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Dirty Little Secret:Do You Treat "Step Kids" Different? She Does! · Billy The Kidd In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: A little secret.
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  Speaker 2: Do you think.
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  Speaker 3: Makes one O two point nine A bill at a
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  Speaker 3: kid can to slow pants producer poo.
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  Speaker 4: Let's do it right now, dirty little secret.
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  Speaker 3: If you've got one, you call us anytime you want,
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  Speaker 3: call us at eight three three seven eight seven one
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  Speaker 3: O two nine, or you can always reach out at
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  Speaker 3: Billy on the radio on Instagram. You can always do
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  Speaker 3: it there too, DM me, we could set up your
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  Speaker 3: dirty little secret, even if we're not doing dirty Little
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  Speaker 3: Secret at the time. And you're like, well, now I
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  Speaker 3: can call Well, that's fine. Just call us whenever you
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  Speaker 3: can and just confess and you got one.
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  Speaker 1: I do have a secret.
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  Speaker 2: I've been keeping it for about three years and honestly,
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  Speaker 2: only my mom knows about it. I'm married to a
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  Speaker 2: wonderful man and between the two of us, we have
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  Speaker 2: four kids. I have two from a previous marriage. He
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  Speaker 2: has two from his previous marriage. And I know this
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  Speaker 2: is gonna sound terrible to say, but his kids used
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  Speaker 2: to be.
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  Speaker 1: A lot.
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  Speaker 2: I guess you could say they were really difficult when
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  Speaker 2: they were younger, constantly acting up, being disrespectful, and to
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  Speaker 2: be completely honest, my side of.
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  Speaker 1: The family just never really bonded with them. Because of it.
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  Speaker 1: Here's the secret.
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  Speaker 2: Whenever we have birthdays, Christmas, Easter, pretty much any holiday
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  Speaker 2: where all the kids are together, everything looks completely fair.
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  Speaker 2: Everyone opens up presence, they take pictures, they have a
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  Speaker 2: great time. But then a day or two later, my
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  Speaker 2: mom shall invite me and.
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  Speaker 1: My two kids over. She'll hand them.
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  Speaker 2: Extra gifts, slip them some cash, maybe buy them something special,
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  Speaker 2: and tell them.
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  Speaker 1: Not to mention it.
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  Speaker 2: And so it's basically a second little celebration that my
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  Speaker 2: husband and step kids know absolutely nothing about.
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  Speaker 1: Oh and this has been going on for about almost
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  Speaker 1: three years.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, so you have Wow.
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  Speaker 3: So your mom has almost like a second little holiday
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  Speaker 3: for just your kids, cut stab kids out and even
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  Speaker 3: your husband out, and you kind of get extra gifts
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  Speaker 3: and do your thing.
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  Speaker 4: And your husband doesn't even know.
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  Speaker 5: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he has no idea.
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  Speaker 2: He thinks that everything is split evenly before or between
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  Speaker 2: all the four kids.
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  Speaker 4: It's okay.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, I've told my mom before that it makes me,
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  Speaker 2: it makes you feel a little bit guilty, but she
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  Speaker 2: always says the same thing.
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  Speaker 1: They're not her grandchildren, and I'm polite to them, i.
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  Speaker 2: Buy them gifts, but I'm always gonna spoil my grandkids
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  Speaker 2: more and however I want, and so I can understand,
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  Speaker 2: like where she's coming from.
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  Speaker 1: My step kids, they've gotten a lot better over the
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  Speaker 1: past couple of years, and I do love them, and
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  Speaker 1: that's why I feel guilty keeping this secret. But at
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  Speaker 1: the same time, I.
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  Speaker 2: Can't exactly, you know, tell my mom how to spend
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  Speaker 2: her money, who she's allowed to spoil. And so for
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  Speaker 2: the last three years, we've just basically been keeping this
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  Speaker 2: little secret family celebration so that only the three of
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  Speaker 2: us know about it. I'm curious if I'm doing the
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  Speaker 2: wrong thing or it's just one of those awkward realities
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  Speaker 2: that happens in blended families.
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  Speaker 1: Either way, nobody in my house knows besides me.
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  Speaker 4: Honest with you, I have a feeling this happens a lot.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it is, because if you weren't there and you
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  Speaker 5: don't want to be a part of this, she'd still
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  Speaker 5: do it with your kids and spoil them.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I think happens. I think that probably happens,
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  Speaker 3: and people just don't know about it. And I'm not
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  Speaker 3: saying it should or shouldn't. I mean, but you know,
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  Speaker 3: can you feel the same. And I'm not in a
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  Speaker 3: blended family. Can you feel the same about other people's kids?
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  Speaker 3: If you're a grandparent, right, then you're not around these
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  Speaker 3: kids that often. You know, you obviously have a bond
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  Speaker 3: that's different with your biological grandchild.
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  Speaker 5: You can't deny the bond is different.
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  Speaker 4: No, right, you can't deny that.
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  Speaker 3: But can you give the illusion you know that everything's
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  Speaker 3: fair and it's equal.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, you should do that, but then do you
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  Speaker 4: spoil them on the side.
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  Speaker 5: Or design like she's cutting them out completely and not
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  Speaker 5: getting their presence or celebrating them.
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  Speaker 3: I just don't like telling kids, hey, don't say anything
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  Speaker 3: about this.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a lot of pressure on a kid.
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  Speaker 3: Well, and it sets the tone that if somebody else says, hey, don't,
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  Speaker 3: especially at a young age, don't say anything about this,
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  Speaker 3: that they shouldn't when maybe it's something they should absolutely
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  Speaker 3: say something about.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 4: But I don't know.
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  Speaker 5: But I mean, I'm not in a blended family either,
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  Speaker 5: But I know people who are, and I've talked to them,
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  Speaker 5: and I know that they definitely have a different bond
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  Speaker 5: and they treat them differently. They're not, you know, treating
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  Speaker 5: one side unfairly or poorly.
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  Speaker 1: They're just treating one side better.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I know, but I also know families who
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  Speaker 3: have step children or step grandchildren who treat them just
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  Speaker 3: as good, love them just as much. I'm not saying
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  Speaker 3: that your mom doesn't care for the step kids. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: but I mean sometimes that bond also grows over time,
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  Speaker 3: so maybe that'll change. And either way, it's something interesting.
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna ask other people if they deal with this
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  Speaker 3: and what grandma's and moms do in a situation, because
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  Speaker 3: I could totally see my mom doing this. Yeah, rider,
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  Speaker 3: get over here, here's an extra hundred.
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  Speaker 5: I think it's different too when they're depending on their.
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  Speaker 4: Age, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, like if you suddenly had a tween or teen
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  Speaker 5: in your life, I mean, it wouldn't compare to writer
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  Speaker 5: about to be sixteen. It's a little bit different there
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  Speaker 5: for his birth, and of.
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  Speaker 3: Course that bond is going to be different. Well, thank
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  Speaker 3: you for your secret. I'm going to ask everybody what
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  Speaker 3: they think. And I appreciate you opening up to us.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I appreciate it as well.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so many dms saying oh, yeah, this happens a lot,
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  Speaker 3: Oh this happens with my family, or I was the
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  Speaker 3: kid that got left down. Then my stepbrother would tell
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  Speaker 3: me what they got. Anyway, that's the worst. Come on,
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  Speaker 3: don't do that to the kids.