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Ep. 234 | Should Preparing Kids for a Four Year Degree be the Default? · The Family Teams Podcast

• 0:00
  So we just did the math. That's an ROI I'd like to hear. Yeah, the ROI was there. And so let's do it. Let's invest a year. All right, guys. Jeff and Jeremy here back for another episode of 5-Minute Fatherhood. We have a question today from Emily from Homeroom. It's a great question, common question. Thank you for asking, Emily. And essentially, it's should preparing kids for a four-year degree be the default or be just the assumed position of families and their kids? And Emily asked in a longer way. From what I gather from piecing it together stories I've heard from Jeremy in April over the year...
• 0:30
  It seems like the two oldest priors are not enrolled in a typical four-year college or university. Maybe I'm wrong on this. I was always taught to believe that a four-year degree was the only best path for success, but now I have young kids and I'm thinking about their future. I'm really fascinated to learn more about other paths, especially about your philosophy on post-high school higher education.
• 0:49
  Thanks. Good question, Emily. I'm interested to see what Jeremy says. I'm pretty... What's the word? Is it bullish or whatever on this question where I just think college is crap. I think it's a waste of time. I think it's a waste of money. I think it's not important. And even for the people, even who say, but, but, you know, and they give reasons on like the arguing for...
• 1:10
  I agree with those, but I'm not going to pay $250,000 ever for those. You know what I mean? Like, like, do I think like, but, you know, you, you learn how to kind of grow up a little, but you kind of make friends or you kind of learn how to, you know, be on your own or study or any of that stuff. Yeah, I'm game for that. That has nothing to do with a quarter of a million dollars wanting to leave my bank account or not my bank account, but get that subsidized by the federal government. Right. Yeah. I just, here's the, here's the thing, guys.
• 1:38
  I mean, in all honesty, I'm somewhat joking, somewhat being serious. And I'd love to hear what Jeremy thinks. But for me, I'm thinking about it from like, you are spending on average, I think it's about $200,000, not $250,000. It's usually about $40,000, $50,000 now. But at least by the age our kids are now, if it keeps going with the same growth, college will be about $80,000 a year at private institutions when our kids are in college in 15 years, right? If you have toddlers like us. Unbelievable. That's insane, right? Yeah. So then you have to think of it as just pure math. It's an investment. Yeah.
• 2:07
  Is the investment worth it? Is the RO? Because here's the thing. It's so logically not at most levels, right? Meaning like the price is growing like crazy faster than any inflation, faster than any investment, faster than anything it used to cost before.
• 2:23
  But yet the actual ROI on that is diminishing every year, right? Getting less and less jobs for less and less money, more and more unemployment right out of college. So I mean, like it's the pure investment in the math on it is just like ludicrous. Here's what I would say. I do make one distinction between hard sciences and soft sciences. I do think it's still very clear with chemistry, biology, people in the medical field, pharmaceuticals. You know what I'm talking about, right? The hard sciences is what they call it.
• 2:50
  That is yes. Like you do need those degrees to go into that. If we're talking like you're just going to go get a humanities degree because, you know, you don't know what you want to do with your life, then that's just, you know, you're kind of just setting yourself up for 30 years of bondage. Right. And so, yeah, that's one thing I would say. Here's another way I like to think about it.
• 3:07
  Like, you know, I'm not sure for sure on this, but we've already kind of started allocating some resources where, you know, I want to be able to bless our kids when they're older, specifically like right in there, maybe entering maybe young adult college stage, maybe like right in there first getting married, if that is, if they do get married. But I want to bless them with kind of some seed money for their life, right? And so we're kind of saving aside, putting aside money and investments so that it hopefully grows so that we can give them that. But I'm not just going to give them probably cash. The way I'm seeing it is like that money is theirs.
• 3:37
  the minute that they can think of an asset that they want to use it for, right? So if they want to buy a house, they can have that seed money. If they want to start a business, they can have that seed money. At least currently, if they want to use that money to go to college, no.
• 3:52
  You can do whatever you can do what you want with. You can go to college if you want or whatever, but I'm not. That money is for getting kind of getting them ahead, building assets for them. And I don't think I would I don't think I would release that money for college, but that's just me. But yeah, what do you think, Jeremy?
• 4:08
  Oh, man. There are some people that are just really like, what are you talking about, Jeff? Well, and the reason why this is such an interesting conversation, I think, is I've been geeking out on World War II. And the thing that they keep saying about it is the generals, like the French...
• 4:27
  everyone's army is perfectly prepared to fight the last war. And the reason why this is so hard for people is that when you were going into college, the equation might have worked. I mean, Jeff just laid out a really clear equation, which is the cost versus the ROI. There was a time where that really did—it was almost obvious that it was—
• 4:50
  valuable. Like it didn't cost that much. And there was a lot of ROI. If you could just get to get to college, you get a way better job, way better wage. The median income soared. You, yeah. College is only 10 grand. People can try to work and pay for it as they go. Went. Yes. Yeah.
• 5:05
  And so that equation has just flipped while, you know, we've, many of us have been in the workforce and we didn't realize it flipped. And of course the colleges and universities assume that we're not paying that close attention and so they're just keep pumping up the costs. And so, and so that, that just to Emily's question, you know, for our family, we, we look at each of our kids and what they're into and.
• 5:30
  whether or not this this will make sense. But I would definitely say it's not a default for our family. And so, you know, Kelsey has really pursued like internships and she works with me and family teams and with April at the sewing studio. Jackson's getting into a trade HVAC. He wants to invest in real estate. He's got two. I would distinguish between trade school and college. Yeah, trade. Yeah, I think those are different.
• 5:55
  Yeah, like Jackson literally, after one year of trade school, his hourly rate, you know, on average goes from about $15 to about $70 an hour. So we just did the math. That's the ROI I like to hear. Yeah, the ROI was there. And so let's do it. Let's invest a year. And the money it costs to get this. And then it's not just $70 an hour that he can get. He can start a trade. He can start a business. He can invest in his own properties. Yeah.
• 6:19
  And there's all kinds of other advantages. And so you just have to really be realistic and do the calculation for your kids and as a family. And don't give in to a narrative default. That's so dangerous, you guys. You really are at the mercy of other much more powerful forces that have a reason for you to be in that rut and to think in those ways. Yeah.
• 6:42
  And again, I don't I don't think that the answer here for me isn't that college is bad for everyone. I just think that as a default, that's a dangerous default. You need to really think about the return on investment and what your kids are actually getting into.
• 6:57
  Yeah. And so another thing too, guys, as we give a resource, a shout out at the end of every episode, like we like to do, is Jeremy's book, Family Revision. And I think this ties perfect into this episode because, yeah, stuff we're saying sounds very non-traditional, very out of the box, very different. But I think when you're building a family team, it switches everything about the paradigm and how you look at things of what you're actually trying to build, what you're actually trying to do.
• 7:20
  with resources, with stewardship, with assets as one big part of that component. And Family Revision is so right in line with giving that entire paradigm from beginning to end, letting you synthesize it, understand it. It's on Audible, you guys. It's on Amazon. I think it's on our site at just shop.familyteams.com. But definitely, I would highly suggest reading that book for a place to start.