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How to Encourage Our Children Using Active Listening · 5–Minute Parenting: Tips to Help You Raise Competent, Godly Kids.

• 0:31
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to another episode of 5-Minute Parenting.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: Last week we talked about some different ways that we as parents can encourage our children, and today we're going to do a follow-up on that by talking about how to encourage our children by using active listening.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_00: Active listening is a powerful tool for effective communication, and it can be particularly beneficial when used with children.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: So let's take a look at how we can use it.
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  SPEAKER_00: First, give your child your full attention.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: When your child is speaking to you, put down whatever you're doing and give them your full attention.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_00: Make eye contact and show that you're fully present and interested in what they have to say.
• 1:21
  SPEAKER_00: Number two, listen to them without interrupting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Allow your child to express themselves without interrupting them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let them finish their thoughts before responding.
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  SPEAKER_00: 3.
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  SPEAKER_00: Show empathy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Try to understand your child's perspective and validate their feelings.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_00: Reflect back what they're saying to you to show that you understand using phrases like, it sounds like you're feeling, or I can see why that would make you feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: 4.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask open-ended questions.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: Encourage your child to elaborate on their thoughts and feelings by asking open-ended questions.
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  SPEAKER_00: This shows that you're interested in their perspective and allows for a deeper conversation with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: 5.
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  SPEAKER_00: Avoid judgment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Refrain from passing judgment or criticizing your child's thoughts or feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead, create a safe place for them to express themselves openly, without fear of negative reactions.
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  SPEAKER_00: 6.
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  SPEAKER_00: Paraphrase or summarize.
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  SPEAKER_00: Repeat back what your child has said in your own words to ensure that you've understood them correctly.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: This also shows that you're actively engaged in the conversation.
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  SPEAKER_00: 7.
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  SPEAKER_00: Use nonverbal cues.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: Use nonverbal cues such as nodding and facial expressions to show that you're listening and engaged in the conversation.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_00: Encourage your child to express themselves openly and honestly by creating an environment where their thoughts and feelings are valued and respected.
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  SPEAKER_00: 9.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be patient.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes children may take time to articulate their thoughts or express their feelings.
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_00: Be patient and give them time, the time that they need to communicate effectively.
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  SPEAKER_00: 10.
• 3:35
  SPEAKER_00: Follow up.
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  SPEAKER_00: After your child has shared their thoughts or feelings, follow up with them later to see how they're doing or if they have any additional thoughts on the matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: This demonstrates that you value their input and are interested in continuing the conversation.
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_00: By using these active listening techniques with your child, you can foster better communication, strengthen your relationship, and create a supportive environment where they feel understood and valued.