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Broke Bestie · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
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  Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion. Who talks.
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  Speaker 2: What's up?
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  Speaker 1: Y'all's your girl? A j holiday? What's up? Tam Damn?
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  Speaker 2: Hey, y'all, it's Tan band. I love y'all so much.
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  Speaker 2: How you doing? Hey day?
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  Speaker 1: Why are you doing this? You want to fight?
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  Speaker 2: No, I'm just in a good mood. I'm fresh off
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  Speaker 2: of vacation.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, what was that looking like?
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  Speaker 2: Girl? I cut up so bad on them people boat.
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  Speaker 2: I went on a cruise, and I'm not a cruise
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  Speaker 2: girl because I always end up sick. But this time
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  Speaker 2: I started taking my druma met a day before and
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  Speaker 2: I was taking it just twice a day the whole time,
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  Speaker 2: and I never got sick. And I just must have
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  Speaker 2: drank liquor all day for fold age straight?
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  Speaker 1: Did y'all have the top shelf package?
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  Speaker 2: And I should have got a pack. I did not
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  Speaker 2: get a package, and that was a mistake.
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  Speaker 1: So you just on the boat buying liquor.
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  Speaker 2: I was. I was swiping other people sell a car.
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  Speaker 1: Where the boat left for. I don't really like cruises
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  Speaker 1: like that. I only been on a cruise one time.
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  Speaker 2: Though I'm not a huge fan of them either, because
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  Speaker 2: it just feels even though the ships are huge, they're
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  Speaker 2: like a little floating city almost, you just still feel confined.
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  Speaker 2: It's like you living in the mall or something.
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  Speaker 1: So the one cruise I went on was leaving out
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  Speaker 1: of Charleston. Y'all, just imagine how country that was. And
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  Speaker 1: it's like everybody from North Carolina, Virginia, South Carolina was
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  Speaker 1: on this cruise. I think the Lick Cruises be leaving
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  Speaker 1: like from.
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  Speaker 2: Miami, and shit, yeah that's where we left.
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  Speaker 1: And I have no no balcony, Like we booked it
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  Speaker 1: last minute. It was like the hole in the wall,
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  Speaker 1: like the hole, like the window in the wall, like
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  Speaker 1: the circle. M you gotta have a balcony on.
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  Speaker 2: Your cruise, I said.
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  Speaker 1: Like I was stuck in a cheap motel on the
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  Speaker 1: fucking ocean.
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  Speaker 2: Bitch, you gotta have a balcony. I won't go on
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  Speaker 2: one if I can if I don't have a balcony,
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  Speaker 2: because I gotta have a place on my who smoke it, girl,
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  Speaker 2: My axe was selling drugs on the boat.
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  Speaker 1: And I mean, like for real, they got a jail
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  Speaker 1: on the boat. There's their laws on the ocean.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Them people could do what they want. It's people who
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  Speaker 1: have come up missing on them.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, somebody get thrown overboard. Me tell you there's
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  Speaker 2: a there's a jail on there.
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  Speaker 1: Though.
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  Speaker 2: You cut up, they'll put you in jail. They got
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  Speaker 2: security and they all arrest you. I know for a fact,
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  Speaker 2: not because I got arrested, but I know somebody who did.
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  Speaker 2: And they was locked up the whole cruise.
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  Speaker 1: That's crazy. This nigga was smoking weed in the cabin.
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  Speaker 1: The people came to the door. It was like, mister
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  Speaker 1: so and so are you in there? Are you smoking
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  Speaker 1: weed in the cabin? And he like got real crunk
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  Speaker 1: on them, like real nasty. That's how That's how I
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  Speaker 1: knew in our relationship when he would be lying because
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  Speaker 1: he got people get real angry. Yeah, like you he
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  Speaker 1: got tha crawled on those people. Know damn well, he
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  Speaker 1: in the room smoking girl exactly.
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  Speaker 2: I was danti. I got a video I'm probably posted
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  Speaker 2: on We talked back page on the story. I like,
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  Speaker 2: my knees is back good. I don't know if that
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  Speaker 2: liquor had them oiled up without was getting to the
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  Speaker 2: flow at the party in the whole time in the water.
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  Speaker 2: I spent like three hours in the water, like in
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  Speaker 2: the water. I've never done that before. It was a pool,
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  Speaker 2: a beach club, and it was called the Hideaway Pool Club.
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  Speaker 2: And you know, I got the bar in the water.
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  Speaker 2: I had a time.
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  Speaker 1: That's on the boat or wherever y'all doted.
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  Speaker 2: That was in Bahamas or it was like called Cococaine
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  Speaker 2: or something like that. It's an island, it's not I
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  Speaker 2: don't know if it's not the Bahamas. I think the
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  Speaker 2: island is owned by the cruise line. Hmmm, I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I might be wrong. But it was good. It wasn't Carnival.
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  Speaker 2: We were on Royal correct, oh roy Okay, Yeah, and
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  Speaker 2: it was a nice time. We had a good time.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody got along, so it's fun.
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  Speaker 1: What about daddy My daddy wife, she works for a
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  Speaker 1: shipping company and they own like cruises like we can
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  Speaker 1: get like family discounted, like luxury cruises, like even like
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  Speaker 1: shit in Europe. You just gotta fly, you know, to
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  Speaker 1: catch the cruise or whatever. But yeah, I don't never
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  Speaker 1: be having nobody who want to really go on a cruise.
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  Speaker 1: I asked my boyfriend about it, and the Nigga started
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  Speaker 1: sending me like all of these ships turned upside down
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  Speaker 1: in the ocean.
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  Speaker 2: It is harry the idea, especially when you go out
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  Speaker 2: on that balcony at night and all you see is
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  Speaker 2: the vast, black, pitch black ocean. It makes you realize
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  Speaker 2: how small you are for real.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, yes, Like it wasn't until the end of the
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  Speaker 1: cruise I was on it. I realized that, bitch, we
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  Speaker 1: could have died. It could have been some real Titanic shit,
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  Speaker 1: Like you literally are so helpless in the middle of
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  Speaker 1: the oce.
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  Speaker 2: And if a storm hit, y'all just rocking, you know. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I met this to this guy. He was a security guard.
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  Speaker 2: He was from South Africa. He was in love with
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  Speaker 2: me on that boat. First of all, I was having
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  Speaker 2: my way or it was some white boys on there.
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  Speaker 2: These white boys was kind of fire, y'all. They're trying
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  Speaker 2: to get me to getting at Jakuzi with him, but
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  Speaker 2: I ain't doing it. I came back with the same
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  Speaker 2: amount of pussy I left with. I'm so proud of myself.
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  Speaker 2: But he said, if I want to go on another cruise,
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  Speaker 2: he'll get it. So if you would to go on
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  Speaker 2: the cruise, I'll take you. I gotta go back to
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  Speaker 2: the same place because that's the only place he going
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  Speaker 2: for the next six months. But if you want to go,
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  Speaker 2: we could go.
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  Speaker 1: They living on the ship, you know what. I'm old
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  Speaker 1: people live on a cruise ship instead of paying rent places.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, he lives on like he works on his boat.
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  Speaker 2: It's a six month contract, so he just lived there
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  Speaker 2: for six months.
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  Speaker 1: Well, he's telling him at security, nigga, Yeah, okay, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we can use his employee discount for Royal Caribbean. But yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but that was nothing much this weekend. Man, Like my
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  Speaker 1: daddy in the hospital, y'all. You know you're getting when
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  Speaker 1: your parents started getting sick of shit like that. It's
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  Speaker 1: just you know, I was talking to one of my
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  Speaker 1: homegirls and you know, I guess sounding regular, and she
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  Speaker 1: was like, girl.
