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Nollywood Actress Chacha Eke - Talks About Living with Bipolar Disorder · DidiLawren

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Hello and welcome back to my channel.
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My name is Lawrence. That would be fair and this is
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bunted. Lawrence here, how are you all
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doing? I hope you're doing great and
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happy new month. Like this is December guys, and
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we're excited and nervous at the same time because you know what
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is going to shit right now? So yeah.
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Let's just celebrate what we can celebrate for today's episode.
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It's a celebration a shocking celebration actually because
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hey, we're going to be talking about Nollywood actress.
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Cha-Cha AK funny because according to Chacha, she has
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gone back to her husband. Yes, yes, guys.
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I mean online in Lord job like how do you see this?
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It's training, because If you want to support people who come
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out on cry online talking about, you know, they are domestic
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abuse situation or things that are going through in their
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marriages, in their relationship and you want to sympathize or
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empathize with these people. But before to Market, these do
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come out and say, you know, all this.
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Well, I mean I am happy for her. Those are the same time.
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It's just like, okay. Where do we go from here?
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Like, what is actually happening?
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Like, I don't know. So, for those of you who don't
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know, chaika, funny or who are not familiar with the story, let
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me just bring you up to speed, charge more for, you know, very
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decade. Now, she has four children, the
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issue actually started. I mean, she came out online in
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2020 to allege that her husband, Austin.
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Funny is after her walls too. And her life Austin, is this
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organization that she's making this video to tell the whole
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world that she's done with the marriage that she's leaving the
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marriage at that point in time. Charter was actually pregnant
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for the fourth child. So people will kind of and she
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looked so think chat out looked really lean and imaginated.
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She was really because people before even then people were
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like thinking what is wrong with Cha Cha Cha Cha I used to be?
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This kind of, you know, bubbly kind of person, she shaved her
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hair, she just became a shell of herself.
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So people were already wondering what was going on before church?
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I made a video. Now, I'm cha cha after you know,
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a couple of weeks later already Days.
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Later Cha-Cha came out and said she's going back to her husband.
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Even the family member, she said, she had bipolar, even.
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Family members were like, know, which are you gonna have?
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I pull a half-brother in particular came out and defended
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her chatter said her brother, the family don't like her.
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They were noise. Both of our marriage that she's
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going back to her husband. Okay.
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We don't like in-laws. We step back.
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We were happy for a child to continue.
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Their marriage in certain to want to take your mouse and said
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she's known as the marriage again.
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People were like, OK, cha cha mcleish has given birth at this
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point. They were like, okay, what is
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going on? Like chatter?
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I tell us what is happening, church are said her husband.
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In is this house on is that she's not going?
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She's not doing it again. We're like okay, you know,
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Cha-Cha save yourself save your mental health, with preaching
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mental health mental, health is very important blah, blah blah
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before you could say, Jack Robinson, Cha-Cha.
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And the husband said I doing photo shoots like people are now
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thinking what is happening like you literally and I was the the
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end of your married for the second time in a year in less
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than a year or listen. More than a year.
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And now you're doing photo shoots with your husband, like,
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chatter, what is happening. They even remarried, they renew
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their wedding vows because according to church, he said,
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she burns down or their family pictures and wedding pictures so
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they did loads of photoshoot. At that point, maybe trying to
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recover some of those pictures. Now before you could say Jack
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catch a release, the statements on social media saying that,
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however, it has ended It, like she would rather live a life
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that live in a coffee. People really like, is it a bad?
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Like how could it get to that level of you making such an
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audacious statement? Online people support their
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church are. Even the husband came out and
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said that time will tell that Charter is no no more church.
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I is this treasure is that what? For her to make the steepness,
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people thought, okay? This this should be the end of
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it since That's how you jump off all her family pictures on
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social media. Even like people are thinking,
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okay, chatter is only this marriage catch us.
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We do in this marriage for her to come out and say, all these
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things about her husband church are, this must be eats.
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Hmm, we are sitting now in our business, you know, couple of
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days ago church, I went to a church, you know, I think it was
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a church but was kind of mental health awareness, by the way
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wench, That I went back to her husband, she started advocating
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for mental health, Church Army, the whole lot of video talking
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about, she not being mentally, okay?
