before? Because I stole hours trying to be
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  Speaker 3: rest on my own?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and uh yeah, I was like when she said that,
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  Speaker 3: I was like, well do I have one? Oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 3: you fine?
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  Speaker 2: And you have to have a cervix right, like right,
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  Speaker 2: it's like biologically necessary when you're delivered.
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  Speaker 1: It's part of the pre wreck. I think, yes, you
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  Speaker 1: have mentioned I thought I heard you say he then
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  Speaker 1: I thought, I heard you say she so do we
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  Speaker 1: know the gender?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's another girl.
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  Speaker 1: It's so great.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so we have two two little sisters.
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  Speaker 1: So we got it too.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, just oh, she's so adorable. I want to
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  Speaker 2: meet her in person, just like so Bob Tenley came
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  Speaker 2: to see Blakesley. Well, she's come to our house before.
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  Speaker 2: But Blakesley was a junior years ago. Later, what I'd
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  Speaker 2: be like, Wait, that's so long ago.
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  Speaker 3: She was probably four fifteen, nine years ago. Okay, so
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  Speaker 3: she was six.
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  Speaker 2: So so she came and watched her practice at the
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  Speaker 2: junior Denver Brockco cheerleader practice.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you do.
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  Speaker 2: Thing like to see those cute little girls beepopping around
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  Speaker 2: with their pom poms.
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  Speaker 1: Oh gosh, that is so awesome. I always saw we
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  Speaker 1: were going to have a little girl. I really did.
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  Speaker 1: I thought our I thought our second baby was going
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  Speaker 1: to be a girl. I was convinced, and we we were,
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  Speaker 1: you know, obviously very lucky to have another boy, and
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  Speaker 1: you had to have the two little dudes running around,
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  Speaker 1: is uh is definitely a different experience then I would
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  Speaker 1: imagine two little girls, or you know, or even have
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  Speaker 1: a boy and a girl. But it's funny because every
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  Speaker 1: time anyone meets my wife, they're always like, yeah, you're
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  Speaker 1: your boy mom for sure, because she just gets there
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  Speaker 1: and just starts. Yeah, she's aggressive. I've been more like
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  Speaker 1: a girl dad out of the background, Honey, do you
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  Speaker 1: need anything, I'll be over here.
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  Speaker 3: Looks so funny, Yeah, I would. I wouldn't know what
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  Speaker 3: to do. I mean, I nannied a little boy for
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  Speaker 3: a long time, but and I adored him and so
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  Speaker 3: thought that I'd be a boy mom someday. And then
• 16:34
  Speaker 3: when I had real like, I'm such a girl mom,
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  Speaker 3: and you know, but did you wait to find did
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  Speaker 3: either of you wait to find out genders? Or did
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  Speaker 3: you both find out beforehand?
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  Speaker 2: I waited with Max, so first time we didn't want
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  Speaker 2: to know, so we just painted the room. There was
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: like a I don't know if you remember this tenly,
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  Speaker 2: but there was like a chocolate brown like ripe, like
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  Speaker 2: a horizontal stripe, and then depending on whether it was
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  Speaker 2: a boy or girl, we were going to paint blue
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  Speaker 2: or pink stripes. And I think that my dad did
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  Speaker 2: it before we actually got home. He did that so
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  Speaker 2: cool or no, never mind, it was chocolate brown stripes
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  Speaker 2: vertically and then well, yeah we had like the blue
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  Speaker 2: or the pink paint, and yeah, we didn't find out
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  Speaker 2: with Max, which was really fun, like I wanted to
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  Speaker 2: be traditional and you know, not finding out. But then
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  Speaker 2: with Blakesley, we just, you know, figured we'd do it
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: differently and see if we could.
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: It's fun to know, huh. I'm sure it's fun to
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: be surprised at the end, but I feel like birth
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: itself is enough of a surprise. My sister in law
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: has done three babies, didn't know any of their genders. Really,
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: I'm surprised time. But for me it's like this is hard.
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: I like to visualize and kind of bond, like try out,
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: nay stuff like that.