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  Speaker 2: I know you were scared.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, no, like this is literally a part of life. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. And I feel like the
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  Speaker 1: first time your parents get real, real sick, you start
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  Speaker 1: preparing for stupid shit. Like my daddy definitely gonna be around,
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  Speaker 1: but his body's just breaking down. He's just getting older
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  Speaker 1: and older older. Yeah, dad just turned seventy five.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, that's he getting up there.
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  Speaker 1: Hell yeah, man, But seventy five, like we are not
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  Speaker 1: living longer than our elders, like they still outliving us.
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  Speaker 1: Seventy five is still a long time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: It's a lot of people, younger people who have been
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  Speaker 1: passing and I and our elder still around here kicking
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  Speaker 1: it with diabetes and everything else.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I just want to avoid that that I don't
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  Speaker 2: want to be. I knock a wood because diabetes is
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  Speaker 2: just like crazy in our community.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely. I don't realize how how bad it is and
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  Speaker 1: like it literally, like it's serious. It's very very seas
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  Speaker 1: My daddy's diabetic, So of course that's where it starts,
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  Speaker 1: right m hm. But you got we gotta take care
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  Speaker 1: of ourselves, man, We gotta eat better as as as
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  Speaker 1: young adults. You know what I'm saying. I got to
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  Speaker 1: work out because I don't want to be old, alive
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  Speaker 1: and sick. I don't I don't want that. We want that,
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  Speaker 1: and I don't want people to have to care for me.
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  Speaker 1: And y'all shout out to my stop shout out to
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  Speaker 1: my stamp mama. Only a couple of years older than me,
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  Speaker 1: because man, that is she is she there for my daddy?
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  Speaker 1: Okay when I can't be thank god, you know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like I have to heavily this worry about
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  Speaker 1: my mama. You know what I'm saying. But yeah, she
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  Speaker 1: she she's do that's blessing. Yes, I'm grateful for her.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, let's get in the sense. You see this this
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  Speaker 2: woman she went on Beyon Internet because saying that women
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  Speaker 2: should ask permission, but for using someone else's husband to
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  Speaker 2: grab something high off the grocery store shelf. And these
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  Speaker 2: two women approached her husband and asks that could they
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  Speaker 2: please excuse me, sir, could you please help me get
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  Speaker 2: that off the top shelf. I'm vertically challenged. They didn't
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  Speaker 2: say all of that, but I mean it was evident
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  Speaker 2: that they were sure. And she said that her husband
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  Speaker 2: looked at her and then she looked at him and
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  Speaker 2: gave him the okay that he could do it. But
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  Speaker 2: she feels like women should ask the woman, can your
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  Speaker 2: husband help me? Versus just saying it to the actual man.
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  Speaker 1: And if you ugly just say that girl cheated on you. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: you feel small your damn self, because right you that insecure.
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  Speaker 2: That a woman can't even what's yeah, like, you can't
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  Speaker 2: They can't ask for help. They say, excuse me, sir,
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  Speaker 2: can I have a piece of or dig they want
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  Speaker 2: some grits off the top shit for something like that.
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  Speaker 2: God damn.
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  Speaker 1: If I see any woman struggling to do anything and
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  Speaker 1: I got a capable man next to me, I'm actually
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  Speaker 1: sending him over there to help you, right what we'll
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  Speaker 1: be talking about?
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  Speaker 2: And if he don't, I'm like, i'n be like, what's
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  Speaker 2: wrong with you? Why aren't you helping? You? See them
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  Speaker 2: right there? I'm sure too, motherfucking help all of us.
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  Speaker 1: Weirdol. She's a weirdo.
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  Speaker 2: Man, that's weird.
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  Speaker 1: Man. Listen, if you could bag him, you can have them.
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  Speaker 1: You cannot be that in sahre man. You know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying. He's going to fuck who you want to
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  Speaker 1: fuck anyway. You cannot control people in that manner. And
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  Speaker 1: then to go on the internet and talk about it
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  Speaker 1: like you got your man in check, like he know better, that's.
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  Speaker 2: Even more whack, right, that's worse. Yeah, that's the worst
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  Speaker 2: part of it. Where's your boss, sir? Where's your boss at?
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  Speaker 2: Because you had to look at her to help. It's crazy, your.
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  Speaker 1: Little regular day glass face. Anyway, No, you.
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  Speaker 2: Said something else before we recorded. You said, don't ask
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  Speaker 2: your man.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, don't ask my man for no fucking money. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: don't ask listeny. Don't no nigga that I'm associated with
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  Speaker 1: should a friend be asking them for money? Okay? And
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  Speaker 1: let me tell you I got a city. I have
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  Speaker 1: a friend who asked And before we started recording, I
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  Speaker 1: have a friend who asked my daddy to help her
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  Speaker 1: get her car fixed. Before I feel like you want
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  Speaker 1: to suck my daddy, dick, she already did fuck your daddy,
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  Speaker 1: because why the fuck? I don't even know that. No,
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  Speaker 1: I don't even know that this happened. His girlfriend told
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  Speaker 1: me that you asked him to help you fix your car.
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  Speaker 2: And do you talk to this friend on the phone?
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  Speaker 2: Do y'all communicate? Hell? No, Oh that wasn't because of it.
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  Speaker 2: That what I'm just saying. She ain't say nothing because
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  Speaker 2: she don't talk to you. No.
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  Speaker 1: At the time, yes, at the time, yeah, of course,
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  Speaker 1: like we have. We don't talk now, but at the time, yes,
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  Speaker 1: this is my friend. So what I'm saying is, why
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  Speaker 1: would my friend that's like you calling Rome my daddy
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  Speaker 1: and asking him to help you fix your car, even
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  Speaker 1: if it's like him he fixed cars, right, My daddy
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  Speaker 1: knows how to fix cars, but never knew that you
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  Speaker 1: called my daddy. His girlfriend felt a way about it
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  Speaker 1: and told me about it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that is fun.
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  Speaker 1: That's the ship I'm talking about right there, because you
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  Speaker 1: would ask my daddy for some money, right.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not me. She's not saying I would ask her.
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  Speaker 2: I would not ask you, daddy.
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  Speaker 1: I'm kind of explaining perception and like, come on, they
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  Speaker 1: gotta they gotta.
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  Speaker 2: Know how Sometimes they don't know, and they'll be like,
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  Speaker 2: don't be asking a daddy for money. See, that's the problem.
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  Speaker 1: You as imploral like plural you right, you asking? Yeah? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: like why would you be asking my man for money?
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  Speaker 1: Asking any man associated with me for money? I have
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  Speaker 1: a problem with that, and I don't know that you
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  Speaker 1: did that. That's a problem.
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  Speaker 2: So let me ask you this. My friend, one of
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  Speaker 2: her close friends or her ex husband. They just got
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  Speaker 2: a divorced. He has rental properties. One of her close
• 12:19
  Speaker 2: friends needed a place to stay and went to her
• 12:24
  Speaker 2: ex husband for an apartment. She got the apartment but
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  Speaker 2: never paid the rent, so then he called the ex
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  Speaker 2: wife because they still communicate, and was like, I'm about
• 12:39
  Speaker 2: to evict your friend. She's like, you're about to evict who?
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  Speaker 2: She's like, I talked to this girl all the time,
• 12:45
  Speaker 2: and she never said that she even came to you
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  Speaker 2: rent to rent a place.
• 12:51
  Speaker 1: Now, that's fucked up. That's weird over here.
