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Hypnotherapy for Shattering Imposter Syndrome - Embracing the Beginner's Mind & Building a Business That Changes Lives · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here and one phrase that you hear a lot these
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  days and I didn't really hear when I.
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  First became a therapist. Is imposter syndrome, and
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  imposter syndrome is where you feel like you don't quite
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  belong, that you're going to get found out, that you're not
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  really meant to be where you are.
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  And there's some truth to that, in the sense that whenever
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  you're learning something new. You don't know.
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  And you're not really meant to be there.
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  But it's all about intention and integrity.
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  A charlatan is someone that pretends to know more than they
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  do and selling under false pretenses whereas.
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  Someone that is. Dedicated to getting good.
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  Understands that in order to be good at anything you need to be
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  not good to begin with and in martial arts they call it a
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  white belt mentality. This idea that you start at the
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  beginning, but you learn and you improve and you get better and
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  better. And I was working with a.
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  Client that. Was doing some of the things
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  that I do. They were a coach and they were
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  helping people in a particular area and they were using some of
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  the forms of online marketing that I use, things like.
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  Webinars and funnels. And producing content and that
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  could be really daunting if you've never done that kind of
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  stuff before. So this encourages them to
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  embrace the beginners mentality that actually even though
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  they're very knowledgeable in their particular niche, all
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  these other marketing related. Stuffs are also.
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  Skills, because unfortunately it's not always the most
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  talented in a particular area that does the best.
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  You need both talent and the ability, particularly in
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  business, to find customers. So the marketing is as important
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  as the technical skill. I consider myself a good
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  hypnotherapist because I've worked with thousands of
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  clients, but I also spend time learning about content
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  generation and SEO and funnels and all of these things that can
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  be useful to grow a business. Now, these things are quite
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  useful and this particular client wanted to have a thriving
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  business. So if you can connect to the
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  idea of either feeling like an imposter or feeling like in
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  order to be successful in the area that you want to be
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  successful, you've got to learn other skills to complement your
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  core skills, this could be a very useful session for you.
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  Now it was created for an individual, therefore some of
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  the references might be very, very suitable for them and not
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  quite right for you. So if you like the idea of
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  working with me, there is a suitability test that I have
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  that you can find by clicking in the description.
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  And I also have a webinar where a lot of the questions that
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  people normally ask me before they work with me, things like
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  can I be hypnotized? Does it work for these kind of
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  areas? These are all covered in that
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  webinar, and there's some very special bonuses at the end as
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  well. For now though, I'd encourage
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  you to find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be
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  distracted or disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in, breathe in a
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  wonderful feeling of calm relaxation and as you exhale,
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  feel a wonderful feeling of release, as if any pent up
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  tension, stress, worries, any emotions that are just slowing
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  you down, give permission to let go, to allow them to leave your
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  body in your outward breath. Breathing in relaxation,
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  exhaling tension. Each breath facilitates deeper
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  and deeper levels of calm, tranquility, and relaxation.
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  As your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  And I want you to imagine seeing the ocean, calm ocean, on a
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  sunny day, and just imagine a rainbow there over the ocean.
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  And yet, surprisingly, no rain. It doesn't quite make sense, and
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  yet it does. And as you look at the surface
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  of the waves, they start to represent the chatter of your
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  mind. The deeper you breathe, the more
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  relaxed you feel, and the waves calm even more, until they
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  become perfectly still, like a sheet of glass there in the
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  ocean. And I wonder if you could
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  imagine what it would be like as you wade into the water to see
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  legs turning into a large fin. Imagine what it would feel like
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  to be a mermaid, able to breathe underwater and to find the peace
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  and tranquility beneath the waves.
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  I want you to imagine swimming, perhaps to a reef, and just
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  imagine You can find a place of calm, tranquility, and you can
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  breathe underwater just as you would on land.
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  Breathing and relaxation, exhaling tension.
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  Each breath takes you deeper than the last.
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  And here, in this place, in your imagination, you don't need to
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  do anything. No need to think, no need to
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  solve a problem. When you turn your attention
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  inward, the world outside becomes less relevant and the
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  world inside becomes way more interesting.
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  Any thoughts that pop up, you don't need to manage them or
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  analyse them or find A use for them, because your unconscious
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  mind is already working on your behalf.
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  It has been perhaps for longer than you realize.
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  Even underwater, you can imagine the rise and fall of your
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  breath, how the body knows things without needing to be
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  reminded. You can't make your heartbeat.
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  You can't decide to stop breathing.
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  Your body knows what needs to happen for you to survive, and
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  there is a part within you, the part that holds all the pattern
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  making and learning and deep knowing that also operates the
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  same way to keep you safe, acting in your genuine interest.
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  I want you to imagine seeing a place deep within.
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  Imagine a place under the ocean, perhaps a trench, A deeper level
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  of the ocean. And as I countdown from 12:50,
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  just imagine what it would be like to swim deeper down 10/9.