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: We were told originally that our second was twins, and
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: I lost my mind because I was I'm fifty three
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: right now and my son is fifty is two and
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: a half, so I was fifty and I'm like twins,
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: and I almost had an attack. I almost literally had
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: a hard attack on the spot. And then they came
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: back like a week later, and I'm like I finally
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: got my head around it, and I'm like, oh my god,
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: this would be amazing if it's a boy and a girl,
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: because then we get the girl and you know, or
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: you know, or two girls, I mean, you know, and
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: then and then the guy's like, it's a bully and
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: then actually it's a boy. And I kind of forgot
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: that he told us it was going to be twins.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: And this guy's not like a quack or anything. I
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: don't know what happened, but I'm like, okay, that's the
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: first one. Because this was during COVID, so I couldn't
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: even go to the appointment, right and getting the altar solid.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: I'm sitting at home, like on my phone watching you know, Grayson,
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: and I'm like and and he's like and what. I'm like, well,
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: you said it's a boy. What what's the other one?
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: He's like, what are you talking about. I'm like, dude,
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: we twins coming. And he's like, oh, sorry, the reading
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: was you know, off and you know whatever, No, just
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: one yeah, boy in there. I'm like, okay, yeah, so
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: I was did you twin you know what? The way
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: this kid eats, that's very possible. It's very it's probable.
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: In fact, I'm just kidding.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: Believe me. He's a grocery getter at this one. But yeah.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: He If he did, you know, then I'm sad to
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: hear it. But no, something happened. It was crazy.
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: Emotions.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I was.
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: I mean for you, yes, but your wife.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: I can't even imagine the emotions she's going through, Like, gosh,
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: my body is going to be housing not just fun.
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like you know she yeah, she's like what I
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: couldn't even She's like, your kids are huge now. The
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: first one came out, he's like nine pounds. Where am
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: I going to put it? Kidding?
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: Two of them?
• 19:58
  Speaker 6: Yeah?
• 20:00
  Speaker 5: Yeah, baby names?
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: Do you have baby names?
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: And you're probably not going to share, but do you
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: have them picked out?
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: We do? We have. We definitely have a up contender
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: and we won't name her until we meet her, and
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: we're not sharing it. But it let's see. I gave
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: a hint on Instagram, but it I don't think it
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: will help. But I'll say two things. It was one
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: of our top boy names. It is definitely what we
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: were going to name our boy. It's not going to
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: be every cup of tea. I'm sure my parents when
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: I first tell her her name, if we name her like,
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: they'll probably be like huh. And I'll just say, but
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: you named me Tanley. So and then it's also a
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: part of a song that we love, and so a
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: lot of people started guessing names from songs that just
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: saying those are my two hints. It was a boy name,
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: and that's part of a song we love.
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: Interest, I love it now, you love it like a
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: spinning right now my mind. I was like you said
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: it first, it was like a hot boy name. I'm
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: like Shane, and I don't know why I've never even
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: thought of that.
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: That's cute. That is cute. Actually, I love for girls.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we went to Blake for our son, and we
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: were expecting it to be a girl and we were
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: gonna name it Blake, and so we had Blake for
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: either one. So I like, I like the names that
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: can go in the different direction.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: I mean, Tenley and Trista are both such, you know,
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: boring basic names. And then you got like a real
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: original one like Bob, and people are like, oh my god,
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: how do I get my head around a name like that.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: I'm going to go back and look at your instagrams
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: and see around when you were giving birth and see
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: if there's any.
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah, right, she probably not. She deleted it if there's
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: I don't think there's anything out there. My like my
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: best girlfriends and my sister like all trying to remember,
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: like you saw your baby name list at one point,
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: what was on there? What was on there? But it's unique.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: I feel like you have do you have your room ready?
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: It is the nursery ready to go.
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: There's furniture in there, there's decas on the wall. We're
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: waiting for some uh B lines and like now it's
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: time for me to organize and like wash rerolls old
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: clothes and have a sprinkle coming up in a few
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: weeks and a weekend and so maybe there will be
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: a little extra things that will help me fill in
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: the space and make it feel like it's a functional room.