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  Speaker 2: Don't I didn't know about the rental. I don't need
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  Speaker 2: to know nothing about the eviction.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's y'all business. Once y'all have a conversation, and
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  Speaker 1: y'all do business. Do not try to bring me back
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  Speaker 1: into the thing, because why am I just now finding
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  Speaker 1: out that she didn't pay the rent? You done give
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  Speaker 1: her a lease and everything else. Why am I just
• 13:14
  Speaker 1: finding out that she's even living in your place? Y'all
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  Speaker 1: both kept it for me? For what reason?
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  Speaker 2: And if she's he claimed, he assumed that she knew. Yeah, like,
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  Speaker 2: that's your friend you talk to all the time. I
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  Speaker 2: just assume that you knew.
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  Speaker 1: Interesting.
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  Speaker 2: But I wanted to let you know that I'm about
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  Speaker 2: to put your friend out.
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  Speaker 1: You know, My thing is, see see you have to
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  Speaker 1: Why would you not tell me that you hitting up
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  Speaker 1: my ex husband for a place to live, or why
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  Speaker 1: would you not say don't. Don't Derek got some apartments
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  Speaker 1: or whatever, got some places. You think he got something
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  Speaker 1: for rent? Like, why would that not be a conversation,
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  Speaker 1: especially when you talk to me right exactly? Why would
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  Speaker 1: you circumvent me to then not pay him the rent? Right?
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  Speaker 2: So?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, see that type of ship right there, it's weird
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  Speaker 1: old shit.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's weirdo weird. Sure, but getting the grists off
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  Speaker 2: the top, that's fine. Helping you carry your twocase down
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  Speaker 2: the steps, that's fine, you know, like right, you ain't tripping.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, So the Internet is coming from one of my
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  Speaker 1: Gemini Brotherren or whatever you call it, Masika. She's a
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  Speaker 1: Gemini two child, Masika. You owed me fifty seven dollars.
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  Speaker 1: I had bought a raffle from her one time for
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  Speaker 1: like some shit she was doing online and she never
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  Speaker 1: like followed through with the raffle.
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  Speaker 2: Bit.
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  Speaker 1: You owe me fifty seven dollars. So how much of
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: it the ship was? Fifty dollars plus? Never?
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  Speaker 2: What was it for?
• 14:44
  Speaker 1: Like apple products, like apple like raffling, like roundless time,
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  Speaker 1: like a Christmas one year or something like that. She
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  Speaker 1: was doing something, Yeah, she never she never did.
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  Speaker 2: The raffle, right, niggas was just waiting.
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  Speaker 1: It's fun raising right, croudfriending. Yeah. So recently her estranged
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: husband passed away, so people online are like questioning her
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  Speaker 1: because she just recently posted a picture posted up with
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  Speaker 1: another man, her current boyfriend, so the post says. The
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  Speaker 1: Sekret responds after social users questioned her grieving the passing
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  Speaker 1: of her a strained husband, says people don't realize her
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: new man Bino may be helping her. She said, I
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  Speaker 1: have to continue to living my fucking life. This is
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: what the caption says. But when he this guy passed
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: like a month ago, right it was? I feel like
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: it was just like a month and a half ago.
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  Speaker 1: A couple of weeks ago, the headline came out that
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: he had he had died, and she like put out
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  Speaker 1: this super heartfelt message of online letter to him, Darris
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  Speaker 1: my darish Jamar.
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  Speaker 2: Did it have dashes in it?
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: Why do you say that.
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  Speaker 2: If it's a dash in it? At gpt ro dishes.
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: Anytime I see a dash, which you ain't right, it's
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: funk out of here girl.
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  Speaker 1: When I tell you that, that is a whole conversation
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  Speaker 1: I just had with somebody because my friend is falling
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  Speaker 1: out with a friend, and we know this friend can't
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  Speaker 1: really talk that well, and she sent all this crazy
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  Speaker 1: ass responses like with all these bitch don't know, normal
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  Speaker 1: person just be using all these hyphens and the longer hyphen,
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: the one that's a little piece of longer like whatever
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  Speaker 1: that is the dash Nobody uses that in the real
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: English language for real when.
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  Speaker 2: They nobody's that is super formal. And if I see
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  Speaker 2: a lot of dot dots, I think you took the
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: dash out and put that there. But it's okay.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: We onto yall, niggas, We.
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: Argue your motherfucker.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: We onto you niggas, because like, listen, man, if you
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: you are allowing chat ept to formulate your thoughts, when
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: are you thinking.
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: Well, you know, I use chat GPT too, though I.
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: Do, everybody does. It depends on how you're using it,
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Right, you clearly didn't have
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: a response to none of this shit, so you let
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: jack jackie. You basically put she basically put my homegirl's
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: text messages in chat ept and allowed chat Gypt to
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: then think for her to respond to her. Yeah, that
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: is you're we are very much so digressing as a people. Used,
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't. I mean, I don't know if
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: they were so actively married. It's just so weird though.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: Have you seen the guy she's with now? No, he's
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: just like a young ass y in well he ain't
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: got no facial here, nah, and got a mouthful of
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: gold teeth.
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: Everybody listen, I don't question nobody grieving. Everybody grieve different.
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: Everybody goes through their grooving process different. I don't even
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: think her and that man was together at the time,
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: but that still didn't make it hurt that her baby,
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: you know, her husband, she was in love with him
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: at some point.
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and they have kids together, right, so is it
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: two kids? They might have two kids together. Yeah, But
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: looking at I was about to talk about her guy,
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: so looking at him, it just reminds me of the
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: guy that what's the girl delicious? You seen delicious boyfriend?
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: Where they going at with these la gangsters? What these niggas?
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: These niggas is killers.
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: I'm at her that type man. I used to like
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: them when I was younger. I don't want no more
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: of that shit.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: Girl, I'm good. Did you want in jail? The niggas
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: doant something to go to?
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: Jail.
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: They don't look like they not going to jail.
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: One of my friends, her homegirls, she fucking with some
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: gangster and she is like, a really, she's Green. She's
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: not in no street chicks, She's Mary Green. A bullet
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: grazed her head in the car with him. I'm talking
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: about she got a bullet burned on the side of
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: her head where she got grazed.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: By morning, and you.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: Still fucking with him. Whatever bullet you get next. You
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: know you know what I'm saying, like, leave that man alone.
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: He's gonna get you killed. Are you crazy.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: Think about going to jail? Like what? Dying never crossed
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: my mind? Because I'm not about to be right around
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: with the Yian. I'm gonna meet his ass everywhere.
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: You nowhere, there's nowhere you can't take the mind.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: I'll meet you.
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: No, we're not going not to eat a bullet.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: Did you hear what I said? A bullet or to
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: all of that happening? You just fucking with a Wiian.
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: I'm not pulling like I'll meet you. I'm not getting
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: in the car with you. If you really are, If
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: I even think you living like that girl, I fucking
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: with you.
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: If I think like that and now you got great.
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't it. Ain't no dick that will let me
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: want me to get grazed by a bullet on my face,
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: on her face, bitch, she got yeah nah?
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: And how old is she?
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: Almost forty? Girl?
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: By you remember, bitches thought it was cute for a
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: niggat to smash them with the with the pistol. I
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: would see people post stuff like that, like what they
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: want they they not have sex with them, but with
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: the pistol in his hand, Like fucking them with the
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: pistol in their hand.
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: Bitches is nut using.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: The pistol to smash them, but just you know, having
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: it on them. I guess. I don't know, like I've
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: never been into that type of stupidity.
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: No, that's weird, No, thank you.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: So apparently the men's the men's the guys they would
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: like to invoke financial celibacy. Okay it what's that? I
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: think we should wait a little while if I give
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: you a dollar, basically like we be waiting to fuck.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: Listen, listen, babe, I fuck with you. But I'm just
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: not ready for all of that, okay.
