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Molly McCook · Mommywood

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Mom. Hey, I'm your host.
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Emily V. I'm an actor teacher, and a new
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mom. Once my daughter arrived, I went
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on the hunt for answers to all my questions about being a
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working actor. Mom, and what did I find?
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Well practically nothing. So here I am asking all the
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questions to try to figure out how people do it, how our
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mothers balancing and not balancing Parenthood in this
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crazy. Three.
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Join me. And my amazing guess, as a, we
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take a real look into the life of a working entertainment
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industry moms everywhere. On this episode, I'm talking
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with Molly, McCook Molly and I met a million years ago and you
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see Bea 101. Oh, gosh, so long ago Molly and
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her partner have decided to start trying for a baby.
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So I thought it'd be really interesting to talk to her at
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this point in her life and talking with her was really
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actually mind opening because I, for some reason already had
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these preconceived assumptions about her Or in her life.
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Because, you know, she grew up in LA with actor, parents, and
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already has a pretty successful career.
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But it was, like I said, mind opening to realize that we have
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so much in common regardless of all of that.
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So this episode we talk about her having actor, parents
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growing up in l.a. surrounded by the industry and taking class
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with Kids and Big Show's yet. Still feeling so far away and
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dealing with her parents, not letting her pursue her career
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when she was a lot younger and friends, that didn't understand
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her passion. And we also talked about the
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fact that her husband is also an actor and having a partner,
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that's also an actor and figuring out when the right time
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to have kids is and fears about All sorts of things like telling
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rap and as simple as body changes for women.
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And also talking about how her and her husband just really have
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each other's backs when it comes to, you know the ups and downs
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of being in this career when it comes to unemployment.
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And those downward spirals that all of us actors have And just
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hearing about the good and bad stories from other people and
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having it just be your own Journey at the end of the day.
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So I hope you really enjoyed this episode.
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I really, really enjoyed talking to Molly and seeing how similar
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our lives are, despite what I thought was so different.
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So So please enjoy Molly McCook know, I'm curious, you're having
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your dad as an actor. What were some things that like
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You saw that like, you are, like, I think I can take this
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into if when I want to become a parent.
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I can emulate like this type of thing or maybe not.
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Do this, like, I don't, they were like, I don't know.
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I mean, My situation was so specific because, you know, my
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dad has been on the same show and has been playing the same
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part for my entire life. So like it is totally wild and
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as you know, so rare and so a like that's what I knew was
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like, literally him playing that part in the same dressing room
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still to this day. 78 years old, like the same exact room.
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That I mean I was a baby going to that set and although things
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have changed in people have kind of come and gone so much of that
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has stayed the same. So although there was that kind
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of like, oh, I grew up in, like, an actor family, I didn't grow
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up in like a, like my dad had a steady gig which was something
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that he was so blessed and still feel so blessed to have, you
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know. So, so, For that.
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I didn't I didn't really experience having a parent who
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was like away all the time because they were on sets and
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out of town which I'm so grateful for so I don't have
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that experience. So for me I mean a it inspired
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me to be an actor you know, I had that right there at my
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fingertips and I dreamed of it from day one, but because my
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parents also had that perspective.
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Active. I think they really feared that
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I would go into it as well. Yeah, you know my my older
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siblings out of them. None of them wanted to be the
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center of attention like I so did as a kid so I think they
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really knew that it was coming and you know whether that be
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singing or acting, I knew what I wanted to do and so because of
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that perspective they both said no basically like they both as a
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kid and I How you feel as a mom. It's like it's and me thinking
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about being a mom, you know, soon.
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I hope that that kind of perspective of like, oh gosh, we
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know how hard that life is, you know?
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I would never want to say no, my parents weren't say no forever.
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Obviously I was going to be old enough to make my own decisions
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but but I think for me, they growing up in La, I had access
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to acting classes with kids that were starring on their own.
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Nickelodeon and Disney shows. And I was like, why can't I have
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that, right? So so they I was like, I want to
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be auditioning and they were like, well, you can't be a
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professional actor and I was like, I want to be homeschooled
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and they were like, you can't be homeschooled.