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: So yeah, it's coming along.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: That's so exciting. Yeah, So today we posted this picture.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: We had Easter this weekend with our family because we
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: were out of town the week before, and we took
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: a family picture and we don't get a bunch of them,
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: like we try, but they're always ruined. And so we
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: have one and my young my oldest son is holding
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: a pink egg. And I realized no one reads my
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: captions because I think my captions are kind of funny.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: Apparely no one reads them because they're all like, little girl,
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: are you announcing a girl?
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, oh, that's funny.
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: They're like, well, look at in the second picture. Why
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: is Grayson got an angry face? Because my son is
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: like this. Everyone else is smiling, and he's like you,
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: I thank you, trist at least someone paying attention to
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: what I say around here. And I'm like, you know,
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: no read the thing. I took his iPad away to
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: get a picture taken and he was he was angry,
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: and they're like, oh, we thought he was mad. He
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: was getting a sister. Like my mom, I thought he's man,
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: he's getting a sister. So uh, I'm like mom, I'm
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: like eighty, Like what do you I don't want to
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: do this to a child. Like honestly, I'm gonna be like,
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: if I had a kid, right if we got pregnant
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: right now, I would be seventy one when that little
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: rugrat turned eighteen. What a disservice that I'm gonna be
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: like an old seventy one.
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: You're young at heart, Yeah, you're young at heart. And
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: also somebody there was this statistic going around maybe it's
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: not a statistic, but like something was going around Instagram
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: saying the older parents actually live longer.
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's probably true.
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: And so I mean, I'm gonna live till I'm one
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: hundred my children right now, I'm gonna be forty when
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: this baby, well, this baby's do dates around my birthday.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: That's all.
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: So are you high risk?
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: Because I was like thirty six, I feel like and
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: I was high risk?
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: Are you? Are you high risk? No, I'm not high risk,
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: but I am geriatric.
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah that's a nice number, right, you're thirty two? Is
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: it thirty two or thirty three? When they say you're
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: geriatric thirty five? I think fine.
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: Okay, so I think and I was that when I
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: was pregnant with Roll too, but yeah, they you know,
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: my doctor's office is so sweet about it. I think
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: it's pretty common now, like that people are getting pregnant
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: later in life. And I have a couple of friends
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: that had babies in their forties and so, you know,
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: and thankfully I have no like other complications or anything
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: that would cause me to be high risk. But they
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: they do treat you differently, and maybe they've changed how
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: they call what they call it and how they treated
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: you sixteen years ago. But yeah, now I can't believe that.
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: But now, yeah, they I just a couple more like
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: anatomy scans, which obviously you don't have to do them,
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: but I'm like might as well.
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: And then anatomy scans.
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: So they look at the baby like I have to
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: go to a specialty doctor to like see the baby
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: in like they do the three D. And then they
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: look at all the like the blood and like the
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: the valves of their little chambers of their hearts and
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: like brain and just like really watching growth. Yeah, basically
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: checking like checking on baby a little bit more. Yeah,
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: so far, so good.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And he's loving getting ready for baby.
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: She's really excited. And she keeps saying, it's almost May,
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: and May my sister comes, Mom, is it May? Is
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: Grandma Beth coming yet? My mom's going to come down.
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: My parents will both come down, but my mom will
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: be here hopefully in time for I want baby to
• 26:44
  Speaker 3: come early, so I have my mom coming early enough
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: so she'll be here to hang out with L. But yeah,
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: so LL's kind of like focused on those things. But
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: I think her world's going to be rocked quite a bit.
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: But I'm doing the best I can and kind of
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: like talking to her already about like, you know, mommy's
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: going to hold the baby a lot, but you and
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: I'm going to take care of the baby. She's gonna
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: need mommy a lot. You're gonna share mommy, but just
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: let me know if you need special mommy in real time.
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: And obviously I'm trying to already tell her that she
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: can ask, even though I'm going to need to probably
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: make sure I'm doing it just as much because she's
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: not going to know to ask.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: But yeah, that's very mindful of you. That's really thoughtful.
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: Well, I'm the oldest child in my family. My sister
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: came five years after me, so I think that there
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: must be some scars there. Yeah, I had five years
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: of my parents to myself, so I think my world
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: was rocked a little bit. So I am very sensitive
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: to becoming an older That's really great, that's really sweet.
