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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just -The Inward and Outward Application of Divine Gifts 3.4.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  He's breaking down one by one our arrogance, or a person's
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  arrogance, I shouldn't say ours. And what he's doing is he's
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  taking away the source of the arrogance.
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  So you started with wisdom. A guy's very smart intelligence.
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  He thinks it's his gift. He thinks it's his thing.
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  And people naturally, for whatever reason, have in their
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  mind Speaking of the mind. They believe that they developed
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  it because the mind and the wisdom is so connected to you.
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  It's your, your thoughts. Your thoughts are in essence of
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  yourself as they are. So what's dream of choice now?
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  We'll get there one second. Because of that, analyze that.
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  Because your mind is really part of yourself.
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  That's how it feels. You therefore feel very good
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  about yourself when you come up with the right decision.
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  You can't put a thought, you can't put a speech, you can't
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  put a devout Torah. You can't put a shy learning,
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  all those things. They're you.
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  And because of that they are, they lead to a person being
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  arrogant. What the person has to realize
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  is that those things that God-given, those like gifts,
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  Hashem developed and nurtured and molded your thoughts and
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  your wisdom, of course, to what they was asking.
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  Of course you were involved in making that decision.
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  That's the choice that you make 1000%.
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  No one's saying that Hashem guided your mind toward that
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  spot, but it's all there with the assistance of Hashem.
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  The entire thought that you had was a briar Hashem.
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  God created the the wisdom, the mind, the physical mind, and
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  therefore the mental mind to be able to develop that thought.
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  So God gave you all the tools, so to speak, and more than the
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  tools, He pretty much LED you down that road.
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  The decision might have been yours, but the decision was
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  using all help from Hashem. Because of that, no one should
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  be arrogant when it comes to their mind.
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  Even though people, some of the most arrogant people in the
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  world, were the philosophers because they were so smart and
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  they felt like it was their own, their own traits, right?
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  That's when it comes to wisdom. When it comes to wealth, next
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  one of the list, people are inclined to feel arrogant
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  because of their wealth, right? Says the Messiah.
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  Shame Imashiru. Every person is wealthy.
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  His mental thoughts should be you.
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  Smart because I appreciate the position that I'm in.
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  I'm happy in my position. I'm thrilled to be blessed.
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  That's it. Valavula Zor Lamiche in law.
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  His job instead is to help those who don't have.
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  That's it. Don't go further than that.
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  Don't think. Don't take who you have and turn
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  it in. Take who you have and turn it
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  out. Recognize that it's given to
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  you. It's a God-given gift if it's a
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  God-given a gift, it's meant to be deposited by you and shifted
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  out. I saw over the course of
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  yesterday spend my entire day outside of the parties know the
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  entire day was dedicated to giving out that money and it was
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  an unbelievable amount of money that that that they was raised
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  and I was given out. It was something really mind
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  boggling. It's shocking how much, but it's
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  also shocking more importantly, how the people who gave realized
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  that it's not really theirs. And they clearly I like you
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  people just throwing money. I mean, I I'm putting them in
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  the day. I kept calling me and saying I
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  got more, I got more is more come in.
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  I'm putting some people just throwing someone, someone give,
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  you know, telling them dads are walking out, drop $100.
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  They tried this, drop that. And the theme is the mindset
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  they supposed to have, which is we are blessed, but it's not
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  meant to turn inward. It's meant to turn outward your
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  money, your wealth is meant to now ain't two ways a when it
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  comes to what you do with the money.
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  Two, you mindset of having that money first, what you do with
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  it. If you recognize it's meant to
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  turn outward, you give it away, use it for all the people you,
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  you know, you try to help and lift up and make happy other
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  people. That's Part 1 to the mindset.
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  If a person turns their mindset inward with the money that
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  they're given and blessed with, and they become arrogant, they
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  become stingy, they become difficult people.
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  They think they know how to make money.
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  They think they know how to talk to people because they know
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  exactly how everything works. They think they have the gift,
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  they're blessed, but not that God bless.
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  They think they are the ones who have it all worked out.
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  That's inward, outward with your money.
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  Why should I be more arrogant because Hashem gave me a gift?
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  Why should I think that? It indicates my perfect tools of
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  doing business. Why am I going to think that I
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  should carry myself better than the next guy Ozzy to can't
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  really afford. There's no reason to think that
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  way. All right, so inward is
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  terrible. Outward, he's great.
