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10 Ways HOW Kindness WILL RUIN Your Life · Stoiq

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  Speaker 1: Have you ever been too nice for your own good?
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  Speaker 1: If you are like most people, you probably think that
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  Speaker 1: kindness is a virtue and that being kind to others
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  Speaker 1: is always a good thing. But what if I told
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  Speaker 1: you that kindness can also ruin your life? Yes, you
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  Speaker 1: heard me right. Being too kind can have serious negative
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  Speaker 1: consequences for your well being, happiness, and success. For example,
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  Speaker 1: you might be taken advantage of, lose respect, feel guilty,
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  Speaker 1: or compromise your values. In this video, I will show
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  Speaker 1: you ten ways how kindness will ruin your life. Don't worry,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not telling you to stop being kind, but rather
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  Speaker 1: to be more mindful and selective about when and how
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  Speaker 1: to show kindness. So if you want to learn how
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  Speaker 1: to balance kindness with wisdom, stay tuned and watch this
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  Speaker 1: video until the end, and don't forget to comment, like,
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  Speaker 1: One kindness will make you a doormat. Imagine that you
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  Speaker 1: are walking on the street and you see a homeless
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  Speaker 1: person asking for money. You feel sorry for him, and
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  Speaker 1: you decide to give him some change, But then he
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  Speaker 1: asks for more and more and more until you have
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  Speaker 1: nothing left in your wallet. How would you feel. This
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  Speaker 1: is an extreme example, but it illustrates how being too
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  Speaker 1: kind can make you a doormat. A doormat is someone
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  Speaker 1: who lets other people walk all over them without standing
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  Speaker 1: up for themselves or their rights. A doormat is someone
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  Speaker 1: who has no self respect or boundaries, and who always
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  Speaker 1: puts other people's needs before their own. Being a doormat
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  Speaker 1: can have many negative consequences for your life. For instance,
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  Speaker 1: you might lose your identity and sense of self worth
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  Speaker 1: as you always conform to other people expectations and opinions.
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  Speaker 1: Feel resentful and angry as you never get what you
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  Speaker 1: want or need from others, attract abusive and manipulative people
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  Speaker 1: who will exploit your kindness and generosity. Miss out on
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  Speaker 1: opportunities and experiences as you always say yes to everything
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  Speaker 1: even if it doesn't align with your goals or values.
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  Speaker 1: Suffer from stress and burnout as you take on too
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  Speaker 1: much responsibility and workload without asking for help or support.
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  Speaker 1: So how can you avoid being a doormat and still
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  Speaker 1: be kind? Here are some tips. Learn to say no.
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  Speaker 1: Saying no is not rude or selfish. It is a
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  Speaker 1: way of respecting yourself and your limits. You can say
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  Speaker 1: no politely and firmly without feeling guilty or apologetic. Set
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  Speaker 1: healthy boundaries. Boundaries are the rules and limits that you
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  Speaker 1: set for yourself and others to protect your well being
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  Speaker 1: and happiness. You can communicate your boundaries clearly and calmly
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  Speaker 1: without being aggressive or defensive. Assert yourself. Assertiveness is the
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  Speaker 1: ability to express your feelings, opinions, and needs without violating
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  Speaker 1: the rights of others. You can be assertive without being
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  Speaker 1: rude or arrogant by using eye statements such as I feel,
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  Speaker 1: I think, or I need respect yourself. Self respect is
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  Speaker 1: the recognition of your own worth and dignity, regardless of
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  Speaker 1: what others think or say. You can respect yourself by
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  Speaker 1: taking care of your physical, mental, and emotional health, and
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  Speaker 1: by pursuing your passions and interests. By following these tips,
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  Speaker 1: you can be kind without being a doormat. You can
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  Speaker 1: be kind without losing your self respect and boundaries. Now
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  Speaker 1: let's move on to the next way. How kindness will
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  Speaker 1: ruin your life. Two Kindness will make you a pushover.