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  Each level down, you release something that isn't yours to
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  carry. 876 Any chatter of that inner critic becoming fainter
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  five and four, the body feeling more at ease, more relaxed, more
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  natural. 321 And just imagine there's somewhere safe there at
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  the bottom of the ocean. And I want you to imagine,
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  imagine a room at the bottom of the ocean, a room of genuine
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  knowing where the evidence is all around you.
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  And your unconscious can begin now to take it in, because
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  there's a voice and you know the voice that speaks at particular
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  moments, usually just before something important, usually
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  when something matters. And maybe it says, who do you
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  think you are? What if they find out you don't
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  know what you're doing? What if I fall flat on my face?
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  What if it goes wrong and everyone sees?
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  But what if there's a truth to the intent?
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  This is just information. It's evidence of your integrity,
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  proof that you actually care for you.
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  It matters. It matters to help.
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  Your credibility matters. Competency matters.
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  That feeling of being an impostor.
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  You don't get it in the charlatans, the Cowboys, the con
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  men. It exists in the people actually
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  trying to help those frauds and charlatans, the people who
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  genuinely don't know what they're doing.
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  They almost never experience that impostor syndrome because
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  you need a certain level of genuine depth to even recognise
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  the gap between where you are and where you would like to be.
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  It's not evidence of inadequacy. It's evidence of integrity, the
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  signal of someone who takes their work seriously enough to
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  feel the gravitas, the weight of it.
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  And that is precisely the quality your clients want in
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  you. Consider the clients you serve
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  and will serve. They're not looking for someone
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  perfect. They're looking for someone
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  real, someone who has navigated difficulty and emerged with
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  something worth offering. Someone who understands from the
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  inside what it really means to rebuild, especially a sense of
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  self after losing something. And you do not need to be at the
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  end of your journey to be qualified to help someone who is
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  earlier in theirs. A guy doesn't need to have
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  climbed every mountain. They need to know this mountain
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  and to care about the person beside them.
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  I want you to imagine seeing a picture in that room at the
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  bottom of the ocean. A picture of a martial arts
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  studio, Clean, spare, purposeful.
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  And I want you to imagine a new student stepping onto the mat
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  for the very first time, and they are wearing a white belt.
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  And the white belt means something important.
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  It means that they are there, that they have started, that
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  they do not yet know what they are doing.
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  And that's exactly as it should be.
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  No one in the Dojo, in the studio, looks at the white belt
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  with contempt. The master, the sensei, does not
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  shake their head in disappointment, and the other
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  students do not judge. Because every single black belt
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  in that room began exactly where this person is standing now, on
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  their first day. Uncertain, uncoordinated, fully
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  a beginner. And the path from white belt to
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  black belt is not a secret. It's not available only to the
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  naturally gifted. It's available to anyone willing
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  to do 1 specific thing, to stick with it, to stay on the mat,
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  return after the falls, to practice the thing that feels
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  clumsy until it becomes fluent, and then practice it further
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  until it becomes instinctive. And whether it's a martial art
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  or learning to dance, or learning to launch a webinar and
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  build a funnel, it's all the same.
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  You start where you are and you get better.
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  And whether it's that early webinar, a landing page, a video
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  shared on social media, it all feels uncertain, uncomfortable,
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  scary because it's outside of the comfort zone.
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  All of it is uncomfortable for the beginner.
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  It's all white belt work. And white belt work is not a
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  problem to be solved. It's a stage to be honoured, the
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  necessary and irreplaceable foundation of everything that
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  follows. Being bad at this now is not a
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  failure. It's the ticket of entry to
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  becoming exceptional. And if you're willing to pay the
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  price for that ticket, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And you've done this before. Whether it's learning how to
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  edit audio, whether it's complicated choreography,
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  whether it's starting again after everything changed.
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  Everything was unfamiliar until it wasn't.
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  Certain things felt overwhelming and then felt well within grasp
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  time after time in your past, even when it would have been
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  easier to give up and walk away, you didn't.
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  You've already proven that you can persist.
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  Your unconscious mind can take this evidence, file it
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  carefully, and apply it forward to everything that currently
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  feels technically daunting. And I want you to imagine
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  floating forwards to the future. I want you to imagine your 17th
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  webinar, your 50th social media video, your 33rd landing page,
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  your 10 thousandth lead, your 60th lead magnet.
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  You will know more than than you know now, But all of that would
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  be impossible if you don't persist and continue to learn to
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  do what needs to be done, especially if it feels
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  difficult, daunting, complex future.
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  You will look back at you now with a sense of pride.
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  You did the difficult things and got better and better.
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  That future version of you will see someone with courage, the
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  courage to show up before you are ready.
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  And that courage is the thing that every future client will
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  benefit from, even if they never really realize where it came
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  from. Imagine being back in the room,
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  no longer looking at that picture of the martial arts
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  studio. But I want you to see a door
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  that you never saw before in that room at the bottom of the
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  ocean. And as you enter the door and
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  close the door, the door is now locked.
