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It's Time for a Rampage of Appreciation with Janette Stuart · The Bridges and Beacons Podcast

• 0:38
  SPEAKER_00: Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to the Mystic Nerd Squad podcast.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_00: I am your host, Kelly Meyerson, and I am joined today by one of my dear friends, Jeanette Stewart, and I'm going to tell you all about her.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jeanette Stewart, emissary of joy at Angel Angles, is a best-selling author, angelic practitioner, and pancreatic cancer survivor.
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  SPEAKER_00: Her work radiates love, resilience, and healing, helping others embrace joy and peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jeanette's gentle spirit and powerful message inspire those navigating life's challenges with hope and grace.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: I am so happy to have you here, my friend.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome.
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, well, thank you so much, Kelly.
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_01: I'm so glad we can connect.
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  SPEAKER_00: Agreed.
• 1:30
  SPEAKER_00: So you were on the podcast uh a few years ago, like towards the beginning of the podcast.
• 1:39
  SPEAKER_00: And I remember in that conversation, I think you were sitting, you had your your doors open, and there was like these fine chimes in the background and wind.
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I was just, it was like this beautiful backdrop to our conversation.
• 1:59
  SPEAKER_00: And I just feel like wherever you go, there is just this peace that's radiating off of you.
• 2:08
  SPEAKER_00: Um has anybody else ever told you this?
• 2:13
  SPEAKER_01: Um, yes, I I have people tell me all the time, you're so zen.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_01: Um, do you ever get mad?
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_01: And you know, I feel like I get mad a lot.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but you know, it's it's it's the after you've experienced life a little bit and realize, you know, that you can take the pause and respond instead of react.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_01: And it just makes it so much better.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_01: Um, so yeah, that's where I try to be most of the time in my joy range and uh, you know, that high vibe stuff, but um, you know, it's not always there.
• 2:55
  SPEAKER_01: That's where I like to be, and I think it makes you appreciate um, you know, you have to go through the bad in order to appreciate the good.
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_01: And, you know, I've certainly had challenges, um, health and um, you know grief and all of that in the past.
• 3:18
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but yeah, that's where I like to be in that high vibe.
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, yes, and I think it it's not just the that like toxic positivity high vibe that you have.
• 3:35
  SPEAKER_00: It's like a true peace within and an ability to look at situations in life and learn and grow and feel empowered.
• 3:48
  SPEAKER_00: That's one of the things I really loved um about when we first connected and just your way of looking, you know, for example, with your your healing journey through cancer and that you created your path towards healing.
• 4:05
  SPEAKER_00: You took responsibility and you said, I am going to heal, and this is how I'm going to do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, and I just I love that so much.
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  SPEAKER_00: It it is such a nice reframe.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want to celebrate you tonight because as of today, when we're recording, you are celebrating your 15th book that you've collaborated on.
• 4:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and it's the Wellness Universe Guide to Complete Self-Care Book Five.
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_00: And your chapter is Grab Your Magic Wand, Transmute Angst Using Appreciation.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I love that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Grab a magic wand.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're transmuting our angst using appreciation.
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  SPEAKER_00: So are we are we deciding to take what is kind of bothering us and we're gonna apply gratitude?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is that kind of the flavor of what you're talking about?
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, um, so it's based on the um teachings of Abraham Hicks, and she talks about doing a rampage of appreciation and making a list of positive aspects.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I kind of put them together and I say, you know, that that's my rampage of appreciation.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's so fun to go on a rampage of appreciation, right?
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_01: Because you think, oh, a rampage, you know, that's gonna be um, you know, I'm kicking and screaming and hurting people, but this is, you know, just I'm I'm reframing the way that I see another person or situation, or you can also use this rampage of appreciation to like relive an experience that is so wonderful.
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I think a lot of times we rush through things and forget to celebrate.
• 6:08
  SPEAKER_01: And today is my husband's and um it's our 42nd anniversary.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_01: So we were celebrating today, and that just felt really good to do that, um, to do something that we'd love to do and enjoy it together.
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  SPEAKER_01: It was a beautiful day.
• 6:27
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but this this grab your magic wand, it's like empowering me because I want to transmute the way I'm feeling about a situation or a person.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_01: And you can do it if you have um a situation with a co-worker.
• 6:50
  SPEAKER_01: That's what I wrote about.
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_01: That I wasn't getting the support that I needed from my boss.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I was the head of the HR department, and he promoted his, you know, golden boy.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_01: Um and it was uh it was a train wreck even before it started.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um but for me, I was able to do my rampage of appreciation, and it was a simple thing, and I wrote about it in the book as my tool.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I would think of things that instead of thinking, oh, he's such a jerk, why does he act like that?