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: Not.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: Because I always like men value their pop pocket and
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: we value our pussy. So we know that, but we
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: still want you to give us the money.
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: How how do you make me right? Just what you said?
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: Put the Yeah, just put the tipping. Let me get
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: that car so I can put the tip of it
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: in the ATM just to tick. And we treated like
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: some pussy like, yeah, I just want to sort of tipping.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: Let me tap one time. Just let me tap.
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: Just give me the last four digits the last don't
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: have the last four digits? Yeah, baby baby, let me
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: get that up off you. Yeah, that's all I'm laying.
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: Biggas started acting like they own financial celibacy. I met
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: the finessing yo, baby yo, slippy, let me let me
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: put that.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: Anytime a nigga text me they miss me, I'm like,
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: you never gave me money. How do you miss me?
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: Men only miss women that they have invested in. That
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: nigga does not miss you. You're just trying to finesse
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: this phone. You don't miss me. You never gave me
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: any money. You do not miss me. Does that make
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: sense to you?
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: No, what you're saying don't make sense.
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: You cannot possibly, nigga, we've been chatting. However, we've been chatting.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: We've been texting whatever. We might talk on the phone
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: a few times, and you text me and tell me
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: you miss me. You don't miss me. You never gave
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: me any money.
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: Missing somebody work.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: Yes, it is men like like. I just feel like
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: as a man like, dude, if I was a man like,
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: I'm not really missing you. I'm trying to fuck I'm
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: trying to do something right.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: Like.
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: The people that I really miss are the people I
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: gave money to. Those are the women I love you,
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: see what I'm saying, Like, those are the people I
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: really fuck with. If I never gave you money, bitch,
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: I don't fuck with you. If a nigga never gave
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: you money, he don't fuck with you. That not true.
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: No, I agree. If they're not invested in you, they
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: probably don't care about you. But I don't think that.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: Don't mean they don't miss you any bitch that they
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: can deal with that they don't have to give money.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: I think they would probably miss a lot.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: Nah, you never gave me no money.
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: You don't miss me because you were.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: You said, because I was easy.
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd mean like, if they never give.
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: You money, you were very the God's damn.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: No, I'm just saying like not you per se just
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: like you yeah like yeah, like you're very miserable because
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: you were easy to obtain and keep on. I didn't
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: have to spend no money exactly.
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: Men do not miss women they had to spend no
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: money with, not for real. They just maybe they don't
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: want to spend money with the person they know they
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: got to spend money with, so they come into your
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: discount pussy green backs.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: What were we talking about this week.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: And talk about the broke friend you know, I mean
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: it broke bestI like either, And.
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: We're not talking about yourll kids. We're talking about your
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: real friends.
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: And maybe at some point you've been to broke best
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: in life.
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: I've definitely been to broke best before. Let's talk about it.
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: We'll be right back, all.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: Right, y'all, Today we are talking about your broke bestie.
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: Vacation season is gonna be coming out very much soon
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: or maybe y'all are planning some share right now. Y'all
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: know that list's gonna get real short, never be time
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: exactly by the time the vacation ends up coming, you
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: might end up going by your damn self and your
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: one other homegirl who has the money that's one part
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: of the broke bestie conversation. But I don't think that
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: you have to stop being friends with somebody just because
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: y'all in different tax prackets.
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: Basically, No, I think you just have to know your
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: personnel for real, Like it's some friends that you're gonna
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: invite to do certain things, in some friends you're not,
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: because you just might know that right now, they ain't
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: got it. So we was all, let me just say this.
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: We was on the trip, and they was making like,
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: I've known these girls for a long time, right, And
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: they was making fun of me because all right, at
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: this stage in our life, the bill come, we just
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: split it evenly. We ain't itemizing shit, We ain't seeing
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: who had what. It's just like we counted up and
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: just chop it up. But they was making fun of
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: me because at one time I'd be like, somebody owes
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: me a dollar seventy nine cents more, I don't know,
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: Like we did the math and I'm still a dollar
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: seventy nine cents short. Like I used to penny pitch
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: to the to the t to the exact coin. But
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: at that time in my life, which was I was
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: a young woman and I didn't have, like want any
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: financial freedom. I was living hand to mouth. I don't
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: know if you know what that means, but like, yeah, girl,
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: now you aj goddamn the listeners you're looking at me?
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: Who look at I don't know, not you, but like
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: you know when I get it, you know. And I
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: didn't really have a huge support system where I could
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: be like, hey, I'm I don't have no money, you know.
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: So that's why I feel like I had to be
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: like very conscious about how I spent every penny that
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: I got. You know, as I grew older and more
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: financially stable, that was able to change. But my back
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: then they'd be like, damn, it's only two dollars. I
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: need my two dollars, bitch of value. I can go
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: to Wendy's and get you know, nine your nincent man.
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: My one of my ex best friends, you know. Now,
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: my mama, we definitely weren't rich, right, but my mom
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: she's very very good with money, and she ain't buying
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: shit you don't need. Okay, So people living in the hood,
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: they probably had way more shit than I had grown up,
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: but we grew up in a in a home. My
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: mom was paying a mortgage on right. But I had
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: a friend and this is from through from high school
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: to college to you know, grown grown age adult, you know,
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: early twenties and shit like that. But I felt like
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: she just always resented me because I had it and
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: not even a lot, right, because at some point we
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: all started working. So if I we were like going
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: out to dinner and she's like that, if she have it,
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: I got it, and vice versa. Right, But at some
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: point I think my income elevated quicker than hers, like
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: finishing college or in college, you know what I'm saying,
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: So I can remember, like just I never if I
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: got it, you can have it. That goes really for anybody,
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. If somebody asked you for
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: something and I can stand it, I'm gonna give it
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: to you for sure. I remember standing in Express with
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: her and I asked her. I think it was for
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: like literally some a dollar and some change. When I
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: tell you, she hounded me. And I had spent so
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: much money on this bitch over the years. It was
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: literally like two dollars or some change. She was hounding
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: me for it.
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: How old were y'all at this point?
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: We probably was like I don't know, twenty twenty twenty,
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: like twenty like twenty years old. But girl, you got
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: here in my car on my gas you know, like,
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: I'm not trying to calculate up on a bitch, But
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: come on, now, two dollars you about to hand me
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: for two dollars?
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: So what she asked you for the two dollars back?
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: Yes, she did, and I got annoyed very fast, and
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: I did give her her two dollars back. And this
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: is probably the first time I ever spoken about this
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: out loud. But that's some bumshit, bitch.
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: I understand he was growth like that makes me think
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: of me like eighteen years old in college. I don't
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: have any need money. That two dollars is dinner, make money.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: You got my money. Do you see what I'm saying?
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: My money is your money. At some point you gonna
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: get these This is the way she was hounding me
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: for these two dollars. At some point you're gonna get
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: them two dollars out of me.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: It's crazy two dollars too.
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: I knew you were exact. I hope you were exaggerated.
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: I'll the amount, but.
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: It was for real two dollars. And that's something like
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: my money is your money. So at some point you're
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: gonna get these two dollars out of me? Are you
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: really have nothing else in your pocket right now and
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: you need these two dollars? I probably needed to hear
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: that to be okay with how she was hounding me.
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: Well, maybe that's what the case was, though, because when
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: you when you're college age and you don't come from
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: like wealth, college kids be broke.
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: I used to everybody was broke, but she was fucking
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: I had a nigga who was bringing me a car
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: so I could drive home gas. Like you know what
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like, Yeah, that is the difference. You see
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like, at some point my mama stopped
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: doing for me in college, right and my freshman year
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: in college I had to fend for myself. We got
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: the same shit going on. Why are you broken? You
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: having sex?
