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147. The Shift Preview Calls · The Shift Podcast

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Welcome to The Shift podcast where you get to hear life
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interviews with some of my clients who've utilized life
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Hey you guys, welcome to episode 147 of the Shift podcast.
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This is the second week of the new change in the podcast
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episodes. And if you guys listened to last
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week, I made an invitation to invite you guys to the Shift
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preview calls. In the preview calls, we are
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going to be giving you a taste of what it's like going to be
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inside the Shift program. And this week I felt like I just
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kind of wanted to break down what's going to be included in
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these calls. What to expect and what you're
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going to be getting out of them. And I want to invite you guys if
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you haven't signed up yet, join us inside the show notes.
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You can sign up. It's going to be Monday, March
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9th through Wednesday, March 11th.
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It's going to be 1 hour each day and I'm going to kind of talk
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about each day what we're going to be talking about and what the
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structure of the call is going to look like.
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So you know exactly what to expect.
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Now when you sign up, you don't have to come to all three.
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You just get the link that will send you via your e-mail and you
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can attend one day, 2 days, or all three of those days.
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When you also sign up, you will also get the replays for all of
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those as well. So I'm going to talk to you a
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little bit about first, like kind of what this program is
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talking about and shifts in our life.
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I created this program and the name of it, the shift, because I
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think that we are constantly making small and big shifts in
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our life. And I think there's intentional
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ones. There's ones where we move
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departments or a new job or we complete slightly shift in a
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career like I did 4 times when I was talking about how I've gone
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from communications to banking to nursing and then to life
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coaching. You can maybe have an
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intentional shift where you're wanting to start a business or
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be an entrepreneur or grow your business that you already have.
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You could be having an intentional shift where you're
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starting a new relationship or wanting to have a new
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relationship or mending a friendship or a family member
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relationship. You might be navigating changes
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in friendships. You might might be experiencing
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doubt or imposter syndrome and you're wanting to make a shift
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into more confidence or no more people pleasing.
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And then I think that there's shifts that we continue to make
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in our identity. When we decide what we want,
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maybe we it might change or we want something different.
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This isn't a shift in what you want and an identity shift.
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There's also non intentional shifts that we have in our life
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where there's a breakup or a divorce or a friendship that has
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just ended. Or maybe we've been let go from
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a job, or we quit a job, or we have a health scare that we
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didn't expect, or a new health concern that just came up for
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us, or a diagnosis, chronic or acute.
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We might have a death in the family or we might be
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experiencing money problems or debt.
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I know the last two years I have had almost all of these things
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and because of it, I've been so grateful that I've had life
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coaching tools to be able to help me navigate myself through
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these intentional and non intentional shifts.
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So This is why I really believe putting these tools into the
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hands of everybody who wants to feel better and everybody who
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has a human brain will help you confidently navigate these both
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intentional and unintentional or non intentional shifts that are
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happening in your life. And I wanted to create this
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program because I think that this is lifetime shifting,
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right? Like this is lifetime.
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We're constantly changing. And I want to be able to have
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this program to support anybody who wants these life coaching
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tools who or is life is lifing to them or life is happening.
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So I wanted to first start out by asking how many of you guys
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maybe feel stuck right now and indecision spinning unclear of
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how to move forward. I remember the way the exact
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moment that I felt before I hired my first life coach.
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And for me, it just looked like a huge mismanaged mind.
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We think millions of thoughts every day.
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And what was happening for me is it was like compounding all of
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of these thoughts and I use and I and I felt like at points in
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my life before I found a coach, I was really good at navigating
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some of these thoughts and listening to the more powerful
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ones. But it came to a head for me
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when I had all of these changes. My kids were growing up.
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I was starting a job as a flight nurse.
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It became more intense. I was worried about my
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confidence of being able to be a good mother and then also have
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this intense, high pressurized job.
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And I realized I had a mismanaged mind.
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I I had all these thousands of thoughts and I was listening to
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almost every single one of them. But because of that I felt
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really stuck in feeling good about myself, feeling like I was
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enough. I remember I had thoughts of
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like, am I good? Am I, am I a good enough mother?
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Am I a good enough wife? Am I good enough at my job
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because I am experiencing some things in my home life too.
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And then just the weight of the job of, you know, all of you
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guys who work in healthcare who experience deaths and
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unexpected, I, you know, levels of pressure and unexpected
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deaths in your patients. And I remember there was just
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this moment where I had about 5 patients and three of those are
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pediatric pass away over the course of like, I think it was
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four or five weeks. And it really got to me and it
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came to a head and I just asked myself this question, am I
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enough? And I wasn't sure if I believed
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it anymore. And that was when I realized I
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wanted to seek out the power of having a coach.
