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I Risked My Life to Save My Children. Bianco Lezama · Libro Abierto Interviews ENGLISH

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  Speaker 1: That trip was planned because it was my daughter's birthday.
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  Speaker 1: We decided to take the free Road a friend, another friend,
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  Speaker 1: my daughter, my son, and me. From a distance, I
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  Speaker 1: saw two guys standing in the middle of the road
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  Speaker 1: and they were signaling me to stop. I realized they
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  Speaker 1: weren't soldiers. The thought of them taking my kids out
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  Speaker 1: of the car and taking them away, or just making
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  Speaker 1: them get out, and I would get out and put
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  Speaker 1: myself in front of them and then not be able
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  Speaker 1: to do anything for my kids. That thought paralyzed me.
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  Speaker 1: And it was and the turning point for deciding not
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  Speaker 1: to stop. So I sped up. I started to hear
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  Speaker 1: a burst of gunfire. It was overwhelming, and that's when
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  Speaker 1: the bullet hit me and I told them, hey, I
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  Speaker 1: can't straighten up, I can't move. You don't even have
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  Speaker 1: that in your head. I mean, the bullet literally exploded
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  Speaker 1: inside my head. My son told me because he got
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  Speaker 1: to see me straight on, that he could see a
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  Speaker 1: piece of brain on the outside. I was left quadriplegic.
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  Speaker 1: They tell me you should be dead. I mean they
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  Speaker 1: had already given up on me.
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  Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Hello, Please could you tell me your name,
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  Speaker 2: age and what you do for a living.
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  Speaker 1: Hello, I'm Bianco Lesama. I'm forty six years old. I'm
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  Speaker 1: a single father and at the moment, I don't work
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  Speaker 1: because I have a physical condition that prevents me from
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  Speaker 1: doing so.
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  Speaker 3: Very good. We'll talk about your condition in a moment,
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  Speaker 3: and when you take off your cap, it's going to
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  Speaker 3: have the same impact on the audience as it did
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  Speaker 3: on me, and they'll see why you.
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  Speaker 1: Can't work exactly.
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  Speaker 3: That's part of why you're here. Right. You had due
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  Speaker 3: to lack of a better word, I could call it
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  Speaker 3: a tragedy.
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  Speaker 1: That's right. This is a chilling horror story. It actually
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  Speaker 1: took place in the early hours of the morning.
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  Speaker 3: And well before we talk about what happened to you
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  Speaker 3: and what you've struggled with life in general after that incident,
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  Speaker 3: I'd like us to talk a little about who Bianco is,
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  Speaker 3: because I can imagine your life is divided into before
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  Speaker 3: and after this. Yes, of course, let's talk about the before.
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  Speaker 3: Tell me you have two children.
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  Speaker 1: Before I was a young man from Guadalajara. When I
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  Speaker 1: was fourteen, my parents brought me to Kuretro because of
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  Speaker 1: work reasons. This was primarily because of the significant currency
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  Speaker 1: devaluation that occurred back in the year nineteen ninety four.
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  Speaker 1: So we had to so to speak roun to Kretro
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  Speaker 1: because in Kereto there is my mom's immediate family. That's
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  Speaker 1: where I grew up. Well, really, right, fourteen years of
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  Speaker 1: my life. It's not a lot when you talk about
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  Speaker 1: an entire lifetime, right, I mean.
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  Speaker 3: Would it be fair for me to imagine that you
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  Speaker 3: identify yourself more strongly as being from Jalisco or from Kreto.
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  Speaker 1: I don't divide it like that. I mean, I've already
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  Speaker 1: been in Keretro for thirty two years. I still love Jalisco.
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  Speaker 1: I have very good friends there, both male and female.
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  Speaker 1: I also have family there. In fact, I have I
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  Speaker 1: always tell people I have more than a thousand relatives
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  Speaker 1: in Guadalajara. I think my mom has a photo and
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  Speaker 1: it's like two meters long because we couldn't all fit in.
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  Speaker 1: So yes, it's quite a large family.
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  Speaker 3: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: So well, I grew up in Correcto. I arrived in
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  Speaker 1: second No, in second year of middle school? Yes, that's right. No, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: I arrived in second or third year of middle school.
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  Speaker 1: I don't remember. I finished high school. I finished my degree.
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  Speaker 1: What did you study a bachelor's degree in law.
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  Speaker 3: Ah, so you're a lawyer.
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  Speaker 1: I practiced law for quite a long time, about fifteen years.
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  Speaker 3: I practiced law a specialist in anything.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't do a specialization, but.
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  Speaker 3: You focused more on civil and commercial.
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  Speaker 1: Law, civil commercial, family law, and sometimes I dabbled a
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  Speaker 1: bit in criminal law. What I didn't really practice was
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  Speaker 1: labor law. And then I actually got married at the
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  Speaker 1: age of twenty nine. It was right around that same
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  Speaker 1: time that my very first child was born into the world.
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  Speaker 1: How old is your child right now? He's sixteen. Unfortunately,
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  Speaker 1: that marriage didn't work out and we decided to separate.
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  Speaker 1: I stayed with my son. I have taken care of
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  Speaker 1: him since he was born, and I will take care
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  Speaker 1: of him until the day I die. Later on, I
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  Speaker 1: started another relationship. It was back around the year twenty fourteen,
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  Speaker 1: and that was the time when I had another second daughter.
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  Speaker 1: She was born in twenty seventeen. Right now, she is
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  Speaker 1: eight years old. I also have my little girl with
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  Speaker 1: me in the same way. I have taken care of
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  Speaker 1: her since she was born, and I will keep taking
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  Speaker 1: care of her as long as my body allows me.
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  Speaker 3: To tell us a little about your children, What are.
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  Speaker 1: They like they are very strong, extremely strong, especially my daughter.
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  Speaker 1: She is an extraordinarily strong woman because of many things
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  Speaker 1: we've been through, you know, in the past. How do
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  Speaker 1: you say it? Before the accident and after the accident, right,
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  Speaker 1: she has been very, very, very strong because now she
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  Speaker 1: understands that her daddy can't run, can't jump, can't play well,
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  Speaker 1: I can't do many of the things I used to
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  Speaker 1: do with her so well, she has had to understand
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  Speaker 1: that situation. Sometimes she does get overwhelmed with feelings like
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  Speaker 1: I'm bored or I want to go here, I want
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  Speaker 1: to go there, you know, and telling him, I try
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  Speaker 1: to get my sister to help me. She says, hey,
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  Speaker 1: can you take her here? Can you take her there?
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  Speaker 1: She's eager and lends me a hand.
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  Speaker 3: You told us a little bit about your daughter, But
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  Speaker 3: what is your son's personality?
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  Speaker 1: Like my son. It's also very powerful because he was
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  Speaker 1: also at this event. He's very mellow and laid back.
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  Speaker 1: He's going through his teenage years right now, so he's
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  Speaker 1: as you might expect, you know, right, my world and
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  Speaker 1: it's over.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, that's all we need to say. Adolescence so that
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  Speaker 3: everyone understands, Yes, adolescence that is exactly right.
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  Speaker 1: He is currently navigating the peak of his adolescence. He
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  Speaker 1: is just sixteen years old now, and he is just
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  Speaker 1: starting to discover the vastness of the world around him,
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  Speaker 1: beginning to make the critical decisions that will eventually define
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  Speaker 1: his entire adult life. So you probably already know how
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  Speaker 1: the struggle is always there between a father and his
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  Speaker 1: adolescent son, and an adolescent and his father. But at
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  Speaker 1: the end of the day, Thomas is truly a young
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  Speaker 1: boy with a very big and kind heart. He's a
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  Speaker 1: very intelligent boy. I'm amazed by him. He literally has
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  Speaker 1: a photographic memory. And I've been asked many times, many
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  Speaker 1: teachers have told me, have him take an IQ test,
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  Speaker 1: have him take an IQ test, but they're quite expensive
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  Speaker 1: and right now I haven't been able to get it done.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, of course. And among them, how do they get along?
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  Speaker 3: I mean, among your children.
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  Speaker 1: Like siblings. They fight like cats and dogs, but they
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  Speaker 1: love each other intensely.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, And how is your relationship with them?