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: No? I agree there, what.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: Is happening so you could get money? You sitting on it?
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: But that's prosecution, Scott. Don't tell the girls that. Not
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: if you're in college and your dating someone just as
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: broke as you. Y'all are two broke students, y'all just
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: trying to figure it out and make it work and
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: rubbing pennies together. I remember me and my friend Stephanie
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: going to Wendy's and I think we had three dollars
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: between the two of us. Dude, like that was it.
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: We were so broke, you know, And we went and
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: got Wendy's Value menu and split a cheeseburger and half
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: is split nuggets like this niggas was broke. Yeah, we
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: were sitting on but we wasn't.
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: We wasn't selling pussy, Like it's not selling pussy. He
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: can at least take you to Walmart. He can at
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: least take you to get something to eat. I guess,
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I definitely had.
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: But you were probably dealing with boyfriend.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: And I had a boyfriend outside of college. Yes, you
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: gotta get to all what get a girlfriend.
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: At the time, it was broker than me. He was
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: from New York and he was like he was cold
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: at BA house and wash clothes like we was poor,
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: you know. So I mean college students. We're talking about
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: your eighteen nineteen years old, so you just were young.
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: But once you get a little older, I think you
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: start switching up how you move when it comes to money.
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because you know, as we grow our money grows
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: in or should mm hmm, And friendships can't always keep up, right,
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: So I have a friend right now, Oh I don't
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: be knowing who'll be listening nowadays, like personally.
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: Right, yeah, but you're not dropping no names.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: So yeah, but she just recently got ousted from a
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: baby shower because she was acting on some broke shit.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: Whereas this friend threw her an entire baby shower, and
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: now it's her time. She's having another baby, and somebody
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: else is throwing a baby shower and they're collectively put
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: money in the pot like to do different things. She
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: just didn't have it to do anything right, and everybody
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: understood that. So she was asked to do like some task,
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: so she said, okay about the yeah, yeah exactly. So
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: she told the person who asked her to do the task,
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: like can you pick up the cake or whatever? She
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: told that person yeah. But then she told somebody else
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: that they trying to low girl her. That's an internal problem, right,
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: Nobody is low girling you. Nobody even knows that this
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: has happened, right, But this is how you're feeling because
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: your money fucked up right now, and instead of you
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: just recognizing that because everybody else recognizes it, and they're
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: not putting pressure on you for any you know, financial contribution.
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: They have some tasks you can still contribute. It doesn't
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: have to be monetary, right, But that's the ego. That's
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: an ego thing right there, that's would be that's accountability.
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: It's a lot of different things wrapped up in there.
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: But one thing that is not is not your friend's fault. Right,
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: So if comments was made shit like her and all
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: her friends, they be high rolling. They gotta do this,
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: they gotta do that. So when you start like critiquing
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: what other grown thirty forty year old people are doing
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: are able to do and you're not able to do it,
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: that doesn't make they're not wrong for being an adult,
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying and trying to live life.
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: Because first of all, a lot of people be having
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: Hella bills, right, but they gonna live first, which I
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: agree with, fucking bills a little bit, fuck them a
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: little bit, but yeah, live also, right. But she's just
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: right now, she's just in between blessings. You're not broke.
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: You're in between blessings broke. This is a state of
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: mind right, you just broke. You ain't trying to do
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: nothing to get out of that. And the thing is that, y'all.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: I like listening to Reverend Ike. Reverend Ike said if
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: you if you curse the rich, you'll never be one. Okay,
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: So you can't just be talking shit. I don't believe
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: in a non prosperous god. I don't want to go
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: to no church where the preacher broke, Okay. I don't
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: want to go to no hospital where the doctor broke.
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: Like.
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: I don't want no broke shit because that is not
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: my state of mind.
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: I believe should be compensated and be making money and
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: be very prosperous. That's what I'm That's the energy I'm
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: fucking with, Like that type of energy that is broke
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: bitch energy. For sure, you're thinking this is not gonna
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: This is not where you're going to be. Always so
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: congratulate and appreciate and show gratitude until you get to
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: where you're going.
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: Have you ever had like something really good happened for
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: you and somebody that you thought was gonna be celebrating
• 36:15
  Speaker 2: allow us was real quiet?
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, and sometimes it could be a motherfucker with money, right,
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: it's just still the thing's not happening for them, so
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: they can even you know, be happy for you in
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: that moment.
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: You know, effort. I've had that happen and at first
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: I was feeling a way, but then I, you know what,
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: I decided not to take it personal because it wasn't
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: about me. You know, whatever they were, whatever they were feeling,
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: was an internal thing, and I did not take it
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: personal at the time. I just was like, you know what,
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: everybody going through their own shit. I don't know what
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: she's going through right now.
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: She might exactly.
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: I think a lot of times if we just stepped
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: back and realized, most shit don't got nothing to do
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: with you. Lot of things right and the things that do,
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: you know what got to do with you. But a
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: lot of times things the way people feel it do
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: start with them internally. And even if you feel like
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: you are, like this feeling is warranted right still, so
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: you can stay on top of your blessings. Make it
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: you the problem, just make I am learning to be
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: the problem, and I'm okay with that shit. It's my fault.
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: Let me tell you all this. And this is me
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: being vulnerable and metting at a time where I was
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: like Loki hating on my friend one time. Well, this
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: is job, I'm a human, this is me being honest,
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: all right. So at that time, me and her would
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: like share designer bags, right, we would swap out if
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: her bag mashed my office bar. You know, girls, barshit,
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: somebody broke into my house and stole a bunch of
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: shit out of my apartment and her bag got stolen.
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: So I had to replace her bag, which was like
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: almost three grand, and I gave her her money. You know,
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: you know, I pay my debts, so I pay her.
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: And she was calling me to show me the new
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: bag she bought with the money I just sent her,
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: and I was like, bitch, I don't even want to
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: see it. And I was just like, I don't want
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: to see that motherfucking bag. Bitch, I don't. And I
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: felt like I like she kind of felt salty that
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: I wasn't happy about her new bag. But I am
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: always happy when you get something new, Like, yes, my
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: friend called that she you know, she bossy, but when.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: It's you felt like you bought it. Yeah, I felt
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: like I bought that shit. I'm looking at this guy
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: because I'm trying to think that if my friend got robbed,
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: would I charge her for my stolen item. I don't
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: know that I would, because at this point I probably
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: paid for it myself. Okay, right, and now I'm asking
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: her to cough up three thousand dollars for the bag.
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. Let's file this insurance clan. See,
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: we can get this goddamn money.
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: If I don't know, I think I would just eat it. Honestly,
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: I think I would have just ate it. I don't
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: know if I would have made. I think that you,
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: if you were the one that this shit got stolen from,
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: you would want your three bands too. Yeah, yeah, see,
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: And this is where like, okay, you can understand where
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: you're listen.
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: And that's why I paid my desk. Listen, I had it,
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: I was responsible for somebody stole it from me. Listen,
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: I replace what I you know, but don't call me
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: bout no new shit you got with my three bands.
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: I don't want to hear it. Now.
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: Let me tell you how I know this bitch, you
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: want them three thousand dollars because when we first started
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: this podcast, okay, we was using some wine glass. Is
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: this bitch's house. When I tell y'all, tell me ask
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: how me for a month to replace her broken wine glass.
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: She did that. He on the other hand, I would
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: just bought me a new wine glass. That's just it.
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: It was an accident.
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: It was like an accident. Did you remember?
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: I sure did. On the way to record one day,
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: you reminded me via text message, and I stopped right
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: at the I think it was the container store, createing barrel,
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: praying barrel, crateing fucking barrel.