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You're going to stay in school, you can do all the theater that
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you want, which I adored, you know, and go to camps and do all
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these things performing and you can be in an acting class and
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you can like learn how to do it and be around other kids that
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love to do it. But I also Was.
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Yeah, watching kids who were like emancipated or, you know,
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totally on their own. It's it was wild and so for me
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it wasn't like, I was like I hate you.
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I don't want to be home or I hate school.
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It just was like, I was like, oh my gosh these kids are TV stars
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and like, why can't I be Lizzie McGuire?
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Like, I wanted that I wanted that, you know?
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Yeah, yeah. I know directly if that's
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different because you like, Because having that same those
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same feelings, but like, for me being in like st.
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Louis like have occur. So, I'm curious.
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So that's interesting that like, you being so like, close to it.
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Because me, I might as well have wanted to go to Timbuktu or
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something. Well, I got ya.
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If you still felt like you were so close yet, like so far
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because I'm always interested. Yeah, hot not that many people.
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That I'm like, oh you grew up here and wanted to be an actor
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this whole time. Yeah.
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I mean it was yeah, it was so close and so far at the same
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time because because of that accessibility and and I think I
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had even more frustration with my parents because I was like,
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why don't you get it? Like you should get it like you
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do this. And obviously now I'm like thank
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God for you, you know like thank God for the say are you looking
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back grateful or still? I could have been like, no, I
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mean, who knows? Who could, who knows?
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I could I have been, I was a sassy little one like, I could
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have had my own, you know, I don't know what would have
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happened in terms of auditions and things but like, you know,
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you see a lot of kid actors turn into their lives, like, really
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get messed with and I also know, kid actors who have evolved into
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wonderful people, whether they're still acting or not, you
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know, so, but that's the toss-up, right?
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And it is, it is so much about parenting.
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And I'm like, Like I'm so so grateful for that because they,
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you know, it's not like they were like they just said they
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basically said, we want you to know how difficult it is.
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There's a lot of rejection. It's not like you're just going
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to be handed a TV show. It's really hard and they said
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we want you to stay in school and all of this stuff but you
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can you can be in all these classes.
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And and finally, when I was 15, they looked at me because I
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wouldn't shut up about it and they said like the school thing
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hasn't changed, you have to stay in school but my dad said, like,
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look, I you can you can meet my old agent and without signing
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any papers. I keeping send you out on a few
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auditions and you can see what it feels like because that's it
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is such a massive learning experience and processes, you
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know, like our job is to audition.
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You know, when we're unemployed like that, that is our gig for
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now. And I think it was important for
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me to learn. I mean the joke of the family is
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that I booked my first audition but well good for you Molly and
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I just didn't work then for years but like the joke was like
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my parents are like it's really hard whenever I'm that I booked
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like a guest star. I was I've always been tall and
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so I ended up being able to book a show where I played a
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basketball player so it worked but then I didn't work for a
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long time. That was good.
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Yeah, it was, it strange was it as well.
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I guess besides getting that first one.
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Was it kind of a shock to your system because like you said
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your dad had had and still has like consistent.
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Yeah. We're just this one thing where
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you're like so was it kind of like?
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Yeah sure Dad but then were you like oh shit.
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It actually is heart was that? Like yeah, odd being like As I,
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you know, I would imagine your parents being like, it's hard
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and you're like, well, what do you know?
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You have you have hard for you before, but like, was it
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shocking to for like to get rejection and have to audition
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and yeah. Oh, totally a total shock
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honestly because like, I didn't have the perspective that I do
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now, meaning a lot of rejection and know what it's about, but it
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was, it was a shock to the system.
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To mention, I have my acting class friends, but nobody in my
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high school, even growing up in l.a. nobody at my high school,
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none of my friends understood. Like, I remember, I have a vivid
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memory, and I had very wonderful friends.
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Like, don't get me wrong, it's just like, when you're at that
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age, you're all figuring out who you are.
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And I always, I always really knew what I wanted and when I
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liked and I went to 44 years, actually the summer, every
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summer of high school. I went to a Performing Arts
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summer camp in Upstate New York and I You know, lived for it.