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  Speaker 1: Good? Good? I'm firm obviously if they get out of hand,
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  Speaker 1: well I tell them, you don't want me to act
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  Speaker 1: like a monkey, right, And then no, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: So tone down your mischief. A bit, Please pick up,
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  Speaker 1: don't throw things, don't break things, and don't kill each other.
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  Speaker 3: Hey, biuncle, and what has been the hardest thing for
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  Speaker 3: you as a dad? A single dad?
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  Speaker 1: You know, I love my children so very much that
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  Speaker 1: I truly couldn't even begin to tell you how I feel.
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  Speaker 1: I always try to find a way to make things work,
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  Speaker 1: so I always took them to their activities. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: even now, in this difficult situation we're talking about, I
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  Speaker 1: still take my daughter to her swimming lessons that are
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  Speaker 1: generously gifted to her because they know that right now
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  Speaker 1: I simply can't earn any money. And besides, that's swimming
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  Speaker 1: because she also unfortunately had a fracture in that incident
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  Speaker 1: and it really helps as a form of physical therapy
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  Speaker 1: for her leg. So they kindly offered to pay for
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  Speaker 1: her lessons, and I make sure to take her every time,
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  Speaker 1: even in my current state. I mean, I looked for
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  Speaker 1: a school just a few blocks from my house, a
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  Speaker 1: distance I can manage, and on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays
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  Speaker 1: I take her. I take her to school which is
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  Speaker 1: also close to home.
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  Speaker 3: As many moms and dads say, the best school is
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  Speaker 3: the one closest to you.
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  Speaker 1: Well, yes, so I'm telling you I've always looked out
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  Speaker 1: for them in one way or another. I rely if
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  Speaker 1: you will on someone else. I don't know, my sister.
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  Speaker 1: I've had a lot of help from friends. I have
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  Speaker 1: very good friends who, with my eyes closed, they could
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  Speaker 1: take my children without any problem. So yes, I have
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  Speaker 1: had support for that situation, but for my world to
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  Speaker 1: fall apart. If you're referring to sentimental or relationship matters, no, to.
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  Speaker 3: The sentimental side and relationships, but also the day to day,
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  Speaker 3: the hustle and bustle of life, right, I mean taking
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  Speaker 3: them to school.
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  Speaker 1: Well, that is exactly why I, at least in theory,
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  Speaker 1: tend to say yes, I definitely did have it. You see,
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  Speaker 1: before that accident happened, I actually had a steady job
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  Speaker 1: with very specific set hours. But for the vast majority
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  Speaker 1: of my life I really haven't worked for anyone else
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  Speaker 1: at all. I mean, if you think about it really
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  Speaker 1: as a formal employee, it has only been from the
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  Speaker 1: year twenty twenty one onward.
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  Speaker 3: I completely understand what you mean.
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  Speaker 1: So precisely because of that situation, I didn't take any
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  Speaker 1: jobs so I could run out for one run out
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  Speaker 1: for the other, go to one kid's classes, go to
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  Speaker 1: the other's classes. And I was always self employed. I
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  Speaker 1: organized events. Fortunately I had shape wear stores, which the
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  Speaker 1: pandemic wiped out, but that helped me a lot. But
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  Speaker 1: the pandemics came well, I mean, the stores closed during
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  Speaker 1: the pandemic. Just to give you an example, you know
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  Speaker 1: that during the pandemic, it messed things up for all
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  Speaker 1: of us. I went from earning ten pesos to earning
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  Speaker 1: fifty cents because my product wasn't essential, so I had
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  Speaker 1: to close the stores. And then the blow of almost
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  Speaker 1: eight months that the stores were closed, the rent payments.
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  Speaker 1: Then you reopen and you have to pay the back rent, right,
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  Speaker 1: so we decided it was better to close. And besides,
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  Speaker 1: remember that the bills keep coming.
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  Speaker 3: They don't stop.
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  Speaker 1: The bills never stopped coming, of course, so it just
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  Speaker 1: became impossible.
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  Speaker 3: And you, as I keep saying, as a single dead
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  Speaker 3: on top of everything, you're the only financial, emotional, and
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  Speaker 3: physical support for everyone. Right but right now, speaking specifically
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  Speaker 3: about the financial side, that's tough. Hey, Bianco, tell us
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  Speaker 3: how things were before the incident. You said it happened
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  Speaker 3: during the day, right in the morning.
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  Speaker 1: It was March fifteenth, twenty twenty four, at ten in
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  Speaker 1: the morning.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, very well, So since it was very very very early,
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  Speaker 3: you might not be able to describe exactly how that
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  Speaker 3: day went, but maybe you can tell us what it
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  Speaker 3: was like when you woke up, I mean, the hours.
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  Speaker 1: Before the sudden and unexpected accident.
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  Speaker 3: The incident.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, we actually planned that entire trip specifically because
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  Speaker 1: it was my daughter's upcoming birthday. Her birthday falls right
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  Speaker 1: on March thirteenth, and since that particular March thirteenth happened
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  Speaker 1: to be a long holiday weekend, we decided that we
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  Speaker 1: were definitely going to go Saturday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, and
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  Speaker 1: we would come back on Tuesday. We were going to
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  Speaker 1: go to Extapa. Monday was a holiday, so my daughter
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  Speaker 1: I talked to her and asked, Hey, what do you
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  Speaker 1: want a birthday party or for us to go to
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  Speaker 1: the beach. You know that these days, having a birthday
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  Speaker 1: party and going to the beach is pretty much the
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  Speaker 1: same thing. And besides, I got together with two friends
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  Speaker 1: who know my kids and who my kids loved them
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  Speaker 1: a lot, and I said, hey, it's going to be
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  Speaker 1: my daughter's birthday. They joined in without hesitation. They said, yes,
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  Speaker 1: so well, obviously, we planned everything to go and spend
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  Speaker 1: three days, no four days and three nights at the
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  Speaker 1: beach in Nixtapa. We packed our bags everything. Obviously, everyone
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  Speaker 1: was already nervous. They just wanted to leave already. I
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  Speaker 1: think my daughter didn't even sleep that night because she
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  Speaker 1: was practically already wearing her goggles, her snorkel, and her swimsuit.
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  Speaker 1: So we set off on our trip. I don't know why,
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  Speaker 1: but I don't remember. We decided to take the free road,
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  Speaker 1: but since we weren't traveling at night, we said, well,
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  Speaker 1: it should be fine, right, there shouldn't be any problem.
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  Speaker 3: Who were you with?
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  Speaker 1: A female friend, a male friend, my daughter, my son,
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  Speaker 1: and me. We had a total of five people inside
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  Speaker 1: my sport utility vehicle, and.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly where was every single person sitting.
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  Speaker 1: My male friend was in the passenger seat, my female
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  Speaker 1: friend was behind him, then my daughter in the middle,
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  Speaker 1: and then my son behind me. And you were driving
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  Speaker 1: and I was driving. So we finally set out on
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  Speaker 1: our long awaited road trip to Extapa. We decided to
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  Speaker 1: take the free road, and at first everything was going
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  Speaker 1: quite well for us. We left the house at around
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  Speaker 1: four o'clock in the morning, specifically choosing that time so
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  Speaker 1: that by the time we reached the state of Mishokan
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  Speaker 1: it would already be broad daylight outside. So we finally
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  Speaker 1: arrived in this of Mishchoa Khan and started crossing the
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  Speaker 1: high mountains. Then on a sharp curve, I remember it
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  Speaker 1: very well. We realized we had already passed through a
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  Speaker 1: real military checkpoint earlier on our journey. Well a checkpoint, Well,
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  Speaker 1: they're the checkpoints you come across on the road, the
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  Speaker 1: one set up by the military where they check you
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  Speaker 1: for weapons and explosives. Supposedly it's voluntary, but if you
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  Speaker 1: don't comply.
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  Speaker 3: I imagine it's because it's a hot zone we're talking.
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  Speaker 1: I later they told me that area was really dangerous.
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  Speaker 1: This was in Sirencitos. I remember it very well. My
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  Speaker 1: daughter gets carsick because it was mountainous, lots of curves,
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  Speaker 1: and she threw up. I stopped before entering that curve
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  Speaker 1: and we got her out so she could throw up.