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  And that is, again, the proper application of the gifts God
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  gave us lead us to becoming definitely not a worse person
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  and even a better person. Improper applications of the
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  gift God gave us lead us to becoming a way worse person.
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  That's how life plays out. A person, every one of us has
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  gifts. Some people have wisdom, wealth,
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  strength, family, a lot of different things.
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  Improper application, the most difficult person to be around,
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  proper application, the most beautiful person to be around is
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  how it plays out. It's that simple.
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  Another example is strength in Giboto next to our list, if a
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  guy is physically strong now, today people are busy with
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  physically strong, but I'm sure it was a bigger thing back then
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  than it is today, right? Today, the number one thing that
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  makes people arrogant is money. More than wisdom and definitely
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  more than physical strength. Wisdom is not so much a thing
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  anymore because wisdom can be, you know, nurtured through other
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  means like AI and everything else.
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  Well, all people care about is money, money, money.
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  That's pretty much the idea and some power as well.
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  Those are the two big ones. But strength and wisdom in the
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  old days they were a bigger deal.
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  Now let's talk about the old days.
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  MG boredom. A person is very strong.
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  Let his job and his mind should be.
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  Why do I have that physical strength to help people?
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  Lazoor la Cochlene will I see a lot Shakim to help people who
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  need it to be there by them. Halamaze Domain and Michelle
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  tell by it. Compare yourself to a person who
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  served into the house. She called it had me muna A
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  davarma. Every servant of the house has a
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  job, staying by your post and fulfill your job.
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  And to finish the work that the house needs to get done, there
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  ain't Bekan Macomb, the gal of Allah fiammit.
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  And there is no place for arrogance.
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  There is no place for thinking you're better than the other guy
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  just because you're strong. You know why you're strong?
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  To lift things up for other people.
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  That's because you're smart. You know why you're smart?
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  To learn, to develop, to be wise, to give advice, to give
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  opinions. That's why you're smart.
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  For your wisdom is not there. We turn inward.
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  You have a post. That's the wrong book.
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  You have a post. You have a job.
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  Your job is. By the way, how do you know
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  where your job is? And people always ask this
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  question, how do I know my job isn't life?
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  You can't really know my humble opinion because it keeps
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  changing. And not going to say there's one
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  job. I do think that you come to us
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  and are in stride and you start to feel what fits your mindset
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  as part of it. But more importantly, the better
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  way to figure out your job is because of this idea.
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  God gave you gifts, correct? He gave you a certain ability to
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  think, to learn, to give charity, whatever it may be.
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  If you're in a position that points to a certain outcome
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  that'll help other people or that'll help God's world, that's
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  your job. Because you have and you were
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  placed by a post, by a spot in the Army.
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  You know, you're thinking of an Army today.
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  In the Army, there's one guy who was an AV guy, another guy who
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  was an Air Force guy. Another guy is a ground guy.
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  They have different roles, other guys a tech guy back in your
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  back and you know on the ground different roles and they have
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  different talents. In this world, we are the exact
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  same way. We all have different roles.
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  We weren't clearly defined. We have to figure them out.
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  But all these roles point to a deeper point, which is no room
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  for arrogance rather room more room for application of your
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  role. Stand by your post.
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  Don't take it and use an inward which is this makes me special.
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  Take it and lose our word. That means this makes me work
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  harder. This makes me more caring by the
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  people. Literally, if you think about
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  the wealthy, there are two types and there's so opposite extreme.
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  It can't even remain in the same room and nothing do each other
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  one type, inward type and maybe use some charity.
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  But it's all about him. It's all constantly about him
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  one way or another. It all reflects on him.
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  And now it's because inward, inward meant that the money that
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  he has is part of in his mind, part of his existence, part of
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  his own personal gifts, that he is developed, maybe that he
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  created and such and such. Even if it's inheritance, it
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  doesn't make a difference. Somehow it goes to his mind.
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  Whereas outward, that guy's the most beautiful person around.
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  He thinks to himself, give me more ways to give, find me more
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  averages to give. He just wants to give.
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  He wants to be the other people. He wants to lift them up.
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  He wants to help others. And he recognizes and absorbs
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  the fact that it's not his to have.
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  It's an outward existence. It's here to be delivered.