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  Speaker 1: Imagine that you are at work and your boss asks
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  Speaker 1: you to do a project that is not part of
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  Speaker 1: your job description. You don't have the time, the skills
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  Speaker 1: or the interest to do it, but you don't want
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  Speaker 1: to disappoint your boss, so you agree to do it,
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  Speaker 1: even though it means working over time, neglecting your other tasks,
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  Speaker 1: and stressing yourself out. How would you feel? This is
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  Speaker 1: another example of how being too kind can make you
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  Speaker 1: a pushover. A pushover is someone who always gives in
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  Speaker 1: to other people's demands and expectations without considering their own
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  Speaker 1: preferences and priorities. A pushover is someone who has no
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  Speaker 1: backbone or courage and who always does what are want
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  Speaker 1: them to do. Being a pushover can have many negative
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  Speaker 1: consequences for your life. You might lose your autonomy and
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  Speaker 1: freedom as you always follow other people's agendas and plans.
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  Speaker 1: Feel frustrated and dissatisfied as you never pursue your own
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  Speaker 1: goals and dreams. Lose your credibility and respect as you
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  Speaker 1: never stand up for yourself or your opinions. Compromise your
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  Speaker 1: quality and performance as you take on more than you
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  Speaker 1: can handle and do things that you are not good
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  Speaker 1: at or passionate about. Damage your relationships and reputation as
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  Speaker 1: you become unreliable, inconsistent, and dishonest. So how can you
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  Speaker 1: avoid being a pushover and still be kind. Here are
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  Speaker 1: some tips. Learn to say yes to yourself. Saying yes
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  Speaker 1: to yourself is not selfish or arrogant. It is a
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  Speaker 1: way of honoring yourself and your values. You can say
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  Speaker 1: ye as to yourself by choosing what makes you happy
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  Speaker 1: and fulfilled, and by pursuing your own passions and interests.
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  Speaker 1: Learn to negotiate. Negotiating is not rude or greedy. It
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  Speaker 1: is a way of finding a win win solution for
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  Speaker 1: both parties. You can negotiate by expressing your needs and
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  Speaker 1: wants and by listening to the other person's needs and wants,
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  Speaker 1: and by finding a common ground or a compromise. Learn
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  Speaker 1: to delegate. Delegating is not lazy or irresponsible. It is
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  Speaker 1: a way of managing your time and resources effectively. You
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  Speaker 1: can delegate by identifying the tasks that you can or
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  Speaker 1: should do, and by assigning the tasks that you can't
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  Speaker 1: or shouldn't do to someone else who can or should
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  Speaker 1: do them. Learn to respect yourself. Respecting yourself is not
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  Speaker 1: prideful or stubborn. It is a way of acknowledging your
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  Speaker 1: own worth and abilities. You can respect yourself by setting
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  Speaker 1: realistic and achievable goals and by celebrating your achievements and successes.
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  Speaker 1: By following these tips, you can be kind without being
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  Speaker 1: a pushover. You can be kind without losing your autonomy
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  Speaker 1: and freedom. Let's continue with the next way how kindness
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  Speaker 1: will ruin your life. Three Kindness will make you a martyr.
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  Speaker 1: Imagine that you are at home and your family asks
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  Speaker 1: you to do a favor for them. You don't mind
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  Speaker 1: helping them out, but you also have some important things
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  Speaker 1: to do for yourself. But you don't want to let
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  Speaker 1: them down, so you agree to do the favor, even
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  Speaker 1: though it means sacrificing your own plans, hobbies, and interests.
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  Speaker 1: How would you feel? This is yet another example of
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  Speaker 1: how being too kind can make you a martyr. A
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  Speaker 1: martyr is someone who always sacrifices their own needs and
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  Speaker 1: happiness for others without expecting anything in return. A martyr
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  Speaker 1: is someone who has no self love or self care,
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  Speaker 1: and who always puts other people's happiness before their own.
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  Speaker 1: Being a martyr can have many negative consequences for your life.
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  Speaker 1: You might lose your joy and passion as you always
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  Speaker 1: neglect your own plans, hobbies, and interests, feel depressed and
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  Speaker 1: hopeless as you never experience any fulfillment or satisfaction from
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  Speaker 1: your own actions. Attract needy and demanding people who will
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  Speaker 1: drain your energy and resources and never appreciate your efforts.
