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Season 8: Episode 7 "The Importance of Tone In Effective Communication" · Kickin’ It With KeKe: Life, Love, & MINDSET

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Chicken and Kiki Kicking It we Ki Ki
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  Speaker 1: Thank you for listening to another episode of Kicking at Wikiki, Life,
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  Speaker 1: love and all that of the ship. I am your host,
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  Speaker 1: Kiki Chanel Award win it Off the lifestyle Blogger and
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  Speaker 1: certified Mindset and Personal Growth Coach. Today we are talking
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  Speaker 1: about something that is very important but we tend to overlook.
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  Speaker 1: That is how to create a positive tone when it
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  Speaker 1: comes to communication. The importance of having the correct tone
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  Speaker 1: when when you're communicating with somebody is pivotal on how
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  Speaker 1: it is received or reposed because the way that we
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  Speaker 1: say things can be very off putting or it can
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  Speaker 1: be purposeful in a positive way. Effective communication is a
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  Speaker 1: cornerstone for building positive relationships personal, business, situational. You know,
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  Speaker 1: every day encounters with strangers, social interaction on social media
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  Speaker 1: is all about tone. And sometimes I'm not listen. I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna go ahead and let y'all know that I'm not
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  Speaker 1: really big on telephones. I'm not I did that when
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  Speaker 1: I was younger, stayed on the phone for hours and hours,
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  Speaker 1: and I just ain't got that time. But when it
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  Speaker 1: comes to deciphering or trying to decipher what someone is
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  Speaker 1: saying through a text message, then yeah, we let's have
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  Speaker 1: a conversation, because sometimes tone can be misinterpreted when it
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  Speaker 1: comes to text messaging. I've done it several times, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm not proud to say that I got in my
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  Speaker 1: feelings when I should have should not have, and may
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  Speaker 1: other people feel a certain way when that was not
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  Speaker 1: my intention. So one of the most critical elements of
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  Speaker 1: communication is tone, the way our words are conveyed, and
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  Speaker 1: I want to talk about seven different points to help
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  Speaker 1: you create a positive tone when it comes to communication.
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  Speaker 1: The first I want to talk about is enhancing clarity
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  Speaker 1: and understanding. Be intentional about the message that's supposed to
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  Speaker 1: be understood. People can't read minds, and neither can you.
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  Speaker 1: So when you're communicating with somebody, I need I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: say not you, us, I need us when we are
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  Speaker 1: trying to have a positive and purposeful conversation where each
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  Speaker 1: party is heard. Because some people like to listen to
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  Speaker 1: respond and not comprehend. So be intentional about the message
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  Speaker 1: that is supposed to be understood. For example, if it's
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  Speaker 1: time to have a serious conversation and you're being sarcastic
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  Speaker 1: or you're being humorous about it, you may make the
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  Speaker 1: other person who just needs to vent or talk or
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  Speaker 1: be heard or whatever the case may be, feel depleted
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  Speaker 1: or worse than what they came or like their voice
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  Speaker 1: doesn't matter. So we don't want anyone to feel like
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  Speaker 1: standing or misunderstood or taken for granted their joke to you,
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  Speaker 1: so or us, we don't want anyone to feel like
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  Speaker 1: that with us. So enhancing clarity and understanding is one
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  Speaker 1: of the most important points when it comes to communication
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  Speaker 1: with a positive tone, and that keeps us from having
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  Speaker 1: to repeat ourselves from feelings frustrated, are feeling like the
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  Speaker 1: conversation was a waste of time. Have you, guys, ever
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  Speaker 1: had a conversation with someone and you feel drained afterwards
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  Speaker 1: because you have fought tooth and nail to make them
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  Speaker 1: understand your point of view and they were just so
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  Speaker 1: closed off to it, and maybe because the intentions were
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  Speaker 1: not set at the start of the conversation. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like when we are at a place where we havehealed
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  Speaker 1: ourselves enough personal trauma, childhood trauma and all the things
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  Speaker 1: that we can set the stage for a positive conversation.