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, all of this negative stuff.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um and I would start making a list of he appears to be a good father, he appears to be a good husband, you know, and I was grasping at straws because it was difficult, you know, when you're in that looking at somebody um, you know, who's making your days at work in the workplace, it wasn't just like we rubbed up against each other, it was it was affecting the whole organization.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_01: And so when I was able to put these things on paper, and I I said I was grasping at straws, I said, you know, that he's creative, that he plays music, and he's tidy.
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, you have to look for some good, um, even if they're tidy, you know.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, so that just made me laugh.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_01: And I I did my rampage of appreciation and I forgot about it for a little while.
• 8:44
  SPEAKER_01: And I had talked about this with my life coach, and we had a next session, and I was able to mention his name without, you know, my hackles going up.
• 8:57
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and I felt the shift.
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  SPEAKER_01: I could say his name.
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  SPEAKER_01: There wasn't anything, there was no longer an attachment to it.
• 9:06
  SPEAKER_01: It was just like he's just another coworker.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it was very little effort on my part, but it was huge.
• 9:14
  SPEAKER_01: And so that was my miracle.
• 9:17
  SPEAKER_01: And so when I talk about grab your magic wand, in that case, I was talking about my pen, that I'm putting my pen to paper and making this list of things.
• 9:30
  SPEAKER_01: And I've done it with other relationships that um that I need to um that I want to enhance for my good, not necessarily for theirs, but for me, because you talked about I want to be in this state of being grateful for the gift of my life and the relationships that I have.
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and it really has helped.
• 10:04
  SPEAKER_01: Um, so yeah, it's a it's a great tool, it's a wonderful tip.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_01: Um, there's science behind appreciation and gratitude, how it shifts our uh hormones and you know, gives us a uh feel-good hormones of dopamine and serotonin and all that kind of good stuff.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_01: So it's not just woo-woo, it's science.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, and it's easy.
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't cost anything.
• 10:33
  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to spend thousands of dollars to go to a spa or any um, you know, uh special program or so.
• 10:44
  SPEAKER_01: So yeah, that that was a great tool.
• 10:49
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I feel and you know what?
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's such a great tool that you can use at any time, anywhere.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_00: I I love how you brought in the real life situation of, you know, potentially a coworker who's making you frustrated, angry, upset, because I think that's probably something just about anybody can relate to.
• 11:15
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, we can all relate to that.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, there's always the one, right?
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe there's sometimes we're the one.
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_00: We were the one.
• 11:24
  SPEAKER_00: Um but I think that it wasn't it wasn't about you changing who they were or what they did.
• 11:35
  SPEAKER_00: It was about you reframing um how it impacted you.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_00: Because I don't know about you, but when when I feel frustrated with someone or I'm angry with someone, I don't feel good.
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't feel good to me to have that energy energy around me that I'm like feeling I'm not really good at holding grudges because I kind of just tend to forget it's too much effort to hold on to and too stressful to do that, you know?
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_00: So this sounds like going on a rampage of appreciation can help us to help ourselves even more so than trying to manage a situation because sometimes we just don't have the the decision making, maybe like in your case, you're you know, the decisions that someone was making at work, you didn't have the power to change, you know, and sometimes we're in situations where we we don't get the option of leaving and saying, Um, well, I'm just gonna quit.
• 12:42
  SPEAKER_00: Or we don't want to.
• 12:44
  SPEAKER_00: That's not the way that we want to approach something.
• 12:46
  SPEAKER_00: We want to become more resilient.
• 12:49
  SPEAKER_00: So this seems like a good way to build our resilience as well.
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, yes.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_01: And um, again, you can do this any time, any place, with any relationship that either you want to enhance or that you want to like savor.
• 13:12
  SPEAKER_01: My word of the year this year is savor.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I'm looking to savor experiences, days, simple moments, big, fat, juicy moments.
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_01: You know, I'm looking for it all.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, and my girlfriend gave me a spoon with the word savor hand stamped in the metal uh bowl part of the spoon.
• 13:36
  SPEAKER_01: And so it's just such a great metaphor, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: That to see this thing um and you know, to remember.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I'm writing what I savor each day in this savor book.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, so it's it's awesome.
• 13:55
  SPEAKER_00: I love that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love savor as a word of the year.
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  SPEAKER_00: That just feels to me so expansive, so juicy and fun, you know, savoring adventure and meals and like great experiences with people.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is so fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, how do you choose your word of the year?
