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What happens when Narcissists are in positions of power · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about narcissists in positions
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  of power. How do narcissists treat you
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  when they are in a position of power, direct power over you,
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  like in the workplace or home, whatever it is.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a self aware narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  The Narcissist Code. Welcome back folks.
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  Yes, yes, yes. Narcissist in positions of
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  power. How do narcissist treat you
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  treat others when they have the positions of power like in the
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  workhouse and work workhouse workplace in situations like
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  that Because I know it can be super tough.
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  Y'all, before we hop deep into today's episode, y'all make sure
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  now. Yeah, it's a conversation
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  starter with your kids about toxic relationship dynamics and
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  things of that nature. But yes, y'all welcome, welcome,
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  welcome. Yes, yes, yes.
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  Narcissist in the positions of power.
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  What's going on? So first of all, most
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  narcissist, I ain't going to say every single narcissist.
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  I can't speak of all narcissist. Most narcissist want power and
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  control over their lives, especially in the workplace,
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  especially in the household and things like that.
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  So, so when they achieve this power, they really are still not
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  happy. That's, and that's one of the
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  most frustrating things right there.
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  I think a lot of people would automatically assume that
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  because a narcissist is in the position of power, like they
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  have this power dynamic. They're the boss, they're the
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  CEO or whatever, their supervisor at the workhouse,
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  workhouse, warehouse or something along those lines.
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  People assume that they are automatically happy and they're
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  just like, how can hold this power to control?
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  I, I, I'd have made it now, but it's not true narcissistic
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  people. The reason, like I said, that's
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  one of the most frustrating things, being a narcissist, when
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  you get that positions of power, when you have that power and
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  whatnot, you're still not happy and it's frustrating as hell.
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  So narcissist is in positions of power.
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  That's what they do. They take that anger and
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  frustration out on you. You get it.
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  Because I'm angry and frustrated at my life and whatever's going
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  on in my life, because I'm not happy with the position of power
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  that I have. I take it out on others.
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  Everybody else gets it. Everybody else is at fault here.
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  Because I'm not happy. Everybody else gets a piece of
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  my unhappiness, right. Because I'm unhappy.
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  Everybody gets this. Everybody gets hurt because I'm
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  unhappy with myself. They take their anger and
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  frustration out on you in the house, of course, but that's all
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  in the workplace. If you work for a narcissist,
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  you work with one that's just above you in power in the
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  warehouse or whatever workplace, office or whatever it is, they
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  will they going to take their frustrations out on you.
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  They will like you're going to get it.
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  They come like something bad happens to them at home.
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  They bring it to work. Not only is something that like,
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  not only is the opposite true, like the opposite is also true.
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  Like something bad happens to them at work, they come home.
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  They come home and take it out on, on the the the partners and
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  the kids. Whatever to say the opposite is
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  true. They have an unhappy home life
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  because they are making their house unhappy because they're
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  not satisfied with what they have at home.
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  They go to work and take it out on people beneath them in the
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  workplace. So if you work for a narcissist,
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  a lot of times they come to work angry as hell.
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  It is not even even your fault. They're not even angry at you.
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  They're angry at everybody else. But you get the brunt of it
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  because you are here. You get the brunt of it because
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  you are. You represent this dynamic.
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  You represent this section for them.
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  You represent this for them. So they take it out on you.
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  They do. That's one of the things that
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  continuously happens. They take their anger and their
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  frustration out on others in the workplace and and at home.
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  They have a bad day at work, they take it home.
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  They have a bad day at home, they take it to work.
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  And very rarely do they have good days.
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  You know what I mean? I mean, they have good days, but
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  they it's, it's it's few and far between them.
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  They obvious is happy go lucky. The happy go lucky days can make
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  you Lord, let your guard down. And then the next day or the
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  next hour after lunch, they come in there.
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  They come in there bombarding you with anger and frustration,
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  frustration and things like that.
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  Also narcissists in positions of power.
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  They take credit for your successes.
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  This is one of the things you probably hear other people talk
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  about, but they absolutely do. It's absolutely true.
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  They take credit for your successes.
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  Anything like even if they didn't help you, only thing,
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  they only thing they do, they're your supervisor, they're the
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  boss, the CEO, Anything that you accomplish, they're taking it
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  out on you. You know what I mean?
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  They're taking it out, taking it out, they're taking it out on
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  you. But like I said, the bad stuff,
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  they take it out on you, but the good stuff they're taking credit
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  for the company succeeds because you did something you, you came
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  up with a business plan, you came up with a project, you
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  created something. They take it out like they take
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  credit for it. Let's look at the work that I
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  have accomplished. They've removed your name from
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  projects and things of that nature.
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  And this could even be in school, be in school and things
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  like that. Like the project leader in
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  school, the head of the, the person in charge of the project
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  at school takes it, you know, takes credit for everything this
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  accomplished with said project at school.