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  Speaker 1: Since she was really dizzy, we decided to let her
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  Speaker 1: lie down for a while, so her head was on
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  Speaker 1: my friend's lap and my daughter's legs were on my
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  Speaker 1: son's lap and off we went right, like, go ahead
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  Speaker 1: and sleep for a bit, so the dizziness goes away. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: When I came out of the curve, there was a
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  Speaker 1: straight and in the distance, I saw two guys standing
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  Speaker 1: in the middle of the road. Since it was a
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  Speaker 1: wide open country road, there was only one single lane
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  Speaker 1: going in each direction, so they were literally just standing
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  Speaker 1: right there in the middle of the pavement, positioned much
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  Speaker 1: closer to the opposite oncoming lane, and they were frantically
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  Speaker 1: signaling for me to come to a complete stop. So
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  Speaker 1: I thought to myself in that moment, Okay, I should
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  Speaker 1: probably pull over. Should I pull over in the opposite direction?
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  Speaker 1: Or what's the deal? Right? As I approached more closely,
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  Speaker 1: I began to realize with a sense of dread, that
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  Speaker 1: they weren't actually soldiers. Instead, they were those so called
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  Speaker 1: soldiers and sneakers, or in other words, members from the
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  Speaker 1: notorious and heavily criminalized cartel. I suddenly realized exactly what
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  Speaker 1: was happening, and then in the space of just a
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  Speaker 1: few tiny milliseconds, I experienced a vivid and intense flashback.
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  Speaker 1: They pulled them out, they pulled me out, They kill me,
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  Speaker 1: They pulled all of us out. The least of it
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  Speaker 1: was that they could pull us all out and take
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  Speaker 1: the truck right. But the image of them pulling the
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  Speaker 1: kids out and taking them away, or just pulling them out,
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  Speaker 1: and if I got out and they killed me in
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  Speaker 1: front of them and I couldn't do anything for them anymore,
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  Speaker 1: that paralyzed me and was the turning point for deciding
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  Speaker 1: not to stop. I just shrink down. I settle firmly
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  Speaker 1: into my seat, and I tell them quite clearly, I'm
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  Speaker 1: absolutely not going to stop. And then I slowly crouched
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  Speaker 1: down low so that the steering wheel is positioned exactly
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  Speaker 1: at my eye level. That's it, and I hit the gas.
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  Speaker 1: I start to hear an incredible burst of gunfire. One
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  Speaker 1: of two things either they had really bad aim or
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  Speaker 1: they fired into the air, because when we checked the
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  Speaker 1: truck afterwards, it didn't have any bullet holes. It only
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  Speaker 1: had two. One of them belongs to the church. If
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  Speaker 1: I hadn't ducked, I would have been hit in the
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  Speaker 1: back of the neck. And another thing is that when
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  Speaker 1: I hear the rear window shutter, I turn over my
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  Speaker 1: shoulder to look back at my children to tell them
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  Speaker 1: duck down. Right at that very moment, I suddenly felt
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  Speaker 1: a massive impact, as if someone had physically struck me
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  Speaker 1: with great force, almost as if I had been completely
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  Speaker 1: knocked out, well at least half knocked out and totally dazed.
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  Speaker 1: It was in that exact terrifying instant of confusion that
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  Speaker 1: I realized the bullet had actually hit me. I partially
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  Speaker 1: lost consciousness as the vehicle began to roll over violently,
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  Speaker 1: and I believe I must have slumped forward heavily against
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  Speaker 1: the steering wheel before we finally came to a halt
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  Speaker 1: by crashing into a large, solid dirt mound on the
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  Speaker 1: side of the road. The truck hit head on, flew forward,
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  Speaker 1: and rolled over four times. It somehow managed to land
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  Speaker 1: on the very back end, and I honestly have no
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  Speaker 1: idea how, because the speed we were going at made
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  Speaker 1: the truck flip over again and land upright, so the
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  Speaker 1: truck was only crushed from the middle to the back
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  Speaker 1: while I was flying through the air. That's why I
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  Speaker 1: say I was semi conscious. I kept telling myself, wake up,
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  Speaker 1: wake up, open your eyes, your kids, wake up, wake up.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: And I could feel something pressing against my chest, which
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: I imagine was the seat belt. We finished rolling over
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: and I woke up. I was left half slumped over
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: the steering wheel. I mean, not completely on the wheel,
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: but not upright either. I couldn't straighten myself up. As
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: soon as I opened my eyes, I immediately tried to look
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: for my children, My children, Where are they? How are they?
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: All I can hear is my daughter screaming, Dad, help
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: me help. It hurts that Please help me, it hurts, obviously.
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: I then turned to look at my friend and he
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: said to me, what happened? Are you okay? He says, yeah,
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: I'm just disoriented, you know. And I say to him, Hey,
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: what's going on with my daughter? What's wrong with her?
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: How is my son? He says to me, No, your
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: son is fine. Your daughter apparently she broke her leg?
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: And I tell them, hey, I can't. I can't straighten up.
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: I can't move. I had an incredible pain in my back.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: I hadn't even realized it. I didn't know anything else.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: But I saw blood and blood and more blood. So
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: I assumed I had split my head open because of
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: the rollover, but I really didn't know what I had,
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: not even aware that I had something on my head.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: Then my son arrived, Get down, grab the phone. Send
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: a message, so to everyone, you can send them a message,
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: send them your location, send them photos, tell them where
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: we are, etc. Etc. Right at that moment, since I
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: ended up next to a village, In fact, in the
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: location that I see when my son sends it to me.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: When I checked it later, there is a village exactly
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: in front of the tree where I crashed. Then people
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: start coming out from everywhere. That's when I find out
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: first that we flipped four times in the air, because
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: people come up to the window and ask me, are
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: you okay? And I just see them staring at me
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: like that, and one of them says, hey, you flipped
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: four times in the air. And he keeps looking at me,
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: and I say, what's going on. He says to me,
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: you have a bullet wound in your head and I
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: go what, But no, I couldn't move. I mean, I
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: didn't even try to do this to tempt me. Right
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: at most I would come here to wipe the blood
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: from my eyes. And then another man comes up to
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: me and says, you know what, I'm going to pull
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: up the hood of your sweatshirt so dirt doesn't get
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: in because we were on a dirt road. My son
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: told me, because at that moment he did see me
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: directly face to face, that he could see a piece
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: of brain sticking out, that he saw something here like
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: a turkey snot so to speak, he says, I remember
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: that you could see like a piece of brain sticking out. Honestly,
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: I don't know. They never told me that they cut
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: out a piece of my brain or that they put
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: it back in like stuffing in a stuffed animal. To
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: be honest, I do not really remember them telling me that.
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: So right in that exact moment of wondering like what
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: on earth had just happened to us? With all this
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: and that going on, these guys suddenly show up driving
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: a big, bright, white pickup truck. I remember it was
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: a high end vehicle, that's all. I don't remember the brand,
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: the model of the year, or anything else. I just
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: remember it was white, but it was high end. I mean,
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: it wasn't just any SUV. And they get out and
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: point their guns at my son and my friend. One
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: of the guys starts yelling at me, why didn't you stop?
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: I did tell him, And excuse my language, I'm going
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: to say it exactly as it was, and I told
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: him I was scared. What did you want me to do?
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: And I argued with him. I remember I exchanged two
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: or three words about that situation. I was scared. What
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: did you want? I mean? They tell me that the
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: locals there persuaded them to leave because they started telling
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: them that's enough, man, what more do you want? They
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: talked them into leaving because they start telling them enough,
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: you bastards, What else do you want? It's a family,
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: Look how you left them? Leave them alone? Now just
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: go anyway. The main point here is that they end
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: up giving in to that particular situation and eventually decide
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: to leave. My son as well as my friend, both
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: say that they actually came back a third time, which
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: was honestly quite surprising. But then in a way it
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: makes sense because when they first arrived at us place,
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: they immediately held my son at gunpoint and told him
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: very directly, get in the back of the truck. Obviously,
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: when I saw that happening right in front of me,
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: I started shouting at my friend, trying to get his
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: attention and make sure he understood what was going on.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Talk to him, talk to him, don't let them take
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: him don't let them take him. And I was trying
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: in any way possible to get myself out, but I couldn't.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: I couldn't. The pain in my legs, in my back
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: was absolutely overwhelming my head. To be honest, I didn't
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: even feel it. That didn't hurt. It was my body
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: from the waist down. Well literally it was everything right,
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: but more in in in the lower part of the
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: spine because in the rollover I broke my fifth lumbar vertebra.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: The doctors tell me that since I went all limp
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: and didn't make any effort to hold on, I bounced
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: too much, so a whiplash effect was what broke my
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: fifth lumba vertebra, which is the last one before reaching
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: the tailbone and supports the entire spine that vertebra. Imagine
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: a press. You know how they put an apple form
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: or whatever in a press just to see how it
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: squashes out the sides of the press. Imagine that the
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: same thing happened to my vertebra. It gets crushed and
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: squashes out to the sides, and it's left like it
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: becomes just to see how it spills out the sides
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: of the press. Well, that's exactly what happened to my vertebra.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: It gets crushed and spills out to the sides, and
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: eventually it ends up looking just like the bone pebbles
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: war on her head, you know, kind of like a femur.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: There were two bullets left on each side. One bullet
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: entered my spinal cord, causing denervation canal invasion, invasion of
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: the spinal canal, and obviously invasion of the spinal cord itself,
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: and my vertebra was collapsed, completely crushed basically, So that's
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: why I couldn't move. The swelling in my brain plus
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: the swelling of all my nerves in the spinal cord, well,
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: they didn't let.