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That time she has bipolar disorder, she kind of took the
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mantle of, you know, creating away awareness for mental
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health, which is fine. People were happy about it
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because in Nigeria, in Africa, people don't really take mental
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health, seriously, like, unless you're roaming the streets, you
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know, literally reruns people do I really think of you as I mean,
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even if you say you're depressed, people look at you
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and think, you know, we just get over it, you know, what are you
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thinking about? Like, okay, if you're thinking
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about a breakup get over it, even thinking about having
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money, go and get money. You know, that's the kind of
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line that most people most Africans to when you talk about
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mental health. So people were happy that
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church, our was given a voice lending, her voice to, you know,
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the mental health course now We just sitting there, minding our
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business, we saw church, I released the video or those
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initially video circulating on social media, that Cha-Cha has
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returned to our husband church. I was in a church talking about
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mental health, talking about her, bipolar disorder, giving
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history, how she was pregnant, she had bipolar that the listen,
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I am just going to play that video for you because I don't
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just want to, you know, ROM about like it is Is a long video
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boards, just listen to watch. Our has to say, my name is
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Charity. I am popularly known as Chacha.
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I am a wife. A mother Nollywood actress and
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founder. Meticulous people Foundation.
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Thank you. I turned 35 4 months ago. but
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for 33 years out of that 35, I had a sickness that I was
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unaware of My parents were on a where I was unaware.
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I interpreted most of it, as who I am.
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My personality is who I am, but it goes beyond just who I am in
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2018 at the Ritz hotel and who knew heaven.
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I was lodged in his suits with my husband and my two children
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at that time. and then one day, it happened.
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I went mad. Later on, I discovered this code
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in Maniac episode, but just like in the movies, I went Bonkers
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crazy, I began to throw away every of our belongings clothes
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shoes bags. The children's toys, I've
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analyzed the hotel properties, the suit in The Parlor area had
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three large. Cushions, I ripped it all apart,
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using the tiny knife. It was nothing but Madness that
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Madness was contained in just that room by my husband who was
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wearing only the clothes that he had on when I was training where
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everything, same goes for my children.
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That incident was so intense, that what I needed was a trip to
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the hospital, but I didn't go to the hospital because my husband
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and I, who is seated here with me supported me.
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Can you please rise? We attributed it to demonic
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attack. Voodoo Marine Spirits.
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Somebody knows somewhere. Now what I owe we kept saying,
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oh, it's not rude, you know, you can get really envious in that
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industry. Oh, it's my father and my
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mother, they never supported this marriage.
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Oh, I think, is your family? I think, is you, my husband I
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think is you because since I married you, my life will start
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going haywire. It was always one suspicion
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after another on false accusation, after another I
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survived the Ritz. But I had yet another Maniac
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episode in 2020, here, in Delta State.
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As Abba, I was on the laptop writing script.
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After script writing is my hobby, my husband was on his way
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to Lakers to sign a contract with our company between our
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company and yet another production company.
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And before I could realize what was going on with me, I will not
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again. And I began to destroy things
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around the house. I broke televisions.
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Chandalier lights, are burnt all my clothes, and my children's
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was just like, I didn't end up with I reduced everything that
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we owned to trash and, no, I didn't take one day.
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It was three to four days, intense Madness, on the fourth
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day. I didn't eat at all.
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Only drinking water. I felt I had, I felt I had
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superpowers. I felt I was receiving a message
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from the Divine or I felt like somebody was manipulating me
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because there was two entities, all of a sudden there was me
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watching me that couldn't stop that mean.
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An action, they have two boundary hands and legs to the
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hospital. And then I was still just like
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in the movies. Crazy.
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It was now at the hospital fast, Delta American Hospital here in
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us about that. Doctor is your mokuba alongside
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a psychiatrist. Not only be diagnosed me of
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bipolar disorder. I had heard that name in the
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movie but because I'm an actor that means seemed fictitious it.
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Felt like a name that they had to come up with to buttress a
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character or characterization. I didn't take that news
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pleasantly because it was not a pleasant news, because what do
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you mean? Do you know who I am?
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Georgia, I am way too beautiful, way too talented, way to bring
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it, to have what they call in my area, a little bit of scotch.
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And that means gonna Company by yet.
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Another news that I found very impressive.
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All of a sudden they said I was pregnant.
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We weren't expecting a baby but I love babies sounds like yeah,
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you got hunger with admit. I don't know what you're saying
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by Paula. What.
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And so when they give you drugs to take, when I went home, I was
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flushing the drugs down the toilet.
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I had a friend, I still have a friend in the US, who bought me
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pills what thousands of dollars. It was a six-month supply for
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the disorder but my head didn't agree with that news.
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So I caught, I said, I won't take them, the Lord told me in
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my sleep. That's those jokes are not for
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me, I'm fine. And then I now attached, the
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news of the pregnancy to my denial, saying that if I keep
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taking these drugs, the Tendencies of the baby, in my
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stomach coming out as embezzle is there.
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So no, I'm not going to take it and so I went through that
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pregnancy without My Views by never stop going mad.
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Only this time was much more madness.
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But then when I had my baby and resumed work, the stress of the
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Walk began to jump my brain. Again, I had yet another episode
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just like in 2020. I had another episode in 2021.