• 14:17
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I'm glad you asked.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I have this process that I do uh to choose my word of the year.
• 14:25
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and I've led, you know, probably hundreds of people in selecting their word of the year as well.
• 14:33
  SPEAKER_01: I have a class that I do at the end of the year, beginning of the year, um, to work um through the process that people can develop their word of the year.
• 14:44
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but the word usually starts whispering to me in the fall, like, wouldn't it be nice, you know, if I could savor every day?
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm not just savory saying, oh, you know, there's difficult days, but in the difficulty, I want to choose something that I can savor.
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes that's oh, this is over, I don't have to do this anymore.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, I I get to leave this situation or whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, so savor to me is a way that I'm moving through the year.
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_00: I love it.
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_00: I I also typically in the fall will start to get some hints from the universe about what my word is going to be.
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, I've had um soar, sovereignty, um a couple different S words.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this this year is also an S for me, and it is soften.
• 15:58
  SPEAKER_00: And I when it first came to me, I was like soften?
• 16:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like, really?
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_00: That doesn't sound like hard hitting and ready to go.
• 16:10
  SPEAKER_00: Soften.
• 16:11
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and more specifically, soften into love.
• 16:17
  SPEAKER_00: So flexing into a more heart-led life, being more compassionate, self-compassionate, just like just softening things, taking more time, sort of a nice partner to your to your savor, soften, like take things just a little bit easier.
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_00: Um these times.
• 16:41
  SPEAKER_00: It seems a little bit opposite what we're usually doing, but uh, I feel like that was part of the universal design.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like you're gonna just do all these things, but you're gonna soften and you're gonna do it from a very way, yes.
• 16:59
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: In the way, like you're embodying softness, you know, like how will you look at the end of the year?
• 17:09
  SPEAKER_01: You know, how will you feel?
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, it just feels when you said it gave me angel bumps.
• 17:15
  SPEAKER_01: Um, because it just feels so it like, you know, it's like going to a spa.
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_01: And when you're you're you're not holding your shoulders up here, you know, you're softening and just like relaxing, being easier with yourself, more compassionate with others.
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_01: It just feels like a really great word.
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_01: Ooh, yeah, we'll talk about this later on.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_00: I know, I know.
• 17:49
  SPEAKER_01: Love it.
• 17:50
  SPEAKER_00: I'm embracing it, and it's interesting, like giving myself permission to soften.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_00: I actually hired a fitness coach this year because I felt like that was an area of my life that needed some uh literal strengthening.
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, so here I am, I'm softening, but I'm also like strengthening and putting fitness as a self-priority and um, you know, doing more things, but also putting ease and space between them.
• 18:23
  SPEAKER_00: So it's really creating that harmony between being active and being relaxed and accomplishing things and resting and living in that dichotomy.
• 18:35
  SPEAKER_00: I think probably it's softened because I'm pretty good at the the hard-hitting keep going motivation.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, really good at that.
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_00: I've I've excelled at that.
• 18:45
  SPEAKER_00: I get an A plus star.
• 18:47
  SPEAKER_00: But when it comes to like truly not only like giving myself a break and a rest, which rest and sleep are two of my primary means of well-being, but also giving myself a break, like mentally, when I need to take a break and softening and being more self-compassionate about what I really need to be feeling successful and feeling well, and then I don't always have to be doing sometimes.
• 19:18
  SPEAKER_00: I can just be being right, being the human being.
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, that's beautiful.
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_01: Love that.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_00: So what have you learned from all of this experience writing books?
• 19:37
  SPEAKER_00: Has this you know, is this 15?
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: Is this 15 and a break?
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_00: Is it 15?
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_00: And the next one is uh your solo, you know, memoir, or what what are your thoughts on it?
• 19:53
  SPEAKER_01: I I just am kind of um in the space, it feels kind of like a relief right now, like oh, okay, you know, because it's been a lot.
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I I did three collaborative uh books within the last um several months, and it's been a lot.
• 20:13
  SPEAKER_01: And it's not just the uh writing of the chapter, it's it's also we created a summit with one of them.
• 20:22
  SPEAKER_01: There was a writer's retreat, and so lots of like moving parts and um connections, and I I love all my authors, and you know, I want to connect with them all.
• 20:35
  SPEAKER_01: Um just it's it's a lot.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_01: So it feels more restful right now.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and you know, the next juicy opportunity I'm gonna know.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_01: And when it's when it's uh, you know, 100%, yeah, that's I'm doing it.
• 20:55
  SPEAKER_01: Um, because the last three were that.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_01: It was like, okay, and okay, I guess I'm writing another chapter, you know, in a book.