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  Speaker 1: Miss out on opportunities and experiences as you always put
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  Speaker 1: other people's priorities before your own. Suffer from health problems
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  Speaker 1: as you ignore your own physical, mental, and emotional needs
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  Speaker 1: and never seek help or support. So how can you
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  Speaker 1: avoid being a martyr and still be kind? Here are
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  Speaker 1: some tips. Learn to love yourself. Loving yourself is not
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  Speaker 1: selfish or narcissistic. It is a way of accepting yourself
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  Speaker 1: and your values. You can love yourself by being grateful
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  Speaker 1: for what you have and by being proud of who
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  Speaker 1: you are. Learn to balance. Balancing is not selfish or indifferent.
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  Speaker 1: It is a way of finding harmony between your own
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  Speaker 1: needs and happiness and those of others. You can balance
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  Speaker 1: by giving and receiving and by helping and being helped.
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  Speaker 1: Learn to prioritize. Prioritizing is not selfish or rude. It
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  Speaker 1: is a way of managing your time and resources effectively.
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  Speaker 1: You can prioritize by identifying what is important and urgent,
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  Speaker 1: and by focusing on what matters most to you and others,
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  Speaker 1: learn to care for yourself. Caring for you yourself is
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  Speaker 1: not selfish or lazy. It is a way of maintaining
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  Speaker 1: your well being and happiness. You can care for yourself
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  Speaker 1: by taking breaks, relaxing, and having fun. By following these tips,
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  Speaker 1: you can be kind without being a martyr. You can
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  Speaker 1: be kind without losing your joy and passion. Now let's
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  Speaker 1: move on to the next way. How kindness will ruin
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  Speaker 1: your life. Four Kindness will make you a liar. Imagine
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  Speaker 1: that you are at a party and your friend asks
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  Speaker 1: you to give your honest opinion about their new outfit.
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  Speaker 1: You don't like it at all, but you don't want
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  Speaker 1: to hurt their feelings, so you lie and say that
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  Speaker 1: it looks great, even though it doesn't suit them at all.
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  Speaker 1: How would you feel? This is one more example of
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  Speaker 1: how being too kind can make you a liar. A
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  Speaker 1: lie there is someone who always hides their true feelings
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  Speaker 1: and opinions without being authentic or sincere. A liar is
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  Speaker 1: someone who has no integrity or honesty, and who always
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  Speaker 1: says what others want to hear. Being a liar can
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  Speaker 1: have many negative consequences for your life. You might lose
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  Speaker 1: your identity and sense of self as you always pretend
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  Speaker 1: to be someone you are not. Feel guilty and ashamed
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  Speaker 1: as you always betray your own values and principles. Lose
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  Speaker 1: your trust and respect as you always deceive and manipulate others.
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  Speaker 1: Miss out on opportunities and experiences as you always avoid
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  Speaker 1: conflicts and challenges. Damage your relationships and reputation as you
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  Speaker 1: become unreliable, inconsistent, and dishonest. So how can you avoid
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  Speaker 1: being a liar and still be kind? Here are some tips.
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  Speaker 1: Learn to be honest. Being honest is not harmful or offensive.
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  Speaker 1: It is a way of being respectful and responsible. You
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  Speaker 1: can be honest without being rude or arrogant by using
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  Speaker 1: I statements such as I feel, I think, or I prefer.
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  Speaker 1: Learn to be tactful. Being tactful is not dishonest or manipulative.
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  Speaker 1: It is a way of being considerate and diplomatic. You
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  Speaker 1: can be tactful without being fake or insincere by using
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  Speaker 1: positive and constructive feedback such as I like, I suggest,
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  Speaker 1: or I appreciate. Learn to be courageous. Being courageous is
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  Speaker 1: not reckless or irresponsible. It is a way of being
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  Speaker 1: confident and assertive. You can be courageous without being foolish
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  Speaker 1: or impulsive by using logic and evidence such as I know,
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  Speaker 1: I believe, or I can learn to be yourself. Being
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  Speaker 1: yourself is not selfish or stubborn. It is a way
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  Speaker 1: of being authentic and unique. You can be yourself without
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  Speaker 1: being isolated or alienated by using empathy and humor such
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  Speaker 1: as I understand, I relate, or I joke. By following
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  Speaker 1: these tips, you can be kind without being a liar.
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  Speaker 1: You can be kind without losing your integrity and honesty.
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  Speaker 1: Let's continue with the next way, How kindness will ruin
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  Speaker 1: your life? Five Kindness will make you a fool. Imagine
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  Speaker 1: that you are on line and you see an advertisement
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  Speaker 1: for a product that promises to solve all your problems.