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I had heard about life coaching before, but I never really
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experienced it for myself. And so when I found coaching, I
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found out how to manage my mind. I found out how to allow all the
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thousands of thoughts that I was having, but which ones to listen
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to. How to allow myself to be
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scared, have fear and doubt, but also how to generate courage,
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confidence and how to move, move forward with both and hold space
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with all of those emotions. It also gave me accountability
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of being able to express to someone outside of people who
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were close to me, how I was feeling the thoughts that I was
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having, the good, bad and ugly and then help have them help me
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make sense of which ones to listen to and how to generate
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more courage and confidence in my life.
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When I did that, I had a more managed mind and what this
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managed mind allowed me to do was move forward, word with the
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decisions that I wanted to make and confidently learn to believe
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that I was enough. And this was huge when I taught
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myself how to not have to rely on a job or my kids or my spouse
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or my friends telling me that I was doing a good job.
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This was a game changer for me. When I realized that
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circumstances didn't have to determine the way that I feel,
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this changed how I showed up. And I realized I had the power
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to be able to decide what was enough and that what I was doing
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was good enough. It gave me my time back.
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It gave me my mind back. It gave me all my relationships
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back. And so these are the tools that
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I have kind of learned and that I have generated and taught
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people over the hundreds of people that I've coached both
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inside my programs and one-on-one.
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And in the past couple podcasts, you've heard a little bit of
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like the power of having a coach, the power of having a
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community, the power of having support.
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And on this particular podcast where I'm, I'm going to talk to
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you about what I'm going to be teaching specifically in the
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shift preview calls. And this particular podcast, I'm
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going to be talking about the power of having a well managed
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mind and, and the power of having a plan.
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I really think when you start to have a well managed mind that
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your plan becomes clear. You're able to create a plan
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from abundance instead of scarcity, meaning, let me give
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you an example. Creating a plan from scarcity
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would be like, OK, how do I manage being a better mother
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when I'm at home when I'm not working my high stress job?
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But if I'm doing this and creating it from scarcity and
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lack and like I'm not good enough, my plan and the actions
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that I create in this plan might be very different.
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It might be like go to all the things that my kids want to go
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to whenever they asked me to do something, say yes.
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But when you create a plan from abundance, which is a well
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managed mind, it might be like, okay, this is how I create my
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plan. I'm going to filter out the
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things that I can prioritize doing and I'm going to feel
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really good and have intentional time when I go and do those
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things with my kids. I'm going to have the energy and
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intentionally spend time with them and not be thinking about
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work or any of the things on my To Do List.
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And when I do have to say no to them in this plan, if I say I do
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have to say no to them and I can't do it because I don't have
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the energy or I really, really don't have the time, then I am
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going to allow myself maybe to feel a little guilty, but tell
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myself like this is how I'm prioritizing my time, my needs
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and their needs as well. And just notice the difference
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of having a well thought out plan from abundancy.
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I really think that when you can have a well managed mind, you
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can come from this place of abundance instead of scarcity
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and you're able to create a plan that feels really good for you
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and that you can confidently move forward with.
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Notice I didn't say that you won't have any doubt and you
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won't feel any guilt and you won't feel any negative
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emotions, but you're going to learn how to bring those
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emotions with you. So the power of having
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application of these tools, using them weekly over and over
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again will create results for you immediately and will create
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long lasting results for you. So I haven't had a one-on-one
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coach for the last five years and I can tell you it has helped
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manage my mind immensely. This is the reason why I really
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believe inside my one-on-one and inside my programs and inside
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this new program, the shift to have a weekly one-on-one call.
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Because when you guys attend the these calls, even the shift
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preview calls, you're going to see that you're going to feel
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high levels of motivation and desire.
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And then as soon as you get off of these calls, life is going to
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happen immediately. Obstacles are going to come up.
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You're going to have lots of thoughts.
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You're going to have friends or family tell you negative things
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and then you're going to have thoughts about the things that
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they're telling you. And so the point of having these
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weekly calls is so you can have these high levels of like having
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the managed mind. And then as your week progresses
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and as it starts to fizzle out, you can see all the obstacles
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that is coming up for you. And then you will have that call
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7 days later to get right back on the train and get yourself
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right back up. But the difference is I am going
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to be teaching you the tools that will work for you as the
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days start to fizzle out, as you have started to meet the
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obstacles and life starts to happen.
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I'm going to give you the tools so that you can help yourself
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come from a place of abundance and not scarcity and manage that
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mind. It will become easier and easier
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for you as you're applying and you're learning these tools for
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your life. And you're going to see
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immediate results of feeling better.
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Because what I'm going to teach you to do on these shift preview
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calls is how to make sense of the thousand thoughts that
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you're having, which ones to listen to, and how do we allow
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those other ones to come, but then to really just hone in on
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the ones that are going to be beneficial for us.
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So that's the power of having a well managed mind.