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I waited for it all year because I was with people who like all
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the same things and then I remember there was one I think
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it was like after my second year my like my two best girlfriends
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kind of like pulled me aside and they were like hey we really
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don't want to hear about that anymore.
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They're like we don't really want to talk like you talk.
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All you do is talk about camp and Camp to camp and I was like,
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woah, okay I got it. So there were a lot of moments
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of like okay like shocks to the the system of like, I guess I'm
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Different. Like I guess I guess it's most
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people here don't know what they want which is, which is the
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norm, you know? Yeah, I don't get that.
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Yes. So there was that shock.
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I think to, and a little shame there for me to like, I didn't
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even go to my high school reunions which I can retrospect.
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I think I regret a little bit. Because I remember what I ran
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into one person. They're like, yeah, yeah.
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Oh yeah. You're the, you know, you're
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still acting you always thought you were better than that.
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And I was like, I thought the perspective that you think that
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I have because for me, I thought nobody understood me.
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So there's also that kind of funny point of view, I guess.
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But yeah, I always look back at like my friends in high school
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because again, nobody know. Yeah.
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Same nobody else. Wanted they did like the
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musicals with me. Yeah, which is great.
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Yeah, besides that. And I recently went back and
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asked and I was like, Guys, never like asked you were never
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like, you sure you want to Major and acting in college, like
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right back, right. I was like, why did you guys
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never like question? And there were like, you just
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always wanted to do it and I was like, oh, okay.
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Yeah, well yeah, things were you like perspective is totally
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different. We're like they remember things
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and I'm like, oh oh yeah. Mon were.
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Yeah. I mean, and also the other thing
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in terms of parenting like, Hey. The funny thing also is my mom
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stopped working so long ago by choice but and my dad, you know,
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yes he's been working and still working but he hasn't he hasn't
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had an agent in. Oh my God.
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I mean at least 20 years and like because he doesn't need
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one. Right have auditions and he
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doesn't, you know he wants he wants the full pay as opposed to
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giving someone a percentage or whatever.
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But yeah. But and so because of that I uh
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I have this wonderful perspective from them an
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understanding of being an artist and also like, you know, their
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experiences to. But I'm now teaching them a lot
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because the industry is so different from what it once was.
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So I You know, I send them my auditions that I don't send them
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every single one, but now that things aren't tape like I do
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send them to them, the ones that I'm proud of and and they really
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loved that. I think that they are really
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interested. But then there are also some
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things where, you know, they'll ask questions or say, why don't
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you ask your manager, this and what do you call your agent?
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Say, like, where are the audition that I'm like, I feel
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like, okay, good to know that. That's just all parents because
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my parents will be like, why aren't you that should be you?
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Why aren't you playing now? Why don't you make some calls?
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It's like good news. Syria did your agent, put you
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have you auditioned. I was like, oh my God, that
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sounds good to know that. Yeah, it's a generational thing.
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Oh, Perry. And I you know that any audition
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that I would have though, they'd be like, well, did you book it?
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And I'm like, listen, I just gotta go.
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Stop telling them auditions that I've ever like ever have some
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like, yeah, it's how I get it, but I'll let you know when
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something comes along. Yeah.
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So I'm curious so one of my big things with like waiting because
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I think I'm a bit older than you.
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I'm 35 you're in 32 32 but I was like, yeah, of course, like
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women have dumb Cox which is so annoying.
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But of like looking forward to me.
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Like I knew I wanted to be a mom.
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Like I never just like dreamed of it, my whole life.
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I just Just kind of like knew I wanted it but like in this
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business waiting so long to be like okay well I'll wait for my
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career to really like I'll wait till I'm a series regular on a
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pilot. Then I'll have a baby but not
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like, I mean, now it already happened too late but I was like
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the baby part. But yeah, it is like, well, I
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guess once that happens looking now I'm like, oh, I guess There
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would be struggles with that because then I'll be away.
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So you looking forward to like one day this happening.
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Hopefully, what are your like fears or excitement or gosh?
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Somebody that's a loaded question.
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I'm sorry. I, yeah.
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But I'm curious, I get it if you're because I will say like
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you luckily have had some some Really great success and that's
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so amazing. And I look at it and I'm like,
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oh, I haven't done anything. What should I be like?