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: Her wine glass?
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: Okay, it was one glass and they wasn't even exclusive
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: glasses either, but they're so cute. I can't wait wait
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: to move back in mind.
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: Girl, I'm not I'm just going to replace my ship
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: like I don't have people break so much shit if
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: I really really love it. I feel like you should
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: take the initiative, initiative and go replace my ship. But
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: I'm not about to ask you to if it was
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: an accident, but I feel like you should automatically do it.
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: Like well, I feel like you offered to repla though
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: I did not.
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: No, you never did.
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: I might have. Even if I offered. You shouldn't have
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: held me to God, damn bitch, damn my glass. You
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: haven't brought my glass, Like, let me get your glass
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: instead of four, now it's three. It's like a wino, right,
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: I need my glass.
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah. But yeah, So a friend who maybe I was
• 41:29
  Speaker 2: hating a little bit at that time, but only because
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: it was my money. If it was I mean, guess
• 41:35
  Speaker 2: technically it wasn't my money. It was her money. I
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: replaced something that belonged to her. But because I had
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: to fork over that money, it just hurt a little
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: bit to see because that was in my head, that's
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: whatever you bought supposed to be mine.
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: Right. I could have bought that bag for three bands.
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: I just bought you a bag for three thousand. Yeah,
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: I I don't know. That is a lot of money.
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: That is a high priced item I would have I
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: would have least settled for fifteen hundred.
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah. But and this is that. That was when I
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: learned my lesson about exchanging shit with each other, Like,
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: don't borrow my ship and I ain't borrowing yours because
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: I do not want to have to replace it if
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: you gonna miss me.
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I really don't, you know. My mama taught me
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: that a long time ago. Don't be letting people borrow
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: your shit. Don't you borrows people things? If you need something,
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: let me know something, you know, I really don't ask
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: people for personal items.
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: I have.
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: I have a lot of shit went walking out the door.
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: What people you let hole things? They act like they
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: forgot to give it to you. You knew you wanted
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: this ship when I when I let you hold and
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: when you asked me about it? What you so and
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: so at let me borrow that? When you asked me
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: about it, you was already plotting on accidentally taking that
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: shit three hours back to your fucking house. But I
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: feel like I have had a friend who I'm no
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: longer friends with. She had got a large settlement from
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: a car accident she got into, like a real bad
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: car accident when she got really fucked up, and like
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: during the time from this accident, it might have been
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: like a year and a half where she was waiting
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: on this settlement. Our relationship like plummeted during that time.
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: Like I was going through like a bad ass breakup
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: at the time, her and her boyfriend and they were
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: trying to get like stable and then they actually they
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: were engaged to they were trying to get stabled and
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: with housing and all that stuff, but they had this
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: big ass in between blessings. They had this super blessing
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: coming through, and our relationship just declined at that point.
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: And I feel like the people who I am no
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: longer friends with, I know their struggles and I know
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: like their upbringing, I know how they struggled in life,
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: and I feel like they couldn't wait to one up
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: me when that is never my mind said bitch, because
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: this person couldn't never let me get my hand on
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: that type of money first and not make sure she
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: was straight. And not saying that, I like think she
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: should have made sure I was good, right, But I
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: just realized that the whole time, our friendship just wasn't
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: what I thought it was. You know what I'm saying
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: for money, not even I don't even think it's money.
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: I think a lot of times, the problems I have
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: with people, it could be like that's part of it, right,
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: I have more money in my fucking twenties. Hey, first
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: of all, I gotta go real hard. You probably the
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: next ten years you.
• 44:32
  Speaker 2: Probably didn't have more money. You just probably got more
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: financial responsibilities now than you did when you were bitch.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: We still ain't got no turn Like I feel like,
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: as long as you don't want no kids, you balling,
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: that's not it. But I just always had my own place,
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. For the most part, I
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: have always had bills, Yes, but it's parting.
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: The eggs twenty seven dollars back then. Yes, it wasn't
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: as high as it is all these you know, the
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: responsibilities have changed. Then you were accruing student loans, now
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: you're paying them. You're like, just you might've been on
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: your parents' insurance then now you gotta pay health insurance.
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: I don't feel care when nobody's saying, once you get
• 45:12
  Speaker 2: closer to the forty, you going to the doctor way
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: more you did than you did when you was twenty
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: years old.
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: Why the fuck was Mike Cole paying eighty dollars? Yeah,
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: primary healthcare visit.
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, So just shit like that, that shit started adding up.
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: You're not wearing cheap ass clothes no more.
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: Like how girl, we was in college shopping at BB
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: and ART and B.
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: I don't know how to fuck or where we was
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: like my little friends group where we was getting the
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: money from, but we was in there BB and R
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: and b was not fucking cheap. I mean, you're paying
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: one hundred and twenty five dollars then in college for shirt.
• 45:49
  Speaker 2: Right, I don't know. You couldn't tell me shit in
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: my little art and b I just love that shit.
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: Where was we getting the money from? You're putting some
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: Baker pumps and some Baker pumps. You know what I'm saying.
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know he was getting money
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: from for real Express Express ain't never been cheap. No,
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: I started college with Hella Express. My sister be boosting too, bitch.
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: I had so much Tommy Hill figure and shit like
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: that back then.
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: My sister was I'm about.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: To say, Phil to kill her. I need some shit
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: tied again. She not got arrested a couple of times.
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: She don't do that shit no more. But what was
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: I saying? Yeah, I don't know. I think it's sometimes
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: it's the motion, right, just you always have emotion, and
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: I know I make it look good even if I
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: don't have it good Like I don't have it, I'm
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: gonna still make it look like I got in. You
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. I've been big money my whole
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: life and fucking broke financially, you know people, I would
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: always be surprised, like when guys or even homegirls like,
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: I don't know what about me? What makes you think
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: I got money for you to borrow? Is it not
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: ever like surprising when somebody calls and ask you for money?
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: It is very surprises to me because they know I
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: ain't giving out no money, like I will get money,
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: but everybody knows that I'm the very last option.
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: Like do I look like a lick? Do I look
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: like a lick?
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: Like?
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: Do I look like a safe space that you could?
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: I ask people for money. I ask men for money,
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: So why the fuck are you coming over here asking
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: me for money? Are you okay? Are you okay?
• 47:29
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: Are you okay? Group trips so vacation and shit like that. Like,
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: like I said, the vacation starts with how many people
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: in the group, and by the end of the damn
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: I don't know the how many. Ever, four months y'all
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: got to pay towards this thing. Half the group done
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: fell out and then be upset when you stop inviting
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: them places you It's not that I'm now I am
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: like considering your pockets even when you're not right. So
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: It's not that I don't want you to do this thing.
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: I just don't want to put any stress or pressure
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: on you to do it.
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: So I don't even I don't even consider that because
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: I be feeling like people are an adult. I don't
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: count people pocket either. You can do it, you're gonna
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: do it. If you can't, you can't.
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: So you're gonna still invite them.
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's up to you to decide how you want
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: to allocate your money, right, Yeah, so go ahead now.
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: If you make poor choices, that's on you, baby girl.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: I don't know what to tell you all on the boat,
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: all on the cruise and then you got rented when
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: you get back.
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: But in the rent Onney is crazy. But I don't
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: think I have friends that are like we're I think
• 48:44
  Speaker 2: we're all at of age where we're not making them
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: ass choices like that.
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like some people probably still are,
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: like they just trying to live right now, and then
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: they resent it and they have buyers re morse. You know,
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: when the thing is over and now you're mad at
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: everybody else but yourself. Sometimes you got to stay in
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: the house. Yeah, sometimes you gotta sit down. You save
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: so much money. Well, I don't know now because of
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: online shopping, bitch, because I be in the dark. Last
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: night was planning a vacation booking. I don't know how
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: the fuck I'm about to pay for this ship, bitch.