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: I think just being cognizant of it and making sure
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: that you still make time for just you and rel
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: is really special.
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: We've had like really just like she's been my best pal.
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: Like I love our routine and I love just how
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: we do life and the things that we do together
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: and just I don't know what's she's me being a
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: mom really fun besides those half markers, those really hard
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: parenting days. But yeah, I am prepared for her world
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: to be rocked a little bit, but she's excited. I
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: think she yeah, gets it pretty much.
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: Does she have their friends who have little babies in
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: their house?
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and cousins too, Like her youngest cousin is one
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: and a half, so she saw her aunt being pregnant
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: and when he was new, although she was still younger
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: at that point, but she kind of gets it.
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's awesome.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, No, other than us, I want to shift gears
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: a little here. Other than us, how often are you
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: keeping up with the Bachelor World? Do you keep your
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: like a toe in the pool at all? And like
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: watch the show or where are you at with all
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: that stuff?
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: Of course I watched the show. I'm still a fan
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: of watching the show, probably not as diligently like on
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: top of it, as like I once was without a child.
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: But Taylor watches it with me. But he's still never
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: seen any of my shows, which is fine with me.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Canyon claims my wife claims she never saw my
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: season either yet her mom will be like, oh, you
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: were my favorite Bachelor of course. Yeah, so I'm interesting.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: So Jessica never watched it yet she lived at home
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: at that time.
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: Interesting, But I was gonna say, like, did Taylor ever,
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: so he's never been curious enough to dig through the archives?
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: Well, so he actually like, he doesn't remember it, but
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: he did watch like the first night of my season
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: because there was a girl that had gone to his school,
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: Christina McCaslin, who went to Ranch. What school did they
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: go to anyway, Santa Fe. Christian and Christina had been
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: like in Taylor's sisters year or something, and so they
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: did watch the first night. But he doesn't remember. Taylor's
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: actually on me so he was quite young when I
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: was on. But so he yeah, and then he he
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: hasn't really shown any curiosity. I'm like, if the only
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: one I'd actually feel comfortable with him watching is the
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: very first on The Bachelor with Jake, because I just
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: I am such a different person from that when I
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: was on that, and I just grew so much from
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: then on, and then that was it was it was
• 30:51
  Speaker 3: an important part of my life. But I turned it
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: on because it was on Hulu and I had seen
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: it and he was like on a call to China
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: for work, sitting on the couch, and so I started
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: kind of watching it out of curiosity, and all of
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: a sudden, I saw myself kiss Jake and I was like, well,
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: never mind, I don't feel comfortable watching this, so so yeah,
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: so I turned it off. But he's never He's seen
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: little clips here and there, and.
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, would you show the girls when they get older?
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: Yeaheah, I think it's kind of uh. I think it's cool.
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: I think to see those moments of me having like
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: affection with other men. Yeah, not Bachelor Pad. I'd be okay,
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise, but Bachelor Pad, like there
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: was a kissing contest and I participated in it, and
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: it's just like stupid. So I like the thought of
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: the Bachelor or Bachelor in Paradise were some of my
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: very very like there was a lot of growth and
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: positive stuff that came from all that. But yeah, I
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: would let the girls watch it someday, but maybe not.
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: The affection with other men. How do you handle that stress?
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: You know, it's it's funny.
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: I just got asked this question again. I feel like
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: we used to get asked the question what is the secret?
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: You know?
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: That was our number one, and now I feel like
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: it is what would you know? Yeah, something about the kids?
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: Would you let them be on the show? And I
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: always say it would be super hypocritical if I didn't
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: support them because of how I met their father, But
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: I feel like it's just for me. It's very different because,
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: you know, there was so much controversy when they announced
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: that I was going to be the first bachelorette, and
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: people thought that I was going to look like a
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: slut and they were calling me all, you know, all
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: these names without even knowing who I was. So I
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: went into it really kind of really thoughtful about who,
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: you know, what I looked like, to my grandma, to
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: you know, to to all of these people, to the
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: people who were clearly to be judging me right. And
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: so I think that I mean, I've shared this. I
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: just did Chris Harrison's podcast and we were talking about it,
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: and like Jamie Blight, on one of the dates which
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: Bob was on, he asked me for a kiss, and
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: I was like, well, how about on the cheek?