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: Me move to begin with. It's incredible that you were
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: even conscious.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: Yes, honestly, I never fainted, only at the moment when
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: the bullet hit me, but only partially because I was
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: still conscious. I mean, I kept telling myself, wake up,
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: wake up, wake up your kids, wake up.
• 23:11
  Speaker 3: And I have a question about that, because clearly I
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: don't know much about medicine. But is there a medical
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: reason why you didn't lose consciousness.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: Or is it they haven't told me, or.
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: Is it just this side of us humans that can't
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: be explained.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: They haven't told me. No doctor has told me, and
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: I think they don't know. I mean, literally, they tell
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: me you should be dead, literally because I have the
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: images from the CT scans. When you look at them,
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: it is a total blinding flash inside my skull, all
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: of those tiny glowing dots read that they told me about.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: You can see the entry of the bullet. Supposedly it
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: was an expanding bullet. That's why they say it exploded
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: so much. In other words, the bullet explodes inside my head.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: They stick hundreds of pieces everywhere, just like that, like
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: that little game on the cell phone that I can't remember.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: What's the name of the little ball that bounces all
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: over the place. Just imagine. I mean, I have dozens
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: of bullet fragments in my head all over.
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: So and regarding those fragments, are there any in a
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: specific spot that might be causing you any significant problems?
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: Especially to the ones on the left side. They closed
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: up my right arm. That's why we're here with the
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: little cushion. He has no strength, he has no fine
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: motor skills. Its movement is limited. It has improved through
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: therapies that I've done myself. By exercising and things like that,
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: but it's still you know, even holding a cell phone
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: is heavy for me. If I grab it with this hand,
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: my hand just drops. It falls all the way down
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: here because it has no strength, absolutely no strength. I
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: can't hit or make this movement. I can't do it
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: my hand. Even though I can close it. These two fingers,
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: I can't feel them.
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: And also you close it with a lot of effort.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: Right, yes, I have to do it like this. And look,
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: that's the fastest my arm can go. I can't do this.
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: That's the fastest my arm can go.
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: So on one hand, it's the motor skills.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: From the arm because of the bullet, they tell me,
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: that's where it stays, because of the way it shattered
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: into so many pieces. The doctors tell me it's actually
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: much more risky and dangerous to try to remove the
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: bullets or the fragments the shrapnel, because they say, look,
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: if it hasn't affected anything related to your speech, your hearing,
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: your sight, or your cognitive reasoning abilities, no, then it
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: is honestly better to just leave them right where they
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: are for now. If we go in and take them out,
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: you have a high risk of dying, ending up in
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: a vegetative state, blind or mute.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's better to just leave it.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: So it's better to just leave them. Yes, they already
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: operated on my head. They did a craniotomy to stitch
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: the dura matter, which is the thin membrane that covers
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: the brain.
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: I said, you had two very specific injuries.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: And the other one the hand, the arm, And what
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: is the other one is my spine. My spine is
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: still collapsed. It's inside my spinal cord. It doesn't let
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: me run. It's hard for me to stand, to walk
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: only short distances, not for very long, because then my
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: back starts to hurt. I have no balance. I can't
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: bend down, I can't squat, I can't kneel.
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: And I imagine that using a wheelchair would still make
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: sitting very painful for you.
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: Oh, yes it does. In fact, yes, I used a
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: wheelchair for a while because I was left quadriplegic. I
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: was about six months, approximately six to eight months in bed.
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: Quadriplegic, meaning you could only you can move from the neck.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: I was looking upwards. I couldn't move my neck at all,
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: and I couldn't move anything else in my body. They you,
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: They had to feed me, they cleaned me, and they
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: bathed me. Every single day. I had nurses with me
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: twenty four to seven. So as you can imagine, all
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: of those difficult situations have been a huge and significant
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: financial burden for my entire family.
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: What's the order of events, As we can see here,
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: the ball is passed across the field, and then that
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: accident occurs, Well, the truck flipped over, and then what
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: happens who arrives ambulances? What happens after that?
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: So in the end, those guys left and we were
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: finally able to call nine one one. Well, actually we
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: had already called because when they came back the third time, yes,
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: you could say the third time, because the first was
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: when they shot at me, the second was when they
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: tried to take my son, and the third time is
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: when supposedly they want to take us to the hospital
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: and my friends tell them and the people there say no,
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: thank you. The ambulance is already coming, the firefighters are coming,
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: the police are coming, the military is coming. They're all
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: on their way, the National Guard, etc. Etc. Right, so
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: then they leave. This happened at ten in the morning,
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: and it wasn't until twelve, I mean two hours later
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: that the emergency services arrived. They took me to Nueva, Italia,
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: to some place I don't even know what it was,
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: and I'll tell you why. When I got there, I
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: remember seeing the doctor the paramedic, and he asked me
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: what happened to you? And I told him it's just
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: that they shot me with some I didn't know how many,
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: because I was bleeding from here and here and here.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: I mean I had the wound from there and two
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: more head wounds, so they thought I had three gunshot wounds.
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: He tells me, you have to go out and buy
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: your own medical supplies. I said, what do you mean?
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: He tells me, yes, you have to send someone here
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: to the little store across the street to buy your
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: medical supplies. I said, wait, so where am I then?
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: I'm not in a hospital or what do you mean?
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: And I turned to look at my friend and I
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: say to her, do you have any cash? Because I
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: didn't even know where my wallet was or anything. She
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: tells me I have some. Don't worry. They send my
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: friend to get the medical supplies, but the police stop
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: him and say, no, you're not going out because apparently
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: these guys were hanging around the hospital, and he says,
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: I'll go out for the supplies. Okay, So the officer
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: goes out to get the supplies, buys them, comes back
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: and brings them to us, and they stitch us up,
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: treat us, put on goals, basically all the medical supplies
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: we needed, neck braces, etc.
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, but nothing that you actually really needed, right,
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: you needed urgent surgery.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: Well yeah, they basically just finished stitching me up. Moh,
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: and that was really all they had to do.
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: Why were those guys there outside? What else did they want?
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I honestly have no idea. I really
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: don't know. Seems quite clear that obviously they're being shielded
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: and protected by the government, because I insist I had
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: just just crossed a real checkpoint and they were two
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: kilometers away.
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, don't tell me you don't know they're there, exactly.
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: Don't tell me you don't know they're not there. Right now,
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: I am actually going to tell a bit of a
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: dark humor joke. But surprisingly I was the one who
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: ended up getting all the warm hugs. They're famous hugs.
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, even the police told you, I'm gonna
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: get the material and all that. If you know they're there,
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: then why don't you arrest them?
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: Exactly exactly, if you know they're there, why don't you
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: stop them?
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: So they must have a pack, but they're also surely
• 30:09
  Speaker 3: afraid of them.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: No, they're as comfortable as if they owned the place.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: And poor Juan isn't to blame, is he. What's more,
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: imagine if they were standing here on the ring road
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: stopping people and throwing them out, and nobody said anything
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: to them. Just imagine like that. That's how it was
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: so well they treated us in quotes, They stitched up
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: those who needed stitches, put a neck brace on those
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: who needed one. They put a plate in my daughter
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: because she broke her tibia and fibula since she was
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: lying down at the moment we rolled over. Well, fortunately
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: because that way she didn't get thrown out. Her foot
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: got stuck between my seat and the console, so her
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: foot stayed stuck there, but her body twisted. When her
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: body twisted, her tibia and fibula snapped.