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: But I'm out for Christmas.
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: Legionary, bitch, huh this year?
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I'm book I booked for the twenty ninth,
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: twenty exees me the twenty what's the day after Christmas?
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: Twenty sixth, twenty seventh, so the twenty seventh to January second.
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: I'm out.
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: I know that's right. You're going with your man? Where
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: you are going?
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: Beatos?
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: Are you listen? That been on the bucket list? So
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: I'll let you're going.
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: I know, so I've been. I tried to see where
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: else because the longer you wait, you know, the plane tickets,
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: everything go up. But I'm out, man, I need a vacation.
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: I haven't felt like I deserved a vacation in a
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: long time because I've been just out here doing what
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: the fuck I want to do. I feel like I
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: deserve a vacation right now, and I'm taking.
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: I always feel like I deserve it. I just got
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: back and I feel like I deserve another one, all right?
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: And restaurants without checking budgets? Do I need to check
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: with you to see do I need to consider somebody's
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: pocket before I pick what restaurant we're gonna eat at.
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: I feel like most of my friends, if we don't
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: spend money on nothing else, we spend money on food.
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: Right, we're gonna go eat or just don't go, like
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: you don't have to go Like that's the thing I
• 50:36
  Speaker 2: would listen. I'll let you know up front what I'm
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: gonna spend. If you invite me to something I'm not,
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: I'll be like, oh no, I ain't doing all of that.
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: And then here's my thing. I want to go to everything,
• 50:49
  Speaker 2: so I like I would to. In just the past
• 50:53
  Speaker 2: month and a half, I went to New Orleans, now
• 50:56
  Speaker 2: went to Chicago, New Orleans, New York, Texas. Then the
• 51:04
  Speaker 2: crew with different bitches for every trip. But I I'm
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: frugal though, Like, I'm not spending too much every place
• 51:18
  Speaker 2: because I got bitches. Next week, I'm going somewhere with
• 51:21
  Speaker 2: so I can't run it up with y'all, but I'm
• 51:25
  Speaker 2: gonna do enough. You know.
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: You feel you do not make your friend feel away, though,
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: is that even a thing like if you have a
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: I remember a friend asked me if I wanted to
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: go out to eat, and this is like when we're
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: now older. This is the person who actually for the
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: two dollars back. So now we're a little older, right,
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: she got a kid, now all this shit. And I
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: remember calling to ask me if I wanted to go
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: out to eat because she was in town, and she
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: was like, and I'm paying for She said, I'm gonna
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: pay too for once. What is the phrase? Basically she's saying,
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: and I'm paying because you always was paying for me before, Right,
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: that's on your mind. I never thought about the only
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: time I would think about things I paid for is
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: when she would act selfish.
• 52:06
  Speaker 2: Well maybe she was just trying to let you know
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: she's paying it for it. She want to treat you.
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: That was like a good gesture, I guess, But our
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: friendship ultimately ended up ending really because of like money shit.
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: Like just I remember when she first got her driver's
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: license and she was like she sent me a picture
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: of her license and she was like, don't it look
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: like don't I look like my mama on this license?
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: MH.
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, like a black panther because she
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: had her afro. Right, you asked me if you look
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: like your mama, a fifty sixty something year old lady,
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: and you got an afro on your driver's license. I
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: was like, yeah, you look like your mama. Not I
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: said her mom's name, now, not like your mama. Yeah,
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: she was like. She messaged me back. She was like,
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: why because I'm not hidden behind We even makeup. It
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: was like, Hello, that ain't I ain't never had nobody
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: taking me to get a driver's license in a car? Hello?
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: What ain't mad about it? Girls? So all these years,
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: mind you, I got a car our last year of
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: high school, and that car got both her and I
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: to work. That car got both her and I to college.
• 53:18
  Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: Whatever I had, you had, right, But our entire entire friendship,
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: you have been like tallying up some shit on me
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: that I'm not right. You're tallying up what I'm able
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: to do for you. I'm not tallying up what I've
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: done for you. Yeah, somehow you built resentment towards me
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: for being capable. Right, that has nothing to do with me.
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: And I think sometimes if anybody like I shouldn't have
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: to dumb myself down to ever make anybody else feel
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: comfortable like this, BO says, don't intentionally flex? How do
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: you intentionally flex? You gotta always be intentionally doing something
• 54:02
  Speaker 1: to somebody who can't, because they just gonna be feeling
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: a way. If they gonna feel the way, it's not
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: there's no avoiding that, you know what I'm saying, It's
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: no avoiding that mental illness, because that's what it is.
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: It's hating, Like, is there a way that you're flaunting
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: your wealth or riches? I can't. I don't know. Yeah,
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: I don't agree with that because I don't.
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: Know to be flying, But you would think that it
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: would be the little things that somebody's so jealous of.
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: It's your area, your energy, your motion, right, don't add
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: money on top of that, because I had motion before
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: I have money. I had the energy before I had
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: the bag, and I still ain't got no bag, you
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, not the big bag, not
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: what I consider a bag. I saw. I thought about
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: this topic because I saw a post online today and
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: this dude was saying he was like this bitches all
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: mented on his post, and this shit fucked me up.
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: She said, he said. The person commented and said, everybody
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: ain't struggling like I'm all right, and it made him think,
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: like we like a lot of people like post about
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: struggling and this, this, this that and the that, this
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: that and the third going on in life, and that's
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: not everybody's situation. Situation.
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because when I was saying like I was poor
• 55:25
  Speaker 2: in college, it's some people listening like, I don't know
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: what that's like. You know, it's probably like we got
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: listeners that don't have can't identify with being a poor
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: college too, right, you know.
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: So I've always been a hybrid, always been that in
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: the middle. You know what I'm saying. I never had everything.
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: I don't feel like I ever had enough of anything.
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: Have ever missed a meal? Yeah?
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: I have.
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: As an adult, I have missed. Let me stop lying,
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: hold on because you got something to eat.
• 55:57
  Speaker 2: I don't think I ever missed a meal.
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: I think I have. I've never missed a meal. I've
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: never my LIFs ain't never been off in my house
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: as a child or as an adult. It's those are
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: the things I'm a I'm a paid before I do
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: anything else. That's you're not You're not being responsible. Your
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: life is the biggest business you'll ever run.
• 56:16
  Speaker 2: But I mean, everybody bottom different, you know, so yeah,
• 56:20
  Speaker 2: what some might consider what I might consider I'm doing well,
• 56:26
  Speaker 2: I'm wealthy. Is a person out there listening would be like,
• 56:30
  Speaker 2: if I ever get to that, like coming to America,
• 56:32
  Speaker 2: maybe one day you can have all of this, And
• 56:34
  Speaker 2: he was like, that would be something. Yeah, because now
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: I'm for as fuck right everybody you know, everybody's wealthybody different. Yeah,
• 56:46
  Speaker 2: but don't I don't think you should, Like, I think
• 56:51
  Speaker 2: it's mean girl energy to pick your friends based on
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: how much money they got or how they come and financially.
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: Or hear somebody you been friends with for a long time,
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying that, And this is like
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: you leveled up quicker. Yeah, you know, but I wouldn't
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: like they can't keep up.
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: But you're not. You're not going to discard them because
• 57:14
  Speaker 2: of that, you know, Like.
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: No, absolutely not, but they might discard you, you know
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like that happens, They might start a
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: lot of times, people who are really wealthy will tell
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: you it's not them that change, just the people around
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: them that changed. People start treating you differently, we don't
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: even got no bags, but we we we got motion. Right,
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: people don't treat you differently. Yeah, just thinking you got
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: some shit going on that you might not.