• 21:04
  SPEAKER_01: So um I don't know about the memoir.
• 21:09
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, you know, I haven't been guided to do that yet.
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_01: I have um five of my own books that I've written.
• 21:17
  SPEAKER_01: They're more devotionals, um, four in a series on a path of joy, and then one drenched in love.
• 21:26
  SPEAKER_01: And I created a deck of angel cards to go with that one as well, um, based on affirmations.
• 21:34
  SPEAKER_01: And, you know, that's another thing that you know that's one of my love languages.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_01: So um, yeah, we'll just see.
• 21:44
  SPEAKER_01: Um, you know, like you said, you're softening.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_01: Um I'm I'm in that space right now that we'll we'll just see what comes next.
• 21:59
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I love that.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's such a beautiful thing.
• 22:06
  SPEAKER_00: And uh we haven't even talked about that.
• 22:08
  SPEAKER_00: Your your connection to angels, which I think was the first episode that you and I had together, we were talking specifically about that.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_00: But I think that's just one of the really special pieces of you, and it's making me think about this question I've been asking uh on the podcast this year.
• 22:30
  SPEAKER_00: What does it mean to you to embrace your authentic voice?
• 22:37
  SPEAKER_01: Ooh, it feels empowering and it feels like that I get to be the Jeanettest Jeanette I can be.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_01: You know, I'm not messing around anymore.
• 22:49
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, especially, you know, when you stare death in the face, um, you get a new appreciation for life and the fragility of it.
• 22:59
  SPEAKER_01: Um and just um to be in that space, you know, and I I think I lost my train of thought there, Kelly.
• 23:16
  SPEAKER_01: Can you can you put pull me back in the cart?
• 23:20
  SPEAKER_00: Hey, listen, happens to the best of us.
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 23:24
  SPEAKER_00: So embracing embracing your authentic voice.
• 23:28
  SPEAKER_00: And I I love how you responded to that because I think one of the things that I appreciate about you is that you are who you are very authentically and not heavily influenced, at least from an outsider perspective, into changing who you are to serve other people.
• 23:50
  SPEAKER_00: And I feel like sometimes when we see ourselves as being that way, it seems like it can be hard and that you're like, no, this is who I am, don't try to change me.
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_00: And your approach to it is very like consistent and soft and not in your face, like, hey, I'm not that person, you know, it's more this is who I am, and I'm gonna show up consistently this way, and you don't have to like it.
• 24:20
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not even gonna address the facts that you don't like it because I'm over here living my best life, so just deal with it.
• 24:26
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, in the nicest.
• 24:28
  SPEAKER_00: Exactly.
• 24:29
  SPEAKER_01: And and I do like to put the um uh gentleness as being one of my superpowers.
• 24:39
  SPEAKER_01: You know, I used to think I was weak because I was gentle, but I believe that it takes a very strong person to be gentle.
• 24:48
  SPEAKER_01: Um, you know, just to shine our lights, because we know it as kids, right?
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_01: We know why we're here and what we want to do, and then you know, we have to figure it out.
• 25:05
  SPEAKER_01: And oh, we have to please our parents and teachers and friends and fit in this box, and then we find our way out of that box.
• 26:38
  SPEAKER_01: And so that's why, you know, when you ask me that about the authentic voice, it's just you know, to be who we are and to shine our light as only we can, not like how my neighbor does it, not how um another person does it, but that the way that feels authentically right for me.
• 27:06
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I I agree with you.
• 27:10
  SPEAKER_00: And you know what, it does sometimes take some time in our lives to get to that point because we're trying so hard to be who we think other people want us to be, versus being able to listen to that inside voice.
• 27:30
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm curious when you were a little girl, what was it that you thought you were here to do, and who was it that you wanted to be?
• 27:41
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, I remember in Sunday school listening to this little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine, and not put it under a bushel.
• 27:52
  SPEAKER_01: And I remember thinking, that's me, you know, that's what I need to do is like shine my light.
• 27:59
  SPEAKER_01: And I was brave as a young child.
• 28:03
  SPEAKER_01: Um, like I was in student counseling, could get up in front of the whole elementary school and make speeches and things.
• 28:10
  SPEAKER_01: And then when I went to junior high, I became mortified.
• 28:15
  SPEAKER_01: My body changed, you know, overnight, and I couldn't find my way in those years.
• 28:22
  SPEAKER_01: Um, you know, and that was part of the journey.
• 28:26
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but I always knew, I just didn't know how it would sort out.
• 28:36
  SPEAKER_00: Totally.
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_00: I love that.
