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183.Overcoming Adversity: The Blessing in Disguise · The Kathie Owen Perspective Podcast

• 0:00
  Kathie: Ah, finally, finally, I can be myself on my YouTube channel.
• 0:08
  Kathie: Yes, that's what we're going to talk about today.
• 0:12
  Kathie: Today that I'm recording this is September 25th, 2024.
• 0:17
  Kathie: And what has happened to me in the past few weeks, I'm going to talk about just to get it off my chest and just to Heal a little bit, you know, let's get right to it.
• 0:31
  Kathie: Have you ever heard in your mind that little monkey on the Lion King say, It is time.
• 0:39
  Kathie: It is time.
• 0:40
  Kathie: And on my YouTube channel, I'm going to put that right there because honestly, that happened to me recently and I gotta say that's happened to me several times in my life when I just made a major transition in my life and some of this that I'm going to be talking about I have used the pruning shears of revision to revise it and I'm going to intersperse certain words that, you know, will make it make sense.
• 1:14
  Kathie: But I have to say, on Monday, September 23rd, 2024, I resigned from my job.
• 1:27
  Kathie: Yeah, I got fired, but I'm not sad about it.
• 1:31
  Kathie: In fact, it's a blessing.
• 1:34
  Kathie: Because I had been living with anxiety in this job for a long time.
• 1:42
  Kathie: a long time and I wasn't able to be myself and that's why I started this video with I get to be myself and I'm so excited about it because here's what happened.
• 1:57
  Kathie: I was trying to be something that they, this company did not hire me to be.
• 2:04
  Kathie: Um, I was trying to be the corporate wellness professional that I am and they didn't want that.
• 2:11
  Kathie: They wanted a fitness instructor.
• 2:14
  Kathie: Basically, I outgrew the job and by them firing me, me resigning.
• 2:22
  Kathie: They did me a favor.
• 2:24
  Kathie: But in the process, as we all do, I held on so tightly to my comfort zone.
• 2:33
  Kathie: I was in a huge comfort zone and I thought I was doing the right thing, but it just didn't turn out that way.
• 2:41
  Kathie: And that's okay.
• 2:42
  Kathie: Um, I go easy on myself and it is what it is, but they honestly did me a favor because if I had stayed there, I would have stayed there.
• 2:54
  Kathie: I just would have stayed there and I wouldn't have been able to expand my business and my horizons and make a difference or like Kendra Hall says, make a dent in the universe.
• 3:06
  Kathie: Or Steve Jobs also says that, by the way.
• 3:09
  Kathie: But I can connect the dots looking backwards so easily.
• 3:14
  Kathie: Steve Jobs also says that.
• 3:16
  Kathie: And I have to say it was really a blessing in disguise.
• 3:21
  Kathie: But the struggles that I went through before for the last few weeks have been really, really difficult, really difficult.
• 3:31
  Kathie: And I would say it's been the last month.
• 3:34
  Kathie: They, they, they had planned it.
• 3:36
  Kathie: I could connect the dots looking backwards now and they had planned it, but they did me a favor.
• 3:41
  Kathie: I hold absolutely no resentment at all.
• 3:46
  Kathie: Because resentment is not a good thing.
• 3:48
  Kathie: It's, I, actually, they did me a favor because I was not gonna leave.
• 3:54
  Kathie: I was not going to leave.
• 3:55
  Kathie: I was going to stay there and I wouldn't have been able to do what I, I vision.
• 4:00
  Kathie: I have a huge vision, but yeah, I was mistreated.
• 4:07
  Kathie: Yeah, I was bullied, but they honestly did me a favor.
• 4:12
  Kathie: It was such a blessing because I just would have stayed there.
• 4:16
  Kathie: That's not okay.
• 4:18
  Kathie: That's not okay.
• 4:18
  Kathie: Don't stay in your comfort zone just because it's your comfort zone.
• 4:24
  Kathie: That was my lesson and I've done that.
• 4:27
  Kathie: So I have been with this company for 12 years, almost 12 years.
• 4:31
  Kathie: It was part of me.
• 4:32
  Kathie: It was my existence.
• 4:34
  Kathie: It was my identity.
• 4:35
  Kathie: I identified with this way too much.
• 4:39
  Kathie: I put way too much importance.
• 4:41
  Kathie: For reality trans surfing people that was important and I put way too much importance on it And I shouldn't have done that.
