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The "Hive Mind": Understanding Collective Narcissism & Cult Energy · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So have you ever looked at a group of people, maybe a
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  political movement, maybe a religious group of folks, maybe
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  or even a fan base and thought this feels like a cult or it has
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  cultish vibes, right? Like you see the aggression, the
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  US versus them mentality, like I this US versus them, the good
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  guys versus the bad guys, right? You seen the mentality and you
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  also seen the absolute refusal to admit that they were ever
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  wrong. As a self aware diagnosed
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  narcissist, I can tell you that narcissism doesn't always just
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  live in one singular person, right?
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  Sometimes it takes over an entire group, an entire
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  movement, and we call this collective narcissism.
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  Today I'm breaking down the why. Why individual narcissist.
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  Join these cults, join these tribes.
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  Why these groups are so dangerous to your mental health
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  and everybody around them and who everybody who's in them, and
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  how to spot the four red flags before you and other people get
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  sucked into their shared delusion.
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  Tell me that intro was in fire. Let's get it, y'all.
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  But seriously, collective narcissism, y'all isn't just
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  like group pride. Like we together, we are a good
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  group of people, right? It isn't just a, a group of
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  pride. It's not just being a fan of
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  your home team or your favorite college team or whatever, right?
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  It is a deep seated belief that your group is superior and
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  exceptional to everybody else, right?
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  But to the rest of the world is failing to give you the
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  recognition you deserve. So you feel like your group is
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  the best group ever, but the rest of the world isn't just
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  nobody knows you, right? No, they're not giving you your,
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  your God, your your do, right? They're not hyping you up like
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  they should. And this pisses you off, doesn't
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  it? It does, doesn't it?
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  Or they just say you're in a cult.
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  They say you got 10 paper full hats on, right?
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  Aluminum hats and stuff like that, right?
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  But think of it like this, like an individual narcissist, but
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  instead of saying an instead of an individual narcissist saying
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  I am a God, the group says we are the ones who can save the
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  world. Our group, our belief is better
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  than everybody else's belief. You can't.
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  You're saying don't tread on our beliefs, right?
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  Our beliefs superior to everybody else's belief.
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  You see what I'm saying? This is the mentality of
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  collective narcissism, like collective delusional
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  narcissism. You see that?
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  The delusions of grandeur that a lot of narcissists have, when
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  you're in these groups, it spreads.
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  It's not just one person with this delusion.
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  The delusions and their cultish mindsets in collective
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  narcissism spreads like a virus, literally like a virus.
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  That's how it goes right there, y'all.
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  And these and these groups right here, they're built on two
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  things, grandiosity and grievance.
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  Like they believe that they are better than everyone else, but
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  they also believe that they are the ultimate victims of
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  conspiracies or an unfair system.
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  Come on, come through. How could you believe that you
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  are superior and also the victim at the same time?
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  Does that make sense? You see I'm saying this is
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  crazy. This is the mindset of a group
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  of narcissistic people, right? And sometimes the group is
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  already narcissistic and full of delusional people.
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  But then you get you place the right narcissist at the top and
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  it changes the whole dynamic. It makes it more toxic because
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  the person at the top of this cultish narcissistic belief
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  group or this collective narcissistic group, right, the
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  person at the top just feeds down.
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  It's kind of like a baby, like a big bird throwing up into the
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  little bird's mouth. And no matter what the big bird
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  throws up, the little birds got their mouth open 'cause they
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  want to be fed. Feed me, please.
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  That's crazy though, isn't this is the I was just telling y'all.
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  This is how it goes, man. So if you're wondering if you're
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  dealing with a collective narcissistic group, look for
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  these 4 behaviors, right. Four behavior.
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  I told you 4 red flags. We have my 4 red flags.
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  Four different behaviors. They like this one.
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  The first red flag. What are my red flags?
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  I got a Red Hat. Well, I got a a clown hat.
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  It's not a Red Hat. It's a clown hat.
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  Damn it. Oh, yay, yay.
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  I'm hope I got it. I got it with me.
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  The first one. The first one is threat
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  sensitivity, right? They are obsessed with insults.
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  If you criticize the leader, if you criticize the group's leader
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  or the ideas of the group, they do not, they do not debate you.
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  They attack you. Every disagreement is viewed as
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  an act of war. Like they cannot take it.
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  Look, they can dish it. They can dish it viciously.
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  They can give it out better than anybody else can.
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  But as soon as the tables turn and someone disagrees with them
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  or puts it on them, they flake up.
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  They become puny. They become victims all of a
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  sudden. Like I'm the I'm superior.
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  I'm a superior victim. What the They don't sound like
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  an oxymoron right there. A superior victim?
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  How does that make sense? So threat sensitivity is one of
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  the red flags that you can see to tell one of these groups
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  right here, one of these collective narcissistic groups,
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  one of these toxic cult cult light groups.
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  It might not be a full-fledged cult, right, but cult light
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  group. And for a video about a survivor
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  of a cult, I talked to Peter Young last week.
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  I posted a video last week about surviving A cult.
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  He said you don't know you're in a cult until you're out of it,
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  which is a very unique thing. The second red flag out group
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  aggression, OUT dash group aggression.
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  They don't just love their group, they hate the other side.
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  They hate it. They hate the other side just
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  because you were part of a different group.
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  Now a lot of people can fall into this situation right here.
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  It's just like one of the biggest cults or biggest
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  collective narcissistic group is just racist, right?
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  You hate people just because they're different.
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  Think about it like that right there.
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  Just racist folks, bigoted folks.
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  You hate other people for no other reason that they're then
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  they're just different. They're the other side.
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  They're darker to you, they're lighter to you.
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  Whatever the case may be, their skin color is different.
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  Racist fall directly into this collective narcissistic group,
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  right? Think about it like that.