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Should I be? I mean, I'm already mom.
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So like what do I, you know? Know, it's crazy.
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It's a toss-up of like Are like do you wait for your career?
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Do you live your life? Yeah I mean I've I just have to
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like 10,000 question. No, no.
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It's okay. It's okay.
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I know exactly what I know exactly what you're saying.
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This is like been such a topic of conversation with all my
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girlfriends because it's all like all babies right now.
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Like my look all around me either my friends are pregnant
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or there they have kids or they're having your second one,
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you know, we're at the age. Yeah.
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But but like on that note that was always such a massive
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conversation with me and my husband because he's an actor as
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well. And not only that, but we, we
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were, we were long distance for years and we're finally just now
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in the same place. So, so that I mean, we only got,
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we just celebrated our third anniversary, so we only got
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married three years ago on academic happen and, you know,
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whatever. And a lot of people were like
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Now's the Time pandemic but like we weren't you You know, because
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I knew that I had one more season of my show, but I also
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knew that was my last season, so, that was kind of a heavy
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thing to and, and John at the time was in a Broadway show
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Broadway, had shut down. And yet, he knew he was going to
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be leaving and coming home. The pandemic, just expedited it.
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So, he went back when it opened and that we were finally both in
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the same place and we were like, okay, this makes sense now,
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right? Like, we both Bought.
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We bought our house a year and a half ago.
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So really, that's a step. That's the step, right?
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We have a house that seems like, and obviously, when we did that,
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every house we looked at, we were like, this isn't baby
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friendly, and this is, you know, all those things.
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But we were never feeling ready. And we had all these
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conversations and then we were like, Yeah, but everyone says,
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look, you're never ready. You know, I mean I still feel
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like 12. I feel like I'm gonna feel like
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I'm I I'm going to feel a twelve-year-old for the rest of
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my life. I say maybe when I'm a mom, all
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feels 16. I mean, maybe you're not into me
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but nope. Right?
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So like I think for the two of us and he's had a little bit of
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that like also imposter syndrome and and a Zach, you know, and
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he's been battling with and you'd be fine with me saying
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this because it's such a common thing but he's also been
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battling like as the As the man of the house, like he's like,
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you know, should I have a more steady gig and like my husband's
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and I hear? So, yeah, so you get it.
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So it's like, it's been and he's, I mean, he started an
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incredible like guitar teaching business.
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That's, that's, that's so great. And it brings him a lot of Joy,
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but there's a lot of that I think is actors imposter
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syndrome and getting to this point unless you're this, like,
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ridiculously famous and successful person, who can hire
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a nanny, and a night nurse, and all of those.
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Those freaking things and it's like, but I think we finally
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turn to each other and we were like, okay what is ready?
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And I think when our friends were having kids and we were
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holding babies and we were around them, not to mention,
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like we both are from California and my parents lived less than
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10 minutes away and his or 45 minutes away.
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I'm like, oh, that's amazing. Yeah, we have that community.
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And I think I think on the other side of it, though, the thing
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that's real and that in the fears that I have.
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Because now that we're ready, and we're trying, and we're
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really excited, you know, my fears as an actor are as simple
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as my body, you know, how much is it going to change?
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How I look or how is this going to change like my mindset and
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and what if I what if I'm really sick through my pregnancy and I
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can't work, you know, No. And also, I have a legitimate
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fear of telling my reps when I am pregnant.
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Like, I am not excited for that conversation because they're
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not, you know, so I have friends who have like wonderful female
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or male like representation that like we're great about it but I
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had made a comment to one of mine like I don't know, a couple
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months back, I didn't tell him we were trying, maybe I should
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have but also like no, it's like not as business, right?
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You know what I mean? It's like, whatever.
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And I don't know when it's actually going to happen but and
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the comment kind of pissed me off because it was like the
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response was kind of like, well, you know, there's no rush and
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you're young and you're, you know, you just got married.
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I mean I got married 3 years ago, it is just but also like I
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knew it wasn't coming from. I think what upset me was that?
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Like, it wasn't coming from like a loving place.