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  Speaker 1: My friends and I do this, My siblings and I
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  Speaker 1: do this. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but most
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  Speaker 1: often than not, the person that you're having a conversation
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  Speaker 1: with if you say, listen, I think that we need
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  Speaker 1: to have a serious conversation about X y Z. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't like the way it made me feel when we
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  Speaker 1: talked about this, or I could tell by the look
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  Speaker 1: on your face that you didn't like the way that
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  Speaker 1: I said a certain thing. So let's just lead with love,
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  Speaker 1: listen to understand and hear and see where the conversation goes.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't have people in your life that can
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  Speaker 1: tell tell you these things and be an adult about it,
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  Speaker 1: it's time to re evaluate your circle seriously, because don't
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  Speaker 1: nobody have got time for that. Life is too short
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  Speaker 1: and we have to be so careful and intentional. And
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  Speaker 1: y'all probably gonna get tired of hearing that word, because
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  Speaker 1: intentional is one of my favorite words right now, because
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  Speaker 1: everything has a purpose for me at this moment in time.
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  Speaker 1: I'm forty seven years old, and if it don't make
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  Speaker 1: sense to me, it don't make sense. Why are you here?
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  Speaker 1: Why are we wasting time? If we're not gonna listen
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  Speaker 1: to understand and hear each other, what's the point of
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  Speaker 1: having a conversation. And I wanted to talk about communication
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  Speaker 1: because as a podcast host, it is important to know
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  Speaker 1: how to communicate with guests so that you are clear
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  Speaker 1: on the message that your guest is trying to convey
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  Speaker 1: to the audience, on the conversation that you guys have
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  Speaker 1: for the audience can gain some type of value in
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  Speaker 1: the conversation, because otherwise, what's the point. And I've learned
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  Speaker 1: so much about being a host. Didn't know that I
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  Speaker 1: loved it, but I do. I love love meeting new people,
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  Speaker 1: talking to different people, hearing their stories, and giving people
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  Speaker 1: a voice on my platform. So communication is something that
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  Speaker 1: is near and dear to my heart. And I take
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  Speaker 1: pride in being a good communicator. Some people may not
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  Speaker 1: say that, but majority of the people in my life
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  Speaker 1: will say that I am a good listener and I'm
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  Speaker 1: a good communicator. Yeah, I may have faults because I'm
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  Speaker 1: passionate about certain things, so I can get a little
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  Speaker 1: over zealous at times, especially when I feel like I'm
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  Speaker 1: communicating to a brick wall. So Number one again was
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  Speaker 1: enhance clarity and understanding. Knowing how to have the correct
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  Speaker 1: tone in the communication will enhance the clarity and understanding
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  Speaker 1: of the overall conversation. Number two, it builds trust and credibility.
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  Speaker 1: Using an appropriate tone can build trust and established credibility,
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  Speaker 1: which your audience with the person that you're having a
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  Speaker 1: conversation with, or anybody that's listening. Because people are always listening,
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  Speaker 1: they always watching, and they always listening. They remember how
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  Speaker 1: you made them feel, and they don't remember what you
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  Speaker 1: said and how you said it. I have a teacher
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  Speaker 1: that I had in the third grade and she says
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  Speaker 1: something to me that has stuck with me for all
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  Speaker 1: of my life. She said, Nakipa, do not let anyone
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  Speaker 1: make you feel that you are not good enough. Shout
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  Speaker 1: out to miss Emma Williams, and I appreciate you for
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  Speaker 1: pointing into my life at such an early age. The
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  Speaker 1: things that we say to people matter, y'all. The things
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  Speaker 1: that we say to people, they matter. They stick with people,
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  Speaker 1: and it can tear people down and build them up.
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  Speaker 1: So knowing how to use the right tone in communication,
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  Speaker 1: it builds trust and it builds credibility. It also gives
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  Speaker 1: off a sense of confidence and it tells the people.
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  Speaker 1: It tells the person that you're speaking with that you
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  Speaker 1: you are respectful in that you demand respect, You are professional,
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  Speaker 1: and you are here to get the job done in
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  Speaker 1: your personal life. It lets the person know that listen,
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  Speaker 1: I am present, I am in the moment, I am
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  Speaker 1: here with you. I am a safe space for you
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  Speaker 1: at this moment in time. Open up your heart to
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  Speaker 1: me with your words, and I am here for you.
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  Speaker 1: It makes others more likely to engage positively with you
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  Speaker 1: when you know how to effectively communicate with the right tone.
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  Speaker 1: Number three, it conveys emotion and intent. There's the word intention.
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  Speaker 1: Tone is powerful. It helps people express their emotions and intentions.