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: All things considered, it's incredible that your son and your
• 30:59
  Speaker 3: friends I didn't suffer more serious injuries.
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: Yes, no, my son just had bumps and bruises. Let's
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: call them normal ones. My dear friend, because he was
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: wearing his glasses at the time, the force of the
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: airbag deploying unfortunately injured his face with those very glasses. Additionally,
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: my friend got severely cut by the shards of glass
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: from the rear window, primarily because none of the other
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: windows in the vehicle shattered except for the specific one
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: hit by the bullet, and that glass cut opened this
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: whole area of her skin. We honestly assume that it
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: must have been from the shattered glass, because if none
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: of the car windows broke, not a single one of
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: them at all, she was the only one who got cut,
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: and well, myself and my young daughter were also affected too.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: But in theory, it is a completely zero casualty outcome
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: for everyone involved.
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: And wait, are you talking about that hospital you mentioned earlier,
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: the one in Nueva Italia.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: She was Innueva Italia.
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: Did they also treat your daughter there? What did they
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: do for her?
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: They just did a CT scan on her. I don't
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: remember if they put some kind of splint on her. Honestly,
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: I don't remember, because I was coming and going. So
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: they tell me that because if someone asked them, I say,
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: what was I doing at the hospital, because we spent
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: ten hours at the hospital since no ambulance wanted to
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: come for us. What my family was desperate for was
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: to get us out of Micho Kang. So we tried
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: to get an ambulance to come for us. But they
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: didn't want to. They said, no way, I'm not going
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: in there, not even as a joke.
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: Are they scared?
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: They were scared. They didn't want to go in. They
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: just didn't want to. So ten hours went by, I
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: mean from the time of the accident until I actually
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: received real medical attention. It was more than twelve hours.
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: That's shocking.
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: I arrived in Kareta Ro but around eleven o'clock at
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: night on Saturday.
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: But how in the ambulance.
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: In the ambulance, I mean, we managed to get an
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: ambulance to come in for us. They came for us
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: and brought us to Karretao.
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: Did everyone go, all of.
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: Us in the ambulance with suitcases everything? They fit everything
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: in however they could. I remember telling my friend, hey,
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: can I faint now? She said, no, your daughter is here,
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: and no, and no, your daughter is here, and hang
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: in there. And as best I could, I kept talking
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: to my daughter, then how was she? It was in
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: a lot of pain.
• 33:16
  Speaker 3: And of course the pain, what a terrible thing, right,
• 33:18
  Speaker 3: it must have been awful.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: But your children, well just imagine more than twelve hours
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: with a broken leg.
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: Oh, no, poor thing. But emotionally, both of you, I mean,
• 33:26
  Speaker 3: how were you because it wasn't just your daughter's intense
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: physical pain, but also the shock of everything that had
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: just happened.
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: Strong. As much as we could be, we weren't. How
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: can I put it. That's exactly why my friend told
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: me not to faint so I could pass on that
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: strength to them in that moment, so they wouldn't fall
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: apart before we arrived, but instead hold on. I mean,
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: obviously my daughter was screaming in intense pain. She just
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: kept saying, ah, that it hurts so much. It hurt
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: so much.
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: Dad.
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: Oh. It was just so hard to hear her like
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: that my life. So I just kept telling her over
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: and over again, hold on, sweetheart, please just hold on.
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: We're almost there. We're almost there. Just hold on hold on.
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: As for my son, honestly, I only vividly remember seeing
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: him write when we finally finished rolling over and I
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: told him to get the phone out immediately. I have
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: absolutely no memory of him at the hospital or even
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: being in the ambulance with him. Honestly, I really don't know.
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: I think those specific memories are just completely gone now.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: I don't know, They're just gone. Later I did ask
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: where my son was and if he was up front
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: stuffed in there among the suitcases. Yep, Well they fit
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: us in however they could with all the stuff. So
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: I remember very clearly that when we arrived, I said
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: to my friend, can I faint now? I mean when
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: I finally saw the entrance to the emergency room and
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: they told me, yes, you can faint now, And literally
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: I said goodbye to them when I blacked out.
• 34:53
  Speaker 3: What did you feel that made you want to faint?
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: Was it pain? Was it shock? Was it everything?
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: It was exhaustion. I just wanted to close my eyes.
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: I wanted to fall asleep, so to speak. The pain
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: was too much, the stress was too much. Everything was
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: just too much, you know. I just wanted to close
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: my eyes. Once I was inside. Well, obviously everything they
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: did to me, I didn't even realize it at the time,
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: but they actually couldn't operate on me because well, they
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: simply can't go in there to what's it called remove
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: the bullet. So it turns out that it is much
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: riskier for me if they were to operate in that
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: way then if I just stay exactly like this. They
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: just performed a detailed CT scan, saw how things were looking,
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: and then in the first twenty four to forty eight hours,
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: the doctors and the medical staff outlook was discouraging. I
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: remember my sister telling me that I wasn't going to
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: wake up and if I did, it would be who knows, when.
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: They were probably saying, let's see what the consequences will be, right.
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: Uh huh, We didn't know. We don't know what the
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: consequences will be in until he wakes up, until we
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: see him. But that and that's what they told him.
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: Does wake up? I mean they gave me for dead.
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: I don't remember if it was at twenty four or
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: forty eight hours that I woke up. I wake up,
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: and obviously I am like, wait where exactly am I?
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: And at that moment I realized I could only move
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: my neck.
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: In these kinds of incidents, it often happens that people
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: don't remember. I mean, obviously you do remember, but also
• 36:26
  Speaker 3: there are people who it's not so much that they remember,
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: but that someone told them. Right. But anyway, you remembered everything.
• 36:32
  Speaker 3: But once the shock from the impact, the gunshot, from
• 36:35
  Speaker 3: everything had passed and you were finally getting.
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: The help you needed, that you really needed.
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: What happened, then did you wake up and remember what
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: had happened, or at that moment were you still unaware.
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: I don't remember. I don't remember what I thought. I mean,
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: whether I remembered or not. Honestly, I don't remember. I
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: remember that I woke up. In fact, I was going
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: in and out there too, because when I woke up, Yes,
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: I remember seeing my own, my sister, my mom, Well, no,
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: because since she's in a wheelchair and I was in
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: intensive care, it was very difficult for her to come in.
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: I don't remember. I think she did, she came in,
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: or I spoke to her on the phone. Honestly, I
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: don't remember. Well. I remember several uncles, it was my
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: sister of oh. But also at that exact point in time,
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: just as I was slowly waking up, I would kind
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: of more drift off and space out more and more,
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: and it wasn't so much about where I was. But
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: for example, My older sister actually told me that one
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: day I suddenly made a nurse call her up at
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: three o'clock in the morning on a video call, and
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: I was complaining to her. Yes, I remember that, I
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: was asking her, where are you? Why did you abandon me?
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: And she told me, do do we just saw you?
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: It's three in the morning. She says, don't you know
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: what day it is? And I say no, or what
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: time it is either, since I was in a dark
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: place and couldn't see if the sun was out. Honestly,
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: I lost all sense of time, and not so much
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: because of the bullet, but because I didn't know if
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: it was day or night. Because there were no windows.
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: I couldn't see the sunrise or sunset.
• 38:05
  Speaker 3: How desperate that must have felt.
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: So I had no idea what the hell time it was.
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: I was there for about a week, and then they
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: moved me to a regular room for another week and
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: discharged me. They told me, we can't do anything else.
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: You're a miracle. Well, only time will tell what will
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: happen with you, right, but you're still alive. So then
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: they took me home. I was still on a stretcher.
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: They completely transformed the entire living room into a temporary bedroom. Say,
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: in other words, they carefully took out all of the
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: existing living room furniture and then they slowly moved in
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: a specialized hospital bed because I couldn't move and the
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: nurses weren't going to carry me or take me up
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: the stairs. Right. Even now, I'm a bit chubby, but
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: back then I weighed sixty four kilos. I wasn't that chubby,
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: but I wasn't exactly light either. So they set that
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: all up on the ground floor of the house, and
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: I had nurses there to help me twenty four slash
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: seven for six to eight months. Because I literally couldn't move,
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: I couldn't urinate, I couldn't They would put a bedpen
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: under me, bathe me in bed, and clean me in bed.