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: Can we tell the backstory to this? So I First
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: of all, I think.
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: Tristan, they've heard this story before.
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I said this to Tristan before. You handled yourself
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: masterfully on that show, and I think that you were
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: always like you were such a lady and so just
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: I don't know, perfect, Yeah, very intentional, and it was like,
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: you know, she really set the tone I think for
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: for my season and for seasons after that. Like I
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: remember saying to the thirty women on the first lame like, look,
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: you guys, I just came off the best experience, and
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: I want you all to have this as well, So
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: don't fight with each other because this is no prize here.
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: This is a disaster, So you don't want this just
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: I never had to say that, but I'll never forget.
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: So they came up to me and Trista you might
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: remember this. We were at the beach and they came
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: up to me and they're like, it was Jason Carbone
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: and he goes he hands me two coronas and he's here,
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: go buddy. Uh, Trista is waiting for you on the
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: beach and she's excited to kiss you. And I'm like really,
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: He's like, yeah, I go on a group date with
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: eight dudes she just walked up to you and said, man,
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: I can't wait to kiss Bob. And he's like, yeah,
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, nice, try try somebody else.
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: Bro.
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: I'm like, like, I got a sister. If someone tried to
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: mac on my sister on a group date, I would
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: kill that guy. And so anyway, I go and grabbed
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: myself a beer and come back to find Jamie to
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: tell him this ridiculous story that Carbon just tried to
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: talk me into. And I look and there's Jamie on
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: the beach with trist To going in for it. Just
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, not a chance. And so afterwards we're
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: in the limo and I'll never forget it, and we're
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: all toasting, you know, and I'm the one, of course
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: who's like, you know, everyone's raise a glass to Trista,
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: and now I'm like trying to protect myself. So I'm like, Trista,
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: I just want to say, you know, this has to
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: be really difficult for you to be on a group
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: day like this with a bunch of people. And I
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: hope you don't think that if someone doesn't try to
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: kiss you on the beach, that you know that means
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: they're not interested in you. Or find you Lovely and wonderful,
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: and Jamie Blie looked at me one I'm like, just like,
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: if someone does try to kiss you on the beach,
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that they're you know, the total leach.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: You know, we're all but it was like so funny
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: because Tristy, you just handled it so great. You would
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: just giggle and make it all nice and we'd be like, Okay,
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: now we're moving on, you know.
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, anyway, I feel like that's that's totally different from
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: like back those days. You know, I was very intentional
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: about not being physical with people or at least giving
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: into it when I really truly felt it. And now
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: it's like everyone kisses their everyone, like everyone.
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: Is the first night right want So.
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: It's hard to watch.
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: So I knowing that it's changed a lot, it's evolved,
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: the show has evolved a lot. If my friends are
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: my kids ever wanted to see it, at least I
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: can preface preface things, and then also like if they
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: ever wanted to go on the show, I would just
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: have some conversations.
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, guiding conversations.
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 36:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: I always thought Tenley was going to be a bachelorette.
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: I remember after watching Jake's season and then especially after
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: watching the post season interview that the two of them
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: did remember that yeah, And I remember watching that going,
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: oh my god, like who would do? Who? I mean,
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: I was just blown away. But I remember literally from
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: watching like night one of that show, I remember thinking,
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: Tenley is going to be the next bachelorette. There's no
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: ask you.
• 37:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah, the conversation not like not like a proposal, but
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: Alan definitely was kind of I felt like he was
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: kind of pursuing me because he would come to my
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: house in Huntington Beach and he'd hang out with my
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: family and stuff. I felt like they were still kind
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: of keeping close, Like I mean, I wanted to believe
• 37:21
  Speaker 3: that he was a true friend and he was. But
• 37:24
  Speaker 3: at the same time, I felt like once it was
• 37:28
  Speaker 3: offered to Ali that then I things changed. So but
• 37:35
  Speaker 3: they definitely had dangled some stars in my eyes, Like
• 37:39
  Speaker 3: I remember coming home from Saint Lucia after being dumped
• 37:44
  Speaker 3: and not being proposed to, which you know, I know
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: was just definitely the best way for me to go.