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  Speaker 1: What do you aim to expire, console, persuade, or whatever
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  Speaker 1: the situation may be. Using the correct tone helps to
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  Speaker 1: enhance the experience and make a more impactful meaning for
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  Speaker 1: your message. And number four, it helps to resolve conflict.
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  Speaker 1: O my job, I talk to people ten hours a day.
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  Speaker 1: My tone when they call sets the stage for that conversation.
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  Speaker 1: If they call me and I don't feel like I
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  Speaker 1: want to. If they hear in my voice that I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to be bothered, or I'm just there for
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  Speaker 1: a paycheck or whatever, guess what's gonna happen. They either
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  Speaker 1: go treat me as such a hang up and call back.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't hurt anything to be pleasant, to have a
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  Speaker 1: calm tone, to have great energy so that people can
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  Speaker 1: adapt that because energy is contagious, y'all. So when we
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  Speaker 1: effectively communicate, we can resolve conflicts before they even become conflicts,
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  Speaker 1: because most people just looking for someone to listen and
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  Speaker 1: understand and see where they're coming from and not try
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  Speaker 1: to rush them or make them feel like their situation
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  Speaker 1: is not important. I've been there, done that doesn't feel good.
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  Speaker 1: I try my best now to put myself in situations
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  Speaker 1: so that I can lead with compassion and empathy as
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  Speaker 1: a human being. Kindness don't hurt anybody. Practice that. So
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  Speaker 1: number five, it increases engagement and responsiveness. People respond to
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  Speaker 1: people who they want to talk to. If you are cold,
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  Speaker 1: are harsh, are mean? Do you think somebody want to
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  Speaker 1: have a conversation with you? Nine times out of ten
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  Speaker 1: you got somebody in the room rolling their eyes at you,
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  Speaker 1: playing on their phone, messing with their nails, or looking
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  Speaker 1: sideways or looking at you with the stink look like,
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  Speaker 1: would you hurry up and sit down because I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to hear nothing that you say. You're a mean
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  Speaker 1: and I don't respect you, and no one likes you,
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  Speaker 1: so we're done with this conversation. A tone that is
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  Speaker 1: encouraging and positive can actively cause people to participate and
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  Speaker 1: respond in the things that you're saying. A motivating and
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  Speaker 1: inclusive tone will inspire others to contribute and participate. We
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  Speaker 1: have all had this one teacher that was monotone that
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  Speaker 1: was boring that we just did not want to go
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  Speaker 1: to their class. We remember those teachers because we didn't
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  Speaker 1: like the way that teacher made us feel when we
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  Speaker 1: went in the environment. We also have those teachers that
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  Speaker 1: was live and vibrant and inclusive and they just loved
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  Speaker 1: what they did and it showed in the way that
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  Speaker 1: they conveyed the message or the lessons that they were
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  Speaker 1: teaching us that day. We remember those conversations. We remember
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  Speaker 1: those teachers as well. Same thing with tone and communication,
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  Speaker 1: people will always remember how you made them feel. Making
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  Speaker 1: sure that people are engaging openly or give them the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to engage openly with your pleasantries. It creates a
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  Speaker 1: great experience for everyone involved. Number six is it supports
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  Speaker 1: relationship building. Having the right tone when you're talking to
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  Speaker 1: your people matters. We don't know what we will face
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  Speaker 1: when we leave our homes. We don't know what people
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  Speaker 1: have faced when they are at home, what they escaped
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  Speaker 1: when they come to work or school or whatever. So
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  Speaker 1: show respect and empathy toward people, whether it's in a
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  Speaker 1: personal relationship, friendship, for first professional relationship, or what have.
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  Speaker 1: You Just offer a smile, give a compliment. It don't
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  Speaker 1: cost you nothing. Hey, you have a nice smile. Oh
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  Speaker 1: I like those shoes you're wearing. I love the color
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  Speaker 1: of your hair. That will can can open up a
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  Speaker 1: conversation to have someone vent, to help someone see that
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  Speaker 1: life is not as hard as you think it is.
