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- 0:00Erin Gray: On today's episode.
- 0:01Erin Gray: What I want to do is share with you what I came up with is basically my six shifts or tips that I think is really necessary when doing this money mindset work so that you can have a healthier relationship with money, your nervous system can feel more calm and at peace with money and just in general, and you can really truly live the life that we were all meant here and sent here to live, which is one of joy and abundance and fun, and playful and empowered.
- 0:32Erin Gray: So let's dive in.
- 0:34Erin Gray: Okay, so when there is this term and I don't know where I picked it up from, but there was this term that when I was working in my family's construction business called knowledge transference, and I don't know if it's like a business selling term or just when someone in the business has a lot of knowledge and when you're trying to impart this knowledge on someone who's coming up in the business, what I always thought was fascinating is this what they call it?
- 1:01Erin Gray: Is this knowledge transference, right?
- 1:03Erin Gray: It's like you have so much knowledge and how do you actually get that out of your brain and then put it into somebody else's, and I think that the more that I do this work, I can tell you all of the steps that you need to take.
- 1:16Erin Gray: I can tell you all of my ahas.
- 1:18Erin Gray: I can tell you client wins.
- 1:20Erin Gray: I can give you all of this information but until you actually take it and run with it yourself and you play with it and you see what works for you and you make your own shifts, and then you tweak and you modify and you keep evolving and growing.
- 1:34Erin Gray: Everyone is so uniquely different.
- 1:37Erin Gray: Yes, we're all the same and we are all so different.
- 1:40Erin Gray: I don't know what it feels like in your body and so you have to get in touch with that.
- 1:46Erin Gray: So the first and foremost, number one with everything that I always bring to clients' attention is their awareness.
- 1:53Erin Gray: Like what are you speaking?
- 1:55Erin Gray: What kind of language are you using?
- 1:57Erin Gray: Is it empowering, is it disempowering?
- 1:59Erin Gray: Are you talking and telling a story that you're just accepted as fact, or are you actually choosing your story wisely?
- 2:07Erin Gray: Like something like I really have been struggling with my money mindset Like that's just a story.
- 2:13Erin Gray: A more empowering story is I'm in the process of changing how I think about money Much more empowering, right, and you've got to check in with your body and see how it feels and if you actually believe it.
- 2:23Erin Gray: But I always start with awareness, like, actually start paying attention to how you speak, actually start paying attention to how you feel on a consistent basis, because how you feel is going to generate what your external, 3d, observed world is, and so, if you are not aware, you cannot change anything that you are not aware of.
- 2:42Erin Gray: So I would always recommend, or I say, start there.
- 2:45Erin Gray: Number two is what are you thinking currently that you don't want?
- 2:50Erin Gray: And I think, in the beginning, sometimes this is such a beautiful thing, because what we don't want, I don't think you need to focus on it, but I do think it provides a lot of clarity.
- 2:59Erin Gray: In the beginning for me, I knew exactly what I did not want and by knowing that, then I could swift, you know, shift it or flip the coin and be like, okay, what do I actually want?
- 3:11Erin Gray: Right.
- 3:11Erin Gray: And so when you are thinking about what you don't want, use that from a clarity standpoint.
- 3:17Erin Gray: Use that from what am I focusing on?
- 3:20Erin Gray: How much of my attention, how much of my energy is on on a daily basis, of what I don't want?
- 3:25Erin Gray: How much am I complaining, how much am I blaming?
- 3:28Erin Gray: How much am I, you know, talking about something that I can actually change, but I'm continuing to not change it, right?
- 3:35Erin Gray: So think about when you are saying what you don't want.
- 3:40Erin Gray: It's great clarity.
- 3:42Erin Gray: But then I would say then shift and move into number three, which would be what do you actually want?
- 3:48Erin Gray: What are your heart's desires?
- 3:49Erin Gray: You already know what you don't want, brilliant, excellent.
- 3:52Erin Gray: Okay, now what do you want?
- 3:53Erin Gray: Have you actually sat down and journaled and talked about or dreamed and gotten into the imagination of, like, what would I love?
- 4:01Erin Gray: And I don't know if a lot of us give ourselves this time to journal and to dream and to imagine and be in the imagination and to envision, because we are such a at least in the Western world, we are such a what we think is productive.
- 4:18Erin Gray: Productive is actually doing, but productive is actually being in your imagination.
- 4:21Erin Gray: Productive is actually resting and recovering and playing and being in that imagination and thinking about what would you love and really living from that space and feeling those feelings of having what you want.
- 4:35Erin Gray: So really starting to understand and gain clarity on what you do want would be number three.
- 4:42Erin Gray: Number four would be focusing on what you want, like I mentioned in number three, but also doing the somatic practices right, being in the vibration of having what you want and moving from that place.