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I had that represent every year. There's always episodes, people
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Manic and mennick this particular episode.
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I brings all our wedding photos. All our Vital business documents
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destroyed, all our clothes, we had no clothes.
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Again, it's what I do and I did that every time not anymore, but
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it was a habit, many times people would not see me on
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social media. The imagine I'm living an
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introverted like, wow, that is true.
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I've been living in the world in my head.
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I didn't even have clothes to make appearances anymore because
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I wrecked everything that I had. Until I had a last-minute, the
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last many guy, French Ali, one that off on the streets.
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Many are raving mad Naked. But they are people who are not
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naked yet. What they are months This
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particular meaning between April May June July, of course, I
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burnt clothes destroy things, but I wondered off for em.
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In the morning, my family were asleep and I wore my clothes.
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I sneaked out of the house immediately across the gate.
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I take off, I was running, nobody was personally, but I
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feel like somebody's trying to kill me.
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Hallucinations delusions. It was all in my head.
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I run to Legos it wasn't enough Iran to Ghana.
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Now barley no Queen. Hecuba Lonely Island.
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It is what it is faster. Yes.
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It took the grace of God. God loves me to remind me of
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home because I love my husband and my four children at home,
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including a one-year-old. Yep, wanna bang.
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But then I saw you remember at home and I felt like, Okay, the
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reason I ran is because this man here, I was confused in my head.
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I wanted to use me to do rituals.
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The nature of my work. Doesn't support the sickness
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that I have. I make pretense for a living.
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People pay me to pick to be pretending to be who I'm not and
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I've done it for over a ticket floors.
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So I'm a grill at it but all that pretends began to backfire
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on me because I began to lose myself in the midst of it.
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All characters that I do not recognize where, now jumping out
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of me. Come on social media and write
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nonsense, non-existent things. And because I'm popular people
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take me. Seriously, they'll take those
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words. I said, seriously, do you even
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I'm talking like this? Why do you know?
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They didn't know. Now, we'll come out the long and
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that was the worst thing you could do to me.
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Then if you say ho, hello, get, I could fight you.
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Because what you mean? What are go install, it yourself
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there. On and on whence I came back and
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the vulnerable yet against the hospital this time thought of as
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Hospital. What's the name again?
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Can Christ Hospital, that's the fourth hospital.
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Now One hospital after Yoda nature and is not like our bills
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wherever cheap ah is designer sickness.
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You used to be several thousand hr1000 and it's not just the
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pills that the pills are not even that expensive is the
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Aftercare. The Psychotherapy that I used to
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give me that I was still combatant.
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I shared my children's hair. Anybody that knows me here.
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And social media know my children.
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They are my greatest asset alongside this man.
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He loves me on social media is never see many private jet week.
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I am Pamela above him, I'll have a Wrangler.
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I don't have those expensive cause I still will but the
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expensive treasure that I had still have is my husband and my
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children. But she was bipolar to make a
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mess of my most precious, most treasured possessions.
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If you are bipolar. When you're having an episode,
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your favorite things, your favorite people become your
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worst enemies. Your worst things is to pose it
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ships from this pole to that pole, and it will stay there for
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a long time. Isis.
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I bumped my marriage on social media twice.
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The first one I couldn't account for you, but s what I'm a mama
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because I was very angry trust the devil to use vices like
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anger. I was angry for nothing.
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I felt like this man was ganging up with the doctors to lie to me
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because he has a plan to take my look On that day, that they were
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Jeremy's the hospital. I made a big scene, I was
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screaming kidnapper, help me is a kidnapper and then people will
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step in to help, but when they go to, where where they realize
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that's your husband, and then you tell them, she's no fun.
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Take her to hospital that brought up more aggression in
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me, like, hey, I promised myself to go.
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They cannot go DJ car. Cannot go to the hospital and
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I'll stop marrying. You Should I delete this
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hospitals? I keep on telling me to Antics.
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Don't stop giving me this job that I hate.
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I went to the police I petitioned against my husband,
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to the commissioner of police, they made him sign on and on the
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taking to stay away from me, because clearly, he was my
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biggest trigger. I left him.
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I love the children. I went to Hotel.
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I stayed in a hotel for two months from there.
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I was going to work and coming back.
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When they like film for Maya. Have you come to ask myself?
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Yeah, whatever I've been in this hotel room for long.
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Why am I here? Oh, wait a minute, I was some
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stuff on Instagram, me and I did it again.
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Where are my children? I remember when I was dragging
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custody, with my lawyer, I took the children are holidays and if
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Jesus I did it again, then I began to call my husband's
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phone. He wasn't picking, he was really
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terrified of me. But then, I sent him a long
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voice notes on with that. What's up?
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Psybeam on our niala manufacturer good?
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Just allow me to come back. I'll take my medicine.