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  You don't feel scared, it just occurs to you.
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  You are in an escape room. A room full of puzzles and locks
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  and clues and mechanisms, codes, interlocking, linking, all
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  designed so that solving 1 reveals the key to the next.
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  And here's the interesting thing about escape rooms.
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  The people who walk in expecting everything to be simple
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  immediately become frustrated, because the frustration itself
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  is the signal they found something worth solving.
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  But some people walk into an escape room with a particular
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  mindset. They look at complexity with
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  something closer to curiosity than intimidation, who can hold
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  several unsolved elements simultaneously without
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  collapsing, who can follow a thread even when they don't know
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  where it leads. And those people find the escape
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  room stimulating, challenging, exhilarating.
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  And that technical landscape of building that online business,
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  the webinar platform, e-mail automations, landing pages, even
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  a strategy for LinkedIn and social media.
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  Whether you build an audience organically or paying for
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  adverts, all of it is an escape room and all of it is solvable,
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  one puzzle at a time. And you don't need to see the
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  whole solution from just one perspective.
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  No one who has ever solved an escape room did so by standing
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  at the entrance until they could see every step.
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  They solved the first clue, the first problem, and then they
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  looked for the next clue, and then the next.
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  And the first time in that escape room may take minutes or
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  even an hour to escape. But if you found yourself in the
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  exact same escape room with the exact same puzzles, you would be
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  out of the escape room in a couple of minutes.
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  Because that's how they work. Once you know what to do,
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  something challenging or impossible becomes easy.
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  You do not need to understand the whole system before you
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  begin. You simply need to find the next
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  clue, just the next one. And if you sit down at a
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  computer and the interface is unfamiliar, or if the automation
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  doesn't work as expected, or if there's some tech that has a new
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  layer of complexity you hadn't anticipated, your mind can now
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  move toward these moments with a spirit of curiosity and
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  fascination. It's like an interesting puzzle.
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  How do I solve this? And by solving this, I solve all
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  future problems like it. And that feeling, It used to be
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  called overwhelm, intimidation, fear.
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  But what if you recognise it for what it really is?
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  A particular aliveness of a mind engaging with something that
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  matters. A problem that is not yet
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  solved, but something that, when solved, will be genuinely yours
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  because you worked it out. And every puzzle you solve makes
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  the next one easier. Not because the puzzles get
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  simpler, but because you become someone who solves puzzles.
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  That skill, that identity, once established fully in the nervous
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  system, becomes self fulfilling. You end up seeking out complex
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  problems because it feels good to solve them.
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  And by doing so, you're building a Moat around your business.
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  Because the more difficult it is to create your business, then
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  the more difficult it will be for anyone else to do what
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  you're doing in the way that you're doing it.
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  And I want you to imagine. Imagine that your unconscious
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  can hold a picture, a vision of your future, an image that makes
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  all the technical complexity worth navigating.
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  Because somewhere in the world right now, there is a person
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  sitting with a specific kind of pain that comes from a
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  relationship ending. Not just the sadness, but maybe
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  disorientation, loss of identity, anxiety, uncertainty.
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  The question of who are they now?
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  Or maybe they're online searching.
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  Maybe they're looking for conversations with friends who
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  want to help but don't quite understand the depth of it.
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  They are motivated, they want help, and they're looking for
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  someone who seems to really know this terrain.
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  And the one thing standing between that person finding you
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  is will they find you when they start looking?
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  Maybe there's a a post on social media you haven't written yet, a
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  webinar that doesn't exist yet, an e-mail sequence that isn't
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  quite finished yet, all because there's a platform that feels
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  slightly too technical right now.
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  Not forever, but just right now. And right now is a problem with
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  a solution, because every technical skill you build is a
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  door that you open for someone who needs to find you.
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  Your discomfort now is their access later.
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  And think how elegant the model is.
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  Someone discovers you, connects with you, and then you help
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  them, perhaps for free. A piece of value that gives
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  before it asks, that demonstrates your credentials,
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  your value. And then, when they feel
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  confident and comfortable with you, you make it easy for them
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  to work with you. Maybe you coach them, or maybe
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  it's a digital representation of you, a recording, a course.
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  And with each person transformed, the story spreads,
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  a community builds, and the ripple widens.
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  And the world on the other side of this temporary technical
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  discomfort is 1, Where you are doing the work you were built to
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  do, reaching people around the world free of a fear of
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  judgement or shame because it was a price worth paying.
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  It's time to leave this room, taking these wonderful changes
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  and new thoughts and ideas with you.
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  You swim out of the room, rise to the surface, find yourself
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  back on the shore, looking down at your feet and your legs and
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  feeling a wonderful sensation of possibility.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose and wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes, connecting and
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  calibrating into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00
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  to 10:00 to awaken you. 123 Waking up. 456 More alert. 7-8
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  open your eyes. Open your eyes. 910 wide awake,
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  wide awake, wide awake, thank. You so much for joining me.
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