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  Same with my mind, Same with my strength, Same with my
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  connections, Same with anything I have in my life.
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  It's all here for our purposes. There's no room for arrogance.
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  There's no room. I think I'm special.
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  According to his minds, that's what he's trying to build.
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  Fellow. Sorry, Vinay.
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  Zia, you invade Barnut. How to leave the whole issue.
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  She has to hold your shot below mid.
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  Akash. It is very important.
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  If you're honest with yourself, I'm not telling you anything
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  special. That's be very real.
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  Where does our money come from? This guy's making a lot of
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  money, right? Come on.
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  Yeah. We were in school with him.
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  You were in school with that guy.
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  He couldn't get it through school.
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  A lot of people like that and he's blessed, right or what was
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  Megan, but God is blessing them. What do you are you happy that
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  God blessed you like you should know?
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  Very true. The Gemarado talks about the
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  fact that rabbis would give respect from the Gemarado time.
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  Give respect to those who are blessed with money so that
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  again, very delicate, they deserve respect.
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  If they're blessed by God, they deserve respect.
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  Respect does not need to translate into arrogance.
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  There's 2 completely separate concepts.
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  You're not respecting the man himself, you're respecting what
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  he represents that himself represents.
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  God bless this spot. God bless this person.
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  He's carrying God's blessing. No reason for arrogance.
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  Yes, sure is every respect same by the Rabbi, right?
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  Should you say because you old you love humility.
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  I know some people who love the topic of humility very much and
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  they get very turned off by the inan of respect.
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  In fact, that a couple of conversations with people even
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  yesterday about this very topic and they are very turned off and
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  they therefore are wired in a way because it's so and it's
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  actually a beautiful thing this so down to us in low key and
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  they can't handle anything that's to do with loud.
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  They're wired in a way that they don't appreciate those who are a
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  big deal, let's call it that. They can't handle those who are
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  in a sense, loud, a big deal, even in the, you know, respected
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  world of leaders. So I'm not going to get into
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  detail, but that's they can't appreciate that.
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  And I tried to explain to these people somewhat which is you
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  love low key, beautiful thing. You love low key.
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  You hold that everyone should be low key.
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  The fact that these people are big deals, it's not really a
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  negative on them. It's a negative if they reflect
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  it. It's a negative if they go home
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  at night to their wife and they say, you know what someone said
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  about me, You know, you know, you know what they think of me.
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  You know what I am the Haman mindset.
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  That's a negative, right? But it's not a negative that
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  they get respect. It's their respect.
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  Same as the wealthy, same for a rabbi, same for many.
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  They deserve respect. They should just not internalize
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  make. Again, it all has to be outward.
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  I get respect. It means I reflect the Torah.
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  It means outward. I have more Torah to give.
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  I have more to do. I get respect on the wealthy
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  guy. It means obviously I'm blessed.
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  I deserve the respect, not for myself.
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  Outward. Who can I help with this?
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  And on and on and on. Everything that you're blessed
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  with should be turned towed. Others should be turned outward.
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  And this, he says, is an easy thought.
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  No Hindus here. It's obvious.
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  As long as your mind is not distorted, if you're a mad
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  person, you remain on track. Everything that he's telling you
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  about, all the gifts that you have, how they should not
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  reflect in your mind, arrogance. And they should not be used to
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  blow yourself. As if they hear from here,
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  staying here. No no no.
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  They were given to hear but they need to go outward.
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  That's the mindset. You keep that inside of you.
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  It's a clear and simle idea. You didn't create it, you don't
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  deserve it. You shouldn't keep it instead of
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  the other one, which is by me. It's for me.
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  It's about me and everything's me.
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  And then I can become the most arrogant person alive.
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  And that's how you have some people who are gifted are
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  beautiful. Some people who are gifted are a
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  disaster. It's based on this simple
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  concept. Where do they think the gift
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  where he says it's obvious. Where do they think the gifts
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  come from? Where do they think the gifts
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  are meant for everything? The gifts come from you.
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  And you know, you know, FUBU for us by us, right?
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  They think some people think that is, you know, for me, by
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  me, my gifts where they should realize it's for others by
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  another, right? For others, for the people, by
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  God. If you see it that way, best
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  person around you see the other way, hard to be around.
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  That's how clear it is, right? We'll stop with this.