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I promise. And he said to me, that's just
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don't want to do to get where yours because what is happening
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to you has happened to many people is happening to many
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people, so you don't let it ruin you.
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Just recently, there's the popular ivd story of anybody
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followed, it being poised late. Now, by recognize myself a lot
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in bimbo, who is dead? All that aggression, and
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violence and endless nagging. It's a mental imbalance who we
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now, bomber like that, you can't be so crazy for kerosene of.
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Well, around about your house. Then you put it on fire and
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expect not to burn it would burn, but it bun.
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YouTube, I have this injury to show for all the times that I
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smashed. I smashed throat, I Sighs was
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breaking windows so I could jump out.
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Dutch I was you go. I'm just trying to say that so
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many people are here. Listening to me and they're just
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like me, some of them know about it.
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Some don't know. So I'm bringing you the same
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gospel that Jesus brought to the people Consciousness awareness
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knowing this what you don't know is your Mountain from the moment
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I realized that the bipolar makes me unstable in my moods
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and in my dealings with people I began to make conscious efforts
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Be a better person. I started to take my pills,
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which some people that I've mentally unstable should take.
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Now the pills repairs brain cells.
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Because my brain for 33 years to face a lot of damage, imagine
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being sick and not taking drugs, you only get worse If you have
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anger issues, the kind that never goes away until you take
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out your anger or vexation on something.
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Or someone my dear, you have mental problem if you feel so
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Peter and saddened so much. So that you inflict injury on
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self, you have mental illness. If you have delusions
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hallucinations, if you are out of touch with reality, euphoria.
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You have mental illness and mental illness can be inherited.
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Some of us are born with it, some of us are quiet through,
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trauma, poverty, and live in a stressful life.
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Many women are married today, because in my life who gives you
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people recover is a mental illness because there's no break
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in your brain cells, it just keeps flowing, you can't even
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put a stop button to it. Brain, never shuts down, please
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do not let the shame and stigma of being attacked to mental
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illness. Make you shy away.
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You'll be doing yourself a great disservice if you do that thank
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you so much. Thank you.
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So listening to this video. I mean I don't even know how to
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approach this anymore. So all I can say, is that I wish
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charl the best like this. I don't think anybody wants wish
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this upon anybody. I don't even think anybody, like
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mental health, the long and short story is that we should
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take care of our mental health. One.
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Other thing is that people the way people handle Fame.
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It's different there. Was this other Big Brother Nigel
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lady. The that went according to
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reports went crazy so before people ask for famous, I think I
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just think that you have to be mentally prepared for certain
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things. If you're going to go into the
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entertainment industry, I mean nobody goes into all these
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things thinking, okay? I'm waiting bigger than you do
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like a massive star or Superstar wedding dress to be, so they
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want to be successful. Why don't think they were
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prepared for the mental mental stress, that is going to cost on
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their own health. So I think people should just
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take care of them and so holds, if you are trying to get into
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something that, you know, is going to affect our mental
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health, seek therapy, seek counseling sit down and ask
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yourself, can I handle this? And if you can't handle that
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thing, look for alternative. What I'm trying to say is,
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Manage your mental health regardless.
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If you know that there is something going on within you,
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that is making you act. The way.
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Only normal, they do not act, seek counseling, seek advice
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seek, medical help. There is nothing wrong, with no
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shame in you. Having a mental challenge or
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mental breakdown, like people, there is this Degree of Madness
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that everybody has or having 10 that something can trigger it.
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And what's that thing is triggered?
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Then you know it's like a genie, you have put it back in that
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bottle so you just have to manage it as you go on a deal
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with it. So we don't know what is
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triggering charger but I think that is something that she needs
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to kind of find out what that thing is and once because you
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cannot treat. These are symptoms.
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There are certain things that I think is triggering chart that
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she needs to sit down and find out and just ask ourselves.
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What is this thing? Why am I being triggered?
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Or why is this happening to me? Sometimes it's not even is just
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genetics. Sometimes, it's just genetics.
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Sometimes there's nothing you can do about these things but
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manager, mental health, manage it Seek counseling seek advice
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by take your medication, take your medication.
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If that is what is required take it, and I wish Charter, and the
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family of the best. I mean, we do online in-laws.
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This is keeping up your Cha-Cha. 103 episode is a yearly
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occurrence. Maybe next year, she will be
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done again. We are not praying for that but
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we are mentally. Paired chatter.
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You cannot drive us crazy. We are mentally prepared for
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you. So even if you're coming next,
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as well as that, you know, your Dawn, we are mentally prepared
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for it. Now, we need to worry about
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managing our own emotions, were managing our own mental health,
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you cannot come and drive us crazy.
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So, thank you very much for watching today's episode, please
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like like, like and share. Thank you very much.
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Bye, bye.