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That's the power of creating a plan from abundance.
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And then also the result for that is just going to give you
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long lasting confidence in the decision that you're making.
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You're going to see less time being stuck.
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You're going to see less time spinning, and you're going to
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just be more decisive in the decisions that you're making and
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feel better doing it. One thing that I wanted to talk
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about that I was thinking might be something that you guys have
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not heard of before is what is coaching.
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So right now I'm just going to talk to you about what is
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coaching, what to expect from being coached, and what to
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expect from watching others being coached.
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I just wonder if maybe this is a hesitation why some of you guys
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might not want to sign up for the call.
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So I just kind of want to go through this briefly with you
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guys. So when I found coaching, I
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didn't know what that was either.
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I was like, I had experienced therapy growing up.
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And while therapy was good, I didn't love like so much of the
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emphasis on my past. I really needed something that
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was going to also emphasize where I was going, where I am
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now, and how do I bridge that gap of where I want to be.
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And so coaching really, really, really just focuses on who you
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are now and where you want to go and who you want to be.
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And because of that, in coaching, it's really just
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expressing all of these thoughts and feelings that are coming up
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for you. The more descriptive you can be
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and just let it be messy as you're as you're like, hey, I'm
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having this thought and this is coming up like I'm not good
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enough and I'm having these pressures at work and then my
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kids are becoming teenagers. The more you can just express
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these obstacles and thoughts that you're having, then as your
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coach, what I do is I can piece together everything that's
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happening. I come up with questions, I show
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you your thoughts back and then I give you questions that help
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you move forward with abundance instead of scarcity and how to
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maybe think about it differently so that you can make sense of
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all the thoughts that you're having and then move forward
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clearly. So in coaching, when you're
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being coached, the more descriptive and just open and
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messy you can be in delivering it.
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It's my job as your coach to make sense of all your thoughts
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and then show them back to you so that you can see what thought
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airs you're maybe having, how to create a plan and how to move
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forward, what to expect if you're being coached.
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Often times you and I still do this even with my coach after
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getting coaching for five years. I'm like, I don't know.
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And sometimes it might feel like I'm asking you some really
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difficult questions to come up with an answer, but that's OK.
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That's how you know I'm in the right place.
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Because when you're being coached, it's like your, your
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coach is asking you things that you've never thought of before
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that you might be so stuck in your thought air or this one
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thought of, I don't know enough that you can't see the other
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side of like what you do know and what you are certain of.
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So that's just like one example of that.
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So as you're being coached, just expect to have a little bit of,
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I don't know, an answer and to maybe not quickly be able to
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find it. That's OK.
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And that is normal. And so expect to be thinking
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your brain. I don't know.
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That's how we know we're getting closer to whatever the thought
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air is and how we're getting closer to getting you clarity.
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If you are the one watching someone else be coached, I
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really think this is just as valuable, if not more because
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you're not stuck in your head as a coach is asking you questions.
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So you can be thinking to yourself as you're watching that
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person be coached, how can this problem or obstacle that they're
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facing apply to me? And where have I seen this
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happen in myself either in the past right now or might happen
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to me in the future? And watching someone else might
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give you so much more out of it because you're not stuck in your
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head as I'm asking, seeing the questions.
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And you might be like, Oh yeah, I see myself doing that.
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And that is so clear how I move forward from this.
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So I wanted to give you guys a little bit of like what to
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expect on these preview calls. What's going to happen structure
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wise is I am going to, and I'm going to talk to you about the
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three topics on each of the days.
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I'm going to be talking about now.
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But what I'm going to be doing is talking about the topic for
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about 10 minutes with you. And then I'm going to be
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offering you questions and then I'm going to open it up for the
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questions to be answered by you guys, for you guys to get
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coaching on where you might be stuck in answering these
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questions and live integrations. You can watch others.
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Now I am inviting my current client.
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So you'll get to kind of see what it is like to get coached
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and receive the coaching and also listen to the coaching.
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But this is your opportunity to really get clear if you are
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stuck in indecision right now or you are, you are in between an
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intentional and an intentional shift.
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And this is just an opportunity for you to be able to see talk
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about these subjects that I'm going to be going over now and
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then see what live integration coaching is like.
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Use this opportunity to be in high motivation, desire these
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three days. If you can come all three again,
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if you can only come one, that's great.
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Come to 1, come to two, come to all.
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So right now I'm going to go over the three topics that I'm
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going to be covering. So Monday, March 9th.
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Oh, I guess I didn't keep going with that.
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So the first five to 10 minutes I'm going to be talking about
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the topic, offering questions, and then after that I'm going to
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be opening it up to coaching. Anybody who wants to be coached,
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you can watch the coaching live. And I'm going to be giving you
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some examples that I see currently in my clients who have
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been dealing with these issues too, so you can see how they
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relate to you. It's going to be an hour long.