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  Speaker 1: You are skeptical, but you also want to give it
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  Speaker 1: a chance, so you click on the link and you
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  Speaker 1: enter your personal and financial information. But then you realize
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  Speaker 1: that it was a scam and you just lost your
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  Speaker 1: money and your identity. How would you feel? This is
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  Speaker 1: another example of how being too kind can make you
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  Speaker 1: a fool. A fool is someone who always trusts people
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  Speaker 1: who don't deserve it without being cautious or skeptical. A
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  Speaker 1: fool is someone who has no wisdom or discernment and
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  Speaker 1: who always falls for tricks and traps. Being a fool
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  Speaker 1: can have many negative consequences for your life. You might
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  Speaker 1: lose your money and resources as you always waste them
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  Speaker 1: on things that are not worth it. Feel embarrassed and
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  Speaker 1: humiliated as you always make mistakes and blunders. Lose your
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  Speaker 1: safety and security as you always expose yourself to risks
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  Speaker 1: and dangers. Miss out on opportunities and experiences as you
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  Speaker 1: always settle for less than you deserve. Damage your relationships
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  Speaker 1: and reputation as you become gullible, nai eve, and foolish.
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  Speaker 1: So how can you avoid being a fool and still
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  Speaker 1: be kind? Here are some tips learned to be skeptical.
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  Speaker 1: Being skeptical is not cynical or paranoid. It is a
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  Speaker 1: way of being curious and critical. You can be skeptical
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  Speaker 1: without being negative or hostile by using questions and doubts
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  Speaker 1: such as why, how, or what if? Learn to be informed.
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  Speaker 1: Being informed is not boring or tedious. It is a
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  Speaker 1: way of being knowledgeable and aware. You can be informed
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  Speaker 1: without being overwhelmed or confused by using sources and facts
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  Speaker 1: such as who, what, or when? Learned to be prudent.
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  Speaker 1: Being prudent is not timid or cowardly. It is a
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  Speaker 1: way of being careful and sensible. You can be prudent
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  Speaker 1: without being fearful or hesitant by using rules and limits
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  Speaker 1: such as do, don't, or should learn to be smart,
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  Speaker 1: Being smart is not arrogant or conceited. It is a
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  Speaker 1: way of being intelligent and clever. You can be smart
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  Speaker 1: without being isolated or alienated by using skills and strategies
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  Speaker 1: such as can, will, or how. By following these tips,
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  Speaker 1: you can be kind without being a fool. You can
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  Speaker 1: be kind without losing your wisdom and discernment. Now let's
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  Speaker 1: move on to the next way how kindness will ruin
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  Speaker 1: your life. Six Kindness will make you a bore. Imagine
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  Speaker 1: that you are on a date and your partner asks
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  Speaker 1: you to tell them something interesting about yourself. You don't
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  Speaker 1: have anything to say because you never do anything interesting.
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  Speaker 1: You always do what others expect you to do, and
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  Speaker 1: you never try anything new or different. How would you feel?
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  Speaker 1: This is one more example of how being too kind
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  Speaker 1: can make you a bore. A bore is someone who
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  Speaker 1: always does the same thing without being spontaneous or adventurous.
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  Speaker 1: A bore is someone who has no fun or excitement
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  Speaker 1: and who always follows the rules and routines. Being a
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  Speaker 1: bore can have many negative consequences for your life. You
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  Speaker 1: might lose your creativity and passion as you always stick
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  Speaker 1: to what you know and you never explore or experiment.
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  Speaker 1: Feel bored and unhappy as you never experience any joy
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  Speaker 1: or satisfaction from your own actions. Lose your attractiveness and
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  Speaker 1: charm as you never impress or surprise others. Miss out
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  Speaker 1: on opportunities and experiences as you never take risks or challenges.
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  Speaker 1: Damage your relationships and reputation as you become dull, predictable,
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  Speaker 1: and boring. So how can you avoid being a bore
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  Speaker 1: and still be kind? Here are some tips. Learn to
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  Speaker 1: be spontaneous. Being spontaneous is not reckless or irresponsible. It
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  Speaker 1: is a way of being flexible and adaptable. You can
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  Speaker 1: be spontaneous without being impulsive or irrational by using intuition
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  Speaker 1: and instinct such as I feel, I want, or I wonder.