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: But anyways, they were like, oh, Dancing with the Stars
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: and maybe the Bachelor Wrette, like all of these things
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: that were definitely sounded really cool. But you know what,
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: I for sure would have been a horrible bachelorette. I
• 38:06
  Speaker 3: don't think that I, my heart could have handled it.
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: It is Oh, it is hard, and I think I
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: would have. I mean, how do you, like, I know
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: that you just have to you have to put it
• 38:19
  Speaker 3: in the work and stuff because I watched them, But
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: I think I would have picked out a guy within
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: the first like my top guy, like I really could
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: and my heart beat, like I'd let my heart go
• 38:30
  Speaker 3: all into him. How do you fake it and put
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: on a show like I don't know that I could
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: have had for me too.
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I get that, But you just, I guess
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: you just compartmentalize, you know, you you try to keep
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: it separate for every person.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: I know it's tough.
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: I can't even imagine. So, but yeah, life obviously went
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: the right way for me. It was kind of until
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: I finally met the one. But here we are, okay,
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: that's okay. I love those kind of stories.
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: It didn't matter when because you have the rest of
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: your lives together.
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: So yes, and you know what I think too, it's
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: like one of those things too. I mean, I can
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: say this from my my Bachelor, my Bescherett and bachelor
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: experience of course, but as long as it ends up
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: in the right place, you know, all of those experiences
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: are what got you there, right, So, Like, I mean,
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: I think about that, and I hate to ask this question,
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: but I you know, it's on a list of questions
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: to ask, so I hope you don't mind me asking it.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: But uh, most recently one of your ex'es showed up
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: on Instagram with uh, with his new partner, right, So,
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: Kifton and Angela kind of went public on Instagram? And
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: do you keep up with any of that stuff? And
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: you know, is that something that you saw happening or
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: you thought you could see happening if you knew both
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: obviously new Kipton, but if you knew Angela as well
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: from seeing her on TV, did you kind of see
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: that happening? And you know, what are your thoughts on that? Well?
• 39:58
  Speaker 3: From Okay, So we live kind of in a small
• 40:01
  Speaker 3: town and he's the reason why I ended up where
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: I live and then I ended up meeting my husband
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: because I lived here, so that that all worked out great.
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: And I'm very happy for them because I think I
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: think he's you know, it's been years since we were together.
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: This is the first like real public relationship he's had
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: besides the mother of his child, and that was after
• 40:25
  Speaker 3: close after we had broken up. But yeah, so I
• 40:29
  Speaker 3: think that this is a big deal. But what I
• 40:31
  Speaker 3: have seen it coming between the two of them. I
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: do not know how they met. But what's funny is
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: our little small town I don't even need to get
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: into the details, but yeah, I had heard like he
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: had a girlfriend and who she was because of another
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: one of my friends who's in the franchise too, Crystal Nielsen.
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: We're now. She was taking plot's at our girlfriend's plate
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: studio and there was Kip and she's like, oh, hey,
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: weren't you Tellley's X, you know, And they started talking
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: and Angela used to be friends with Crystal and so she,
• 41:09
  Speaker 3: oh my god, what And then I'm like, wait, the
• 41:11
  Speaker 3: rest of my circle was yeah, no, KIVI and I
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: run into each other not very often, but we do,
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: and and it's always cordial and fine and wonderful. But
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: I mean, my church is across the street from his house.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: Over seen each.
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: Other, but it's just like there, you know, there there's
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: lots of ties and stuff, but Yeah. It's so funny
• 41:33
  Speaker 3: how small the world it is, because I think it
• 41:36
  Speaker 3: was like three weeks ago that I kind of got
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: the news that he was in a relationship with somebody
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: from the show or the franchise, and I was like, oh,
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: that's how did they meet? You know? So I don't
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: know the story, but happy for them, especially because if
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: they've gone public with it, and I think it's been
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: like over a year that they've been together, so oh wow,
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: that's what it's heard the public. Wow. Yeah, I mean
• 42:03
  Speaker 3: I think it's a big deal. So I'm happy for it,
• 42:06
  Speaker 3: especially if this is the one for him or for her.