• 4:49
  Kathie: Now should is a dirty word and you know, I say that all the time Let's go let Rusty in.
• 4:56
  Kathie: Come on.
• 4:57
  Kathie: Come with me.
• 4:58
  Kathie: Look at the little guy.
• 4:59
  Kathie: He's so cute All right, buddy.
• 5:05
  Kathie: Come lay on the couch while mama does her video Man, I look forward to doing real content now.
• 5:15
  Kathie: Because what happened was I was held back, held back and I actually got called out for putting content online about the way that, that I had been treated at this job.
• 5:29
  Kathie: Yes, it was unfair.
• 5:31
  Kathie: Yes, it was wrong.
• 5:33
  Kathie: But yes, even more bigger, yes.
• 5:37
  Kathie: It was a great thing.
• 5:40
  Kathie: It was a great thing.
• 5:42
  Kathie: Am I scared?
• 5:43
  Kathie: Absolutely.
• 5:43
  Kathie: But do I have a whole lot of faith and a whole lot of support in my world?
• 5:49
  Kathie: Also, absolutely.
• 5:51
  Kathie: It's awesome.
• 5:53
  Kathie: I want to state in this video because I know my friends that I used to work with, and I used to coach, and I used to teach, and fitness and training and all of that.
• 6:04
  Kathie: And even the people who so called bullied me, you didn't bully me.
• 6:10
  Kathie: You did me a favor and I appreciate it.
• 6:13
  Kathie: And I can't stress that enough.
• 6:16
  Kathie: Number one.
• 6:17
  Kathie: Number two, I want to tell those that I coached because what happened was that it was a huge shock to everyone everybody got scared and I was scared too at the first.
• 6:30
  Kathie: I was in shock.
• 6:31
  Kathie: I went through the stages of grief and I probably still will because I loved that job.
• 6:37
  Kathie: I loved that company.
• 6:38
  Kathie: I loved what it stood for.
• 6:40
  Kathie: I loved what I could have done there.
• 6:43
  Kathie: I had potential but they didn't want that and that's fine.
• 6:47
  Kathie: That's perfectly fine.
• 6:49
  Kathie: They want a fitness instructor and actually that's what I started as.
• 6:53
  Kathie: I started as a fitness instructor there and I was training people and Don't get me wrong.
• 6:58
  Kathie: I love that part of the job, but I'm as old as the Superbowl.
• 7:03
  Kathie: Go Google it, whatever.
• 7:05
  Kathie: But I have to say, I don't want to be training in the gym in a in a couple of years.
• 7:12
  Kathie: I just don't.
• 7:14
  Kathie: I want to train people.
• 7:15
  Kathie: Yes, I still have clients that I train outside of there, but I just, that's not my aspiration.
• 7:20
  Kathie: My aspiration is to do something bigger.
• 7:23
  Kathie: Having said that, those that I coached, I really want to state this.
• 7:28
  Kathie: This is really, really important.
• 7:32
  Kathie: Do not be angry at them.
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  Kathie: Do your job.
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  Kathie: Do the best you can.
• 7:39
  Kathie: Be loyal to them.
• 7:40
  Kathie: Be kind to everyone you work with.
• 7:44
  Kathie: I'm not a victim.
• 7:45
  Kathie: You are not a victim.
• 7:46
  Kathie: And I talk about victim victimizer all the time on this channel, and I'll have a link in the show notes and description below to all of my blog posts on victim and victimizer because we are not victims of our circumstances.
• 8:01
  Kathie: I wrote my book, the Truth Bubbles Up, and when I wrote that book, if I signed it for somebody, I said, let's.
• 8:07
  Kathie: Let's remember we are not victims of our circumstances.
• 8:11
  Kathie: That's it.
• 8:12
  Kathie: Plain and simple.
• 8:13
  Kathie: We are not our circumstances.
• 8:16
  Kathie: And things happen to us, but they happen for us.
• 8:21
  Kathie: And this happened for me.
• 8:23
  Kathie: And if you worked with me, you know, this happened for you as well.
• 8:28
  Kathie: And it's not a bad thing.
• 8:30
  Kathie: And actually, it's a huge blessing and a favor.
• 8:36
  Kathie: I now can Actually talk about the things I want to talk about, which has nothing to do with the victim mentality over there.
• 8:45
  Kathie: I will never do that.
• 8:47
  Kathie: I won't even go there on camera.