• 28:39
  SPEAKER_00: I think that's that's such a relatable experience, like going through.
• 28:44
  SPEAKER_00: I think there's so much that happens in those preteen and teenage years, and like everything is changing, nothing is the same.
• 28:52
  SPEAKER_00: The expectations keep shifting, and just when you feel like you figure it out, like your feet grow three sizes, and you know, I remember I grew really fast, like got tall over one summer, and I kept bumping my head and my arms into things, and you're just like, what is going on?
• 29:09
  SPEAKER_00: It's like Alice in Wonderland, right?
• 29:11
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, like what happens who changed everything?
• 29:14
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 29:17
  SPEAKER_01: It's a lot of change.
• 29:19
  SPEAKER_01: Um, you know, and and then in school, everybody's going through that.
• 29:24
  SPEAKER_01: So, you know, everybody's trying to find their way.
• 29:30
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 29:30
  SPEAKER_00: And when did you figure out that everybody was as insecure and uncertain and self-focused as you were?
• 29:41
  SPEAKER_01: Probably probably in my 20s.
• 29:46
  SPEAKER_01: And um, you know, I thought if I did everything the right way in the right order, and attained this and that, that you know, everything would fall into place.
• 29:58
  SPEAKER_01: But the way that it worked out is that if I would be who I wanted to be, that was when I was my happiest, right?
• 30:12
  SPEAKER_01: Um, you know, like when I was growing up, um it was a badge of honor to like work yourself silly, you know, to to be a working mom full time and do the soccer uh and the scouts, and just like every night you had something, and you know, all the weekend was busy, and um it was like a badge of honor, right?
• 30:39
  SPEAKER_01: Like, oh, I'm so busy.
• 30:41
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but now I take delight in having this white space um that I can save her.
• 30:53
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, I think there's still some of that culture of uh celebrating overwhelm, exhaustion, the too much.
• 31:04
  SPEAKER_00: Uh I feel like we really learned, especially during COVID, I think that was like a huge awakening for our family of the importance of rest and white space in the calendar.
• 31:17
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 31:18
  SPEAKER_00: And uh and sometimes saying, you know what, we do not have the bandwidth tonight for this thing that we said we would do, and we're just not gonna do it.
• 31:29
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I think in the past, I would have looked at like I said I would do something, and I'm letting somebody down by not doing it, and really coming to the point of what how would I act in compassion towards somebody else if they said to me, I don't have the bandwidth, I'm just so tired, really just need to put my feet up tonight, need to take a breath, need to eat a meal that isn't a five-minute quick shove everything down, you know.
• 31:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um then I feel like it's the modeling we get to do for our children and our families.
• 32:06
  SPEAKER_01: Right, right.
• 32:08
  SPEAKER_01: And that's so important.
• 32:10
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and in answer to your question, you would treat that person with kindness and compassion.
• 32:17
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I know you're so tired.
• 32:19
  SPEAKER_01: You stay home, put your feet up, relax, enjoy, you know.
• 32:25
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and if if our self-talk gets to that point, that's really great, you know, because we are really diff hard on ourselves and push ourselves to unreasonable standards and expectations and all of that.
• 32:43
  SPEAKER_00: So well, I'll just say that people can borrow my word of the year as needed, apply.
• 32:50
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, apply saver.
• 32:52
  SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
• 32:52
  SPEAKER_00: Apply soften, whichever of these S words feels like it resonates.
• 32:58
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, we're gonna um market it in a little container, you know, apply as needed, right?
• 33:04
  SPEAKER_01: Soften as needed, rest as needed, savor as needed.
• 33:08
  SPEAKER_01: And it's just a great reminder, you know, of how how we want to live our life, right?
• 33:14
  SPEAKER_01: The the way I want to move through my days.
• 33:18
  SPEAKER_01: Um not in a frenzy.
• 33:20
  SPEAKER_01: I don't want to be frantic anymore.
• 33:23
  SPEAKER_01: Been there, done that.
• 33:25
  SPEAKER_01: No, thank you.
• 33:27
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, that is such a great reminder, and it's so easy to get caught up in that energy, especially with the pace that work and life and you know, with the fast moving news and information.
• 33:43
  SPEAKER_00: So easy to get stuck in that and forget that you can decide that that works for you or it doesn't, and step back and take a breath.
• 33:54
  SPEAKER_00: Taking a breath, I mean, every time somebody says take a breath, I'm like, oh yeah, that's something I can do.
• 34:00
  SPEAKER_00: I could do that right now.
• 34:02
  SPEAKER_00: I could just breathe in and breathe out.