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: So funny, You're so you're so sweet, isn't it nice?
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: Like I think about a lot of time, like when
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: someone you know, like for example, with my season, when
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: Estella finally got married and I was like, oh she,
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, she's so good, right, I love her studio,
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: but I was so happy for her because she's so
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: sweet and wonderful and kind, and it was like people were,
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: you know, people are like, well are you are you
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: excited for her? I'm like, what do you think? Of
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: course I am. I mean I loved her, so I'm
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: very excited for her and I want her to be
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: as happy as I am. And you know, when you
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: see someone who hasn't found that person, when you know
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: what's inside of them and you know it's like to
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: then when they finally do, you're just sort of like, Okay,
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: it's not like it's your responsibility for them to be
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: happy in their lives. But once they finally are, you
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: can kind of go, Okay, I can get back to
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: my life now or something. I don't even know you.
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: But and then for me also like my life is
• 43:04
  Speaker 3: established and I finally found the person that I was
• 43:06
  Speaker 3: actually meant to be with and stuff, and he was
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: and Kip was definitely a part of my journey and
• 43:11
  Speaker 3: getting there and growing up and learning things about myself
• 43:14
  Speaker 3: and just you know, past relationships are a big part
• 43:18
  Speaker 3: of your life. But at the same time, like you know,
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: it's not something I think about on a daily basis,
• 43:23
  Speaker 3: but when it came up the great news And also
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: just really funny how like actually tied into my there's
• 43:30
  Speaker 3: details of it all that are just so funny of
• 43:33
  Speaker 3: how small my world is that is funny. But yeah, Stella,
• 43:37
  Speaker 3: I love her, She's I love.
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: That you go with it that you're doing her class
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: Like I love.
• 43:42
  Speaker 3: That when I'm not pregnant. Yeah, but she is so
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: sweet and then she actually, long time ago, when I
• 43:49
  Speaker 3: was dating Kip, she briefly went on a few dates
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: with one of Kip's friends, so we all know, way
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: back when.
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: That's awesome.
• 43:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah, the.
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I would like.
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: To see a tree of all of us, like how
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: you know how they connect everyone, because there are a
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: lot of connections that I think that.
• 44:11
  Speaker 3: We don't even know about. I bet there's tons of connections.
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: I mean, I had a few other little things, but together,
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: we don't need to go there. But yeah, it's it's
• 44:25
  Speaker 3: so funny, but there should be some sort of like yeah,
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: family tree, just out of just for comedic or out
• 44:33
  Speaker 3: of curiosity, some sort of like intertwining or like Oprah
• 44:38
  Speaker 3: special of.
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: Yes, what is it that has like a billion branches?
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: Because that would be my tree and I don't even
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: want to look at that, no desire. I just need
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: to see that.
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: It would take forever.
• 44:55
  Speaker 7: It would take, Yeah, it would take forever. Bob, you're
• 44:58
  Speaker 7: that old. That's I know you weren't saying it that way.
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: I just like to I just like to harass him
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: because he's just that much older than me.
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: I I'm an ancient, I'm a fossil, like we always
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: say that. You know, Trista's like the fairy godmother of
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: the franchise, and I'm the grandfather, like the great great
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: grandfather of the franchise. You're the bob father, the bob father.
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: There we go, Oh my gosh.
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: Okay, Well, we have loved seeing you.
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: I love seeing you like I wish he was just
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: in person.
• 45:41
  Speaker 5: Please give ral.
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: A humongous hug, and thank Taylor for letting us borrow
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: you for a minute.
• 45:48
  Speaker 3: And good luck with delivery.
• 45:50
  Speaker 5: I can't wait to see beautiful baby girl. Thank you.
• 45:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, prayers, and if you don't mind, just put in
• 45:56
  Speaker 3: an extra like request with God that this baby will come,
• 46:00
  Speaker 3: you know, maybe two weeks early. That would be lovely.
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: There you go. When is the When is the You
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: said May? When is it? Okay? So two weeks early
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: would be May eighth, which is a magical day. That's
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: my birthday. There we go, babies, all right.