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It was coming from like a business place and I just kind
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of was Like, no, I'm gonna do whatever I want actually like,
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but still not looking forward to that the passing that along.
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Yeah. But that's why the industry can
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be. So icky is, it's like, it is all
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business, but I also look at, I mean, I look at so many people,
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or, I see. Interviews were actors, are,
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like, I was six months pregnant, when I was filming this.
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Um, you know, a girl that I know that happens to be her name is
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Molly Ephraim. She's who I replaced on Last
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Man, Standing? She's in the new Amazon League
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of Their Own, and she was who's so pregnant when they filmed
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that show and I think, I haven't even, I haven't finished it.
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I mean, it's great. Highly recommend if you haven't,
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but like, when you get through it, I like you noticed that she
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starts a kind of hiding her belly with like a, am it with,
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like a baseball mitt and it's like, yeah, like you can do
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anything you like and I feel like, you know, Faint like huge
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movie stars, they're cutting things and they're doing
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whatever and my hoping that was kind of because I wasn't ready
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yet or it just didn't come up or whatever.
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When I was on my sitcom, it was frustrating that I wasn't in the
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right mindset or ready because that the sitcom job is like the
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dream job for for a new parent or just a parent in general like
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it's and didn't your character happen.
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Yeah, she got what she was. So did you play pregnant on the
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show? Did I did?
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Yeah, that's why. I'm so you're probably like well
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this could have been good to. This could have been nice.
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Yeah, if we had one more season I would that would have been
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perfect and my friend. Amanda who played my older
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sister? She was she did have a baby
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while working on our final season and or our second to last
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season. And And it just, you know, it's
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because and I say that because the schedule on a sitcom is so
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delightful and it's the same every week and, you know, three
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days a week, you're rehearsing and you're not on camera, and
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you're sitting in your dressing room, a lot.
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And, and then you only have two days of shooting and it's like,
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any your off every two to three weeks for a week?
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And it's like, you know, I mean, it's nice for us all the like,
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have that goal because, you know, but but also it's like,
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you know, there aren't many sitcoms anymore.
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But regardless like, of course, I have those so many fears, you
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know, of telling people or or how that's going to come about.
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If people are going to be respectful of it or people are
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going to be like, yeah, all good.
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Yeah. Santa before you know I'll say
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I'll say So far everyone that I've talked to, they've had
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positive experiences, I'm amazed howling, their reps, which was a
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thing, you know, I've asked everyone and I have been
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pleasantly surprised that like, one manager, I talked to, I was
25:00
like, oh shit. Is everyone dealing with this?
25:03
And luckily, I mean, hopefully, your reps if that time comes or
25:08
similar. But I have been surprised that
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most people are, like, great, we're like, You know, will send
25:17
you on pregnant. Commercial auditions, are
25:20
whatever it is, right? Or I mean, I would hope that.
25:23
Yeah, I would hope that when information is there.
25:27
I mean they literally can't respond in that way once there
25:29
is a baby, you know what I mean? Like they can't, they lose their
25:32
jobs so II. Think I.
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So I guess in that way, I just answered my own question.
25:38
I guess I shouldn't be fearful about because it's not like
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they're going to be like Like what do you know?
25:43
What are we supposed to do? So do you have feel like since
25:48
your husband's an actor? Also, I'm curious if you feel, I
25:53
don't know what the word is. I don't want to say jealous but
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like because they're not going to have.
26:03
I mean, they'll still want babies there, or whatever?
26:07
Yeah, they'll have to, like, take time off or if they take
26:11
time off. But it's like, yeah, I wonder
26:15
I'm curious or maybe he does have fear of telling his, his
26:18
people, or that a baby's coming, but it doesn't affect them quite
26:26
quite in the same way. So, it doesn't sure, doesn't
26:30
yeah. Um, I don't know.
26:32
We have it. I don't think it's like even
26:33
really like gotten to that topic yet, but he's pretty good about
26:39
it. We're so much on the same page
26:41
right now. I think all so because we've had
26:43
so much time apart and so many years apart were like, we're
26:46
very much about this right now and And you know, the whole
26:52
deal. When we got married, we looked
26:54
at each other and we were like, Hey, we're going to have each
26:56
other's backs because sometimes with, I mean, in the acting
27:00
world, it's like, sometimes you're going to be employed, I'm
27:02
not and I'm going to be a nightmare and I'm going to be,
27:04
you know, a spiraling and sometimes might be the opposite.