• 34:05
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, anytime, anyplace, and it feels so good.
• 34:09
  SPEAKER_01: It floods your body with oxygen, every cell of your body, and it doesn't cost a thing.
• 34:16
  SPEAKER_01: We can do it anytime, anyplace, and it's an instant game changer, right?
• 34:22
  SPEAKER_01: To take a breath.
• 34:23
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, we just need to remember.
• 34:26
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, we have to get ourselves back to remembering.
• 34:30
  SPEAKER_00: I try to infuse that during the day when I'm I'm working in a school, I work with children.
• 34:37
  SPEAKER_00: Uh school days are very fast-paced, you know, you run, run on that 30 minutes.
• 34:42
  SPEAKER_00: We're doing this, and then we're doing this.
• 34:43
  SPEAKER_00: So and just taking a minute to appreciate and give positive attention to children, to really witness them, to be with them.
• 34:53
  SPEAKER_00: I think that's something that we can offer people too, our full undivided attention and presence.
• 35:00
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes it takes that deep breath to sort of just recenter and say, I am here right now.
• 35:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm in my body, I'm listening, I'm present with this person.
• 35:11
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and it's so easy to feel that presence.
• 35:17
  SPEAKER_00: I I kind of think of it, you know, when you have a toddler and they're pointing everything out that they want you to look at.
• 35:24
  SPEAKER_00: And when you're not looking exactly where they are, they will take your face from the right direction.
• 35:30
  SPEAKER_01: Right, right, exactly.
• 35:32
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, here, mom.
• 35:34
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, I can remember that when my son was little.
• 35:37
  SPEAKER_00: And so, like reminding yourself, okay, look here, be here now.
• 35:41
  SPEAKER_01: Be here now, not not be looking at your phone, thinking what what you need to do in the next 30 minutes or something.
• 35:50
  SPEAKER_01: It's just a great reminder um to savor the moment, right?
• 35:56
  SPEAKER_01: Very savor the moment.
• 35:59
  SPEAKER_00: You could do both at the same time.
• 36:00
  SPEAKER_00: You get two for one deal here.
• 36:02
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 36:03
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 36:03
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 36:04
  SPEAKER_01: We need uh to talk about in a future episode about choosing your word of the year.
• 36:09
  SPEAKER_01: I think that would be good for your listeners.
• 36:12
  SPEAKER_01: Um, writing that down.
• 36:14
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that would be fun.
• 36:17
  SPEAKER_00: I would love that because I think that is such a fun process, and everybody's got kind of a different way about it, whether you grab a dictionary, you know, you find like those high vibe words that resonate, but it really makes it so fun.
• 36:33
  SPEAKER_00: I one thing that I do, um, I had followed uh and I still follow this woman.
• 36:40
  SPEAKER_00: Her name is Emma Dunwoody, and she's the the human design um person.
• 36:46
  SPEAKER_00: She's fantastic, love her podcast.
• 36:50
  SPEAKER_00: Um, she makes human design very accessible to people.
• 36:54
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, but she used to have this woman, her name is Liz, come on and pull cards from the tarot month by month.
• 37:05
  SPEAKER_00: And you could find out like what every month.
• 37:07
  SPEAKER_00: And I loved it, and she's no longer doing that.
• 37:09
  SPEAKER_00: I'm still following Liz, Liz Zamorsky.
• 37:11
  SPEAKER_00: I love her.
• 37:12
  SPEAKER_00: Huge shout out.
• 37:13
  SPEAKER_00: She has a very cool channel on YouTube.
• 37:15
  SPEAKER_00: I'll put it in the show notes.
• 37:17
  SPEAKER_00: But I decided I could do that for myself.
• 37:19
  SPEAKER_00: So the past couple of years, I pull a card for my theme for the year, I pull a card for month, and then every month I revisit the cards that I pulled for that month and sort of the theme that I'm following.
• 37:33
  SPEAKER_00: And then I look at it and I say, okay, let me journal a little bit of how does soften fall into this category of looking at life and where is that happening?
• 37:43
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm thinking like this intentionality and kind of thinking bigger picture, taking ourselves out of the weeds and the details of every day, is kind of a nice practice for when things feel overwhelming.
• 37:58
  SPEAKER_00: Finding a way to dial yourself back and look at the bigger picture and not be so stuck in all these things you have to do and the lists and you know the expectations we put on ourselves.
• 38:12
  SPEAKER_00: And I find it so much fun.
• 38:15
  SPEAKER_00: I actually just have so much fun doing it.
• 38:19
  SPEAKER_00: Like whether or not it resonates or it doesn't, it's just the fun piece.