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  Speaker 1: Learn to be adventurous. Being adventurous is not dangerous or foolish.
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  Speaker 1: It is a way of being curious and brave. You
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  Speaker 1: can be adventurous without being risky or careless by using
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  Speaker 1: preparation and caution such as I plan, I check, or
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  Speaker 1: I watch. Learn to be fun. Being fun is not
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  Speaker 1: childish or immature. It is a way of being playful
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  Speaker 1: and joyful. You can be fun without being silly or
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  Speaker 1: annoying by using humor and creativity such as I joke,
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  Speaker 1: I imagine, or I create. Learn to be yourself. Being
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  Speaker 1: yourself is not selfish or stubborn. It is a way
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  Speaker 1: of being authentic and unique. You can be yourself without
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  Speaker 1: being isolated or alienated by using empathy and humor such
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  Speaker 1: as I understand, I relate, or I joke. By following
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  Speaker 1: these tips, you can be kind without being a bore.
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  Speaker 1: You can be kind without losing your fun and excitement.
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  Speaker 1: Let's continue with the next way How kindness will ruin
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  Speaker 1: your life? Seven Kindness will make you a loser. Imagine
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  Speaker 1: that you are in a competition and your opponent is
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  Speaker 1: clearly better than you. You don't want to be rude
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  Speaker 1: or mean, so you decide to let them win, even
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  Speaker 1: though you have worked hard and prepared well. How would
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  Speaker 1: you feel. This is another example of how being too
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  Speaker 1: kind can make you a loser. A loser is someone
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  Speaker 1: who always gives up or gives in without being competitive
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  Speaker 1: or ambitious. A loser is someone who has no goals
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  Speaker 1: or achievements and who always settles for less than they deserve.
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  Speaker 1: Being a loser can have many negative consequences for your life.
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  Speaker 1: You might lose your motivation and drive as you always
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  Speaker 1: accept defeat and failure and you never strive for success
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  Speaker 1: and excellence. Feel inferior and insecure as you always compare
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  Speaker 1: yourself to others and you never appreciate your own strengths
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  Speaker 1: and talents. Lose your opportunities and rewards as you always
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  Speaker 1: let others take what you want and need and you
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  Speaker 1: never claim what you deserve and earn. Miss out on
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  Speaker 1: opportunities and experiences as you always avoid conflicts and challenges
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  Speaker 1: and you never face or overcome them. Damage your relationships
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  Speaker 1: and reputation as you become passive, submissive, and unassertive. So
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  Speaker 1: how can you avoid being a loser and still be kind?
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  Speaker 1: Here are some tips learn to be competitive. Being competitive
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  Speaker 1: is not greedy or ruthless. It is a way of
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  Speaker 1: being motivated and driven. You can be competitive without being
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  Speaker 1: unfair or aggressive by using rules and ethics such as
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  Speaker 1: I follow, I respect, or I honor. Learn to be ambitious.
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  Speaker 1: Being ambitious is not arrogant or conceited. It is a
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  Speaker 1: way of being confident and assertive. You can be ambitious
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  Speaker 1: without being isolated or alienated by using goals and achievements
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  Speaker 1: such as I want, I can, or I did. Learn
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  Speaker 1: to be proud. Being proud is not prideful or stubborn.
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  Speaker 1: It is a way of being grateful and satisfied. You
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  Speaker 1: can be proud without being both full or arrogant by
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  Speaker 1: using appreciation and recognition such as I thank, I praise,
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  Speaker 1: or I congratulate. Learn to be a winner. Being a
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  Speaker 1: winner is not selfish or mean. It is a way
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  Speaker 1: of being successful and excellent. You can be a winner
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  Speaker 1: without being a loser by using kindness and generosity such
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  Speaker 1: as I share, I help, or I inspire. By following
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  Speaker 1: these tips, you can be kind without being a loser.
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  Speaker 1: You can be kind without losing your motivation and drive.
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  Speaker 1: Now let's move on to the next way. How kindness
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  Speaker 1: will ruin your life. Eight Kindness will make you a hater.