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  They hate the other side. They thrive on having an enemy.
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  This, this collective narcissistic group cannot
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  survive without an enemy. That's like they get
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  narcissistic supply from having an enemy.
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  It's crazy. This group doesn't exist without
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  an enemy. This is what ends up happening.
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  They use the humanizing language to make the other side look like
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  monsters so that they can justify treating them like
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  garbage. Like I told about about racist
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  folks, they're savages. They're animals.
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  There it is, there it is. So you can justify treating them
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  like beneath like beneath people.
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  You see collective narcissism. The third red flag gal internal
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  policing. They are afraid of traitors.
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  If you are on the inside of the group but start asking too many
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  questions, they turn are you fast and they turn on the enemy.
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  You. You have to have 100% blind
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  obedience. You have to have there's no
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  descent, there's nothing. As soon as you say 1 negative
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  thing about the group or the leader, you start asking
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  questions that question the sanity or the point or the goal
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  of the group. You're out of here.
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  They turn on you. You all of a sudden, you worse
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  than the enemy, right? You're worse than the enemy.
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  You're worse than the other side because you were inside and now
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  you're questioning the beliefs, threat back to threat
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  sensitivity, right? For constant need for
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  validation. It doesn't.
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  Doesn't that just sound like a regular narcissist right there?
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  But in a group, the constant need for validation, the group
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  is never satisfied. They constantly need the media,
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  the public, or other groups to acknowledge how great they are.
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  If they don't get the praise, they lash out.
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  In a collective collapse, the whole group collapses.
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  Go check my previous video about a narcissistic collapse.
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  You will see that the whole group in this instance collapses
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  right here, right? They have a collective collapse.
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  So remember those 4 red flags right there?
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  Threat sensitivity, out group aggression, internal policing,
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  and constant need for validation.
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  That's what happens right here y'all?
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  And so why do people like myself, Why do narcissists love
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  groups like this? Protection and power for an
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  individual narcissist, right? It's hard to stay perfect all
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  the time. But if I join a group that
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  claims to be morally superior or the the chosen ones or the the
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  the gifted people, right? I can hide my own flaws behind a
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  group. I can be a horrible human being,
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  but I can have a good mask. But my but people see my flaws.
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  But if I'm part of a group that's all full of fucked up
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  people, then guess what, everybody?
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  I look like less of a narcissist than you do because you're worse
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  than I am. I'm still a horrible person, but
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  you look worse than I do, right? This is how it goes right here.
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  I can be a terrible person in my private life, but as long as I'm
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  a loyal member of the group, I get to feel.
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  I get to feel like a superhero. I feel like a hero.
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  These groups give somebody to give a toxic narcissistic person
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  who might be a quad nerdy, geeky punk ass person who has no like
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  that. This has the you know, it wants
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  to be superior, but it has no that doesn't have the genealogy
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  to do it doesn't have the height weight statue to do it.
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  These groups give them a platform to be aggressive, to
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  take out their internal aggression on the outside world,
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  to bully other people, right, Because you're internally angry.
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  The groups give people to give these people the opportunity to
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  bully other people and to seek dominance, all while pretending
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  to be doing it for noble cause. This noble cause, I can treat
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  people horribly because I'm doing it for noble cause.
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  The religion you some saying follow behind the religion and I
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  don't even have to mention a specific religion because
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  there's a lot of different religions that do this type of
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  shit right here. They destroy other people, they
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  harass other people, they think they're morally superior or
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  eliminate other people based on being in a different religion.
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  You know what I'm saying? In the in the eyes of the Lord
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  or whatever the case may be, right?
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  The Lord, whoever the Lord, you know what I mean?
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  But the cost of leaving these groups is heavy.
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  Y'all, If you are in a relationship or in a group with
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  somebody like this, a collective narcissistic group, you aren't
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  just fighting for your partner, you're fighting for the entire
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  tribe. So you're not just fighting for
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  one person, you're fighting for an entire tribe.
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  If you try to leave, they will use the group to launch a
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  collective smear campaign. A collective smear campaign.
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  Get on Twitter. When somebody leaves a group,
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  everybody in the group attacks that one person for leaving.
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  They try to sully their name. They talk trash about them.
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  They make it seem like they're the worst person in the world
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  and they were out their secrets. They were threatened to
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  embarrass them. They were threatened to expose
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  them more, right? They will tell, they will tell
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  you, they will tell the group that you are anti faith,
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  whatever. If you anti patriotic or
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  whatever anti or you're the enemy.
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  They use the group group resources to gaslight the masses
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  against you. This is how they keep you
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  trapped. They make you believe that if
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  you leave them, you're losing your entire community.
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  And because you've probably been part of this horrible group,
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  other people might not accept you because you've been you've
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  been an outward member of this horrible group.
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  But now did you leave? People going to look at you
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  sideways. So now you're alone.
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  Do you see what I'm saying? How to stay safe in these
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  situations? Y'all, the only way to win is to
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  stop playing the game of US versus them.
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  Like seriously, you got to recognize that your value
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  doesn't come from the group's validation or their superiority.
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  It's just a shield for their deep rooted insecurity, their
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  deep rooted narcissism. I want to know in the comments
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  y'all, have you ever been part of their group?
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  Or have you seen one of these groups active in real life?
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  You know what I mean? If you have, drop it in the
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  comment section. I'm just curious to see
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  perspective on this right here y'all.
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  If you drop it in the comment section, be respectful.
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  Seriously, just keep it respectful.
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  Don't be being evil and crazy to people and whatnot, right?
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  Just keep it respectful because you, if you can't keep it
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  respectful, you might be part of the collective narcissism.
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  Think about that. If you feel like you need to
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  disrespect somebody else, you might be part of collective
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  narcissism. Right here, right babe?
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