• 8:52
  Kathie: I'm human.
• 8:53
  Kathie: I had freaking bad anxiety for, I would say for the last three weeks, I've had really bad anxiety.
• 9:01
  Kathie: And I mean, even in the middle of the night after this happened, I mean, I saw this coming.
• 9:07
  Kathie: I could connect the dots looking backwards and I saw it coming and it is what it is.
• 9:12
  Kathie: And it was really, they did me a favor.
• 9:15
  Kathie: So at the very beginning of this, I talked about how I did revision on my situation because what I did was to help me look at everything from a kind and loving perspective.
• 9:30
  Kathie: I.
• 9:31
  Kathie: I revised it to the fact that I resigned from the job.
• 9:38
  Kathie: I resigned because I had outgrown it and our priorities were not the same and I get that.
• 9:46
  Kathie: I'm not going to tell somebody how to run their business.
• 9:50
  Kathie: And that's what I was kind of trying to do.
• 9:52
  Kathie: I was trying to force myself into a position that I really didn't need to do.
• 9:59
  Kathie: And I felt unappreciated for all I had been doing because as long as I'd been there, I'd never had a job review.
• 10:06
  Kathie: I've never had anybody review me.
• 10:09
  Kathie: And in fact, I got a raise, um, back in July and my supervisor came out and told me, yeah, you got to cost a living increase.
• 10:18
  Kathie: And I was like, okay, no thanks for your service.
• 10:21
  Kathie: No thanks for your time.
• 10:23
  Kathie: And I just had to reward myself instead of that.
• 10:28
  Kathie: And when I look at how communication happened inside there, I could see how they were do Getting tired of my, trying to run a corporate wellness program inside there.
• 10:41
  Kathie: They don't want that.
• 10:42
  Kathie: That, that was me trying to tell them how to do their business and that's not okay.
• 10:48
  Kathie: I never got a job review, so I felt unappreciated and I, that is not okay too.
• 10:54
  Kathie: I want to go somewhere where I'm appreciated.
• 10:57
  Kathie: I have so many gifts to offer that if I stayed there, I wouldn't have been able to offer the gifts that I have because I, I couldn't run my business.
• 11:10
  Kathie: I had, I had to be there 40 hours a week and I couldn't go on customer calls and I couldn't really expand my, my clientele because if I did, I would have been conflict of interest with them and I was loyal to them because that's just the way I am and it's all okay.
• 11:32
  Kathie: I want you to know it's all okay and going through the dark night is troubling.
• 11:39
  Kathie: It's troubling to wake up in the middle of the night and have major anxiety, but that's not their fault.
• 11:46
  Kathie: I'm not the victim.
• 11:48
  Kathie: I worked through it.
• 11:49
  Kathie: I processed my emotions.
• 11:51
  Kathie: I felt them.
• 11:52
  Kathie: And in fact, this video right here is healing for me and it's healing for hopefully them and we can all just be better.
• 12:01
  Kathie: And everything will be fine.
• 12:05
  Kathie: Everything will be fine.
• 12:06
  Kathie: So when the little guy goes, it's just time, it's just time.
• 12:11
  Kathie: And I've heard him several times in my, in my heart and my soul.
• 12:15
  Kathie: He was telling me it is time for change.
• 12:19
  Kathie: And guess what?
• 12:20
  Kathie: Now I can be myself on my YouTube channel.
• 12:23
  Kathie: I don't have to talk bad about anybody and I will never do that.
• 12:28
  Kathie: But I will talk about corporate wellness in a way that.
• 12:31
  Kathie: makes a dent in my little corner of the universe, and you will see.
• 12:37
  Kathie: I look forward to more videos just like this, and in fact, I'm going to do some walking videos where I just talk to you even outside and just kind of You're gonna see a new Kathie.
• 12:50
  Kathie: You're gonna see the Kathie that's been held down and pushed back and pushed down for many, many years.
• 12:57
  Kathie: And I look forward to um, sharing stuff just like this.
• 13:04
  Kathie: All right.
• 13:06
  Kathie: Thank you for watching today's video.
• 13:08
  Kathie: I trust that you found it helpful.
• 13:10
  Kathie: Bye.
• 13:11
  Kathie: If you know someone who can benefit from this, please share it with them.
• 13:14
  Kathie: And until next time, I will see you next time.
• 13:17
  Kathie: Peace out and Namaste.