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  Speaker 1: You just needed a little bit of reassurance from someone
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  Speaker 1: who came into your space. Knowing how to communicate and
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  Speaker 1: have them that correct tongue can strengthen bonds in relationships
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  Speaker 1: and promote a sense of community. I have people that
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  Speaker 1: I've never met in my life, and they are like
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  Speaker 1: sisters and brothers. To me because we have formed this
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  Speaker 1: community where we can communicate with each other effectively and
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  Speaker 1: openly and honestly without judgment. We can be transparent with
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  Speaker 1: each other. When I'm down, I know that they got
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  Speaker 1: me same thing. It's all about the way that I
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  Speaker 1: set the intentions with the communication, and how my tone
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  Speaker 1: delivered the message that I wanted them to receive. There
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  Speaker 1: is life and death in the tongue, So be mindful
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  Speaker 1: of how you make people feel. Be mindyful how you
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  Speaker 1: make yourself feel, because this is just not for having relationships.
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  Speaker 1: The best relationship that one can have is with themselves.
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  Speaker 1: So you set the stage for every other relationship that
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  Speaker 1: you will have moving forward by the way that you
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  Speaker 1: treat yourself. People can tell how you treat yourself by
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  Speaker 1: the way that you walk, by the way that you glanced,
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  Speaker 1: by the way that you dress, by the way that
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  Speaker 1: you stand, by the way that you have looks on
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  Speaker 1: your face, by your smile. I have talked to people
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  Speaker 1: every day, and I can tell the ones who have
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  Speaker 1: a genuine soul about themselves, and I making my business
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  Speaker 1: to tell them, Stay cool, stay who you are, stay
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  Speaker 1: the lovable person that I hear in your voice. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I talked to a couple a couple of months ago
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  Speaker 1: and both of them they one person was talking to
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  Speaker 1: me and the other one was on speakerphone. And by
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  Speaker 1: the end of the conversation, she had winning their kitchen
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  Speaker 1: and picked up the other phone. Yeah, they was on
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  Speaker 1: the landline. It was funny, and I was having a conversation,
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  Speaker 1: a three way conversation with the husband, the wife and myself,
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  Speaker 1: and we just laughed and talked and we had the
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  Speaker 1: most amazing time and we wished each other well. We
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  Speaker 1: laughed and we got on off the phone. But I
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  Speaker 1: remembered that conversation because I'm telling y'all about it now
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  Speaker 1: and it was months ago, So people will remember how
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  Speaker 1: you made them feel. When it comes to effectively communicating
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  Speaker 1: in the tone that you set, a receptive tone goes
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  Speaker 1: a long way, especially when you're talking to someone who
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  Speaker 1: has healed and they ain't about that BS in their lives.
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  Speaker 1: You're not gonna talk to me any kind of way.
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  Speaker 1: So if you think that that's what this is, you
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  Speaker 1: could keep it moving. And number seven, guys, having the
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  Speaker 1: correct tone reflects professionalism and competence. A polished and appropriate
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  Speaker 1: tone tells your counterparts, the coworkers, whatever, that you are competent,
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  Speaker 1: you are confidence, you are a professional, you know what
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  Speaker 1: you're talking about. You deserve to be in this space,
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  Speaker 1: and they are going to listen to what you have
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  Speaker 1: to say because of those things that your tone is
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  Speaker 1: telling them about you. Before you even get into the
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  Speaker 1: importance of your message or your speech, or your listen
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  Speaker 1: or whatever it is, This right here can enhance your
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  Speaker 1: reputation in your professionalism. People will talk about you when
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  Speaker 1: you finish talking about what you're talking about. I have
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  Speaker 1: gone and been speakers at churches in different events, and
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  Speaker 1: I have heard people say your name preceides you. It's
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  Speaker 1: a great feeling. And I'm not bragging. It is what
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  Speaker 1: it is. It didn't happen overnight because I was once broken.
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  Speaker 1: I was once the person believed in theyself, who didn't
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  Speaker 1: love their self. So I was just a shell of
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  Speaker 1: a person. But when I realized whose I am and
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  Speaker 1: that that being was put on earth. This being was
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  Speaker 1: put on earth with the purpose to help others, to
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  Speaker 1: encourage others to pour into others. Man listen season eight
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  Speaker 1: of the podcast, and I don't see myself stopping at
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  Speaker 1: any moment. I don't see myself stopping. I love it.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care if I only reach one or two people.