• 38:25
  SPEAKER_00: And thinking like, I could just spend a little bit of time imagining what life is going to be like this month coming up and what things might happen, whether they manifest or they don't.
• 38:38
  SPEAKER_01: Well, and that's the cool thing is that when you use your imagination like that, your brain doesn't know that it's not real, you know, it like thinks, okay, this is this is the reality, you know, and and we become a little safer when we can think about what would my life look like if I was more open-hearted, if I was softer in this relationship, um, if I was softer with myself, you know, um and it lets us use our imagination, you know, which is the same kind of area of as our um intuition.
• 39:28
  SPEAKER_01: So that all feels real good, uh great, um, you know, like we had talked about the feel-good hormones and the science behind it, you know.
• 39:39
  SPEAKER_01: So yeah, it feels good, it um benefits you in so many ways.
• 39:44
  SPEAKER_01: Plus, it's like restful self-care, right?
• 39:48
  SPEAKER_01: That you're doing this in a quiet setting and you know, just like enjoying your time.
• 39:56
  SPEAKER_01: So beautiful.
• 39:59
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, I I love to do all of this with all of my senses.
• 40:05
  SPEAKER_00: So I need to have some music, I need to be having a cup of tea or a cup of coffee or whatever my favorite beverages, and you know, burning incense, candle, you know, essential oils, and wearing like a comfy, comfy outfit, um, you know, really bringing in all of my senses so that the experience really brings me into the present moment so much more.
• 40:35
  SPEAKER_00: And that's where, yeah, all that happy neurochemistry starts pumping through your body.
• 40:43
  SPEAKER_00: And then it affirms you, it helps you to see this was enjoyable, and I want to do this again.
• 40:49
  SPEAKER_01: Right, exactly.
• 40:51
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, um, I just wrote a blog about, you know, the the benefits of appreciation, and you know, quoting a little bit of the benefits of science and how it um benefits our body.
• 41:06
  SPEAKER_01: And it's not just woo-woo, it's not just like, oh, this is like you know, groovy, and but it really benefits uh based on health, it um, you know, the new neuropathways.
• 41:23
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, we're creating these new uh ways of thinking, being um, it's just great.
• 41:31
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 41:31
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I love you brought the science into it.
• 41:33
  SPEAKER_00: I I meant to say that earlier because I think that's where it gets to be super fun, because we're not only looking at these spiritual practices that you know are becoming more mainstream, but the fact that there is science to back that it is really good for your your health and your longevity.
• 41:54
  SPEAKER_00: Never mind, it's gotta be good for your relationships if you're applying appreciation before frustration, right?
• 42:02
  SPEAKER_00: You're you're thinking, well, how can I appreciate this person?
• 42:05
  SPEAKER_00: And I was thinking that too when you were talking about your boss.
• 42:08
  SPEAKER_00: And like once we start to really see the humanity in people and um befriend them in some way, shape, or form, whether they're literally a friend or we see those qualities in them that we admire, like they're tidy or they wear cool ties.
• 42:26
  SPEAKER_00: If you have to go to that extreme, like you were saying.
• 42:28
  SPEAKER_01: Right, right.
• 42:30
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, thinking about like relationships that are more vital to us, like our closest friends and loved ones, we get frustrated with them sometimes more than anybody else because we spend close proximity and time with one another, right?
• 42:45
  SPEAKER_00: So we we can tend to allow frustration to take over.
• 42:51
  SPEAKER_00: But if we start to really go into that appreciation of them, and doesn't everybody feel better to have things pointed out that we appreciate versus that really annoyed me that you did that.
• 43:06
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, versus the nitpicky uh stuff.
• 43:10
  SPEAKER_01: You know, I really liked it when you did this.
• 43:13
  SPEAKER_01: You know, we we love that positive reinforcement, um, you know, and that never gets old.
• 43:20
  SPEAKER_00: No, no, it really doesn't.
• 43:22
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes, you know, it takes you like out of the moment off guard, like, oh my gosh, you noticed that?
• 43:28
  SPEAKER_00: You noticed that I did that.
• 43:30
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
• 43:31
  SPEAKER_00: You know, it does feel good to be appreciated because I think, or I know, I think just about every person is doing their best and intending to help in some way, shape, or form.
• 43:47
  SPEAKER_00: They may be misguided in some way, or there may be other forces at play with them, but most people are trying their best.
• 43:55
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and sometimes, at least I'm speaking for myself.
• 43:59
  SPEAKER_00: I have such high standards, which I'm trying to soften on for myself, that sometimes I accidentally apply them to other people.