• 57:44
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: I always get a surcharge on shit just because I
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: know Charlemagne, motherfucker always trying to tax me or some shit.
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: I don't have Charlamagne's money that part. So you know, people,
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: it's just a thing, right. And I feel like if
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: success oftentimes either Goner's admiration or a goners hater, like
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: a hater, you become a hater. And adults just have
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: a hard time admitting that they fucking hatter, so they
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: will create reasons to justify the hate. Or she be flexing,
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: or her and an't her friends, they be doing too much,
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: Like no, you're not doing enough because you could be
• 58:21
  Speaker 1: making more money, but you like to lay down. I
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: like to lay down too. At some point you got
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: to get.
• 58:28
  Speaker 2: Up right, I agree. Or you know what, some people
• 58:35
  Speaker 2: are okay with not having a lot of money, but
• 58:38
  Speaker 2: and if you like, I think everybody wants more money.
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: But I think people some people are okay with like
• 58:45
  Speaker 2: having just a regular house, a regular job. They can
• 58:48
  Speaker 2: feed their family, they can make sure their kids are healthy,
• 58:53
  Speaker 2: absolutely yeah, and they're not trying to go on the yacht.
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: They're not trying to buy a expensive bags and all that.
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: Shit is just I don't do none of that. Mean
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: I definitely like a low boat trip on Victis, Yeah,
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: But like all the materialistic things, like I always say,
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: I want it, I like to buy experiences. It's never
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: gonna be things and stuff.
• 59:17
  Speaker 2: I want both. I love me a good bag, a
• 59:20
  Speaker 2: good shoe.
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: Right now, if I gotta choose, you see what I'm saying, yeah,
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: and not saying that I really have to choose. I'm
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: not just living for me. I don't even have kids yet,
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: but I think about right now, at this age, if
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: I have a kid, what am I leaving for them?
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: That's why I'm like, I got a grind for the
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: next ten years because I did what the fuck I
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: want I wanted to for the last ten years. So
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: the next ten years, girl, we're gonna be fucking fifty sixty.
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: That shit is coming girl. Whatever, girl, it is fucking coming,
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: and it's coming. So what a full one k looking like? Right?
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: What a retirement looking like? There's other things to consider
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: other than yourself and your fun today.
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 2: No, I agree.
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: So if if right now, at this, at that age,
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: and you still worrying about, you know, not being being
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 1: able to eat with your friends or do a vacation
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: with your friends, when you gonna do something different, I agree.
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: Were getting older and I feel like there's a certain
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: like there's just adult shit that people are gonna want
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: to do, and it's nobody else's fault if you can't
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: do adult shit with them.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 2: This is true. What you're gonna do barbecue mildew.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, what you're gonna do, barbecue mildewyep, for real, for real.
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 2: That's my last last.
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: My last last is take the trip, bitch. If you
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 1: gotta pop some extra pussy to do it, don't do that. Listen,
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: they fucking anyway, Why would you not? The men know
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: they gotta come with the offerings.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 2: Y'all.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: Do not let these niggas. Oh, you shouldn't be fucking,
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: You shouldn't go on a trip, and you shouldn't be
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: having sex. I'm gonna challenge y'all bitches in twenty twenty six,
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: if you, if your finances are not in order, do
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: not pop that pussy in twenty twenty six. You do
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: not deserve to be popping that pussy bottom line, Okay,
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 1: I do you know what?
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 2: Not? Only do you not this? Nobody deserves to be
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 2: inside your body if they can't help you, if you're
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 2: if you're fucked up out here? Why is anybody inside
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 2: your body?
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 1: Why you not? Time cannot come thinking about my light built.
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 2: Right that part?
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 1: I just a loved one to get one hundred dollars
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: from every nigga she fucking.
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 2: I challenge you to do that if she couldn't, can you.
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: Get I don't know. I didn't never follow up. I
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: just was like, I just threw it out there, like
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 1: I can't be sucking dick to pay your light bil,
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 1: because that's how I feel. If I not to say that,
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 1: I gotta get this money from this man to do
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 1: this thing for this person, but his money is mine too, essentially, right,
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 1: So if I I am fucking with somebody that I
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 1: know that will do anything for me, at some point
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 1: I might have to use them to do something for you.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 1: Why I gotta do that when you fucking too?
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm tripping. It's a little prostituting a little bit,
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 2: but I get where you're going. Where you're going twenty.
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 1: Twenty six challenge, do not pop that pussy if you
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: ain't popping no bands, okay, and watch out life get
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: if all. Everything feels so much better when you got
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: money in the bank. Everything is lit. It feels good
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: to party with money, It feels good to have sex
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: with money. You have to worry about some shit.
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 2: It just will take me where. I also challenged the girl,
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 2: don't spend your money on a bunch of things, like
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 2: what catch y'all said, don't waste money on the bag
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 2: and can't put a bag in it if you can't.
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 2: If you're using all your money on stuff, but if
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 2: some shit happen, you can't fund your life, that's a problem.
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 2: Stop doing that. You don't want to just look good,
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 2: you really want to be good.
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 1: I see that happening of wearing their money.
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 2: Like girl got all kind of Chanel bags and all
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 2: the shoes, and a nigga was like funding a lot
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 2: of this stuff, and then he decided to stop paying
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 2: her rent. She was evicted immediately immediately.
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: What are you doing? The bags are an investment, right,
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 1: so you can sell them, But then people be still
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 1: trying to hold on the stuff to still look good
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: for then that whole time their life and fucking shambles.
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 1: Probably got a kid out here, just it doesn't make
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 1: any sense.
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: I saw this one girl, she had like all the designer,
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 2: all the designer. I'm talking about closet stupid. And then
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 2: what was about her business was like she had like
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 2: a boutique or something like it. It was folding and
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 2: she wanted to GoFundMe. She put up like a gofund
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 2: me asking people to give her money. Girl, if you
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 2: don't sell all that shit, you got all that, but
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 2: you're want to keep it. You want to keep all
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 2: that stuff and use everybody else money. No start over
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 2: with that. You have what it? That's why when on
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 2: What's That Show with Mary J. Blige the Tahatas and
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 2: they was like trying to come up with.
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 1: How was that right? I've been wearing design and shit
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: for thirty seasons straight. Now admit that knowing guitar sweater,
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 1: little throat shit you had on bitch, y'all buy it
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 1: right now.
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 2: I would literally watch the show and take their outfits
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 2: and like add it up, remember, and I screenshot and
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 2: post the prices of all that shit. Y'all got what
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 2: y'all need? Why is y'all killing people. Y'all got this
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 2: ship right there.
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 1: They one bill away from being a regular nigga. You'll
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 1: don't live your life like that man. That ship is
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: really whack. And I mean, aside from rent life insurance.
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 1: Something happening you now. You're trying to get do dinners
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 1: and go fundy for a funeral you ask deserve to
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: be cremated. You did not. Oh, we're gonna We're gonna
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 1: make you pay for it. Like did he made Biggie
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 1: pay for his own funeral. We won't rec that's crazy.
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 1: We're gonna recoup it.
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 2: Wow, that's time to go.
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, we all enjoyed this episode. Y'all tuned
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• 1:05:46
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• 1:05:48
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• 1:05:52
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• 1:05:53
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• 1:05:59
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• 1:06:02
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• 1:06:13
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Never hold no hold yoge wallet, hold
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 1: on to some of that money.
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 2: Stop running it up.
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 1: Don't try to hold your friend accountable for having a bag.
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 1: Can't be mad at her.
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 2: Bit. Bye, y'all, Deuces.
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