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  Speaker 1: Imagine that you are in a relationship and your partner
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  Speaker 1: cheats on you. You are hurt and angry, But you
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  Speaker 1: don't want to be unkind or vengeful, so you forgive
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  Speaker 1: them and you try to make things work. But then
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  Speaker 1: they cheat on you again and again and again. How
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  Speaker 1: would you feel? This is yet another example of how
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  Speaker 1: being too kind can make you a hater. A hater
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  Speaker 1: is someone who always resents and blames others without being
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  Speaker 1: forgiving and compassionate. A hater is someone who has no
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  Speaker 1: peace or harmony and who always holds grudges and bitterness.
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  Speaker 1: Being a hater can have many negative consequences for your life.
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  Speaker 1: You might lose your love and happiness as you always
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  Speaker 1: focus on the negative aspects of others and you never
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  Speaker 1: appreciate their positive qualities. Feel angry and miserable as you
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  Speaker 1: always dwell on the past and the future and you
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  Speaker 1: never live in the present. Lose your health and well
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  Speaker 1: being as you always release stress hormones and toxins and
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  Speaker 1: you never heal or recover. Miss out on opportunities and
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  Speaker 1: experiences as you always avoid or reject others and you
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  Speaker 1: never connect or collaborate with them. Damage your relationships and
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  Speaker 1: reputation as you become hostile, aggressive, and violent. So how
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  Speaker 1: can you avoid being a hater and still be kind.
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  Speaker 1: Here are some tips. Learn to forgive. Forgiving is not
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  Speaker 1: weak or naive. It is a way of being strong
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  Speaker 1: and wise. You can forgive without forgetting or condoning by
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  Speaker 1: using empathy and understanding such as I feel, I know,
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  Speaker 1: or I accept. Learn to let go. Letting go is
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  Speaker 1: not cowardly or indifferent. It is a way of being
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  Speaker 1: courageous and free. You can let go without giving up
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  Speaker 1: or giving in by using detachment and acceptance such as
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  Speaker 1: I release, I allow, or I surrender. Learn to heal.
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  Speaker 1: Healing is not selfish or It is a way of
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  Speaker 1: being caring and responsible. You can heal without isolating or
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  Speaker 1: ignoring by using support and help such as I seek,
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  Speaker 1: I receive, or I give. Learn to love. Loving is
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  Speaker 1: not foolish or blind. It is a way of being
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  Speaker 1: wise and kind. You can love without being a hater
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  Speaker 1: by using kindness and compassion such as I understand, I forgive,
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  Speaker 1: or I wish. By following these tips, you can be
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  Speaker 1: kind without being a hater. You can be kind without
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  Speaker 1: losing your peace and harmony. Let's continue with the next way.
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  Speaker 1: How kindness will ruin your life. Nine Kindness will make
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  Speaker 1: you a slave. Imagine that you are in a group
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  Speaker 1: and your leader asks you to do something that goes
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  Speaker 1: against your values and principles. You don't agree with it,
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  Speaker 1: but you don't want to be unkind or rebellious, so
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  Speaker 1: you obey and do what they say, even though it
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  Speaker 1: hurts you and others. How would you feel? This is
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  Speaker 1: one more example of how being too kind can make
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  Speaker 1: you a slave. A slave is someone who always depends
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  Speaker 1: and submits to others without being independent and assertive. A
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  Speaker 1: slave is someone who has no freedom or dignity, and
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  Speaker 1: who always does what others tell them to do. Being
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  Speaker 1: a slave can have many negative consequences for your life.
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  Speaker 1: You might lose your identity and sense of self as
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  Speaker 1: you always conform to other people's values and principles and
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  Speaker 1: you never follow your own. Feel guilty and ashamed as
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  Speaker 1: you always betray your own conscience and integrity and you
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  Speaker 1: never stand up for what is right. Lose your power
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  Speaker 1: and influence as you always give up your voice and
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  Speaker 1: choice and you never express your own opinions and preferences.
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  Speaker 1: Miss out on opportunities and experiences as you always follow
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  Speaker 1: other people's agendas and plans, and you never pursue your
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  Speaker 1: own goals and dreams damage your relationships and reputation as
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  Speaker 1: you become dependent, submissive, and unassertive. So how can you
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  Speaker 1: avoid being a slave and still be kind? Here are
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  Speaker 1: some tips. Learn to be independent. Being independent is not
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  Speaker 1: selfish or arrogant. It is a way of being self,
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  Speaker 1: reliant and responsible. You can be independent without being isolated
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  Speaker 1: or alienated by using autonomy and self determination such as
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  Speaker 1: I choose, I decide, or I act. Learn to be assertive.