27:07
Or sometimes we're both going to be working, which is obviously
27:09
the best, but maybe we won't be together or or, you know, in the
27:13
same place at the same time or we'll both be unemployed.
27:16
So it's like we're both unemployed acting wise but You
27:21
know, his business is doing so well.
27:23
You know. Sometimes I'll just be like
27:25
cool. How was your day?
27:27
We're going. I'm just going to be sitting
27:28
here watching Netflix and like feeling like nothing.
27:32
See, I know we haven't gotten really to the topic of like,
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what will happen then, because we just don't know, it's, like
27:37
we're so used to. We're, so used to our lives.
27:40
Being so unpredictable at this point and went in and him being
27:46
it has definitely shifted because he's worked so much on
27:48
the east coast in New York and tours and things.
27:51
And we, I mean, he does say that he's like, done with being on
27:56
the road, you know, if hard. Yeah.
28:01
I mean, I think when kids are involved, I think also like,
28:06
we're going to all want to be together, but then what if
28:09
opportunity is needed financially and we have to kind
28:14
of all, like, look at each other and be like, all right, well,
28:16
there's a new show in New York that your dad really needs to
28:19
go. Do For a little bit.
28:21
Could we all pick up and go and like, you know, be to get, you
28:24
know, they're like, I read this article that Blake Lively and
28:28
Ryan Reynolds like, they, they made a deal where they never
28:33
work apart anymore. You know.
28:35
They're like always, apparently, like they have the freedom and
28:39
money, I like be together all the time, which sounds great,
28:43
but I kind of am like, yeah, that sounds great.
28:46
You know what? I'm going to manifest that.
28:47
Let's all let's be together beat.
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Together and never part and that would be great but you know that
28:54
just comes with all the fears and and the unknown of what we
28:58
signed up for, you know? Yeah.
29:01
I feel like you guys have probably probably feel similar
29:07
since you're continuing to pursue your career.
29:09
Is that like having a kid? Again, that was one of our
29:14
things where it's like, well shoot does one of us, give up,
29:19
or whatever, for set it aside for the time being.
29:23
Yeah. A full-time job or do.
29:25
We keep pursuing it and show this little one like know,
29:32
follow your dreams and it is a hard thing where it's like,
29:34
okay, Follow your dreams but also we need to eat like right
29:38
now, it's like, yeah, but I feel like you've probably probably
29:43
feels similar and especially with like, you know, your dad.
29:47
I'm sure. Like showing that like, yeah,
29:50
keep doing what you love and Yeah, yeah.
29:56
And see, I guess, yeah. I mean it's also like all we've
30:02
ever known up to this point and it's it definitely feels
30:06
different. It's, it's, that's not to say
30:09
that I haven't spiraled. My entire life when I'm not
30:12
working or, you know, been continuously rejected and have
30:16
it like not get to me, it's it's always happened.
30:19
But it does feel different when you hit your 30s and obviously
30:22
like when you're a parent or when your Thinking about being a
30:25
parent and it does shift. I mean, in every way everything
30:29
ships, your whole brain shifts about how you look at life.
30:33
So I think it's just taking it day by day.
30:38
Yeah. Like it's weird and it's weird.
30:41
It's again, I'm really grateful that I have parents that
30:45
understand that I don't have parents were like, yeah.
30:48
See this isn't you know this isn't good to be a parent and
30:51
you should get some things study.
30:53
It's that that fear comes naturally to us, so like, you
30:56
know, we don't need the extra pressures of of that, but Yeah,
31:02
I don't know. I like, you know, I think we
31:04
kind of throw our hands up and were like, no, we feel ready.
31:06
Like you woke up one day we were like no, we're ready.
31:08
Like let's let's try this. Like we really want a baby and
31:12
like, we have wonderful people around us that can help if we
31:15
need it. And and in terms of like jobs or
31:20
lack thereof, I guess we just have to kind of take it as it
31:23
comes but but yeah, it does. It does shift it shifts.