- 4:55Erin Gray: It's one thing to know what you want, it's another to be in that vibration.
- 5:01Erin Gray: If you already had what you wanted, would you be feeling gratitude on a more consistent basis?
- 5:06Erin Gray: Would you be having more fun?
- 5:08Erin Gray: Would you, would your body feel a more sense of ease and calm, or would you be stressing and worrying and spinning in your head?
- 5:18Erin Gray: No, right, you would be more at ease and at peace and you would also be thinking about like what's next after this?
- 5:24Erin Gray: Right?
- 5:25Erin Gray: So, really starting and I think that this is where sometimes four gets kind of skipped over because when you are not doing somatic practices, when you are not really living when I say living, what I mean is being that version of yourself right, because anything that you already want right now, it already exists in some other dimension.
- 5:47Erin Gray: We just got to get on that frequency of it.
- 5:50Erin Gray: And so the question becomes how often am I living from that space?
- 5:55Erin Gray: Or am I thinking of that space, of that plane, of that dimension, but I'm still living from lack and insecurity and inadequacy and not feeling empowered, right?
- 6:07Erin Gray: So there is a vibrational mismatch.
- 6:09Erin Gray: So what you really have to start practicing.
- 6:13Erin Gray: Think of it like trying on clothes in the morning Are you putting on a disempowered shirt or are you putting on an empowered shirt?
- 6:20Erin Gray: Are you putting on a lack shirt or are you putting on an abundant easeful shirt?
- 6:27Erin Gray: And yes, there are going to be times where we drop back into our human right, where we do feel disempowered or we do feel inadequate or lack or whatever.
- 6:38Erin Gray: That might be shame or guilt, and I want you to recognize how long are you staying in that vibration or are you processing the emotion and then you're moving back to the person who is empowered, prosperous, having fun in their life, things are working well for them, everything's always working out for them, and I think somatic practices are highly undervalued.
- 6:59Erin Gray: I think there's a lot of value that we can place on the mind and the imagination and also, are we releasing some of that stuff that is in our bodies and you're going to have to play with this.
- 7:11Erin Gray: Somatic practices could be for you breath work.
- 7:13Erin Gray: It could be EFT tapping Check my previous episode on how to do an EFT session with yourself.
- 7:20Erin Gray: It could be energy work.
- 7:22Erin Gray: It could be emotion code, releasing emotions in your body.
- 7:25Erin Gray: It could be healing sound baths or walking in the grass or going and riding your bike or whatever it is.
- 7:32Erin Gray: But you're going to have to play with this and not everything I suggest may resonate in your body and the only way that you're going to know this is if you actually do it yourself.
- 7:42Erin Gray: So, really starting to focus on bringing your attention I mean I told a client the other day I'm like you've got to be like a watchdog, you've got to be so mindful and not like obsessive where that's all you're thinking about, but you've got to be aware, like when the mind or the or the language just wants to, or the vibration just wants to go back to what is has been.
- 8:01Erin Gray: You have to bring it back.
- 8:03Erin Gray: Your awareness has to bring it back to what is it that I actually want Somatic practices, being in that vibration and then moving from that place.
- 8:11Erin Gray: And number five, I think, is we got to allow our humanness right this isn't spiritual bypassing here.
- 8:17Erin Gray: This isn't, like everything's always rainbow and daisies, like we came here, I believe to have a human experience to also enjoy.
- 8:25Erin Gray: You know, our time here on planet earth, and also there is.
- 8:28Erin Gray: You know, how can you have so much joy If you don't know what so much sadness feels like you're going to have the opposites right, like that is a law, law of rhythm.
- 8:40Erin Gray: Right, like you're going to have, or a contrast right, that's part of living and it's, you know, allowing yourself to feel but not to to stay there long-term.
- 8:52Erin Gray: And knowing the way that I have started to look at this contrast, instead of getting attached to it, is knowing that when I am in this lower trough, I know that I'm on the up right, like, think of it like a roller coaster.
- 9:05Erin Gray: When you go down in the trough, the roller coaster, it's got to go back up right.
- 9:09Erin Gray: And so really not becoming attached to what your current 3D observed world is showing you, continuing to hold the vision, acting from that place, allowing the human in you to feel sadness or grief or shame or whatever it might be, and then continuing to move and know that you're on the uphill, you're moving on up to what's next and evolving.
- 9:35Erin Gray: And instead of looking at like, I think we can become attached to the part of us where you know where things aren't working out well for us, and then we make all of these stories up about ourselves.
- 9:46Erin Gray: And that's where we also have to realize that we have the power to decide.
- 9:52Erin Gray: What kind of story do we want to tell, right?
- 9:54Erin Gray: Do we want to tell an empowering story of this is a moment in time and this is prepping me for my next chapter, and look at all of the wisdom that I'm going to gain from this experience.