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: If they fed me, they literally had to tie me
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: to a chair because my body couldn't support itself. So
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: they would tell me, you have to learn how to
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: stand up again, you have to learn how to walk again.
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: You have to learn again how to hold yourself upright.
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: And that's exactly the situation. On one hand, my brain
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: right it inflamed, my optic nerves. In fact, to this
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: day sometimes I have to wear glasses because suddenly it's
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: like I can't focus. They told me that's because my
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: optic nerves are kind of compressed. I mean they got
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: compressed due to the brain inflammation. I have a constant
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: ringing in my ears.
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: Then, yes, you're absolutely right.
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: Constant in both ears. In fact, sometimes it gets so
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: loud that I start yelling because I can't hear myself anymore.
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: That's how strong it is. Right now, it's there, but
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: it's manageable, so to speak. Right, I mean, let's just
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: say for a moment that it's at the exact same
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: volume level as my own.
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: Voice, and how frustrating.
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: Well, I've gotten used to it. They gave me some
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: medicine I don't remember. I believe it is what they
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: call the process to oxygenate my ear canal, I think,
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: to see if we could successfully clear up the blockage
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: and congestion. But I am just about to reach the
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: very end of this entire box of medication, and I
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: honestly haven't felt any noticeable difference whatsoever. So I said, well,
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: that's it. The little noise is just going to be
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: a part of me. Right.
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: Hey, you showed me a video that we're going to
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: put here of when you started walking again. Well, those
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: first steps you took, actually, why were you able to
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: take those steps?
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: Because the dangerous swelling in my brain finally started to
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: go down. But then my fractured vertebra wouldn't let me
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: walk at all because it was pressing so heavily on
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: my sciatic nerves, complete obstructing them. I mean it was
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: literally pushing and crushing them against my spine, making any
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: movement impossible. Oh, that must have hurt, Yes, it hurts
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: a lot. In fact, that's how I realized my back
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: was broken. Because it hurt. I used to say it
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: was my hip because the pain radiated out to the sides. Actually,
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: if you saw well about that. I don't think I
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: have any videos, but my daughter even climbed onto my
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: back because it hurts so much. I would say, oh,
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: give me walk on my back so the pain will
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: go away, you know. But that's because her back was broken.
• 41:31
  Speaker 3: That's unbelievable.
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: We didn't know her back was broken.
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: How was the pain supposed to go away if it's broken.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: We didn't know her back was broken. I still couldn't move.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: They had to turn me over. In fact, two people
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: had to turn me over so I could lie face down.
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: My shoulder hurt a lot right here. They had to
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: put cushions under me because his shoulder was so painful.
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: To this day, it still hurts the rotator cuff. I
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: don't know if it's something neurological or if it from
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: the impact of the rollover. It hurts a lot right here.
• 42:04
  Speaker 3: I mean, I insist I'm not a doctor, but in
• 42:07
  Speaker 3: the end, it's the brain that gives the orders for.
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: Everything, all but the whole body, right, Yes, that is right.
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: They actually gave me a full electromiography test where they
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: literally put these small electrodes all over your entire body.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: I mean literally everywhere, and then they start to give
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: you these little electric shocks on your skin everywhere. It
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: was something really awful. It was precisely to check the
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: nervous system to see how the electrical currents are, and
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: that's where it showed that my whole arm doesn't respond.
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: What was the worst part about being six eight months
• 42:38
  Speaker 3: in bed, unable to walk, move or do anything. What
• 42:41
  Speaker 3: was the worst part?
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: You know, I'm going to answer you differently. What was
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: the best part when I was finally able to move,
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: which happened when the swelling in my brain went down
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: and the inflammation in my sciatic nerves subsided. Well, it
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: didn't go away completely, but the swelling did go down
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: because obviously the impact of the vertebra suddenly slipping in
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: inflamed all the nerves to such an extent that they
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: became blocked. Even though the vertebra is still inside the
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: spinal cord and blocking those nerves the inflammation, How can
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: I explain it to you? Imagine it's like a cable
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: that bends around its curved right because the vertebra pushes it.
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: It pushes and makes it curve right. There's still a
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: ways through, but when it's blocked and inflamed, that's when
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: nothing could get through. When the inflammation goes down, that's
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: when it reconnects, and that's when I start to respond
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: and begin to move. When the inflammation in my brain
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: and in my spinal cord goes down, the nerves in
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: my I have to say, in terms of innervation, there
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: was a severe invasion of the canal, specifically the spinal canal.
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: In fact, I simply couldn't function. You see, the spinal
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: canal controls almost everything for you. Your sphincter's and in men,
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: all genital functions. It got to the point where I
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: couldn't even pee. I just couldn't do it at all,
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: and not even poop. I mean they had to give
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: me laxatives because everything was so inflamed that for me
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: to go to the bathroom I literally had to do
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: it by gravity, you know. I mean I didn't have
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: the sensation of pushing. I mean I just didn't feel
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: the urge to push, and I was already peeing myself,
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: you know. They had to stand me up so that
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: with gravity and a diaper, I could go. I needed
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: it to come out naturally, because otherwise I simply couldn't
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: do it. It wasn't until I was finally able to
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: stand up on my own two feet that I could
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: pee without any help. And going back to your previous question, really,
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: what I appreciated the most, aside from just being alive
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: and being here today, was being able to go to
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: the bathroom entirely by myself. You honestly have no idea
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: how much that meant to me, how much I enjoyed
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: that situation of not having to two people there watching me,
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: one making sure I didn't fall. The other cleaning me up.
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: It's something whenever people ask me, what's the best thing
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: about being able to stand up again going the bathroom
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: by myself?
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah, those are the kinds of things we take for
• 45:04
  Speaker 3: granted every day.
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: Although I had to get used to having nurses around
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: and friends even came to help me. In fact, just
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: recently I saw someone who told me, hey, I cleaned
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: your butt, and I was like, honestly, I didn't remember.
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: He says yes, and I was like, wow.
• 45:21
  Speaker 3: How can you tell definitively who is there and who
• 45:24
  Speaker 3: isn't in these circumstances.
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: Ah, yes, of course, and notice that many are strangers.
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: It has been something wonderful.
• 45:31
  Speaker 3: Yes, well, just the person I have here to my
• 45:34
  Speaker 3: left right.
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: Uh huh exactly. I have received many angels.
• 45:40
  Speaker 3: I truly think so with all my heart. Surely there
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: will be people who think differently than I do, and
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: that's okay. But I reinforced this precisely with all the
• 45:48
  Speaker 3: people who come to this channel for interviews, that among
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: all the bad things that happened to us, whether physical
• 45:53
  Speaker 3: or emotional, there is always something beautiful in the midst
• 45:56
  Speaker 3: of a tragedy, because people show you all the love
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: they have for you, because they give you incredible gestures,
• 46:03
  Speaker 3: because they are loyal to you for so many reasons.
• 46:06
  Speaker 3: In that sense, looking back throughout all this long time,
• 46:09
  Speaker 3: what can you say truly moved your heart that made
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: you say to yourself, Okay, I feel really bad right now,
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: but this specific reason is why I'm so happy to
• 46:17
  Speaker 3: be alive today.
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: You know, to be honest, I still haven't quite reached
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: a definitive answer to that question yet. To be honest,
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: at first, after seeing myself in the state, I fell
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: into a very deep and dark depression. I got help.
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: My sister hired someone for me, a thanatologist, a psychologist,
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: because I used to say, man, just take me already.
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: I'd rather die than stay like this. You know, I'm
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: not good to my kids. Everyone tells me, man, but
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: your kids, right? Why not? Why you isn't your first
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: answer to your kids? And it's not because I don't
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: love them, But if you're not okay, you can't be
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: okay with your kids, and not just physically emotionally. I
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: was shattered the whole why me, the damn why? Because
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: I searched them everywhere, turned over every stone until the
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: panatologist told me stop looking for it, You're not going
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: to find it. So then she started teaching me something different.
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: I think that right now, because I'm here, I held
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: onto a little bit of everything, whether it was the dog,
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: my kids, my mom, my sister, my friends, people who
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: aren't my friends, what I used to do, what I
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: don't do anymore. I mean a little bit of everything.