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I'm going to try to really best to stick to an hour.
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And if you sign up for the calls, you'll be able to access
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all the replays as well. So Monday, March 9th, which is
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this next Monday, I'm going to be doing this call at noon
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Pacific Standard Time. We are going to be talking about
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how do you create confidence and uncertainty?
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I've really been thinking about what is the process I've taken
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myself through as I made four really big career shifts.
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How did I do that confidently? And so I've kind of going to be
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talking to you about the process that I take myself through every
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time I create an unintentional, unintentional shift in my life.
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So we're going to be talking about how do we move forward
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with our future shift or confidence and uncertainty when
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we're facing an obstacle or problem and not be leaning on
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the past. So most of us when we're trying
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to create a new career or a new job, for example, like I was
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telling you about with myself, we lean on how did we do it in
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the past or what were we capable in the past of doing?
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And when I think about creating a new job, for example, or a new
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career, I never look to my past because if I look to my past,
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then I'm only limited by what I've created in the past.
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I always just like be pulled by my future me of me who's already
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accomplished it, who's already done it.
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And so I'm going to really teach you, how do you pull from that
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future you? How do you think about it
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differently so that you can create something you've never
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done before? And I want to tell you that on
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the other side of four of these big shifts, each time time I
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have created, I think a better identity for myself.
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And the only reason I've been able to do that is not been been
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looking into the certainty of my past, but really been pulled by
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the future and and what I want to do because the future really
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also determines your present and how you show up now and how you
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navigate this shift in this obstacle.
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So that's day one. I'm going to teach you how to do
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that. Tuesday, March 10th, it's going
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to be at 10 AM Pacific Standard Time.
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I am going to teach you how to start to create momentum.
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When you set a goal for yourself or you have an obstacle, the
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very first thing that comes out is all the thoughts of how it's
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not going to work, all the thoughts of how you're going to
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fail. And the first thing you have to
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do is recognize what are those thoughts and how are they
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slowing down. The more specific we can get
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with the thoughts, the more that we can overcome them and work
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through them. And I'm going to teach you how
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do you get yourself into motion when you feel imposter syndrome,
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when you feel fear of failure, how to take action and not spend
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time spinning in that drama. And indulging and unuseful
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thoughts that are keeping you stuck.
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I'm going to teach you how to create momentum and to put your
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car into drive on Tuesday, the last day, Wednesday, March 11th.
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I'm going to teach you the process of decluttering your
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brain. It's something that I do every
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single day when I first start my morning.
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I'm going to teach you how do we navigate all the thousands of
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thoughts that you're thinking, getting really clear about the
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specific brain chatter. What are the thoughts your
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brains offering you? What are the feelings that
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coming up because of those and how to choose time with the ones
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that are going to be more powerful versus the background
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noise. And so I'm going to really teach
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you the process I take myself through on how to declutter your
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brain. And when you declutter your
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brain, you are going to have the opportunity to know which
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thoughts to generate, which are the ones that are going to
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create the results that I want in my life.
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And if again, it's a new job or a new identity, what are the
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ones that are going to prepare, propel me forward versus keep me
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stuck? So decluttering your brain is
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the first step to really having a managed mind.
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Again, the sign up is going to be in the show notes and you can
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sign up, you're going to get the Zoom link.
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You can come one day, 2 days, or all three of you the days.
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But I want to offer you guys, this is your opportunity to get
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unstuck, feel better, confidently move forward with
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your next shift. And these are life tools that I
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use every day in my life to help create whatever result I want.
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And the biggest result that I am just like basking in and loving
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in right now is being able to go to all of my kids activities.
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I worked health care for the last 15 years.
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I missed a lot of holidays and while that was OK at the time, I
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knew as they were getting older I wanted to spend more time with
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them. So now I have created a business
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I love doing life coaching and what I love doing and spending
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the utmost time with my kids and all of their things as they're
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growing up and moving out of the house.
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And I want to offer you whatever that is thing that you're trying
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to create. It's possible.
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And I'm going to give you a glimpse of the tools that I use
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to create those things for myself.
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How to confidently move forward with your next shift and learn
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how to navigate more confidently and also just feel better doing
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it as we're living this life. OK, that's it for this week.
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You guys, I wanted to let you know the shift lifetime coaching
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membership opens March 9th too. So come to these preview calls,
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even if you've signed up, get an idea of what it's going to be
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like to have this weekly support community and a coach that has
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your back. All right you guys, I'll see you
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guys next Monday. Bye.
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If anything in this episode sparked your interest in
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learning to manage your mind and feel better to create confidence
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in your life, come join the Shift.
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We are an entire community that meets together on a weekly basis
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with an ongoing group chat. You can click on the link to
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join in the show notes or DM me on Instagram.
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I hope to see all of you guys inside.