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Dirty Little Secret: I Ruined My Friends Chance At Adoption · Billy The Kidd In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: Ready to confess it's dirty little secret with billy the
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  Speaker 2: doesn't matter what kind of secret it is people call
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  Speaker 2: and say hey billy i want to confess at billy
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  Speaker 2: on the radio on instagram now you have one what's
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  Speaker 2: going on well.
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  Speaker 3: I have a secret involving my best friend and i'm
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  Speaker 3: She's got a lot going on in her life right now,
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  Speaker 3: and I'm just kind of struggling with if I did
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  Speaker 3: the right thing or not.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, what'd you do?
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  Speaker 3: Well, she's been really struggling with the fact that she
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  Speaker 3: isn't able to have children. Eventually, she and her husband,
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  Speaker 3: they decided they wanted to adopt, but the problem was
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  Speaker 3: her husband was just a complete a * * hole.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, really?
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  Speaker 2: Her husband was? So he was not the best guy?
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  Speaker 3: Not at all. Like, none of us ever approved of him. Really?
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Right. I mean, but you would never know it, meeting him. Like,
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  Speaker 3: he's one of those guys, like, everybody in his little
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  Speaker 3: friend circle, everybody loves him. And, you know, great career,
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  Speaker 3: great family, charming, all that. But behind closed doors, like...
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  Speaker 3: He's a completely different person. He's a womanizer, verbally abusive
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  Speaker 3: to her and just their relationship always been kind of
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  Speaker 3: on the verge of falling apart. And she just genuinely
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  Speaker 3: like believed that adopting a baby with him might bring
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  Speaker 3: them closer together.
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  Speaker 2: That's pretty common. I mean, not as far as adopting,
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  Speaker 2: but like if we have a kid that'll fix things
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  Speaker 2: in this case, if they adopt. So did they, or what, what,
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  Speaker 2: how to go down?
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  Speaker 3: They started the process of it. Um, So like one day,
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  Speaker 3: completely unexpectedly, I got a phone call from a woman
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  Speaker 3: checking their references that they had to put down for
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  Speaker 3: the adoption application. And at first I'm saying, you know,
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  Speaker 3: all the things you expect. She's an amazing mother. She
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  Speaker 3: would be an amazing mother. And then something inside me
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  Speaker 3: just stopped. And I just remember thinking, like, I am
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  Speaker 3: lying to this person right now.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And just, it was just killing me. And the woman
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  Speaker 3: was asking me whether I believed a child should be
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  Speaker 3: placed inside this home. And I just know what happens
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  Speaker 3: inside the house. And I just, I broke down and
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  Speaker 3: I just had to tell her the truth.
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  Speaker 2: You did?
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  Speaker 3: I told her that my best friend would be an
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  Speaker 3: incredible mother on her own. But I just did not
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  Speaker 3: believe their marriage was really a healthy environment for a child.
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  Speaker 2: Did you really? Okay. Well, I don't know. I mean.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, I... I respect that.
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  Speaker 2: I do too. That's your best friend though.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but poo, it's a child. Children need to be protected.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And you can't go into an environment that's toxic. And yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So I could see why you would struggle with lying
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  Speaker 2: about something. So anyone would.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I was thinking about the child first. And
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  Speaker 3: I was like, I can't just lie and say everything's perfect.
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  Speaker 3: And so I just told her everything. Yeah. And I
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  Speaker 3: just knew like the second I hung up, I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: my goodness, I've probably completely destroyed their chances. Sure enough,
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  Speaker 3: I did. That adoption didn't happen. The application didn't get approved,
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  Speaker 3: and my best friend called me just absolutely devastated. She
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  Speaker 3: was crying and asking if the agency had contacted me.
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  Speaker 3: I straight up lied to her and just told her, like, yes,
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  Speaker 3: they called. I gave you guys an amazing reference. And
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  Speaker 3: I have no idea what happened. This is the worst part.
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  Speaker 3: That was almost two years ago. Okay. I've been hanging
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  Speaker 3: on to that for two years. And where it's become
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  Speaker 3: really hard for me is they're divorced now.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, wow.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, they're done.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Thank goodness. But yeah, their marriage just eventually fell apart.
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  Speaker 3: And exactly like I was afraid it would. And her ex,
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  Speaker 3: he just moved on right away. So fast. He's already remarried.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, my God.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. And now him and his new wife are expecting
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  Speaker 3: a baby.
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  Speaker 2: No. Oh, that's awful. That is going to mess with
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  Speaker 2: her so bad. That is going to destroy. That's got
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  Speaker 2: to be so tough on her. I can't even imagine.
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  Speaker 3: It's awful. She's so destroyed about it. The one thing
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  Speaker 3: she wanted more than anything in the world was to
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  Speaker 3: have a baby. And now I'm sitting next to her
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  Speaker 3: while she's crying and I'm comforting her, knowing that I'm
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  Speaker 3: the person that stopped her from having that chance of
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  Speaker 3: becoming a mother.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 3: And it just eats me alive every day.
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  Speaker 2: See, you're not, though. Maybe I did. You're not the
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  Speaker 2: person who stopped her. Her relationship stopped her. He stopped her.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I obviously was trying to do the
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  Speaker 3: right thing for the child, but, you know, obviously they
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  Speaker 3: probably would have still gotten a divorce either way. I
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  Speaker 3: know she would have been a great mom. I'll just
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  Speaker 3: never know if I truly did the right thing.
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  Speaker 2: Candace, what would you have done?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think you did anything wrong. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: she probably would have wanted the baby in a healthy marriage,
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  Speaker 1: not on her own anyways.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean? If this was her dream,
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  Speaker 2: I don't.
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  Speaker 1: Know her, but.
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  Speaker 2: Not saying she couldn't have done it on her own.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sure she could have.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and she still could.
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  Speaker 2: And she still could if she wanted to, but that
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  Speaker 2: was not the situation. And that person who's a professional
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  Speaker 2: asked you very specific questions. Mm-hmm. For you to tell
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  Speaker 2: the truth, and you did just that, and they made
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  Speaker 2: the call, not you. Right. It wasn't about her.
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  Speaker 1: It was about him.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but she prompted it. For me, it's my best friend.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think I would have done it. I wouldn't
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  Speaker 2: have told on her. Well, then you're doing a disservice
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  Speaker 2: to your best friend, too. I think. Honestly, it wasn't
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  Speaker 2: best for her in that situation. It wasn't. No. So
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  Speaker 2: you're just lying for a friend for no reason. It's
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  Speaker 2: there's no benefit to a child. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It's not like that child didn't have a chance. They
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  Speaker 1: probably got adopted by another family that's in a better place.
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I know you can beat yourself up about it,
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  Speaker 2: but I think you're going to look back at this
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  Speaker 2: one day and go, I'm glad I did that. She'll
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  Speaker 2: be in a better situation in different circumstances.
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  Speaker 1: She's just not on the other side yet.
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  Speaker 2: Like he is.
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  Speaker 1: And when she is, I think none of this will
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  Speaker 1: hurt like it does now.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Well, I appreciate y'all's input on it.
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  Speaker 2: No, I'm glad you confessed to us and you told
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  Speaker 2: us what was going on. And good luck with everything.
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  Speaker 2: And don't beat yourself up. And let us know if
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  Speaker 2: things change or if something happens in the future. Keep
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  Speaker 2: us up to date on what's happening.
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  Speaker 3: I will, for sure. Hopefully I'll have some good news
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  Speaker 3: to report.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, I hope so.
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  Speaker 3: There you go.