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: I think that would be my most accurate answer, because
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: I still haven't figured out what it was what I
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: held on to Bianco?
• 47:32
  Speaker 3: In what way can the open book audience help.
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: You help us by donating, tagging your friends and sharing
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: this post if you know of any foundation or anyone
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: who can help me Right now, I no longer have
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: the resources. A huge amount of money was spent to
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: save me from the issue with my head, so now
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: there isn't any left. There's nothing left for my back surgery.
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: I need approximately half a million pesels for my back surgery.
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: They have to put in six crews and two plates,
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: six to seven. The doctor told me if the seventh
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: fits in the fractured vertebra. If it does, he would
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: put in seven screws. Why six to seven? There are
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: six in the vertebrate that are fine. I mean three
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: and three. He says the seventh is needed, but only
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: if once he opens me up it fits. The seventh
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: screw would go in the vertebra that is compressed. He says,
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: it depends on how compressed it is. He'll see if
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: it's viable to put in a seventh screw. So I
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: need to have this operation, and I've tried every way
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: to raise the money. Many people have donated to me. However,
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: I still haven't reached my goal. And going back a
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: little to my mission, because everyone tells me you stayed
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: because you still have something left to do, right, Honestly,
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: I haven't figured it out yet. A lot of things
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: have happened to me. They told me that I would
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: walk in two years, and I managed to do it
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: in eight months, I think more or less. So really, yes,
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: I know I'm a miracle. But as for my mission,
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: I still haven't discovered it. So on my TikTok, I've
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: helped other people who maybe went through the same thing,
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: and I invite them. Do you want to talk about it,
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: let's talk about it. Do you want to spread the word,
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: Let's spread the word right, whatever I can help you with,
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: you know, do you want to start a campaign to
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: raise money. Well, let's get it started right, then, let's
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: see what we can pull off. Right, Look, all the
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: blessings I've received, at some point, I want to give
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: them back. I want to give those blessings back to
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: society to be able to help someone else. As I've
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: said on my TikTok, if I can help even one person,
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: I'm happy.
• 49:34
  Speaker 3: You know, that's the same thing I tell the guests
• 49:37
  Speaker 3: who come here. Look, focus on the fact that you're
• 49:40
  Speaker 3: definitely going to help at least one person, and that
• 49:43
  Speaker 3: should be enough for you. So tell me, biancle, what
• 49:46
  Speaker 3: exactly is it about your back that is keeping you
• 49:49
  Speaker 3: from being able to work.
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: I have no balance most of the time. I have
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: to be lying down. In fact, right now, I don't
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: know if you've noticed that I've been moving around. My
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: back starts to hurt a lot. The area around my
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: kidney starts to ache, and it starts to sting, and
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: I need to lie down. I need to lie down
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: for a while. The therapy I've done for myself because
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: the therapist I had was only while I managed to
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: stand up in bed. You know, After that, it was like,
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: there's no more money to pay therapists thanatologies, nurses, et cetera,
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: et cetera, et cetera.
• 50:20
  Speaker 3: Right, it's a multidisciplinary team, isn't it.
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: It was a lot of money saving me from what
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: happened to my head, even though they didn't operate on me. Well,
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: they did operate on me, but I mean, I think
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: I was telling you about it a while ago. They
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: removed a piece of my skull and had to close
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: my dura mater, which is the thin membrane that covers
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: the brain. Why because otherwise my brain would have been
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: directly exposed to the outside. So they had to stitch
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: up that membrane called the dura matter, and the doctor
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: decided not to put in the plate. He said, I
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: decided to leave you with your skull because it's very
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: likely that you would reject the plate. So he told me,
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: it's very likely that you'll reject it. And if we
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: put it in and then have to remove it because
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: your body rejected it, we won't be able to put
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: your skull back in, so it sinks in. And that's
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: when you see people whose heads are sunken in the
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: skull because they don't have the skull to support the skin.
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: So it collapses onto the brain, and that's why that
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: sunken area forms.
• 51:16
  Speaker 3: I mean basically in your head. There's nothing else that
• 51:18
  Speaker 3: can be done.
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: So well, my sister says, never right, how.
• 51:22
  Speaker 3: Strange a sibling teasing? Would it be worse to do
• 51:25
  Speaker 3: something to you? Then?
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: At the very most, I have this noticeable sunken area
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: right here because when they performed the craniotomy to access
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: the brain, they also had to permanently remove a piece
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: of the bone from right here, from this part of
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: the skull. They made a kind of mixture like a
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: patch and covered the hole. But my body reabsorbed that patch,
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: so my patch sank in and that's why I have
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: this indentation. At most, the doctor told me they could
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: put a little plate about this size. I mean really here, No,
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: there's no skull literally here, I don't have a skull.
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: That's why I have the hole covering. It is more
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: of a cosmetic issue. And in any case, because it's
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: still open all the way to the bottom, I have
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: a tiny hole about a millimeter wide that's been closing
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: up because since the patch sank in the skin, I
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: mean the patch sank in the skin never closed, so
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: it stayed open before. I used to have an opening
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: about this big. It's been closing up and now it's
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: down to about a millimeter. But it has to close
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: completely because even so I'm still exposed to infections getting
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: in of course, So once my skin is fully closed
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: just like that, then I'll decide whether or not to
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: put the play back in. Honestly, that's the least of
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: my worries right now.
• 52:40
  Speaker 3: Yeah, the urgent thing is you're back, right.
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: My hole doesn't bother me, you know the hole, right?
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: I tell people, I already have my coconut costume. I
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: just need to paint myself brown and put a straw
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: with a little umbrella and that's it, right. Yeah, but yes,
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: right now, my second priority, so to speak, because the
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: first was my head, is to have back surgery so
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: I can to be able to produce, to be able
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: to work, because this prevents me from doing so. The besides,
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: I'm a workplace risk for any employer. I stumble and
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: fall down, bang my head on the ground, or do
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: whatever else you want me to do.
• 53:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah, not that long ago, you fell and hurt yourself
• 53:14
  Speaker 3: for ribs.
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: Exactly at home, I fell and broke four ribs so
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: I'm a workplace risk for the company all by myself,
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: so I would trigger the workplace risk for any company.
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: So right now, for me, it's impossible to get a job.
• 53:29
  Speaker 3: Of course, So where does it come in here, the
• 53:31
  Speaker 3: wonderful audience of Librabierto. What I want to tell you
• 53:34
  Speaker 3: is that truly everything counts. I mean, you don't have
• 53:38
  Speaker 3: to send astronomical amounts. I mean, if you have it,
• 53:41
  Speaker 3: whatever is within your means ten pesos, not two large sums.
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: I always tell them people have apologized to me for
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: the amounts they've given me as gifts, and I say,
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: don't worry. Just as you gave it to me, I
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: put it into the main account, because I have a
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: main account specifically for that. It's like a piggybank. To
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: help reach the goal, I tell them everything adds up.
• 54:02
  Speaker 1: Ten pasos is ten pasos less that I have to
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: come up with, yes.
• 54:05
  Speaker 3: And ten by ten you add up a lot of money.
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: It is ten by ten.
• 54:09
  Speaker 3: And now imagine one hundred by one hundred, five hundred
• 54:12
  Speaker 3: by five hundred. I mean, what the possibilities that everyone has.
• 54:16
  Speaker 3: Everyone has different possibilities.
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: To reach the goal. So I can get a bit
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: of my life back for myself and for my children.
• 54:24
  Speaker 3: You also have a go fund me page.
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: Right, that's right obviously to your dear audience. I asked
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: that if you can donate, please help me. If you
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: can share, please share, If you can tag, please tag.
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: I have a gofund me and I have a bank
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: account wherever you prefer those who can support me. Hopefully
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: we can make it to someone or to many so
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: that I can reach my goal of being able to
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: have surgery. If you'd like to follow me on my
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: social media, you can find me as b de Bianco.
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: That's with a capital B, not a lower case B
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: bray like the musical note les Ama on Facebook and
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: TikTok and as Bianco les am on Instagram and Twitter
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: well on X Yes.