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  This is a, this is a consistent thing that happens to a lot of
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  people and it sucks. Y'all, I'm not even trying to
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  say it doesn't suck. It sucks so bad to have to deal
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  with somebody like this. Who's consistently taking credit
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  for the things that you accomplished, Who's consistently
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  taking credit for the things that you have done?
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  Who's consistently taking credit for the things that you have
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  done? Who's consistently taking credit
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  for the things that you have done that you know your, your
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  hard ass work and they don't like.
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  If you try to ask for credit, they take it out and they here
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  comes the anger, here comes the frustration, here comes the
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  vitriol towards you because you just want credit for, for the
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  work that you've actually done. And guess what happens?
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  You ask for credit. They get angry as hell at you
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  and they take it out. They go home and they, because
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  they're in a position of power at home, they take it out on the
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  people at home. You see how this is a vicious
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  ass cycle that only the narcissist can really knock
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  themselves out of when they so if they so choose to.
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  This is one of the most frustrating dynamics that so
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  many people face right here. Like if they because you're
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  dealing with this type of person and only the there's another
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  person ahead of them in the pecking order and they hate when
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  you go to them. Like boy, that's one of the
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  worst things that could happen in these spaces right here.
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  They would hate if you go after them, they absolutely hate it.
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  Like if you go to their supervisor or something like
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  that and report them, they hate that with a raw, seething
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  passion. They do.
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  So they're like narcissism position power.
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  They do take credit for the things that you do, and they
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  take their anger out for their, their consistent unhappiness.
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  I wrote something else down. Yeah.
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  Oh, yeah. Not only do they take credit for
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  the successes, the opposite is true.
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  They blame everybody else for the failures.
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  Everybody else gets blame for the failures.
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  Very rarely do you have a narcissist in position, in a
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  position of power that takes accountability for anything that
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  has gone wrong and anything that goes wrong within that space,
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  you know, anything that goes wrong, anything that has went
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  wrong or anything like that, they don't take the blame, they
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  pass the blame. Blame deflection is for most
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  narcissists, even outside the spectrum of like just being in a
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  relationship with them. You know, narcissistic people,
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  toxic ass people. This is what they do.
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  This is what they try to accomplish.
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  This is the things right here that they will hurt and try to
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  harm you with. You know, this is the type of
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  stuff that they do like they will blame you for the failures
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  of the group. They will blame you for the
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  failures of the company. They will blame you for having
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  to shut the company down. It's your fault.
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  You know if you quit, Oh my goodness boy, if you quit like
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  you have a narcissist that you work for right?
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  If you quit, man, man, if you quit, they will try to ruin your
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  damn life. You know you've been been
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  blacklisted or blackballed for something like if you quit, even
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  if you give a notice and let them know, hey, I love working
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  here whatever. Very rarely when they give you a
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  yeah, you you have an old employee here that put you down
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  as a reference. Tell me a little bit about them.
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  Oh, awful employee. I was happy.
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  I I was happy they they left. I told them to put me on as a
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  reference, you know, just so people would call me so I can
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  tell you how bad a bad an employer they were.
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  I cannot. I was so happy they put their
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  notice in, you know, just like you can hire them if you want
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  to, but I just, I just got to say you've been warned.
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  They do evil ass stuff like that, you know, narcissist
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  position of power like this. You know, not only do they pass
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  the blame or whatever this is like this, he can go all the way
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  up the, the, the chain to the government, to political, to
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  the, to the political aspects of things right there.
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  Always somebody else's fault, like presidents, congressmen,
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  senators, whatever position of power they're in, governors, the
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  narcissist in those positions always are going to blame
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  someone else. They will very rarely say, Oh,
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  it's, I did that, it's my fault. I'll take accountability.
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  Very rarely, man, you can see you some sometimes they do it,
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  sometimes they might, they might do it, But the narcissistic ones
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  will very rarely take any type of accountability for anything
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  going wrong. Again, they take credit for the
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  ideas that their staff members came up with.
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  You know, the, the, the social media platforms their staff runs
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  for them and it's just taking off.
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  Oh, thank they I I did that. They don't give you credit.
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  The narcissistic ones like did you work that people work for in
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  the government? Man is horrible.
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  It is horrible having I wish they I wish they gave psyche
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  vows for politicians and government officials.
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  They will weed out. I feel like the I live in
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  America. I feel like America will be a
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  way better place if they started to weed out people by giving
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  psyche vows. Before you could before you
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  could take the oath of office or put your hand on the Bible, you
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  had to take a damn a psyche vow. You know, like take it here.
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  Here's an MMPI too. So here's your paperwork for the
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  governorship or the presidency. But here is an MMPI too as well.
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  Here's a PDQ4. We need to test for personality
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  disorders and toxicity. I feel like they will help out a
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  lot of people y'all. But anyway, y'all, I just wanted
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  to get this episode out today. Let y'all know how a lot of
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  narcissists will react when they're in positions of power,
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  you know? Hope this brought you some
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  clarity. Hope it works you some peace.
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  Hope it works you some understanding as well.
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