• 46:17
  Speaker 3: Not too early because my mom doesn't get here until
• 46:19
  Speaker 3: the tenth and I need my mom to be here
• 46:20
  Speaker 3: for us.
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: Eleven.
• 46:27
  Speaker 2: I love you, Thank you.
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much, so.
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: Happy to have seen both of you, and hope everything's
• 46:35
  Speaker 3: well for both of you two.
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: Thank you very much, Bye guys, Bye Trista.
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: She is so lovely Jesus as she's one of my
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: all time daves, like one of my probably closest friends
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: from the franchise that you know that's not a lead
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: or whatever.
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: But yeah, you two have a lot. I've always thought
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: when I the couple times that I got to spend
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: time with her, she reminds me of you a lot
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: of ways, like you guys have similar similar characters.
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: A huge compliment.
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: I need it as one, I sincerely do, I think
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: for both of you. I mean, I think it's a
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: nice compliment. You guys are both like very you pay
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: attention to the people you're talking to, and you know,
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: it's just it's nice. You like engage and you listen
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: and you laugh and you you know, share parallels and
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: stuff like that. And she's just I mean, only she
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: would Obviously I was feeling so awkward to ask her
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: the Kipton question, and only she can make me feel
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: good about it, you know, I was like, oh, thank God,
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: she's so sweet about it.
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: You know, he is sweetest. I mean, she truly won
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: the Disney Princess, so like, yeah, she's sugar, sugar from
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: the cane, like sugar from the cane.
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: Amen. Well, we've got a lot of great stuff coming up.
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: Obviously having ten Leon is just the tip of the iceberg,
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: but a beautiful tip of the iceberg, of course. And
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: I'm so excited because we've got We've got so much
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: lined up over the coming weeks. So you know, thank
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: you guys so much for listening in and for requesting
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: more of the ogs. We'd love it.
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: And I actually, with that note, I would love to
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: hear from people. If there's anyone that you just wonder
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: what's going on in their lives from early seasons, someone
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: that you really liked, I'd love to hear from you.
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: I'm sure Bob would too. So if you want to
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: reach out to the almost famous Instagram page and just
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: DM them and give them some requests, we would love that.
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: We would. And you know, it's funny after hearing Tenley talk,
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: I mean, someone I haven't even thought to reach out
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: to is Jake Vivalca.
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: So okay, I have a story, Yes, and when you
• 48:44
  Speaker 2: first mentioned it or when his name was brought up.
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: I was like, oh my gosh, you just reminded me.
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: He reached out to me on Instagram like last week,
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: and I forgot that. I like like text messages and dms.
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: I swear if I don't write back right that second,
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: then I forget or it gets buried or whatever. So
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: I am going to write him right now. He wrote
• 49:08
  Speaker 2: me and just said, hey, how is everything. I just
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: wanted to check in and say hi.
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: I was like that, we've got to have him on,
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: and you know, I want to give a special shout
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: out to one of our one of our listeners, Angela.
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: You know Angela. After every one of our podcasts, will
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: you know, she'll reach out and she'll write something and
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: she'll be like, you know, I was listening to the show,
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: and you know, it's just always like she's really just
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: very sweet, and you know she listened to our last
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: podcast with Avan. Yeah, she she reached out listened to
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: our last podcast with Avan and reached out about that
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: and just was like talking about how sweet he seems
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: to be, and she loves how compassionate you are, and
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: just you know, how funny we are together. And I
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: just I love her recaps because it makes me feel like,
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: I don't know, it makes me feel like somebody's listening
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: and someone actually cares and you know, it's paying attention.
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: It's not just my mom. So that's yes, Like my
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: mom's like, oh, you guys have the best podcast. Like mom,
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: you don't even know how to listen to a podcast.
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: I send it to you, I know, but I really
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: love it. I just really love it.
• 50:15
  Speaker 7: Oh Okay, we love you, moms, We love you.
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: Shout out to her moms and to angle.
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: Up and and then yeah to everyone out there. If
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: you have any request, just reach out on the Instagram
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: page or DMUs directly of course, but always fun chatting
• 50:32
  Speaker 2: and uh we'll talk to you next time.
• 50:35
  Speaker 3: Bye, everybody,