• 55:03
  Speaker 3: With all my heart, I wish that this wonderful audience
• 55:06
  Speaker 3: that follows the channel. Most of the people who follow
• 55:09
  Speaker 3: us do so out of empathy for humanity in general,
• 55:14
  Speaker 3: for the stories that people live through, and hopefully if
• 55:16
  Speaker 3: it's within your means, whatever it may be, but truly
• 55:19
  Speaker 3: help us help Pianco. Really every little bit helps everything,
• 55:23
  Speaker 3: everything counts. Absolutely nothing is kept for Librobierto. Everything is
• 55:29
  Speaker 3: for Bianco here are his bank details. In other words,
• 55:32
  Speaker 3: everything is out in the open. The small contribution we
• 55:35
  Speaker 3: make is by sharing your story, helping our audience to
• 55:38
  Speaker 3: help you, and making sure everything is super clear. Of course,
• 55:41
  Speaker 3: everything is for Bianco. Here are his bank details. Really,
• 55:45
  Speaker 3: I hope you can help him. Seriously, every little bit helps,
• 55:48
  Speaker 3: everything counts. And well, to wrap up, I'd like to
• 55:52
  Speaker 3: ask you several questions that have to do with the future.
• 55:55
  Speaker 3: For the first question, looking well beyond just your professional work,
• 55:59
  Speaker 3: which I am certain you will recover from, how exactly
• 56:03
  Speaker 3: do you envision yourself in a few years from now
• 56:06
  Speaker 3: or or are you still not sure which path you'll
• 56:09
  Speaker 3: take now?
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: No, I do. I already see myself having had the surgery, working,
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: producing and helping more people.
• 56:15
  Speaker 3: Could it be that this is your mission?
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: It could be, you know, not long ago I thought, well,
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: maybe this is my mission helping someone else.
• 56:25
  Speaker 3: And helping one person, I see it as saving a life.
• 56:28
  Speaker 3: I mean, you never really grasp the impact of helping
• 56:31
  Speaker 3: just one person, you know, right, with help that you
• 56:34
  Speaker 3: might see as small, you're even saving them from wanting
• 56:36
  Speaker 3: to die, for example.
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: Right, And it actually crossed my mind. Of course, absolutely,
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: that's exhausting. The psychological side of it is really really brutal.
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: Crossing that line between staying or just leaving it was
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: very hard for me. I'm telling you, I can give
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: you a whole speech about it, you know, like the
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: typical just try harder is a total Yes.
• 57:01
  Speaker 3: It's very simplistic to say that.
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: Yes, same with the whole do it for your kids
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: in the same way, you need to do some really
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: deep introspection that I can't even describe.
• 57:13
  Speaker 3: That introspection is dark.
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: You are exactly right. It is extraordinarily and incredibly dark,
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: that endless abyss. It is an absolutely remarkable and exhausting
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: swim against the powerful current. Fortunately, I found the inner
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: strength to successfully navigate and overcome that dark and overwhelming
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: psychological state of mind, because I want to emphasize and
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: repeat this point once more. It is absolutely devastating and
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: so crushing to look down and see a person in
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: a persistent vegetative state. Honestly, I just can't find the
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: right words to describe it.
• 57:47
  Speaker 3: No, it's so so so deep, so dark that I
• 57:50
  Speaker 3: think you can only understand it by living through it. Right.
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: Look, And I don't know if it's a goal or not.
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: But I almost always tell it. Francois Camilla, in one
• 57:59
  Speaker 1: of his shows videos, says that once they gave him
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: a driver who I can't remember, was missing either his
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: hand or his whole forearm. Well, the point is that
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: he was missing an arm, right, And even he himself says, right,
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: why did they give me this man? Don't they know
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: what I'm like, I'm going to make a joke, Come on, right,
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: And it was really hard for him not to make
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: a joke until finally he says, to hell with it,
• 58:21
  Speaker 1: I'm going to throw it out there, right, and he
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: throws it out there and breaks the ice. I mean,
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: he could take a joke. It's like me right now
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: when people tease me saying I'm a piggy bank. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: I mean I can take it, you know. And the
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: man took it. But he says that when he told
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: him he understood, that's when the magic was broken, you know,
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: and he straight up told him, no, you don't understand me.
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: And to you, what does this mean? No, So when
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: people tell me I understand you, no, man, you don't
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: understand me. I met a girl like I mentioned on
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: TikTok who got hit in the face and she's one
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: of the people I'm trying to help. I made my
• 58:57
  Speaker 1: own video asking people to support her because she needs
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: a lot less money. You know. She doesn't remember the
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: name of the hospital, but it's here in Mexico and
• 59:05
  Speaker 1: it's a kind of general hospital. And the surgery costs
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: her fifty thousand pesos. I mean, really, it's not much
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: for what they have to do to her. It went
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: right through her face and ended up in her corottid artery.
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: So this girl, when talking to her, she tells me,
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: I understand you. And I told her, yes, you do
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: understand me. You really do know what it feels like
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: to have one in your body. You do because you
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: have it in the same area too. I mean, maybe
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: it didn't go right through my face, you know, but
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: it did go through my brain. And she really understands me,
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: you know. So that situation when they would say to me, oh,
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: they would even shock me, you know, So, just to
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: not be rude, I wouldn't say stop doing that to me,
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: you know. But it's very difficult. It's very dark to
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: cross that line, you know, So helping someone else to
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: cross it, I'd be more than happy to, you know
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: how I don't know, but I'll figure out how. Not
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: everything works the same for everyone, Not everyone experiences it
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: the same way, and the problem is in here everyone.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: As they say, every mind is its own world, and
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: literally every mind is a mess, so you can't apply
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: the same formula to every mind. In fact, she actually
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: reached out to me specifically to ask how did you
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: do it? Because I still can't do it? And I
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: was happy to sit and chat with her for a
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: good while, and I told her, Look, this is how
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: I did it.
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 3: Like this, like this, like this, like this, like this.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: I mean, just take whatever works for you and go ahead, right,
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: whatever doesn't work for you, just ignore it. But you you, you, you,
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: you have to make yourself choose what you want, what
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: you take, and what you leave behind.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 3: No, and even so, even if something similar happened to them,
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 3: just because they are different people, they feel and experience
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 3: it differently, but without a doubt, they understand each other
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 3: so much more than anyone else could ever understand. You. Look,
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 3: I have.
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: Broken my tibia amphibila, just you know, but it didn't
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: happen the same way as it did to my daughter.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: It's not the same situation, right, Sure, it happened when
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: I fell off a bench because I was just a
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 1: silly brat being a nuisance.
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 3: Yes, but it was a very traumatic event.
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: The bench breaks and I break my tibia and fibula,
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 1: and I broke it in three. There were two lateral
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 1: ones and one horizontal. So it's not the same, right
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 1: compared to how she lived it. She sees a crowd
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: of police, she says, only crap they're going to and
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 1: obviously I have to calm her down. Oh, sweetie, she's
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 1: in therapy. She gets therapy. But look, the trauma is very,
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 1: very different. In fact, it took her longer to start
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: walking than it did me. Why because she didn't want
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 1: to be away from me, Poor baby, she'd say, no,
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 1: this way, they won't take me from my dad. Why
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 1: because I can't walk and they have to carry me.
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be away from my dad. It
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: was very very It was a very very difficult task
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 1: to get her to walk because she had to start school,
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 1: and she had to start in September. So it was like, Mommy,
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 1: you have to because at school you can't crawl. I
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 1: can't carry you and the wheelchair. Who's going to push you?
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: My love? You have to give it, You're all. You
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 1: have to make an effort to stand up and well reluctantly,
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 1: but she stood up, but only like that otherwise and
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 1: obviously telling her you could end up with muscle atrophy
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 1: in your leg because you're not moving it, you're not
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: exercising it. The cast made it thinner. She had a
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: cast from her groin to her ankle. I mean her
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 1: leg was completely like this four months.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 3: How hard it must have been for you, for your children,
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 3: for your friends who went through it with you, for
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 3: everyone who saw you like that.
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: Yes, looking back now, it has been an incredibly long
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 1: and challenging journey.
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 3: So to speak, yes, at the very least right and
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 3: to close, you know, I'd like to close, if that's
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 3: okay with you, unless you want to close in another
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 3: way by giving a message to your children, to my children, Yes,
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 3: this is something you want to say to your children
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 3: after the trauma they went through, but they went through
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 3: it together, about the people they are now and the
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 3: people they will surely become.
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: That they don't change, that they stay just as strong,
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: that they know for sure that they can definitely make it,
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 1: because if I made it, they can even more. And
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 1: that I love them with all my soul,