• 44:07
  SPEAKER_00: And when when I'm like, oh, they're like, I'm like, oh, why did I expect people to measure up to such a high level?
• 44:15
  SPEAKER_00: And again, why am I doing this to myself?
• 44:18
  SPEAKER_00: Just really doing a little reflection on that.
• 44:22
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and that's very human of us to, you know, we we've spent our whole lifetime with ourselves, and you know, like, why don't people act like we do?
• 44:36
  SPEAKER_01: Um, so giving others compassion, giving ourselves compassion.
• 44:41
  SPEAKER_01: And yeah, I think we're all trying to do the best we can with what we have in that moment, you know, and if we had it earlier, we wouldn't have been ready for certain tools.
• 44:56
  SPEAKER_01: You know, we have to go through these experiences of life to um to value the preciousness of it in any given moment.
• 45:06
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah.
• 45:09
  SPEAKER_00: Totally agree.
• 45:11
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh, I love talking with you.
• 45:15
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like you're you're giving me like that calming oxytocin neurochemistry talking to you.
• 45:24
  SPEAKER_00: And I am I'm really so excited for you with your your 15th book.
• 45:30
  SPEAKER_00: We'll put all of the information in the show notes.
• 45:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's on its way to becoming an Amazon bestseller.
• 45:37
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure that it will.
• 45:39
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I am just honored to know you and excited for 2025 for all of us.
• 45:47
  SPEAKER_00: I would absolutely love to have you come back and talk about choosing your word of the year.
• 45:52
  SPEAKER_00: We'll have to plan something for the fall for choosing for 2026, which blows my mind.
• 45:58
  SPEAKER_00: I know, I know.
• 45:59
  SPEAKER_01: It seems very far away.
• 46:01
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 46:02
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 46:03
  SPEAKER_01: But 2025, you know, it's it feels real natural when I type 2025.
• 46:09
  SPEAKER_01: It seems easier for me than 2024 for some reason.
• 46:14
  SPEAKER_01: So yeah, and time goes so fast.
• 46:17
  SPEAKER_01: So I look forward to that, Kelly.
• 46:19
  SPEAKER_01: We always have a great conversation.
• 46:22
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
• 46:23
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
• 46:24
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
• 46:25
  SPEAKER_00: And I I'm gonna borrow your word from time to time this year because I feel like savoring life just is such a great energy.
• 46:35
  SPEAKER_00: Um, if you enjoyed this episode, listener, and you loved hearing what Jeanette had to say, I really invite you to follow her on social media, check out her books, definitely check out some of her uh angel uh cards and practices.
• 46:57
  SPEAKER_00: You can find her.
• 46:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and please like, share, and rate this episode, give it to a friend, maybe sit down with a friend and say, hey, I heard these two lovely women talking about picking a word of the year.
• 47:14
  SPEAKER_00: Let's pick our word of the year over a cup of coffee.
• 47:17
  SPEAKER_00: Make it a delicious savor that moment.
• 47:20
  SPEAKER_00: Um love that.
• 47:22
  SPEAKER_00: Love that.
• 47:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 47:23
  SPEAKER_00: Any last words for our listener?
• 47:28
  SPEAKER_01: Just you know that you are worthy and deserving of living your best life.
• 47:35
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and there's lots of tools available.
• 47:39
  SPEAKER_01: Um take good care of yourself, rest, savor, soften.
• 47:49
  SPEAKER_00: Rest, savor, soften.
• 47:51
  SPEAKER_00: In any order.
• 47:52
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 47:53
  SPEAKER_01: Apply as needed, right?
• 47:55
  SPEAKER_00: Apply as needed, like a daily bomb.
• 47:59
  SPEAKER_01: I love it.
• 48:00
  SPEAKER_01: We we need a little hand lotion or something, you know.
• 48:03
  SPEAKER_01: Well, something like that.
• 48:05
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 48:06
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 48:06
  SPEAKER_00: We'll mix something up with some essential oils.
• 48:09
  SPEAKER_00: One will be savor and one will be softened.
• 48:11
  SPEAKER_00: Perfect.
• 48:12
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh.
• 48:13
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for being with me.
• 48:15
  SPEAKER_00: This has been truly a joy.
• 48:18
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and we will absolutely do it again.
• 48:22
  SPEAKER_01: Sounds great, Kelly.
• 48:23
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much.
• 48:24
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 48:25
  SPEAKER_00: All right, everyone.
• 48:27
  SPEAKER_00: Take care and remember stay curious.
• 48:30
  SPEAKER_00: Bye.