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  Speaker 1: Being assertive is not rude or aggressive. It is a
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  Speaker 1: way of being confident and respectful. You can be asserted
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  Speaker 1: without being hostile or defensive by using I statements such
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  Speaker 1: as I feel, I think, or I need. Learn to
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  Speaker 1: be free. Being free is not reckless or irresponsible. It
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  Speaker 1: is a way of being authentic and courageous. You can
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  Speaker 1: be free without being careless or impulsive by using values
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  Speaker 1: and principles such as I believe, I stand, or I defend.
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  Speaker 1: Learn to be yourself. Being yourself is not selfish or stubborn.
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  Speaker 1: It is a way of being authentic and unique. You
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  Speaker 1: can be yourself without being a slave by using kindness
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  Speaker 1: and generosity such as I share, I help, or I inspire.
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  Speaker 1: By following these tips, you can be kind without being
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  Speaker 1: a slave. You can be kind without losing your freedom
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  Speaker 1: and dignity. Now let's move on to the next way
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  Speaker 1: how kindness will ruin your life. Ten kindness will make
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  Speaker 1: you a sinner. Imagine that you are in a situation
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  Speaker 1: and you have to choose between doing what is right
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  Speaker 1: and doing what is kind. You know what is right,
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  Speaker 1: but you also want to be kind, so you do
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  Speaker 1: what is kind even though it goes against what is right.
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  Speaker 1: How would you feel. This is the final example of
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  Speaker 1: how being too kind can make you a sinner. A
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  Speaker 1: sinner is someone who always compromises their values and principles
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  Speaker 1: without being loyal and consistent. A sinner is someone who
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  Speaker 1: has no morality or ethics, and who always does what
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  Speaker 1: is easy and convenient. Being a sinner can have many
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  Speaker 1: negative consequences for your life. You might lose your morality
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  Speaker 1: and ethics as you always violate your own conscience and
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  Speaker 1: integrity and you never follow your own values and principles.
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  Speaker 1: Feel guilty and ashamed as you always do what is
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  Speaker 1: wrong and harmful and you never do what is right
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  Speaker 1: and good. Lose your credibility and respect as you always
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  Speaker 1: deceive and manipulate others, and you never be honest and
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  Speaker 1: sincere miss out on opportunities and experiences as you always
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  Speaker 1: do what is safe and comfortable and you never do
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  Speaker 1: what is challenging and rewarding. Damage your relationships and reputation
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  Speaker 1: as you become unreliable, inconsistent, and dishonest. So how can
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  Speaker 1: you avoid being a sinner and still be kind? Here
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  Speaker 1: are some tips. Learn to be loyal. Being loyal is
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  Speaker 1: not rigid or dogmatic. It is a way of being
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  Speaker 1: faithful and trustworthy. You can be loyal without being blind
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  Speaker 1: or fanatical by using commitment and dedications such as I promise,
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  Speaker 1: I honor, or I fulfill. Learn to be consistent. Being
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  Speaker 1: consistent is not boring or tedious. It is a way
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  Speaker 1: of being reliable and dependable. You can be consistent without
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  Speaker 1: being dull or predictable by using logic and evidence such
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  Speaker 1: as I know, I believe, or I prove. Learn to
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  Speaker 1: be good. Being good is not naive or gullible. It
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  Speaker 1: is a way of being moral and ethical. You can
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  Speaker 1: be good without being a sinner by using kindness and
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  Speaker 1: generosity such as I share, I help, or I inspire.
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  Speaker 1: Learn to be yourself. Being yourself is not selfish or stubborn.
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  Speaker 1: It is a way of being authentic and unique. You
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  Speaker 1: can be yourself without being a sinner by using values
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  Speaker 1: and principles such as I believe, I stand, or I defend.
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  Speaker 1: By following these tips, you can be kind without being
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  Speaker 1: a sinner. You can be kind without losing your morality
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  Speaker 1: and ethics. This concludes the ten ways how kindness will
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