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  Speaker 1: I have done my job and I know a lot
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  Speaker 1: of people like numbers and stuff like that, and numbers
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  Speaker 1: are good when you are trying to get sponsorship and
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  Speaker 1: you know, build up community, a content community and things
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  Speaker 1: like that. But you have to put into work. You
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  Speaker 1: have to be in sinstant. You have to offer value,
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  Speaker 1: and you have to let people know that I am
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  Speaker 1: who I am. Every time that you turn on kicking
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  Speaker 1: it with Kiki, this is who you're gonna get. The
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  Speaker 1: little girl from Greensburg, Louisiana who loves to talk and
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  Speaker 1: pour into people in a positive way. The next time
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  Speaker 1: that you are having a conversation with someone, just remember
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  Speaker 1: to set your expectations high so that understanding can be
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  Speaker 1: the overall goal. So that the person that you're having
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  Speaker 1: a conversation with feel seen and heard, that their voice
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  Speaker 1: is safe and you are giving it wings to fly.
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  Speaker 1: And I promise you the relationships you have will grow.
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  Speaker 1: The people who are not supposed to be in your
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  Speaker 1: life will eventually counsel themselves out. Leave with love, lead
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  Speaker 1: with empathy, lead with intention, and just be kind and
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  Speaker 1: any conversation that you have, even if it's a hostile conversation,
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  Speaker 1: it will not be hostile if you do those things
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  Speaker 1: and set your tone so that people can understand yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but yeah, And if you don't know what I just said,
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  Speaker 1: you got the right one today. And I can speak
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  Speaker 1: to someone just like you. Hear me speaking right now,
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  Speaker 1: be very firm on what I'm trying to convey. Not
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  Speaker 1: use a curse word or demeaning word or anything else.
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  Speaker 1: But that person will respect me by the time that
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  Speaker 1: we finish the conversation because of my integrity, because of
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  Speaker 1: my tone, because of the confidence, and because that I
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  Speaker 1: understand that sometimes it is not about me. Sometimes that
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  Speaker 1: person has had a bad day because bad shit just
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  Speaker 1: has happened to them and they don't know how to
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  Speaker 1: let that go or shake it off and move on
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  Speaker 1: to the next thing. Hurt people, hurt people. Do you
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  Speaker 1: know how many people don't have somebody to talk to?
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  Speaker 1: And if you have somebody in your life that you
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  Speaker 1: can talk to and you choose not to talk to them,
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  Speaker 1: shame on you. Shame on you, because at some point
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  Speaker 1: you need to grow up and understand that, yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: may not have had the space to communicate openly and
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  Speaker 1: effectively and honestly and transparent or whatever. As a kid,
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  Speaker 1: my parents didn't let me talk or whatever. You are
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  Speaker 1: grown as hell, your parents are grown. It's time to
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  Speaker 1: move on and let go. People did what they could
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  Speaker 1: do because that's all they saw, or that that's all
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  Speaker 1: they were able to give. It is hard out here, guys.
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  Speaker 1: It is hard, and us contributing to the madness is unnecessary.
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  Speaker 1: So all I want to say in closing, and I
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  Speaker 1: want to thank you for tuning in to another episode
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  Speaker 1: of Kicking that wikiki communication has to happen. We are
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  Speaker 1: not here to go through life alone. And it's okay
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  Speaker 1: to sometimes talk to yourself because sometimes we have to
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  Speaker 1: check ourselves before we wreck ourselves. And I know I
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  Speaker 1: just told my age, but whatever, But just move with intention, man,
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  Speaker 1: move the way that you want to be that you
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  Speaker 1: want people to see you, and everything else will be okay.
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  Speaker 1: Trust God, trust the process, and trust yourself. If you
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  Speaker 1: do those three things, any conversation that you have would
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  Speaker 1: be an effective one. Just set your tone, set the expectations,
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  Speaker 1: and enjoy. Enjoy the time that we have with each other.
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  Speaker 1: And I hate to get a little sentimental but people
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  Speaker 1: are leaving here. You see them one minute and the
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  Speaker 1: next couple of hours you hear that they are no
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  Speaker 1: longer with us. And it is crazy, but it's life.
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  Speaker 1: Is something that we all must bear. Yes, it's hard,
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  Speaker 1: but that should motivate us even more to just be
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  Speaker 1: in the moment with each other, speak with each other
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  Speaker 1: in love and compassion, and shake all that other shit off.
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  Speaker 1: It's unnecessary and it ain't doing up and hurting hurting
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  Speaker 1: you in the long run, it's turned down relationships and
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  Speaker 1: we don't need that, especially in the family. So with
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  Speaker 1: that being said, you got us have been listening to
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  Speaker 1: another episode of Kicking a Wikiki Life, Love and all
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