31:28
A your look at life, that's for sure.
31:31
It definitely does but you still feel like 12 year old so don't
31:34
worry. Yeah.
31:36
Oh good that won't go away. Yeah.
31:38
Hi I'm still in the phase where I'm like oh she's mine.
31:42
She's fine because I that's been my day job is nannying.
31:48
I mean I don't do it anymore because I was like when she
31:50
comes I'm not going to do it but and hopefully I don't have to go
31:52
back to it but I yeah. Like 20 years of nannying just
31:57
out the window or I'm like now she's mine.
32:01
And three and all that, all that experience, all that experience
32:06
is probably what makes you such a great mom, you know, hopefully
32:12
fingers crossed it. Is it is wild and I wish you
32:18
just the the best of luck and all and that everything works
32:24
out regardless of which way it works out, it'll all work out
32:28
for you. Yeah, I know it.
32:31
I'm so excited to have you. This was such a great
32:36
conversation, it's really fun. We should we should get
32:40
together. We're so close.
32:43
I know, we totally should around around.
32:47
I am the Tribune unemployed if you if you need a baby to hold,
32:52
come on. Hey, do always say yes to that.
32:55
That's for sure. I'm learning a lot IV.
32:56
I'm really learning a lot from from.
32:59
I'm just asking all of the questions.
33:01
I just had a Conversation with a girl that I know without a
33:05
wedding who had her baby and I just were talking about
33:07
breastfeeding. And I was like, why do people
33:09
not talk about breastfeeding? Like she was like, that was the
33:11
hardest part for me and I was like why is that the, like the
33:15
second time that I've heard that in my whole life?
33:17
Like why is it something that people don't talk about?
33:18
Like I want to know that scare me like telling me these things.
33:22
Yeah, it is interesting. You hear all these like horror
33:25
stories. A lot of like bad things with
33:28
like pregnancy and birth and I was like, Oh shit.
33:32
And then like things I'm like oh not so bad.
33:35
Oh but this was worse a like yeah, of course.
33:39
Oh my God. Everything is so different and
33:42
everything is normal, which is great and horrible because
33:46
you're like, oh it's and it for trying the same thing.
33:51
Yeah, I didn't realize that like it's such, it is such a struggle
33:56
for like yeah, the majority its majority.
34:01
I Friends who are my friends? Were pregnant their second IVF
34:05
pregnancy. Yeah, I have friends who tried
34:09
for Months and months and months till something happened.
34:13
I have four. I have a friend who was like.
34:15
Yeah, we are pregnant our honeymoon, you know, it's wild.
34:19
It's so crazy. My mom was like, you're gonna
34:20
get pregnant a second, like, dad looked at me and I got pregnant
34:23
and I was like, okay, and now we're only starting our month to
34:27
of trying. You know, monk one didn't work.
34:29
And I was like Mom, you said being a longer process for me.
34:36
Yeah, both of my sisters had had trouble.
34:39
Well one she has to and the other just it didn't it didn't
34:43
work and yeah. So again it was like the the
34:47
breastfeeding thing where I was like it's I'm probably gonna
34:50
have to wait like a year or whatever and then I was like oh
34:55
just kidding. It is.
34:57
Hey yeah, it's wild that like it but if you ever have any
35:03
questions about, I'll come to you for sure.
35:07
I'm sure you clearly have a lot of people.
35:09
Ask. But no, I honestly, I need, I
35:12
need all of the, all of the advice.
35:14
I'll take it all at this point. Well, I'm just, and I think the
35:19
most important thing is just like, trust yourself.
35:22
Yeah, you're gonna be great. It'll, yeah, yeah.
35:28
But yeah, it was so nice to talk to you.
35:30
I'm so nice to talk to you so much for being on the podcast.
35:35
Yeah, and thank you. I'm honored to be here.
35:39
So For thinking of me, I maybe I'll come back.
35:43
When when baby time is happening and I'll have my homework, all a
35:47
bunch of other things to talk about.
35:48
Yeah. Oh for sure.
35:50
Yeah. All right.
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We'll take care. Thanks.
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