- 10:04Erin Gray: Or do you look at it as this is happening to me, all of the things going wrong?
- 10:10Erin Gray: I knew this would happen, the shoe's going to drop, all of this kind of stuff.
- 10:13Erin Gray: So it's really, how are you going to story when you are in the troughs and not staying there, not getting attached to it and knowing that you are going to move through it, just like you always have with everything else?
- 10:27Erin Gray: And I think the sixth one, which I think is the most important, is really living from God and spirit.
- 10:32Erin Gray: How connected are you to God?
- 10:35Erin Gray: How often are you trusting in a higher power than yourself?
- 10:39Erin Gray: And I think that for some of us, at least for me, I know that I became disconnected and I know that was part of my path and I had to go through that.
- 10:50Erin Gray: I had to become disconnected so that I could become reconnected and understand the importance of moving from God and spirit and having something bigger than myself to wake up every day for, and honor and move from, when you truly believe that there is a higher power that is helping you, that is loving, that wants only the best for you.
- 11:18Erin Gray: That doesn't mean that it's without obstacles or challenges.
- 11:21Erin Gray: It just means that we are God.
- 11:26Erin Gray: We are moving from that place of of oneness and when we can really connect on that level, knowing that everything is always adding to our life, adding to our perspective, so that we can use that wisdom to whatever, whether it's in our business, with our children, with our spouses, with our families, and really really setting aside time and developing your own spiritual practice, whatever that is for you, that you are recognizing that you are one with God.
- 12:02Erin Gray: It is not a separation, and that I believe that God, whatever way you want to view it, is a loving God.
- 12:10Erin Gray: It is not what most religions have kind of indoctrinated us to believe, that it's a fearful God.
- 12:16Erin Gray: I don't believe that.
- 12:17Erin Gray: I believe that God really wants the best for us and that they want to like.
- 12:24Erin Gray: We are here because we are that physical version of God and that God gets to express through us.
- 12:32Erin Gray: And so are we thinking of ourselves from that light?
- 12:37Erin Gray: Are we thinking of ourselves as, like the grandest version of ourselves, or are we looking at it from a very limited mind or concept and so really reconnecting and like what is your spiritual practice?
- 12:50Erin Gray: And honoring that?
- 12:51Erin Gray: Because when I notice, when I get into sometimes fear or lack, or I see that humanness in me come out, what I recognize is I have become disconnected with that moment and so how do I get back in, how do I reconnect?
- 13:05Erin Gray: Those are the questions that I ask myself so that I can come back home.
- 13:11Erin Gray: So I'm going to summarize the six that way.
- 13:14Erin Gray: You have them, but really think about them and contemplate like and this isn't like a one through six, right, this is sometimes it's a one, sometimes you know you have to go back to one and like, oh, your awareness when you're, when you're working on something new, you know, sometimes it's more so in the three and the four, right, what do you want?
- 13:34Erin Gray: So number one is awareness.
- 13:35Erin Gray: Number two is what are you thinking that you currently like, that you don't want?
- 13:40Erin Gray: If you are focusing on what you don't want, which is amazing, awareness.
- 13:45Erin Gray: Number three is focusing on what you do want.
- 13:48Erin Gray: What are your heart's desires?
- 13:49Erin Gray: Really spending some time to get clear on that.
- 13:52Erin Gray: Number four is focusing on what you want, doing those somatic practices, being in the vibration, moving from that place, as Neville Goddard says.
- 14:00Erin Gray: You know, living from the wish fulfilled meaning you're living, you are being that person who already has what you want.
- 14:08Erin Gray: Number five is allowing the troughs not getting stuck there or allowing or being a coming, attached in that place, knowing that the highs are on its way right, where you're just around the corner.
- 14:21Erin Gray: And then six is really living from God and spirit.
- 14:23Erin Gray: So ask yourself, you know, of the six that I mentioned, where you like, feel like, yeah, my skillset's pretty good there, and then where some of those that you're like you know what I could spend some more time of like really focusing there to increase that skill set so that I do come out of it.
- 14:41Erin Gray: You know, my refractory period is shorter.
- 14:44Erin Gray: So that's what I have for you today.
- 14:46Erin Gray: I am rooting for you, I'm cheering you on, like we.
- 14:50Erin Gray: I just want everyone to know how powerful we are and how we I truly believe the world has from lower consciousness beings.
- 15:02Erin Gray: We have believed that we are not as powerful as what we are, and it is a returning home to ourselves.
- 15:09Erin Gray: It is a coming back home to our power, our innate power, our God essence within us, and I just want everyone to know what that is and to feel what that is.
- 15:20Erin Gray: So until next time, I'll see you in the next episode.